SURVIVING TOXIC IN LAWS 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

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  • @PIKANARAYCH
    @PIKANARAYCH  Рік тому +20

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    • @damariskaari8563
      @damariskaari8563 Рік тому

      Please raych will you bring a topic on toxic parents too it's something killing youth slowly

    • @everadesigns
      @everadesigns Рік тому

      am here

  • @teresiahnyokabi78
    @teresiahnyokabi78 Рік тому +25

    MIMI kama mtu ni toxic I avoid you like a hot soup .
    Siwezi fumble na kusimp kwa watu hawanijui juu nimependana na kijana wao .
    My Mental health is very VALUABLE.

  • @jenifamuia2286
    @jenifamuia2286 Рік тому +12

    When it comes to inlaws I value my peace more than anything else.boundaries is the key to me.

  • @Glorianjeriofficial
    @Glorianjeriofficial Рік тому +33

    Not only in-laws! We are also suffering in the hands of our toxic parents! It's very hard to address or even find a solution in this case😢

  • @ABITOO1
    @ABITOO1 Рік тому +10

    My opinion in marriage Kila mtu acheze game yake venye anataka ,juu family and wife it's hard to find a balance juu even if you love your relatives you can never marry them,na wife comes from another family with different values,naona Kila mtu achague venye anataka kuishi

  • @kuikagwi5240
    @kuikagwi5240 Рік тому +14

    It has ever happened to us. When my husband went for my uthoni, my aunt said this after knowing what he gave "mtoto wetu kwani ananunuliwa kama kuku" meaning, alipeana doh kidogo according to her. My hubby didnt hear this and i will never tell him. But that thing hurt me and i always push my hubby further we try and be somewhere financially. I promise you guys that my next ruracio will be big.
    On the other hand, my in laws are never bothered about us. Av never met some of the sisters and they don't seem concerned. We put in a kasmall sherehe wakam tujuane and they never showed up either. I feel like they never wanted me in their family. They never even came to my uthoni which is my biggest pain.
    So the rivalries from both sides makes our marriage stronger. My husband always tells me, this is about us and not them. We move regardless.

    • @maryannkatunge2696
      @maryannkatunge2696 Рік тому

      assume you are in abroad no family its just you hubby and friends and life goes on.

  • @julietmwaniki4187
    @julietmwaniki4187 Рік тому +6

    My ex-mother-in-law broke the marriage with competition, false accusations, and abuses. She was forcing the son to neglect and abandon me and the daughter.

  • @maryannewangu
    @maryannewangu Рік тому +10

    TUFIKISHE RAYCH 300K SUNLBSCRIBERS GUYS...CONTENT NI SAFIIIII.❤❤❤....SAUTI NYOROOOOO😅😅😅😅....MATURITY IKO TOP❤❤❤❤MNANGOJA NINI GUYS😅😅😅😅

  • @janemunyoli232
    @janemunyoli232 Рік тому +23

    When it comes to inlaws my mother is the best thing that ever happened to me...the rest wakauke wakikaukanga😂

  • @lindamukami1503
    @lindamukami1503 Рік тому +9

    It's not easy kwanza when the husband is attached to his mum waah but I thank GOD I never disrespected her and GOD came through for us. Good topic .

  • @josphinewambui7004
    @josphinewambui7004 Рік тому +108

    I visited my in-laws for the first day with a big shopping and so tired they knew their son was coming home with his wife but I found them waiting for me to cook. I didn’t know but I overheard the mum telling Siz in law “ siachukue leso aingie kitchen apike “ I went and began to cook but I never felt home.. I stayed for 2 yrs without conceiving and the mum inlaw used to tell his son he lives with a fellow man. After giving birth to a bouncing baby girl and named after her, she never came to see the baby, I decided to take the kid during Christmas she told the son she won’t be home and I swallowed and left the son to go alone. The marriage could not work so after 8 yrs I left with my kid.. upto date the son hasn’t married, six years now I thought am the trouble maker but I realized later in life she had told her son am a curse because am an orphan.. I will keep sharing this story because I never wished my parents to die while I was barely 14yrs...😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @nkathab
    @nkathab Рік тому +6

    The inlaws are used to being treated in any way either positive or negative before you got married or being married to that family and now that you are in the picture nothing changes instead they try to keep up with the changes abd if you aren't wise ,henceforth you will have issues with them...and also depend on how you react to their changes..which now is where the problem starts

  • @Jenesm
    @Jenesm Рік тому +11

    Rena is coming up so well...very courageous now days

  • @Rouze1
    @Rouze1 Рік тому +3

    Its all about boundaries. I am glad the new generations are having these discussions.

  • @missmuindi965
    @missmuindi965 Рік тому +24

    It get's worse of you are married to their breadwinner...wueeh 🤦‍♀️

    • @annemonderi5558
      @annemonderi5558 Рік тому

      Wueeh

    • @joycenicodemus310
      @joycenicodemus310 Рік тому

      Wuee mother in law alisema nmpishe mtoto wake atafute Hela saiv nikama nambana Dana so nihamie kwake

    • @missmuindi965
      @missmuindi965 Рік тому

      @@joycenicodemus310 anasahau pia yeye aliolewa vile umeolewa.

    • @everadesigns
      @everadesigns Рік тому

      am in this category but when you love your husband they can't stop you just stay away from your toxic inlaws

    • @joycewamucii2902
      @joycewamucii2902 11 місяців тому

      Weuuh

  • @princessm2893
    @princessm2893 Рік тому +10

    I think that is what Milly wajesus is facing now. I don’t know what happened to the beautiful relationship she had with her in-laws. But that’s life

  • @wanjiruolive
    @wanjiruolive Рік тому +9

    It's not wise to tell your family members like mothers your problems lol very unwise you make them view your partners in a different cause now your secrets are exposed.....its better to talk to a safe friend ama a therapist your mum will go telling her friends and other family things you've told them you expose your family way too much cause hamkai kama mnaweza solve vitu

  • @maureenmueni5835
    @maureenmueni5835 Рік тому +21

    Once we were having a conversation about meat with my mum in law and some other guys. I randomly said " kama vile so as so anapenda nyama ya mbuzi" The lady countered me haraka sana akasema. "hapana huyo anapenda kuku" I repeated that he actually loves goat meat and she said "mimi ndio mamake, nawaambia anapenda kuku".. When she pulled that card of "mamake" my ancestors spoke to me and said "Moh this is where you shut your mouth" 🤣 🤣
    I was left wondering, I am the one who lives with the man currently. You lived with him as a child. How are we arguing about his likings???!!

  • @rispermuchiri5544
    @rispermuchiri5544 Рік тому +6

    I think we need such discussion more offen ndio we save the upcoming couples

  • @michellemasha2884
    @michellemasha2884 6 місяців тому +2

    Raych ongeza volume hapo kwa mother's letting their sons go. especially single mothers.
    wueeeh mimi nimekapitia juu ya hiyo mpaka nikaoa nimpee mama ya wenyewe distance. naenda kwao only when absolutely necessary

  • @MissKiki9
    @MissKiki9 Рік тому +4

    Mimi i got married and we lived with my father in law from day 1,i will say it has been the worst experience of my life,so uncomfortable and made me feel like running away from my marriage,

  • @serahngima265
    @serahngima265 Рік тому +5

    Mimi niko na experience where bro alioa bt bibi yake alikuwa anaona mama yetu kama matope...hakumtambua hata kidogo hadi akafanya bro aanze kuchukia mathe bt mimi juu niko well off wanataka tuwe close hadi mamake kunikopa hadi pesa until last year i decided to cut them off pia

  • @SmK-t5h
    @SmK-t5h Рік тому +7

    When you dealing with inlaw you need to find a healthy balance..... Speaking from experience if pick sides whatever side you pick kitakuramba..... Be tactful.😅

  • @serah32
    @serah32 Рік тому +3

    I thank heavens for my in-laws apart from one, but the good within that family outweighs my disdain for her. I thank God that my mum in-law isn’t trying to compete with me. It didn’t start out like this but my husband SET the BOUNDARIES early in our marriage. I think that if he was one to please his mother I may have encountered some of these issues. MY ADVICE, Set clear BOUNDARIES early on in the relationship.

  • @MissJackie254
    @MissJackie254 Рік тому +8

    Mental Health is of importance avoid them and put boundaries sio lazima mtembeleane.....

  • @a_missqueen
    @a_missqueen Рік тому +9

    I grew up knowing that living with inlaws is not a big deal cz me myself l lived with my brother and his wife for over 10yrs so when l got married l was so happy to live with my husband siblings but kiliniramba...as l speak now l can't allow inlaw both from my side and hubby's side to stay in my house for more than a week. And before coming to my house l must be told before ufike ama utalala inje

  • @elizabethmodani1414
    @elizabethmodani1414 Рік тому +9

    They are jealous because they feel you have taken their beneficial positions from their son kwanza akiwa breadwinner

    • @edelquinnosir3782
      @edelquinnosir3782 Рік тому

      Halafu kitu ingine awe the only son to that family,heh....me I was discussed with my sis inlaws eti nataka kuchukua Mali kijana wao ameachiwa 😂.But I noticed pia I welcomed them to my house and bcz they got a good hospitality ni kama walinizoea.Somthing I will never ever do again

    • @elizabethmodani1414
      @elizabethmodani1414 Рік тому

      @@edelquinnosir3782 woooi sorry kamum ...mm I keep distance from inlaws kabisa naji..involve tu where necessary I also learned my lessons the hard way

  • @Gr9814
    @Gr9814 Рік тому +2

    I love this channel and your wisdom. One suggestion i have pls musijibu watu vibaya kwa comments, kuweni wapole and speak nicely when replying to a comment.
    God bless you guys.

  • @hannahgitau1664
    @hannahgitau1664 Рік тому +6

    Raych and brown lady very wise.. other two are just cool listening

  • @patriciakamara8906
    @patriciakamara8906 Рік тому +2

    Ugandans with the good English. The lady in green introduced herself and I could tell she has a Ugandan background. I am here for it ❤

  • @Kate_Janet_Ogalo
    @Kate_Janet_Ogalo Рік тому +6

    Wacha tu niseme wueeeh😆😆😆 mimi distance inani saidia kwa in-laws

  • @lydiahkakushworld7653
    @lydiahkakushworld7653 Рік тому +4

    For inlaws it is a sensitive topic I choose to keep my space and keep my line no interaction greatings period. I learned through experience that was an eye opener. My take home is wisdom is key when dealing with inlaws.

  • @graceldawakio54
    @graceldawakio54 Рік тому +4

    My Asha always with the wisest of words❤

  • @mariamohammed6367
    @mariamohammed6367 Рік тому +2

    HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH YOUR SISTERS AND BROTHERS IN LAWS, BECAUSE SOMETIMES THEY ARE AGAINST YOU AND YOUR AGAINST THEM. I LOVED YOUR DISCUSSION

  • @didos160
    @didos160 Рік тому +6

    As for me I don't think my dad has accepted that am married, he invites me for lunch most days when am not busy 😢😢though I miss him too since he was my best friend ❤

  • @janenjoki8308
    @janenjoki8308 Рік тому +5

    Mother inlaw always jealous she knows well why she does that

  • @marywairimumuthoni6430
    @marywairimumuthoni6430 10 місяців тому +3

    Mother inlaw some are the worst human being imagine umeenda ocha the first day, mother inlaw anenda kwa butcher anasema nikatie nyama Niko na watu wamekuja kujipendekeza

    • @margaretmutuku2159
      @margaretmutuku2159 10 місяців тому +1

      Hio ndio sababu hio shagz Mimi huwa na fika , n nyama yangu , tissue, soap hata karibu Nike n choo yangu😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @reenwambua9878
    @reenwambua9878 Рік тому +5

    Mimi ni distance unisaidia tena sana.

  • @MachanuleIvan
    @MachanuleIvan Рік тому +5

    real conversations 100% 🔥

  • @margaretm5070
    @margaretm5070 Рік тому +3

    A son is mother’s first love hence why the competition between the wife and MI

  • @Wgacheru
    @Wgacheru Рік тому +9

    Vile mum in-law na fathe hawananga story. Ni siku Moja tu alinambia before niolewe alikua anaitisha 10k anatumiwa 20k otherwise hatujai kosana

    • @nyaxjosh
      @nyaxjosh Рік тому +3

      😂😂😂😂ulikuja kumpunguzia budget yake

  • @agushthuo3578
    @agushthuo3578 Рік тому +4

    Boundaries is key.

  • @emmslarry
    @emmslarry Рік тому +5

    Always mature conversation

  • @davidmwaniki6376
    @davidmwaniki6376 4 місяці тому +1

    when you take your wife for a vacation then your mum knows it,mmoja wenu ajifunze kunyamaza,and then give your parents the best medicare cause they treated you well

  • @malumbombezuma2482
    @malumbombezuma2482 Рік тому +4

    It's funny how our men tell us to relax, not to overwork ourself etc.... But then when we finally learn to relax, they get irritated kkkkk

  • @tiberiusmaiko743
    @tiberiusmaiko743 Рік тому +8

    The fact is your mother will always remain your mom she won't leave you no matter what but be wise when dealing with mother in law

  • @rahab1918
    @rahab1918 Рік тому +21

    I feel like mlikua mnaogopa kuongea not to hurt your partners

    • @githinjigee
      @githinjigee Рік тому +5

      I agree esp where Raych where was giving her experience with some of her inlaws, they edited that out haikuisha. But it was a great convo all the same

    • @marywamuyu4418
      @marywamuyu4418 Рік тому +2

      Noticed the same.

    • @amputeeinfluencer
      @amputeeinfluencer Рік тому +2

      Ni ukweli. It's not an easy conversation. I wish they shared the worst experiences they've had of their friends.

  • @gmaverinepatrick4143
    @gmaverinepatrick4143 Рік тому +3

    The talk is one of the best aki

  • @Sashellray
    @Sashellray Рік тому +5

    Wueeehh za inlaw I'll talk when I'm too old😅😅...is there a more bad word than toxic????

  • @philomenanjenga8906
    @philomenanjenga8906 Рік тому +3

    boys from single mums are the best
    wa both parents ndo wanasumbua

  • @sheillahsanau1189
    @sheillahsanau1189 Рік тому +10

    I support Kaymo hizi episode zenye si za kupika tupee jina kama Maskani with Raych 😂❤❤i enjoyed this episode

  • @annieykiarii3133
    @annieykiarii3133 Рік тому +2

    This is what finished my marriage

  • @SECRETOFLAURA
    @SECRETOFLAURA Рік тому +7

    Best episode so educating ❤❤

  • @barbralinnet1400
    @barbralinnet1400 3 місяці тому

    I love how Rena mdosi is minding her ouw business very cool woman❤

  • @TheMwaisCircle
    @TheMwaisCircle Рік тому +13

    Ukiona ii kikosi pamoja unajua tu Mushene is about to be liiiit 🔥🔥🔥😂😂😂

    • @PIKANARAYCH
      @PIKANARAYCH  Рік тому +1

      Hahahaha

    • @damarlswanjlru6935
      @damarlswanjlru6935 Рік тому +2

      Hamkuambia kina pekeeys kwanini 😢napenda vibes zao ❤nawapenda nyinyi wooooteeee❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @sharonkanana6478
      @sharonkanana6478 Рік тому

      Nakwambia Rych huwa haogopi

    • @PIKANARAYCH
      @PIKANARAYCH  Рік тому

      @@damarlswanjlru6935 Quote of the day: To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions.

  • @dynahgakii9699
    @dynahgakii9699 Рік тому +4

    raych God bless you.. you are too wise❤❤❤

  • @rahabkimani2583
    @rahabkimani2583 Рік тому +2

    Nice one😍....The next should be about sister in law aki

  • @PRETTY_MAGGIE
    @PRETTY_MAGGIE Рік тому +1

    I was married to a breadwinner and it was crazy mamake angeniona na kitu smart anaambia bwanangu anataka Kama iyo plus to bring hatred to the siblings wake wanichukie na watafutie bwana yangu mjaluo Kama wao everytime Kuna argument nimwambie anasema kijana yake hawezi fanya ivo😢😢

    • @Dee-og9ul
      @Dee-og9ul 8 місяців тому

      Hi,how did you manage because that's what I am currently going through.

  • @alicemuthoni9797
    @alicemuthoni9797 Рік тому +4

    wenye tuko single ,,hopefully well noted, ✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️

  • @theheavenlyminded1100
    @theheavenlyminded1100 Рік тому

    Just yesterday I was discussing this issue of in-laws with my husband and we were wondering why is it that in-laws have no room for forgiveness incase they err. Incase an inlaw makes mistake however small they are viewed differently from that time forever.

  • @wahinyaserah9081
    @wahinyaserah9081 Рік тому +3

    That was Great .... insightful!

  • @florencemalamu6960
    @florencemalamu6960 Рік тому +2

    Hapo kwa single mother NO!

  • @shilamichaels9378
    @shilamichaels9378 Рік тому +1

    This was so educative,I’m a silent follower but i had to write something today.Continue with the same gear,much love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @monicaedukon8888
    @monicaedukon8888 Рік тому +3

    Mi karibu nipeleke wangu citizen redio coz ilikuja ikiwa mixture of childishness

  • @polinewaruguru
    @polinewaruguru Рік тому

    Me niliwapee bwanangu juu nilona kam a tunasindana na wao .Na juu hayuko kwa magirl friends ako kwa mama na sis zake sina shinda,who I am to separate them, na time ilenyingi tuko na yeye, stress free

  • @Famous-Neighbour
    @Famous-Neighbour Рік тому +5

    Nipitieni nifike ata 1K
    THE FAMOUS NEIGHBOUR UA-cam CHANNEL

  • @doreenmumbi6635
    @doreenmumbi6635 Рік тому +1

    i feel you have need to do more on toxic in laws more need to be spoken and consider bringing either a therapist on this issues

  • @g.w.s8585
    @g.w.s8585 Рік тому +3

    A new subscriber for my own personal reasons.....

  • @claremenywa2139
    @claremenywa2139 Рік тому +3

    This is so educational....nipitieni guys

  • @beingannie9516
    @beingannie9516 Рік тому +4

    New sub
    amazing, amazing content ❤

  • @icequeen8600
    @icequeen8600 10 місяців тому

    This is the best conversation.......am loving this channel

  • @Sallykamum
    @Sallykamum Рік тому

    The Best Team Good Vibes❤❤❤❤❤Lets learn hapo kwa competition naelewa sana

  • @Iam_kawiraah
    @Iam_kawiraah Рік тому +2

    But pia wives wakikuja pia hawataki ata Mathé ananunuliwe mchele😂😂aaai am tired

  • @fladinakawira5404
    @fladinakawira5404 Рік тому +16

    Hii kuna watu wameguswa mahali😂😂sijui kama mnanipata...ama wacha tu

  • @Cikukagz
    @Cikukagz 11 місяців тому +1

    I pity my hubby,my mum is super toxic...she wants to control every coin in our house...

    • @ellie75677
      @ellie75677 10 місяців тому

      If u living together with yo mom just find a place for yoselves n u thrive in yo marriage ....toxicity is so draining so it's better to be far from the implicators no matter who they are in our lives

  • @sarahnjoki
    @sarahnjoki Рік тому +1

    Just loooove this gal Raych❤

  • @estherwanjiku145
    @estherwanjiku145 Рік тому +1

    Rena is coming up well😂.. Good job and nice content Raych.

  • @eveishawna7934
    @eveishawna7934 Рік тому +4

    my house was closed....i lived in my inlaws ....sahii natafta hata bedsittee...they are toxic nd narcicist😢

    • @winskitchen.602
      @winskitchen.602 11 місяців тому

      Ghai😢😢

    • @eveishawna7934
      @eveishawna7934 11 місяців тому +1

      @@winskitchen.602 God has come through fr me....I'm now in a one bedroom....

    • @winskitchen.602
      @winskitchen.602 11 місяців тому

      @@eveishawna7934, Allamdhulilah

    • @Edgybhthjklew
      @Edgybhthjklew 3 місяці тому

      ​@@eveishawna7934And what did your husband said about it aki

  • @feliekamara3308
    @feliekamara3308 Рік тому +2

    Best episode so educative❤❤

  • @wambuilucy8100
    @wambuilucy8100 Рік тому +5

    What of the mother inlaw mwenye ansidaga kwa msichana wake mwenye ameolewa...alafu wana confuse huyo kijana wa wenyewe kushinda kwao akiwa njengea..akiwapeleka all over .aki dance with all of them including that mother..

  • @judywanja2512
    @judywanja2512 Рік тому +1

    My favourite pika na raytch💕💕💕

  • @malkiaaggie2837
    @malkiaaggie2837 Рік тому +2

    I had to download this akh😅😅😅😅

  • @puritywanjiku4261
    @puritywanjiku4261 Рік тому +1

    Wueeee this topic its touching that ka point ya competition ya wife and mother in- law wueeeeeee it happened to me bt i solved it ilikua if something is brought in my house my mum in- law would come and want it to use it first imagine ikakua too much hdi viberiti just akuudhi so ikakua i told my husband anything that goes out of my house hyo ni yange and then go and buy mine wiiiiii alinunua akachoka until he decided we have to leave their home

    • @fraciahmwihaki3151
      @fraciahmwihaki3151 Рік тому

      Same wozzap..ilibidi tumeleft

    • @marykanyo621
      @marykanyo621 Рік тому

      Aki pia unga ya uji alikua anakuja kuchota na Niko bed wheeh mambo ni mingi

  • @aymar47
    @aymar47 Рік тому +4

    Aah Milka angekua hapa...but nice content

  • @slyviahWambui1779
    @slyviahWambui1779 Рік тому +5

    Weee me i need a seat ....I hosted three in laws ..1 sister in law and two bros ...mmoja alikuwa wakukam na kwenda but this two i stayed with them for 5yrs ......sema madharao...one day walipanga and sisters inlaw was telling me 'chukuwa watoto wako undee hapa hauna say' lemme tell you maina 😂😂😂😂😂since yy ni mschana in laws wake najuwa wanamfanyia press up coz nikizembe atajuwa hajui

  • @sheeryne9172
    @sheeryne9172 Рік тому +8

    I new subscriber joined the fam❤️❤️❤️

  • @eldabettanabucha9130
    @eldabettanabucha9130 Рік тому +1

    Youve earned a new subscriber

  • @tabi_ta-maras.
    @tabi_ta-maras. Рік тому +3

    Mimi sina maoni ju wueh.. kilishaniramba😅

  • @joycegitau168
    @joycegitau168 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤aki raych unafanyanga nicheke every time you laugh

  • @roziegachau602
    @roziegachau602 Рік тому +4

    I really love you guys ❤❤❤❤

  • @judynjeri8120
    @judynjeri8120 Рік тому +6

    Mine were from heaven,sahi they are from hell

  • @sheroh-nderu1791
    @sheroh-nderu1791 Рік тому +6

    Maish anafanana Benjamin zulu😂😂 nawapenda wote...leo the pekeeys wamebaki wapi??

  • @Faith-jr3uf
    @Faith-jr3uf 11 місяців тому

    I love you so much you have teacher me alot my dear friend more ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @wanjikukarari-q2z
    @wanjikukarari-q2z Рік тому +1

    my man alikam akanishow ati mamake amesema atafute msupa mwingine wakuoa mwenye hana mtoi and that what the guy did

  • @davidmwaniki6376
    @davidmwaniki6376 4 місяці тому

    ati mother in law anataka nini?hii ni original

  • @marywathithi8817
    @marywathithi8817 Рік тому +1

    Nice topic ❤

  • @rukiambesa4337
    @rukiambesa4337 Рік тому

    Love u guys nice topic

  • @AliceDiscoveriesKenya
    @AliceDiscoveriesKenya Рік тому +1

    Good topic there

  • @charitycharity5883
    @charitycharity5883 6 місяців тому +1

    Part 2 pls

  • @kennedymwiti1169
    @kennedymwiti1169 Рік тому +1

    Amazing❤❤❤