Can I just give mad props to Connor for immediately telling that guy it’s not cool to make people uncomfortable and kicking him out. We need more people like him in the world.
Man's got balls. I mean he even almost fought a homeless guy in LA. I also think it's quite possible that he was so pissed off or weirded out that it outweighed any inhibitions he'd have.
I think a lot of people probably actually have irl friends (I know, shocker), but they probably wouldn't want to go to an Anime convention of all things.
I am a moderator of a small server and uhhhh, it's owner is welp, there you have your answer. I have some other stories of friends as well which I can't tell as they wouldn't like it being told but, you'll find a lot of Servers with bad moderators. If you don't, congrats!!!!!
A couple of Eugenia Cooney's mods were actively going after her underage fans for years and she was protecting the mods despite there being a bunch of evidence of them being pedos
Child groomers and molesters seek positions of power or authority over them in many different ways, like becoming a teacher, a priest or making their Discord server where you decide what does(n't) go.
ive met many pedos on discord they are rampant, i think its cuz discord cant really moderate who uses the platform so its pretty much a perfect place for pedos.
@@controlcon I’ve been in comment sections on insta and they are everywhere. Usually in posts like Haikyuu and stuff but there are some in the GC’s I’m in
God as a cosplayer who’s stayed in hotels with other cosplayers.... it’s literally wherever you find a comfortable spot to sleep is where you stay for the entire weekend.
I have so many horror stories of online friends being super weird in person too that I’ve met up at conventions who don’t understand boundaries and personal space
I couldn't stay with random people away from home, the closest I have done is a school trip away for a few days with classmates, at least I somewhat knew them. Can't image staying with online friends IRL
@@R4V3Nyt oof yeah. Don’t get me wrong I’ve met wonderful people who I’m still friends with online, but there have also been many who definitely don’t have the same social awareness as you thought they did irl 😅
@@matthew_natividad well it really depends, because you don't need to know them irl to be friends, it's definitely smarter too do that but some people are extremely nice and possibly someone important to you and you guys never meet up, but I understand where you are coming from
Depends on how well you know them. I've met up with internet friends many times and it always went great. Everyone I've met up with though were people that I had been talking to for years though.
@@chadthundercock117 100 is on the verge of getting big, 200 is kind of big, 300 is on the middle ground between "this is controllable" and "this is too big", and then 400 is when it's really considered big. I'm speaking from experience of being a former admin and mod, when you get into the 300-400 members, especially without any prior experience, you're gonna be guaranteed a headache. Now imagine running a proper big server with 1000 members, or even 10-20k for youtubers.
I'm in a server with like 2k - 3k+ people and I can say for certain, yeah. Don't trust anyone. Almost everyone in that server is sketchy and kinda freaky.
That's not what introvert means... I am introvert _(I recover through solitude)_ but I am extremely sociable and make friends anywhere and easily Introversion ≠ social anxiety
One time I stayed with these people I kinda knew and when I left the con and got home I realized that some of my panties were missing from my bag I was 17 y/o.
Well, I don't know about the "we" part, from what the guys are saying, they seem to know many women who have done the same. Connor even talks about it at 8:40.
@@chinguunerdenebadrakh7022 Of course women do it but the risks are way greater sadly, especially for younger girls like Connor said at 8:40. So for many women they do it (but it could come at a greater cost to their safety) or they're like me and just refrain altogether. Just wish we could room with strangers without fear of creeps like Connor encountered.
@@juhel5531 Damn, I am so sorry that happened to you. You're exactly right, once you're in the situation, it's hard to evade any assault/abuse and so scary you don't know what to do. I'm glad you're okay.
@@juhel5531 You're absolutely right. It's not realistic for women to focus on offensive moves like throwing punches, because the strongest woman still will never be as strong as the strongest man. Doesn't matter how long she's trained in xyz martial art- if she gets hit at full force by someone with greater weight/height than her, she's going down. The best things a woman can do for self defense are to 1) learn how to dodge a hit in the first place, 2) learn how to get out of a hold/restraint, and 3) learn how to roll/tumble out of a fall if she does get hit (eg. how to protect her head, ribs, neck, back etc.), so that there's minimal damage and she can get back up again and run or grab a weapon. BJJ, wrestling and other "floor techniques" are great for that.
At conventions I'm always the person who gets adopted by like a large group of like high school children. They see the 22 year old in a fluffy dress and they just make me their mother. And I take my mother role seriously and will protect them from the creepers because nobody had as better creeper radar as a 22 year old in lolita fashion.
I met a girl on discord once and we hit it off. I flew out to Albuquerque to meet her after many, many months of talking and she stayed with me at an AirBnB. Everything went pretty well and it was a wonderful trip. Even met her parents. So basically it's a major crap shoot. Some people are definitely psychotic, but it can work out, too.
Thats why i feel lucky that all the times ive went to meet ppl i met through gaming/discord it was fun af, now they are really good irl friends of mine.
Ya I think being on the same server as someone and chatting shit once or twice won’t turn out well meeting, but if your on voicechat with em 2-3 times a week or more playing games and aren’t just making in game calls then you can kinda gauge who you’re talking to more
I kinda relate to Connor's idea of wacky circumstances make for great friendships, my best friend and I bonded on a school trip. We both had insomnia and stayed up chatting all night, we found out that we had a lot in common. The next night I gave her some of my melatonin to sleep and we've been best bros ever since.
Been into blind discord meet up last year for study project. Had very creepy vibe with few guys when we met but they were super nice and decent when just talking on discord. To boys and also girls, never show how thirst you are in school study meet up for the first time especially with opposite gender. Practice common respect irl and people gonna like hanging out with you.
Connor's confidence in this video around 9:00 is ironically exactly why a lot of men end up as targets, they believe they'll be fine and can handle themselves, so they're far more prone to complacency without realising it and end up missing signs of danger that more vigilant people (such as young women he mentions) notice because it's drilled into them to
I think this applies to any type of internet meetup for any kind topic that has a young audience. I suggest always meeting up with them in person first before staying in a hotel room with them. Have some kind of small meetup at a restaurant first.
No no, lets not throw the lolicons under the bus. It only undermines the dangers of actual child predators when you compare them to weebs with degenerate fetishes
(kind of legit) tip: Cosplaying as a male character, if you're female, you will just naturally repel the majority of con creeps This has worked pretty much perfectly so far
@@samaraisnt I didn't say respect, it's just that if you're not cosplaying a female character, you just fly under the radar. Also the respect thing just depends on every individual person.. I've had someone think it was ok to (lightly) kick me in the shin because they didn't like the character I was cosplaying
@@rat1170 they were like still in highschool, and if might have been their first con or something, and they might have just gotten over excited because of everything, and got carried away.... I've acted really dumb because I got carried away by the atmosphere and stuff like that, so I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt because I don't know her and probably won't ever see her again.... And I was like at least 7 years older so.. I mean it's better for me to just brush it off and have fun than get upset over it.. plus I'm accident prone, and have some health stuff, so my pain tolerance is high enough that a few kicks to the shin isn't really much lol
You are COMPLETELY correct. I've shared rooms at 5 conventions with complete strangers and even my roommate and their significant other. There was drama or discord EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. People always have to drag their drama around with them and share it with everyone else FFS. People come to conventions either for fun or for business, they don't care about your drama you're not automatically best buds because of it.
While I know some people on discord can be just horrible, I met my best friend on discord and about 2 or 3 years ago, he had a holiday in the UK and me and my other friend agreed to meet with him and hangout. Eventhough we didn't do a lot and just walked around London talking, he still mentions how much that day made his holiday and it just makes me so happy!
Bro fr. When I used to study medicine, I was in an EMT program out in a country town, and a decent amount of the students in the program and trade school itself were going into the military in some capacity, and half of them were absolutely MENTAL. We had this incident where a few of the military ROTC students in the auto mechanics class put high voltage electrical equipment (not turned on ofc) on their friend's nipples and he jiggled them on camera, it got sent to absolutely everyone and this one air headed chatty girl in our class ended up telling our instructor, (who acted like our friend most of the time, and only became serious when it counted) expecting her not to report it, she did, and the students in question got expelled from their programs, which absolutely spiraled out of control, leading to the military ROTC students declaring war on us EMT's, the next several weeks, several fights broke out, as well as a general sense of tension in the hallways, which eventually led the school to assign a resource police officer in the wing of the school where our classes were, after warning both classes that any further incident would result in instant expultion and or legal action, it all ended after one ROTC kid who was sure the police officer wasn't nearby skateboarded past the EMT classroom in the morning during an important exam and yelled at the top of his lungs "fuck all y'all EMT pussies, were coming for you" and got his ass absolutely handed to him by the cop, fun times man...
I spend a lot of time in vrchat and a lot of people meet up irl. Usually it goes well but I know one guy who got robbed... I do have some friends that I know I can meet up and it'll be safe, but they're quite far away. On the other hand I have friends I don't know super well but they're closer to me, so idk. For the not so close friends I'd never bring them to my house, I'd much rather meet them at a neutral place like a bar. But I'd like to do it eventually.
I’ve never used discord like social media. It’s always been like Skype or omegel to me. Talking to strangers like that intimately just seems weird and off putting.
Agreed. I only use it for its original purpose as a information resource and discussion hub where you can get quick answers to subjects that dont have dedicated wikis or forum websites. The transition of its marketing to a broad social media platform was a mistake
Same I've only used it to talk to my irl friends. Talking to random ppl on there, especially knowing the sketchy situations that have come from that, sounds kinda weird
Pretty much the same with me. I've only joined one discord server with strangers which I was there for the founding of (for a group of people who met on FF14) and there's only one guy who seems a bit weird. In all fairness he seems to be on the autistic spectrum so I just let him do his thing, he's harmless enough. Wouldn't choose to meet up with him though.
Same bro. I only use it like every few times a year to watch the game awards with my pals or talk for a little while on Christmas day and stuff like that.
Note: please call shit out and dont sleep on convention floors! I know that sounds like a given but when u have been up since 5 am, walking up and down and only eating snacks in place of food, you get pretty fucking tired when ur friends are keeping you from heading back to the hotel. I had a guy feel me up, 14, while I took a short nap next to my friend as we waited for the rest of the group. She also fell asleep and I woke up because the guy brushed a bruise I had from days prior. I kicked him and he acted like it was normal and even tried to touch me again until I began yelling. That's when my friend woke up and he began scrambling away. It was terrifying and I felt so angry no one stopped it since we were in a very public place. Everyone just stared at me and the guy and talked about it between themselves. I was too shook to really get mad though, but my friend took me to report it.
Yeah, this is why I would never meet anyone from Discord/online unless I've done significant voice/video chatting, because while it still doesn't give you a full grasp of their IRL personality, it's 10x more accurate than just texting them. I actually met my first IRL gf from discord, and although we've since broken up, both experiences meeting up were good and she wasn't much different than how she was over video chat. Could be that I just got lucky, but I would recommend anyone planning on meeting anyone from Discord to at least do a few voice chats and preferably video chats beforehand.
The point where you're so lonely that you do creapy stalky shit, thats one of the lowest points you can get. Lonelyness makes you desperate what makes making friends extra hard so you stay lonely.
Every discord hotel room I've ever stayed in went very well. However none of the people were just randoms, we'd all known each other for years through discord at those points.
10:40 As someone that just had my first "hotel with strangers for a convention" experience, I can confirm that this is true. The strange is part is that there was somehow space on the bed for one extra person and two of them decided to sleep on the floor anyway
I might be weird, but I never had friends who I only knew online, nor did I ever go to an anime convention. After watching this I honestly don't feel like I've missed something
I’m not an anime guy or been to a convention (on purpose) but this happens all the time with people in bands. Starting bands with guys you met once or never and next thing you know you’re in a van together for a month. Staying in hotel rooms with random “fans” or “fans” who invite you to stay at their house and use their shower. There’s a lot of creepy people out there. Glad you’re calling them out and that people like y’all are out there who confront people like that!
As an anime convention organizer we really do have a hard time trying to keep that many people in check especially when the staff to con goer ratio is so unbalanced. We try to ask people to respect and give space for others but they just shrug us off so please be more patient with staff
me who has social anxiety: *guess ill talk to people in my head lmaooo* i've only gone to anime nyc since i live in nyc but traveling to another state or country would be... interesting alone. but even more if going w strangers
Fr my best mates and I have been friends for like over 1/3 of my life now, and the whole foundation is two things - being there for each other no matter what, and calling each other out on stuff no matter what.
Wow! This convo is so interesting. I’ve never done anything like it but I have couch surfed. However, I couch surfed through various connections and I’m still friends with those people to this day. Lucky me and my dancer’s life
Shared a room at Pax with a friend from school who I had no idea prior he had some real issues socially and just mentally so that kinda shell shocked me and another friend. Him drinking from the hotel cup, cleaning it out, and then farting in it and putting it back is a memory I can't forget.
I've had a lot of good random rooms for cons through Facebook looking for rooms. I met a lot of chill people. I tend to talk to folks months before the con.
Their discord/online experiences are so different to mine. Topic communities where people don't have interpersonal talk about themselves and their other interests, doing meetups with people who aren't friend of friends or not mass meetup events with some vetting of attendees... I feel closer to, and have a better understanding of my discord friends who I talk to on a daily basis and have since IRC days than I do many of the people I know from IRL. Connections that start IRL in adulthood rarely stop being, well, closed. Even if you're friends for a decade.
I once shared a room with a group of guys I didn't know. It was a huge dorm style room that I shared with a whole rugby team. As a small 22yo girl I've never been so safe, or had so much fun, in my life. I look back now and don't know what I was thinking, but I was broke and really needed the room. I now have a 21yo daughter and the thought makes my hair stand on end.
The thing Connor said about having fun stories about meeting someone is a really good point. One of my favorite stories to tell is how I met the love of my life playing Duck Duck Goose and dancing to "Rasputin" at a convention. Love you, my Dancing King!
Lol that hotel room discussion really brings me back to MTG tournament days... thank god eventually I said "fuck this shit, I have a big boy job" and refused to do more than 2 people in a room cause there were some nightmarish experiences lol
I mentioned the Geneva Convention once and someone thought is was an anime convention. So asked them if they wanted to go. They looked it up and thought I was going to do horrible things to them.
I feel blessed that in my country, it takes maximum two hours by public transport to travel from one end to the other, which means I can attend all the major anime conventions (about 4-5 in a year) and don't need to spend a single cent on a hotel room (because I can just go home). Mind you, the cons are still huge, with around 100,000 people across 3 days.
Jesus, this makes me appreciate my discord server so much😭 5 years in and these bros really are my fam, took some shit/cringe servers to find them though
I would never room with people on discord. I already know how I am... And there are worse people on there. Depends on the server too. But I'd especially never meet up people from an anime discord.
Man because of online university, I did a discord meet up. I was taking my Engineering group project members to Disney (I work there so I get friends in free) as a reward for our A. Well 3 of the 4 people were awesome but one guy gets in my car and starts vaping without asking. Then refuses to wear is mask. Then takes the vape into the park as well as a lighter which could get me fired. Then had me buy him something which he never paid me back for. Then asked if he could hug me, and when I said no, hugged me anyways. 10/10 do not recommend
Meet ups in person from a normal website like Instagram or Facebook usually works fine, but meet ups from anonymous websites like Discord or Reddit usually do not end well.
Last time I went to a con I complimented this lady on her cosplay and she just starts talking to me nonstop about her life’s story and I’m socially awkward as is and I glance back and see that my fiancé and his siblings left. They come back like 20 minutes later and this girl is still screaming about her mom and how she wants to move out and when I can finally get away and ask why they left me I get a “omg I thought she was your friend!”... I haven’t gone to a con since
Anime convention issues really just arise from the same thing, it's socially inept people not reading the room, and socially inept people not being able to defuse the resulting situation.
last year was my first time going to AX and I was supposed to go with a friend, but she ended up hanging with her own friends so I had to wander by my lonesome for the first 2 days lol but tbh it wasn't that bad of an experience, i just regret lining up for events
Discord meet-ups are not always bad. I went to a starcraft 2 event and was looking for place to stay. 2 guys had booked a small vacation home for 4 people and were looking for 2 more. So I convinced my other discord friend who I hadn't met before to join in. Turned out to be amazing. We chilled together, drank tons of wine and went to the inhouse sauna every evening. Amazig times. Though I gotta say the SC2 community is pretty amazing.
I have a friend that I met on minecraft when I was 11 so pretty much over ten years ago. We skyped for a few years and everything. Me and a few friends were going to this paintball event that was 30 minutes away from the guys house. So we called him told him to come pick us up and we'd hang out. This guy on skype was more leading, talked a lot cracked jokes, but still had a mild temper. In person he was one of the most quiet people ive ever met. completely different from online. Still friends with him tho
*"Discord Meet-Ups"*
Its already Horrifying with just those 3 words
XD
exactly. y would you ever do that lmaoo
Why the hell would anyone do this
The only thing scarier is *Reddit meet-ups*
@@lavatross6209 imo 100% fine. If you've known each other for an extensive amount of time. And I mean everyone. Not just 2/5 people. All 5 of em
“I don’t mind meeting a new person for the first time in my hotel room.”
No wonder he has so many stories. Mans is a walking coin flip.
And we love him for it😂
This comment sent me
@@Ndiyafhi Sent? Sent you where?
@@GoodlyPenguin I’m not too sure but I’m kinda scared tbh
@@Ndiyafhi To WHERE
Can I just give mad props to Connor for immediately telling that guy it’s not cool to make people uncomfortable and kicking him out. We need more people like him in the world.
Man's got balls. I mean he even almost fought a homeless guy in LA. I also think it's quite possible that he was so pissed off or weirded out that it outweighed any inhibitions he'd have.
neeks
@@toniodivichi5749 when? Link? :P
@@rickster255 ua-cam.com/video/xwJQXfMsNlY/v-deo.html
Enjoy.
Respect. A lot of people don't know how to do that
People on discord are like yanderes they seem fine on the surface level but when you dig deep you notice some weird ass shit be going down
oy Christina HOW DOES IT FEEL BEING OKABE'S ASSISTANT
To be fair most aren't psychotic killers
@@ballerboi4980 :()
It's celeb17!
or pedophiles.
“I WAS BROKE JOEY” felt that deep in my soul
the voice break sells it
jo mama
Hearing horror stories like this makes me feel grateful for actually having irl friends that I can comfortably room w/ when we go to cons.
.. you're one of the lucky ones..
That's rare man
UNBAN GAITH.
Me too but sometimes only one of us have enough money for the room so we mooch off eachother which sucks sometimes.
I think a lot of people probably actually have irl friends (I know, shocker), but they probably wouldn't want to go to an Anime convention of all things.
As someone who served in the military, you guys were dead accurate: people are either chill af, or insane/creepy. Luckily, the majority are chill.
nice pfp ya got there
especially conscription personnel like those in Singapore, Taiwan and Korea. In my current camp even my higher ups have a chill side to them.
That's nice to know. Guess the people who meet the insane/creepy ones are just unlucky
@@gokinezula1689 what's the anime called again? Was planning on watching it but forgot
Thank you for your service
*Connor needs his own anime adaptation*
Exactly
“Connor’s Bizarre Adventure”
Monke man
Idk why Discord mods being pedophiles became a joke, but I definitely don't want to find out.
Stereotypes start for a reason.
I am a moderator of a small server and uhhhh, it's owner is welp, there you have your answer. I have some other stories of friends as well which I can't tell as they wouldn't like it being told but, you'll find a lot of Servers with bad moderators. If you don't, congrats!!!!!
A couple of Eugenia Cooney's mods were actively going after her underage fans for years and she was protecting the mods despite there being a bunch of evidence of them being pedos
Child groomers and molesters seek positions of power or authority over them in many different ways, like becoming a teacher, a priest or making their Discord server where you decide what does(n't) go.
ive met many pedos on discord they are rampant, i think its cuz discord cant really moderate who uses the platform so its pretty much a perfect place for pedos.
Feel bad for women weebs when Discord irl groups would be EVEN creepier than Connor's pal in the story.
@@jinshikookie4174 nice try lol, I’m one😂
@@jinshikookie4174 haha female amirite booooiiiiisssss 🤖
@@slicky3397 liar, they don't exist
@@jinshikookie4174 sydsnap exists
@@controlcon I’ve been in comment sections on insta and they are everywhere. Usually in posts like Haikyuu and stuff but there are some in the GC’s I’m in
God as a cosplayer who’s stayed in hotels with other cosplayers.... it’s literally wherever you find a comfortable spot to sleep is where you stay for the entire weekend.
I have so many horror stories of online friends being super weird in person too that I’ve met up at conventions who don’t understand boundaries and personal space
@@Gonnashockthem yikes, I have respect for anyone who has had to put up with that
I couldn't stay with random people away from home, the closest I have done is a school trip away for a few days with classmates, at least I somewhat knew them. Can't image staying with online friends IRL
@@R4V3Nyt oof yeah. Don’t get me wrong I’ve met wonderful people who I’m still friends with online, but there have also been many who definitely don’t have the same social awareness as you thought they did irl 😅
But now I strangely miss that feeling
*Please keep memes out of **#General*
Guys!!!! 😡😡 no one is bumping the server please bump the server
GUYS COME ON, *STOP SENDING NSFW IN GENERAL*
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sorry, you can't talk about sensitive topics (even as a joke) in #General. the messages will be removed after a warning.
@@shilohiscultt!bump
Discord people are the real life version of the “Why can’t you be normal!?” Meme
Discord people: _angery screeches_
am discord person can confirm
Keep the memes out of general
Nah bro, they're the Babadook themselves
Note to self. No discord meetups. Or at least be ultra careful about approaching it.
Make friends irl first before adding them in discord
@@matthew_natividad well it really depends, because you don't need to know them irl to be friends, it's definitely smarter too do that but some people are extremely nice and possibly someone important to you and you guys never meet up, but I understand where you are coming from
@@noodles2792 it worked for me
made a friend irl at sacanime
added by the end of the day and boom
@@matthew_natividad that nice to know lol
Depends on how well you know them. I've met up with internet friends many times and it always went great. Everyone I've met up with though were people that I had been talking to for years though.
Connor would risk meeting a murderer just to save 20 dollars. I respect it
As someone who runs a relatively "big" Discord. Trust no one, everyone sucks.
How big is a big Discord? Btw, I don't have a Discord.
@@chadthundercock117 100 is on the verge of getting big, 200 is kind of big, 300 is on the middle ground between "this is controllable" and "this is too big", and then 400 is when it's really considered big. I'm speaking from experience of being a former admin and mod, when you get into the 300-400 members, especially without any prior experience, you're gonna be guaranteed a headache. Now imagine running a proper big server with 1000 members, or even 10-20k for youtubers.
Ah yes
I'm in a server with like 2k - 3k+ people and I can say for certain, yeah. Don't trust anyone. Almost everyone in that server is sketchy and kinda freaky.
I was a trusted mod who banned inappropriate comments people can be terrible
“ I don’t mind meeting a new person in a hotel room” CONNOR
The man has no fear; he smashed his knee into someone's face because he saw it in a movie. XD
*EVERY INTROVERT NIGHTMARE*
Introvert =/= social anxiety
@@iiv4rii nah same thing
That's not what introvert means... I am introvert _(I recover through solitude)_ but I am extremely sociable and make friends anywhere and easily
Introversion ≠ social anxiety
Oh you're a discord mod?
Name all the kids you've groomed.
*Killer Queen has already touched the read more button*
*busts out a black book with a biblical pagecount* What chapter?
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Jessy, Veronica, Jimmy, Jason, Mat, Edgar, Tymir, Edward, Daisy, Michael, Brianna, Liv
@@fourest8125 yes sir. This one right here.
James Walken
Tommy Bahman
Sam Jack
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Abu Salahi Kamel
Ron Johnsdottier
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One time I stayed with these people I kinda knew and when I left the con and got home I realized that some of my panties were missing from my bag I was 17 y/o.
Omg
That was messed up
feels like an romcom anime waiting to happen
Oh shit, that's creepy.
Oh...shit
As a girl, this entire conversation might as well be in another language, we could NEVER
Well, I don't know about the "we" part, from what the guys are saying, they seem to know many women who have done the same. Connor even talks about it at 8:40.
@@chinguunerdenebadrakh7022 Of course women do it but the risks are way greater sadly, especially for younger girls like Connor said at 8:40. So for many women they do it (but it could come at a greater cost to their safety) or they're like me and just refrain altogether. Just wish we could room with strangers without fear of creeps like Connor encountered.
@@juhel5531 Damn, I am so sorry that happened to you. You're exactly right, once you're in the situation, it's hard to evade any assault/abuse and so scary you don't know what to do. I'm glad you're okay.
@@juhel5531 You're absolutely right. It's not realistic for women to focus on offensive moves like throwing punches, because the strongest woman still will never be as strong as the strongest man. Doesn't matter how long she's trained in xyz martial art- if she gets hit at full force by someone with greater weight/height than her, she's going down. The best things a woman can do for self defense are to 1) learn how to dodge a hit in the first place, 2) learn how to get out of a hold/restraint, and 3) learn how to roll/tumble out of a fall if she does get hit (eg. how to protect her head, ribs, neck, back etc.), so that there's minimal damage and she can get back up again and run or grab a weapon. BJJ, wrestling and other "floor techniques" are great for that.
@@karmakameleon113 finally someone who understand basic biology unlike the feminist claiming these absurd things
At conventions I'm always the person who gets adopted by like a large group of like high school children. They see the 22 year old in a fluffy dress and they just make me their mother. And I take my mother role seriously and will protect them from the creepers because nobody had as better creeper radar as a 22 year old in lolita fashion.
Thank you for your service
Your service is well appreciated.
Omg I want to start wearing gothic lolita clothing but I can't find it nearby
Joey: What is it about Discord that everything ends up horribly
Me, married to someone I met on Discord: 👁️👄👁️
??? One word. How.
@@highskies4739 its called luck
@@Jun-cz9cv What sort of luck? I wouldn't date someone I meet online tho but good for them
@@highskies4739 what i meant was they got lucky they got someone who is not a fucked up in the head.
@@Jun-cz9cv True.
You know something's bad news when the words "Discord" and "Horror story" are combined
Unlike all those non-discord related horror stories
Imagine if a discord mod met up with a 12 year old girl
*Laughs nervously*
I don't wanna imagine
Yikes
That’s scary af
Nope.
What if the discord mod is 16 years old tho
_When you're a Discord mod and the 8-year-old kid you're grooming won't call you daddy_ ✋😔🤙
“no memes in general”
Bruh 😠
*Smash players and Discord mods fighting over the 8 year old*
*Ariverderci*
I don’t even know how to feel about this comment, it’s like I’m laughing and then silence and then laughter and then regret
“I’d do it again”
“But you’d do anything for content”
sums up Connor lol
I feel like I’ve lived 10 lives since I’ve been the annoying roommate, and the annoyed one 😅
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Connar is a real human. Confident, adventurous. Recognizing that life isn't just a safe place where nothing ill can ever happen.
I met a girl on discord once and we hit it off. I flew out to Albuquerque to meet her after many, many months of talking and she stayed with me at an AirBnB. Everything went pretty well and it was a wonderful trip. Even met her parents.
So basically it's a major crap shoot. Some people are definitely psychotic, but it can work out, too.
The most horror moment in discord is when a bunch of people speak together at the same time in the voice chat.
oh hey, you're here too?
and then u have one guy with the funny mic asserting dominance
It's one of the reasons I don't party much in games
TRUE
It sounds like a good idea to go to a convention with people you have never meet them in real life and most likely don't know their name
If you're unable to drive, give them your car keys and tell them where it's parked, they'll surely come and give you a hand!
Ian Byrne don’t forget about telling them your bank account info so they grab you some cash when you’re in a hurry
Don't forget to give them your house keys they will help clean your house
Don't forget to let them install cameras in your house and rob you or possibly kill you!
Thats why i feel lucky that all the times ive went to meet ppl i met through gaming/discord it was fun af, now they are really good irl friends of mine.
Ya I think being on the same server as someone and chatting shit once or twice won’t turn out well meeting, but if your on voicechat with em 2-3 times a week or more playing games and aren’t just making in game calls then you can kinda gauge who you’re talking to more
I kinda relate to Connor's idea of wacky circumstances make for great friendships, my best friend and I bonded on a school trip. We both had insomnia and stayed up chatting all night, we found out that we had a lot in common. The next night I gave her some of my melatonin to sleep and we've been best bros ever since.
Been into blind discord meet up last year for study project. Had very creepy vibe with few guys when we met but they were super nice and decent when just talking on discord. To boys and also girls, never show how thirst you are in school study meet up for the first time especially with opposite gender. Practice common respect irl and people gonna like hanging out with you.
Normal and respectful people don't need to be told that >>' It's a deeper issue
Connor's confidence in this video around 9:00 is ironically exactly why a lot of men end up as targets, they believe they'll be fine and can handle themselves, so they're far more prone to complacency without realising it and end up missing signs of danger that more vigilant people (such as young women he mentions) notice because it's drilled into them to
thank you for talking about the importance of calling dangerous behaviour out, it’s extremely important
I think this applies to any type of internet meetup for any kind topic that has a young audience. I suggest always meeting up with them in person first before staying in a hotel room with them. Have some kind of small meetup at a restaurant first.
discord is the 'socialmedia equivalent' of craigslist... change my mind
I think loli should be legal
~Discord mod
oy subaru WHEN WILL REM WAKE UP????
@Penguinbeems average discord mod
Isnt it already?
No no, lets not throw the lolicons under the bus. It only undermines the dangers of actual child predators when you compare them to weebs with degenerate fetishes
@Penguinbeems eww you're into lolis? she do be chillin doe
(kind of legit) tip:
Cosplaying as a male character, if you're female, you will just naturally repel the majority of con creeps
This has worked pretty much perfectly so far
What if you don't want to crossdress to get treated with respect? :D
@@samaraisnt I didn't say respect, it's just that if you're not cosplaying a female character, you just fly under the radar. Also the respect thing just depends on every individual person.. I've had someone think it was ok to (lightly) kick me in the shin because they didn't like the character I was cosplaying
@@alyssajakielek687 owie shoulda kicked them back
@@rat1170 they were like still in highschool, and if might have been their first con or something, and they might have just gotten over excited because of everything, and got carried away....
I've acted really dumb because I got carried away by the atmosphere and stuff like that, so I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt because I don't know her and probably won't ever see her again.... And I was like at least 7 years older so.. I mean it's better for me to just brush it off and have fun than get upset over it.. plus I'm accident prone, and have some health stuff, so my pain tolerance is high enough that a few kicks to the shin isn't really much lol
On the flip side, cosplaying as a female character, as a male, you naturally attract con creeps.
You are COMPLETELY correct. I've shared rooms at 5 conventions with complete strangers and even my roommate and their significant other. There was drama or discord EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. People always have to drag their drama around with them and share it with everyone else FFS. People come to conventions either for fun or for business, they don't care about your drama you're not automatically best buds because of it.
Ngl a trash taste special where it's the whole $100 Vs $1000 thing but anime convention hotel rooms would be kinda interesting
While I know some people on discord can be just horrible, I met my best friend on discord and about 2 or 3 years ago, he had a holiday in the UK and me and my other friend agreed to meet with him and hangout. Eventhough we didn't do a lot and just walked around London talking, he still mentions how much that day made his holiday and it just makes me so happy!
Even having the words "Discord" and "Meet" in the same sentence scares me
1:40 im in the US with a US phone and at my big local con there is NO SERVICE whatsoever throughout the majority of the convention center inside
Can confirm as a US Marine, it's either full chill or balls to the wall. Zero in between.
Bro fr. When I used to study medicine, I was in an EMT program out in a country town, and a decent amount of the students in the program and trade school itself were going into the military in some capacity, and half of them were absolutely MENTAL. We had this incident where a few of the military ROTC students in the auto mechanics class put high voltage electrical equipment (not turned on ofc) on their friend's nipples and he jiggled them on camera, it got sent to absolutely everyone and this one air headed chatty girl in our class ended up telling our instructor, (who acted like our friend most of the time, and only became serious when it counted) expecting her not to report it, she did, and the students in question got expelled from their programs, which absolutely spiraled out of control, leading to the military ROTC students declaring war on us EMT's, the next several weeks, several fights broke out, as well as a general sense of tension in the hallways, which eventually led the school to assign a resource police officer in the wing of the school where our classes were, after warning both classes that any further incident would result in instant expultion and or legal action, it all ended after one ROTC kid who was sure the police officer wasn't nearby skateboarded past the EMT classroom in the morning during an important exam and yelled at the top of his lungs "fuck all y'all EMT pussies, were coming for you" and got his ass absolutely handed to him by the cop, fun times man...
I spend a lot of time in vrchat and a lot of people meet up irl. Usually it goes well but I know one guy who got robbed... I do have some friends that I know I can meet up and it'll be safe, but they're quite far away. On the other hand I have friends I don't know super well but they're closer to me, so idk.
For the not so close friends I'd never bring them to my house, I'd much rather meet them at a neutral place like a bar.
But I'd like to do it eventually.
I’ve never used discord like social media. It’s always been like Skype or omegel to me. Talking to strangers like that intimately just seems weird and off putting.
Agreed. I only use it for its original purpose as a information resource and discussion hub where you can get quick answers to subjects that dont have dedicated wikis or forum websites. The transition of its marketing to a broad social media platform was a mistake
Same I've only used it to talk to my irl friends. Talking to random ppl on there, especially knowing the sketchy situations that have come from that, sounds kinda weird
Pretty much the same with me. I've only joined one discord server with strangers which I was there for the founding of (for a group of people who met on FF14) and there's only one guy who seems a bit weird. In all fairness he seems to be on the autistic spectrum so I just let him do his thing, he's harmless enough. Wouldn't choose to meet up with him though.
I'm fine with talking to strangers I love meeting people at events and concerts
Same bro. I only use it like every few times a year to watch the game awards with my pals or talk for a little while on Christmas day and stuff like that.
Hearing this stories makes me happy that i have no friends
Note: please call shit out and dont sleep on convention floors! I know that sounds like a given but when u have been up since 5 am, walking up and down and only eating snacks in place of food, you get pretty fucking tired when ur friends are keeping you from heading back to the hotel.
I had a guy feel me up, 14, while I took a short nap next to my friend as we waited for the rest of the group. She also fell asleep and I woke up because the guy brushed a bruise I had from days prior. I kicked him and he acted like it was normal and even tried to touch me again until I began yelling. That's when my friend woke up and he began scrambling away. It was terrifying and I felt so angry no one stopped it since we were in a very public place. Everyone just stared at me and the guy and talked about it between themselves. I was too shook to really get mad though, but my friend took me to report it.
Yeah, this is why I would never meet anyone from Discord/online unless I've done significant voice/video chatting, because while it still doesn't give you a full grasp of their IRL personality, it's 10x more accurate than just texting them. I actually met my first IRL gf from discord, and although we've since broken up, both experiences meeting up were good and she wasn't much different than how she was over video chat. Could be that I just got lucky, but I would recommend anyone planning on meeting anyone from Discord to at least do a few voice chats and preferably video chats beforehand.
The point where you're so lonely that you do creapy stalky shit, thats one of the lowest points you can get. Lonelyness makes you desperate what makes making friends extra hard so you stay lonely.
Every discord hotel room I've ever stayed in went very well. However none of the people were just randoms, we'd all known each other for years through discord at those points.
10:40 As someone that just had my first "hotel with strangers for a convention" experience, I can confirm that this is true. The strange is part is that there was somehow space on the bed for one extra person and two of them decided to sleep on the floor anyway
“Common sense just doesn’t make sense… common sense is not common” Garnt spittin
Good on you guys for telling people to call that shit out. Cahlling that shit out should be happening everywhere.
I might be weird, but I never had friends who I only knew online, nor did I ever go to an anime convention. After watching this I honestly don't feel like I've missed something
I’m not an anime guy or been to a convention (on purpose) but this happens all the time with people in bands. Starting bands with guys you met once or never and next thing you know you’re in a van together for a month. Staying in hotel rooms with random “fans” or “fans” who invite you to stay at their house and use their shower.
There’s a lot of creepy people out there. Glad you’re calling them out and that people like y’all are out there who confront people like that!
As an anime convention organizer we really do have a hard time trying to keep that many people in check especially when the staff to con goer ratio is so unbalanced. We try to ask people to respect and give space for others but they just shrug us off so please be more patient with staff
"...He was strange,he was American..."
*_enough explanation, I understand._*
me who has social anxiety: *guess ill talk to people in my head lmaooo* i've only gone to anime nyc since i live in nyc but traveling to another state or country would be... interesting alone. but even more if going w strangers
I deadass have actual conversations with people in my head when I miss them lmao
@@asmrmakii I'm glad i'm not the only one
Fr my best mates and I have been friends for like over 1/3 of my life now, and the whole foundation is two things - being there for each other no matter what, and calling each other out on stuff no matter what.
As a girl and as someone with a lot of standards, I'd fucking never go unless its with friends from irl.
Wow! This convo is so interesting. I’ve never done anything like it but I have couch surfed. However, I couch surfed through various connections and I’m still friends with those people to this day.
Lucky me and my dancer’s life
10:02 Joey: "but you would do anything, for content"
Connor:"No" *Laughs*"
*Connor posts learning to be a pole dancer*
Conner be the thrill seeker of the group
Shared a room at Pax with a friend from school who I had no idea prior he had some real issues socially and just mentally so that kinda shell shocked me and another friend. Him drinking from the hotel cup, cleaning it out, and then farting in it and putting it back is a memory I can't forget.
i mean
it would be pretty scary being around a bunch of child molesters
So people actually make friends on discord and meet up and stuff?
Damn im 20 and that is something I cant quite get my head around ngl.
I've had a lot of good random rooms for cons through Facebook looking for rooms. I met a lot of chill people. I tend to talk to folks months before the con.
When joey asked why can't anything taht you plan on discord go right? i was like because it's discord, it's literally in the name lmao
I was thinking about the name itself too.
Their discord/online experiences are so different to mine. Topic communities where people don't have interpersonal talk about themselves and their other interests, doing meetups with people who aren't friend of friends or not mass meetup events with some vetting of attendees... I feel closer to, and have a better understanding of my discord friends who I talk to on a daily basis and have since IRC days than I do many of the people I know from IRL. Connections that start IRL in adulthood rarely stop being, well, closed. Even if you're friends for a decade.
I once shared a room with a group of guys I didn't know. It was a huge dorm style room that I shared with a whole rugby team. As a small 22yo girl I've never been so safe, or had so much fun, in my life. I look back now and don't know what I was thinking, but I was broke and really needed the room. I now have a 21yo daughter and the thought makes my hair stand on end.
To get more room keys without looking suspicious, say that you accidentally laid your phone on your keys and deactivated them and you need two more.
Everybody gangsta till the receptionist asks you to return the old ones
Most hotels deactivate previous keys when you get new ones as well
just say you lost it, not all keys work like that so that literally doesn't even work and you lied for what?
Connor stories are actually amazing
The thing Connor said about having fun stories about meeting someone is a really good point. One of my favorite stories to tell is how I met the love of my life playing Duck Duck Goose and dancing to "Rasputin" at a convention. Love you, my Dancing King!
Lol that hotel room discussion really brings me back to MTG tournament days... thank god eventually I said "fuck this shit, I have a big boy job" and refused to do more than 2 people in a room cause there were some nightmarish experiences lol
I mentioned the Geneva Convention once and someone thought is was an anime convention. So asked them if they wanted to go. They looked it up and thought I was going to do horrible things to them.
Lol
Were they 5?
I feel blessed that in my country, it takes maximum two hours by public transport to travel from one end to the other, which means I can attend all the major anime conventions (about 4-5 in a year) and don't need to spend a single cent on a hotel room (because I can just go home). Mind you, the cons are still huge, with around 100,000 people across 3 days.
Jesus, this makes me appreciate my discord server so much😭 5 years in and these bros really are my fam, took some shit/cringe servers to find them though
I would never room with people on discord. I already know how I am...
And there are worse people on there.
Depends on the server too. But I'd especially never meet up people from an anime discord.
5:36 motel 6 and one other chain of motels are typically the ones that people say are creepy/sketchy
I just realized that at the back of my head whenever i heard corpse's voice I've unintentionally been picturing conner sometimes🤦♀️
My discord meet ups and hotel trips were all fine. It definitely doesn't always go wrong, you just gotta be choosy and not stay with random people
I think the people go to discord to socialize are not the most well adjusted individuals to begin with tbh
don't be spreading falsehoods about discord... kitten
I guess I have to include this because idiots don't know what sarcasm is *this is sarcasm*
@@moistpotatoe5277 Ending a sentence with kitten is proving his point lol!
As a person on discord, you're right
@@moistpotatoe5277 My do Discord weirdos always end their sentences with "kitten"
@@rodrigoestebanmartinezardi6661 thats what I am making fun of
3:00 the guy is probably watching this lol
Man because of online university, I did a discord meet up. I was taking my Engineering group project members to Disney (I work there so I get friends in free) as a reward for our A. Well 3 of the 4 people were awesome but one guy gets in my car and starts vaping without asking. Then refuses to wear is mask. Then takes the vape into the park as well as a lighter which could get me fired. Then had me buy him something which he never paid me back for. Then asked if he could hug me, and when I said no, hugged me anyways. 10/10 do not recommend
Meet ups in person from a normal website like Instagram or Facebook usually works fine, but meet ups from anonymous websites like Discord or Reddit usually do not end well.
Last time I went to a con I complimented this lady on her cosplay and she just starts talking to me nonstop about her life’s story and I’m socially awkward as is and I glance back and see that my fiancé and his siblings left. They come back like 20 minutes later and this girl is still screaming about her mom and how she wants to move out and when I can finally get away and ask why they left me I get a “omg I thought she was your friend!”... I haven’t gone to a con since
Anime convention issues really just arise from the same thing, it's socially inept people not reading the room, and socially inept people not being able to defuse the resulting situation.
last year was my first time going to AX and I was supposed to go with a friend, but she ended up hanging with her own friends so I had to wander by my lonesome for the first 2 days lol but tbh it wasn't that bad of an experience, i just regret lining up for events
Discord meet-ups are not always bad. I went to a starcraft 2 event and was looking for place to stay. 2 guys had booked a small vacation home for 4 people and were looking for 2 more. So I convinced my other discord friend who I hadn't met before to join in. Turned out to be amazing. We chilled together, drank tons of wine and went to the inhouse sauna every evening. Amazig times. Though I gotta say the SC2 community is pretty amazing.
Ahhhhh I'm lucky then, all my discord friends have been rlly good
same
Same
I have a friend that I met on minecraft when I was 11 so pretty much over ten years ago. We skyped for a few years and everything. Me and a few friends were going to this paintball event that was 30 minutes away from the guys house. So we called him told him to come pick us up and we'd hang out. This guy on skype was more leading, talked a lot cracked jokes, but still had a mild temper. In person he was one of the most quiet people ive ever met. completely different from online. Still friends with him tho
Connors like 33 and he has the life stories of an old man
23 (or around there) actually, makes it even more impressive.
8:20 just Connor being broke
This segment looks like Joey talking to two bums who "love" the thrill of being poor.
When in life you roll a d20 to receive the Good IRL Discord Friend Pass, but life gives you 5 instead of 20.