Hey Flight attendant here :) please do not ever feel ashamed to ask for a seat belt extender! It is no big deal for us to grab one for you and deliver it discreetly. Just got off a flight where the turbulence got so bad we were lifted off our seats. We want to keep everyone safe! Now as far as the purchasing a second seat it really depends. Of course if a flight is normally kinda open probably not necessary to buy another seat. However you know yourself and if you know you need a second seat it is more comfortable for you and your neighbors to get a second seat, especially if it's a long flight.
Bianca Pradia great to know. I flew for the first time and I needed a seat belt extender and I asked for one with no hesitation or problem. I'm a big girl...hmmm Im already ahead of the bar..lol
@@LifeChanges83 I am 5'6 285 lbs had no issues except for one flight with Delta it was a small older plane. I had to ask for one. I felt a tad embarrassed so I got nervous and my connecting flight I asked before I was even seated down I saw the flight attendant and asked for one and she brought me one discreetly and actually didn't even need it for that flight. The flight attendants are really amazing about being discreet and not judgmental. Hope this helps
No one needs to apologize for who they are but they do need to apologize for taking up other people's space that they paid for! I am a big girl, so believe me I sympathize. however, flying is already stressful and it is already a small space. If you encroach on people space you need to be apologetic and do your best to minimize their added discomfort by purchasing an extra space seat or 2 seats or whatever is needed for them not to lose their right to what they purchased
I'm thinking that airlines should have a sample seat at check-in, of you don't fit, you dont fit. You need another seat. If there isnt one because the flight is full, it's not fair to expect someone else to stand or lose their flight because you didn't plan accordingly.
There's a trend with this subject. Larger people don't see it as a problem, however stick 3 plus size people in a row and see how your flight goes. Other people shouldn't have to be inconvenienced by others for whatever reason. Me personally it wouldn't bother me for a short hour flight but any longer then I'd rather wait for another flight then have my personal space invaded like that. And that's not down to my fault but the larger person sat next to me. That poor guy that had to stand for a 7 hour flight because of someone else. Paying for a seat he couldn't even use smh
Don't apologize for who you are, no. But DO apologize if you are knocking the living shit out of people with your hips as you walk down the aisle. Same applies to a thin person if they bump someone hard.
Never never not ask for a seat belt extender it you can't buckle. You do it once and the 2nd time is easier. I usually asked when I got on the plane when the attendants are greeting you. They are always very discreet. Be safe.
if you are over weight... or plus size. Buy two seats! If you bump into someone while on the plane. Know you surrounding and understand that you may invade other peoples space! Apologies for intruding other peoples space! Its called being self aware! If you are over weight or plus size! just remember other people paid for their seat just like you! If you are invading other peoples space on a plane it is rude and just down right obnoxious! You are not special! You are not SPECIAL! You need to be self aware!
if you are this plus sized just buy two seats. taking up someone's seat is not cool. if i was that big i would buy two chairs but then i would try to lose weight before flying. it is not about people being mean because everyone is fighting for space on the plane.
Great video! I recently flew from Kansas City, to Kuwait...Totaling 15 hours in the air, and boarding 3 planes. This was the first time flying at my current size: 30W. I learned that people are not as judgemental on planes as I thought. The flight attendants discreetly handed me a seatbelt extension, and asked several times if I was comfortable. They allowed me to board first, so I wouldn't have to bump everyone as I walked past, and I was treated with the utmost respect. Now, on the flights back...Rude AF in Kuwait (asked me if I flew before, because of my size, and I was like...how do you think I got to Kuwait you dick), and once on the plane, no problems. Flew to France, and they were ABSOLUTELY LOVELY! Hopefully I won't run into a bad scenario. I have been truly blessed to have good experiences, and I am usually the biggest person on the plane. I snuggle up to my husband, and I try to stand up or walk around a bit to avoid leg swelling. Just because people are overweight doesn't mean they can't enjoy life and travel too. There are far more important issues in life other than worrying about if you're going to sit next to a snuggly, fat person on a plane. People need to get over it!
Awe, thank you so much for telling me this. I usually don't comment on videos, especially to share a personal story, but for some reason, I felt compelled to do so here.
Piper no one cares if you are fat, but we will care when you are coming into our space, touching us and overhanging the arm rest. If we have pod for our seat just like u then understand why we may get annoyed uncomfortable and frustrated if you are eating into our already small space. It’s not just a case of get over it.
I bought an extender years ago, and I'm so glad I did. Some planes don't accept your own personal extender, but all one has to do is ask. II bought my extender on eBay years ago at a very affordable price. I also sit in the window seat. Due to some back issues, I have to ask for transport to the gate, and sometimes, that can be challenging if there are no carts available. Unless I set it up beforehand, I have to ask for an attendant to wheel me to the gate, but I make sure to have some extra cash in order to tip either the cart driver or attendant. I make sure to also use the bathroom before I board the plane, as well, so I don't have to bother with needing to use the bathroom in an airplane.
Nothing worse then sitting next to a +++ size person who won’t try to give you room. I flew to IL last year and had to sit next to a woman who just melted into the seat, hogged the arm rest to a point that her arm was spilling onto mine . she gave me a weird look every time her arm touched mine and it took everything in me not to just say “ I can’t help it if your arm is literally flowing onto mine” I don’t think large people realize that trying to make yourself smaller for a large person is extremely uncomfortable for more then 30 minutes. Just take the aisle seat and be happy with it. Being 6’3 isn’t comfortable on a flight. So don’t get angry that you have so much fat in under your skin that even though I’m trying my hardest to shove my own elbows into my side, your skin is touching me without you even trying. Also I never complained but when that lady went to the bathroom It was heaven for about 5 minutes while I stretched my scrunched up legs and arms, then back to hell for another 40 minutes when she came back and took over the arm rest. P.S I traded her my aisle seat for middle when she started complaining that she was cramped, and she still would just take over the arm rest.
I am a plus size woman who has to fly for work. First, let me say, It is agonizing for me. I make myself sick with anxiety for days leading up to the flight. That being said, I try VERY hard not to encroach in the space of others. I fit with the armrest with no problems, in fact, I prefer it down as a barrier between me and my neighbor. What is most difficult for me is keeping my arms inside my arm rest because I have very broad shoulders. Being the largest woman on the plane, NOT weight wise but in height and build sucks. I spend my entire flight scrunched up as well.
You have some that are selfish about that arm rest. I like the aisle. I'm plus size. That way I have more room to lean toward the aisle plus I have that arm rest. Give my neighbor the other.
This is so important! Thanks for doing this. I purchased an extender for myself years ago and it's a game changer. I typically fly American and only once it didn't fit on one of their planes. But I've also learned that there is no shame in asking. I just ask as if it's normal, as it is for me!!
Where have you been all my life? I've been watching video after video looking for someone like you for freaking years! Now i can't stop watching your videos. You are so gorgeous and such an inspiration! My confidence has already boosted listening to your positive words! Preach girl! 🖒❤
Here are my tips for traveling: 1. Ask for an extender when boarding (Just keep theirs and use it on other flights! A Delta stewardess told me to keep it!) 2. Preboard if you can (I felt self conscious about it before but then realized it isn't hurting anyone and it makes me feel so much better) 3. Sit in the aisle seat
God bless you!! Seriously i get nervous and anxious lol. Thank you forrealz!! Hearing you speak with such confidents gave me so much comfort and ease of this stupid flying seat thing. Stay blessed❤🙏
Good video. I used to fly US Air quite often, On my 1st flight, they gave me a seatbelt extender. 20 years later, I still have it. No, I didn't steal it. The Flight Attendant told me to keep it. I've even loaned it to friends who asked to use it on their trips.
Hi! Your video on flying fat was so incredible and so helpful. I'm a fluffy woman. I don't fly for that reason and I struggle with claustrophobic. I do feel better about it Thanks Stella....You go girl!!
Do people actually care about sitting next to fat people on airplanes? That sucks I never thought about how much social anxiety that would bring on. I'm too worried I'm going to plumpet to my death. Someoje else's weight doesn't even cross my mind.
For me it's about personal space and less about weight specifically and more about how much space they take up. Being thin doesn't mean you don't get in other people's space.
Failmom never wish to sit next to one. U can’t drop the arm rest and you’ll be sitting uncomfortably. Never thought about it till it happened to me. Anyway I insisted on dropping the arm rest because I’m not staying fit to suffer for someone who isn’t. She complained the whole flight but I was plugged. Couldn’t care less as I paid 🤷🏾♀️
I ordered myself a seatbelt extender as well! There are two types of seatbelts; Southwest is the only airline I know of that uses a different kind. I used Amazon for mine.
I had the good fortune I was on Delta and it wasn’t crowded and I had bought the upgrade to comfort plus and the seat I was in the armrest didn’t move (old plane) and the attendant let me move to a row of three seats and I had my own row to myself. Another tip is if you fly American Airlines, they have regional jets that have a 2x1 configuration. These are ideal as they have more leg room and you are next to the window and you have your own seat to yourself, which I do lift the armrest up if I feel a bit snug.
I have flown a lot for work and pleasure over several decades. I have always been overweight to fat, but the really real is that the sears have become smaller with less leg room over the years, as the corporations try to stuff more folks on each flight, especially the more popular routes. The act of traveling by air, even in economy, used to have an air of glamour attached to it, now we are like spam in a can hurtling through the air. I appreciated most your tip about buying an extender!! Great one! I always sit in the window seat, but have been stuck in the middle on more than a couple occasions Urgh! Happy Trails!
and here I thought it was just common curtesy to always get up if someone not on the aisle seat has to go to the bathroom. I don't care what size you are skinny or plus size, I'm always going to get up because it's just easier that way. I wish seats in general weren't so small. Everyone would just be happier I had a 6 hour red eye flight and My seat wouldn't go back. Everyone is sleeping, and this man behind was extremely large like 400lbs which stopped my chair going back at all. I sat straight up the whole night flight miserable. I had to stop trying to recline my chair because the guy woke up upset. it was a full flight and I didn't even bother getting the flight attendant. Best solution is bigger seats for everyone.
New subbie here!! And I pretty much hate flying. I'm down 62 pounds from 316 but still have a ways to go. But thanks for these awesome tips. I would be honored to have your support on my weightloss journey. Thank you
I flew for the first time last year and I did NOT want to ask for an extender. That seatbelt was almost cutting me in half. Luckily I didn't have to sit next to anyone both flights. I was anxious about both things and still am.
I was on a 16 hour flight. I asked my TA to book a premium economy but he said it wasn't necessary. I sat in an aisle seat and I think I kept my butt off my neighbors seat. I did not use the armrest so he could use the armrest. He was very tall and one of his knees was in my seat. Well, we lived through it.
OMG this happened to me on my flight to Cuba I am very like small from the bottom and up top I'm bigger so yeah the stewardess see's my big arms and my big stomach I guess but the seat belt fit and so I clicked it and I had it on so the stewardess comes over and says do you need this and she shows me the extender and I told her no I have mines on and she was like oh it fits super loud I was so embarrassed I should have reported her but it is what it is I mean I truly understand your video and thank you so much for doing that for us in the plus-size Community because some people just show us how to wear makeup and clothes and they don't talk about things like this you're really getting down to real basic stuff that happens to us on a daily and I truly appreciate that
Great tips! I’m actually on a flight right now headed home and I am plus size. Delta is a very comfortable airline and they make you feel comfortable as well 😊
Hi came across your video please excuse I’m old I’m overweight and loved your confidence about flying I’m flying for the first time next and am really worried about my weight but after watching u I now feel a lot better about it all so thank u so much 💙
I took my first adult since childhood ,flight from NY to ATL... I was fine until I realized u needed an extender ,it seemed that everyone on my flight was tired bc quickly everyone was buckled in and quiet ready to go.I stopped the attendant and whispered for an extender ,but it was so quiet it was if I was yelling .The couple next to me where very nice they smiled ,and the husband who was in the middle even tried to wiggle over a but to give my hug hips a bit more room.My anxiety was so high and I was so tired I feel asleep ,so that helped me not to have an actual full on anixety attack.It sounds crazy but until I loose weight I refuse to fly again ,I just can't handle the stress ,I don't travel much,and when I do it's to visit family, so I bus it in which I always have two seats ( bc the bus is always half full)and is less stressful for me ...
Airlines keep making seats smaller. It's horribly uncomfortable for everyone. If they just redesigned to diagonal seat rows everyone could get more space
@@amdl270 there would still be seatbelts, and people who are too fat would still need extenders, and be big enough for it to be a problem. If you dont fit into an airplane seat, you're too fat. Lose some weight. It's not hard. I've lost 60lbs, it wasnt difficult.
Amy Lake me personally i lost around 30 pounds quite easily but for people who are really overweight or even obese, they most likely have a food addiction. it’s not necessarily “easy” but doesn’t mean they should be weak minded. it’s like an alcoholic or drug addict overcoming their addiction so eh 🤷🏼♀️
Fly Southwest, buy 2 seats. In the middle name portion put "XS", after your flight call and request a refund. Or you can request one in person when you arrive and hopefully they have some availabile.
Honestly my greatest fears with flying are: flying with children (especially toddlers) who scream and cry during the flight, and sitting next to a huge person who will spill into my seat. I think there should be separate flights or better seats for bigger folks and flights for people with children. Like when you book your ticket, have the option of selecting your weight, also if you want to be on a flight with and potentially sit next to a big person and if you are willing to be on a flight with children. No prejudice at all, but I just want a comfortable flight, and I don’t mind paying a little extra for it. But a quick question tho, don’t you think that if you are too big to fit a regular flight seat, you should maybe consider changing somethings??? 🤔🤔
Seat belt extender is so great! I'm traveling with my friend who is concerned she won't fit in the seat, but I don't want to buy it for her (she might get offended). I'm just always wanting to be prepared... But I'm sure if we ask the flight attendant it'll be cool.
Thank you so much! Your tips have helped me so much, I will purchase my own seatbelt extender because I do not enjoy drawing too much attention to myself on flights.
I love your extender idea! I've developed a little trick to ask for one n' keep it private that's worked pretty well over the past few years. :) I just write my request out for one on the message field of my texting app & show it to the stewardess after I've beckoned her over, gesturing discreetly. :) It's helped SO much, and has proven a great way to keep my need for an extender private, if I do end up needing one. :)
The nice thing with Southwest flights are that the seats are pretty spacious. I've been taking 16 hour flights on Philippine Airlines and let me tell you, if you're plus size, it isn't fun to ride economy class, even in a front row seat, because the seats are so narrow! If ever anyone decides to fly PAL, save up and fly business class.
On South west you can buy and extra seat and when you get back you can call and ask for a refund. Yes you will have to shell out the extra money up front but you do get it back. Its an easy way to make sure you have enough room. You will get the extra seat pass that you set on the seat next to you AND YOU CAN PRE BOARD. You'll be one of the first 5 people to board the plane which allows you to choose pretty much any row you want.
On a day in which I had 2 flights. The first flight was a bit uncomfortable because the lady next to me was taking up a couple of inches of my back seat. Makes matters worse is that she wasn't actually larger than me so she had no reason to take part of my seat. I had to tell her to move because I wasn't able to fully sit on the seat. On the next flight, their was a guy who was clearly much, much larger than me. He had the isle seat just like the lady did and he didn't take much of my space. I was able to fully lie on the seat and the only issue was that my arm was against his.
I am a plus size women. I wear size 15-16. I can say I fit fine not perfect in a economy seat. I feel for us plus size women the aisle seats and the Window seats are definitely the best. For me I hate people in my space and I hate being in theirs so I either push my self close enough to the wall or out towards the eisle. For me if the person isnt all the way in my space to where I feel claustrophobic and they smell good im fine. 💁
Please, I DO NOT urinate in those nasty bathrooms. I am 5'10" and wear 16/18/20 (tops). My height and size make bathroom runs uncomfortable. I urinate just before boarding. I don't need a seatbelt extender, but I do put up the arm rest for more room. I get the window seats because I like the view. Middle seats are out and I don't like everyone brushing up on me for aisle seats.
I am over weight but I always fit into my seat with armrests down and without extenders. I would feel horrible if I spilled over into someone else’s paid space and I would definitely not want any one in my paid space.
Girl I live in Edgewood, east of baltimore, next time you are home I really want to give you a hug! you have helped me so much with body image and just feeling okay about who I am.
You are so beautiful! I just found your channel and im binging rn!! I just started my own weight loss journey/channel and this is so relatable! New sub here! 😁❤
I'm a bigger girl, not huge but overweight. Me and my 5 month old son are flying on a 5 hr flight, I bought 3 tickets for us so we won't have to deal with feeling uncomfortable or making anyone else feel uncomfortable.
Thank you for this video.... I have a trip to Costa Rica in July with my son and we are flying southwest and until I saw your video I was freaking out being plus size and all... I have no idea how I came across your video but I'm really glad I did...
@@amylake9064 you shouldn't assume that ppl eat alot just cause they're overweight. Different factors can be the cause. I dont recall ask for weightloss tips but thank you. 💋
@@jesseniaalmora9419 there's no other factors that directly influence weight. Unless you have PCOS or a thyroid problem (which, by the way, only account for 10-20lbs maximum, and the impacts on weight are cured with proper medication), if you are fat it is because you eat too much. The body stores excess calories as fat, if you have excess fat, you regularly consume excess calories.
@@amylake9064 like I said Amy no one was asking for your advice or opinion. You don't know me personally so you have no say. May God bless you forever and always.
I'm with you. I usually fly Delta and some seat belts are shorter than others. I don't even care anymore I'll just ask for a seat belt extender if I can't buckle it. It's never been a problem before. Also I choose a window seat so I can try to be as far away as my seat mate as possible. But as I usually fly alone I get paired with another solo passenger. It makes for some interesting conversations sometimes.
Something about flying while fat: all of these videos I see are addressing commercial flights. On private planes, charter or otherwise, there may be weight restrictions. This is because some of the smaller planes can literally be out of balance (I am not joking) with a large person in a seat, and takeoff weight limits might be encountered. On a 4 place Mooney, for example, the useful weight limit including ALL passengers and ALL luggage, is about 1000 lbs. So, pilot and his gear is 200. The other 3 people who have hired the plane cannot exceed 800 lbs, WITH luggage COMBINED. Laws of physics set the limit, not political correctness.
BS. Nobody likes strangers touching them. It doesn't really matter what they look like, if they invade your personal space, you will not like it or them
These comments are ridiculous! I am a plus size flyer. And I always call the airline after I purchase a ticket so I can get the seating pass for the seat next to me just because I know I spill over. I'm very "hippy". We should not be apologetic for being a plus size flyer. Because to be honest those seats are too small for anyone who isnt a size 2. Pee before your flight, Dress comfy, and use a seatbelt extender. Lol
Lol no, you must be massive if you think only a size 2 could fit into a plane seat. People can be obese, even morbidly obese (BMI 40), and still fit into a single plane seat. You must be fucking huge.
I think there should be options to get more seats for an extra fee if your butt needs it. So let's say your seat is 600$ then each extra seat could be 200
Omg thank you so much I'm always trying to think of ways to make flying more confortable.I usually buy 2 seats a window and the middle but it can still be kinda awkward.I diddent think about a seatbelt extenders and just buying my own.thanks for all the good tips.
Fly Southwest Airlines if possible. You can purchase 2 seats, one as Extra Seat. When you cehck in you get first boarding and get an extra seta. YHou have to pay intially, but get reimbursed the entire money.
Why would you purchase a seat belt extender? Better tip, as you are boarding the plane say to the stewardess that you are going to need a seat belt extender. Ask her if she can help you with that. It should be no problem. You may also let them know at gate check in. Kathy B.
I ask for an extended AS SOON as I step foot on the plane. I had no idea that you can buy one on your own. I mind my business and definitely not apologetic. I feel like I've gained so much weight since last year, so I ended up purchasing a bigger seat up front to lower some of that anxiety. My first time doing it...we'll see how it goes
On a 16 hour flight. I'm overweight. The guy next to me has very long legs. Even I have trouble finding room for my legs. I don't know if I encroached on his space but his knees were encroaching on me. I asked my travel consultant for economy plus but for some reason he didn't book it for me. I got a seatbelt extender on one flight but it made my seatbelt too lose so I ditched it.
Thank you so much Stella! I haven't traveled anywhere, I couldn't drive, in years since I've gotten bigger and had the most embarrassing experience when I couldn't fit the seat belt.
Yes! Get yo snacks Queen! I love it! I agree, let's stop apologizing for being heavy. Lol I normally fly alone but I like to get me a flight boyfriend that I have met in the airport lol then he can seat next to me.
Hey Stella, I've flown many times and I squeeze in a window seat but for a few years I've hidden that the belt doesn't fit. I always fake it and hide it under my jacket. I know it's not safe. I had no idea you can get your own. I fly again this week. I know that it may not work for every airline and they may say no. Have you ever had issues even getting through s eer ccuruty with it?
I fly SW too. I never had an issue till one day one of the stewardess before i got on the plane gave me a "reserved seat" so now every time i go i mention that she did that so i get a seat reserve and i get on first with the family gets on. I never thought about buying my own extender.
Hey Flight attendant here :) please do not ever feel ashamed to ask for a seat belt extender! It is no big deal for us to grab one for you and deliver it discreetly. Just got off a flight where the turbulence got so bad we were lifted off our seats. We want to keep everyone safe! Now as far as the purchasing a second seat it really depends. Of course if a flight is normally kinda open probably not necessary to buy another seat. However you know yourself and if you know you need a second seat it is more comfortable for you and your neighbors to get a second seat, especially if it's a long flight.
Bianca Pradia great to know. I flew for the first time and I needed a seat belt extender and I asked for one with no hesitation or problem. I'm a big girl...hmmm Im already ahead of the bar..lol
Heeyyy so I can ask once I board the plane?
@@LifeChanges83 I am 5'6 285 lbs had no issues except for one flight with Delta it was a small older plane. I had to ask for one. I felt a tad embarrassed so I got nervous and my connecting flight I asked before I was even seated down I saw the flight attendant and asked for one and she brought me one discreetly and actually didn't even need it for that flight. The flight attendants are really amazing about being discreet and not judgmental. Hope this helps
No one needs to apologize for who they are but they do need to apologize for taking up other people's space that they paid for! I am a big girl, so believe me I sympathize. however, flying is already stressful and it is already a small space. If you encroach on people space you need to be apologetic and do your best to minimize their added discomfort by purchasing an extra space seat or 2 seats or whatever is needed for them not to lose their right to what they purchased
drnostalgia1 thank you for being considerate 🙏
I'm thinking that airlines should have a sample seat at check-in, of you don't fit, you dont fit. You need another seat. If there isnt one because the flight is full, it's not fair to expect someone else to stand or lose their flight because you didn't plan accordingly.
Christian Foster that’s a great idea
Just get a business class seat, it's cheaper than getting two standard seats and bonus attention as well. Now everyone is happy
There's a trend with this subject. Larger people don't see it as a problem, however stick 3 plus size people in a row and see how your flight goes. Other people shouldn't have to be inconvenienced by others for whatever reason.
Me personally it wouldn't bother me for a short hour flight but any longer then I'd rather wait for another flight then have my personal space invaded like that. And that's not down to my fault but the larger person sat next to me.
That poor guy that had to stand for a 7 hour flight because of someone else. Paying for a seat he couldn't even use smh
T Ben
You can remain standing on a plane?
@@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249 Probz if you don't have a choice
Don't apologize for who you are, no. But DO apologize if you are knocking the living shit out of people with your hips as you walk down the aisle. Same applies to a thin person if they bump someone hard.
Never never not ask for a seat belt extender it you can't buckle. You do it once and the 2nd time is easier. I usually asked when I got on the plane when the attendants are greeting you. They are always very discreet. Be safe.
I was so shy to ask the first time. Now I'm like, whatever, I'm fat, I need a seatbelt extender. Sometimes they aren't very accommodating though.
Yes that’s what I do! Immediately as they are greeting you
Holy fuck you cant fit in the seat belt. How fat are americans
I think i would die of embarrassment
I keep it so I never have to ask for one again.
I feel self conscious about going to the bathroom...just giving lap dances as I pass by 😂
I laughed so hard at this comment
I can't Aleyah!! lololol!!! good comment!
Aleyah Malone Lmaoooooo me toooo girl 💘💘💘💘
Lol
Same. I've never went on a plane so awkward.
Oh so even YOU don’t wanna sit next to a fat person. Yes be unapologetic when your fat is spilling into the seat next to you.
GURL JUST BUY 2 SEATS
if you are over weight... or plus size. Buy two seats!
If you bump into someone while on the plane. Know you surrounding and understand that you may invade other peoples space! Apologies for intruding other peoples space! Its called being self aware!
If you are over weight or plus size! just remember other people paid for their seat just like you!
If you are invading other peoples space on a plane it is rude and just down right obnoxious! You are not special! You are not SPECIAL! You need to be self aware!
Stephen Mills you wrote all that why?
Stephen Mills 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@NeDibles Think about it. Not hard to figure out.
if you are this plus sized just buy two seats. taking up someone's seat is not cool. if i was that big i would buy two chairs but then i would try to lose weight before flying. it is not about people being mean because everyone is fighting for space on the plane.
Great video! I recently flew from Kansas City, to Kuwait...Totaling 15 hours in the air, and boarding 3 planes. This was the first time flying at my current size: 30W. I learned that people are not as judgemental on planes as I thought. The flight attendants discreetly handed me a seatbelt extension, and asked several times if I was comfortable. They allowed me to board first, so I wouldn't have to bump everyone as I walked past, and I was treated with the utmost respect. Now, on the flights back...Rude AF in Kuwait (asked me if I flew before, because of my size, and I was like...how do you think I got to Kuwait you dick), and once on the plane, no problems. Flew to France, and they were ABSOLUTELY LOVELY! Hopefully I won't run into a bad scenario. I have been truly blessed to have good experiences, and I am usually the biggest person on the plane. I snuggle up to my husband, and I try to stand up or walk around a bit to avoid leg swelling. Just because people are overweight doesn't mean they can't enjoy life and travel too. There are far more important issues in life other than worrying about if you're going to sit next to a snuggly, fat person on a plane. People need to get over it!
Awe, thank you so much for telling me this. I usually don't comment on videos, especially to share a personal story, but for some reason, I felt compelled to do so here.
As long as you are comfortable then fuck the people who have to sit next to you right?
Piper no one cares if you are fat, but we will care when you are coming into our space, touching us and overhanging the arm rest. If we have pod for our seat just like u then understand why we may get annoyed uncomfortable and frustrated if you are eating into our already small space. It’s not just a case of get over it.
So, did you buy two seats or just one? I’m curious, I’m plus size and I’m terrified that my seat will be to small.
Thank you for posting this. Glad to know you have had good experiences more often than not.
I bought an extender years ago, and I'm so glad I did. Some planes don't accept your own personal extender, but all one has to do is ask. II bought my extender on eBay years ago at a very affordable price. I also sit in the window seat.
Due to some back issues, I have to ask for transport to the gate, and sometimes, that can be challenging if there are no carts available. Unless I set it up beforehand, I have to ask for an attendant to wheel me to the gate, but I make sure to have some extra cash in order to tip either the cart driver or attendant. I make sure to also use the bathroom before I board the plane, as well, so I don't have to bother with needing to use the bathroom in an airplane.
Nothing worse then sitting next to a +++ size person who won’t try to give you room.
I flew to IL last year and had to sit next to a woman who just melted into the seat, hogged the arm rest to a point that her arm was spilling onto mine . she gave me a weird look every time her arm touched mine and it took everything in me not to just say “ I can’t help it if your arm is literally flowing onto mine”
I don’t think large people realize that trying to make yourself smaller for a large person is extremely uncomfortable for more then 30 minutes. Just take the aisle seat and be happy with it. Being 6’3 isn’t comfortable on a flight. So don’t get angry that you have so much fat in under your skin that even though I’m trying my hardest to shove my own elbows into my side, your skin is touching me without you even trying. Also I never complained but when that lady went to the bathroom It was heaven for about 5 minutes while I stretched my scrunched up legs and arms, then back to hell for another 40 minutes when she came back and took over the arm rest.
P.S I traded her my aisle seat for middle when she started complaining that she was cramped, and she still would just take over the arm rest.
I am a plus size woman who has to fly for work. First, let me say, It is agonizing for me. I make myself sick with anxiety for days leading up to the flight. That being said, I try VERY hard not to encroach in the space of others. I fit with the armrest with no problems, in fact, I prefer it down as a barrier between me and my neighbor. What is most difficult for me is keeping my arms inside my arm rest because I have very broad shoulders. Being the largest woman on the plane, NOT weight wise but in height and build sucks. I spend my entire flight scrunched up as well.
You have some that are selfish about that arm rest. I like the aisle. I'm plus size. That way I have more room to lean toward the aisle plus I have that arm rest. Give my neighbor the other.
Being 6-10 on a flight is not comfortable either. 😄 im not overweight but have to pay for special seat every flight.
This is so important! Thanks for doing this. I purchased an extender for myself years ago and it's a game changer. I typically fly American and only once it didn't fit on one of their planes. But I've also learned that there is no shame in asking. I just ask as if it's normal, as it is for me!!
You are so right when i dress up and travel the vibe is so much better.
Where have you been all my life? I've been watching video after video looking for someone like you for freaking years! Now i can't stop watching your videos. You are so gorgeous and such an inspiration! My confidence has already boosted listening to your positive words! Preach girl! 🖒❤
Good information Stella. Its amazing how much" thinking" is going on in the airport. Thanks.Derekd
Here are my tips for traveling:
1. Ask for an extender when boarding (Just keep theirs and use it on other flights! A Delta stewardess told me to keep it!)
2. Preboard if you can (I felt self conscious about it before but then realized it isn't hurting anyone and it makes me feel so much better)
3. Sit in the aisle seat
You have a new subscriber! I just started my channel, and it is so refreshing to see positive people like you on here. It gives me hope.
God bless you!! Seriously i get nervous and anxious lol. Thank you forrealz!! Hearing you speak with such confidents gave me so much comfort and ease of this stupid flying seat thing. Stay blessed❤🙏
I hate seats. Like at a movie theater, church or anything where I have to say excuse me and squeeze past them.
Good video. I used to fly US Air quite often, On my 1st flight, they gave me a seatbelt extender. 20 years later, I still have it. No, I didn't steal it. The Flight Attendant told me to keep it. I've even loaned it to friends who asked to use it on their trips.
Hi! Your video on flying fat was so incredible and so helpful. I'm a fluffy woman. I don't fly for that reason and I struggle with claustrophobic. I do feel better about it Thanks Stella....You go girl!!
Do people actually care about sitting next to fat people on airplanes? That sucks I never thought about how much social anxiety that would bring on. I'm too worried I'm going to plumpet to my death. Someoje else's weight doesn't even cross my mind.
For me it's about personal space and less about weight specifically and more about how much space they take up. Being thin doesn't mean you don't get in other people's space.
Failmom never wish to sit next to one. U can’t drop the arm rest and you’ll be sitting uncomfortably. Never thought about it till it happened to me. Anyway I insisted on dropping the arm rest because I’m not staying fit to suffer for someone who isn’t. She complained the whole flight but I was plugged. Couldn’t care less as I paid 🤷🏾♀️
it's about touching strangers...it's not about size really...it's just people don't want to touch strangers usually.
well if someone is practically sitting me I will care.
I recently had to take 2 14 hour flights, and the thought of being wedged between two fat people terrified me
I ordered myself a seatbelt extender as well! There are two types of seatbelts; Southwest is the only airline I know of that uses a different kind. I used Amazon for mine.
I had the good fortune I was on Delta and it wasn’t crowded and I had bought the upgrade to comfort plus and the seat I was in the armrest didn’t move (old plane) and the attendant let me move to a row of three seats and I had my own row to myself. Another tip is if you fly American Airlines, they have regional jets that have a 2x1 configuration. These are ideal as they have more leg room and you are next to the window and you have your own seat to yourself, which I do lift the armrest up if I feel a bit snug.
I have flown a lot for work and pleasure over several decades. I have always been overweight to fat, but the really real is that the sears have become smaller with less leg room over the years, as the corporations try to stuff more folks on each flight, especially the more popular routes. The act of traveling by air, even in economy, used to have an air of glamour attached to it, now we are like spam in a can hurtling through the air. I appreciated most your tip about buying an extender!! Great one! I always sit in the window seat, but have been stuck in the middle on more than a couple occasions Urgh! Happy Trails!
I bought my seat belt extender on Amazon if anyone is searching :)
MID-MICH-VLOGS what the hell so damn funny?
I loooove this video. I'm flying somewhere in February & I was feeling some type of way. Thank you for sharing this. I needed it 💜
and here I thought it was just common curtesy to always get up if someone not on the aisle seat has to go to the bathroom. I don't care what size you are skinny or plus size, I'm always going to get up because it's just easier that way.
I wish seats in general weren't so small. Everyone would just be happier
I had a 6 hour red eye flight and My seat wouldn't go back. Everyone is sleeping, and this man behind was extremely large like 400lbs which stopped my chair going back at all. I sat straight up the whole night flight miserable. I had to stop trying to recline my chair because the guy woke up upset. it was a full flight and I didn't even bother getting the flight attendant.
Best solution is bigger seats for everyone.
I will be flying to New Zealand in March and if I have to sit next to a large person, I am going to be kind and respectful to them.
Thanks so much. Don't apologize for being Who You Are. I needed to hear that
I agree that u should pay for the space u take up even if it’s not ur seat bc that’s the right and respectful thing to do:)
Going down the aisle sideways also presents the butt & crotch issue, which adds to the awkwardness.
New subbie here!! And I pretty much hate flying. I'm down 62 pounds from 316 but still have a ways to go. But thanks for these awesome tips. I would be honored to have your support on my weightloss journey. Thank you
On point. I didn't go to a major family event because of this. I can't wait to pick up an extender.
I flew for the first time last year and I did NOT want to ask for an extender. That seatbelt was almost cutting me in half. Luckily I didn't have to sit next to anyone both flights. I was anxious about both things and still am.
I was on a 16 hour flight. I asked my TA to book a premium economy but he said it wasn't necessary. I sat in an aisle seat and I think I kept my butt off my neighbors seat. I did not use the armrest so he could use the armrest. He was very tall and one of his knees was in my seat. Well, we lived through it.
I’ve use to be so worried about flying and videos like this helped so much. Great video.
OMG this happened to me on my flight to Cuba I am very like small from the bottom and up top I'm bigger so yeah the stewardess see's my big arms and my big stomach I guess but the seat belt fit and so I clicked it and I had it on so the stewardess comes over and says do you need this and she shows me the extender and I told her no I have mines on and she was like oh it fits super loud I was so embarrassed I should have reported her but it is what it is I mean I truly understand your video and thank you so much for doing that for us in the plus-size Community because some people just show us how to wear makeup and clothes and they don't talk about things like this you're really getting down to real basic stuff that happens to us on a daily and I truly appreciate that
Great tips! I’m actually on a flight right now headed home and I am plus size. Delta is a very comfortable airline and they make you feel comfortable as well 😊
Hi came across your video please excuse I’m old I’m overweight and loved your confidence about flying I’m flying for the first time next and am really worried about my weight but after watching u I now feel a lot better about it all so thank u so much 💙
Please do "eating in front of people" 💖
LizaBellaPink just eat lol how hard is that
Mikaya Moorleghen its different when you’re overweight
Oo K that's bull.... just eat! Life is way too short to worry about other ppl... while you are ju st doing normal things.
Mikaya Moorleghen exactly
Charmaine B Right
I took my first adult since childhood ,flight from NY to ATL... I was fine until I realized u needed an extender ,it seemed that everyone on my flight was tired bc quickly everyone was buckled in and quiet ready to go.I stopped the attendant and whispered for an extender ,but it was so quiet it was if I was yelling .The couple next to me where very nice they smiled ,and the husband who was in the middle even tried to wiggle over a but to give my hug hips a bit more room.My anxiety was so high and I was so tired I feel asleep ,so that helped me not to have an actual full on anixety attack.It sounds crazy but until I loose weight I refuse to fly again ,I just can't handle the stress ,I don't travel much,and when I do it's to visit family, so I bus it in which I always have two seats ( bc the bus is always half full)and is less stressful for me ...
Tips everyone needs to know.
Agreed!
Girl, everyone is too big on a plane. People need to be polite and move on.
No, if someone is not massively obese they can fit into a plane seat. Lose some weight and stop complaining.
Airlines keep making seats smaller. It's horribly uncomfortable for everyone. If they just redesigned to diagonal seat rows everyone could get more space
@@amdl270 there would still be seatbelts, and people who are too fat would still need extenders, and be big enough for it to be a problem.
If you dont fit into an airplane seat, you're too fat. Lose some weight. It's not hard. I've lost 60lbs, it wasnt difficult.
Amy Lake me personally i lost around 30 pounds quite easily but for people who are really overweight or even obese, they most likely have a food addiction. it’s not necessarily “easy” but doesn’t mean they should be weak minded. it’s like an alcoholic or drug addict overcoming their addiction so eh 🤷🏼♀️
No, normal size people can fit just fine.
Why would you be embarrassed to ask for a belt extension? Everyone on the flight can clearly see that you need one. Why the need for discretion?
no society needs to end fat acceptance and stop saying that they are people all shapes and sizes and that you can be healthy at any size!!
If your size is affecting your lifestyle, perhaps make a change instead of searching for "tips and tricks."
So what are you supposed to do if you’re currently in this state at this moment in time? 🤷🏽♀️
polly10022 I guess you’re not supposed to travel until you reach your healthy goal. Girl 👋
@polly10022 I think the more important question is... Why Are You Here?
You completely went out of your way to be a donkey. Be gone. Thanks. 🙄
lol bye. you are allowed to be comfortable no matter what your body is.
You know that people don't drop 80 pounds as soon as they start exercising right?
I cannot tell you how much this helped me! Thank you so much! I’m sending it to my friends as well!
Fly Southwest, buy 2 seats. In the middle name portion put "XS", after your flight call and request a refund. Or you can request one in person when you arrive and hopefully they have some availabile.
Honestly my greatest fears with flying are: flying with children (especially toddlers) who scream and cry during the flight, and sitting next to a huge person who will spill into my seat. I think there should be separate flights or better seats for bigger folks and flights for people with children. Like when you book your ticket, have the option of selecting your weight, also if you want to be on a flight with and potentially sit next to a big person and if you are willing to be on a flight with children. No prejudice at all, but I just want a comfortable flight, and I don’t mind paying a little extra for it.
But a quick question tho, don’t you think that if you are too big to fit a regular flight seat, you should maybe consider changing somethings??? 🤔🤔
Seat belt extender is so great! I'm traveling with my friend who is concerned she won't fit in the seat, but I don't want to buy it for her (she might get offended). I'm just always wanting to be prepared... But I'm sure if we ask the flight attendant it'll be cool.
Thank you so much! Your tips have helped me so much, I will purchase my own seatbelt extender because I do not enjoy drawing too much attention to myself on flights.
I love your extender idea! I've developed a little trick to ask for one n' keep it private that's worked pretty well over the past few years. :) I just write my request out for one on the message field of my texting app & show it to the stewardess after I've beckoned her over, gesturing discreetly. :) It's helped SO much, and has proven a great way to keep my need for an extender private, if I do end up needing one. :)
The nice thing with Southwest flights are that the seats are pretty spacious. I've been taking 16 hour flights on Philippine Airlines and let me tell you, if you're plus size, it isn't fun to ride economy class, even in a front row seat, because the seats are so narrow! If ever anyone decides to fly PAL, save up and fly business class.
Luckily I always fly with my husband and son so we all just sit in the same row and I don’t need to worry about it
On South west you can buy and extra seat and when you get back you can call and ask for a refund. Yes you will have to shell out the extra money up front but you do get it back. Its an easy way to make sure you have enough room. You will get the extra seat pass that you set on the seat next to you AND YOU CAN PRE BOARD. You'll be one of the first 5 people to board the plane which allows you to choose pretty much any row you want.
YES!! I also ordered my own seatbelt extender. I think I just got it from Amazon. All the feelings...oi.
Lovely video. As a Canadian we can't help saying excuse me and sorry. lol
On a day in which I had 2 flights. The first flight was a bit uncomfortable because the lady next to me was taking up a couple of inches of my back seat. Makes matters worse is that she wasn't actually larger than me so she had no reason to take part of my seat. I had to tell her to move because I wasn't able to fully sit on the seat. On the next flight, their was a guy who was clearly much, much larger than me. He had the isle seat just like the lady did and he didn't take much of my space. I was able to fully lie on the seat and the only issue was that my arm was against his.
hey Stella the weight loss definitely shows. you're looking great. Happy Holidays
I am a plus size women. I wear size 15-16. I can say I fit fine not perfect in a economy seat. I feel for us plus size women the aisle seats and the Window seats are definitely the best. For me I hate people in my space and I hate being in theirs so I either push my self close enough to the wall or out towards the eisle. For me if the person isnt all the way in my space to where I feel claustrophobic and they smell good im fine. 💁
Please, I DO NOT urinate in those nasty bathrooms. I am 5'10" and wear 16/18/20 (tops). My height and size make bathroom runs uncomfortable. I urinate just before boarding. I don't need a seatbelt extender, but I do put up the arm rest for more room. I get the window seats because I like the view. Middle seats are out and I don't like everyone brushing up on me for aisle seats.
I am over weight but I always fit into my seat with armrests down and without extenders. I would feel horrible if I spilled over into someone else’s paid space and I would definitely not want any one in my paid space.
Girl I live in Edgewood, east of baltimore, next time you are home I really want to give you a hug! you have helped me so much with body image and just feeling okay about who I am.
You hit on every insecurity that i have... thanks love!!!
You are so beautiful! I just found your channel and im binging rn!! I just started my own weight loss journey/channel and this is so relatable! New sub here! 😁❤
I'm a bigger girl, not huge but overweight. Me and my 5 month old son are flying on a 5 hr flight, I bought 3 tickets for us so we won't have to deal with feeling uncomfortable or making anyone else feel uncomfortable.
Thank you for this video.... I have a trip to Costa Rica in July with my son and we are flying southwest and until I saw your video I was freaking out being plus size and all... I have no idea how I came across your video but I'm really glad I did...
Just eat less and you'll lose weight. It's not hard.
@@amylake9064 you shouldn't assume that ppl eat alot just cause they're overweight. Different factors can be the cause. I dont recall ask for weightloss tips but thank you. 💋
@@jesseniaalmora9419 there's no other factors that directly influence weight. Unless you have PCOS or a thyroid problem (which, by the way, only account for 10-20lbs maximum, and the impacts on weight are cured with proper medication), if you are fat it is because you eat too much. The body stores excess calories as fat, if you have excess fat, you regularly consume excess calories.
@@amylake9064 like I said Amy no one was asking for your advice or opinion. You don't know me personally so you have no say. May God bless you forever and always.
@@jesseniaalmora9419 I dont have to know you personally to know that if you ate less, you would lose weight. That's just a scientific fact.
I'm with you. I usually fly Delta and some seat belts are shorter than others. I don't even care anymore I'll just ask for a seat belt extender if I can't buckle it. It's never been a problem before. Also I choose a window seat so I can try to be as far away as my seat mate as possible. But as I usually fly alone I get paired with another solo passenger. It makes for some interesting conversations sometimes.
Something about flying while fat: all of these videos I see are addressing commercial flights. On private planes, charter or otherwise, there may be weight restrictions. This is because some of the smaller planes can literally be out of balance (I am not joking) with a large person in a seat, and takeoff weight limits might be encountered. On a 4 place Mooney, for example, the useful weight limit including ALL passengers and ALL luggage, is about 1000 lbs. So, pilot and his gear is 200. The other 3 people who have hired the plane cannot exceed 800 lbs, WITH luggage COMBINED. Laws of physics set the limit, not political correctness.
Buy 2 tickets, easy.
COco Yo yo or lose weight
losing weight is too hard... blaming is easier.
Not everyone has the money to pay for the better seats 🤷🏻♀️
Meh, I love sitting next to plus size people. They’re lovely and soft 😀
And sweaty and fat
and smelly
Angelina Rina you’re a kind soul 😊
BS. Nobody likes strangers touching them. It doesn't really matter what they look like, if they invade your personal space, you will not like it or them
wtf
Oh, and Virgin Airlines is so roomy!! Totally recommend that for bigger folks. I LOVED my experience with them.
I always choose the aisle seat - bladder will win out every time
These comments are ridiculous! I am a plus size flyer. And I always call the airline after I purchase a ticket so I can get the seating pass for the seat next to me just because I know I spill over. I'm very "hippy". We should not be apologetic for being a plus size flyer. Because to be honest those seats are too small for anyone who isnt a size 2. Pee before your flight, Dress comfy, and use a seatbelt extender. Lol
Lol no, you must be massive if you think only a size 2 could fit into a plane seat. People can be obese, even morbidly obese (BMI 40), and still fit into a single plane seat. You must be fucking huge.
I recommend flying southwest you can always buy an extra seat and they will refund you.
Great video!!!! I have never been on a plane because of this. I think that I will try now.
Oh my gosh this is wild. Thank you for making this video! I’m plus size and flying is a nightmare, but my boyfriend and I are doing long distance.
I’m very tall and I have to pay extra for legroom. If you need a seatbelt extender, you need to pay for 2 seats
How do you fit 44 inch hips into a 24 inch seat. Buy 2 seats. But eat only 1 meal.
Clicked as soon as I saw an update also I saw your Instagram and feel better love ❤️
Thanks babe!
I have to be in an isle seat, I hate bothering people to get to the bathroom
I think there should be options to get more seats for an extra fee if your butt needs it. So let's say your seat is 600$ then each extra seat could be 200
You have two options in this situation actually:
1: lose enough weight you can fit into a single seat.
2: buy a second seat.
Omg thank you so much I'm always trying to think of ways to make flying more confortable.I usually buy 2 seats a window and the middle but it can still be kinda awkward.I diddent think about a seatbelt extenders and just buying my own.thanks for all the good tips.
I book first class cause I hate being stuck in the middle
Thank you so much for this video!
Fly Southwest Airlines if possible. You can purchase 2 seats, one as Extra Seat. When you cehck in you get first boarding and get an extra seta. YHou have to pay intially, but get reimbursed the entire money.
I wish the video was longer.. i really enjoyed listening and watching you... by the way u r right abt the way they treat u wen u r dressed better... 😚
Great video. I didn't know about the seatbelt extenders.
Why would you purchase a seat belt extender? Better tip, as you are boarding the plane say to the stewardess that you are going to need a seat belt extender. Ask her if she can help you with that. It should be no problem. You may also let them know at gate check in.
Kathy B.
I ask for an extended AS SOON as I step foot on the plane. I had no idea that you can buy one on your own. I mind my business and definitely not apologetic. I feel like I've gained so much weight since last year, so I ended up purchasing a bigger seat up front to lower some of that anxiety. My first time doing it...we'll see how it goes
On a 16 hour flight. I'm overweight. The guy next to me has very long legs. Even I have trouble finding room for my legs. I don't know if I encroached on his space but his knees were encroaching on me. I asked my travel consultant for economy plus but for some reason he didn't book it for me. I got a seatbelt extender on one flight but it made my seatbelt too lose so I ditched it.
Thank you so much Stella! I haven't traveled anywhere, I couldn't drive, in years since I've gotten bigger and had the most embarrassing experience when I couldn't fit the seat belt.
Yes! Get yo snacks Queen! I love it! I agree, let's stop apologizing for being heavy. Lol I normally fly alone but I like to get me a flight boyfriend that I have met in the airport lol then he can seat next to me.
Hey Stella, I've flown many times and I squeeze in a window seat but for a few years I've hidden that the belt doesn't fit. I always fake it and hide it under my jacket. I know it's not safe. I had no idea you can get your own. I fly again this week. I know that it may not work for every airline and they may say no. Have you ever had issues even getting through s eer ccuruty with it?
I fly SW too. I never had an issue till one day one of the stewardess before i got on the plane gave me a "reserved seat" so now every time i go i mention that she did that so i get a seat reserve and i get on first with the family gets on. I never thought about buying my own extender.
I want to mention I dont buy a second seat. Ive never had them say no but if they do then ill just sit like i usually do.
I'm plus size and need an extender. I always fly Southwest cause they will give you an extra seat and you get to board with the elderly.
22kobykoby your happy to board with the elderly like you have a disability do you see anything wrong with your way of thinking ????
Considered air cargo?