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  • @januszdworak4780
    @januszdworak4780 4 дні тому +51

    So, she wanted Tim to be her provider and protector while other men would have her for free. It's a great idea.

    • @draconisdragonheart4248
      @draconisdragonheart4248 4 дні тому +10

      Yep! This because she is such a catch he can't find better. 🙄🙄She is delusional.

  • @winniethepoohandeeyore2
    @winniethepoohandeeyore2 4 дні тому +70

    Gentlemen as soon as it's mentioned you EXIT the relationship ASAP.

    • @theinkshrink88
      @theinkshrink88 4 дні тому +13

      Yup. Just asking for it is DISRESPECT enough…. The group ambush TRIPLES it..

    • @gxr7777
      @gxr7777 4 дні тому +12

      If they bring it up, the trust is gone!!!

    • @januszdworak4780
      @januszdworak4780 4 дні тому +8

      @@theinkshrink88 Yes. Watch out for who is giving you advice. They may have a vested interest in it.

    • @thesandero2454
      @thesandero2454 4 дні тому +7

      And always pay attention to those little"innocent"questions they ask to get your"opinion" on the subject.

    • @sbradley3008
      @sbradley3008 4 дні тому +5

      Exactly. It's never "just a conversation." If they bring it up, more than likely you're already in an open relationship but don't know.

  • @chriswhinery
    @chriswhinery 4 дні тому +28

    It sure was nice of them to ambush
    Tim before he was trapped in marriage.
    The dissolution of their relationship is so much easier now.

    • @gxr7777
      @gxr7777 3 дні тому +1

      One of the biggest red flag, the person you trust the most blind sides you.

  • @sbradley3008
    @sbradley3008 4 дні тому +22

    Women like that aren't even girlfriend material, let alone wife material. It's good that she did this before marriage and saved him the cost of a divorce. You can't turn a 304 into a wife. At least not a loyal one.

    • @draconisdragonheart4248
      @draconisdragonheart4248 4 дні тому +6

      Best comment here. He sees what she really is before marriage. No nasty divorce to deal with.

  • @blacksunday4231
    @blacksunday4231 4 дні тому +26

    "Opem relationships are becoming more and more common" I'm tired of hearing this absolute false narrative. How much more common? From 0.5% to 1% of all relationships? In all my 34 years of being alive in liberal and "progressive" California, I have only seen 2 couples in open relationships, and both are no longer together lol.

    • @NotSleepy-r5y
      @NotSleepy-r5y 4 дні тому +4

      My step-grandson started dating a woman who was in an "open engagement." Yeah, she ended up leaving her fiance' and being "exclusive" with him - if you didn't count the OnlyFans and the Burlesque Dancing....he thought it was SO COOL that she was in an open relationship, until he was in a relationship with her....

    • @SalemK-ty4ti
      @SalemK-ty4ti 4 дні тому

      99.7% of monogamous marriages that enter into an open marriage end in divorce within 5 years of opening with more than half within the first year. So save yourself time and just divorce and don’t look back.

    • @sofakingimmature
      @sofakingimmature 3 дні тому +1

      I've seen a few and usually it ends with the husband, the one who didn't ask for it,marrying another woman a few months after the divorce, and the wife still saying random people

    • @HarryDick-h7n
      @HarryDick-h7n 3 дні тому

      Not to mention STDs

    • @HarryDick-h7n
      @HarryDick-h7n 3 дні тому

      @@NotSleepy-r5y - she wasn't his, it was merely his turn

  • @NotSleepy-r5y
    @NotSleepy-r5y 4 дні тому +25

    "Open relationship" is just another word for "breakup."

    • @linz2623
      @linz2623 4 дні тому +1

      I believe it's just a way to cheat with permission!

    • @johndavidson2365
      @johndavidson2365 3 дні тому +1

      No open relationship is a term for cheating. Breakup is the proper response to it.

  • @georgegarvey7338
    @georgegarvey7338 4 дні тому +20

    She tried a bait & switch on him. A narcissistic devious disgusting plan.

  • @terriclark4406
    @terriclark4406 4 дні тому +7

    Anyone else notice how she hooks up with some randos almost immediately. She's for the streets. Dude dodged a bullet.

  • @jwitt9637
    @jwitt9637 3 дні тому +4

    Open minded in this case means having no morals. No real relationship will survive with a partner like that.

  • @dmanic-pq8wp
    @dmanic-pq8wp 3 дні тому +6

    I would never tolerate having my partner's circle of friends having a roundtable discussion on a relationship that they're not in.

    • @josephj7991
      @josephj7991 8 годин тому

      That's OK becuz it is a relationship I wud not be involved in anymore either?

  • @gxr7777
    @gxr7777 4 дні тому +32

    Open relationships fail 100% of the time if one party objects.

    • @MarkLeel
      @MarkLeel 4 дні тому +8

      It’s still fails overwhelmingly when both parties are into it.

    • @alihaydaryalnz6118
      @alihaydaryalnz6118 4 дні тому +2

      You are talking about a type of relationship that fails more than 90% of the time, even if both parties want it. However, if you do not feel human emotions, an open relationship is successful.

    • @terriclark4406
      @terriclark4406 4 дні тому

      80% of the time if both agree.

    • @richardcox4413
      @richardcox4413 3 дні тому +1

      Statistics from divorce lawyers in North America suggest that only 3% of marriages are open, and 93% of open marriages end in divorce. So, simple probability would suggest 1-in-33 marriages are open and 1-in-14 don't end in divorce. In summary, you have a 0.21% (1-in-476) chance of being in an open marriage and not getting divorced.

  • @drl5002
    @drl5002 4 дні тому +6

    Her: "i want an open relationship"
    Sure, no problem, first thing, the wedding is now off as I'm not going to vow to keep myself only for you and give that level of commitment whilst being in an open relationship. Second thing, you need to move out. Now our relationship is open and I'll treat you as an FWB and will no longer be committed to you, but we can still hang out.

  • @elyserva7903
    @elyserva7903 3 дні тому +5

    So, she really wanted that open-relationship thing because she immediately hooked up with several guys after their breakup! Maybe she's already hooking up with other guys while they're engaged. Her friends just opened up the idea hoping Tim would concur. 😜🤪

  • @rjroy8143
    @rjroy8143 4 дні тому +10

    "Pushed too hard, too fast" = "I tried to force him, prematurely."

    • @gxr7777
      @gxr7777 3 дні тому +2

      Another of the ones that will change him then say he's not the man I married. 🤣🤣🤣

  • @davidcarranza7360
    @davidcarranza7360 3 дні тому +2

    She laid with random guys after the breakup, "Tim was solid", she acknowledges he was a future partner material and she demonstrated she isn't... Unless you want a quick fling

  • @jeremybethea5747
    @jeremybethea5747 4 дні тому +12

    She just wants to cheat with no consequences

  • @blited2761
    @blited2761 4 дні тому +7

    She realized she pushed to hard to fast? Still doesn’t understand that the moment she opened her mouth and even suggested it , it was over.

  • @richardcox4413
    @richardcox4413 3 дні тому +4

    So, she got engaged and decided afterwards to suggest an open marriage? The time to discuss this would have been well before she agreed to marry him. And to ambush her fiance with friends and say, "It's just a discussion," only to then to belittle him, and threaten him with breaking up when he disagreed, was absolutely ridiculous! 😮 As soon as she brought this up, it's 100% clear that her and her friends were planning to cheat, and just wanted a free pass to do so. And it's certainly not progressive or positive if it's clearly going to hurt your spouse. 😒

  • @ESNchris
    @ESNchris 4 дні тому +11

    the very instant the words "open relationships" get out of the mouth oif your gf or wife just break up and divorce if married. relation is done and unfixable. she'll cheat on you openly or behind your back, with or without your agrement (which you should NEVER give)

  • @britcat7780
    @britcat7780 4 дні тому +4

    95% of relationships that started as exclusive and change to open relationships end in divorce. 95%!!!!! Bottom line is that marriage can work as an exclusive relationship but pretty much always fails if changed to an open relationship. The moment a GF or wife raises the topic of an open relationship your relationship is OVER. Start preparing for divorce or breakup. She almost always is already cheating or has a person in mind she wants to cheat with or is promiscuous and wants you to provide and support her while she continues to be promiscuous. There is no upside for a man who wants a life and family with a woman, wants to know who the actual father of their children is, wants a sexual relationship without stranger guys introducing STDs to the relationship through your wife. No upside at all.

  • @spoosieoopsie1616
    @spoosieoopsie1616 4 дні тому +14

    Open relationships are "new and profressive"?
    Guess they've never heard of Lord Byron...

    • @alihaydaryalnz6118
      @alihaydaryalnz6118 4 дні тому +2

      He is very famous among the French and the English. These modern idiots say that everything that suits them is new. We should also take them back to the time of Alexander. 😂

  • @ESNchris
    @ESNchris 4 дні тому +6

    open relationship is no relationships. If you don't have sexual EXCLUSIVITY why to commit and have a relationship at all. clearly somebody who wants to sleep withgother people do not love nor respect you

  • @BetaRayBill-yx9eb
    @BetaRayBill-yx9eb 3 дні тому +3

    Conversations like that mean the party's over. Time to call it a day.

  • @anthonyparisella7224
    @anthonyparisella7224 4 дні тому +3

    Even discussing an open relationship means she no longer loves or respects you and that likely she's already cheating

  • @009AWB
    @009AWB 4 дні тому +3

    03:45. Once she even mentions open relationship and especially if she has your entire mutual friends group ganging up on you to coerce you into agreeing, it’s time to leave her there and prepare for the divorce because she is already cheating on you or has one or more other people lined up and waiting to jump in. Refuse to participate and walk.

  • @balltonge79
    @balltonge79 3 дні тому +2

    Riiight... she was just testing the waters. Went on hook-ups right they broke up. She was 34 in the closet.

  • @009AWB
    @009AWB 4 дні тому +2

    07:45. The “ open, communicative relationship “ that you had only existed in the context of mutually agreed upon terms, goals and conditions. This open relationship is now an attempt to fundamentally alter the relationship paradigm of monogamy and exclusive commitment. Tim owes you nothing under these conditions.

  • @426mak
    @426mak 3 дні тому +2

    I don't get it. People like Kelly want an open relationship but don't want to have the ultimate open relationship of being single.

  • @bennyfugazzi1054
    @bennyfugazzi1054 4 дні тому +2

    I love how these poly people say it’s the new thing and how they think we are old fashioned
    Yet polyamory is as old as the human race

  • @louishagene3332
    @louishagene3332 4 дні тому +3

    She is so disrespectful and entitled. She wasted no time hooking up “out of frustration”. Women will use any excuse to be promiscuous. Notice how she “thinks she may have pushed too fast” says that she has no accountability and she still wants to force her progressive relationship ideas. He did the right thing- move on from her and the whole friend group.

  • @hockey_rules
    @hockey_rules 3 дні тому +1

    Tim is the only one in that group of friends with his head on straight. All of them talking about open marriage and how "progressive" it is. See how "progressive" it is for them down the road when they come to realize open marriages kill relationships, they don't enhance it, or make it more adventurous as they all make it out to be.

  • @ryuukaze2823
    @ryuukaze2823 4 дні тому +2

    Yep, sure open relationship.
    And later on, she'll came crying that some side piece got her pregnant, but "WE can fix this".

  • @Censorthisbananahamock
    @Censorthisbananahamock 3 дні тому +1

    Open relationships are death to relationships, you will always wonder if she gets pregnant if that kid is yours or someone elses.

  • @richardorsulich4698
    @richardorsulich4698 4 дні тому +3

    304 hie dodged an std and an expensive divorce
    Well done

  • @johndavidson2365
    @johndavidson2365 3 дні тому +1

    Relationships are not changing, they are dying. She was never his just his turn.

  • @J.P_INC.
    @J.P_INC. 4 дні тому +2

    Progress is finding a place of stability and contentment. If you have to keep going through life looking for something you want and change the idea of what you want, that's not progress but confusion.

  • @angusgow1887
    @angusgow1887 3 дні тому +1

    My questions would be how often are STD tests taken and who pays for the babies DNA test ?

  • @wdeemarwdeemar8739
    @wdeemarwdeemar8739 2 дні тому

    Open relationships are not more common but usually it’s happening but one doesn’t know it.

  • @Cerylyse
    @Cerylyse 3 дні тому +1

    Why buy the cow if others get to drink the milk for free.

  • @Sajid-j7m7k
    @Sajid-j7m7k 3 дні тому +1

    In West hookup culture is like door to hell mostly women are dying with cats or dog in there side only .
    This culture need to delete from system.

  • @urchbsmirch22
    @urchbsmirch22 4 дні тому +2

    What the hell about open relationship is "liberating"???

  • @megaspear150
    @megaspear150 3 дні тому

    Dude, if that girl would search up of how open relationship would turn out. One word, Bad fucking bad. 99% or somewhat 100% would end like how the story would turn out.

  • @angusgow1887
    @angusgow1887 3 дні тому +1

    Do you think she wanted him to pay and raise her partners kid too?

  • @brianmanville7200
    @brianmanville7200 4 дні тому +1

    If I was in that situation, I'd feel like I was on trial..

  • @metheglynpymont8731
    @metheglynpymont8731 2 дні тому

    "Progressive" is a code word for "stupid".

  • @treevenewson
    @treevenewson 3 дні тому

    Tim dodged a nuke

  • @ROCKSTAR123620
    @ROCKSTAR123620 4 дні тому +1

    Kelly with a L just like her friends 😅😅😅😅

  • @uncle0eric
    @uncle0eric 2 дні тому

    She says, "I don't know if there's a way back." There isn't.

  • @wdeemarwdeemar8739
    @wdeemarwdeemar8739 2 дні тому

    I would be out of the house in a nanosecond.

  • @firewindapple
    @firewindapple 3 дні тому

    the timeline is confused and Mark changes to Jim and back to Mark

  • @009AWB
    @009AWB 4 дні тому +1

    17:30. Meow!!!

  • @alihaydaryalnz6118
    @alihaydaryalnz6118 4 дні тому

    Colleague, i haven’t been able to comment on your i’ve been coding for a long time stories, but the flashbacks didn’t turn out well. By the way, for an open relationship to work, you’d need to rid yourself of human emotions

  • @Dilligaf-m7s
    @Dilligaf-m7s 3 дні тому

    Fix your transcripts please, they are never completed