Thank you very much Rulla for your video. I suppose you mean no kissing too about multiple dating. I know that there is a book about the subject but I don't remember the title. if you know anything about that, please tell me. 💫😍💫
You’re more than welcome Shira! When multiple dating, it really comes down to what you both feel comfortable with. Rather than following a book, follow your intuition and always take things slow! 🥰
Most of people work full time and meet with the person they're dating once a week on Saturday. How are can you manage to date multiple people? Also they usually start texting or calling after work hours in the evening. How can you have time to talk to multiple people every evening?
Set boundaries on your time and how long u speak on the phone.. have a date on Tuesday Thursday and Saturday if needbe.. all it takes it honesty communication and organization.. but eventually you HAVE TO PICK SOMEONE.. Unless you've discussed polyamory with all lovers.. And like she said this DOES NOT MEAN YOU SRE SLEEPING WITH ANY OR ALL OF THEM.
@@DivaDivine88 I don't know what type of job you do, but for me I am usually exhausted and I look so with deep dark circles after work. I'm in no mood to dress up and I have no energy to be feminine and playful, that's why most of people meet on weekends unless they're working part time...
@@rullalani You admit you can't be that into a guy you just met so your genius logic thinks it will get better with two or three at the same time? lol sometimes ignorance needs to just sit out there for everyone to see it.
Hmm I mean I respect it, and they have every right to choose how many people they date, but I think for me it just makes me lose interest, not so much that I get possessive or jealous.
So you expect a woman to commit to you on the first date? Don't you believe that you should give each other some time and space to get to know each other first? As long as you are both honest with each other, I think it's more special when you take things slow and actually weigh out your options before diving into a serious relationship.
@@rullalani well no, tbh I don't think "dates" are the way to go. I think you should like someone as a friend and as a person before getting romantically involved with them.
Great video, and I completely agree! After the life of me can't understand why men feel so entitled over your time and energy so quickly just because they express that they like you, without even being willing to take the time to show that they are really serious about you. To me it's more about you go; men like to be in control, and with modern women being more independent and financially stable, women are taking the time to be more patient in the dating process because they don't necessarily NEED a man but want one instead.. this had shifted the power dynamic leaving many men who don't have as many options feeling even more isolated and not sure where they place in a woman's life..
When you finally meet that guy who you want to get down on one knee & propose, you want to give him children & start a family, get a house, build a legacy & grow old together…… you think he’s going to want to be with you once you tell him about all these men you fucked?????
I'm a guy and I agree with her. I would rather be happy knowing I found a girl through dating multiple women then giving my all to the psyco chick I met first.
And this is exactly why I push these girls away, no matter how attractive even if they are 10s. I don’t like all these games and competitive games. Like gtfo of here. They play with multiple dudes at once I don’t mess that way. Disgusting. No offense. This is pretty much hookup culture.
How is it a “game” when you are upfront and clear with everyone involved? This strategy protects women from settling with an inadequate guy. If you watched the entire video, you would have heard that I encourage women to refrain from hooking up until they have found someone that they want to commit to.
When did she mention sleeping with anyone? How us it games.. it does not logically make sense to meet someone only go on dates with that one person and jump into a relationship right off the bat. You have to get to know different people in order to find out who is best suited for you.
@@thelovely961 i totally agree, but that does not mean playing games and leading multiple guys on acting like your into them, like them. Make them catch feelings all to ghost them for another “better man” i don’t lead a bunch of girl on and pick and choose, i don’t like games and so do most guys, unless u some player, then of course they do it too. That was all.
@@rullalani So you are upfront and clear to the guy how many other guys your leading on and probably telling them the same things? sending copy pasted texts, telling them things you tell every guy, only for them to catch feelings and be ghosted? you should never settle with an inadequate guy, but don’t destroy a bunch of men in the process. To find Brad and Chad who will later dump you for another attractive woman.This type of behavior creates sour men, who will do the same back to you, and it’s not fun when tables are turned. Woman don’t like a man who sees multiple women at once, Mabye in today’s day and age they do. But back then it was considered nasty. Nothing surprises me nowadays.
Not really , depends what dudes your messing with. Some hate this stuff. Some men do this stuff. But personally I push girls away, no matter how attractive that play these games, cuz they eventually break your heart. It’s stringing you along. It’s some bs.
I have a channel myself (for men) and your video came up as I was doing a keyword research. Couldn't agree with you more on what you said and it might be good to bounce ideas off each other. I'm not sure one needs to tell someone else that they continue to date others and think it's generally understood. If a female reminds me she's dating someone else, it would be a complete turn off not really because of insecurity. BTW, my research is on what we can learn about ourselves as we date.
Hello, thank you for your comment! 😁 I believe in transparency, so you don’t need to outright say “I’m seeing other people”, but you should somehow hint at the fact that you’re keeping your options open and that you haven’t settled yet. Perhaps mention that you’re still on a dating app. I think that’s definitely fair if you’ve JUST met someone and not a turn off if put lightly. To be quite honest, there are some very traditional men who believe that once you go on a date, you are officially a couple. I’ve been in that situation so it’s always better to be safe than sorry, so nobody gets their feelings hurt. I’d love to hear your thoughts!
@@rullalani You're very much correct, a lot of guys make the assumption that they are exclusive after 1 date. I'll try to connect with you through IG but I'm not much of an IG user and more FB(lol, total generational thing).
Trust me this is the best thing to do save ourself from getting attached and heartbreak but please by dating I only mean talking and getting knowing each other being friends with the possibility of making boyfriend but that too for not a long time,I was a girl who took all her relationships seriously and that's why I got hurt everytime because I was just talking and putting my energy in just one and I used to get too attached but now if someone doesn't text me I don't get panic anymore
Ladies, this attitude wont help you. I know that it is tempting because of having more options but not every guy does this, a lot of them have the app, message girls, get in to a convo with one then focus on it to see where it goes. Or they dont even use these apps, they still just date irl. If he finds out you are playing the field you are getting dropped like a hot potato. Play the field you will end up alone in your late 30's, wondering why you are unable to find a husband. We dont want a women with a whole deck of cards, it looks desperate, conduct yourself with class and you will stand out from the crowd. Men want this! Guys who do it, just be cautious of them. Really it is these dating apps that are creating this mentality. Tinder isnt everything and ultimately its destructive.
Paying for a dinner date shouldn't come with any expectations. Now if you're paying for rent, food, and clothes, then that's an entirely different situation and exclusivity should be a requirement.
If you think that going on a date when you’re single is considered being a hoe, then that’s a personal issue. Do yourself a favor and lose the insecurity🤦🏻♀️
A guy told me he is only seeing me, he said seeing is just getting to know someone before datijg exclusively, and then I found out he was seeing others and doing exactly same video chat with others at the same time, since he is a pilot, and told all of us he is only seeing us, we trusted him, do you think should I stop seeing him coz he lied the rest are his friends? Or you think I can forgive him as we are not bf yet, so he can tell me this pretty lie that he is seeing others
The fact that he lied to you is a red flag, but since you’re not exclusive yet, you can’t hold him accountable. It’s up to you how you want to proceed. It sounds like you don’t trust him anymore which will be tough if you plan to build a relationship in the future.
Girls who do this are heart breakers. Same with the dudes that do this. Destroys people, destroys relationships. And destroys the way men or women may view eachother. It becomes that, a game. They string tons of men along till they find what they’ want, then cut everyone else off.
In life, it’s best to keep your options open until you are fully satisfied. Whether you are searching for a job, friendship, or partner - there is nothing wrong with comparing your options before making a decision.
I accidentally am using a guy Disney plus that I’m seeing but I’m also seeing other guys and I’m going to the cinema w another. Uhhhhh….. idk how that happened0-0
Thank you very much Rulla for your video. I suppose you mean no kissing too about multiple dating. I know that there is a book about the subject but I don't remember the title. if you know anything about that, please tell me. 💫😍💫
You’re more than welcome Shira! When multiple dating, it really comes down to what you both feel comfortable with. Rather than following a book, follow your intuition and always take things slow! 🥰
Most of people work full time and meet with the person they're dating once a week on Saturday. How are can you manage to date multiple people? Also they usually start texting or calling after work hours in the evening. How can you have time to talk to multiple people every evening?
Set boundaries on your time and how long u speak on the phone.. have a date on Tuesday Thursday and Saturday if needbe.. all it takes it honesty communication and organization.. but eventually you HAVE TO PICK SOMEONE.. Unless you've discussed polyamory with all lovers.. And like she said this DOES NOT MEAN YOU SRE SLEEPING WITH ANY OR ALL OF THEM.
@@DivaDivine88 I don't know what type of job you do, but for me I am usually exhausted and I look so with deep dark circles after work. I'm in no mood to dress up and I have no energy to be feminine and playful, that's why most of people meet on weekends unless they're working part time...
@@Rwissam1987 💯💯💯💯
Some people in the comments are confusing dating for a relationship.
You can't possibly be that into a guy if you had no problems dating others at the same time. Your heart was really never in it.
You can’t possibly be that into a guy if you just met him once or a few times. 🤣
This is crazy to me I'm getting to know you plus 3 others and dating apps 🤦🏾♂️ you will never really get to know him or her.
I agree
@@rullalani You admit you can't be that into a guy you just met so your genius logic thinks it will get better with two or three at the same time? lol sometimes ignorance needs to just sit out there for everyone to see it.
@@2livenoobLMFAO
Hmm I mean I respect it, and they have every right to choose how many people they date, but I think for me it just makes me lose interest, not so much that I get possessive or jealous.
So you expect a woman to commit to you on the first date? Don't you believe that you should give each other some time and space to get to know each other first? As long as you are both honest with each other, I think it's more special when you take things slow and actually weigh out your options before diving into a serious relationship.
@@rullalani well no, tbh I don't think "dates" are the way to go. I think you should like someone as a friend and as a person before getting romantically involved with them.
Why do we need to tell our date we're dating others, there's no obligation to report to them.
Yes, you’re right. There is no obligation to report to them, but it’s common courtesy 🤷🏻♀️
Because you're being deceitful.
men don't tell us & they literally do this
@@bimbobaggypants4820 there's a difference between not telling and lying, without a commitment I don't see the responsibility to tell everything
@@thelovely961 exactly
The advice I always needed but never got 😅🙌🏼 thank you!
Glad to hear that❣️ anytime!
Great video, and I completely agree! After the life of me can't understand why men feel so entitled over your time and energy so quickly just because they express that they like you, without even being willing to take the time to show that they are really serious about you. To me it's more about you go; men like to be in control, and with modern women being more independent and financially stable, women are taking the time to be more patient in the dating process because they don't necessarily NEED a man but want one instead.. this had shifted the power dynamic leaving many men who don't have as many options feeling even more isolated and not sure where they place in a woman's life..
Perfectly said! I agree with your insights!
I really appreciate you saying “fall infatuated” with them. 💯 stay sound and logical ladies! ❤️
I agree with this 100’percent. I been living my best life 😍
Yay!!! Live it up girl 🎉
When you finally meet that guy who you want to get down on one knee & propose, you want to give him children & start a family, get a house, build a legacy & grow old together…… you think he’s going to want to be with you once you tell him about all these men you fucked?????
If you're not serious this is the way to go... many men aren't gonna agree with this unless he will be getting something of ir
Men don’t agree with this even though they do the same thing. 😂
I'm a guy and I agree with her. I would rather be happy knowing I found a girl through dating multiple women then giving my all to the psyco chick I met first.
And this is exactly why I push these girls away, no matter how attractive even if they are 10s. I don’t like all these games and competitive games. Like gtfo of here. They play with multiple dudes at once I don’t mess that way. Disgusting. No offense. This is pretty much hookup culture.
How is it a “game” when you are upfront and clear with everyone involved? This strategy protects women from settling with an inadequate guy. If you watched the entire video, you would have heard that I encourage women to refrain from hooking up until they have found someone that they want to commit to.
Better to go mgtow than deal with players.
When did she mention sleeping with anyone? How us it games.. it does not logically make sense to meet someone only go on dates with that one person and jump into a relationship right off the bat. You have to get to know different people in order to find out who is best suited for you.
@@thelovely961 i totally agree, but that does not mean playing games and leading multiple guys on acting like your into them, like them. Make them catch feelings all to ghost them for another “better man” i don’t lead a bunch of girl on and pick and choose, i don’t like games and so do most guys, unless u some player, then of course they do it too. That was all.
@@rullalani So you are upfront and clear to the guy how many other guys your leading on and probably telling them the same things? sending copy pasted texts, telling them things you tell every guy, only for them to catch feelings and be ghosted? you should never settle with an inadequate guy, but don’t destroy a bunch of men in the process. To find Brad and Chad who will later dump you for another attractive woman.This type of behavior creates sour men, who will do the same back to you, and it’s not fun when tables are turned. Woman don’t like a man who sees multiple women at once, Mabye in today’s day and age they do. But back then it was considered nasty. Nothing surprises me nowadays.
thank you so much for this video, it helped me to sort out my thoughts a little bit :)
I'm so glad! 💕
My problem with seeing or dating multiple ppl is how well are you getting to them individually before you decide to jump ship
A true masculine man wouldn’t take a girl seriously if she told me she was sleeping with other dudes. I would immediately be put off.
If you watched the video, you would hear me clearly say that rotational dating does not involve becoming intimate with anyone. 🤦🏻♀️
getting to know different people does not mean getting into bed with them .
mgtow is the way
Yes! Multiple men. The alternative is getting PLAYED
I wonder if this would work for me too being a guy
Not really , depends what dudes your messing with. Some hate this stuff. Some men do this stuff. But personally I push girls away, no matter how attractive that play these games, cuz they eventually break your heart. It’s stringing you along. It’s some bs.
I have a channel myself (for men) and your video came up as I was doing a keyword research. Couldn't agree with you more on what you said and it might be good to bounce ideas off each other. I'm not sure one needs to tell someone else that they continue to date others and think it's generally understood. If a female reminds me she's dating someone else, it would be a complete turn off not really because of insecurity. BTW, my research is on what we can learn about ourselves as we date.
Hello, thank you for your comment! 😁
I believe in transparency, so you don’t need to outright say “I’m seeing other people”, but you should somehow hint at the fact that you’re keeping your options open and that you haven’t settled yet. Perhaps mention that you’re still on a dating app. I think that’s definitely fair if you’ve JUST met someone and not a turn off if put lightly.
To be quite honest, there are some very traditional men who believe that once you go on a date, you are officially a couple. I’ve been in that situation so it’s always better to be safe than sorry, so nobody gets their feelings hurt.
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
@@rullalani You're very much correct, a lot of guys make the assumption that they are exclusive after 1 date. I'll try to connect with you through IG but I'm not much of an IG user and more FB(lol, total generational thing).
Please do! My IG handle is @Rullalani and you can find me on Facebook under Rulla Alani as well. Perhaps we could collaborate on a future video. 🙏🏽
Trust me this is the best thing to do save ourself from getting attached and heartbreak but please by dating I only mean talking and getting knowing each other being friends with the possibility of making boyfriend but that too for not a long time,I was a girl who took all her relationships seriously and that's why I got hurt everytime because I was just talking and putting my energy in just one and I used to get too attached but now if someone doesn't text me I don't get panic anymore
Ladies, this attitude wont help you. I know that it is tempting because of having more options but not every guy does this, a lot of them have the app, message girls, get in to a convo with one then focus on it to see where it goes. Or they dont even use these apps, they still just date irl. If he finds out you are playing the field you are getting dropped like a hot potato. Play the field you will end up alone in your late 30's, wondering why you are unable to find a husband. We dont want a women with a whole deck of cards, it looks desperate, conduct yourself with class and you will stand out from the crowd. Men want this! Guys who do it, just be cautious of them. Really it is these dating apps that are creating this mentality. Tinder isnt everything and ultimately its destructive.
I’m collecting men 💀💀💀
😂😂😂
Thank you so much for the suggestions!!😍😍😍❤
You’re so welcome! ❤️
One thing your forgetting about! Men’s three date rule! The Anti-friend zone playbook 😎
Are you not entertained?
Amen! Sister ❤😊
3:06 because we are paying for the time. So honor me exclusivity or pay your half of the get to know.
Paying for a dinner date shouldn't come with any expectations. Now if you're paying for rent, food, and clothes, then that's an entirely different situation and exclusivity should be a requirement.
you said" hoe out til you go out" wrong. that applies to both genders
If you think that going on a date when you’re single is considered being a hoe, then that’s a personal issue. Do yourself a favor and lose the insecurity🤦🏻♀️
A guy told me he is only seeing me, he said seeing is just getting to know someone before datijg exclusively, and then I found out he was seeing others and doing exactly same video chat with others at the same time, since he is a pilot, and told all of us he is only seeing us, we trusted him, do you think should I stop seeing him coz he lied the rest are his friends? Or you think I can forgive him as we are not bf yet, so he can tell me this pretty lie that he is seeing others
The fact that he lied to you is a red flag, but since you’re not exclusive yet, you can’t hold him accountable. It’s up to you how you want to proceed. It sounds like you don’t trust him anymore which will be tough if you plan to build a relationship in the future.
He doesn't need you, he'll have a relationship with a girl far younger and prettier than you.
If he lied about this what makes you think he won’t lie about even smaller things in the future?
it could be come a headache and confusing ..
“It could” doesn’t mean it will!
Peace of mind is top priority these days for me.. already ran the gambit 💡.. 😇🪽
Thank you ! What a relief
Well can you sleep with multiple people while you are dating multiple people? But not yet exclusive with any of them?
An energy exchange of that nature should require exclusivity.
How do you handle the social media posting when you go on dates with others guys?? One guy he hides all his other dates IG stories from me
I don’t post any guy that I’m dating. My social media focuses on me, not who I’m with.
Very helpful
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Girls who do this are heart breakers. Same with the dudes that do this. Destroys people, destroys relationships. And destroys the way men or women may view eachother. It becomes that, a game. They string tons of men along till they find what they’ want, then cut everyone else off.
In life, it’s best to keep your options open until you are fully satisfied. Whether you are searching for a job, friendship, or partner - there is nothing wrong with comparing your options before making a decision.
I agree with you, peoples feelings are not there to play around with.
No.
No you shouldn't
That's your belief and this is mine 🙂
You treating us like we're just things
thank you
Love your videooos
Love you 💕
I accidentally am using a guy Disney plus that I’m seeing but I’m also seeing other guys and I’m going to the cinema w another. Uhhhhh….. idk how that happened0-0
Ma,am I have a query where can I ask?
Hello! You may email your question to me via email at Rullaalani@gmail.com or message me on IG @rullalani
Thank you for your video/ Felt better dating 1 and talking with other 2
Well hey, as long as you’re single, you do you 😂🤫😜
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Ma,am do reply I have an apprehension