In my 20s, I was worried what other people thought about me. In my 40s I didn't care what anyone thought about me. Now in my 60s I realize, no one was ever thinking about me at all.
When you say that you realized no one was ever thinking about you at all up until your 60s, I’m interpreting it as something sad. Can you explain that because that’s deep.
It was meant to be a joke but it has a deeper meaning. Most of us spend a lot of time worrying about what others think of us but everyone else is doing the same thing. Others are focused on themselves not you. We need to live according to our standards and values not those of others. In my 60s I am doing that more and am happier for it. @@mohtown8751
I bought some field notes, because I needed a new notebook, but also, I appreciated this talk. Deciding not to pursue recognition has been something I have tried to make a guiding principle in my life. It's been more difficult at work than I'd like to admit, mainly because many jobs are about developing "brand awareness" of yourself. Being able to speak to your accomplishments, is a skill that is needed in all careers, but doing this with the correct intent is tricky. No answers here, just observations, it sure is difficult not to assimilate into 9to5ness - and it sure does feel like people partition their personalities based on the communities they operate it. I hope we can all figure out how to be our whole selves everywhere we go.
I love your comment about being bored by the idea of an AI version of yourself. The idea of replacing an individual is a failure of imagination because that assumes people will continue to be an extrapolation of who they have already been. Being in my late 30s, I definitely don't want to live out the rest of my life as just a derivative version of who I am now. So glad to see another classic Chase video in the feed. Keep it up, man!
I think we need more videos like this and especially one on books you have read that have led to such enlightenment my brotha!!!! Keep the great vibes going!!!
Ohhhh, how I needed to hear this today. Seriously. Just found your channel this evening when I was searching for stuff about notebooks. That's the first one I saw. Hook, line. So I watched the one about pens. Sinker. Just had to subscribe. Saw this one recommended and felt a sizzle in my brain and now it's totally fried, but in the best way. Thank you from a new butterfly fresh from the goo.
Writing connects us to ourselves more than typing. Typing is universal, writing is unique, a fingerprint of our nervous systems, no two hands the same. Our writing morphs from the childish scrawl to our adult hand and then back to the shaky scrawl of the elderly. People have complained about my handwriting, I tell them as long as I can understand it, its fine. 🤣
Love it Chase! Ram Dass talks about "who you think you are" a lot. Here's a favorite quote - "“Most people are afraid that if they look at what is, they will break-that there will be too much for you. And I would say it is too much for who you think you are, it is not too much for who you are.”
This video came along at a great time in my life. I am on the path moving towards making decisions based on honest and clear thought processes rather than having it clouded by worrying about what others will think. And, working on being my best 63 yr old self rather than having the constant chatter (advertisements etc) of recapturing youth floating around in the background!
I would love to pick your brain for a day. You should start retreats- not to just consult or market- but this kind of information. Jesus marketed this just like that book you read before Montagne. Basically we have to practice humility ❤ Glad you're sharing your mental familial and spiritual insights so candidly that takes courage and we need more of this put out into our universe.
Thank you Chase. Those who watch this in video full will appreciate that you are indeed doing your best to be authentic-especially compared to the sea of UA-camrs and content creators who're always trying to find the next wave of click-bait videos. Deep down, we yearn for people who're authentic and contain strong first principles. We'll always be prisoners to others if we're mostly caring about what they think of us via external validation (I myself have suffered from this in my past). Inevitably, life will often require us to take a leap of faith into the unknown for each new chapter of our lives. Change (whether good or bad) is inevitable, but embracing it and growing with it in each of the many chapters of our life will help us find our true selves-and who we want to (ought to) become.
Thanks for this video Chase. Am at a point in life where this is spot on, because I am seeking my authentic self where I lost it in the recognition that I was seeking from work. Honestly that isn't worth it. Now on a journey to figure out how to embed it and change my life because It was all I knew. It isn't easy, TBC.....
Not seeking recognition or glory. Well, that’s my Instagram account gone then. Great vid and good timing - I’ve been in a rebuild/renaissance period so this is valuable. Thanks.
All progress starts with telling the truth .There is a conundrum between making a video about being authentic and the need to monetize it. However, at least, in my perspective, telling the truth about needing to make money and providing a valuable service or product, or in your case, valuable content, is honorable and truthful. I see no disconnect between telling the truth and a video about authenticity and everyone else knowing that you’re going to make money from it. Altruism is a fallacy in most cases. My brother and I have been talking about the subject and we finally come to the conclusion that philanthropic work is great but please be honest with ourselves and admit that we do it for the glory and how it makes you feel to do good deeds for other people. Don’t fall into the trap of over analyzing motive. We are inherently selfish, and the sooner we admit that to ourselves, and perhaps even publicly then what follows next is authentic.
I hear your points here. I think humans have adapted toward belonging and survival, and that looks a lot of different ways for a lot of different people in today’s world, depending on circumstance. Assuming we have the same definition of “selfish” and “glory,” I have some questions about your experience. Would you not do good deeds if no one ever found out about it or glorified you for it? Do you only pick up trash when someone else is watching and can commend you? Do you only return a wallet full of money to get on the news? Do you only donate money to see your name on a website? No judgment if that is what you do. Just curious. This not my experience. I agree it feels good to us to do good things. But I’m not sure that is only related to ego or external validation. It is my experience that it feels good to live in alignment between values, thoughts, and actions, and to be constantly learning and refining my values with an open mind. If seeking out this alignment and growth is how you define “selfish,” then perhaps that makes me selfish in some people’s view. And I’d be okay with that. That is not how I would define “selfish,” though.
@@AThirstyPhilosopher excellent points, the truth is no I do not pick up trash unless someone else is watching, I do return the wallet regardless of whose watching, or the news is there, but to be truthful, even those acts make me feel good, and are inherently selfish. I don’t define selfish as a bad thing, if we weren’t selfish, economies wouldn’t work. Living an alignment with values and morals is inherently selfish. To be true to my own standards is selfish. To the Degree that selfish activities do not harm others then that is the truest expression of myself. it makes me feel good to fix my wife breakfast in the morning, it helps her and yet it also helps me. I feel good about it and she’s nicer to me and gives me what I want. I’ve helped her and I’ve helped myself as well.
You're skirting on stoicism, Marcus Aurelius wrote, "we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own."
In my 20s, I was worried what other people thought about me. In my 40s I didn't care what anyone thought about me. Now in my 60s I realize, no one was ever thinking about me at all.
When you say that you realized no one was ever thinking about you at all up until your 60s, I’m interpreting it as something sad. Can you explain that because that’s deep.
It was meant to be a joke but it has a deeper meaning. Most of us spend a lot of time worrying about what others think of us but everyone else is doing the same thing. Others are focused on themselves not you. We need to live according to our standards and values not those of others. In my 60s I am doing that more and am happier for it. @@mohtown8751
I bought some field notes, because I needed a new notebook, but also, I appreciated this talk. Deciding not to pursue recognition has been something I have tried to make a guiding principle in my life. It's been more difficult at work than I'd like to admit, mainly because many jobs are about developing "brand awareness" of yourself. Being able to speak to your accomplishments, is a skill that is needed in all careers, but doing this with the correct intent is tricky. No answers here, just observations, it sure is difficult not to assimilate into 9to5ness - and it sure does feel like people partition their personalities based on the communities they operate it. I hope we can all figure out how to be our whole selves everywhere we go.
Good morning when we get a fresh Chase Reeves video. Thanks!
I used to come for the bag reviews and stay for the inspirational musings. So happy to get whole videos like this.
Chase- You’ve always been entertaining and informative…but really appreciating these fireside chats. Nice work.
I love your comment about being bored by the idea of an AI version of yourself. The idea of replacing an individual is a failure of imagination because that assumes people will continue to be an extrapolation of who they have already been. Being in my late 30s, I definitely don't want to live out the rest of my life as just a derivative version of who I am now. So glad to see another classic Chase video in the feed. Keep it up, man!
I just saw two doctors pondering how AI (to crunch the data) must have an HI (human filter) to work !❤
Gosh, I love when you make these types of videos. You're giving off bright and good energy. Sending you love, Chase.
I think we need more videos like this and especially one on books you have read that have led to such enlightenment my brotha!!!! Keep the great vibes going!!!
I totally concur you are so well read and open
@@plramirez2449 I third this!
Ohhhh, how I needed to hear this today. Seriously. Just found your channel this evening when I was searching for stuff about notebooks. That's the first one I saw. Hook, line. So I watched the one about pens. Sinker. Just had to subscribe. Saw this one recommended and felt a sizzle in my brain and now it's totally fried, but in the best way. Thank you from a new butterfly fresh from the goo.
Writing connects us to ourselves more than typing. Typing is universal, writing is unique, a fingerprint of our nervous systems, no two hands the same. Our writing morphs from the childish scrawl to our adult hand and then back to the shaky scrawl of the elderly. People have complained about my handwriting, I tell them as long as I can understand it, its fine. 🤣
Thank you for being you, Chase. Just by doing what you’re doing, you are succeeding.
Love it Chase! Ram Dass talks about "who you think you are" a lot. Here's a favorite quote - "“Most people are afraid that if they look at what is, they will break-that there will be too much for you. And I would say it is too much for who you think you are, it is not too much for who you are.”
This video came along at a great time in my life. I am on the path moving towards making decisions based on honest and clear thought processes rather than having it clouded by worrying about what others will think. And, working on being my best 63 yr old self rather than having the constant chatter (advertisements etc) of recapturing youth floating around in the background!
I would love to pick your brain for a day. You should start retreats- not to just consult or market- but this kind of information. Jesus marketed this just like that book you read before Montagne. Basically we have to practice humility ❤ Glad you're sharing your mental familial and spiritual insights so candidly that takes courage and we need more of this put out into our universe.
I really like when you point “we seek validation”. Technology has increased that.
Seeking validation is just so inherent in our being the idea of not seeking this seems so insurmountable
Thank you Chase. Those who watch this in video full will appreciate that you are indeed doing your best to be authentic-especially compared to the sea of UA-camrs and content creators who're always trying to find the next wave of click-bait videos. Deep down, we yearn for people who're authentic and contain strong first principles. We'll always be prisoners to others if we're mostly caring about what they think of us via external validation (I myself have suffered from this in my past). Inevitably, life will often require us to take a leap of faith into the unknown for each new chapter of our lives. Change (whether good or bad) is inevitable, but embracing it and growing with it in each of the many chapters of our life will help us find our true selves-and who we want to (ought to) become.
Thanks for this video Chase. Am at a point in life where this is spot on, because I am seeking my authentic self where I lost it in the recognition that I was seeking from work. Honestly that isn't worth it. Now on a journey to figure out how to embed it and change my life because It was all I knew. It isn't easy, TBC.....
I'm definitely a fan of the earthy version of Chase.
Not seeking recognition or glory. Well, that’s my Instagram account gone then. Great vid and good timing - I’ve been in a rebuild/renaissance period so this is valuable. Thanks.
Bro. This was a WORD for me today. I know your journey with God has been complicated but never doubt he still speaks through you. ❤
Chase slicing through those Gordian knots!
Cool shirt! I enjoy this type of video also. Will watch a couple times to make sure I get it all unpacked
This is video that I will save and re-Watch several times. I hope to see more of these types of videos in the future.
Awesome video! would love to see and support more like this. Keep it going!!!
amazing vid! love seeing you work through the thought process, and love me some Field Notes!
You emanate wisdom and self-actualization. Thanks for sharing these ideas.
Loved everything about this. I needed it.
Love who you are Chase 🧡
So good! I needed this today. You’re my fave!
Hope you’re well Chase . Much love from Oz .. chin up ! 🫡
Please come and do a speech in London at some point. I feel like we have a lot to learn from you!
Signed up, cant wait to go full goo!
This video is so fucking dope man. I’m glad you made this
Love it Chase, def needed this today 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Make a cup of coffee, break a piece of dark chocolate, sit outside and enjoy, because permanence is an illusion.
My man. thank you to be you!
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Hi Chase. How can I be your self?
- An other
Hi Jay. This comment is epic.
All progress starts with telling the truth .There is a conundrum between making a video about being authentic and the need to monetize it. However, at least, in my perspective, telling the truth about needing to make money and providing a valuable service or product, or in your case, valuable content, is honorable and truthful. I see no disconnect between telling the truth and a video about authenticity and everyone else knowing that you’re going to make money from it. Altruism is a fallacy in most cases. My brother and I have been talking about the subject and we finally come to the conclusion that philanthropic work is great but please be honest with ourselves and admit that we do it for the glory and how it makes you feel to do good deeds for other people.
Don’t fall into the trap of over analyzing motive. We are inherently selfish, and the sooner we admit that to ourselves, and perhaps even publicly then what follows next is authentic.
I hear your points here. I think humans have adapted toward belonging and survival, and that looks a lot of different ways for a lot of different people in today’s world, depending on circumstance.
Assuming we have the same definition of “selfish” and “glory,” I have some questions about your experience.
Would you not do good deeds if no one ever found out about it or glorified you for it? Do you only pick up trash when someone else is watching and can commend you? Do you only return a wallet full of money to get on the news? Do you only donate money to see your name on a website? No judgment if that is what you do. Just curious. This not my experience.
I agree it feels good to us to do good things. But I’m not sure that is only related to ego or external validation. It is my experience that it feels good to live in alignment between values, thoughts, and actions, and to be constantly learning and refining my values with an open mind. If seeking out this alignment and growth is how you define “selfish,” then perhaps that makes me selfish in some people’s view. And I’d be okay with that. That is not how I would define “selfish,” though.
@@AThirstyPhilosopher excellent points, the truth is no I do not pick up trash unless someone else is watching, I do return the wallet regardless of whose watching, or the news is there, but to be truthful, even those acts make me feel good, and are inherently selfish. I don’t define selfish as a bad thing, if we weren’t selfish, economies wouldn’t work.
Living an alignment with values and morals is inherently selfish. To be true to my own standards is selfish. To the Degree that selfish activities do not harm others then that is the truest expression of myself. it makes me feel good to fix my wife breakfast in the morning, it helps her and yet it also helps me. I feel good about it and she’s nicer to me and gives me what I want. I’ve helped her and I’ve helped myself as well.
after watching this video, I'm wondering if chase used those field note pages to smoke a joint. asking for a friend.