My husband married into my crazy family. Took about 6 months before we started low contact, went full no contact 5 years ago and man life is great without drama llamas galore
So they wanted OP to believe his only brother was getting married and they didn't tell him? Bro I have and bridge in the hill s of new York city to sell you. Do not apologize as close as he is to your brother? You have a family of your choice live life and be happy with out them everything will always be your fault act like an adult and go on. NOTHING IS YOUR FAULT
You're NTAH. They always treated your brother better. If they tried to accuse you of being a trouble maker ( maybe you were somewhat) it's just because he was getting all the attention and you deserved some also. Parents shouldn't show favoritism. It can hurt a child for life.
Op really needs therapy. His parents are gaslighting the hell out of him and continue to blame him for everything. Based on his behavior? You mean YOUR behavior, Mom and Pop.
The parents knew when the wedding was they couldve told their other son no we are going to your brother's wedding. They just favored the older child and they know it they just dont want to admit their part.
NTA although you should have been upfront. They, however, are huge AHs for even asking you to postpone it. Doesn't matter how small it was. And if they had any insight or ability to truly reflect on themselves then they would have noticed you acted out when you were younger because you were the "bad one" in any situation with your bro before that. Also, they need to learn what respecting boundaries means. Trying to force a conversation and act like you are disrespectful when you say you need time is the equivalent of flipping your boundaries the bird. Those folks need a long look at themselves. SMH
Do not apologize. You know the consequences of what you will do so just accept the outcome. Time heals all wounds they say. If it happens good, if not so be it. That is life. Shit happens.
"Wow, it's shocking how your parents prioritize your brother's plans over such an important event in your life. A wedding date is a major milestone, and it's unfair to expect you to change it for someone else's convenience. Stay strong and stand your ground-your special day should be about you and your partner, not anyone else's schedule. Wishing you all the best!
Between a wedding and a vacation. A wedding is a once in a life time experience to some. So asking him to postpone it is like the biggest failure as a parent
I would not have agreed to postpone the wedding, but I wouldn’t have lied about it either. I think the OP was playing the same games he did when he was a kid and expecting a different result. A small informal wedding without invitations being sent out yet at a place that could be flexible - the parents just asked if he could postpone it. If he really couldn’t, then he could just have said so. He was playing a viscious game in from the beginning and then he didn’t expect it to leave bruises. That was stupid.
Let me. Get this right, you are supposed to postpone your wedding inconvenient. Your girlfriend's family all the guests that you have everything because they wanted to go on vacation. Check what's wrong with this picture. Their needs are more important than that of everybody else's.. What about your girlfriend's needs and her family's needs? Wow, talk about Is a entitled man Your parents are the king and queen of that.
OP is the “IP” or identified patient. I hope OP will get some therapy to work through the anger he has at his parents rather than take it out on his new wife..
He should’ve just told them no and that he’s gonna continue the wedding besides lying about it and making it seem as tho they chose a vacation over a wedding
Exactly. Regardless of the truth of the situation, now they can plausibly claim that he deliberately held the wedding when he did to make them look bad.
The fact they asked him to postpone is red flag on it own. They wanted him to postpone a wedding for vacation? That’s selfish
His poor new wife. Imagine being married into this family of exhausting drama lamas.
My husband married into my crazy family. Took about 6 months before we started low contact, went full no contact 5 years ago and man life is great without drama llamas galore
You can’t postpone a wedding you have everything planned!
Good for you for standing your ground and choosing your happiness 🎉
So they wanted OP to believe his only brother was getting married and they didn't tell him? Bro I have and bridge in the hill s of new York city to sell you. Do not apologize as close as he is to your brother? You have a family of your choice live life and be happy with out them everything will always be your fault act like an adult and go on. NOTHING IS YOUR FAULT
You're NTAH. They always treated your brother better. If they tried to accuse you of being a trouble maker ( maybe you were somewhat) it's just because he was getting all the attention and you deserved some also. Parents shouldn't show favoritism. It can hurt a child for life.
Op really needs therapy. His parents are gaslighting the hell out of him and continue to blame him for everything. Based on his behavior? You mean YOUR behavior, Mom and Pop.
The people in the comments show me they have never experienced a manipulative person in their life.
When they ignore you, they’re just teaching you to live without them.
The parents knew when the wedding was they couldve told their other son no we are going to your brother's wedding. They just favored the older child and they know it they just dont want to admit their part.
NTA although you should have been upfront. They, however, are huge AHs for even asking you to postpone it. Doesn't matter how small it was. And if they had any insight or ability to truly reflect on themselves then they would have noticed you acted out when you were younger because you were the "bad one" in any situation with your bro before that. Also, they need to learn what respecting boundaries means. Trying to force a conversation and act like you are disrespectful when you say you need time is the equivalent of flipping your boundaries the bird. Those folks need a long look at themselves. SMH
Do not apologize. You know the consequences of what you will do so just accept the outcome. Time heals all wounds they say. If it happens good, if not so be it. That is life. Shit happens.
op should go no contact with his family brother they can destroy his marriage
"Wow, it's shocking how your parents prioritize your brother's plans over such an important event in your life. A wedding date is a major milestone, and it's unfair to expect you to change it for someone else's convenience. Stay strong and stand your ground-your special day should be about you and your partner, not anyone else's schedule. Wishing you all the best!
Parents and brother knew, of course they did. Time to go NC.
Gaslighting my parents Olympics masters
Tbh brother didnt know but parents did they just had to say you brothers getting married so we cant go😂
I would have told them in the beginning that I wasn’t going to postpone my wedding.
Between a wedding and a vacation. A wedding is a once in a life time experience to some. So asking him to postpone it is like the biggest failure as a parent
I would not have agreed to postpone the wedding, but I wouldn’t have lied about it either. I think the OP was playing the same games he did when he was a kid and expecting a different result.
A small informal wedding without invitations being sent out yet at a place that could be flexible - the parents just asked if he could postpone it. If he really couldn’t, then he could just have said so. He was playing a viscious game in from the beginning and then he didn’t expect it to leave bruises. That was stupid.
Let me.
Get this right, you are supposed to postpone your wedding inconvenient. Your girlfriend's family all the guests that you have everything because they wanted to go on vacation. Check what's wrong with this picture. Their needs are more important than that of everybody else's.. What about your girlfriend's needs and her family's needs? Wow, talk about Is a entitled man Your parents are the king and queen of that.
OP is the “IP” or identified patient. I hope OP will get some therapy to work through the anger he has at his parents rather than take it out on his new wife..
This is a hot mess.
Your parents are guilt tripping you. Your brother is always thinking that he's better than you.
Should have been upfront with them and told them he was not postponing, rather than lie and say he was going to wait.
I understand him. He's probably tired of their drama. It happens. You're so angry, you just let things go.
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He should’ve just told them no and that he’s gonna continue the wedding besides lying about it and making it seem as tho they chose a vacation over a wedding
Exactly. Regardless of the truth of the situation, now they can plausibly claim that he deliberately held the wedding when he did to make them look bad.
They did tho. They had the audacity to ask him to move it. Even the brother said that they knew and they still chose the vacation.
@@ashleyt6840I agree. Who asks someone to postpone a wedding for a vacation? The audacity.
All he had to do was tell them NO to postponing the wedding instead of lying. They’re all a-holes.