How to Survive (And even Enjoy) Relationship With Difficult People
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
- This is a coaching discussion about why it's so hard to love difficult people, and how you can love them without losing your mind!
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It makes us become more flexible and adjust with compassion instead of just wanting to be wright or a know it all
I do believe that at the root of every one of these issues is a failure to communicate... a failure to speak directly to the person, a failure to listen, a failure to give them a clue that you heard and understand, a failure to follow through with the conversation, the habit of chopping them off before they are finished, the habit of thinking about what you want to say instead of listening, and other habits that say "you are not important enough to pay attention to or be interested in." It is even possible to "keep a person out of your mental space" which puts a kibosh on communication.
I find my faith in God and looking towards His Wisdom and fellowshiping with like minded people helps me
I agree! Those who annoy or bother us the most are often mirrors for us. If someone really gets under our skin, very often it's God's way of showing us something about them that we need to work on about ourselves.
Great video! I also got a lot from hearing these pearls of wisdom:
When we hate, it "creates the funeral of our higher potential."
"If the way we handle [a situation] doesn't bring us peace then we're not handling it as best we could."
"When wrong doings are treated with compassion on some level, rather than harsh condemnation, that's how you break cycles of conflict and suffering."
"The different ways of loving someone too would be ...knowing that they're doing the best they can with what they have right now."
When it comes to trying to "fix" other people, we have to "accept that there's more than one path to the same destination. And we don't necessarily know the best path because we don't know all paths."
"Difficult people are giving us an assist in our own development."
"Life will be the master disciplinarian for people who make wrong choices. They'll be made uncomfortable in their circumstances. One of the biggest symptoms of it is called mental anguish. People are just living incorrectly and they refuse to change their ways, they experience a lot of mental anguish. That's usually the first sign."
When it comes to difficult people, it's "often better to love them from a distance" ..."Some people enjoy being destructive to other people's peace and happiness."
"Say, 'God, help me to see this person the way you see this person'."
Thank you so much for the great video! It's filled with a lot of extremely helpful ideas and concepts!
Thank you so much for taking notes and sharing them for other people! I'm so happy to see that you enjoyed the talk. Sending love your way.
my goodness I thought the animal videos were 😎cool this back and forth is rubbing my sharp edges smooth thanks for sharing everything!!!
Great to hear from you Keneth, and great to have you here! Glad you benefitted from the video!
At this point I’m only about 18 mins into this video and I have so many things grabbing me and giving me that ah ha moment in life. 🙏🙏🙏🥰😊🙏🙏🙏
I left too many comments for the same reason 😃
I love this channel...adorable animal videos, then the deep discourse of human behavior! Wow!!! For me, I like to keep it simple. I find non-resistance, the act of acceptance (which is essentially love) is the balm that soothes the soul. When I can accept a situation, allow it to be just what it is, then a space is created for divinity to intercede, and that's when the healing takes place. For me and everyone else. ❤
Great comment! I'm happy to hear that you're enjoying the channel. Seeing acceptance as a form of love is such an emotionally mature way of looking at things...thanks for setting an inspiring example!
if any humans actually know everything Brendon has got to be full of excellent knowledge and then some!!
Every problem has a gift for you.
Salute to Mr Brendax Foxx 🙏🙏👍👍👍👍
Salute to you 🙏 🥰👌
@@BrendanJFox Sir I like the way animals are so attached and connected to you and the bond that you have created with these animals is really awe inspiring. Eagerly waiting to meet you someday Sir. Lots of Love from India 🙏🙏😃😃🙏
I watched this twice and took notes. I seriously felt I was in a class and learned a lot. lol This video spoke to me in a lot of ways, but I think it's message (for me at least) can be summed up in this: We're all going through what we need to go through in order to get where we need to be.
Love it Tracy! Great comment. I often remind myself that whatever is happening is exactly what is needed to happen.
"Healthy detachment" is important. I hope you expound on this because some westerners view non-attachment as a license to stop caring about people or for a lack of action instead of a method of rising above.
Yes, we should transcend our circumstances, instead of merely suppressing. To transcend is to come to a place of greater love and understanding...which may ultimately result in more space, and more patience. Thanks for bringing attention to this.
Thank you 🙏🏼
I agree that our natural state is Love, though people say the opposite.
Life is struggle, and within this struggle existence displays that the dominant thrive above others. We know it's true. There's a reason there's champions, and there's losers. The very foundation of our existence is on billions of years of animals and humans murdering each other, but yet evolution has given rise to us, and there's a duality to that. What's truer evolution, the Mosasaur, or the intellect and emotional complexity of humans? Two diametrically opposed ideas can simultaneously be true.
@@JP-xg6bv Our closest primate relatives, chimps and bonobos, have vastly different societies and ways of dealing with issues. Chimps are patriarchal, highly competitive, and use fear and violence to dominate. Bonobos are matriarchal and use love, sharing, and persuasion to keep the peace. Do you know what makes the difference in these behaviors? Access to food resources. Bonobo "pygmy chimps" have no other apes to compete with and live abundantly in body and spirit. We have enough resources on Earth to feed everyone, but we allow greed to steal our joy.
@@baronesselsavonfreytag-lor1134 And who ensures it stays this way? Systems and people of power. That was my original point, power dominates those that can't or won't push back in some way. But also humans so wtf. I guess it's safe to say the universe is pretty random and we're the lucky ones on this particular ball
@@JP-xg6bv "Money is the root of all evil". Moving from small hunter gatherer tribes that relied on cooperation for survival to agrarian societies of commodification created inequality. Hopefully we have a shift in consciousness as a species, away from the material.
A lot of people question how God can allow bad things to happen. In fact this questioning makes people think that God either doesn't exist or that he "must be evil" to allow such horrific things to happen. But I think He's chosen not to control us and the world like we're puppets, he's granted us the freedom of free will. Certainly he can (and often does) work behind the scenes to influence people, helping us and encouraging us to make the right decisions. We can't see the bigger picture nor can we understand the ripples that come out of every event and experience every person goes through in their life. But God can. He can see the infinitely complex web of events and how they spiral out into things that haven't happened yet. The butterfly effect on a massive scale as it portains to every single event that happens and each decision every single person makes and how it effects everything and everyone else in their sphere of influence now and in the future. God can see all of it - an insanely complex web of the consequences of every event and every choice everyone makes, past, present and future. And because he can see and we can not, we often question why He allows bad things to happen. God sees the entire web of past, present, and future - and sees what will come of every choice and I believe that he works behind the scenes to guide us - not to overturn our free will but to encourage us to make the right choices. We can't know God's plan nor his will, but I trust in God and his plan, as he sees things and knows things that we can not. And when all is said and done, I believe that He loves us and wants what's best for us - so it's important to have faith and trust in him.
I love this comment. This is also a subject that I'm very passionate about - in the future I will post a video that justifies the ways of God to people. Thanks so much for being here and sharing such wonderful perspectives.
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Everything in the video is sound advice, lessons we must learn and relearn throughout life. It would be helpful if you spoke more about boundaries and modeled what that looks like in practice because so many people struggle with this, including me. Also, please emphasize to remove yourself from toxic people for peace of mind. Psychologists recommend dealing with narcissists as little as possible, they are dangerous saboteurs. There's a thin line between healthy self-esteem and toxic positivity that you touched on. Popular ideas like the law of attraction can be used to blame victims. I had to learn the principles you discussed at a young age when my dad passed and my mom married into a narcissistic family dynamic. Her 2nd husband turned out to be a neo-nazi sociopath who barely mellowed in 35 years and it was exhausting to deal with his abusive behavior that he passed to his son whom he favored - even the pets avoided him. Jesus and Mohammed both emphasized to forgive endlessly, and sometimes that means for the same memory, like choking my 7 year old sister for spilling a drop of milk at dinner or forcing her to leave home at gunpoint at 16 because she let a friend wait inside the house for a ride home at night, causing her to drop out of school. I had compassion for the guy who grew up with a profoundly mean father and 12 brothers, but had to avoid him for most of my life except in prayer.
Thanks for sharing this! As per your request, I will be doing a future video discussion on the subject of Narcissism...and the specifics of boundary setting. I've had this subject planned for a while, it's all ready to go...so stay tuned! Also, nothing but love and respect to you in your journey. I'm rooting for you in life!
@@BrendanJFox Awesome, it's such a vital topic.
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Hi Shin! Sending positive vibes your way :)
Even Judas Iscariot had a role to play in the story of Jesus.
You're right. That's hard to accept for some people. Ultimately, you can't have a resurrection without a betrayal and a crucifixion. However, I believe in the end all the bad things are merely a stepping stone in the triumph of a greater good.
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I find my faith in God and looking towards His Wisdom and fellowshiping with like minded people helps me
Loving someone who has a disability