The church is sadly, the originator of scores of ongoing depressive episodes for African men. On the flip side, A healthy _spiritual_ practice is very very important tho.
Everyone goes through difficulties.. I'm sorry you had to go through that..that individual that saw you coming out the clinic and judge you shame on them.
DAMN SHAME! THIS IS THE EXACT REASON WHY PEOPLE OF COLOR DON'T WANNA RECEIVE MENTAL HELP! ALL THE THINGS WE BEEN THROUGH ESPECIALLY BLACK MEN, TOO MANY OF US SUFFER FROM MENTAL ILLNESS. THE PERSON WHO JUDGED YOU HAS MORE PROBLEMS THAN YOU DO. DON'T FEEL BAD AT ALL. AT LEAST YOU'RE SMART ENOUGH TO HELP YOURSELF!🌹💗😉🌞❤❤
A toxic woman, to whom you've opened your vulnerability to, can increase depression significantly, due to their verbal abuse and insensitivity to your feelings. Women like this will constantly tear you down instead of building you up. This can be catastrophic to a man's mental health.
@@traceyhopkins3698 You dont need to go far to see evidence of feminists celebrating male suicide rates.Go to any UA-cam video about feminism, you are likely to find those kind of comments.
This is true! I honestly don't know what they are getting out of it honestly. It's all over twitter, UA-cam, Instagram etc... The more you tear down a man the problem will only get worse.
With everything going on in society right now. Black men, we need each other! That’s one thing that our women have that we don’t and that’s sisterhood & unity. We all in pain bruh. Stop looking down on your brother. Stop making fun of your brother when he’s feeling down. Stop mugging your brother. Stop KILLING your brother! Be there for your sons & nephews, your fathers and uncles. Man we all we got!
As a black man,nobody wants to hear my story. They talk about me. But when i get fed up oh i need professional help. Im on drugs. Thats what people tell me. But i just want to say my side of the story
I was the same way I got to the point where I was tired of feeling that way and cried out to my Lord and savior Jesus Christ and I was set free from my pain and sadness. I wanted to be set free and I believe and he did it for me. Try him then come back and give your testimony 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
For me personally this is a very very difficult topic to discuss, especially in person. Growing up I’ve always felt isolated and sad, never knew why until a few years ago when I started to do a little research and discovered that my symptoms match those of anxiety/depression. I’ve never really opened up about this to anyone, not even on here, it’s just too awkward. At a very young age I do recall feeling sad and I recall constant fear of something bad happening to someone in my life. I’ve always had the tendency to isolate myself from others and and try avoid large groups of people. I usually don’t feel comfortable interacting with complete strangers because it just feels awkward. I’ve always had these crazy ups and downs where one minute I feel fine, I crack a joke and get a good laugh in with coworkers or family members and an hour later I feel like a totally different person on the inside. It’s very heavy weight to carry on a daily basis but you just put on a smile and pretend like nothings wrong, you fake your way through it and that’s really how I’ve dealt with it all my life, by smiling and faking. I makes you feel a bit ashamed to open up, lost my father to cancer two months ago and that has been especially tough watching him decline, on top of everything else, but I’ve been faking my way through it, too ashamed to cry about it. I know I need to open up to someone, maybe my family or church pastor, don’t know when or where to start.
dont open up to any pastor, those fuckers cannot be trusted. You should engage in hobbies that you enjoy and dont share your information with anyone. You have no allies in this world.
Wow this is powerful... I'm dealing with depression/ loneliness. Most Black men are very competitive and strong minded....not all but we come with a very complex survival gene. Mix that with our history of slavery ....Jim Crow to discrimination in all areas of our lives. Black men have a special mental complexity that we deal with on a daily bases. We find it hard to tell others how we feel. We think it's a weakness if we show "Feelings". We consume to much of everything ...trying to escape the "feelings". We need each other. We need a place where we can talk our way through our pain and come out the other side without hurting ourselves or someone else. Our young men are out there alone and somehow we have to bring them some type of hope. This maybe, is the space to do that. I'l bookmark this page and post again. I hope my post will continue the conversation. Please if it helped someone ...pass it on. We need each other ..we can't stand alone.
I know that I have been suffering from depression for a very long time. I personally just couldn't rely on church and prayer alone to get me out if my private pain.
Torri Taite ❤❤❤ remember Someone loves you on this 🌎! Try mediation, being near a body of water when you can, getting a pet, 😸🐕and helping others less fortunate.
I don't believe there is a actual resolve. I been living in depression long as I can remember. Nobody gives a shit though. Pay the bills a d put out or be homeless
Disrespect isn't the same for everyone and with black ppl in general a lot of them take everything as an insult..don't speak to them they are angry, don't do exactly what they want you to do they are angry, don't give them their way they are angry..somethings are Disrespect and somethings are entitled behavior and anger issues the ppl you are blaming has nothing to do with
The day I realised I am black I understood that I had received a life sentence from birth, find that hard to deal with along with virtually no family structure. We are not a loved people and everything we have can be taken away. Work get unbearable cause it's like smashing your face against a brick wall. We have nothing but grief. Nothing but hurt.
@@waBlackout-wa The more you give and take care of others. the better you will feel. Note that for the most part blk men aren't seen as "giving" or loving. They collectively as seen as " fun loving". Selfishness and short term investment is what is depressing men.
@@GoogleUser-wy2vv Most black men aren't this is truthful. Given the history of these things I would rather stay on my own. Life is moving by so fast there no time for settling down. I don't feel that drive in me to have children. As long as I can support myself I'm fine.
@@waBlackout-wa i see. Having a child awakened in me a giving love that makes the worst days better. Hard to feel sad when you are busy loving and caring. Yesterday we went and got an ice cream cone and my son said i was the best mom in the world. I was so tired but content.
People don't care to hear if there's a problem with black men, they just wanna tell us to "be a man" and "have tough skin" and "you're fine, stop that." We need more people to be open and honest about this kind of stuff. Nothing makes you feel more hopeless than knowing something's wrong, seeing it, but everybody tells you nothing is wrong.
I’m depressed due to white supremacy I’m Just over everything in this society I hate that white People is all good and holy and we’re the Lower class no matter what black people we need each other the most love y’all but hate the shit we goin thru finally had to tell myself this today
You wrong theres tons of white not having job, being paids mimimum wage, working crazy hours, not having a GF, and therefore going thru depressions., But its is right that black on average suffer more since day one, just the fact that most of them dont grow up in a full familly with one dad and one mom to raise them... they usually have parents that are less educated, more violent, less care giving and loving... Not being love and being able de speak about your feeling to your parents is in reality, painful. What people who have being thru that have to do, is to make sure to not reproducing it... which mean, loving your kids in a healty manner, raised them correctly not being to hard but not accepting everything, the key is in the balance, you need to praise kids when they do good thing and blame them when they do thing you considerer as bad... Black and africans in general, including arabs from middle east have a "their" SYSTEM of rules to make individuals... and feelings, being open minded, and evrythings else is different than the ones of "white" western or Japanase/Chinese... Each system has his pros and cons... For instance white tends to not beat their kids when they do wrong they tends to take their kids and explain them how they shuold and shouldnt bahave, because they think that kids are enough intelligent since 1yo to understand when you teach them. And they are right, kids are smarts. What every black American kids didnt chose this system of values but its cultural.. you have to change it if you think that it aint the good way to raise kids and individual. Last thing, its not because of white supremacy if Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Indian, succed more than black, its just that korean/chinese/japanese/indian familly and household come with diffent set of values and cultures that actually make them raise. That teach them, respect, empathie, the importance of school, hardwork, to reject violence and things like that... thats why they succed more... its not because white supremacists love indians or chinese..
Lord, I wish I can show this video to every Black men in America. If childhood emotional trauma contributes to depression in adult life Black men suffers it the most.
I’m wonder if that assumption, which is categorically false may add to the depression in an individual’s case. The false belief that you are experiencing more trauma than anyone else.
I actually began to contemplate suicide in my late thirties, and I had a college degree. " If I could just get the hell out of here, away from this" Many of these young guys try to commit suicide by gang banging or putting themselves in a dangerous situation. Someone else can pull the trigger, Being alive is a punishment
You are definitely not alone! Keep a journal. Hang tough. Understand what you can - and can't control! *Network*. Exercise (a heavy bag is very useful!). Meditate.
As a black men no one has our back or best interest,including some of our moms,as a black man you are told to hold everything in and to not show any emotion because that’s weak.
I don’t think that seeking help actually helps a lot of the time. I am not a man, but had brutal postpartum depression and the therapists DID NOT help me. Friends and family were sh!tty and dismissive. “Oh it’s just hormones, it’s just this or that.” Imagine how much worse that probably is for men? The stiff upper lip ethic. Your pain doesn’t matter or isn’t that real is just our cultural ethos, even if you do seek help.
Aint this the truth. Right after college and being faced with the real world have I never felt so painfully lonely and depressed. Realizing you're in a majority eurocentric society and having little to know resources to work with or people that can understand your struggles/place in society..Media constantly portraying you in a negative light making it hard for people to respect you..too much to unpack here I'll just leave it at that
@Sam Sparklebot Where the f* did I say black people have no jobs??? I'm talking about internal struggles such as mental health, depression, loneliness, anxiety. Having a comfortable lifestyle doesn't always mean someone is genuinely at peace with themselves. Take your clown ass somewhere else with your ignorance
Many of us don’t use medical/mental health resources because when we do there is immediate doubt on anything we say. We are said to overstate medical conditions as a community (there is a racial biased component to that of course) so much like victims of sexual violence (similar for this comparison) when presented with immediate doubt there is rarely a second chance at getting that patient (or victim) to open up.
i feel you brother. i say to all this if you feel like u need assistance. do what ver you have to and deal with what ever you need to to get the help you need. do not allow the many ways that are designed to either thwart you or make you quick. if you black you better wake up to the FACT that we are Bulldogs by nature and we we walk that we they have to kill us to stop us. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HOW MUCH INEQUITY IS AT HAND BROTHER. THIS IS ABOUT ONE SIMPLE MISSION THAT IS OFTEN DIFFICULT TO COMPLETE. WHICH IS TO GET IT DONE BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. I HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE VA and all sorts of fuckery that through at us/me. Yet, my mental health issues are being dealt with in a practical and reasonable way. medically not so much. and i'm making them accountable by directing and being in charge of my own care and making sure that whatever they come up with is proper and normal based on medical president . many times medical fuckery occurs when the patient is not intelligent or lucid enough to realize they are being under treated or not treated appropriately . which is me saying you can no longer trust your medical professionals to really be our champions anymore. many just don;t give a fuck, others just pretend to give a fuck.
@@msindy1818 many don't understand a lot of us feel alone. It's so many under lying factors that we just haven't addresses. Shit being labeled black is a form of Opression 😣
When I was in africa I was the happiest person you could ever see but that all changed when I came to America and stayed here for 3 years. I got depression and it’s something I’ve never experienced in my life back then. I don’t know why they is depression in a wealthy country and not a poor country maybe that’s how god chose it to be. Black people need to visit and invest in africa, and no africa is not poor as you see in the internet it’s a rich and business booming continent.
The problem is not that we don't seek help. I have tried MANY times to seek help and none of the therapists or so-called mental health professionals gave a damn. One even said I was faking, so I gave up! Another thing is we don't "paint ourselves" into social isolation, in most cases we are PUSHED there, no matter how sociable we try to be or how much we go out of our way to be productive and upstanding citizens and participants in society. This discussion needs better context and better data.
Damn that's tough. Sorry you went through that bro. I've always been the weirdo in my family. My Dad took me to see a Psychologist at 13 and my brothers took it as a joke so it's mind-blowing that a mental health professional would say that bullshit to you. While I don't see a therapist I do breathing exercises and speak affirmations but I think it's time for me to talk to someone who could understand.
Thank you for teaching me something new. I'm an Auntie of 3 young african american boys ages 7,7 & 10. The interesting thing was I asked my 10 year old nephew " has anyone told you that men dont cry?" He said "yes" I was shocked and broke my heart. He is only 10 and it made me ask myself the question, "at what age do boys here those words" i told my nephew that is okay to cry, to be sad, to hurt, and have pain. My heart goes out to all of you guys. I want to learn more on how I can be a person that my nephews can talk to no matter what
U did something good ! I wish I had a auntie or a family who sad that to me, or give me any comfort.. I deal with substance abuse, depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts every day because something is broken in me and I can't fix it.
Greetings. WE black men suffer from PTRD ( Post Traumatic Relationship Disorder), which is White Supremacy in the form of racism. And that DEPRESSION started in 1515 on that boat named Jesus.
Wow am a young black man i never thought it could catch up with me it started hitting me all in my 20s not too long from here hurtful experiences that i never thought would happen to me and the experience of loneliness just made it worse i became suicidal in my mid 20s around 2015 man man man i had soo many plans and high expectations of living this glorious life in music traveling and helping others get successful but as for me i was making dreams come true for others as a libra having full balance and harmony i wasn't looking at myself being needy but then my patients ran short especially when covid19 recently hit and everything shutdown it was a very painful experience sometimes i still feel the remnant of that but am healing i won't never stop looking and asking for help it's quite easy to get healed physically but spiritually takes a lot FRFR
Just coming by and commenting to boost the algorithm as a supportive Black woman, glad to see Black men addressing their own needs with and for each other.
i'm watching because my partner is struggling and i don't know how to best support him. This conversation is giving me so much insight into what he's really going through. Thank you for having this conversation. I want to support him in a way that will matter because his happiness and fulfillment is more important to me than anything else.
This discussion of depression is designed to bring light to the importance of identifying depression and avoiding social isolation within our the American societal landscape. He also briefly discusses the antidote: the power of prayer, talk therapy (CBT) with the Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LMSW, or LPC, and the idea that good old fashion social supports within the community can promote a more meaningful lifestyle. This speaker offers valuable insights from his educational and life experiences, which are uncommon to find free of cost.
Also speak good over yourself. Don't listen to negative words degrading you. Speak you are healed from crown of your head to the soul of your feet. Be honest with God and tell Him how you truly feel, even if it involves family. But ask Him for help. He has people around that can help. The true true KEY is Jesus. The enemy hates when Jesus gets all the praise. Glory to His name 👏👏👏👏😀
Sometimes I feel helpless, I know society tells we don't get tired, were aggressive, violent, but in truth we go through more than the minority of people .
We got to put God first in our lives. In this life, it's going to be ups and downs. The key is to have a relationship with the Most High God. Also America is hard to live in.
We also need to use the gifts God provides through people. Doctors, counselors and pastoral leaders help us heal, grow and use our resources to empower others.
Sorry, this discussion is about BLACK MEN, not men of color, or people of color, as white liberals wants to label everybody. We, Black Men need our OWN control group. We're not "men or color" We're BLACK MEN!
I guess it's like tying an eagle down so that it can't fly. Being held back from what or who God truly created us to be can depress an individual. We are not living to our fullest potential. Parents are needed in our lives. And black people don't support and encourage each other. It hurts me Justin see the black man in the condition that he is in. Just my thoughts.
Hmm powerful to hear this, so glad our men are supporting each other. As a woman, black woman you recognized it, and try to help but experienced being rejected because it makes the man feel too vulnerable and they hide it...and move on to the next, and next, and next without help. Bless you our black Kings!!!
Black women can help by actively listening, and not throwing that sensitive information back in his face when you get upset. The chief reason many black men close the vault permanently is due to him entrusting someone with those aforementioned feelings, and was unfortunately betrayed
@@antoinescroggins8822 My male friend is going through some tough times now, but I'm there for him. If he needs to talk, I actively listen. Sometimes ill cook for him, let him take naps at my house. His living arrangement isn't the best.
I speak in the behalf amongst my black brothers, ALL WE ASK FOR is basic job security. I don't ask for much at all. All I need is Physiological needs and Safety needs in the Maslow hierarchy of needs. If every black men had a 45k secured job, black men suicides will decline by 95%. The only thing that keeps me going in life is my 45k salary secure job. Without that, I will end my life too. Real talk!
I appreciate this video. I suffer through depression and I still try to maintain a solid front. Whenever I partly open up to people I'm regarded in a deminised light. This adds to my depression. I need answers and enlightenment; not people attempting to correct my behavior. I need understanding. I've arrgued with therapists over my experiences and tried to correlate my reasoning just as I have with family members. I want to be free from the hurt and I feel like no one ever understands.
it's very hard to open up about what your going through mentally espically to the churh cause thats all they want toi do is pray. Plus i dont know if anyone else had this issue but my church was lowkey shady i was not about to open up to anyne least of all them
Im a single mother with 6yr old boy. His father is not in the picture try my best as a single mother but I feel my nurturing stage has been over and i know he needs his father, with my own emotional tramas as a child. He doesnt open up to me. I try to see how he is feeling but he doesnt go there with me. Sometimes i catch him just looking off in space, and I see he is thinking about alot. I need direction
I had great luck with big brother program for my son. They paired him really well and I felt comfortable too. I'm sorry you are going through this. Mentors, support groups like big brother sister program and also church family. Love and light to you😘
Watch countering the conspiracy to destroy black boys by jawanza kunjufu on youtube hopefully it can help you with your problem. I wished my mum had watched it.
@@ltgdr6298 Thats how I feel tbh. I'm 17, That's exactly how my mom is because if I open up to her o know she would use it against me so I just avoid talking with her about my feelings.
Depression is the common problem in todays life style. I was also suffering with this problem then I took medicine from planet Ayurveda and it Is effective.
Look to God and live by His Word. The world will fall anybody. The world will give a person it's measurements of success not God's rules for success. When we don't meet those wordly standards, we feel like a failure. I decided that I can not gain acceptance from the world. I no longer measure my looks, education, talents, etc by the world. God knows I am special and that is enough. There are a lot of rich unhappy people in the world. They are miserable. Know why, because a lot of them don't have God in their lives. True happiness comes from God. Accept Jesus as your personal Saviour. Feed yourself the Word daily. Always lift Jesus up and speak about His goodness. Negativity won't stick around for Jesus, guarantee you that. Fellowship with strong believers in the faith. I'm mean the sold out believers, not the one foot in the world and one foot in the church ones. Listen to worship songs that declares the goodness of the Lord. God loves the black man. But alit of the black men need to love Him back. Be blessed 😁
As a mother who son is suffering from depression I want him to go get therapy but he won’t. He is in a bad cycle. He keeps using women as an escape to not deal. I tell him I love him. I support him. However he needs meds, mentorship and males who understand. I made sure he has male representation around him but I don’t think they understand how bad his depression is. I’m scared I’m going to lose him. I just want him to get help God please.
To my fellow Black Man, please talk to a licensed professional or a trusted friend or relative if you're feeling depressed. It helps. I found a really good Black therapist who has helped me with my struggles. Therapy will feel awkward at first and healing is never easy, but it does work if you do the work. Don't suffer in silence. You are worth it!
For years, I have noticed in the Black community, as a whole, are deteriorating, very rapidly. The speed is occurring at an astronomical rate, due to the highly use of social-media platforms, mainstream Rap-culture, drugs, peer pressure, etc. In all honesty, hurts for me to say, but it doesn't seem to be getting any better for Black people, in the Youth. The older Black Americans still hold onto great family values and conservative mannerisms. But the younger generation; it isn't getting any better. Don't believe me? Just go into the urban communities, in our major cities to see for yourselves, go on their social-media accounts, go into their schools, go and watch these reality TV shows. You can see mainstream media has a smite-grip on their attention-spans, which is keeping them docile and unconsciously paralyzed in a narcissistic way. It has made Black men and women very unhappy and you can see that this isn't a mistake, but is very premeditated by the media, especially by the utilization of Rap music and Social-media. Now, this isn't some rant against the media or anything external. What's being written here is based on an epiphany for you to see that you've let this happen. Whatever sadness, manic depression, neurosis behavior you have; you are the one that let it happened. It's you and what you need to do is really look inside of yourself, in your mind and ask yourself "If these thoughts aren't helping me to elevate. Then why do I need them?" and eliminate a lot of the thoughts that are not helping you, at all, and create new thoughts that can help you grow as a person. So whenever you smile, it isn't a fake smile, but a real one! Do it, only so that you do not have to live the life that was designed for you. But to live the life you've always wanted to live. . . Control the Mind. Don't let the Mind control you. 😌 🙏💕
Rule# Protect your peace Dont let others to manipulate you using the children. Broken people need time to be alone amd heal.If you dont stand up for something you will fall for anything.Bullying pushes people to the edge!
Most of the black men don’t believe in God meaning no hope they can have people to talk to but read the word and ask God to help your mind like saying (( I have the mind of Christ )) and believe his words.
G-Ma X wtf there are literally no statistics that say that black men don’t believe in god more than any other race I don’t believe the Bible says to place your judgement on anyone so please read it again !
@@MoniNayo if you believe in God then you have hope. Believing in God isn’t just believing God exist but does your God give you hope. I believe that’s what G-Ma meant.
Yes there any one here who had this kind problen and get helped to help me out? I am black guy but I am in Brazil and I don´t feel confortable to ask help for a white people, seems that they don´t understand us.
Jesus will not stop a human being from feeling emotions. Plenty of suicidal spiritual giants right in the Bible including David the psalmist. We certainly need Jesus but we need treatment for depression as well.
Me not just being black male. But in my heart personally i believe i have the keys to transcend our relationship and family. But her anger and assumptions has left me weak.. on all levels. I want to leave but my daughter will not get that nourishment she need from a conscience father [parent]. So I stay and hope I don't resort to violence in any degree
Prayer is the foundation.However find a proffessional if you think you need medicine.A lot of uneducated and ignorant folk think therapy is taboo! smh(
Once we step away from society standards, we'll be better off. We have to go within and goes with what works best for us as individuals. Also, there is a lot of trauma that's keeping us a part as a group. As a black woman, I can support and love my man, but he may not have the strength to open up and be vulnerable enough to take that help. No matter what that help looks like.
Depression struck me at 20. Got through it with prayer and meditation. I'm 31 now. I was trapped in a mental jail after a psychotic break from smoking weed (underlying mental health issues triggered by the weed). I can tell why I was depressed but I'll save that for the curious.
Archons aka spiritual vampire attacking your conciseness. Weed is a spiritual drug but it’s infested with GMO so low vibrational low level demons attack you after you smoke it, to absorb your energy. Currently going to it right now
All if the comments were right. This is a great subject and waste of time subject. I am s 60 brother,but realized decades ago what the issue is and always will be. There should be a separate Wikipedia for depression. Depression-2. >black men. We have no way of having real 100% happiness no matter what. If somebody out black make in the IBM think tank computers. It would start smoking and talking like the Lost in Space tv show robot. And it would say it does not compute this element is extinct. The God sitting on the throne is the only reason that we exist. There is no other make race anywhere in the world that would or could survive our conditions for over 400 years. And for the most part talking to professionals ain't going to change your environment one bit. You can take one category only. We know music is the great elixir for most people. But yet that element and money was not enough to allow out greatest to grow old. Because inside they still could not be happy.(Micheal Jackson,Barry White,Marvin Gaye, Prince,Rick James, Teddy Pendergrass,Luther Vandross).
“Spiritual benefit is beneficial if we should embrace it” I call bs. Many of these churches think you can pray mental illness away. Some fools even think being clinically depressed is selfish.
To my black brothers. Hold your head up. God loves you. We black sisters love y'all. So sorry for the pain you feel. Sorry for how society treats you. You are number 1.
@@Jedilord882 If someone expresses their love to you, and you throw it back, then loveless you will remain ... there are 18 million BW. Many of us love BM, still ... our fathers, our brothers, our husbands, our sons, our friends. But if you are offered love and encouragement, and you meet it with rejection, then rejection will be your lot. It is your choice.
Thanks for sharing tips and expertise on depression and how it affects us as males and black males in particular. More of these talks need to be had for men whom battle depression.
I think the way they handled this conversation is dated, we now know that often when black men do get help their care is subpar to that of that their white counterparts. Only 4% of psychiatrist are black, which may lead black men to not feel safe to go those spaces. Increased enrollment for black psychiatrist and restructuring of how black men are handled in psychiatry is a start.
I liked it. But can you mention black men too next time. I’m a black male who experience this all the time with my hair. They either want me to be bald, pressed white
Depression can manifest in different ways, and symptoms can vary from person to person. However, some common signs and symptoms of depression include: Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness Loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyable Fatigue or lack of energy Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, or making decisions Changes in appetite or weight Sleep disturbances, such as insomnia or oversleeping Irritability or restlessness Feelings of worthlessness or guilt Thoughts of death or suicide If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, it's important to talk to a healthcare provider or mental health professional. They can help you determine if you are experiencing depression and provide appropriate treatment options. Depression is a treatable condition, and seeking help is an important step towards recovery.
Thank you. I identify all signs in my husband for nearly 2 years.. I'm white and he is black .We are Indians. We've been married for 8 years. We don't have children. What should I do? I really got to understand my husband was depressed only yesterday during a fight. I'm devastated. I was lonely all this time because he was at work all time with minimal communication with me. What should I do please guide me..? I'm 28 .He is 35. He is not looking after himself.
Time for us to build a community within a community. We have to stop being divided and help one another in these times. Depression is real and it’s destroying us
Going to therapy is similar to getting off of drugs or alcohol, the individual has to WANT to HEAL AND BECOME BETTER. Dr. Turpeau is in Atlanta, Ga... respectively. (25yrs?) He also has a UA-cam channel. Best Wishes.
Nobody goes thru more depression than a young black man , things just keep happening and u feel like if u talk to anybody that makes u soft or weak.
Justin Williams he siad it he keep saying complaining in the begining that was a que
Justin Williams yup
So y’all are just gonna ignore black women?
@@missshannonsunshine just like a fem woman thats why nobody cares
@@missshannonsunshine You could go to a comments section for black women and speak about it.
Depression is like having a dog nobody knows u have it , unless its unleashed
Ten years of therapy boat loads of medication shit is worse then ever 40 now I’m done
The church is sadly, the originator of scores of ongoing depressive episodes for African men. On the flip side, A healthy _spiritual_ practice is very very important tho.
Someone saw me coming out of mental health clinic and next thing i know i am labeled as being crazy. That hurt me to.
Everyone goes through difficulties.. I'm sorry you had to go through that..that individual that saw you coming out the clinic and judge you shame on them.
DAMN SHAME! THIS IS THE EXACT REASON WHY PEOPLE OF COLOR DON'T WANNA RECEIVE MENTAL HELP! ALL THE THINGS WE BEEN THROUGH ESPECIALLY BLACK MEN, TOO MANY OF US SUFFER FROM MENTAL ILLNESS. THE PERSON WHO JUDGED YOU HAS MORE PROBLEMS THAN YOU DO. DON'T FEEL BAD AT ALL. AT LEAST YOU'RE SMART ENOUGH TO HELP YOURSELF!🌹💗😉🌞❤❤
Shawn Smith thats wrong ☹☹☹☹☹😢😢😢😢😢
Nobody cares about us. I'm just being honest. I feel you though and got love 4 u fam
Hey bubba, look at it like your sane enough to go get the help needed.
I'm on the same boat bro. Stay upwards
A toxic woman, to whom you've opened your vulnerability to, can increase depression significantly, due to their verbal abuse and insensitivity to your feelings. Women like this will constantly tear you down instead of building you up. This can be catastrophic to a man's mental health.
And they get away with it
That's not even rare, it's like a norm. I saw videos of women beeing proud because all their exes tryd to kill them self. Frfr
@@millennialpodcast1438 if you can find this video send me the link. Thanks in advance!
@@traceyhopkins3698 You dont need to go far to see evidence of feminists celebrating male suicide rates.Go to any UA-cam video about feminism, you are likely to find those kind of comments.
This is true! I honestly don't know what they are getting out of it honestly. It's all over twitter, UA-cam, Instagram etc... The more you tear down a man the problem will only get worse.
With everything going on in society right now. Black men, we need each other! That’s one thing that our women have that we don’t and that’s sisterhood & unity. We all in pain bruh. Stop looking down on your brother. Stop making fun of your brother when he’s feeling down. Stop mugging your brother. Stop KILLING your brother! Be there for your sons & nephews, your fathers and uncles. Man we all we got!
If only that can happen
@@garybardwell7117
Glad tommy j curry is here for us
Bull shit buddy, no male family members
As a black man,nobody wants to hear my story. They talk about me. But when i get fed up oh i need professional help. Im on drugs. Thats what people tell me. But i just want to say my side of the story
Sounds interesting to me
It's hard trying explain to your family how u feel,and they just don't get it, my parents think u can pray it away
Ignorance is bliss for them
Lean on those who will HEAR you! Unfortunately sometimes even family don't always understand.
I was the same way I got to the point where I was tired of feeling that way and cried out to my Lord and savior Jesus Christ and I was set free from my pain and sadness. I wanted to be set free and I believe and he did it for me. Try him then come back and give your testimony 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
Brandon Malik Rashid your own mind can kill you do you know that ??
Same, i felt this on another level!
So happy I found this video, I have the exact symptoms they spoke on. I been feeling something was off, and signed up to go see a therapist.
take'em Down praying for u brother u will get through this. I don’t know but I’m proud of u for getting help. Stay strong 💪🏽
Thank you Brothers this was much needed and appreciated.
Did you get the help you wanted and needed? Been a year since you wrote your comment...
Hope you've been doin well man ✊🏾🙏🏾
Good for you! I hope you weren't through with it and it helped on some level.
For me personally this is a very very difficult topic to discuss, especially in person. Growing up I’ve always felt isolated and sad, never knew why until a few years ago when I started to do a little research and discovered that my symptoms match those of anxiety/depression. I’ve never really opened up about this to anyone, not even on here, it’s just too awkward. At a very young age I do recall feeling sad and I recall constant fear of something bad happening to someone in my life. I’ve always had the tendency to isolate myself from others and and try avoid large groups of people. I usually don’t feel comfortable interacting with complete strangers because it just feels awkward. I’ve always had these crazy ups and downs where one minute I feel fine, I crack a joke and get a good laugh in with coworkers or family members and an hour later I feel like a totally different person on the inside. It’s very heavy weight to carry on a daily basis but you just put on a smile and pretend like nothings wrong, you fake your way through it and that’s really how I’ve dealt with it all my life, by smiling and faking. I makes you feel a bit ashamed to open up, lost my father to cancer two months ago and that has been especially tough watching him decline, on top of everything else, but I’ve been faking my way through it, too ashamed to cry about it. I know I need to open up to someone, maybe my family or church pastor, don’t know when or where to start.
Eric Fortune Jr. Seek your doctor or nurse, they should be able to peovide you information. Take care .
Stay strong brother 🙏🏾
You got dis brother
dont open up to any pastor, those fuckers cannot be trusted. You should engage in hobbies that you enjoy and dont share your information with anyone. You have no allies in this world.
Did you get any treatement or still deal with. If you get how was it?
Wow this is powerful... I'm dealing with depression/ loneliness. Most Black men are very competitive and strong minded....not all but we come with a very complex survival gene. Mix that with our history of slavery ....Jim Crow to discrimination in all areas of our lives. Black men have a special mental complexity that we deal with on a daily bases. We find it hard to tell others how we feel. We think it's a weakness if we show "Feelings". We consume to much of everything ...trying to escape the "feelings". We need each other. We need a place where we can talk our way through our pain and come out the other side without hurting ourselves or someone else. Our young men are out there alone and somehow we have to bring them some type of hope. This maybe, is the space to do that. I'l bookmark this page and post again. I hope my post will continue the conversation. Please if it helped someone ...pass it on. We need each other ..we can't stand alone.
You’re not that good calm down bitch
Definitely agree
Agreed brotha
Do black men cry when they’re alone?
We not in the game of feelings tho
Black men have been dealing with depression from day one life itself is something else they're only worried about rich people that don't look like us
I know that I have been suffering from depression for a very long time. I personally just couldn't rely on church and prayer alone to get me out if my private pain.
Torri Taite
❤❤❤ remember Someone loves you on this 🌎! Try mediation, being near a body of water when you can, getting a pet, 😸🐕and helping others less fortunate.
Torri Taite. Church dont do nothing
I don't believe there is a actual resolve. I been living in depression long as I can remember. Nobody gives a shit though. Pay the bills a d put out or be homeless
@@dadedon305thankfully Alan Roger curie helped us out of this
Whenever i get angry about being disrespected people call me crazy and say its justified to disrespect me.
People tend to be like that, fuck them
You’re not alone brother.
The crazyness we deal with
Disrespect isn't the same for everyone and with black ppl in general a lot of them take everything as an insult..don't speak to them they are angry, don't do exactly what they want you to do they are angry, don't give them their way they are angry..somethings are Disrespect and somethings are entitled behavior and anger issues the ppl you are blaming has nothing to do with
Correct and that is a childhood trauma bro
The day I realised I am black I understood that I had received a life sentence from birth, find that hard to deal with along with virtually no family structure. We are not a loved people and everything we have can be taken away. Work get unbearable cause it's like smashing your face against a brick wall. We have nothing but grief. Nothing but hurt.
Love and nuture a caring, kind black woman and you will heal. Choose her for her integrity not just looks.
@@GoogleUser-wy2vv Some how I don't think this is the answer but thanks for your suggestion.
@@waBlackout-wa The more you give and take care of others. the better you will feel. Note that for the most part blk men aren't seen as "giving" or loving. They collectively as seen as " fun loving". Selfishness and short term investment is what is depressing men.
@@GoogleUser-wy2vv Most black men aren't this is truthful. Given the history of these things I would rather stay on my own. Life is moving by so fast there no time for settling down. I don't feel that drive in me to have children. As long as I can support myself I'm fine.
@@waBlackout-wa i see. Having a child awakened in me a giving love that makes the worst days better. Hard to feel sad when you are busy loving and caring.
Yesterday we went and got an ice cream cone and my son said i was the best mom in the world. I was so tired but content.
People don't care to hear if there's a problem with black men, they just wanna tell us to "be a man" and "have tough skin" and "you're fine, stop that." We need more people to be open and honest about this kind of stuff. Nothing makes you feel more hopeless than knowing something's wrong, seeing it, but everybody tells you nothing is wrong.
I’m depressed due to white supremacy I’m
Just over everything in this society I hate that white People is all good and holy and we’re the Lower class no matter what black people we need each other the most love y’all but hate the shit we goin thru finally had to tell myself this today
You wrong theres tons of white not having job, being paids mimimum wage, working crazy hours, not having a GF, and therefore going thru depressions.,
But its is right that black on average suffer more since day one, just the fact that most of them dont grow up in a full familly with one dad and one mom to raise them... they usually have parents that are less educated, more violent, less care giving and loving... Not being love and being able de speak about your feeling to your parents is in reality, painful.
What people who have being thru that have to do, is to make sure to not reproducing it... which mean, loving your kids in a healty manner, raised them correctly not being to hard but not accepting everything, the key is in the balance, you need to praise kids when they do good thing and blame them when they do thing you considerer as bad...
Black and africans in general, including arabs from middle east have a "their" SYSTEM of rules to make individuals... and feelings, being open minded, and evrythings else is different than the ones of "white" western or Japanase/Chinese... Each system has his pros and cons...
For instance white tends to not beat their kids when they do wrong they tends to take their kids and explain them how they shuold and shouldnt bahave, because they think that kids are enough intelligent since 1yo to understand when you teach them. And they are right, kids are smarts. What every black American kids didnt chose this system of values but its cultural.. you have to change it if you think that it aint the good way to raise kids and individual.
Last thing, its not because of white supremacy if Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Indian, succed more than black, its just that korean/chinese/japanese/indian familly and household come with diffent set of values and cultures that actually make them raise. That teach them, respect, empathie, the importance of school, hardwork, to reject violence and things like that... thats why they succed more... its not because white supremacists love indians or chinese..
Lord, I wish I can show this video to every Black men in America. If childhood emotional trauma contributes to depression in adult life Black men suffers it the most.
I’m wonder if that assumption, which is categorically false may add to the depression in an individual’s case. The false belief that you are experiencing more trauma than anyone else.
@@elyse443think chinweizu
Anatomy of female p9wer
I actually began to contemplate suicide in my late thirties, and I had a college degree. " If I could just get the hell out of here, away from this" Many of these young guys try to commit suicide by gang banging or putting themselves in a dangerous situation. Someone else can pull the trigger, Being alive is a punishment
You are definitely not alone! Keep a journal. Hang tough. Understand what you can - and can't control! *Network*. Exercise (a heavy bag is very useful!). Meditate.
What you said about street violence and being homicidal is very true. Black ppl think we don't have suicide but being homicidal is just as bad
As a black men no one has our back or best interest,including some of our moms,as a black man you are told to hold everything in and to not show any emotion because that’s weak.
thats not being weak, its just being human, humain have emotions..
What about your fathers?
I don’t think that seeking help actually helps a lot of the time. I am not a man, but had brutal postpartum depression and the therapists DID NOT help me. Friends and family were sh!tty and dismissive. “Oh it’s just hormones, it’s just this or that.” Imagine how much worse that probably is for men? The stiff upper lip ethic. Your pain doesn’t matter or isn’t that real is just our cultural ethos, even if you do seek help.
It’s a cycle. Only people that really understand can help or people who are helpful without trying to be.
Aint this the truth. Right after college and being faced with the real world have I never felt so painfully lonely and depressed. Realizing you're in a majority eurocentric society and having little to know resources to work with or people that can understand your struggles/place in society..Media constantly portraying you in a negative light making it hard for people to respect you..too much to unpack here I'll just leave it at that
@Sam Sparklebot Where the f* did I say black people have no jobs??? I'm talking about internal struggles such as mental health, depression, loneliness, anxiety. Having a comfortable lifestyle doesn't always mean someone is genuinely at peace with themselves. Take your clown ass somewhere else with your ignorance
The system of values of the black community in USA is totally fucked up...
“We are alone… At the very time, we need to be reaching out to others.” - This is beyond true
Many of us don’t use medical/mental health resources because when we do there is immediate doubt on anything we say. We are said to overstate medical conditions as a community (there is a racial biased component to that of course) so much like victims of sexual violence (similar for this comparison) when presented with immediate doubt there is rarely a second chance at getting that patient (or victim) to open up.
i feel you brother. i say to all this if you feel like u need assistance. do what ver you have to and deal with what ever you need to to get the help you need. do not allow the many ways that are designed to either thwart you or make you quick. if you black you better wake up to the FACT that we are Bulldogs by nature and we we walk that we they have to kill us to stop us. THIS IS NOT ABOUT HOW MUCH INEQUITY IS AT HAND BROTHER. THIS IS ABOUT ONE SIMPLE MISSION THAT IS OFTEN DIFFICULT TO COMPLETE. WHICH IS TO GET IT DONE BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY.
I HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE VA and all sorts of fuckery that through at us/me. Yet, my mental health issues are being dealt with in a practical and reasonable way. medically not so much. and i'm making them accountable by directing and being in charge of my own care and making sure that whatever they come up with is proper and normal based on medical president . many times medical fuckery occurs when the patient is not intelligent or lucid enough to realize they are being under treated or not treated appropriately . which is me saying you can no longer trust your medical professionals to really be our champions anymore. many just don;t give a fuck, others just pretend to give a fuck.
Who caresssss
@@pinkgal206 nobody really does you see all this talk is no good.
Compassion, love, and empathy for one another in this day and age.
BINGO! The 🌎 is A cold place... Especially for black men.
How many around u operating this way? It's all rhetoric
@@msindy1818 many don't understand a lot of us feel alone. It's so many under lying factors that we just haven't addresses. Shit being labeled black is a form of Opression 😣
Never got any of that
Blk men & women we should attempt 2 b associates,,, of-course ,,friendship is ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE
When I was in africa I was the happiest person you could ever see but that all changed when I came to America and stayed here for 3 years. I got depression and it’s something I’ve never experienced in my life back then. I don’t know why they is depression in a wealthy country and not a poor country maybe that’s how god chose it to be. Black people need to visit and invest in africa, and no africa is not poor as you see in the internet it’s a rich and business booming continent.
best wishes my brother! you absolutely nailed it - and wish you well!
African Brother!
I’m wondering if you go back to Africa if the depression will go away.
The problem is not that we don't seek help. I have tried MANY times to seek help and none of the therapists or so-called mental health professionals gave a damn. One even said I was faking, so I gave up! Another thing is we don't "paint ourselves" into social isolation, in most cases we are PUSHED there, no matter how sociable we try to be or how much we go out of our way to be productive and upstanding citizens and participants in society. This discussion needs better context and better data.
Damn that's tough. Sorry you went through that bro. I've always been the weirdo in my family. My Dad took me to see a Psychologist at 13 and my brothers took it as a joke so it's mind-blowing that a mental health professional would say that bullshit to you. While I don't see a therapist I do breathing exercises and speak affirmations but I think it's time for me to talk to someone who could understand.
@@MentalStillnesslisten to Jack Kammer break it down
I love black men
I wish some people thought like you
And we love you back❤
That rare for black men but thank you queen.
Thank you for teaching me something new. I'm an Auntie of 3 young african american boys ages 7,7 & 10. The interesting thing was I asked my 10 year old nephew " has anyone told you that men dont cry?" He said "yes" I was shocked and broke my heart. He is only 10 and it made me ask myself the question, "at what age do boys here those words" i told my nephew that is okay to cry, to be sad, to hurt, and have pain. My heart goes out to all of you guys. I want to learn more on how I can be a person that my nephews can talk to no matter what
U did something good ! I wish I had a auntie or a family who sad that to me, or give me any comfort.. I deal with substance abuse, depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts every day because something is broken in me and I can't fix it.
Im watching this and trying not to cry
Not only the video but some of the comments I read really moved me
Thank god for men like this we all must help each other everyday
The only way a broken so-called blackmen can heal is from the help of a righteous so-called blackmen that has healed in the specific experience #IUIC
Greetings. WE black men suffer from PTRD ( Post Traumatic Relationship Disorder), which is White Supremacy in the form of racism. And that DEPRESSION started in 1515 on that boat named Jesus.
And those who date their white daughter?
I’m depressed and I want help
But my generation doesn’t want to hear this
Jay which generation is that?
U don’t want to hear it
Because no one listened to them...
Kwazi Mbutabe if it alnt rapping we don’t care 😂
Wow am a young black man i never thought it could catch up with me it started hitting me all in my 20s not too long from here hurtful experiences that i never thought would happen to me and the experience of loneliness just made it worse i became suicidal in my mid 20s around 2015 man man man i had soo many plans and high expectations of living this glorious life in music traveling and helping others get successful but as for me i was making dreams come true for others as a libra having full balance and harmony i wasn't looking at myself being needy but then my patients ran short especially when covid19 recently hit and everything shutdown it was a very painful experience sometimes i still feel the remnant of that but am healing i won't never stop looking and asking for help it's quite easy to get healed physically but spiritually takes a lot FRFR
Just coming by and commenting to boost the algorithm as a supportive Black woman, glad to see Black men addressing their own needs with and for each other.
i'm watching because my partner is struggling and i don't know how to best support him. This conversation is giving me so much insight into what he's really going through. Thank you for having this conversation. I want to support him in a way that will matter because his happiness and fulfillment is more important to me than anything else.
This discussion of depression is designed to bring light to the importance of identifying depression and avoiding social isolation within our the American societal landscape. He also briefly discusses the antidote: the power of prayer, talk therapy (CBT) with the Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LMSW, or LPC, and the idea that good old fashion social supports within the community can promote a more meaningful lifestyle. This speaker offers valuable insights from his educational and life experiences, which are uncommon to find free of cost.
Also speak good over yourself. Don't listen to negative words degrading you. Speak you are healed from crown of your head to the soul of your feet. Be honest with God and tell Him how you truly feel, even if it involves family. But ask Him for help. He has people around that can help. The true true KEY is Jesus. The enemy hates when Jesus gets all the praise. Glory to His name 👏👏👏👏😀
Sometimes I feel helpless, I know society tells we don't get tired, were aggressive, violent, but in truth we go through more than the minority of people .
We got to put God first in our lives. In this life, it's going to be ups and downs. The key is to have a relationship with the Most High God. Also America is hard to live in.
We also need to use the gifts God provides through people. Doctors, counselors and pastoral leaders help us heal, grow and use our resources to empower others.
Suicide can be aggressive behavior or living on the edge
So it’s really common amongst black men
Underrated comment. Many of us are out here killing ourselves slowly.
I am a brown young lady, but wanted to know/ learn more about men of color😊. And this is so good its gold thanke you for opening my eyes😊💚
Happy Sun it's hard💯💯💯
@@MBryy yeah I am kinda understanding it now 💚
Happy Sun I’m happy to see you actually care. Not a lot do sadly.
Sorry, this discussion is about BLACK MEN, not men of color, or people of color, as white liberals wants to label everybody. We, Black Men need our OWN control group. We're not "men or color" We're BLACK MEN!
Just date one, you will find out all you need to know. Grant it, considering ones individual upbringing, character, and chosen moral code of course.🙂
I guess it's like tying an eagle down so that it can't fly. Being held back from what or who God truly created us to be can depress an individual. We are not living to our fullest potential. Parents are needed in our lives. And black people don't support and encourage each other. It hurts me Justin see the black man in the condition that he is in. Just my thoughts.
Hmm powerful to hear this, so glad our men are supporting each other. As a woman, black woman you recognized it, and try to help but experienced being rejected because it makes the man feel too vulnerable and they hide it...and move on to the next, and next, and next without help. Bless you our black Kings!!!
Black women can help by actively listening, and not throwing that sensitive information back in his face when you get upset. The chief reason many black men close the vault permanently is due to him entrusting someone with those aforementioned feelings, and was unfortunately betrayed
@@antoinescroggins8822 so true bro, that's exactly what happened to me.. smh🤦🏾♂️
@@antoinescroggins8822exactly 🤦🏾♂️
@@Jason-qf8igme too. Man when we speak up they leave.
@@antoinescroggins8822 My male friend is going through some tough times now, but I'm there for him. If he needs to talk, I actively listen. Sometimes ill cook for him, let him take naps at my house. His living arrangement isn't the best.
I speak in the behalf amongst my black brothers, ALL WE ASK FOR is basic job security. I don't ask for much at all. All I need is Physiological needs and Safety needs in the Maslow hierarchy of needs. If every black men had a 45k secured job, black men suicides will decline by 95%.
The only thing that keeps me going in life is my 45k salary secure job. Without that, I will end my life too. Real talk!
I think Amos Wilson and Cres Welsing better break down these dynamics
poverty is one thing but mental health is the number one thing that leads to violence an self destruction
I believe my boyfriend could be depressed.
look at these two great black man.
They are incredibly intelligent brothers... Whoever knows them personally are really blessed to have such wise men in their circles...
Depression is a daily battle and it feels like a mental disease.
It is a mental illness tho
I appreciate this video. I suffer through depression and I still try to maintain a solid front. Whenever I partly open up to people I'm regarded in a deminised light. This adds to my depression. I need answers and enlightenment; not people attempting to correct my behavior. I need understanding. I've arrgued with therapists over my experiences and tried to correlate my reasoning just as I have with family members. I want to be free from the hurt and I feel like no one ever understands.
it's very hard to open up about what your going through mentally espically to the churh cause thats all they want toi do is pray. Plus i dont know if anyone else had this issue but my church was lowkey shady i was not about to open up to anyne least of all them
I can relate to everything you just stated ….
Im a single mother with 6yr old boy. His father is not in the picture try my best as a single mother but I feel my nurturing stage has been over and i know he needs his father, with my own emotional tramas as a child. He doesnt open up to me. I try to see how he is feeling but he doesnt go there with me. Sometimes i catch him just looking off in space, and I see he is thinking about alot. I need direction
Get a male mentor. He need masculine energy
I had great luck with big brother program for my son. They paired him really well and I felt comfortable too. I'm sorry you are going through this. Mentors, support groups like big brother sister program and also church family. Love and light to you😘
Watch countering the conspiracy to destroy black boys by jawanza kunjufu on youtube hopefully it can help you with your problem. I wished my mum had watched it.
He dont open up because he know you, he know that soons on later you will use agaisnt him
@@ltgdr6298 Thats how I feel tbh. I'm 17, That's exactly how my mom is because if I open up to her o know she would use it against me so I just avoid talking with her about my feelings.
Depression is the common problem in todays life style. I was also suffering with this problem then I took medicine from planet Ayurveda and it Is effective.
Look to God and live by His Word. The world will fall anybody. The world will give a person it's measurements of success not God's rules for success. When we don't meet those wordly standards, we feel like a failure. I decided that I can not gain acceptance from the world. I no longer measure my looks, education, talents, etc by the world. God knows I am special and that is enough. There are a lot of rich unhappy people in the world. They are miserable. Know why, because a lot of them don't have God in their lives. True happiness comes from God. Accept Jesus as your personal Saviour. Feed yourself the Word daily. Always lift Jesus up and speak about His goodness. Negativity won't stick around for Jesus, guarantee you that. Fellowship with strong believers in the faith. I'm mean the sold out believers, not the one foot in the world and one foot in the church ones. Listen to worship songs that declares the goodness of the Lord. God loves the black man. But alit of the black men need to love Him back. Be blessed 😁
As a mother who son is suffering from depression I want him to go get therapy but he won’t. He is in a bad cycle. He keeps using women as an escape to not deal. I tell him I love him. I support him. However he needs meds, mentorship and males who understand. I made sure he has male representation around him but I don’t think they understand how bad his depression is. I’m scared I’m going to lose him. I just want him to get help God please.
Praying for all my brothers and sisters! We deserve to be happy
Yeah im 15 and im struggling
It’s like a world without color.
Tell it to Elijah Anderson
To my fellow Black Man, please talk to a licensed professional or a trusted friend or relative if you're feeling depressed. It helps. I found a really good Black therapist who has helped me with my struggles. Therapy will feel awkward at first and healing is never easy, but it does work if you do the work. Don't suffer in silence. You are worth it!
For years, I have noticed in the Black community, as a whole, are deteriorating, very rapidly. The speed is occurring at an astronomical rate, due to the highly use of social-media platforms, mainstream Rap-culture, drugs, peer pressure, etc.
In all honesty, hurts for me to say, but it doesn't seem to be getting any better for Black people, in the Youth. The older Black Americans still hold onto great family values and conservative mannerisms. But the younger generation; it isn't getting any better. Don't believe me? Just go into the urban communities, in our major cities to see for yourselves, go on their social-media accounts, go into their schools, go and watch these reality TV shows. You can see mainstream media has a smite-grip on their attention-spans, which is keeping them docile and unconsciously paralyzed in a narcissistic way. It has made Black men and women very unhappy and you can see that this isn't a mistake, but is very premeditated by the media, especially by the utilization of Rap music and Social-media.
Now, this isn't some rant against the media or anything external. What's being written here is based on an epiphany for you to see that you've let this happen. Whatever sadness, manic depression, neurosis behavior you have; you are the one that let it happened. It's you and what you need to do is really look inside of yourself, in your mind and ask yourself "If these thoughts aren't helping me to elevate. Then why do I need them?" and eliminate a lot of the thoughts that are not helping you, at all, and create new thoughts that can help you grow as a person. So whenever you smile, it isn't a fake smile, but a real one! Do it, only so that you do not have to live the life that was designed for you. But to live the life you've always wanted to live. . .
Control the Mind. Don't let the Mind control you.
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Thank you for these powerful enlightening comment here
The system of values of the black community in USA is totally fucked up...
Rule# Protect your peace Dont let others to manipulate you using the children. Broken people need time to be alone amd heal.If you dont stand up for something you will fall for anything.Bullying pushes people to the edge!
Most of the black men don’t believe in God meaning no hope they can have people to talk to but read the word and ask God to help your mind like saying (( I have the mind of Christ )) and believe his words.
G-Ma X wtf there are literally no statistics that say that black men don’t believe in god more than any other race I don’t believe the Bible says to place your judgement on anyone so please read it again !
Fukk Christ!! We need Afrikanity!
@@MoniNayo if you believe in God then you have hope. Believing in God isn’t just believing God exist but does your God give you hope. I believe that’s what G-Ma meant.
D be careful what you say
@@MoniNayoafrica is God. We seek salvation
Yes there any one here who had this kind problen and get helped to help me out? I am black guy but I am in Brazil and I don´t feel confortable to ask help for a white people, seems that they don´t understand us.
Lourival Sampaio true I'm in Canada and nobody understands me here
They don't, bro!
You should message popular black men UA-camrs to see if you can start a discussion. Ex- swoozie, Caleb,etc...
We all need Jesus whether we realize it or not
Jesus will not stop a human being from feeling emotions. Plenty of suicidal spiritual giants right in the Bible including David the psalmist. We certainly need Jesus but we need treatment for depression as well.
Finally.
A video on this topic that addresses finance.
Me not just being black male. But in my heart personally i believe i have the keys to transcend our relationship and family. But her anger and assumptions has left me weak.. on all levels. I want to leave but my daughter will not get that nourishment she need from a conscience father [parent]. So I stay and hope I don't resort to violence in any degree
What help does your daughter need, as a parent you’re responsible for both. Daughter first, you second depending on damage.
Physical, verbal sexual isolation can all lead to depression imagine having to deal with all that from childhood.
Prayer is the foundation.However find a proffessional if you think you need medicine.A lot of uneducated and ignorant folk think therapy is taboo! smh(
Once we step away from society standards, we'll be better off. We have to go within and goes with what works best for us as individuals. Also, there is a lot of trauma that's keeping us a part as a group. As a black woman, I can support and love my man, but he may not have the strength to open up and be vulnerable enough to take that help. No matter what that help looks like.
The bible encourages us to see a doctor when necessary.
Read Nana Darwah The Africans Who Wrote The Bible
I'm a white female elder 😢
Depression struck me at 20. Got through it with prayer and meditation. I'm 31 now.
I was trapped in a mental jail after a psychotic break from smoking weed (underlying mental health issues triggered by the weed). I can tell why I was depressed but I'll save that for the curious.
Archons aka spiritual vampire attacking your conciseness. Weed is a spiritual drug but it’s infested with GMO so low vibrational low level demons attack you after you smoke it, to absorb your energy. Currently going to it right now
@@theone1718 i certainly did go berserk. Attacking my brother and saying all kinds of nasty things to my mother.
I’m glad you’re doing better now. God bless you, sir 😘😊
😂😂😂 Good!!
I've lived with depression for 26 years. You don't conquer it you live with it. Make room for it for you will never get rid of it. IMO.
I can relate. Went through a terrible bout in my 20s and 30s. In my 50s now. I will say that working out has helped manage it, but it is still there.
@@MrBmic6:00 it is the process of socialisation that was exposed by George Subira Trower in his book money issues
God bless them both! ❤️🙏🏽
All if the comments were right. This is a great subject and waste of time subject. I am s 60 brother,but realized decades ago what the issue is and always will be. There should be a separate Wikipedia for depression. Depression-2. >black men. We have no way of having real 100% happiness no matter what. If somebody out black make in the IBM think tank computers. It would start smoking and talking like the Lost in Space tv show robot. And it would say it does not compute this element is extinct. The God sitting on the throne is the only reason that we exist. There is no other make race anywhere in the world that would or could survive our conditions for over 400 years. And for the most part talking to professionals ain't going to change your environment one bit. You can take one category only. We know music is the great elixir for most people. But yet that element and money was not enough to allow out greatest to grow old. Because inside they still could not be happy.(Micheal Jackson,Barry White,Marvin Gaye, Prince,Rick James, Teddy Pendergrass,Luther Vandross).
Do black men cry when they’re alone?
Depends on the situation.
We wanna cry but there no more tears left
@@abdikani5 when we've never been allowed to feel it's hard to know how to feel
You never wht goes on behind closed doors
I do
“Spiritual benefit is beneficial if we should embrace it” I call bs. Many of these churches think you can pray mental illness away. Some fools even think being clinically depressed is selfish.
Amen. It's unfortunately a silent battle due to many judgemental people.
True Spirituality!!! Afrikanity & Kemetic teachings🌹
True. They even judge you for “not having faith”. My suggestion is go to emotions anonymous before the church.
@@elyse44311:00 all the stress we had there . Men are in such pain.
And Women benefit from this enduring
To my black brothers. Hold your head up. God loves you. We black sisters love y'all. So sorry for the pain you feel. Sorry for how society treats you. You are number 1.
Y’all dont love us unless we’re athletes, rappers, or traplords/scammers lol
@@Jedilord882 damn right
@@Jedilord882 If someone expresses their love to you, and you throw it back, then loveless you will remain ... there are 18 million BW. Many of us love BM, still ... our fathers, our brothers, our husbands, our sons, our friends. But if you are offered love and encouragement, and you meet it with rejection, then rejection will be your lot. It is your choice.
Idk bout that about y’all loving us because I get disrespected by black women all my life so yea nice try
@@jaysouthmusic82308;30 Jeru Damaja sung to this in
Ain't The Devil Happy
Thanks for sharing tips and expertise on depression and how it affects us as males and black males in particular. More of these talks need to be had for men whom battle depression.
great post
I was depressed until I got a job...then its like it all just went away.
Devil alert
*Education and employment.... 2 strong components to depression. Such a powerful discussion .*
I went for years it didnt help it made life worse
No one wants to talk about THISSSS
I think the way they handled this conversation is dated, we now know that often when black men do get help their care is subpar to that of that their white counterparts. Only 4% of psychiatrist are black, which may lead black men to not feel safe to go those spaces. Increased enrollment for black psychiatrist and restructuring of how black men are handled in psychiatry is a start.
Thank you Brothers I needed to hear this and I appreciate everything.
How about black men unable to find work. You can’t get treatment without a job
I liked it. But can you mention black men too next time. I’m a black male who experience this all the time with my hair. They either want me to be bald, pressed white
I really needed this video.
Depression can manifest in different ways, and symptoms can vary from person to person. However, some common signs and symptoms of depression include:
Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness
Loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyable
Fatigue or lack of energy
Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, or making decisions
Changes in appetite or weight
Sleep disturbances, such as insomnia or oversleeping
Irritability or restlessness
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Thoughts of death or suicide
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, it's important to talk to a healthcare provider or mental health professional. They can help you determine if you are experiencing depression and provide appropriate treatment options. Depression is a treatable condition, and seeking help is an important step towards recovery.
Thank you. I identify all signs in my husband for nearly 2 years.. I'm white and he is black .We are Indians. We've been married for 8 years. We don't have children. What should I do? I really got to understand my husband was depressed only yesterday during a fight. I'm devastated. I was lonely all this time because he was at work all time with minimal communication with me. What should I do please guide me..? I'm 28 .He is 35. He is not looking after himself.
Time for us to build a community within a community. We have to stop being divided and help one another in these times. Depression is real and it’s destroying us
Thanks for this video it will help me to help my son who his 22 years old though his tuff times
This was good! Information we need to know.
Powerful ✊🏾
Are there any good therapists that any black man reading this have personally been to in Atlanta
Going to therapy is similar to getting off of drugs or alcohol, the individual has to WANT to HEAL AND BECOME BETTER.
Dr. Turpeau is in Atlanta, Ga... respectively. (25yrs?) He also has a UA-cam channel. Best Wishes.
So glad to have come across this video. Will be sharing!
All I see is a lot of talking Medicare and then you're forgotten about in half a mile