Top 3 BEST Things About PRISON (In My Experience)
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
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The Only Living Boy in New York - Simon & Garfunkel
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Thank you for very informative videos. Keep up the good work😊
Wow. Thank you so much! I really appreciate you 🥰
Dude, that is very nice!
Brian, if we had more people that learned and grew so much from their Prison experience the world would be a much better place for it.
That is so kind of you to say.❤️❤️
Talk about looking for the diamonds in the sand! Excellent outlook!
Hi, I'm an addiction counselor and a person in recovery. Your videos have been really insightful to watch as there are some things that my clients go through that I don't know about or understand (prison being one of them). You have a new subscriber!!
The world needs more people like you! In recovery and dedicated to helping. Much respect ✊. Thank you for watching and commenting. ❤️
@@SmilesforMiles2024 Have you thought about becoming a recovery counselor? You already have a Bachelor's and I bet you can take a course or two while you're still on house arrest.
The food and the friendships.
Thank you for making this channel. I wound up getting my teeth removed by an oral surgeon, had a near death experience and spiraled into addiction myself. Alot of channels about this dont really relate to me or my experience, but yours does.
Brian, weirdly I am also a RN who worked in a county jail where I met my fiance. He was in for owi 5th offense. Heroin and meth. He’s almost three years clean now and 8 months into an 18 month prison sentence. He said if it weren’t for going to jail and meeting me, he’d likely be dead now. I am so proud of both of you. Keep putting the word out there. The level of honesty, accountability, and inspiration is inspiring. God bless you.
I'm binge watching Brian whilst doi g ironing....you must write a book one day.
Have " guests " on panel..telling their stories..I'd definitely tune in, you are very easy listening.
B from Scotland ❤
Oh wow. I appreciate that so much. I can’t even tell you. I can’t believe you are tuning in from Scotland! That blows my mind. Thank you so much for your support! Once I get off of house arrest I am definitely going to start bringing other people on, and once I am done with parole I am definitely going to start traveling for the channel. I can’t wait to do more with all of this. Support like yours is so inspiring to me. Thank you 🙏
@@SmilesforMiles2024 A Livestream where you answer questions from the chat would be cool.
You are very articulate and easy to listen to 🌹🌹 your videos definitely can help quiet the mind clutter that happens with life 🌅
Love this take, especially the emphasis on Number #1. In therapy, mindfulness is a topic we hit on repeatedly. Being present with one another and engaging fully is so important in relationships, and so many of us have forgotten this.
The "limited choices" is so important sometimes. It is actually how Trader Joes makes money. Part of their marketing is to give you three options for olive oil, not seventeen. And if you think about it, it makes the choice easier and gives a buyer less anxiety.
New follower here! Really interesting things to think about. We take so much for granted. It's great that you have been able to re-frame your time in prison with some positive experiences. They all align with what so many of us are trying to do - just simplify our lives.
Side note - "The Only Living Boy in New York" is one of my fav songs. Great call!
Would you ever do a Q&A / talk music or list your book recommendations style video??
A Livestream where he answers questions in the chat.
Awesome gratitude here. Definitely essential for maintaining sobriety imo. (25 years sober)
That’s so awesome that your cell mate traded drawings for a party for you! ❤
Overcoming the addiction you did is one of the hardest things to do. It’s like climbing Everest. So happy to see a success story. I’ve lost a few people to this addiction. I pray your story goes big and you reach the many who feel lost and without purpose. You are an inspiration!
Thank you so much for your kind words. I’ve lost people as well. It’s a hard climb out of the trenches, but I feel like I’m getting there. Your support helps ❤️🙏
It's a bit more like climbing Everest, and living at Basecamp for the rest of your life, constantly on call to climb it all over again.
great thoughts man, best of luck on your journey going forward 👍🏼
Loved this video and your insight that can be applied to everyone's out life!
Thank you so much! I’m so glad it landed that way 🙂 it means a lot to me that you commented. You’re awesome! 😎
Thanks so very much for this video.. I love hearing what you have to say about your experience. 😊
I love seeing you here in the comments Jen ❤️ thank you for watching and keeping me motivated 🥰
@@SmilesforMiles2024 awww your so welcome! Thank you 💜
Brian you’re almost hit your first 1k sub!! 🎉🎉
Wow.. You learned some very deep stuff that most people haven't even thought of. I'm enjoying your channel very much. It sounds like you've come a long way. I'm sure you will end up having a more forfilling life having to learn these lessons at an early age that some people will take a lifetime. And you are intelligent and articulate.. keep going and keep up the good work.
Oh my gosh. Reading this has put a huge smile on my face. You made my day! I feel very fortunate for the whole experience and the mindset that I have come out with. I’m so happy to be able to share with whoever wants to listen. Thank you for your encouragement. It helps so much 🥰
Solid song choice
This is absolutely insane!! I mean, I respect this mindset sooooo much!! But having spent 90 days in jail on a probation violation, yes I worked out and had a good routine, but my anxiety was just so heightened at all times. I’d like think that we were all going to burn to death in our cells, just the claustrophobia and not really being able to go outside - it was a lot. I don’t wish it on anyone. Thankfully, I went back when we could still smoke in jail on the “yard” lol. I’d beg to get a job, but bc I was on detox…..they made me wait 90 days, which was my whole sentence lol. Your perspective is absolutely wild to me. But I respect it.
thank you for sharing your experiences. Not very many people are able to have a positive perseption about addiction, while at the same time giving others a new perspective about what's possible if we're willing to face the parts of ourselves that the addiction was ment to keep buried and hidden from the site of those around us, including ourselves. funny how choosing to do whats hard , and doing whats right, are more often than not, one in the same.
got another song for ya,
Band: The Midnight,
Song Title: Shadows
Oh man, I am absolutely LOVING the vibe of this band! I’m a sucker for the 80’s sound anyway, but they are awesome. I just kept listening after Shadows ended. That’s definitely going up as the Song of the Week in a couple of videos from now!
@@SmilesforMiles2024 I'm glad you enjoyed it. I was wondering if I could make a video request? if not I understand. worst you can say is no lol.
@@timothysturgess5985 please do! I would love a video request! 🙂 what can I do for you?
@@SmilesforMiles2024 ok thanks, ill give some context first.
Having had similar issues with substance abuse, I encountered people and situations that had a huge impact on certian beliefs I had about the world. almost like a loss of inocence. kinda like hearing about war, and being in war, are two diffrent experiences, even if you have an idea what to expect, you don't really know untill your in it. as much as I enjoy your positive look at your experience, I was hoping maybe you could share some of the not so great things that you witnessed, or found your self involved in. I know you did the video about lying to your ex, and the drug test ( hate to say it but I have a similar story) or your dad's using your dads car. more like... did you experience anything that left you with a feeling of realizing maybe how naive you had been viewing the world? find yourself witnessing something that left you wondering "how could so much of this kind of stuff be going on?" the things people go through, like it's almost unnoticed. if your not comfortable or not ready to talk about such situations, or if you experienced anything like what I'm reffering to, I completly understand. I could give you better examples but I'd prefer to do it through messenger or IG. but either way, sorry this was so long, thanks for considering my request. and there's a song that kinda reminded me of your video explaining how you were doing what was expected of you, the job getting married, and so on, and how your happier now with yourself, and your love of music. the artist is NF, and the song title is "when i grow up" thanks for your time, and your doing good, men like you are needed in this world, now more than ever.
@@timothysturgess5985 I think I have stuff to talk about like you are mentioning. I love what you said here. I have my next video already made and that’s the one I’m posting this Sunday, but I think your idea here will be my next one. I would love to hear more of what you are talking about here. I have an email that you can get ahold of me at:
smilesformilescontact@gmail.com
I have messenger but I’m not sure how to tell you to find me there other than looking me up on FB (Brian Collins). If you know of another way we can get in touch let me know.
I am familiar with that NF track. It’s a great one. I’m gonna listen to it again now 🙂 thanks for reminding me.
I've been to a treatment center in North Carolina numerous times and most of the staff were in recovery, so that helped a lot and some of them were nurses that had had been involved in substance abuse. That always helps with people who know what's going on. I am not sure what their were addictions were - I am an alcoholic, but we are all in the same boat. I wasn't incarcerated but it kind of felt like it because we were told what we had to do. The food was awful and I have found I can't read or stay in my room. That isn't how I am normally. I am a journalist and never wrote, or wrote journals. I would watch people that aren't writers doing it, but for some reason I couldn't do it. I would rather just hang out in the smoking area talking to people. I don't even want to have to go through that crap again.
I'm glad you got through it. I'm right there with you! I'm glad I went through it now, but I don't want to ever do it again. Thank you for sharing. It helps so much!!
Exactly some people Do have cell phones but not the majority. Our modern society really doesn’t seem to even realize how addictive it is! I don’t see families having dinner together anymore and Never without cell phones! It’s extremely sad. People are Not United anymore.
How long did you have to stay there? I stayed 10 months and it was more than Enough.
Yes, your prison experience is what we called or used to call, it's been some time, in "softie prison". You were a first time offender who couldn’t protect themselves in general population. My first two times in the system aligned with what you describe. There is trouble but if you keep you head down you stay out of it. I described jail to people at that time as similar to summer camp. You get told what to do and you do it. You sneak around the guards (camp counselors) and see what you can get away with. I would say it was almost fun, coming from someone who came from wealth. The next few times in the system was not like that at all. And it was NOT fun. It was very scary and I wasn’t prepared.
You missed playing cards, prison tats, and cooking contraband. I am guessing you stayed away from drugs. True story, the first time in LA county my cell mate snuck in crack so the first night ever in jail (for possession) was spent smoking crack. Life is crazy.
Oh my god. This is the best premise ever.
1:28-1:33 "it doesn't have to be fun to be fun" The Last Of Us 2 director could've learned that!!
4:00-6:00 yeap, the idea of retirement and doing nothing are total bunk.
8:18-8:55 I often experience benefic limited choice when I go outside. Such as going to the library or a bookworm's house, and not bringing a phone.
13:28-14:22 I also experience benefic phone absence outside... by not carrying one with me. I also incentivize and self-select for this, at least as long as face-to-face interactions last.
18:30 good!!! Better doing something else.
Let’s see how they do with Last of Us 3 😅
Less is, truly, more :)
Indeed it is ❤️
Hi Brian, this was such an interesting video about the Top 3 things About your Prison experience. I wanted to comment on your second one of the positive aspect of having Limited Choices. I don't know if you ever watched any speeches by Yeonmi Park who was born in North Korea and eventually escaped into China, then South Korea and eventually the United States. She mentions that with all of her life decisions being made for her while in North Korea it was so difficult when she was faced with making choices in freedom. When I first heard her say this I couldn't understand why, but as I ponder this thought it makes more sense.
Wow. Thank you for sharing that. I am going to go check out Yeonmi Park right now. That is so interesting 🤔 thank you thank you 🙏
I just checked her out. She is great! I think I’m gonna have to binge watch some of her content! Thanks again!! 😊😊
@@SmilesforMiles2024 Watch her interview on the channel "Socrates in the City with host Eric Metaxas. It is so interesting. Also some of her speeches given at YAF conferences.
@@benburns5995 I’m totally on it!!
"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both;
And be one traveler, long I stood,
And looked down one as far as I could." - Robert Frost
You can spend as much time as you'd like making a choice, but at the end of it, you will have chosen the one that you were meant to all along. Choices are an impossible thing to escape, but your attitude towards those choices is what really either adds or removes the weight from your life.
Also jk prison food is the best and i also loved getting choked out it was fire 🔥
Very wise words. And yes! 😂 even the bad stuff I experienced in there turned out to be something I liked in the end. Most bad things can become good things if you choose to use them that way! Love you Kyle ❤️
@SmilesforMiles2024 you know that's right! Love ya buddy. I'd be interested to hear about any hacks you discovered in there. Whether it's food based or like how you can charge a battery with tin foil or something lol
@@kylekirchmusic oh yeah definitely can show you all that stuff as well.
The Stranger Novel by Albert Camus - a book recommendation
But do you loose your house when you are in prison or did your family help with paying for the rent?
wish I could hug you :)
In modern life a human being makes at least 5,000 Decisions every single day. Seriously.
I’ve done time and your video is On Point. It’s probably why many people become institutionalized. Personally I’m doing my best not to ever experience that again! 😎
I didn’t know there was anything good about being in prison.
What advice would you give to someone who is facing 18 months in prison?
I have a friend who is currently in jail awaiting sentencing. Not a violent person, not a bad person, no criminal history; they do not belong in prison by my estimation, or anyone that could put themselves in their shoes. I worry about their optimism towards getting a suspended sentence and returning home. I wish to be able to say something that might ease their transition into a prison sentence that I feel they may not have fully accepted as a very real possibility. I realize this is impossible and naive but I feel a duty to try.
Others have told me to tell them to stay busy, to not borrow anything, and to stay positive. I realize 18 months isn't that long, but to a first timer that probably feels like a lifetime. They've expressed a positive attitude to their current time in jail, which gave me confidence in their resilience, I'm just hoping it lasts if the worst comes to fruition.
It was my first time too. I had never even been inside a jail before. And I was also optimistic that I would not have to go to prison before I was sentenced. So, similar situation it sounds like.
It seems like an eternity in the mind, but once I got into a routine the time absolutely FLEW by. So I would recommend getting into a routine. When I look back on it now I feel like the time I spent there was absolutely a gift because, like I was saying in the video, it gave me a chance to focus on ME. No worldly distractions or tedious responsibilities. Just me and my relationship to myself. It's a great place to lock into some heathy habits (exercise, mindfulness practice, educating yourself or learning a new skills through reading, working on self-discipline, etc). You have nothing but undistracted time so getting into any of that stuff is effortless compared to how it is out in the world, and you can come out with a whole new relationship with yourself.
There will be plenty of great people there just like your friend, and they will be able to form some great friendships, but there is also a lot of unhelpful stuff to get caught up in. Your friend should be aware of that, but not too worried about it. As long as they aren't interested in getting caught up in anything, then it should be easy to know when to say "no" to someone. Some people will try to be tricky, but just being mindful of that should be enough to keep them out of trouble.
If they just keep focused on self-improvement, and coming out a better version of themselves then when they went in, the time spent in there could, in retrospect, become some of the most well-spent months of their life.
I hope something in there was helpful in some way. Im sending you and your friend all of my love and support. Don't hesitate to write be back if there is anything else I can do for you
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No responsibilities seem good except boring. I spent 24 hours for DUI when I was 18...were you in drug withdraws? That probably would not be that great...like your channel.
Hello again 🙂 I went through severe withdrawals in the beginning after I was first arrested. And after the withdrawals ended there was definitely very little to do. I think the worst is in the beginning. We are so used to living such fast-paced, high stimulus lives that it takes a while for the mind to slow down when everything is taken away. So in that 24 hours you were probably experiencing the worst part of “no responsibilities” 😅 Once my mind slowed down though I was able to find a lot of peace. Thank you for watching. You are awesome for being here
Holy hell you are so inspiring
Going through protracted prescribed med withdrawal
The ends messed me up so bad that I lost everything and everyone
They changed my brain and sense of self. I don’t know how to dig myself out
It’s kinda hard to own this as my brain has been destroyed by a legal dealer (Benzos taking as prescribed)
So much grief
Lost my career as a nurse also
So unwell I’m basically under house arrest and the isolation is so hard.
I hope my brain recovers from the damage and my heart from the grief
You’re keeping me company
Thank you again 🙏
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