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hello Geoffrey, I wanted to see if there was any possible outlet to have a 1to1 with you to discuss my current situation. for prior context I have bpd which bled into the relationship in forms of jealousy and taking things said to me personally that informed my responses to her making her feel loke she wasn't being listened to or cared for. I watched alot of your videos if not all these past two weeks. and I've taken alot from them. last weekend I was actually up there with her in New York for the weekend. we were intimate we went out had a good time Sat and watched shows like we used to. and before I left we had a convo where she apologized for giving mixed singles since she broke up with me the week before that and basically had no contact at all. after the conversation I listened to her and gave my response when she was finished. my response being reassurance of my work to change how I've changed in the past after getting a therapist but how I focused to much on select things while others were creeping up. but saying that I have made changes in the past and I see I need to make more now and will do so. recognizing I damaged the emotional trust we had which made her feel like she wasn't being listened to or heard and making her feel like she can't express herself to me. the week after the weekend we were together after the brake up she went back to barely talking always telling me she was busy and kind of stonewalling me. but when I was with her and made the assurances for the changes I intend she flips from, "I made a decision" to seeming more likes its a 50/50. thoughts?
If you just sit down and think about it playing victim is basically just self torture because rather than making an effort to change a situation you decide to just sit there and suffer and say well not my fault . Kind of reminds me of a quote I heard "if you're going through hell keep going ,why would you want to stop there " people who decide to play victim decide to just stay in their hell it doesn't matter if you put urself there or someone else what matters is you decide to take action regardless
Thanks Geoff! I have been watching your videos for a month now, and they are always so insightful. I keep seeing how some of these issues have affected me especially beyond the scope of my relationship and I am now convinced that the key is to mend myself first.
Amazing stuff as always. I am waiting for Saturdays each week because of your videos. Your approach is really something else that you hear from everywhere else and it is with no doubt the only approach that really works. Really thankful for your work. Just amazing!
Actually I can see how all your material is connected in a very deep level. I have listened now all your videos. Many times to be honest and it all comes together now. I love the most that you have given me the structure. Until then I was exploring everything very chaotically. There are many good materials out there that teach you to process your feelings and to understand life's main principles etc. To the point of Buddhism practices and philosophy of love. But you put it all together in a very clear structure adding very profound explanations WHY the things are the way they are. Eventhough I am a woman there is actually no difference that you address it mainly to men. The process applies to everyone and is absolutely gender neutral. The victim mentality is exactly one of the reasons that prevents to unthether and to become 100% bulletproof. Another piece of the big puzzle. I mean that all your material is so profoundly connected and it all together makes the perfect sense and structure. That's why I can't bring out any topic that speaks to me the most. It is a whole. I think your program should be mandatory in our education system. Anyways, respect! And thank you!
Really interesting how you breakdown Responsibility. I think this is a frame-set that can apply in many other areas of life. If you are Able to Respond - parallel with extreme ownership. Saying it is “not my responsibility” abnegates taking ownership and accomplishment. If you are able to respond you should.
Yup! And sometimes, the response that you decide on may be "no response". But nonetheless, this is about taking responsibility for you response, being extremely deliberate about it, and putting your money where your mouth is to everything that you do :)
hello Geoffrey, I wanted to see if there was any possible outlet to have a 1to1 with you to discuss my current situation. for prior context I have bpd which bled into the relationship in forms of jealousy and taking things said to me personally that informed my responses to her making her feel loke she wasn't being listened to or cared for. I watched alot of your videos if not all these past two weeks. and I've taken alot from them. last weekend I was actually up there with her in New York for the weekend. we were intimate we went out had a good time Sat and watched shows like we used to. and before I left we had a convo where she apologized for giving mixed singles since she broke up with me the week before that and basically had no contact at all. after the conversation I listened to her and gave my response when she was finished. my response being reassurance of my work to change how I've changed in the past after getting a therapist but how I focused to much on select things while others were creeping up. but saying that I have made changes in the past and I see I need to make more now and will do so. recognizing I damaged the emotional trust we had which made her feel like she wasn't being listened to or heard and making her feel like she can't express herself to me. the week after the weekend we were together after the brake up she went back to barely talking always telling me she was busy and kind of stonewalling me. but when I was with her and made the assurances for the changes I intend she flips from, "I made a decision" to seeming more likes its a 50/50. thoughts?
This topic is very interesting about victim mindset understanding that it takes 2 people but one person to make a choice to have an affair but then the other person like myself willing to work on the marriage and start the healing all he says is that it was because of me and that he hasn't been happy and has no remorse but willing to go to counseling but still hasn't Explain this
So I need a question answered, please and thank you... I dated my gf for 3 years... she ended up deciding she needs a break... i was clingy and begged for a day then went into no contact... after 2 weeks she ended up drunk calling me saying she still loves me and that one day we can maybe make things work... the very next day she went ghost...i tried to reconnect once or twice since not asking for a second chance but try to start a friendly convo... but 0 response... i am confused... what is going on
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
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Send me an email - geoffrey@relationshipsmastered.com
hello Geoffrey, I wanted to see if there was any possible outlet to have a 1to1 with you to discuss my current situation. for prior context I have bpd which bled into the relationship in forms of jealousy and taking things said to me personally that informed my responses to her making her feel loke she wasn't being listened to or cared for. I watched alot of your videos if not all these past two weeks. and I've taken alot from them. last weekend I was actually up there with her in New York for the weekend. we were intimate we went out had a good time Sat and watched shows like we used to. and before I left we had a convo where she apologized for giving mixed singles since she broke up with me the week before that and basically had no contact at all. after the conversation I listened to her and gave my response when she was finished. my response being reassurance of my work to change how I've changed in the past after getting a therapist but how I focused to much on select things while others were creeping up. but saying that I have made changes in the past and I see I need to make more now and will do so. recognizing I damaged the emotional trust we had which made her feel like she wasn't being listened to or heard and making her feel like she can't express herself to me. the week after the weekend we were together after the brake up she went back to barely talking always telling me she was busy and kind of stonewalling me. but when I was with her and made the assurances for the changes I intend she flips from, "I made a decision" to seeming more likes its a 50/50. thoughts?
Yo! Lol my previous partner loves salad. She'd so attack you saying salad is a punishment 😂😂😂.
If you just sit down and think about it playing victim is basically just self torture because rather than making an effort to change a situation you decide to just sit there and suffer and say well not my fault . Kind of reminds me of a quote I heard "if you're going through hell keep going ,why would you want to stop there " people who decide to play victim decide to just stay in their hell it doesn't matter if you put urself there or someone else what matters is you decide to take action regardless
Really wonderful way of looking at it!
Never saw myself as playing victim til my wife brought it up. You helped me understand on a completely different level. Thank you.
Thanks Geoff! I have been watching your videos for a month now, and they are always so insightful. I keep seeing how some of these issues have affected me especially beyond the scope of my relationship and I am now convinced that the key is to mend myself first.
Thanks for the consistent great advice.
Wow!!!
Soo Food!!
Thank‘s Geoffrey!!
Another wonderful video Geoffrey. Could you please make a video with detail on how to become bulletproof?
Thank you Geoffrey....for.the tools to get out of my victim mindset
Amazing stuff as always. I am waiting for Saturdays each week because of your videos.
Your approach is really something else that you hear from everywhere else and it is with no doubt the only approach that really works.
Really thankful for your work.
Just amazing!
Love it my man. Out of all of my content thus far. What speaks to you the most?
I am always curious to see what people find most eye-opening.
Actually I can see how all your material is connected in a very deep level.
I have listened now all your videos. Many times to be honest and it all comes together now.
I love the most that you have given me the structure. Until then I was exploring everything very chaotically. There are many good materials out there that teach you to process your feelings and to understand life's main principles etc. To the point of Buddhism practices and philosophy of love.
But you put it all together in a very clear structure adding very profound explanations WHY the things are the way they are.
Eventhough I am a woman there is actually no difference that you address it mainly to men. The process applies to everyone and is absolutely gender neutral.
The victim mentality is exactly one of the reasons that prevents to unthether and to become 100% bulletproof. Another piece of the big puzzle.
I mean that all your material is so profoundly connected and it all together makes the perfect sense and structure.
That's why I can't bring out any topic that speaks to me the most.
It is a whole.
I think your program should be mandatory in our education system.
Anyways, respect! And thank you!
Really interesting how you breakdown Responsibility. I think this is a frame-set that can apply in many other areas of life. If you are Able to Respond - parallel with extreme ownership. Saying it is “not my responsibility” abnegates taking ownership and accomplishment. If you are able to respond you should.
Yup! And sometimes, the response that you decide on may be "no response". But nonetheless, this is about taking responsibility for you response, being extremely deliberate about it, and putting your money where your mouth is to everything that you do :)
This is all correct. Mindset is key.
Very unique Truth
So much great information here
Hi Mario,
Haha so glad you find it so helpful and I appreciate your comment and support.
Can you give me your #1 takeaway?
Geoffrey, I alone damaged my relationship. I played the victim rold talking about my job, i also blamed her for my misery.
hello Geoffrey, I wanted to see if there was any possible outlet to have a 1to1 with you to discuss my current situation. for prior context I have bpd which bled into the relationship in forms of jealousy and taking things said to me personally that informed my responses to her making her feel loke she wasn't being listened to or cared for. I watched alot of your videos if not all these past two weeks. and I've taken alot from them. last weekend I was actually up there with her in New York for the weekend. we were intimate we went out had a good time Sat and watched shows like we used to. and before I left we had a convo where she apologized for giving mixed singles since she broke up with me the week before that and basically had no contact at all. after the conversation I listened to her and gave my response when she was finished. my response being reassurance of my work to change how I've changed in the past after getting a therapist but how I focused to much on select things while others were creeping up. but saying that I have made changes in the past and I see I need to make more now and will do so. recognizing I damaged the emotional trust we had which made her feel like she wasn't being listened to or heard and making her feel like she can't express herself to me. the week after the weekend we were together after the brake up she went back to barely talking always telling me she was busy and kind of stonewalling me. but when I was with her and made the assurances for the changes I intend she flips from, "I made a decision" to seeming more likes its a 50/50. thoughts?
To those who find it hard to stop victim blaming, I suggest you read The Mountain is You or Atomic Habits. :)
This topic is very interesting about victim mindset understanding that it takes 2 people but one person to make a choice to have an affair but then the other person like myself willing to work on the marriage and start the healing all he says is that it was because of me and that he hasn't been happy and has no remorse but willing to go to counseling but still hasn't Explain this
So I need a question answered, please and thank you... I dated my gf for 3 years... she ended up deciding she needs a break... i was clingy and begged for a day then went into no contact... after 2 weeks she ended up drunk calling me saying she still loves me and that one day we can maybe make things work... the very next day she went ghost...i tried to reconnect once or twice since not asking for a second chance but try to start a friendly convo... but 0 response... i am confused... what is going on
Is it advisable to send my girlfriend flower on valentine while she’s on break away from me advice me Sir Geoffrey
Playing victim is why there are so many narcissism channels out there.