Jae Nichelle - "Friends With Benefits" @WANPOETRY (TGS 2017)

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    Jae Nichelle performing "Friends With Benefits" at the 2017 Texas Grand Slam Poetry Festival.
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  • @nediarose3267
    @nediarose3267 6 років тому +3161

    “If I become silent it’s because I have to fight with her before I can fight with you” I am in tears

    • @saraspivey1129
      @saraspivey1129 5 років тому +4

      molly dukes SAME

    • @londadukes5078
      @londadukes5078 4 роки тому +1

      I found other dukes lol

    • @itsjustsisters1565
      @itsjustsisters1565 4 роки тому

      Same

    • @navaehw.2750
      @navaehw.2750 4 роки тому +6

      Ugh I know that feeling so well, i don’t remember the last time I had the chance to stand up for myself...

    • @bigphatemergy
      @bigphatemergy 3 роки тому +18

      this. i withdraw from so many people because of my anxiety or whenever I don’t feel reassured enough. romantic wise especially. clingy never got me anywhere, so i subconsciously trained myself to never ask for reassurance anymore no matter how much I need it. thus ultimately ending with me & my anxiety to, self isolate, overthink & ‘weigh things out’ instead before getting back to the other person /:

  • @Snair__M
    @Snair__M 5 років тому +2888

    "What happeneds to a black girl who's too anxious to feel like magic, can she still fly. Can she be fly?
    I felt that 💔😢

  • @Queenbrieee
    @Queenbrieee 6 років тому +3669

    "and if i am silent for a while..... it is because I have to fight with her before i can fight with you"
    💕

    • @saraspivey1129
      @saraspivey1129 5 років тому +3

      Jamie France 😭

    • @antjr6929
      @antjr6929 4 роки тому +5

      You I really like that part. But people really believe they have the answer to someone else. Just parasites people are really like leeches sad that most people act like children but love to say they are adults.

    • @giabrooks2717
      @giabrooks2717 3 роки тому +4

      I felt that... Amazing

    • @edwinimmanuel2041
      @edwinimmanuel2041 2 роки тому +1

      You probably dont care at all but does anybody know of a trick to get back into an instagram account??
      I stupidly lost the login password. I would appreciate any tips you can give me!

    • @gmaglorious3536
      @gmaglorious3536 Рік тому +2

      🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

  • @tishannamoore
    @tishannamoore 6 років тому +3433

    This poem literally made me feel so vulnerable that i teared. It felt like a reflection of my soul. My self trying to balance out different extremes of my personality.

    • @lia.lia.lia.
      @lia.lia.lia. 6 років тому +27

      same!! please tell me i'm not the only one who cried watching?

    • @Gigi502.
      @Gigi502. 5 років тому +2

      Tishanna Moore fax

    • @chriscastro9955
      @chriscastro9955 5 років тому +6

      I cried too

    • @antjr6929
      @antjr6929 4 роки тому +3

      That's awesome a lot of people like to run and hide from the things that hurt than standing up to face what's hurt them inside. (just bury things that doesn't deserve your light)

    • @lofarm7290
      @lofarm7290 4 роки тому +6

      I hope you all find ways to crush your anxiety and be free again. You all deserve a reprieve and to know your worth. I’ve struggled with anxiety since I was five and it still flairs up, but my husband helps me exorcise that ghost. Be well!

  • @marvelamalone7814
    @marvelamalone7814 6 років тому +1979

    When I need people to understand my anxiety I'm going to tell them to watch this video ... Bet

    • @autumnmiller123
      @autumnmiller123 6 років тому +16

      Marvela Malone I wish I could like this 20 times👏🏾👏🏾

    • @okterlox0
      @okterlox0 6 років тому +12

      Marvela Malone Hey Sweetheart. I've got a suggestion for you. Please try to memorize this. Pick a favorite part. And then perform it to yourself in the mirror. Do it til you can put your whole self into it. I think you'll be amazed by how it changes you.

    • @Liz-tj6du
      @Liz-tj6du 5 років тому +2

      That's what I just did

    • @saraspivey1129
      @saraspivey1129 5 років тому

      k jay YES!

    • @yelimyriam7826
      @yelimyriam7826 5 років тому

      ♥️

  • @ccpr15
    @ccpr15 5 років тому +567

    “Don’t rock, don’t shake, breathe.” Literally every minute of my life. 🤯

    • @darra_hobb4741
      @darra_hobb4741 Рік тому +3

      The way my mind races sometimes 😢 constantly playing back situations, conversations, over analyzing every action and reaction

    • @ccpr15
      @ccpr15 Рік тому

      @@darra_hobb4741 absolutely

  • @sammysammyson
    @sammysammyson 5 років тому +615

    "I think the reason my relationships don't work out is because no one knows they're signing up for a threesome."
    That one hurt. I mean, the whole poem hurts, but that and the lines right after about deconstructing and analyzing everything you say...they left a mark.

  • @tyavabates8632
    @tyavabates8632 6 років тому +670

    GIRL!!!! *throws my shoe* 👟👟👟 She killed it!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾

  • @christine-97
    @christine-97 6 років тому +866

    This literally is my Truth...the most relatable poem yet

  • @shaniahnicole8866
    @shaniahnicole8866 3 роки тому +120

    “I think the reason my relationships don’t work out is because I don’t think no one realize they’re signing up for a threesome” this was just a perfect representation 💜

  • @awanamorris8086
    @awanamorris8086 6 років тому +510

    my whole soul is moved

  • @dajanaiexford5068
    @dajanaiexford5068 3 роки тому +133

    “When everything you say to us will be repeated deconstructed and analyzed in our heads a Million times after” literally!! 💔

  • @chisomo7826
    @chisomo7826 6 років тому +294

    My soul has been translated

  • @jennydelise2871
    @jennydelise2871 6 років тому +261

    "As I speak I am fighting against her weight that is on my shoulders, and that is why I shake when I speak sometimes. I have to fight to stand up straight" ugh yes, me every time I have to speak up or do a presentation or say an idea I have

    • @adorn5854
      @adorn5854 3 роки тому +1

      I’m the same why and I’m still trying to fight it but it’s just to heavy but I try every single day

  • @lightworker9517
    @lightworker9517 4 роки тому +161

    I'm here in 2020 for the umpteenth time because wow🙌❤️

    • @blackempressxempressdevine5658
      @blackempressxempressdevine5658 3 роки тому

      Same

    • @gem4294
      @gem4294 3 роки тому +1

      I've literally saved and shared this for two years. And everytime I watch this reminds me that I'm not the only one that needs to breathe. Blessings on blessings 🌻

  • @tashularockett3281
    @tashularockett3281 6 років тому +490

    This video helped me more then the suicide line

    • @saraspivey1129
      @saraspivey1129 5 років тому +5

      Tashula Rockett WHOA!!

    • @yrjnji
      @yrjnji 5 років тому +21

      deadass.
      suicide hotline ain’t shit.

    • @lofarm7290
      @lofarm7290 4 роки тому +6

      Tashula Rockett how are you now?

    • @lishthefish57
      @lishthefish57 4 роки тому +1

      ...than*

    • @Gigilovehugs
      @Gigilovehugs 4 роки тому +1

      True it helped me too

  • @kyngzeyephotography3482
    @kyngzeyephotography3482 5 років тому +118

    When sis said, "what happens to the black girl that's too anxious to be magic?".... I felt that in my soul!!!

  • @mishatheewriter
    @mishatheewriter 6 років тому +888

    This is how I feel!! This is remarkable!! I can relate to everything she said!!! AMAZING 💗✊🏾 👏🏾🙌🏾

  • @Matt_cat59
    @Matt_cat59 2 роки тому +32

    “What happens to a Black girl who’s too anxious to ever feel like magic” I feel this in my soul every time

  • @onessisgarza9035
    @onessisgarza9035 5 років тому +41

    “Because of her i still think no one else will ever want me...”

  • @FriendlyKat
    @FriendlyKat 2 роки тому +40

    I always find myself coming back here in times of hardship. Times of anxiety. Her words means a lot. More than what one could truly express.
    Her parts where the anxiety shows and she must say “Breathe” is honestly one of my favorite parts. It will be okay.
    If you’re reading this: You got this. Breathe.

  • @standup4change
    @standup4change 4 роки тому +27

    "I know how hard it is to live with both of us. When we don't like feeling out of control. When we don't handle conflict well. When we don't handle being yelled at well. When everything you say to us will be repeated and deconstructed and analyzed in our heads a million times after."
    That part cut me deep! 😔

  • @jamescameronfrancisco1295
    @jamescameronfrancisco1295 6 років тому +157

    everytime she says the word breath!!
    it makes me gasp for air too!!

    • @shatoriarenee1406
      @shatoriarenee1406 5 років тому +3

      James Cameron Francisco me too my anxiety couldn’t take the heat

    • @lizarapp243
      @lizarapp243 5 років тому +1

      James Cameron Francisco it was entirely too relatable. Because I do have to remind myself to breathe. She maaaade you feel that, and anyone with anxiety knows it all too well

  • @mahlakurams6600
    @mahlakurams6600 6 років тому +146

    Draaaaaagggggg my anxiety and me.. Define us😭

  • @sarahw8210
    @sarahw8210 6 років тому +459

    ❤️❤️ she says it so well, in a way I can't. I can tell she put a lot of work into this and I appreciate it

    • @lavernfoster1598
      @lavernfoster1598 6 років тому +7

      Her anxiety probably made her re write it over and over again. I know it too well, very relatable like how I am erasing and typing again this comment

    • @bleech-itedits1786
      @bleech-itedits1786 5 років тому +1

      You can also put a lot of work if you can believe in yourself more like she does.

  • @chocolatwist
    @chocolatwist 3 роки тому +3

    My son has Asperger Syndrome that comes with social anxiety and a lot of what she says remind me of him 😥 thank you for sharing

  • @deashiamoore8533
    @deashiamoore8533 Рік тому +4

    I'm crying like a baby I never knew it was other people out there who felt the exact same way as me ...

  • @plotakiotrionqui2116
    @plotakiotrionqui2116 2 роки тому +6

    This wasn’t acting, this was a human being expressing her soul. She tells the story of my life on that stage, this is like reality on display; I am so blessed to witness such glorious art. You are amazing, thank you 🙏

  • @Shaunthepoet
    @Shaunthepoet 6 років тому +23

    "What happens to a black girl who is too anxious to feel like magic" Whoo!!!!! 💪🏽

  • @HamAndBeef13
    @HamAndBeef13 6 років тому +190

    I am in tears. I feel so much for you right now. That you fought through your anxiety for this outstanding poem. I suffered with sever anxiety and panic attacks for 3 years and it grew into agoraphobia. Thanks to the Good Lord above He set me free from that. I pray you conquer your long term relationship with anxiety. You don’t belong there. I don’t even know you and I love you. Thank you for sharing ♥️

  • @Jshump-no5ln
    @Jshump-no5ln 6 років тому +318

    This is how I am feeling as I sit in the doctors office trying not to make eye contact with anyone

  • @jesshicks91
    @jesshicks91 4 роки тому +22

    This is one of the most realistic things I’ve ever seen.
    I’ve watched it so many times because it speaks so much truth. Anxiety is awful, I hate it so much, it’s taken so much of my life and left me broken so many times💔

  • @aminakanu3719
    @aminakanu3719 9 місяців тому +1

    It never gets old

  • @elizabethecho4061
    @elizabethecho4061 3 місяці тому

    I love how she wrote a poem about her anxiety and how it affects her relationships and emotions. You can see in the video the way she moves her hands how passionate she is about what she wrote because it’s something she faces daily.

  • @ritagitonga7637
    @ritagitonga7637 2 роки тому +11

    I swear i have lost count of the number of times i have listened to this masterpiece 👌 , were i told to describe my anxiety and what i feel everyday of my life , what would be more descriptive than this ? 🔥 🔥

  • @alulawilliams2523
    @alulawilliams2523 5 років тому +11

    see, THIS is possibly the MOST accurate representation of a person with anxiety, or how it feels like

  • @Alyx2321
    @Alyx2321 5 років тому +35

    I felt like I was holding my breath throughout this piece, like I could feel the grip and clenched fist of anxiety... I'm all too familiar with that feeling. Thank you for your truth and transparency...

  • @Shazianne
    @Shazianne 5 років тому +3

    And I thought no one would ever understand. People always say there's nothing to be nervous about, say that I'm over-reacting, over-thinking. But it's good to know that Anxiety is cheating on us. It's good to know that there are others who understand the torture she/he puts us through. I'm glad Jae N. shared this. And thank you, Write About Now

    • @wanpoetry
      @wanpoetry  5 років тому

      Hi Shaziane, thank you for sharing. We're glad this video resonated with you. We're noticing this video recently picked up a lot of traffic. Do you mind if we ask where you saw it?

  • @VannahMassan
    @VannahMassan 2 роки тому +4

    “I know how hard it is to live with both of us” hit me so hard I started crying

  • @MzJazzy123100
    @MzJazzy123100 6 років тому +168

    This poem really speaks to me 😭😭😩. Amazing!!

  • @sindekamandoyi7020
    @sindekamandoyi7020 3 роки тому +1

    This just made me cry, because she is in my head.

  • @tonyaturner8555
    @tonyaturner8555 Рік тому

    My God! My God! It’s as if she read my mind! Tears and finger snaps!!!!!!

  • @divyaj996
    @divyaj996 6 років тому +5

    Wow. She's screaming everything I've been feeling.

  • @officialdepac4107
    @officialdepac4107 5 років тому +5

    everytime she said "breathe"😩❤️

  • @VannahMassan
    @VannahMassan 5 місяців тому

    The last part, I burst into tears everytime. ❤️‍🩹

  • @melissasmith7745
    @melissasmith7745 3 роки тому +1

    Very thing here speaks volume of every different personality that’s going on in us before we can overcome what actually going on in our presents

    • @melissasmith7745
      @melissasmith7745 3 роки тому

      If I could give y more than that one thumbs up I would

  • @andrea.dandelion
    @andrea.dandelion 5 років тому +59

    Loved the poem...
    And loved the audience!
    I hope the supportive cheers helped make her feel more at ease

  • @kellywhite5447
    @kellywhite5447 4 роки тому +5

    There's something about her that I love...she's just great❤🌼

  • @fauxdauteur
    @fauxdauteur 4 місяці тому

    What a talented and beautiful woman. She looks like she would've been a 90s R&B star or A-list actress.

  • @AsyaNyoka
    @AsyaNyoka 3 роки тому +2

    This brings tears to my eyes every time I watch it 😭

  • @dejandow4644
    @dejandow4644 6 років тому +22

    Really incredible. That is exactly how it feels. She nailed it and looked great doing it!

  • @jadamarie2598
    @jadamarie2598 6 років тому +18

    My anxiety and I have what some people might call a friends with benefits relationship. We have no love for each other, but she she still just kinda fucks with me sometimes....

  • @ingridc5127
    @ingridc5127 4 роки тому +1

    WOWOWOWWWW, I screamed at the accuracy!!!!!!!!

  • @mollylewis9708
    @mollylewis9708 4 роки тому +3

    She voices everything I can’t put into words

  • @ungodlyyluxx4306
    @ungodlyyluxx4306 6 років тому +22

    Brought tears to my eyes on how accurate this is

  • @humbabah7814
    @humbabah7814 4 дні тому

    Back here again, on of my Favourite Poems

  • @ConsolantaKyosimire-ho2cu
    @ConsolantaKyosimire-ho2cu 9 місяців тому +1

    I like it so much and l listen to it every day ❤😮😊 it's just wow

  • @kjartz8649
    @kjartz8649 5 років тому +14

    This poem resonated with me on such a deep level. My anxiety fights me daily and nothing is more frustrating or exhausting than trying to explain to people every single day "what's wrong" with me. Thank you for articulating my struggle. You did something that I probably never will be able to do. Thank you

  • @mikehurt1709
    @mikehurt1709 6 років тому +112

    I quit toastmasters because of my anxiety. This makes me want to rejoin. Absolutely amazing 😉

  • @alexisjanea
    @alexisjanea Рік тому

    I just found a screenshot of this video in my phone from 2017. This video still hits till this day. WOW...

  • @KittyDaCat585
    @KittyDaCat585 Місяць тому

    This was so amazing it’s exactly how anxiety feels for me, like it helps be understand myself better

  • @nr7645
    @nr7645 6 років тому +48

    That was so powerful. Felt it with my life.

  • @christinedelarosa9549
    @christinedelarosa9549 6 років тому +69

    Most relatable poem...thank you sista ❤️

  • @user-kd2xc1pv4d
    @user-kd2xc1pv4d 3 місяці тому

    I love how relatable this is. and once again, I love when they are able to mix in jokes with more serious topics. very talented woman, very strong emotions as well.

  • @overtwentyfive7805
    @overtwentyfive7805 4 роки тому +1

    THAT "OOOOO-OOOOO" AT 1.31 IS SO WARRANTED/TIMELY/ PERFECT!

  • @KrayzeeLife
    @KrayzeeLife 6 років тому +10

    Omg this is the first poem to ever make me tear up. Listen until the end, such a touching poem

  • @theatricimmortals127
    @theatricimmortals127 6 років тому +8

    I wish I could like this 100 times

  • @meganconn142
    @meganconn142 4 роки тому

    This is one of my favorite of all time....it makes me cry.....this....is....me.

  • @PeanutButterNJellyfishSandwich
    @PeanutButterNJellyfishSandwich 2 роки тому

    What a talented lady! I absolutely adore her hair.

  • @leahisreal3645
    @leahisreal3645 4 роки тому +4

    As a poet myself I felt this in my body, mind and soul. Great job wow

  • @kaylawright5707
    @kaylawright5707 6 років тому +20

    Wow if this isnt me anxiety is the abouslute worst and honestly i didnt think anyone else understood it this made me feel normal and thats amazing thank u

  • @leewilliams3395
    @leewilliams3395 2 роки тому +1

    ME EXPLAINED TO ME...DAMN. THANK YOU 👑 JAE NICHELLE🖖🏽

  • @royaltymajesty4325
    @royaltymajesty4325 Рік тому +1

    Am just so touched 🥲

  • @JayIndigo
    @JayIndigo 6 років тому +32

    Not an ounce of me wanted to skip this I had to finish it because your words grabbed my attention fully 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @user-sy6dn5qp6u
    @user-sy6dn5qp6u 4 роки тому +6

    I'm listening to this almost everyday. Your feelings and words are so true and beautiful. Thank you❤️

  • @kammiejackson6861
    @kammiejackson6861 2 роки тому

    Til this day I still felt this poem

  • @hannahspencer5430
    @hannahspencer5430 3 роки тому +1

    will FOREVER CONTINUE to be one of my fav poems

  • @bbg7383
    @bbg7383 4 роки тому +8

    brought me to tears! i love people who look like me, who FEEEL like me! thank you sis💕

  • @spicynicole5211
    @spicynicole5211 6 років тому +179

    This poem is ME! :(

  • @melissaalexander1033
    @melissaalexander1033 Рік тому

    Speaks in so many levels.

  • @Onialove_
    @Onialove_ Рік тому

    Why am I just now seeing this? She’s fire asf🔥🔥🔥🔥😭

  • @NyashaHill
    @NyashaHill 6 років тому +25

    Flawless execution and more relatable than you know, Mama! Thank you!!!

  • @conjunction7959
    @conjunction7959 6 років тому +9

    Wow...if my heart and soul could speak. Constantly cluttered with thoughts of crippling self doubt and over analysis. Awareness

  • @debbieallen6016
    @debbieallen6016 3 роки тому +1

    Beautiful I cried

  • @rkivery
    @rkivery 7 місяців тому

    this said everything for me that i never could.

  • @phiahphiah9072
    @phiahphiah9072 2 роки тому +3

    Amazing 😍💫🧿

  • @Gigi502.
    @Gigi502. 6 років тому +5

    Spoke to my soul

  • @booonanny340
    @booonanny340 2 роки тому +2

    2021 ty hope u r doing well. I needed this

  • @thingz_4272
    @thingz_4272 5 років тому +1

    Every time she says breath just hits me

  • @isobelsmith2810
    @isobelsmith2810 6 років тому +30

    This is magical

  • @amberb8964
    @amberb8964 6 років тому +7

    Wow, I felt that

  • @ClassABritt
    @ClassABritt 4 роки тому

    No words just tears 😭

  • @christal2gypsy
    @christal2gypsy 2 роки тому +1

    I'm so greatful for you and this amazing message thankyou so much 💖

  • @Kelly-np2tg
    @Kelly-np2tg 6 років тому +24

    I relate to the second half of that poem so much. It's why I fail at love. 😐😟

  • @taafilipo9133
    @taafilipo9133 6 років тому +11

    Truely put my thoughts into words ✨🔥

  • @HypnoticHysteriaLooming
    @HypnoticHysteriaLooming 3 роки тому +2

    The first time I heard this I cried. You have said all the words I have not been able to get out. This is powerful, raw, honest, painful, truth.

  • @keishaplus549
    @keishaplus549 2 роки тому +1

    Listen!!! I come back here every year and listen to this poem a few times.

  • @rosaevangelista5060
    @rosaevangelista5060 4 роки тому +3

    This poem is truly meant for me. The title interested me so I clicked to listen. Turned out to be NOT what I thought but a lesson. So Sis, thank you for the nourishment.

  • @Unholyland
    @Unholyland 5 років тому +9

    "she is the only relationship I can count on"

  • @trecalzelas
    @trecalzelas 4 роки тому +1

    She makes me cry Everytime . I love her and her truth