This particular topic spoke to me. When people say “I don’t have friends” they sometimes mean it as a flex but when I say it, it’s a cry for help. I know I need people but I’ve gotten used to the idea of doing things myself so at the slightest provocation I’m out. I’m thankful for this video, by God’s help I’ll become more intentional about my friendships.
I was already crying because I always self sabotage friendships, and I’m going through it right now. it may be that I don’t feel good enough to be loved as Esther said I don’t feel like ever being someone’s first choice nor even the second. all because of trauma not just from friends but from family also, the fear of abandonment devours me so much that instead of trying to make or build friendships i decide to just close myself to anyone coming into my life and right now I am trying to sabotage the 2-3 existing friendships i have I am tired of being complicated and too demanding and expecting unarchivable things from friends or people who are trying to get close Lord help my heart,I need practical guidance on navigating this part of my life This video is a blessing it came at the perfect time Thanks to you both God bless you both
When you have an offensive spirit, you don’t take people for who they are, you take them for who you expect them to be. This really blessed me, thank you.
I admire and appreciate how you let your guests talk and express their points without you interrupting them like most host do. Thank you, God bless you. This is a good and very relatable conversation 👌👌👌.
The part where she said that"we shouldn't always focus on what people are or what we see right now but we should be committed to what they are becoming and what God has said about them" It really touched me Most times, I'm easily affected by what my friend say or do because I love them so much, or I use that as an excuse to continue to contain this offensive spirit I've realised that I should always speak to God about everything concerning my friendship, always remembering that they are present in my life for a purpose. Thank you so much ❤️
Personally, I can relate with Ezinne, too. I always avoid confrontations and so that causes me to ghost friends who hurt me instead of having conversations around. I somehow tricked myself into thinking that I am saving myself from future hurts because if you hurt me once , you can do it again. But I realise now that is a lie. I repent God, help me. Thank you so much Ezinne and Esther.
I was running away from this video because friendship is a very dicey topic for me. I'm in a season of "rebuilding" my friendships because I wasn't doing it right hitherto. I'm glad I watched this video, it made me do an introspection which I really needed. Thank you, Ezinne & Esther!
This video is so timely. I'm one who's been hurt and betrayed a lot by friends and it left me scarred. It made me develop a way of getting by without certain people whom i once held close to my heart. I also had to look inwards to see that I'm not entirely innocent in some of my friendships that went sour. The part about honour certainly struck a chord in me. I certainly need to repent for how I treated people especially the ones i didn't realize I had hurt. Thank you so much for this timely message on friendships and honour. You're doing the Lord's work. Remain blessed ❤
From the YT SHORTS, I saw I just knew in my heart, every thing about this video will shake MY TABLE because why do I feel thoroughly attacked and convicted?😭😮😂😂😂😂
The part where Esther spoke about her friend whose values did not align with hers struck me the most. Also, the dissecting of the story of David and Jonathan. Thank you for this video, Ezinne and Esther. God bless you❤️✨
Like what Esther said I get offended easily just like me. When I was in school i always said my classmates never real liked me because they felt i was proud. I By the beginning of 2023 I started getting closer to God. I realised that I was too reserved, I get offend easily and I put a wall between how our friendship will reached because people had hurt me and so not to be vulnerable at with that person.I'm was someone who really liked people, what the best for you and see you grow. God has been teaching me let people see the true me and be vulnerable, learning to let go of the hurts and learning how to forgive even till 2024 even when I don't have any grudges with anyone. For now I have 2 close friends who cares about me so much. Shout Out to them i loved them so much
I'm not a "loyal" follower I'll say. I enjoy watching your videos occasionally and today; He said to me; I want to do something but go and watch Ezinne first... I was like which Ezinne? Then baamm... Ezinne Zara.... God bless you Ma'am ☺️🙏
This has happened to me before!! But with Ezinne’s conversation with El Shakar, who is this lady’s husband! Wooooow!! I’m so excited for this journey for you because where I’m at now, started from that conversation God led me to listen to❤️🔥
One thing I love about ezinne’s videos is that it makes me self reflect and meditate. This just took me back to when I had a fallout with a friend for few months. Thank God for God’s intervention and the grace to obey him. It truly pays to serve Jesus
Thank you so much, Ma Esther and Ma, Ezinne. This video is a testimony that God is intentional about my friendship. Two of my closest friends fell out of love for each other which affected me. I had to either choose one or hate the other because it affected a friendship of five. The fallout was so bad that there we a lot of emotions involved, said and unsaid. I decided to pray about it, another of our friends had to have a meeting for the five of us to trash out the issue...it was a bold step we needed to take to facilitate healing. The friendship is honestly not the same, the bond isn't as before because of the nature of things now, however, God constantly reminds me to pray for her and to never speak badly about her. I still check up on her and wish her the very best. I'm honoring this friendship, like Ma, Esther said this lady was my cheerleader and safe space. Thank you for this topic. ❤🙏🏻
Wow I was blessed by this conversation. I kind of related to her friendship story which made everything refreshing. One of my takeaway from this conversation is : "always honour your friendship". I remember last few months when i had a fall out with a friend. I lied to myself that I'd be okay but turns out God was looking at me with one eye 😅 He gradually started revealing to me what i needed to see, he tore the little pride that was building up in me, and made me settle by seeing my flaws and not the other person's contribution to the fall out. It wasn't easy bringing up the conversation again after a month plus of not speaking to each other but I'm most grateful to God for giving me the words and the courage to reach out and I'm glad we finally talked and settled. I believe in friendship we should allow God rule. Friendship is almost like a romantic relationship the only difference is that there's no extra "intimacy" but what there is, is "commitment, loyalty, faithfulness and honour". If we allow this flow then a good friendship will be built. May God help us build Christ-like friendships in Jesus name Amen 🙏. Thank you Ezinne Zara i love your videos so much ❤
A book that I'm currently reading and will like to recommend is Friendish by Kelly Needham. It really talks extensively on all that Mrs. Ideh has spoken about in this video.
This video blessed me. When you spoke about losing friendships due to pride, it definitely got me thinking what it would be like if God wasn't a consistent friend willing to accept us whenever we truly repent. What a perfect example.
I didn't know I needed this, I just began watching to sip juice... few minutes in and I am bawling my eyes out. I am the friend that needs to apologize, thank you ladies for being so vulnerable and transparent. There's a lot I want to say, but let me just say GOD bless you both and enlarge your coasts. ❤❤😭😭
This feels like a personal message to me. Two things, Esther said, that stood out to me was; NOT TAKING OFFENSE (God has been teaching me about been being slow to anger, the importance of being forgiving, giving Grace to people and showing mercy).... Secondly, HONOUR, If i got a dollar for every time, God and my Leaders in faith has spoken about the importance of HONOUR, I will be a billionaire by now. So far, I am learning, taking corrections and I hope to be the best version of who God wants me to be. Thank you Ezinne, Love you. I have subscribed already 💃💃.
Not everyone in your life is dispensable. If you cannot discern some of those valuable relationships and you loose them, you may never be heard. Some relationships are that important to your life and destiny.... Thank you Ezinne Zara and Esther Ideh. I had a very insightful time watching this.
The part that actually touched me and I felt like Esther was talking to me was the "Offensive Spirit" part, honestly I have always felt that way, especially when people don't treat me the way I want to be treated I feel victimised and used by them, until God opened my eyes to see that I am not used by them, but by him and they being in my life for that season means God wanted to use me to help them, so am like an answered prayer 😅.... Anyways thanks Ezinne for this wonderful video, I learnt a lot and also noted 🎉🎉🎉
God spoke to me about healing two days ago, and I felt I didn't need it because I was okay, I even thought it wasn't God speaking. But now I see, now I truly understand that I need healing, and I need help too. I didn't know my default response to pain or hurt was withdrawal, and as a result, I always prefer being alone to being around people because I felt i was weird and wouldn't contribute much. Thank you so much Mrs Ezinne and Mrs Esther, my eyes have been opened to a lot of things, may God continue to bless you both and keep you ❤
Whoosh! I had avoided watching this video for a while because i felt that it would just x-ray all the insecurities I've been dealing with lately especially with my friendships. But a friend brought it up again to our platform and here I am... Going through the very xray I'm avoiding. God bless you for this Ezinne and Esther! I'm sooooooo blessed!
Thank you guys for this conversation. I’ve been blessed. The part that touched me is the part about cancel culture. I’ve never been one to “cut people off” just like that when they do something wrong to you or when you believe their season in your life is over. But I didn’t know why it was so with me. And today I’ve learnt that it is because it is not an honorable thing to do and dishonoring people is distasteful To God. May God always show us how to handle such situations. Amen 🙏🏾. Love you guys ❤ and thanks again 😊for
I’ve been praying about friendships and relationships recently and hoping that God helps me to heal and understand how to be better and intentional. And I then I came across this video..🥺🥺 This video really helped my mind and I pray God continually helps and blesses you, thank you so much for sharing.🤗
OMG! I went through a roller coaster of emotions throughout this video. This was a deep reflection for me really. I can relate with having unstable friendships and just like Esther, it has shaped my perspective. Thank you Jesus for this revelation! Thank you Esther for sharing your story! Thank you Ezinne for using your platform for God!
Thank you for this! 🙌 Sustaining friendships has not been easy for me. It’s not that we have issues; I just tend to drift away, and we stop talking. I’m sincerely trusting God to help me honor, love, and pray for my friends, and by His grace, fulfill the purpose He has for me in their lives.
For some reason this makes me so emotional. I feel like I've wasted time on petty arguments and feelings instead of focusing on what God has ordained for certain friendships.
Thank you so much for this. I had to stop and pray towards the end when she talked about praying to God about the role people in your life are meant to play. This was beautiful ❤️
I can totally relate to sis Esther. Its funny how when we are young we see this dysfunction friendships (esp friendships of 4 or 5 girls) we think these kinds of friendships are okay because we are craving so much to be liked by the other girls. I've always been in big friend groups and never felt accepted because everyone had 'their' person and i was always the new person. But in high school God blessed me with a friend who no matter how hard i thought the friendship would fail, it never did. This girl was always in my heart even when she moved away, and fast forward to now, we are best of friends and still connected. She even introduced me to the Lord and i bless her heart everyday for that.
This is such a helpful and beautiful conversation. Also, I truly appreciate that you allowed Esther to express herself without interruptions, Ezinne. Thank you for this❤
I'm so grateful I came across this video. This topic on "friendship" has been something I've been struggling with for a while now. Sometimes I feel I do not really know this person I call friend and have been with for say over 6 years for one reason or the other. I've learnt a lot Ezinne and Esther. Thank you so much. For me, the first step I'm going to do is to allow the Holy spirit teach me to pray about the things that makes me uncomfortable. Wowww, you both shook a lot on my table, I just had to get a pen and paper and note the things I'd be doing differently from now on. Thank you so much for this. God bless you both🙏
Hello Ezinne I just want to say thank you for your voice. You were sent for a person like me. Continue to live, continue to love, continue to walk with God, continue to share your journey and your story. We are blessed by it all. I am blessed by it all. THANK YOU once more❤️ I love you 🫶🏼
I relate with Esther so much, especially on not having friends that stays, I know I played a part because I also have an offensive spirit, and one thing with this is, if you have accepted it, it comes back in different forms and shapes…attract one friend that offended you, get a whole dozens of offenders...this is deep and I will ask God to help me to strip myself of all wrongs I believe have been done to me and forgive myself for the ones I have done too.
Understanding your role in a person's life. I recently came to understand that people are put in your life for a reason. Its our responsibility to pray and understand why God has put that person in our life.
A friend shared the link to this conversation on her status and I'm glad I decided to check it out. This is the first time I am coming across your name. And I am surprised because I live on Earth.😊 Thank you Mrs. Esther Ideh for being so real! I learnt a number of things and cried in between the conversation. I will do my best to honour people in my life and ask God for each friend's purpose. Thank you, Mrs. Ezinne for this healthy conversation. You just got a new subscriber.❤️
hey Bright light family. I am hoping everyone is well. My favourite part of this amazing conversation is the reference to Paul and Barnabas relationship. This made me think how easy it is to assume that it is always God's will for things to not work out in our relationships, yet sometimes we are not willing to resolve the conflicts, pray about them( lovely Esther mentioned) or even die to self and humble ourselves for Holy Spirit to intervene. Indeed it is human nature to associate The Lord's approval to friendships or even assignments to a smooth ride, just sunshine with no challenges.
I am always anticipating Ezinne's videos because they are so timely. Any video she releases is one that i actually do need to hear at that time. Thank you Ezinne, I love you so much. More grace to your elbow.
Kai, everything about this video addressed me and yes God has been dealing with me on this topic and today I feel he wrapped the work up, my mindset is fixed aright. That part that ma'am Esther said that we should always pray about the role the person who is coming into our life is to play and the role we ought to play in their life so as to minimize heartbreaks. And seeing people from the lenses God is seeing them, irrespective of their weaknesses now, we should be gracious to our friends. Ma Ezinne that part where you talked about us insisting on never giving a second chance to our friends, like completely shutting our heart to let them in, you should have just mentioned my name 🤣🤣🤣. But Kai, God is always timely, thank you for always yielding. This healed me completely.
I can't believe I was tearing up while watching this in the afternoon. This podcast spoke to me in different ways. Now, I'm ready to see my friends differently, especially the one who have different values. Ma'am Ezinne, thank you for putting this out.
Am i just an emotional person or is this video really touching 🥺? I’ve learned so much from this i had some questions about friendships that i now have answers to. Thank you Ezinne and Esther ✨
I have been a bad friend. May those I have hurt forgive me, may the Lord please forgive me. This has been an eye opener…I am grateful to have watched and really listened to your conversation. May the King of Kings bless you abundantly. You ladies are beautiful inside and outside.❤❤
Today, we came to chop and this topic, conversation is very necessary. Thank you so much for your transparency. Friendship is beautiful but the truth is that not everyone knows what a friend is and for that reason when good friends come, they don’t even recognize them. I carry many stories and I can even write a book on this topic alone. Someone even told me a few days ago that girl start a podcast on this 😂😂😂. Honestly, foundation especially how they are raised and what they were surrounded by plays a huge role. God bless you all 🙏🏿🤗🥁
I learned so much from this episode, especially when Esther spoke about the offensive spirit and how i am not always a victim in every story. Thank you so much Ezinne this will help me to reflect on my friendships and life more.❤
There is healing in this video. Thank you. I was healed from the story of God 'shutting Esther up' because He still needed to work on some things. This is soo me right now. And even the area of friendship, the Lord has been exposing issues with rejection I never knew or realized I had. Thank you. There really is healing in this video.
Thank you so much Ezinne for this video. The one you released last year had a great impact on my life and helped me in my wilderness season. And now this? Thank you. And yes, I love youuuuu❤❤❤
Oh my Goodness! Thank you Ezinne and Esther. This is a timely message for me. I’m grateful that my healing has started ❤. It’s not been easy navigating friendships and now I know why.
Ezinne Zara is definitely one of my favourite UA-camrs and Podcasters rnnnn🥺🥺🤭🤭I totally enjoyed this conversation and i like the practicality and authenticity in sharing from both sides. I pray that God puts this video in the view of as many truly need to see it. Welldone Ezinne Zara❤ you're backed by the Trinity!! Love you🧡
Thank You so much for this. I was blessed by this❤️Friendships have been a roller coaster for me. I have always felt alone even with friends and there were times I felt like things are actually changing in my friendships, when I get this feeling I pray, but things changed cause the friendship I prayed for ended. She cut me off and stopped talking to my other friend and it has been hard for both of us cause it was not ended properly and it was hurtful.Before she ended the friendship I prayed and told God that if I am causing pain to anyone heal them and forgive me a few days later she cut me off. His ways are not our ways😭🙏🏽
Just listened on Spotify... The episode is so anointed! My God! 😮 At the base of this is the need for us to solidify our relationship with the Holy Spirit and the word of God, it's deep!
This video gave me the strength to have a conversation that is long overdue. God is big on honour. And so I repent from any dishonour I've shown towards people. May God help me to do better going forward.
This is for me-directly. It doesn't get better than this because I have been praying to God to help me in my friendships, especially in this new season, and he has just been speaking to me intensely. Thank you, Ezinne. God bless you.❤
I can’t thank you Guys enough for this topic. I was looking for Christian contents on friendship and couldn’t really see much on it. This brought tears to my eyes and made me reach out to my friends.
I love this video and I think I will be watching this over and over at different points in my life. Many sentences are nuggets and have made me reflect on myself ❤
This video is a testimonyy to meeee😭😭❤❤.. thank you so much...I'm literally in tears😭
What God cannot do does not exist!
Awww, thank God 🤗🤍
This particular topic spoke to me. When people say “I don’t have friends” they sometimes mean it as a flex but when I say it, it’s a cry for help. I know I need people but I’ve gotten used to the idea of doing things myself so at the slightest provocation I’m out. I’m thankful for this video, by God’s help I’ll become more intentional about my friendships.
This is so mee.
But I'm working in it as well.
God will help us
I was already crying because I always self sabotage friendships, and I’m going through it right now. it may be that I don’t feel good enough to be loved as Esther said I don’t feel like ever being someone’s first choice nor even the second. all because of trauma not just from friends but from family also, the fear of abandonment devours me so much that instead of trying to make or build friendships i decide to just close myself to anyone coming into my life and right now I am trying to sabotage the 2-3 existing friendships i have
I am tired of being complicated and too demanding and expecting unarchivable things from friends or people who are trying to get close
Lord help my heart,I need practical guidance on navigating this part of my life
This video is a blessing it came at the perfect time
Thanks to you both God bless you both
When you have an offensive spirit, you don’t take people for who they are, you take them for who you expect them to be. This really blessed me, thank you.
I admire and appreciate how you let your guests talk and express their points without you interrupting them like most host do. Thank you, God bless you.
This is a good and very relatable conversation 👌👌👌.
The part where she said that"we shouldn't always focus on what people are or what we see right now but we should be committed to what they are becoming and what God has said about them"
It really touched me
Most times, I'm easily affected by what my friend say or do because I love them so much, or I use that as an excuse to continue to contain this offensive spirit
I've realised that I should always speak to God about everything concerning my friendship, always remembering that they are present in my life for a purpose.
Thank you so much ❤️
Personally, I can relate with Ezinne, too. I always avoid confrontations and so that causes me to ghost friends who hurt me instead of having conversations around. I somehow tricked myself into thinking that I am saving myself from future hurts because if you hurt me once , you can do it again. But I realise now that is a lie. I repent God, help me. Thank you so much Ezinne and Esther.
I was running away from this video because friendship is a very dicey topic for me. I'm in a season of "rebuilding" my friendships because I wasn't doing it right hitherto. I'm glad I watched this video, it made me do an introspection which I really needed. Thank you, Ezinne & Esther!
This woman is so full of wisdom and she expresses herself well.
She’s so beautiful too😍
Almost an hour long video????
We are eating gooooodddddd!!!!!!!
Well-done EZ❤
The content the girls NEED!! 🗣️✨😭
Omg omg yesssss. The honouring the end is so so good
This video is so timely. I'm one who's been hurt and betrayed a lot by friends and it left me scarred. It made me develop a way of getting by without certain people whom i once held close to my heart. I also had to look inwards to see that I'm not entirely innocent in some of my friendships that went sour. The part about honour certainly struck a chord in me. I certainly need to repent for how I treated people especially the ones i didn't realize I had hurt. Thank you so much for this timely message on friendships and honour. You're doing the Lord's work. Remain blessed ❤
From the YT SHORTS, I saw I just knew in my heart, every thing about this video will shake MY TABLE because why do I feel thoroughly attacked and convicted?😭😮😂😂😂😂
The part where Esther spoke about her friend whose values did not align with hers struck me the most. Also, the dissecting of the story of David and Jonathan.
Thank you for this video, Ezinne and Esther. God bless you❤️✨
listen !!! i needed to hear this.. i honor people but i haven't really associated honor with friendship
@@lans673 For real! I never though of it that way.
Like what Esther said I get offended easily just like me. When I was in school i always said my classmates never real liked me because they felt i was proud. I By the beginning of 2023 I started getting closer to God. I realised that I was too reserved, I get offend easily and I put a wall between how our friendship will reached because people had hurt me and so not to be vulnerable at with that person.I'm was someone who really liked people, what the best for you and see you grow. God has been teaching me let people see the true me and be vulnerable, learning to let go of the hurts and learning how to forgive even till 2024 even when I don't have any grudges with anyone. For now I have 2 close friends who cares about me so much. Shout Out to them i loved them so much
I'm not a "loyal" follower I'll say. I enjoy watching your videos occasionally and today; He said to me; I want to do something but go and watch Ezinne first... I was like which Ezinne? Then baamm... Ezinne Zara.... God bless you Ma'am ☺️🙏
This has happened to me before!!
But with Ezinne’s conversation with El Shakar, who is this lady’s husband! Wooooow!!
I’m so excited for this journey for you because where I’m at now, started from that conversation God led me to listen to❤️🔥
Esther and I met in university...... Miss our friendship ❤
One thing I love about ezinne’s videos is that it makes me self reflect and meditate. This just took me back to when I had a fallout with a friend for few months. Thank God for God’s intervention and the grace to obey him. It truly pays to serve Jesus
Thank you so much, Ma Esther and Ma, Ezinne. This video is a testimony that God is intentional about my friendship. Two of my closest friends fell out of love for each other which affected me. I had to either choose one or hate the other because it affected a friendship of five. The fallout was so bad that there we a lot of emotions involved, said and unsaid. I decided to pray about it, another of our friends had to have a meeting for the five of us to trash out the issue...it was a bold step we needed to take to facilitate healing.
The friendship is honestly not the same, the bond isn't as before because of the nature of things now, however, God constantly reminds me to pray for her and to never speak badly about her. I still check up on her and wish her the very best. I'm honoring this friendship, like Ma, Esther said this lady was my cheerleader and safe space. Thank you for this topic. ❤🙏🏻
Wow
I was blessed by this conversation. I kind of related to her friendship story which made everything refreshing. One of my takeaway from this conversation is : "always honour your friendship".
I remember last few months when i had a fall out with a friend. I lied to myself that I'd be okay but turns out God was looking at me with one eye 😅
He gradually started revealing to me what i needed to see, he tore the little pride that was building up in me, and made me settle by seeing my flaws and not the other person's contribution to the fall out.
It wasn't easy bringing up the conversation again after a month plus of not speaking to each other but I'm most grateful to God for giving me the words and the courage to reach out and I'm glad we finally talked and settled.
I believe in friendship we should allow God rule. Friendship is almost like a romantic relationship the only difference is that there's no extra "intimacy" but what there is, is "commitment, loyalty, faithfulness and honour". If we allow this flow then a good friendship will be built.
May God help us build Christ-like friendships in Jesus name Amen 🙏.
Thank you Ezinne Zara i love your videos so much ❤
"I don't think of thrashing people, i just want to Honour them."
Writing this down on the walls of my hearts. Even if the friendship goes south.
God bless you both so much.
'I am committed to who you are becoming' went into my heart.
I have written down my resolutions. Thank you .
A book that I'm currently reading and will like to recommend is Friendish by Kelly Needham. It really talks extensively on all that Mrs. Ideh has spoken about in this video.
Pls where can I get the book?
Thank you for sharing
This video blessed me. When you spoke about losing friendships due to pride, it definitely got me thinking what it would be like if God wasn't a consistent friend willing to accept us whenever we truly repent. What a perfect example.
I didn't know I needed this, I just began watching to sip juice... few minutes in and I am bawling my eyes out. I am the friend that needs to apologize, thank you ladies for being so vulnerable and transparent. There's a lot I want to say, but let me just say GOD bless you both and enlarge your coasts. ❤❤😭😭
This feels like a personal message to me. Two things, Esther said, that stood out to me was; NOT TAKING OFFENSE (God has been teaching me about been being slow to anger, the importance of being forgiving, giving Grace to people and showing mercy).... Secondly, HONOUR, If i got a dollar for every time, God and my Leaders in faith has spoken about the importance of HONOUR, I will be a billionaire by now. So far, I am learning, taking corrections and I hope to be the best version of who God wants me to be. Thank you Ezinne, Love you. I have subscribed already 💃💃.
Not everyone in your life is dispensable. If you cannot discern some of those valuable relationships and you loose them, you may never be heard. Some relationships are that important to your life and destiny....
Thank you Ezinne Zara and Esther Ideh. I had a very insightful time watching this.
The part that actually touched me and I felt like Esther was talking to me was the "Offensive Spirit" part, honestly I have always felt that way, especially when people don't treat me the way I want to be treated I feel victimised and used by them, until God opened my eyes to see that I am not used by them, but by him and they being in my life for that season means God wanted to use me to help them, so am like an answered prayer 😅.... Anyways thanks Ezinne for this wonderful video, I learnt a lot and also noted 🎉🎉🎉
God spoke to me about healing two days ago, and I felt I didn't need it because I was okay, I even thought it wasn't God speaking. But now I see, now I truly understand that I need healing, and I need help too.
I didn't know my default response to pain or hurt was withdrawal, and as a result, I always prefer being alone to being around people because I felt i was weird and wouldn't contribute much. Thank you so much Mrs Ezinne and Mrs Esther, my eyes have been opened to a lot of things, may God continue to bless you both and keep you ❤
Wow! This episode is low key a therapy session and a sermon😭😭❤️❤️ So many takeaways🥹❤️ Offering basket is on the way😂💃🏾🤲🏾
Whoosh!
I had avoided watching this video for a while because i felt that it would just x-ray all the insecurities I've been dealing with lately especially with my friendships. But a friend brought it up again to our platform and here I am... Going through the very xray I'm avoiding.
God bless you for this Ezinne and Esther!
I'm sooooooo blessed!
God is so intentional. Your guest was the perfect person for this... that story about Mercy 🤯 ❤
Wow … she spoke with Wisdom ..😢… l love how she took her time to explain in depth. Really helped a lot . Thank you
“The better you are, the better you show up for the world.”📌
Intentionality isn't about tryijg to fix your friend. It's about trying to stay long enough for the lord to fix you.
Oh, God bless you!🥺🤍
Thank you guys for this conversation. I’ve been blessed. The part that touched me is the part about cancel culture. I’ve never been one to “cut people off” just like that when they do something wrong to you or when you believe their season in your life is over. But I didn’t know why it was so with me. And today I’ve learnt that it is because it is not an honorable thing to do and dishonoring people is distasteful
To God. May God always show us how to handle such situations. Amen 🙏🏾.
Love you guys ❤ and thanks again 😊for
Thank you so much Ezine and Esther for sharing this...one thing I learnt is I shouldn't dispense people......And I should honour my friends
I’ve been praying about friendships and relationships recently and hoping that God helps me to heal and understand how to be better and intentional.
And I then I came across this video..🥺🥺
This video really helped my mind and I pray God continually helps and blesses you, thank you so much for sharing.🤗
OMG! I went through a roller coaster of emotions throughout this video. This was a deep reflection for me really. I can relate with having unstable friendships and just like Esther, it has shaped my perspective.
Thank you Jesus for this revelation!
Thank you Esther for sharing your story!
Thank you Ezinne for using your platform for God!
Everything Ma Esther said is true
Thank you for this! 🙌
Sustaining friendships has not been easy for me. It’s not that we have issues; I just tend to drift away, and we stop talking. I’m sincerely trusting God to help me honor, love, and pray for my friends, and by His grace, fulfill the purpose He has for me in their lives.
For some reason this makes me so emotional. I feel like I've wasted time on petty arguments and feelings instead of focusing on what God has ordained for certain friendships.
Thank you for this Ezinne I cried it was so emotional. I love listening to Esther she’s so wise and you can tell she fears God.
Thank you so much for this.
I had to stop and pray towards the end when she talked about praying to God about the role people in your life are meant to play.
This was beautiful ❤️
The part that really got to me is the one where Esther said God is so big on honour.
I can totally relate to sis Esther.
Its funny how when we are young we see this dysfunction friendships (esp friendships of 4 or 5 girls) we think these kinds of friendships are okay because we are craving so much to be liked by the other girls.
I've always been in big friend groups and never felt accepted because everyone had 'their' person and i was always the new person.
But in high school God blessed me with a friend who no matter how hard i thought the friendship would fail, it never did. This girl was always in my heart even when she moved away, and fast forward to now, we are best of friends and still connected. She even introduced me to the Lord and i bless her heart everyday for that.
20:32 the answer to the question here was a WHOLE DELIVERANCE!!! Wowww!!!😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you Esther Ideh for sharing this deep lesson with us. Thank you Ezinne for putting this out. God bless you, both.❤
This came at the right time especially in dismissing friends in an honorable way❤really helpful insight
Honestly, this session revealed alot about myself, I am so grateful
This one touched me. I was duly dragged and I'm grateful
Offensive spirit 😭😭that’s so me. I pray God saves me from such spirit. Thank you so much. First video of you and I’m hooked ❤
This is such a helpful and beautiful conversation. Also, I truly appreciate that you allowed Esther to express herself without interruptions, Ezinne.
Thank you for this❤
I'm so grateful I came across this video. This topic on "friendship" has been something I've been struggling with for a while now. Sometimes I feel I do not really know this person I call friend and have been with for say over 6 years for one reason or the other.
I've learnt a lot Ezinne and Esther. Thank you so much.
For me, the first step I'm going to do is to allow the Holy spirit teach me to pray about the things that makes me uncomfortable.
Wowww, you both shook a lot on my table, I just had to get a pen and paper and note the things I'd be doing differently from now on.
Thank you so much for this. God bless you both🙏
Its so good to hear people share testimony about, what you really need help for.
Hello Ezinne
I just want to say thank you for your voice. You were sent for a person like me. Continue to live, continue to love, continue to walk with God, continue to share your journey and your story. We are blessed by it all.
I am blessed by it all.
THANK YOU once more❤️
I love you 🫶🏼
This video could not have come at a better time , thank you ❤❤
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The part of being graceful and honourable about friendships stood out for me. Thank was such an amazing one, I'm glad to have been a part of it🤗
I relate with Esther so much, especially on not having friends that stays, I know I played a part because I also have an offensive spirit, and one thing with this is, if you have accepted it, it comes back in different forms and shapes…attract one friend that offended you, get a whole dozens of offenders...this is deep and I will ask God to help me to strip myself of all wrongs I believe have been done to me and forgive myself for the ones I have done too.
Watching this on my way home and I’m holding my tears
Understanding your role in a person's life.
I recently came to understand that people are put in your life for a reason. Its our responsibility to pray and understand why God has put that person in our life.
I have a new outlook on friendships because of this episode. Thank you Ezinne and Esther🤍🤍, may God bless and sustain your friendship.
A friend shared the link to this conversation on her status and I'm glad I decided to check it out.
This is the first time I am coming across your name. And I am surprised because I live on Earth.😊
Thank you Mrs. Esther Ideh for being so real!
I learnt a number of things and cried in between the conversation.
I will do my best to honour people in my life and ask God for each friend's purpose.
Thank you, Mrs. Ezinne for this healthy conversation. You just got a new subscriber.❤️
This conversation is so timely, so timely. It couldn't have come at a better time.
Esther Ideh speaks so much like Ezinne ❤️
hey Bright light family. I am hoping everyone is well. My favourite part of this amazing conversation is the reference to Paul and Barnabas relationship. This made me think how easy it is to assume that it is always God's will for things to not work out in our relationships, yet sometimes we are not willing to resolve the conflicts, pray about them( lovely Esther mentioned) or even die to self and humble ourselves for Holy Spirit to intervene. Indeed it is human nature to associate The Lord's approval to friendships or even assignments to a smooth ride, just sunshine with no challenges.
I am always anticipating Ezinne's videos because they are so timely. Any video she releases is one that i actually do need to hear at that time. Thank you Ezinne, I love you so much. More grace to your elbow.
This video is so timely for me.... Thank you Jesus 🙌
Thank you Ezinne ❤
Thank you Esther❤
Kai, everything about this video addressed me and yes God has been dealing with me on this topic and today I feel he wrapped the work up, my mindset is fixed aright. That part that ma'am Esther said that we should always pray about the role the person who is coming into our life is to play and the role we ought to play in their life so as to minimize heartbreaks. And seeing people from the lenses God is seeing them, irrespective of their weaknesses now, we should be gracious to our friends.
Ma Ezinne that part where you talked about us insisting on never giving a second chance to our friends, like completely shutting our heart to let them in, you should have just mentioned my name 🤣🤣🤣. But Kai, God is always timely, thank you for always yielding. This healed me completely.
I can't believe I was tearing up while watching this in the afternoon.
This podcast spoke to me in different ways.
Now, I'm ready to see my friends differently, especially the one who have different values.
Ma'am Ezinne, thank you for putting this out.
Thank you soo much Ezinne Zara
Thank you soo much Esther
God bless you
The conviction watching this…..😭
Am i just an emotional person or is this video really touching 🥺? I’ve learned so much from this i had some questions about friendships that i now have answers to. Thank you Ezinne and Esther ✨
I have been a bad friend. May those I have hurt forgive me, may the Lord please forgive me. This has been an eye opener…I am grateful to have watched and really listened to your conversation. May the King of Kings bless you abundantly. You ladies are beautiful inside and outside.❤❤
Today, we came to chop and this topic, conversation is very necessary. Thank you so much for your transparency. Friendship is beautiful but the truth is that not everyone knows what a friend is and for that reason when good friends come, they don’t even recognize them. I carry many stories and I can even write a book on this topic alone. Someone even told me a few days ago that girl start a podcast on this 😂😂😂. Honestly, foundation especially how they are raised and what they were surrounded by plays a huge role. God bless you all 🙏🏿🤗🥁
Wow wow wow, incredible edifying, I was truly blessed 🙏🏾
Godbless you both for this podcast ❤.
Just watched this video…It is such a blessing to me. Thank you 🙏🏽
This is so profound. The part where Ezinne talked about Paul and Barnarbas. I’m so blessed and learnt a lot .
I learned so much from this episode, especially when Esther spoke about the offensive spirit and how i am not always a victim in every story.
Thank you so much Ezinne this will help me to reflect on my friendships and life more.❤
There is healing in this video.
Thank you.
I was healed from the story of God 'shutting Esther up' because He still needed to work on some things. This is soo me right now. And even the area of friendship, the Lord has been exposing issues with rejection I never knew or realized I had.
Thank you. There really is healing in this video.
God bless you 💕 Honour people!
Thank you so much Ezinne for this video. The one you released last year had a great impact on my life and helped me in my wilderness season. And now this? Thank you. And yes, I love youuuuu❤❤❤
Oh my Goodness! Thank you Ezinne and Esther. This is a timely message for me. I’m grateful that my healing has started ❤. It’s not been easy navigating friendships and now I know why.
My! My!! My!!! What a video! Mrs Ideh was the perfect person truly for this. Well said! God bless you both
Ezinne Zara is definitely one of my favourite UA-camrs and Podcasters rnnnn🥺🥺🤭🤭I totally enjoyed this conversation and i like the practicality and authenticity in sharing from both sides. I pray that God puts this video in the view of as many truly need to see it. Welldone Ezinne Zara❤ you're backed by the Trinity!! Love you🧡
I have learnt so much from this conversation. God bless you Ezinne and Esther
How I always anticipate your videos and do a mental countdown till Friday
How I am always smiling when I get a notification 🤭
Thank You so much for this. I was blessed by this❤️Friendships have been a roller coaster for me. I have always felt alone even with friends and there were times I felt like things are actually changing in my friendships, when I get this feeling I pray, but things changed cause the friendship I prayed for ended. She cut me off and stopped talking to my other friend and it has been hard for both of us cause it was not ended properly and it was hurtful.Before she ended the friendship I prayed and told God that if I am causing pain to anyone heal them and forgive me a few days later she cut me off. His ways are not our ways😭🙏🏽
Just listened on Spotify... The episode is so anointed! My God! 😮
At the base of this is the need for us to solidify our relationship with the Holy Spirit and the word of God, it's deep!
Just that intro alone ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This video gave me the strength to have a conversation that is long overdue. God is big on honour. And so I repent from any dishonour I've shown towards people. May God help me to do better going forward.
This is for me-directly.
It doesn't get better than this because I have been praying to God to help me in my friendships, especially in this new season, and he has just been speaking to me intensely. Thank you, Ezinne. God bless you.❤
This was so good! So so good and convicting. It has done what any good word should do - lead us to repentance. Thank you.
I can’t thank you Guys enough for this topic. I was looking for Christian contents on friendship and couldn’t really see much on it. This brought tears to my eyes and made me reach out to my friends.
Thank you so much for this topic. It's really value -packed!
I love this video and I think I will be watching this over and over at different points in my life. Many sentences are nuggets and have made me reflect on myself ❤
Bright light ❤
This year I learnt giving people grace. And it has helped me a lot.
Thank you so much Ma Esther and Ma Ezinne♥️