I'm 61 and running out of time
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2024
- In this video, I'm facing one of the biggest decisions of my life, and I need your help.
Two paths lie before me:
Return to the grind of a full time job in Melbourne - stable income, familiar surroundings, but... is it what I really want?
Take a leap of faith, travel Southeast Asia, and go all-in on this UA-cam channel.
Join me as I weigh the pros and cons of each option:
• Financial stability vs. potential freedom
• Career stability vs. personal growth
• Comfort zone vs. adventure of a lifetime
• Societal expectations vs. following my passion
I'll share my fears, hopes, and the factors influencing this life-changing decision. Plus, I'll give you an inside look at what full-time travel and UA-cam creation might look like for me.
Whether you're facing a similar crossroads or just curious about the digital nomad lifestyle, this video is for you. Don't forget to leave a comment with your thoughts - your input could help shape my future!
#LifeDecisions #TravelVlogging #DigitalNomad #CareerChange #SoutheastAsia #MelbourneLife
What do you think? Hit that like button if you've ever faced a similar dilemma, and subscribe to follow my journey, wherever it leads!
I am turning 65 and my brother in law said to me in a few months ago. He said 80 percent of our life is over. when I turned 61, I also loss my two younger cousins, 56 and 54. I told my spouse , it is time to enjoy and see the world when WE CAN STILL WALK and MOBILE. Life is too short and unpredictable. Even exercise and health gurus DIE.
So the last three years especially during covid, we traveled a great deal and got great travel deals. We share this with everyone we meet. WE DO NOT PLAN TO BE THE RICHEST INDIVIDUALS IN THE CEMETERY. ... PLUS IT DOES NOT MATTER, YOU HAVE LOTS OF MONEY IN THE BANK ACCOUNT. IF YOU DO NOT SPEND IT, IT IS NEVER YOUR MONEY. THE TRUTH. HAVE A GOOD DAY......
Thanks for watching and sharing your story. Can I ask where you are from and if you're still travelling now?
Exactly and even your house it's actually your estates house yes it's fantastic to have a home but that's a shit load of money we can't use for other things asset rich cash poor maybe cash rich asset poor is better 😮
My dad just turned 96 and he still lives by himself. Beautiful country where you live. I say, don't go back to work, if you can afford it. Each year that passes, you will lose some energy / health.
Thanks for watching and commenting here. My mum turned 98 in early July and she's now living in a home but she still has all her faculties She just has trouble getting around her body is giving away.
Thankfully as a 55 year old my Parents have told me to not put my life on hold for them. If you want to do something your Parents should not step in the way & put barricades in your way. Thankfully my folks appreciate life is short.
Thanks for watching and commenting as I really appreciate everyone's input. I'll stay in Melbourne while mum still needs me but continue to investigate moving north for when the opportunity arrives.
My wife and I are contemplating doing the same however both our parents are still around and older. They don't have a lot of time left. We're going to stay close to them at this time in their lives.
Thanks for watching and your comments. Yes that's why I'm still in Melbourne and visiting mum a couple of times a week as I know she's not going to be around forever.
Mum is elderly, I'd stay in Melb, visit her as often as you can. After she goes, you will not regret putting your life on hold just to spend time with her. I'm the same with my dad, I just spend the past 7 days, everyday visiting my old man in hospital in Melb.
I'm 56, as soon as they are both gone, I'm outta here! My mum passed away in 2018, my dad will probably live to 100! So long as my old man is in age care home, I will still be in Melb. That's Life.
IF you do decide to tough it out like me in Melb, take the job, get an assistant for succession planning. When the time comes, you can make your quick escape and not leave the club hung out to dry.
@@unclenick1968 thanks for watching and your comments as I agree with everything you said.
Hi Brendan love your channel living in Melbourne l know how cold is going at the moment. Played tennis as as a young boy from caulfied Park wish l had of continued playing now 65 years old enjoy your channel 😊
I remember reading somewhere this bloke was in his eighties I think, and he was looking at his work retirement party on an old VHS tape. He couldn't believe how young he was at his retirement (likely 65). The point being age is relative. Look after mum - you will never get that time with her back again (and you will be glad you did), but also perhaps have some shorter breaks overseas to see if that is *really* what you want to do ? ... The grass is mostly not always greener on the other side. As for work, well, no-one misses that. ... All the best.
Thanks for watching and commenting. I plan on staying around here to look after mum as long as needed and continue to investigate heading north for the warmer climate 🙂
I’ve been living in Pratanmak Pattaya, 4 years now. I’ve been to all the SE Asian countries and Thailand is my choice. Interesting that you are a Tennis coach, I’ve played all my life 71 years old now, but here in Thailand I now play Badminton, Paddle and Pickleball, regularly twice a week. Enjoy it very much and it’s a much easier game and fun to play. We always play doubles, so it’s a very sociable. Plus I keep fit running and the gym. You can live here very easily on your budget, come here as soon as you can you won’t regret it 😊
@@roygoad2870 thanks for watching and commenting about how you keep fit and active. I know that Pickleball has rocketed up in popularity in the US and is starting to gain some momentum in Australia as it's much easier to learn especially for older people.
I`m nearly 62 mate and i`m enjoying some beers needing no help. Cheers.
@@waynemcauliffe-fv5yf thanks for watching and enjoy your beers. 👍
@@BrendenSharp Cheers mate i am
this came up in my feed. it's the first time I have seen one of your videos. i don't know you and you might say what's the point of my advice... i would say, stay and be with your mum. stay and be with your mum. the rest of your options can wait and will still be there when you're ready for them. i will ALWAYS be grateful that when both my father and mother needed me I was there by their side. best of luck with whatever you decide
@@markdyballuk thanks for watching and commenting Mark as I really appreciate it. I agree with you that I need to stay here and support my mum for the immediate future. Thanks again.
@@BrendenSharp My pleasure Brenden. I can only offer you advice based on my experience, I hope your time with your mum will be wonderful, don't forget to ask questions you'll never know the answer to... it is never easy watching your parents drift away but it can and I'm sure will be rewarding in so many ways that you may never realise. all my best to you and your mum
@@markdyballuk thanks mate, I appreciate it. 👍
Hey Bro ! Toss a coin. I have traveled through Asia in my youth and lived by the toss of the coin. I have let the coin make many major decisions in my life. Hey your mum must be amazing 98.
Yes she is amazing. She's lived a very healthy life and only moved into aged care 6 months ago. Up until then she was living on her own at home and cooking all her own meals etc. She's set the bar very high that's for sure.
Follow your heart now, you have spent a lifetime doing the right thing. Now it is time to let your heart lead.
Thanks for watching and commenting. I need to stay and be close to mum while she still needs me and then I'm leaning more and more to heading away. Thanks again and I'll try to keep you updated as my journey progresses.
I'd be flying to Bangkok with my pushbike for three months or more each year. Spent a lot of time in Asia with the bicycle and it's a good way to have a good look at the place. Spent three months cycle touring around Burma before the civil unrest, love that country.
Thanks for watching and commenting. Can I ask how old you are and if you've had any issues cycling around Asia? Also do you think you could do a similar trip using an electric bike?
Nearing mid sixties and still working, but will finish work at the end of the year. I've got a few Ebikes and lots of analogue bikes too. When flying with a bike weight is the penalty so a lightweight analogue bikes is the way to travel. You could ride anywhere in the world with the right type of ebike, but you would need to source the battery at your destination. Hub drive would be my preference. I've got a hub drive and mid drive ebike.
Living in Victoria's climate will shorten your life move somewhere tropical no colds, influenza and a host of other debilitating and life reducing ailments then. I'm 79 and have lived in Asia since 1989 and have never been sick here apart from one or two stomach bugs from dubious food. I walk on average 6k every day and never suffer joint pain
@@rogerwilco4736 thanks for watching and commenting Roger as I really appreciate when people who are living in Asia and have real experience pass on their wisdom. Where are you based in Asia?
Just subscribed. Wishing you all the best in whichever path you choose.
Thanks for watching and subscribing buddy and I hope you have a great day. 👍
Great video, thanks for the update.
Thanks Steve. I watched your latest soup short and gave you a thumbs up too.
@@BrendenSharp 61 here with Hashimotos and take vitamin b every day also - brother
@@VietnamSteve sounds like your my brother from another mother! Hey, maybe we're twins! I'm Arnold and you're Danny. 😁
Hi Brendan, I’m new to your channel but it sounds like you know what to do. When the time is right I would suggest living in Asia for 6 months and 6 months in Australia leave Victoria at the end of autumn and return late spring. That way you get the best of both worlds. Travel and explore don’t stay in one place too long! Good luck with your decision.
@@nudge7109 thanks for watching and your comments. I agree with your strategy as then you get the best of both options. I do plan on staying in Melbourne while my mum still needs me however long that may be.
U will never ever regret sticking by ur mum. You’ll never have another
Take the job, it’s fate
Use the spare time to plan this amazing dream u have
And when ur mum is gone
Go live the dream
Plan to be broke at 90 if u out live that plan u won’t give a shit
Thanks for watching and your comments David. Yes you're right as I wont be leaving mum while she shill needs me here. I'll continue to do as much planning as possible so I'm as prepared as I can be moving forward.
Go now if you have about 3000 AUD a month mate yes you can do less than that but its not much fun mate one trip to the doctor for some blood tests can turn ugly very very fast enjoy while your able im nearly 64 and did SEA in my 40s on many many holidays i personally like the cool climate here in Melbourne and so does my thai wife the heat is unbearable if you live in Thailand especially March April may June but the weather in November December January is perfect
Thanks for watching and your tips Phillip. I was in Jomtien for a month from mid Dec last year and the weather was perfect every day.
You'll have fun in SE Asia countries. Getting a retirement income in the way you're talking sounds similar to FIRE
@@zimzam9166 thanks for watching and commenting. I've got a couple of ideas I'm working on in regards to the ongoing income issue.
Travel mate! You have done enough coaching for one lifetime.. Only issue would be family if you don't have grand kids etc then get your butt out of Melb! You also have very good IT skills so I'm sure you can find some work online while your travelling to help fund your travels.. If it doesn't work out you can always come home and find something to do. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.. IMHO
Hey @Joffaburger thanks for watching and adding your thoughts as I really appreciate it. I don't have any grand kids yet and I don't think there's any coming in the immediate future. I'm going to stay close to mum while she still needs me but then I'm leaning more and more to heading away. Stay tuned and I'll keep you updated as I progress.
That winery. Name?
@@brianheard4565 The Stones of the Yarra Valley. Very picturesque in the spring and summer months and one of the many wineries around the region that people choose to get married at. I've been to several weddings over the years at different wineries and it's always a great day.
I think I will echo what A lot of people are saying, your health will decline after 70, hopefully not A lot but it will, my opinion is retire from full time work, make the most of your time, it flys, I retired in 2020 at 58, the time has flown, you can manage money, but time cannot be replaced
Thanks for watching and sharing your experience and wisdom Glen as I appreciate it.
am turning 65 and my brother in law said to me in a few months ago. He said 80 percent of our life is over. when I turned 61, I also loss my two younger cousins, 56 and 54. I told my spouse , it is time to enjoy and see the world when WE CAN STILL WALK and MOBILE. Life is too short and unpredictable. Even exercise and health gurus DIE.
So the last three years especially during covid, we traveled a great deal and got great travel deals. We share this with everyone we meet. WE DO NOT PLAN TO BE THE RICHEST INDIVIDUALS IN THE CEMETERY. ... PLUS IT DOES NOT MATTER, YOU HAVE LOTS OF MONEY IN THE BANK ACCOUNT. IF YOU DO NOT SPEND IT, IT IS NEVER YOUR MONEY. THE TRUTH. HAVE A GOOD DAY......
@@edj5532 I get the sentiment but I find that I'm completely content now that my time is my own and living in a nice tourist town means that we have little desire to really travel.
Having money is all about having time and choices imo.
When I was younger I dreamt of having all sorts of things but now that I'm older and can afford them I just don't feel like I need them.
A week or two away camping out of my 4wd with maybe some fishing or a bit of exploring is what I enjoy whereas going on a Cruise or travelling around the world just leaves us cold tbh.
Sort of strange really considering my parents like to travel as do my sibling and my kids.
Yes I agree, the sooner you can retire the better, you don't need a vast amount, just enough to live on etc
@@glenmason1876 Thanks again for your input. 👍
home is where the heart IS: take your mum home & source care. ( former nurse etc those who have left the system). Why not do it all?
@@maria-teresamattiaccio.5602 thanks for watching and your suggestion. Mum's home has stairs and one of the main reasons why she decided it was time to go into care was that she had a couple of falls and knew she needed 24/7 help.
G'day Brenden, if you have the means I say "FOLLOW YOUR HEART" Share your PASSION and your audience/supporters will follow. I for one am happy to subscribe with a big thumbs up. Cheers from a 62yo here on UA-cam.
May I suggest as a Tennis coach that you create a channel based upon "The TRAVELLING TENNIS COACH" coaching people from all around the world - the funny side of language barriers, the losses & wins etc etc.
DO IT... JUST DO IT!
Cheers from the Westside Oi
Thanks for watching and your encouraging words as I appreciate it.
get a job go fishing on weekends stay with mum because once gone well you be on your own coaching was fine long ago but I see too much political rhetoric. You will find that Asia is not necessarily good idea. Political wise and safety wise but totally up to you my husband and I decided to retire to country Tasmania we are happy with our choice as both of us travelled when young so now we can sit do our hobbies garden and have peace. Every person is different but main thing dont be renting if you can its dead money get a place or stay with mum up to you but we hope you be happy and can always travel on work holidays ..
@@mrsturnbull4698 thanks for watching and commenting as it's great to read the different opinions people have. I'm going to stay put while mum still needs me but am leaning more towards heading north to the warmer climate after that. I think Tassie would be a little too cold for me but each to their own. Thanks again and I'll keep you posted if things change. 👍
I will undoubtedly have a different view to many as you will likely already know.
I watch a lot of different channels on retirement and alternate ways of life and no matter how you slice it it will come down to money in a lot of ways.
It may be easy to generate that sort of money here but will you be able to do it whilst you're in the cheaper countries? They're cheaper for a reason.
Also I think that a lot of channels will tell you how good it all is as it's what they chose to do and it's working so far.
I often watch a retirement channel where they took a certain path that has worked up until now but there are some very specific things to where they are that wouldn't work so well in other places.
The grass is always greener over the Septic Tank springs to mind.
I wonder how many think about the later years as well and what they will do as they inevitably less able.
I had a small yachting channel come up in my feed a few days ago that were living the dream and doing a big trip after a refurb on their boat.
They were found washed up on an island in a 10ft rubber boat a few weeks after they set off.
Maybe a blended approach might work.
Work like hell for some/most of the year and then spend a month or so travelling to scratch that itch as well.
Thanks for watching and commenting again. I guess there's no perfect answer as everyone's journey is different. You hear plenty of positive as well as negative stories whether people stay put or decide to travel. One thing is for sure. We all end up in the same place at the very end of the day!
@@BrendenSharp Yeah true enough but I would rather have choices at the end of my life as I've seen what can happen if you don't.
There seem to be a lot of people with UA-cam channels trying to make a buck whilst living in different ways which means they really aren't that well set up imo.
When I see the headline of this video I literally thought you were dying!
@@davidfalconer4260 sorry David as that wasn't my intention, although we are all dying but we just don't know when. I hope after watching the video you understand why it is titled as it is. Thanks for watching anyway 👍
@@BrendenSharp All good Brendan!
You mention two options, Brendan, going back to work or travelling throughout SE Asia. I suspect you've reached a stage where you're being pushed from within to make a third choice though it hasn't quite surfaced yet.
I'm not sure of exactly what this third choice is your talking about? I'm going to stay here in Melbourne while my mum still needs me.
Hey Arthur, I just watched a great video that I thought you might be interested in. You may be able to create a video based on this topic? ua-cam.com/video/SwhOQRduE7c/v-deo.html
Brenden if u want to stay single why u want to live here go with the flow u dont try it u never know but u cannot get a pension as yet this country shit the goverment want us all wait until age 70 get the pension u can eat better overseas and enjoy u life more because here bills are highs need ask u self what do u really want the hospital here free but honesty worse way how they work in the hospital I was in there last week waited 13 hours to get a silly answer from the doctors, if u in asia even u pay u get better service but depends what wrong with u also as can cost u thousands dollars and insurance u have to pay and visa to pay monthly if u want I hook u up with some aussie living in the philippines
@@jositt65 I know that the health system in Australia is getting much worse than it used to be. If I do decide to go to South East Asia then I will definitely get health insurance.
@@BrendenSharp yep u need it there but in philippines I know it can cost u around $40k for a major surgery u need to be careful as we in cebu April this year and a guy had this issue insurance covers it but u out of pocket first also Brenden its not the system here its the lazy doctors nurses doing this I was in hospital last week waited 13 hrs shit
@@BrendenSharp if I was u serious think what u want to do if u got coaching and u get paid well take it save some more money then hit the road what u hear others doing UA-cam not all successful u need pocket money if u have a full pension then thats when u jump on it and leave australia a great country yes specially cold wet melbourne but asia has good and bad points I lived manila 15 years ago never again
As a carer for my sister and mother who is single and 48 never married lives at home i love to just pack up and leave but i cant If you can do it do it Have a practice vacation Silly as it sounds go to some what local With the Job if there is a way on doing it via internet give it a looking at Hope this helps
Thanks for watching and your comments. I wont leave my mum as I know she still needs me here but I'll continue to do the planning for my future so I'm as prepared as I can be.
Can you take a reverse mortgage on your house ? We can't buy time we might not have 5 more years 😮
The money isn't the real issue.
You don’t like the Philippines??
I do like the Philippines as I was there for a few weeks in early 2023.
wow u walking this cold melbourne weather specially where u r u mum doing well for age 98 my dad age 90 just got prostate cancer he free so far but the pain he going thru like he got older this disease shit u a coach me mate son plays tennis he gets coached a lot also he travels a bit Sydney and other countries he started age 5 he age now 15 the dad mum make sure he trains 2 hours a day so u saying u getting old we all are but why not look for a asian wife if u like asia not all do well in UA-cam travelling australia a good country but yes u can spend less in asia then australia life 100%
not another one who discovers finality of life, lol.
guilty as charged I'm happy to admit!