The fact that you both have those concerns of being remotely a “bad parent” definitely shows that you are AMAZING parents. Actually, the BEST!!!! I love seeing the love you have for each other which in my opinion is one of the best things you can do for a child. As I am sure you know, that is how they learn how a partner should treat you. Especially, ESPECIALLY how a daughter learns how a man should treat her. I definitely can tell dad is going to show your baby girl the best way a male treats a female. Absolute best parents in my opinion! Love you guys so much!!!! XOXO!!
@@sylbrittablum7555 you brought tears to my eyes and heart by reminding me the true love our Father Jesus Christ and the love he has for us all. Thank you for adding that part to my thought and comment. 🙏❤️
@@SarahAnthonyNarouski I had this couple I used to hang out with because we had the same age daughters and we all went to high school together. When the couple so mom and dad would be fighting I would watch them tell their kids, “don’t talk to daddy right now” and in return the other spouse would say to the kids, “ don’t you love daddy more” or sometimes those comments were reversed and trust me they would say other stuff like similar to the kids. I just couldn’t believe they would do that because I knew that it was creating something that could psychologically mess with the kids as the got older. You know I didn’t like what they would do but I would never think or say they were bad parents because I also saw the love they had for the kids. Now get ready for this foodie. My daughter when she started kindergarten seriously cried pretty much nonstop for the first week. She had severe separation anxiety. That couple actually said to me and my husband that we must be really bad parents and you must be doing something horrible to her since she cry’s like she does at school. (The kids were in the same class) I really couldn’t believe they would think that about us especially since they were doing some pretty crap stuff psychologically to their kids. They saw nothing wrong with themselves and trust me I stated the mild version of them. People just never cease to amaze me. Hope you have a great night, day, and week. Thanks for replying to my comment. I’m such a geek about it when I get responses because I rarely comment anymore because I was just too sensitive to handle people that would tear me a mew one after posting what I would think was a nice positive comment. Sorry for the paragraph reply:) 😀
I had 5 children, all were natural child births. I can honestly say that the first is the hardest. Your body is already prepared for more births. Anxiety is natural. ❤
@@melindamercier6811I was feeling secured about having a second child Because I've recently found out I'm pregnant ❤️ but your definitely right all pregnancys are different. I'm hoping the second one slides right out lol
My best advise as a mom of 3 is to just keep including Jack so that he feels involved and he won’t feel excluded. You will find ways to balance each child together, don’t worry, you got this guys! Also don’t worry Sarah, your not alone, I want a 4th and I still dread the thought of giving birth lol I feel like that with every single baby and I have had great birth experiences without complications.. but you are going to do great!!
Excellent advice from a well grounded mom myself. While we cannot always find the path to including one child and their emotions when a brand new baby comes home and so much attention is paid to the new birth that you will find that visitors are well meeting don't realize while they coo over new baby, I always reminded visitors when calling and asking if they could visit new "bundle of joy" (hopefully people realize that should not just drop by) Everyone should know but some don't that if they have the sniffles that is also a good time to let your guest know to pay some attention to other child. ... I appreciate you telling people that is so important and of course where there is no jealousy there will be no resentment. The one thing that is so important and your son already has a feel for it I can see, he wanted a little sister... tell him she will be his to protect if mom or dad aren't there like at school or playing outside. He will be who she brings things she may not want to talk to mom and Dad about but she will come to her big brother...brothers are great. They are little girls Knights in Shinning Armor. Watch Jack become annoyingly protective. My son would tell me "mommy hold the bottle higher, she getting air"... which she wasn't but OKAY SON, sure glad you were there to tell me, your such a great BIG BROTHER.. and Thanks, Rachel, for your wisdom!
Everything will work out. As a mom of 4 grown children. It is a transition from 1 to 2 kids, but it does work out. You two work so well together as a couple/parents. No time for wasted energy on worry✝️😊
I'm Terri and I'm 66 yrs old and I had the same situation in that I had my son first and then my daughter, and secret to my heart, I still silently call them both my babies! LOL. Key word, SILENTLY! BUT... You guys said a few things I want to comment on, if I might take the time. First Sara.. I know you had a rough time, but oh darling, the look of love on your beautiful and sweet little face, in that one opening picture of you and your smile as you held Jack against you, was so wonderful, it made me cry with joy for you! They told me during my first time, that even though sometimes that pain is awful, that whenever you hold your baby for the first time, it all becomes so very much worth it.. My own daughter had the same beautiful smile as she held her first. I'm sure I did too, but things were different than, so you'd have to ásk the nurses! Next, did you know ahead of time about your pelvic bone being tilted when you were pregnant with Jack? I'm just wondering why they waited 20 hrs to break your water and give you that epidural. That's a very long time and even in my day, they would have acted much faster. I don't understand why it wasn't treated faster than it was. That's why I'm asking. NOW..the most important thing I want to share. My son was 3 yrs old when I was pregnant and seemed like he was over the moon concerning my daughter, until he saw her on the day I brought her home, and politely but firmly told me to take her back because he changed his mind and wanted a boy instead! LOL Guys, I've been such a cheerleader for you both and for little Jack, since I found your channel just before Jack was born! I think y'all are so sweet as a family. And that "y'all" is spoken for real, because I am a southern lady. Just saying! 🙂 As for Jack, you spoke about Sara's job as a mom and the changes in your life this new baby will bring, and you also did the same thing with Derik, but the biggest adjustment will be about Jack and how you can make enough time for him. I just smiled as I watched because it was me all over again! Except for the fact that I'm an only child and so was my ex husband. Our son was the first child for us, the first grandchild for our parents, and because my grandmother was still very much alive then, and I'm her first grandchild for the next 12 yrs. hey was also the first great grandchild! He was so loved and spoiled just a little bit too of course! I used to go off alone at times and just cry as I realized what a huge difference having this new baby would make. I felt so sorry for him. But you know what we did to make it all work? We explained to him how much we needed his help. After all, little girls need a big brother to look after them and keep them safe from harm, not to mention how much I needed him to help me take care of her. Her diapers were kept within his reach, along with lotions and oils for her skin. He would take her readied bottle to whomever was going to feed her and then ," help feed his sister". After that, I was NOT to do anything without him, as long as he was at home and awake. She became "his!" Let everyone else sort out who's going to do what. You will have 2 precious children and it will all just naturally fall into place. I promise! AND LAST BUT HARDLY LEAST..Sara, you are so right. Dressing up a little girl is so much FUN... just as long as you understand that from the age of around 3 or 4 yrs old, just as soon as you are done, she will run straight to her daddy with all that prettiness because she's Daddy's girlfriend. Especially in families with just one daughter! Derek, I know how much you love Jack, but like I said, it doesn't matter what you think now, this sweet little girl is going to be daddy's little angel, his baby girl, and his princess! FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! As for Jack, he's already your best little bud. Just keep it up as he grows , and never stop telling him how much you love him, need him, and how proud you are that he's your son! I know you do that already and it won't ever stop. Beyond that, Sara will teach her to be a young lady and then a woman, just as Derik will teach Jack what he will need to do as a good man. Bottom line, it's so easy. The Beeston family will still be the Beestons. Y'all are just gonna add one. more spoon full of love to the pot and don't forget to stir! Everything will be fine. I promise like I said before. I do promise!!!. God has this. Man, I won't say God bless you, because at least for now sweet family, He already and so certainly, and sweetly...has! ❤️❤️❤️....❤️. 😊
I'm 24 weeks right now and I soo relate to the tiredness. Everyone says the second trimester is easier than the first, but the fatigue has knocked me out this trimester. Hope you feel better!
I just love watching you to interact with each other and with Jack. You’ve done so very and amazingly well with your marriage especially since you started so young. And your patenting skills are wonderful too. I believe your parents as your examples are the reason you are such good parents. You are blessed with a super support group with them, your siblings, and your friends. That goes a long way with being successful. Can you imagine what it would be like without having that in your lives?? Many don’t and that is sad. You’ve got this and it will all be fine. You put a smile on my face in each video you post! 😊
I just wanted to say that your family is one of my favorites to watch. You guys are amazing parents and everything will balance out so neither feels left out. Watching you guys be in so much love with each other is inspiring
I can tell you this much the fact that you are concerned about being "bad parents" makes you amazing parents. Y'all are doing great and are wonderful parents!
You will be surprised once she gets here. Your heart will grow 10 times in a second !! Your attention to both babies works itself out. Be patient with yourselves.
Maybe this baby will help Jack learn how to entertain himself so he isn't needing constant constant attention. I wish my dad was like Derik. The relationship (if you can even call it that--more like acquaintances) has really fucked me up as an adult. My dad never took the time to take me to the park, play with me, color with me, play wrestled with me, etc. Never. I always had a roof over my head, and food on the table, but there is SO much more to being a father than that. Much more. You and Sara are great. You BOTH make it known to everyone--especially Jack how much you love him. That's important for a kid when they are growing up. Very important.
At 25wks little girl is the size of a head of cauliflower... isn't that crazy to think how quickly your body can create such an incredible gift from God? I think having the normal worries and concerns most parents have let's you know that you already are looking out for her and Jack and she's not even here yet. Jack's answers came so naturally so I can see him wanting to make sure she's doing good but still wanting some alone time and a second child is when some of the bigger independence can come in for his age. Honestly seeing the way he is with Ozzy and Stella says so much about how he will be with his sista. Tanner and Lauren are going to be such a great help with the transition from one to two children and you are all so close you know you can trust everything said. So happy you're doing well, all of you.... can't wait to see you back in Hawaii and how the new place looks all put together. Yall are amazing, never forget it!!!
The thing about having additional children is that your love multiplies exponentially. Just as you had enough love for Jack without losing the love you had for each other. You also will have the privilege of watching sweet Jack interact with the sister he insisted was a sister from the very beginning. You will be wonderful with two kids!
Ive had 2 boys and 2 girls,my cravings were pastrys donuts,danishes,etc with both girls,,and more homestyle meals,veggies,meat etc with my boys,and it is a worry that you can't give your first all your attention,and feelings of guilt,but it's NORMAL,,you feel like this bcuz you love Jack so much,and being overwhelmed,your rite,give sum time to urselfs sometimes.Youll figure out the time spent w your babies together,your a great team!!!And you need to do the epidural later in the labor,but it does work differently w each woman,I do believe it will be easier and quicker than your first.And epidural might work differently this time.Eather way you'll do great,and Jack will love his baby sis.I made sure my first new it was his sissy "his" baby we called her .Let him "help as much as possible.itll be sweet,Jack is a sweet ,kind soul ,just like his parents.love you guys!!! congratulations on babygirl ( my guess name ) Saylor Moon!?
You all will be living together so you can spend time with both kids together. Newborns sleep most of the time anyway. Make Jack a part of taking care of the baby. Let him be in charge of bringing you a diaper when you need one and praise him like crazy when he completes his big brother task. When the baby is a little older you can let Jack help feed his sister by cuddling up and helping hold the bottle. My 2 were 2 years apart and my oldest was so proud when she was able to help take care of her baby brother and this way she didn't feel left out. You will be awesome parents of 2 children, you're awesome with 1 and I think you'll do great with 2. Beeston, a family of 4!
It ALL falls into place…… you’ll see. Your concerns about how to navigate ‘sharing time’ between needs of the baby & Jack, are EXACTLY the concerns that we ALL have gone through. Yay!! You got the memo. It’s OK to feel all the feels of ‘the mystery’ of it all. It will ALL fall into place. Your new family addition will guide you in finding balance. Trust the process.
I had 2 under 2 and zero help during the day so it’s just me and both kids and you find a way to balance both. Involve jack as much as possible with sister (helping feeding- holding the bib or burp cloth, changing diaper- holding clean diaper or entertaining baby, helping put to sleep- giving a toy or soother etc) since derik will be home with you I feel it may be easier to balance the attention with both so one doesn’t get “more or less” attention but jack acting out will likely continue if he’s jealous (like mine is) but then they get into the groove of things too and understand and it all gets easier over time. Having help will definitely help make things easier with the transition so lean on derik as much as you can! All the best can’t wait to see your little girlie!
You’ll find the balance. Second child is different, you never get that undivided alone time with them that you had with the first one but you will find a balance where you spend time with each child. In the end, the bond the siblings will have playing with each other is worth the division of attention from parents. You guys got this. Parenthood is messy and ultimately a trial and error 18 year experiment. There will be hard days and awesome days and as long as you have each other and you’re in this together, i know no matter what comes your way you will be able to weather it. These are your little mini mees. Your love and your instinct will be enough. The division of attention thing will work out. You guys are doing awesome.
You got this darlin. It’s normal to be scared but just remember the feeling you felt after Jack was born. The tears of happiness and the way you can’t even describe in words how much love you feel in that moment for your child. It’ll all be worth it. Y’all are awesome parents and every day is something new but ALWAYS remember YOU are the BEST and can’t NOBODY raise your children or bring them into this world better than you guys can. Jack is gonna be the most amazing little helper I can tell. Be Positive doll face, you both got this. 💜🌈💜🌈💜💜💜
It’s amazing how everything falls into place and every piece of the family puzzle fits even better than before. Everything changes, but change is good and you’ll fall even more in love with Jack than you already are. It’s so exciting to see and meet the new baby, but seeing Jack in a whole new role is going to be just as exciting. Your love and ability love multiplies when you have more kids, you don’t have to take the love you have now and divvy it up. I understand your concerns and fears, but give yourself some credit and just wait and see and trust all of us that have been there before. We too felt like you all at one point, but the second a new baby is born, all the love, time, patience, attention, etc. multiplies and expands and everything will be even better than it is now with just Jack. You’ll be amazed! ❤️❤️❤️
No lying......having one and going to two......is an adjustment........its harder because now there is a toddler and.....a newborn.......of course its an adjustment... Just like going from a couple to now 3 of you....it is harder right??? Well going to 4 is harder. Ithought anyway....but by having 2 kids i also became a single mom. Thattt was hardest.....but i just took it head on and worked thru it....i am a nurse so i adjusted by going to night shift. And sleeping when i could during the day...getting a babysitter to come atnight to stay with kids while i worked.......being a single mom is a lot harder then having to go to 2 kids...even with a husband.. Everything is an adjustment and you just learn to deal withit because you love them all !!
I love this family!! So much light and love! I know, despite your underlying, justifiable nerves, your strong foundation will be just what this lucky girl needs! To be enveloped in the optimism, strength, and joy you generate!!! All the best, always. Love, from Maine
I’m so glad you guys are growing your wonderful family!! You make the world a better place. It’s always so nice to see what you’re all up to. There is so much negativity in the world and people doing bad things it makes me glad that all of your parents, including Lori’s parents, brought you into the world and did the great job raising you that they did! You’re all in turn wonderful parents. All the BEST to you always💕
As a mom of four adult kids. My kids best memories were of me reading to them at night. And projects like cooking. Try not to worry, y'all have got this.
I was not prepared for the mom guilt of having a second child. It's SO hard those first few months because if feels like your rushing your time with your toddler because the baby requires so much more attention with feeding and changing and having to carry. I cried every day for the first few months because I felt I wasn't caring enough for my toddler, but really it was just getting used to the change. Now they're 4.5 and 1.5 and I don't have those guilty feelings at all anymore! You guys will be great!!!! Don't feel bad about the difference in attention jack will understand and be just fine!
Oh bless you Sarah. I was so sick from the time I opened my eyes till I closed them. Them when it did pass, I was so exhausted all I wanted to do was sleep. I had a 3 year old when I had my 2nd daughter. Don’t worry about the future, it’s going to happen and you’ll find your way through it. Jack will be absolutely fine, things will fall into place. I use to worry will I have enough love and time for both of my kids. I couldn’t imagine having the same love I had for my first daughter, for my second. It’s a silly worry I know know. The second they’re born, that love is there. It’s always there but you doubt yourself. It’s normal. You guys will be fine. Hugs to you all. Xx
My first one was a little hard, 18rs of contrations 1 min. Apart the entire time. So with my second one i thought here i go again, i pushed 3 times and there he was. My boys are 12 month's apart. One weight 9lbs 6ozs,and my second was 10lbs 7ozs, and i had them natural, no epidural or anything. Anyway my brother and i are 12 month's apart as well, and i weight 4 lbs. So Sarah what i am getting at all deliverys are different. so try not to stress i will probably be different this time. I was 21 & 22 when i had mine . and it sure was wonderful. I will be praying for you & your family. You guys are awesome. Jack is awesome , and what a sweety pie. Also, You and your husband. are great parents, and both of you are gorgeous.!!!!!!
As a momma of 4 I promise it will all come naturally. You have raised Jack so wonderfully in a home and family so full of love. Jack is gonna be the best big brother. It's so normal to feel overwhelmed at this stage so just take those moments to yourself and make sure you and Derek are checking in with each other and communicate about absolutely any worries no matter what it is. Sending lots of love from this Northern Michigan Momma 💖💖
Ahhh I feel you Sarah. I'm 17 weeks with my second baby and giving birth again scares me plus I stress how will I care for my 4 year old after I give birth. Try and think positive everything will go smoothly ♡
A 4 yr old will be 5 soon and wow. That would be great... The older one will help you so much....run and get stuff you need or get the phone or grab the diapers ...you will just need to train the older one to help you ....start early with helping mom it is really good for kids to help do chores and help put toys away and all the things they will need to know in their little lives growing into older kids and beyond!!!!! ....
My son came after 25 hours. My second child, a daughter, came 45 minutes after we got to the hospital and totally natural she came so fast. You got this Sarah!
My oldest daughter had a 24 hour labor, about 8 hours being active. 2nd baby labor was so mild until her water broke. They headed in and she gave birth about 13 minutes after walking into triage.
I have 3 kids pretty closed age! I would say this! Baby girl will be so little to remember anything but Jack is big now and he will feel and remember more than new-born! You guys are lucky since you both work from home so you have one or another to helps each other out! If Sarah feed the baby, your husband could play with Jack! Or when your husband put the baby to sleep then Sarah could play with Jack! It will work out just put a lot of time for Jack when newborn is here. Make him feel like he is included in this let him helps you with the baby as much as he want to. It's a lot of fun to have siblings for them. Good luck!
I've been watching your channel since Derik's reaction to you having Jack video went viral. Love you two and the positive energy you put out into the world! Congrats on baby girl! I remember being beyond excited when I found out I was having a girl too (way back in 2011, born 1/4/2012) She is now 10, just started 5th grade, and is the absolute light of my husband's and my life. Real life has challenges, and we've faced some, but never questioned having her in our lives. Your family now, and even after baby girl is here, is surrounded by so much love and support from every angle 😊💝👨👩👧👦
It’s totally normal to have these feelings. the best advice from a mother of two. A son and daughter. Same age difference as your two once baby girl is born. Just include Jack in everything like feeding, helping out, and refer to the baby as “our” baby. Maybe buy him a baby boy doll. So he gets the feel of having a baby around. Honestly, it’s not extremely necessary but it’s thought. i have seen others do this, and it helped. Plus, jake is 2 so terror twos do happen. It’s all about balance. You both are awesome and you answered your own questions. It sounds like you two will do just fine. Once baby girl comes home… things will just fall right into place! Bless your hearts! You two are both extremely awesome parents! Don’t be to hard on yourselves. God had a plan, and he’ll never give you more then you can handle and will never let you down! ❤️🙏🏼❤️
I love you guys! Thanks for the updates and bump-date. Enjoy your last week in Utah and safe trip back to Hawaii, get the nest ready! Sarah, I really think your giving birth is gonna be a smoother ride this time. Warm hugs to all of you.
Jack is a bright lil dude! Each time I see him in the vlog I'm amazed at how bright he is already for being so young, he seemed pretty advanced. I love your whole family!
I’m excited for the new baby girl! I hope her name is Jill 😂 but I couldn’t really see that being her name even though I don’t know what she looks like. Jack is so cute! Pls do another Q&A! Jack looking out the window is so cute! When Jack said everything about his baby sis I started crying and got the chills 😂
Jack and Jill?? LOL. I know a gal who's last name was Kane and she named her daughter Kandi. Looks like a stripper name! 😂 When I was carrying my daughter, my last name was Flowers and someone tried to talk me into the name April. I said absolutely not and besides the thing is April Showers, not Flowers. Besides, I already knew from the start what her name was going to be. So..wild card? I named my daughter Jill! LOL. What a lovely turn. So, of course I love the name but it would be just a bit oh I don't know the word. Somebody else?
Well there's no getting out of it. I remember saying that when I was in labor and listening to women screaming down the hall. You'll be surrounded by lots of love and it may be a whole new experience the second time. God be with you.
Hi good to hear from you again and it's so cute how Jack says that he wants to help with his sister and you can't go wrong with leaving Jack out just enclud him as much as possible. Thanks again and take care.
There are so many older siblings out there that have had to adjust. I think Jack's going to do great although I'm sure there will be an adjustment period. Once you're past the tiny baby stage it will get easier and then it'll start to get really fun once your kids are old enough to interact with each other. You two are going to do great! Just think of all the people that have done it before you and survived to tell the tale!
You guys are amazing parents already!!! Don’t ever think otherwise, when the new baby gets here it will all come back so naturally, I will say that having a girl and the diaper duties from my kids dad perspective he was kinda freaked at first but then it was no biggie, he was just used to having boys. Lol Sarah, I’m sending lots of good energy and smooth vibes your way on the delivery end, my first 2 delivery’s were with Epidural’s, my last baby was ALL NATURAL AND IT WAS THE BEST. I healed so quickly, I had tons of energy and just felt amazing. Not gonna say it didn’t hurt, my husband compared me to the girl from the Exorcist, but let’s be honest the pain only last for a lil bit, and it’s worth it when you lay eyes on that sweet baby. Y’all are gonna be good!! I’m still so happy for y’all and super excited to see Jack with his sweet lil baby sister. (Also, I think Charlee is a cute name for a girl.) Jack & Charlee 💙💜 lol
That first car ride home from the hospital is definately something else. I remember saying to hubby you have to drive slow now. Haha. I sat in the back for ages just wanting to protect my baby from absolutely everything. You guys are awesome. All You need is love!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You are great parents. Jack understand so much, the answers he gave..so cute! I personally feel when a toddler gets to certain age to let them go to a play group, even if only couple times a week so mom & dad can get work done, have their 'me' time.
We are in a similar situation. We’re just a little ahead of you guys. We have a 2yo and now our baby is 6mo. It’s taken us about 6mo to ALL get adjusted to baby #2. Be patient and give yourselves grace. It’s a tough season but it will be lots of fun to have the kids close in age when they get older.
As a Mama who had an almost 2 year old boy, then twin baby girls. I always tell people it is a lot of work, but honestly so much fun!! They are now 20, and 18. Take it one day at time, and have fun!!! 💜💜💜💜
365 times God gave us fear not, one for everyday! It's natural to have those feelings. My heart went out to you during your labor with Jack. You were such a trooper! Each of mine came faster & were a bit bigger than the previous one. Praying for you all.
Just wanted to share something I heard years ago when I was a young mother. We spend so much time talking to and ask I nf the older siblings if they love the new baby and how much they love the new baby. It's equally important to let the older sibling know how much the new baby loves them. Just a little something that seems to be overlooked but struck me as important
You are naturally good and attentive parents. You will still be a unit. You will spend time with them simultaneously so it’s not either or. But you two are such good parents and your ability and heart will only expand. Love and attention multiply. It isn’t something that you have to divide.
So close to my birthday (3rd) so a Sagittarius ♐️ baby! Sagittarius love to explore and love nature, my mom said her biggest issue with me was dependency. It was a short worry I made friends really quick, I honestly think I was just scared of my teacher. Other than that I was a good baby, so be ready for even more family adventures and a few pets~ ❤ Not everyone's favorite pet and I'm sure they aren't pet's in Hawaii, but rat's have been my favorite pet so far they are so sweet and love to give kisses. I know Hawaii has a lot of pet restrictions and you can pretty much just have a cat or dog. Unless something has changed since I looked at the laws. 🤔
Your due on my birthday! 💖 The bond between a mother & daughter are so different than a mother & son. It's the same special feeling.. I had my daughter first. I was definitely way more nervous about my 2nd child (my son) being born because I was worried I was not going to love him the same I was so so so worried about this for some reason like I cried and had serious anxiety over it. When my son was born... it was the immediate feeling of overwhelming love just like my first born. The next day we found out he was born with a cleft palate (not lip) and was rushed to another hospital and placed into the NICU covid was still bad and my daughter was not allowed to come in at all to the hospital also i was 2 hrs away from home for 45 days. I got to go home 2x and visit and I lost it when I had to leave it was the most hardest thing ever her dad kept her and they both missed the "newborn" stage with him. He came home with a feeding tube and eventually got the repair this april he just got his gtube removed 2 weeks ago. .. Now my daughter got the chance to be around her cusion before he was born, her dads niece she was born 3 months before my son. She cried her eyes out when I held her she was SOOOO jealous (she just turned 3years old) but when i got to bring her brother home she was happy but it was tough she would try to take his passy , throw things, hit him but also like i said i was away for a while and she seen it as he took mommy away...it took time but now gi hes not 16 months & she is 4 their BEST friends!!! Enjoy your time with Jack as him being the "only child" ❤️ Time will fly by,
I know when my son was born, my daughter wanted me to take him back. But then she was the best big sister , helped me alot. All these concerns are normal, Sarah.
I have some suggestions for you. When you bring baby girl home from the hospital, also have a gift for Jack from his baby sister so it is an extra special day for both of them. Also, having Jack help with the new baby however he is able to, will make him feel more involved. And setting aside time for mommy and Jack time, daddy and Jack time, and some time where both of you spend time with him will help him to feel just as loved and special as he is right now. There is no doubt in my mind that you will be incredible parents to both of your children. Also, you can always get help and tips for parenting two kids from Lo and Tanner. 💗 And also, you should talk to your OB-GYN about your last labor experience and come up with a plan to ensure that those things don’t happen again this time that you give birth. Sarah, I hope that the rest of your pregnancy goes well. 💞
My first was a long labor, however the following 4 got quicker with each one. The body knows better what to do! Hang in there Sarah, you are a rock star and you've got this! ❤️
My son has two girls 2 years apart. Yes you will be paying attention to the baby and Jack will get jealous but I find that letting them know you love them just as much I think it will help. Also family members giving Jack love too. You got this.
Y'all are so awesome. 😊 Look up some psychology about where your first will be in growth. I found out my first wouldn't learn sharing skills until 3.5-4 years. That's just naturally when it develops. It helps to see what I should expect vs what expectations are unknowingly too high for his age. Also know that it will be a learning curve for your first to learn that time will be a bit more shared. He may relay more on one parent or the other and that's just fine. Make a mommy and jack time or a daddy and jack time to try and help with the transition. It took my first 7-8 months to really start accepting his brother. We are at 9 months now. He's doing so much better knowing boundaries with his brother and when he can ask for my attention. It will also take time for you to see where you get your own free time too. Being patient is so hard and I'm sure you both will work it out fairly well. It's so so nice having two. After a while I asked thought to myself "man it would be boring right now with just one" 😂
Oh sweet Sarah,preparing for birth and having fears is pretty normal! But you have a good idea about the birthing process, which is a head start😉Often,as you've most likely heard,the subsequent deliveries can be easier than the first time! I'm praying for you that it will be😁 💕 ONE thing from experience I'll share with you that I feared was what to do with a girl? I wasn't sure that I could feel confident bc I'd only had a boy. The 2nd fear was that I would have trouble giving my son the attention and love he was used to getting therefore fail him!! I'm so sure that you'll both fit right into the role with such ease! I think you actually love him deeper and harder at the knowledge you've been blessed and growing your beautiful family! You DO find the time bc you begin loving bigger and better than you knew was possible and there's plenty to go around I promise! He will be right there with you adjusting! Take all the time you need! Jack will continue to play,chat and tell you his needs and most likely,continue HIS routine. He may cling a little closer to see what his new sister is all about. He's known nothing but love and is going to be an AWESOME big brother ❤
Baby, I was so afraid the second time but all in all, (and from everyone I have asked this morning--a grand total of 6) everyone agrees that the second time was easier (4 of us had NO epidural the 1st time and DID get it the second time DID) You have right there A HUGE IMPROVEMENT) because we ENJOY the birth with limited pain so there's that. WE ALL agreed that it's FASTER than the first time. So the experience was another 100% answer! We all agreed on the fact that just having the experience of the first time in your pocket WAS an awesome plus! That will tamp down the fear level.
Hi - I have been following your channel since the beginning. I have two boys they are 19 months apart… right now they are teenagers-13 and 14 years old now! I was also nervous about paying enough attention to both. I will tell you that it works it self out! I was also nervous about giving birth again but honestly it was so much faster and easier then the first time! But I would definitely say get Epidural. Because childbirth is insanely painful and I just can’t imagine doing it without it. My mother had me without it she said that it was the most painful thing she ever experienced in her life. I had the epidural with both of my children. Up to the point where I got the epidural the pain was horrible intense and I can’t even imagine doing it without.!! Try not to worry about it! Your body will remember and it’s easier and faster the 2nd time. The one thing that I definitely learned from the first time I gave birth was to stay relaxed and not to panic!! Your body was made to do this!! You will be ok!! Congratulations 🎈🎉🎊
It's so awesome y'all are hopefully having her on the 5th! One reason I love your channel, plus lo and tanner's, is that I lived in Utah for a few years and for some reason yalls content makes me really nostalgic especially when yall are back in Utah. December 5th is actually the day I moved to Utah 🤣 makes me even more excited for you guys! All 4 of you should take the kids to Liberty Park and go to Park Cafe for food! I think they have the bird sanctuary by the Cafe too if the kiddos like birds 💖
You will do great! Just hold your hopes close to your heart and surrender to whatever comes. It's hard to walk through the fears but when you do, you see how badass you are.
You two have got this. RELAX is the word. It will all come naturally to you. You are great parents! Sharing responsibilities will make it all smooth. I had 3 girls! ❤️ to your sweet family!
The second one is usually easier. I had relatively easy labors to begin with, (about 6 hours active labor with the first), but in my case, the second one was SO much easier that I thought that they were Braxton Hicks contractions for the first four or five hours. I did my Lamaze breathing, and had lots of contractions, but the discomfort was so mild that I thought that it couldn't really be active labor. Then it hit. I had less than 45 minutes of hard labor, then had him in the ambulance. (Had tried to wait for husband to get home from work, thinking i was "about to go into labor"). Keep the midwife on speed dial. You'll do great. 💕 Just don't assume that it's a false alarm, and don't ignore diarrhea and back pain, (as i did). Also, if you get persistent contractions, do time them, and don't rely on pain level alone. It just might be easier than you'd expect.
Sarah, you got this, your first is the most difficult, you did brilliantly last time and you will do again. I had 5 each one easier than the one before. It's no walk in the park for sure but it's pain with a purpose. 👍❤️
You all will be great! Jack will be a good big brother and you’ll have more than enough love and attention for both kids - you most likely will be tired a lot!! Praying 🙏🏼 for all to go well 🤗❤️
For million of years women have been giving birth. It's build in your DNA to beable to do so. The uterus literally does what it's suppose to do every month. I was worried that two would be harder than one but it was a lot easier. Kids are so excited to help take care of their baby sister or brother. Just involved jack in helping take care of his baby sister. You guys have such a beautiful family. It's gonna be an amazing experience. 💛💛💛💛
You'll do great!! Especially with Derrick thereby your side. Focus on the breathing. I had my first at 17 with no pain medication, no epidural nada the Dr said I was the toughest little girl he's ever seen. It is scary but look at the end result. 💕💕💕😘😘
There is no need to worry about not having enough time for Jack or the new baby. It will work out, everybody asks the same questions. The baby girl will sleep a lot, so y’all will have time for Jack. It just works out on its own. Jack will be 2, he understands that baby girl will take some of your time, he already loves her and will understand. Just don’t put it in his head (like on the video asking he he is worried about mommy and daddy not having enough time for him). You can’t talk about that part with him, and I would say you should not talk about it in front of Jack. Include him in everything about the baby girl. Like letting him help with her room, let him pick out toys or rattles. I would even let him pick out some clothes for her, or maybe a special blanket for her. Getting him involved will be the best for Jack. Something he can be proud of, he did for baby Sissy. It will work out, have faith. Love y’all, give Jack a big hug a kiss for me.
I'm reading things I the comments that I can't remotely relate too. I've had 3 children and 3 different experiences. My body did not know what to do and I ended up having 3 C-sections. The first epidural probably didn't work because it was not done right. I pray the best for your beautiful family and hope you have an easier time as I hear it often is for most people. Congratulations! It's totally normal for you guys to feel like you do but you have already proved to be the best there is already!!! 🙏♥️🌹🥰
Congratulations! Look into various ways that will increase your body’s own production of glutathione, which manages pregnancy and reduces miscarriage risk. Especially look into alpha lipoic acid (notably useful in the third trimester to minimize sciatica), and unrefined whey protein. Both before and after you have your baby, I also recommend zinc+copper, 5,000 IU of vitamin D + K2 every 12 hours, and magnesium glycinate before bed, as immune and/or mood boosts. Recently, storable food has been doing better than stocks, and given various recent events, I don’t see that changing in the next 18-24 months. You should get some more of what you already use, and store it where floods can’t touch it.
You'll be surprised at how quickly they'll become best buds and you won't have to do as much as she gets a bit older. They'll have tons of fun together! ! .....and you'll have more time to enjoy watching them!! Jack is going to be a sweet great big brother!! All parents feel like they are Terrible Parents!! Don't sweat it! You guys Rock as far as parents go!! HONESTLY!!💕💕🙏🏼
You both are amazing parents 💗 keep up the great job that you are doing with Jack with the new little baby girl and they're going to be the be the most wonderful people on this earth! God bless you both 🙏 much love from Debra in Maine 🥰
I know during my pregnancies, having my thyroid levels checked helped me stay on track with my energy level. Low thyroid can cause that extreme tiredness where you just feel like a blob.
Don’t be afraid that you’ll have enough love because your love is different for each child. I had a son and a daughter when my husband and I decided to have a 3rd child. I became pregnant with triplets! Although I was terrified at the end only 2 survived but you do what needs to be done and manage! They are now grown with new babies of their own to love and grandkids for me. Believe in yourselves and each other’s strength’s!! Your great 👍
And you should be it is very Scary, so many things can go wrong.And it is so painful,playing like it isn’t is out right lying.You have every right to feel the way you feel.
Don't worry about trying to equally spend time with both kids,I had 4, 3 of them back to back, the newborn is going to be sleeping most of the time, the time you spend with Jack since he's old enough now and interacts with u is most important,these are his formative years, that's where more time should be spent and don't feel bad about it. The rest will fall into place. You guys are great parents, just remember, there's no such thing as perfect parents. ❤️ You all will be just fine.
The fact that you both have those concerns of being remotely a “bad parent” definitely shows that you are AMAZING parents. Actually, the BEST!!!! I love seeing the love you have for each other which in my opinion is one of the best things you can do for a child. As I am sure you know, that is how they learn how a partner should treat you. Especially, ESPECIALLY how a daughter learns how a man should treat her. I definitely can tell dad is going to show your baby girl the best way a male treats a female. Absolute best parents in my opinion! Love you guys so much!!!! XOXO!!
This is SO TRUE
Klover that is right.The best thing a father shows his children is loving his mother like Jesus does.
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@@sylbrittablum7555 you brought tears to my eyes and heart by reminding me the true love our Father Jesus Christ and the love he has for us all. Thank you for adding that part to my thought and comment. 🙏❤️
@@SarahAnthonyNarouski I had this couple I used to hang out with because we had the same age daughters and we all went to high school together. When the couple so mom and dad would be fighting I would watch them tell their kids, “don’t talk to daddy right now” and in return the other spouse would say to the kids, “ don’t you love daddy more” or sometimes those comments were reversed and trust me they would say other stuff like similar to the kids. I just couldn’t believe they would do that because I knew that it was creating something that could psychologically mess with the kids as the got older. You know I didn’t like what they would do but I would never think or say they were bad parents because I also saw the love they had for the kids. Now get ready for this foodie. My daughter when she started kindergarten seriously cried pretty much nonstop for the first week. She had severe separation anxiety. That couple actually said to me and my husband that we must be really bad parents and you must be doing something horrible to her since she cry’s like she does at school. (The kids were in the same class) I really couldn’t believe they would think that about us especially since they were doing some pretty crap stuff psychologically to their kids. They saw nothing wrong with themselves and trust me I stated the mild version of them. People just never cease to amaze me. Hope you have a great night, day, and week. Thanks for replying to my comment. I’m such a geek about it when I get responses because I rarely comment anymore because I was just too sensitive to handle people that would tear me a mew one after posting what I would think was a nice positive comment. Sorry for the paragraph reply:) 😀
I had 5 children, all were natural child births. I can honestly say that the first is the hardest. Your body is already prepared for more births. Anxiety is natural. ❤
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Really⁉️Had, 3 all were extremely difficult births. Very hard painful pregnancies. Soooo, glad to be forever done‼️👍💞
@@ceceliamathews7190 definitely different for everyone.
@@melindamercier6811I was feeling secured about having a second child Because I've recently found out I'm pregnant ❤️ but your definitely right all pregnancys are different. I'm hoping the second one slides right out lol
My best advise as a mom of 3 is to just keep including Jack so that he feels involved and he won’t feel excluded. You will find ways to balance each child together, don’t worry, you got this guys!
Also don’t worry Sarah, your not alone, I want a 4th and I still dread the thought of giving birth lol I feel like that with every single baby and I have had great birth experiences without complications.. but you are going to do great!!
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Awww. So lovely. I feel the warmth.🌞🌺
@Tech WHITE privileges? Had to throw in that white in there didn't ya? I see MANY MANY MANY well to do ppl on here who are not white!
@Tech stop criticizing are you jealous?
Excellent advice from a well grounded mom myself. While we cannot always find the path to including one child and their emotions when a brand new baby comes home and so much attention is paid to the new birth that you will find that visitors are well meeting don't realize while they coo over new baby, I always reminded visitors when calling and asking if they could visit new "bundle of joy" (hopefully people realize that should not just drop by) Everyone should know but some don't that if they have the sniffles that is also a good time to let your guest know to pay some attention to other child. ... I appreciate you telling people that is so important and of course where there is no jealousy there will be no resentment. The one thing that is so important and your son already has a feel for it I can see, he wanted a little sister... tell him she will be his to protect if mom or dad aren't there like at school or playing outside. He will be who she brings things she may not want to talk to mom and Dad about but she will come to her big brother...brothers are great. They are little girls Knights in Shinning Armor. Watch Jack become annoyingly protective. My son would tell me "mommy hold the bottle higher, she getting air"... which she wasn't but OKAY SON, sure glad you were there to tell me, your such a great BIG BROTHER.. and Thanks, Rachel, for your wisdom!
Everything will work out. As a mom of 4 grown children. It is a transition from 1 to 2 kids, but it does work out. You two work so well together as a couple/parents. No time for wasted energy on worry✝️😊
Working as a team is key. Always work together ☺️
Sarah, its totally normal to feel nervous.. but we are all here with you including Derik and Jack, and will all be worth it for baby girl xx 💗
I'm Terri and I'm 66 yrs old and I had the same situation in that I had my son first and then my daughter, and secret to my heart, I still silently call them both my babies! LOL. Key word, SILENTLY! BUT... You guys said a few things I want to comment on, if I might take the time.
First Sara.. I know you had a rough time, but oh darling, the look of love on your beautiful and sweet little face, in that one opening picture of you and your smile as you held Jack against you, was so wonderful, it made me cry with joy for you! They told me during my first time, that even though sometimes that pain is awful, that whenever you hold your baby for the first time, it all becomes so very much worth it.. My own daughter had the same beautiful smile as she held her first. I'm sure I did too, but things were different than, so you'd have to ásk the nurses!
Next, did you know ahead of time about your pelvic bone being tilted when you were pregnant with Jack? I'm just wondering why they waited 20 hrs to break your water and give you that epidural. That's a very long time and even in my day, they would have acted much faster. I don't understand why it wasn't treated faster than it was. That's why I'm asking.
NOW..the most important thing I want to share. My son was 3 yrs old when I was pregnant and seemed like he was over the moon concerning my daughter, until he saw her on the day I brought her home, and politely but firmly told me to take her back because he changed his mind and wanted a boy instead! LOL
Guys, I've been such a cheerleader for you both and for little Jack, since I found your channel just before Jack was born! I think y'all are so sweet as a family. And that "y'all" is spoken for real, because I am a southern lady. Just saying! 🙂
As for Jack, you spoke about Sara's job as a mom and the changes in your life this new baby will bring, and you also did the same thing with Derik, but the biggest adjustment will be about Jack and how you can make enough time for him. I just smiled as I watched because it was me all over again! Except for the fact that I'm an only child and so was my ex husband. Our son was the first child for us, the first grandchild for our parents, and because my grandmother was still very much alive then, and I'm her first grandchild for the next 12 yrs. hey was also the first great grandchild! He was so loved and spoiled just a little bit too of course! I used to go off alone at times and just cry as I realized what a huge difference having this new baby would make. I felt so sorry for him.
But you know what we did to make it all work? We explained to him how much we needed his help. After all, little girls need a big brother to look after them and keep them safe from harm, not to mention how much I needed him to help me take care of her. Her diapers were kept within his reach, along with lotions and oils for her skin. He would take her readied bottle to whomever was going to feed her and then ," help feed his sister". After that, I was NOT to do anything without him, as long as he was at home and awake. She became "his!"
Let everyone else sort out who's going to do what. You will have 2 precious children and it will all just naturally fall into place. I promise!
AND LAST BUT HARDLY LEAST..Sara, you are so right. Dressing up a little girl is so much FUN... just as long as you understand that from the age of around 3 or 4 yrs old, just as soon as you are done, she will run straight to her daddy with all that prettiness because she's Daddy's girlfriend. Especially in families with just one daughter! Derek, I know how much you love Jack, but like I said, it doesn't matter what you think now, this sweet little girl is going to be daddy's little angel, his baby girl, and his princess! FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! As for Jack, he's already your best little bud. Just keep it up as he grows , and never stop telling him how much you love him, need him, and how proud you are that he's your son! I know you do that already and it won't ever stop.
Beyond that, Sara will teach her to be a young lady and then a woman, just as Derik will teach Jack what he will need to do as a good man.
Bottom line, it's so easy. The Beeston family will still be the Beestons. Y'all are just gonna add one. more spoon full of love to the pot and don't forget to stir!
Everything will be fine. I promise like I said before. I do promise!!!.
God has this. Man, I won't say God bless you, because at least for now sweet family, He already and so certainly, and sweetly...has! ❤️❤️❤️....❤️. 😊
I'm 24 weeks right now and I soo relate to the tiredness. Everyone says the second trimester is easier than the first, but the fatigue has knocked me out this trimester. Hope you feel better!
It goes by so fast. Take care and many blessings.
I just love watching you to interact with each other and with Jack. You’ve done so very and amazingly well with your marriage especially since you started so young. And your patenting skills are wonderful too. I believe your parents as your examples are the reason you are such good parents. You are blessed with a super support group with them, your siblings, and your friends. That goes a long way with being successful. Can you imagine what it would be like without having that in your lives?? Many don’t and that is sad. You’ve got this and it will all be fine. You put a smile on my face in each video you post! 😊
I just wanted to say that your family is one of my favorites to watch. You guys are amazing parents and everything will balance out so neither feels left out. Watching you guys be in so much love with each other is inspiring
I can tell you this much the fact that you are concerned about being "bad parents" makes you amazing parents. Y'all are doing great and are wonderful parents!
You will be surprised once she gets here. Your heart will grow 10 times in a second !! Your attention to both babies works itself out. Be patient with yourselves.
Thanks for ur precious advice 🙏🏾🙏🏾💖💖💖💖
Maybe this baby will help Jack learn how to entertain himself so he isn't needing constant constant attention.
I wish my dad was like Derik. The relationship (if you can even call it that--more like acquaintances) has really fucked me up as an adult. My dad never took the time to take me to the park, play with me, color with me, play wrestled with me, etc. Never. I always had a roof over my head, and food on the table, but there is SO much more to being a father than that. Much more. You and Sara are great. You BOTH make it known to everyone--especially Jack how much you love him. That's important for a kid when they are growing up. Very important.
At 25wks little girl is the size of a head of cauliflower... isn't that crazy to think how quickly your body can create such an incredible gift from God? I think having the normal worries and concerns most parents have let's you know that you already are looking out for her and Jack and she's not even here yet. Jack's answers came so naturally so I can see him wanting to make sure she's doing good but still wanting some alone time and a second child is when some of the bigger independence can come in for his age. Honestly seeing the way he is with Ozzy and Stella says so much about how he will be with his sista. Tanner and Lauren are going to be such a great help with the transition from one to two children and you are all so close you know you can trust everything said. So happy you're doing well, all of you.... can't wait to see you back in Hawaii and how the new place looks all put together. Yall are amazing, never forget it!!!
The thing about having additional children is that your love multiplies exponentially. Just as you had enough love for Jack without losing the love you had for each other. You also will have the privilege of watching sweet Jack interact with the sister he insisted was a sister from the very beginning. You will be wonderful with two kids!
Omg Jack is so cute! 💜 I hope all your fears and nervousness for birth will go away, I’ll be praying for you! Love y’all so much!❤️
Counting backwards already!!
Ive had 2 boys and 2 girls,my cravings were pastrys donuts,danishes,etc with both girls,,and more homestyle meals,veggies,meat etc with my boys,and it is a worry that you can't give your first all your attention,and feelings of guilt,but it's NORMAL,,you feel like this bcuz you love Jack so much,and being overwhelmed,your rite,give sum time to urselfs sometimes.Youll figure out the time spent w your babies together,your a great team!!!And you need to do the epidural later in the labor,but it does work differently w each woman,I do believe it will be easier and quicker than your first.And epidural might work differently this time.Eather way you'll do great,and Jack will love his baby sis.I made sure my first new it was his sissy "his" baby we called her .Let him "help as much as possible.itll be sweet,Jack is a sweet ,kind soul ,just like his parents.love you guys!!! congratulations on babygirl ( my guess name ) Saylor Moon!?
You all will be living together so you can spend time with both kids together. Newborns sleep most of the time anyway. Make Jack a part of taking care of the baby. Let him be in charge of bringing you a diaper when you need one and praise him like crazy when he completes his big brother task. When the baby is a little older you can let Jack help feed his sister by cuddling up and helping hold the bottle. My 2 were 2 years apart and my oldest was so proud when she was able to help take care of her baby brother and this way she didn't feel left out. You will be awesome parents of 2 children, you're awesome with 1 and I think you'll do great with 2. Beeston, a family of 4!
It ALL falls into place…… you’ll see. Your concerns about how to navigate ‘sharing time’ between needs of the baby & Jack, are EXACTLY the concerns that we ALL have gone through. Yay!! You got the memo. It’s OK to feel all the feels of ‘the mystery’ of it all. It will ALL fall into place. Your new family addition will guide you in finding balance. Trust the process.
I had 2 under 2 and zero help during the day so it’s just me and both kids and you find a way to balance both. Involve jack as much as possible with sister (helping feeding- holding the bib or burp cloth, changing diaper- holding clean diaper or entertaining baby, helping put to sleep- giving a toy or soother etc) since derik will be home with you I feel it may be easier to balance the attention with both so one doesn’t get “more or less” attention but jack acting out will likely continue if he’s jealous (like mine is) but then they get into the groove of things too and understand and it all gets easier over time. Having help will definitely help make things easier with the transition so lean on derik as much as you can! All the best can’t wait to see your little girlie!
You’ll find the balance. Second child is different, you never get that undivided alone time with them that you had with the first one but you will find a balance where you spend time with each child. In the end, the bond the siblings will have playing with each other is worth the division of attention from parents. You guys got this. Parenthood is messy and ultimately a trial and error 18 year experiment. There will be hard days and awesome days and as long as you have each other and you’re in this together, i know no matter what comes your way you will be able to weather it. These are your little mini mees. Your love and your instinct will be enough. The division of attention thing will work out. You guys are doing awesome.
Just make sure you include Jack and he will be a great big brother!!
You got this darlin. It’s normal to be scared but just remember the feeling you felt after Jack was born. The tears of happiness and the way you can’t even describe in words how much love you feel in that moment for your child. It’ll all be worth it. Y’all are awesome parents and every day is something new but ALWAYS remember YOU are the BEST and can’t NOBODY raise your children or bring them into this world better than you guys can. Jack is gonna be the most amazing little helper I can tell. Be Positive doll face, you both got this. 💜🌈💜🌈💜💜💜
It’s amazing how everything falls into place and every piece of the family puzzle fits even better than before. Everything changes, but change is good and you’ll fall even more in love with Jack than you already are. It’s so exciting to see and meet the new baby, but seeing Jack in a whole new role is going to be just as exciting. Your love and ability love multiplies when you have more kids, you don’t have to take the love you have now and divvy it up. I understand your concerns and fears, but give yourself some credit and just wait and see and trust all of us that have been there before. We too felt like you all at one point, but the second a new baby is born, all the love, time, patience, attention, etc. multiplies and expands and everything will be even better than it is now with just Jack. You’ll be amazed! ❤️❤️❤️
The way you just kind of adjusted to parenthood with Jack is the same way you’ll adjust to balancing 2 kids 💗
No lying......having one and going to two......is an adjustment........its harder because now there is a toddler and.....a newborn.......of course its an adjustment... Just like going from a couple to now 3 of you....it is harder right??? Well going to 4 is harder. Ithought anyway....but by having 2 kids i also became a single mom. Thattt was hardest.....but i just took it head on and worked thru it....i am a nurse so i adjusted by going to night shift. And sleeping when i could during the day...getting a babysitter to come atnight to stay with kids while i worked.......being a single mom is a lot harder then having to go to 2 kids...even with a husband..
Everything is an adjustment and you just learn to deal withit because you love them all !!
@@Goaway624 my sister became a single mom with 4! Et She had support of church! It wasn't easy! Get a good man!!
I love this family!! So much light and love! I know, despite your underlying, justifiable nerves, your strong foundation will be just what this lucky girl needs! To be enveloped in the optimism, strength, and joy you generate!!! All the best, always.
Love, from Maine
I’m so glad you guys are growing your wonderful family!! You make the world a better place. It’s always so nice to see what you’re all up to. There is so much negativity in the world and people doing bad things it makes me glad that all of your parents, including Lori’s parents, brought you into the world and did the great job raising you that they did! You’re all in turn wonderful parents. All the BEST to you always💕
As a mom of four adult kids. My kids best memories were of me reading to them at night. And projects like cooking. Try not to worry, y'all have got this.
When the new baby gets here, it will all fall into place! You two are amazing parents ❤️
I was not prepared for the mom guilt of having a second child. It's SO hard those first few months because if feels like your rushing your time with your toddler because the baby requires so much more attention with feeding and changing and having to carry. I cried every day for the first few months because I felt I wasn't caring enough for my toddler, but really it was just getting used to the change. Now they're 4.5 and 1.5 and I don't have those guilty feelings at all anymore! You guys will be great!!!! Don't feel bad about the difference in attention jack will understand and be just fine!
Being nervous to have another is a natural response since it's a shift in life. I kniw you two will shower love on each other plus both of your kids
Oh bless you Sarah. I was so sick from the time I opened my eyes till I closed them. Them when it did pass, I was so exhausted all I wanted to do was sleep. I had a 3 year old when I had my 2nd daughter. Don’t worry about the future, it’s going to happen and you’ll find your way through it. Jack will be absolutely fine, things will fall into place. I use to worry will I have enough love and time for both of my kids. I couldn’t imagine having the same love I had for my first daughter, for my second. It’s a silly worry I know know. The second they’re born, that love is there. It’s always there but you doubt yourself. It’s normal. You guys will be fine. Hugs to you all. Xx
My first one was a little hard, 18rs of contrations 1 min. Apart the entire time. So with my second one i thought here i go again, i pushed 3 times and there he was. My boys are 12 month's apart. One weight 9lbs 6ozs,and my second was 10lbs 7ozs, and i had them natural, no epidural or anything. Anyway my brother and i are 12 month's apart as well, and i weight 4 lbs. So Sarah what i am getting at all deliverys are different. so try not to stress i will probably be different this time. I was 21 & 22 when i had mine . and it sure was wonderful. I will be praying for you & your family. You guys are awesome. Jack is awesome , and what a sweety pie. Also, You and your husband. are great parents, and both of you are gorgeous.!!!!!!
As a momma of 4 I promise it will all come naturally. You have raised Jack so wonderfully in a home and family so full of love. Jack is gonna be the best big brother. It's so normal to feel overwhelmed at this stage so just take those moments to yourself and make sure you and Derek are checking in with each other and communicate about absolutely any worries no matter what it is. Sending lots of love from this Northern Michigan Momma 💖💖
You two are amazing. Jack has grown up amazingly.
Can't wait to see the baby.
Take care of yourselves.
Big hugs. 🥰🥰🥰
Ahhh I feel you Sarah. I'm 17 weeks with my second baby and giving birth again scares me plus I stress how will I care for my 4 year old after I give birth. Try and think positive everything will go smoothly ♡
A 4 yr old will be 5 soon and wow. That would be great...
The older one will help you so much....run and get stuff you need or get the phone or grab the diapers ...you will just need to train the older one to help you
....start early with helping mom it is really good for kids to help do chores and help put toys away and all the things they will need to know in their little lives growing into older kids and beyond!!!!!
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My son came after 25 hours. My second child, a daughter, came 45 minutes after we got to the hospital and totally natural she came so fast. You got this Sarah!
My oldest daughter had a 24 hour labor, about 8 hours being active. 2nd baby labor was so mild until her water broke. They headed in and she gave birth about
13 minutes after walking into triage.
Whoa, thats a BIG difference lol! My first was 31hrs, my second was 8hrs and I thought that was a huge difference lolol
You are blessed 💖💖💖
I have 3 kids pretty closed age! I would say this! Baby girl will be so little to remember anything but Jack is big now and he will feel and remember more than new-born! You guys are lucky since you both work from home so you have one or another to helps each other out! If Sarah feed the baby, your husband could play with Jack! Or when your husband put the baby to sleep then Sarah could play with Jack! It will work out just put a lot of time for Jack when newborn is here. Make him feel like he is included in this let him helps you with the baby as much as he want to. It's a lot of fun to have siblings for them. Good luck!
Thanks for ur advice dear 💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾
I've been watching your channel since Derik's reaction to you having Jack video went viral. Love you two and the positive energy you put out into the world! Congrats on baby girl!
I remember being beyond excited when I found out I was having a girl too (way back in 2011, born 1/4/2012)
She is now 10, just started 5th grade, and is the absolute light of my husband's and my life. Real life has challenges, and we've faced some, but never questioned having her in our lives.
Your family now, and even after baby girl is here, is surrounded by so much love and support from every angle 😊💝👨👩👧👦
It’s totally normal to have these feelings. the best advice from a mother of two. A son and daughter. Same age difference as your two once baby girl is born. Just include Jack in everything like feeding, helping out, and refer to the baby as “our” baby. Maybe buy him a baby boy doll. So he gets the feel of having a baby around. Honestly, it’s not extremely necessary but it’s thought. i have seen others do this, and it helped. Plus, jake is 2 so terror twos do happen. It’s all about balance. You both are awesome and you answered your own questions. It sounds like you two will do just fine. Once baby girl comes home… things will just fall right into place! Bless your hearts! You two are both extremely awesome parents! Don’t be to hard on yourselves. God had a plan, and he’ll never give you more then you can handle and will never let you down! ❤️🙏🏼❤️
I love you guys! Thanks for the updates and bump-date. Enjoy your last week in Utah and safe trip back to Hawaii, get the nest ready! Sarah, I really think your giving birth is gonna be a smoother ride this time. Warm hugs to all of you.
Jack is a bright lil dude! Each time I see him in the vlog I'm amazed at how bright he is already for being so young, he seemed pretty advanced. I love your whole family!
I’m excited for the new baby girl! I hope her name is Jill 😂 but I couldn’t really see that being her name even though I don’t know what she looks like. Jack is so cute! Pls do another Q&A! Jack looking out the window is so cute! When Jack said everything about his baby sis I started crying and got the chills 😂
Her name has something to do with the sun or summer or being outside lol
Can you imagine!? That'd be awesome!!
@@worldpeace42069 they’ve given a few clues throughout their pregnancy videos. One clue was the sky, one clue was a yellow balloon in jacks mouth.
Jack and Jill?? LOL. I know a gal who's last name was Kane and she named her daughter Kandi. Looks like a stripper name! 😂
When I was carrying my daughter, my last name was Flowers and someone tried to talk me into the name April. I said absolutely not and besides the thing is April Showers, not Flowers. Besides, I already knew from the start what her name was going to be. So..wild card? I named my daughter Jill! LOL. What a lovely turn. So, of course I love the name but it would be just a bit oh I don't know the word. Somebody else?
@@andreadirks8084 maybe Sunny. With the blonde hair and dazzling smiles in that gorgeous family, it would certainly fit! 🌞
Well there's no getting out of it. I remember saying that when I was in labor and listening to women screaming down the hall. You'll be surrounded by lots of love and it may be a whole new experience the second time. God be with you.
Hi good to hear from you again and it's so cute how Jack says that he wants to help with his sister and you can't go wrong with leaving Jack out just enclud him as much as possible. Thanks again and take care.
I delivered my baby prematurely. He was born at 26 weeks. He was 13 inches long and weighed 1 lb, 15 ounces! He's fine now, technology is awesome!
Woah that’s amazing!!!
Jack will be loving n such a good brother!!
You are great parents !!
You guys are amazing parents to Jack and you're going to be equally amazing to the new baby girl ❤️
There are so many older siblings out there that have had to adjust. I think Jack's going to do great although I'm sure there will be an adjustment period. Once you're past the tiny baby stage it will get easier and then it'll start to get really fun once your kids are old enough to interact with each other. You two are going to do great! Just think of all the people that have done it before you and survived to tell the tale!
You guys are amazing parents already!!! Don’t ever think otherwise, when the new baby gets here it will all come back so naturally, I will say that having a girl and the diaper duties from my kids dad perspective he was kinda freaked at first but then it was no biggie, he was just used to having boys. Lol
Sarah, I’m sending lots of good energy and smooth vibes your way on the delivery end, my first 2 delivery’s were with Epidural’s, my last baby was ALL NATURAL AND IT WAS THE BEST. I healed so quickly, I had tons of energy and just felt amazing. Not gonna say it didn’t hurt, my husband compared me to the girl from the Exorcist, but let’s be honest the pain only last for a lil bit, and it’s worth it when you lay eyes on that sweet baby.
Y’all are gonna be good!! I’m still so happy for y’all and super excited to see Jack with his sweet lil baby sister. (Also, I think Charlee is a cute name for a girl.) Jack & Charlee 💙💜 lol
Also, I had an epidural for my first and gave natural birth with my other two and the labor went quicker. 💜
Aww jack is so advanced for his age your fantastic parents ❤and jack will be the best big brother ever ❤❤❤❤❤
That first car ride home from the hospital is definately something else. I remember saying to hubby you have to drive slow now. Haha. I sat in the back for ages just wanting to protect my baby from absolutely everything. You guys are awesome. All
You need is love!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You are great parents. Jack understand so much, the answers he gave..so cute!
I personally feel when a toddler gets to certain age to let them go to a play group, even if only couple times a week so mom & dad can get work done, have their 'me' time.
Aww don't worry you will do great!Jack is gonna be the best order brother😘
Jack melted my heart. He's so sweet
We are in a similar situation. We’re just a little ahead of you guys. We have a 2yo and now our baby is 6mo. It’s taken us about 6mo to ALL get adjusted to baby #2. Be patient and give yourselves grace. It’s a tough season but it will be lots of fun to have the kids close in age when they get older.
you all have the greatest energy. honestly, that is why i watch. thanks.
As a Mama who had an almost 2 year old boy, then twin baby girls. I always tell people it is a lot of work, but honestly so much fun!! They are now 20, and 18. Take it one day at time, and have fun!!! 💜💜💜💜
365 times God gave us fear not, one for everyday! It's natural to have those feelings. My heart went out to you during your labor with Jack. You were such a trooper! Each of mine came faster & were a bit bigger than the previous one. Praying for you all.
Jack is so cute, and I'm so glad he's getting his baby "sista" sister.
Just wanted to share something I heard years ago when I was a young mother. We spend so much time talking to and ask I nf the older siblings if they love the new baby and how much they love the new baby. It's equally important to let the older sibling know how much the new baby loves them. Just a little something that seems to be overlooked but struck me as important
You are naturally good and attentive parents. You will still be a unit. You will spend time with them simultaneously so it’s not either or. But you two are such good parents and your ability and heart will only expand. Love and attention multiply. It isn’t something that you have to divide.
Everything will be okay, be so worth it!....Jack looks just like his mommy. Beautiful family!!!
So close to my birthday (3rd) so a Sagittarius ♐️ baby! Sagittarius love to explore and love nature, my mom said her biggest issue with me was dependency. It was a short worry I made friends really quick, I honestly think I was just scared of my teacher. Other than that I was a good baby, so be ready for even more family adventures and a few pets~ ❤
Not everyone's favorite pet and I'm sure they aren't pet's in Hawaii, but rat's have been my favorite pet so far they are so sweet and love to give kisses. I know Hawaii has a lot of pet restrictions and you can pretty much just have a cat or dog. Unless something has changed since I looked at the laws. 🤔
I absolutely love my pet rats!
Your due on my birthday! 💖
The bond between a mother & daughter are so different than a mother & son. It's the same special feeling.. I had my daughter first. I was definitely way more nervous about my 2nd child (my son) being born because I was worried I was not going to love him the same I was so so so worried about this for some reason like I cried and had serious anxiety over it. When my son was born... it was the immediate feeling of overwhelming love just like my first born. The next day we found out he was born with a cleft palate (not lip) and was rushed to another hospital and placed into the NICU covid was still bad and my daughter was not allowed to come in at all to the hospital also i was 2 hrs away from home for 45 days. I got to go home 2x and visit and I lost it when I had to leave it was the most hardest thing ever her dad kept her and they both missed the "newborn" stage with him. He came home with a feeding tube and eventually got the repair this april he just got his gtube removed 2 weeks ago. .. Now my daughter got the chance to be around her cusion before he was born, her dads niece she was born 3 months before my son. She cried her eyes out when I held her she was SOOOO jealous (she just turned 3years old) but when i got to bring her brother home she was happy but it was tough she would try to take his passy , throw things, hit him but also like i said i was away for a while and she seen it as he took mommy away...it took time but now gi hes not 16 months & she is 4 their BEST friends!!! Enjoy your time with Jack as him being the "only child" ❤️
Time will fly by,
I’m so excited to find out what baby girls name is!! Also, you got this! Jack will be the sweetest with her!
I know when my son was born, my daughter wanted me to take him back. But then she was the best big sister , helped me alot. All these concerns are normal, Sarah.
You both will be great, let your natural Instinct roll.
Jack will help more then you can imagine..Enjoy
I have some suggestions for you. When you bring baby girl home from the hospital, also have a gift for Jack from his baby sister so it is an extra special day for both of them. Also, having Jack help with the new baby however he is able to, will make him feel more involved. And setting aside time for mommy and Jack time, daddy and Jack time, and some time where both of you spend time with him will help him to feel just as loved and special as he is right now. There is no doubt in my mind that you will be incredible parents to both of your children. Also, you can always get help and tips for parenting two kids from Lo and Tanner. 💗 And also, you should talk to your OB-GYN about your last labor experience and come up with a plan to ensure that those things don’t happen again this time that you give birth. Sarah, I hope that the rest of your pregnancy goes well. 💞
My first was a long labor, however the following 4 got quicker with each one. The body knows better what to do! Hang in there Sarah, you are a rock star and you've got this! ❤️
There is no blue print or pattern to the process of childbirth Sarah. Each new birth has a unique story. You've got this!
My son has two girls 2 years apart. Yes you will be paying attention to the baby and Jack will get jealous but I find that letting them know you love them just as much I think it will help. Also family members giving Jack love too. You got this.
Yes but you got this momma!!! You have all the support and love🤍🤍
Y'all are so awesome. 😊 Look up some psychology about where your first will be in growth. I found out my first wouldn't learn sharing skills until 3.5-4 years. That's just naturally when it develops. It helps to see what I should expect vs what expectations are unknowingly too high for his age.
Also know that it will be a learning curve for your first to learn that time will be a bit more shared. He may relay more on one parent or the other and that's just fine. Make a mommy and jack time or a daddy and jack time to try and help with the transition. It took my first 7-8 months to really start accepting his brother. We are at 9 months now. He's doing so much better knowing boundaries with his brother and when he can ask for my attention.
It will also take time for you to see where you get your own free time too. Being patient is so hard and I'm sure you both will work it out fairly well.
It's so so nice having two. After a while I asked thought to myself "man it would be boring right now with just one" 😂
Oh sweet Sarah,preparing for birth and having fears is pretty normal! But you have a good idea about the birthing process, which is a head start😉Often,as you've most likely heard,the subsequent deliveries can be easier than the first time! I'm praying for you that it will be😁 💕 ONE thing from experience I'll share with you that I feared was what to do with a girl? I wasn't sure that I could feel confident bc I'd only had a boy. The 2nd fear was that I would have trouble giving my son the attention and love he was used to getting therefore fail him!! I'm so sure that you'll both fit right into the role with such ease! I think you actually love him deeper and harder at the knowledge you've been blessed and growing your beautiful family! You DO find the time bc you begin loving bigger and better than you knew was possible and there's plenty to go around I promise! He will be right there with you adjusting! Take all the time you need! Jack will continue to play,chat and tell you his needs and most likely,continue HIS routine. He may cling a little closer to see what his new sister is all about. He's known nothing but love and is going to be an AWESOME big brother ❤
Baby, I was so afraid the second time but all in all, (and from everyone I have asked this morning--a grand total of 6) everyone agrees that the second time was easier (4 of us had NO epidural the 1st time and DID get it the second time DID) You have right there A HUGE IMPROVEMENT) because we ENJOY the birth with limited pain so there's that. WE ALL agreed that it's FASTER than the first time. So the experience was another 100% answer! We all agreed on the fact that just having the experience of the first time in your pocket WAS an awesome plus! That will tamp down the fear level.
I AM extremely scared of birth and post patrum body it scared me to that extent that probably I will never have kids🤣🤣🤣
Hi - I have been following your channel since the beginning. I have two boys they are 19 months apart… right now they are teenagers-13 and 14 years old now! I was also nervous about paying enough attention to both. I will tell you that it works it self out! I was also nervous about giving birth again but honestly it was so much faster and easier then the first time! But I would definitely say get Epidural. Because childbirth is insanely painful and I just can’t imagine doing it without it. My mother had me without it she said that it was the most painful thing she ever experienced in her life. I had the epidural with both of my children. Up to the point where I got the epidural the pain was horrible intense and I can’t even imagine doing it without.!! Try not to worry about it! Your body will remember and it’s easier and faster the 2nd time. The one thing that I definitely learned from the first time I gave birth was to stay relaxed and not to panic!! Your body was made to do this!! You will be ok!! Congratulations 🎈🎉🎊
I and so excited that Jack get a sissy!!! I love he got what he wanted! They will be best friends I already know it!!!💕☀️
It's so awesome y'all are hopefully having her on the 5th! One reason I love your channel, plus lo and tanner's, is that I lived in Utah for a few years and for some reason yalls content makes me really nostalgic especially when yall are back in Utah. December 5th is actually the day I moved to Utah 🤣 makes me even more excited for you guys! All 4 of you should take the kids to Liberty Park and go to Park Cafe for food! I think they have the bird sanctuary by the Cafe too if the kiddos like birds 💖
You will do great! Just hold your hopes close to your heart and surrender to whatever comes. It's hard to walk through the fears but when you do, you see how badass you are.
You two have got this. RELAX is the word. It will all come naturally to you. You are great parents! Sharing responsibilities will make it all smooth. I had 3 girls! ❤️ to your sweet family!
The second one is usually easier. I had relatively easy labors to begin with, (about 6 hours active labor with the first), but in my case, the second one was SO much easier that I thought that they were Braxton Hicks contractions for the first four or five hours. I did my Lamaze breathing, and had lots of contractions, but the discomfort was so mild that I thought that it couldn't really be active labor. Then it hit. I had less than 45 minutes of hard labor, then had him in the ambulance. (Had tried to wait for husband to get home from work, thinking i was "about to go into labor").
Keep the midwife on speed dial. You'll do great. 💕 Just don't assume that it's a false alarm, and don't ignore diarrhea and back pain, (as i did). Also, if you get persistent contractions, do time them, and don't rely on pain level alone. It just might be easier than you'd expect.
Sarah, you got this, your first is the most difficult, you did brilliantly last time and you will do again. I had 5 each one easier than the one before. It's no walk in the park for sure but it's pain with a purpose. 👍❤️
You all will be great! Jack will be a good big brother and you’ll have more than enough love and attention for both kids - you most likely will be tired a lot!! Praying 🙏🏼 for all to go well 🤗❤️
For million of years women have been giving birth. It's build in your DNA to beable to do so. The uterus literally does what it's suppose to do every month. I was worried that two would be harder than one but it was a lot easier. Kids are so excited to help take care of their baby sister or brother. Just involved jack in helping take care of his baby sister. You guys have such a beautiful family. It's gonna be an amazing experience. 💛💛💛💛
You'll do great!! Especially with Derrick thereby your side. Focus on the breathing. I had my first at 17 with no pain medication, no epidural nada the Dr said I was the toughest little girl he's ever seen. It is scary but look at the end result. 💕💕💕😘😘
You're both AMAZING parents and Jack's gonna be the BEST big brother 💙 love you guys ❤️
There is no need to worry about not having enough time for Jack or the new baby. It will work out, everybody asks the same questions. The baby girl will sleep a lot, so y’all will have time for Jack. It just works out on its own. Jack will be 2, he understands that baby girl will take some of your time, he already loves her and will understand. Just don’t put it in his head (like on the video asking he he is worried about mommy and daddy not having enough time for him). You can’t talk about that part with him, and I would say you should not talk about it in front of Jack. Include him in everything about the baby girl. Like letting him help with her room, let him pick out toys or rattles. I would even let him pick out some clothes for her, or maybe a special blanket for her. Getting him involved will be the best for Jack. Something he can be proud of, he did for baby Sissy. It will work out, have faith. Love y’all, give Jack a big hug a kiss for me.
Trust me lady. It may be scary, but ultra worth it.
I'm reading things I the comments that I can't remotely relate too. I've had 3 children and 3 different experiences. My body did not know what to do and I ended up having 3 C-sections. The first epidural probably didn't work because it was not done right. I pray the best for your beautiful family and hope you have an easier time as I hear it often is for most people. Congratulations! It's totally normal for you guys to feel like you do but you have already proved to be the best there is already!!! 🙏♥️🌹🥰
I just found out I’m pregnant too and it’s like my biggest fear to give birth! Now I’m scared the epidural won’t work! Wishing you the very best!!!
Congratulations! Look into various ways that will increase your body’s own production of glutathione, which manages pregnancy and reduces miscarriage risk. Especially look into alpha lipoic acid (notably useful in the third trimester to minimize sciatica), and unrefined whey protein. Both before and after you have your baby, I also recommend zinc+copper, 5,000 IU of vitamin D + K2 every 12 hours, and magnesium glycinate before bed, as immune and/or mood boosts.
Recently, storable food has been doing better than stocks, and given various recent events, I don’t see that changing in the next 18-24 months. You should get some more of what you already use, and store it where floods can’t touch it.
You'll be surprised at how quickly they'll become best buds and you won't have to do as much as she gets a bit older. They'll have tons of fun together! ! .....and you'll have more time to enjoy watching them!!
Jack is going to be a sweet great big brother!!
All parents feel like they are Terrible Parents!! Don't sweat it! You guys Rock as far as parents go!! HONESTLY!!💕💕🙏🏼
The time you give to both children will work out...my second child was faster and without a epidural.
Yall are awesome parents.
You both are amazing parents 💗 keep up the great job that you are doing with Jack with the new little baby girl and they're going to be the be the most wonderful people on this earth! God bless you both 🙏 much love from Debra in Maine 🥰
I know during my pregnancies, having my thyroid levels checked helped me stay on track with my energy level. Low thyroid can cause that extreme tiredness where you just feel like a blob.
"Baby slide" 🤣 He's gonna be the best big brother ever ❤
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Don’t be afraid that you’ll have enough love because your love is different for each child.
I had a son and a daughter when my husband and I decided to have a 3rd child. I became pregnant with triplets! Although I was terrified at the end only 2 survived but you do what needs to be done and manage!
They are now grown with new babies of their own to love and grandkids for me.
Believe in yourselves and each other’s strength’s!!
Your great 👍
And you should be it is very Scary, so many things can go wrong.And it is so painful,playing like it isn’t is out right lying.You have every right to feel the way you feel.
Don't worry about trying to equally spend time with both kids,I had 4, 3 of them back to back, the newborn is going to be sleeping most of the time, the time you spend with Jack since he's old enough now and interacts with u is most important,these are his formative years, that's where more time should be spent and don't feel bad about it. The rest will fall into place. You guys are great parents, just remember, there's no such thing as perfect parents. ❤️ You all will be just fine.
I had 4 kids and I was scared each time too . I promise it will be ok :)