7 Dark Side Traits of Sigma Males / The Most Dangerous Breed

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  • @VoiceUnder
    @VoiceUnder Рік тому +144

    It's not a dark trait to stand up for yourself when being messed with.

    • @j-r1277
      @j-r1277 Рік тому +7

      Ha- dark because of what society wants or expects.

    • @CoreyMack5000
      @CoreyMack5000 Рік тому

      7 Dark side traits of Sigma Males? This video seems to be a step by step instructions on how to become a fake Beta male.

    • @ayugoslav5554
      @ayugoslav5554 Рік тому +2

      It's only dark if you're a non-POC combined with being traditionally unattractive

    • @DarkTower5357
      @DarkTower5357 Рік тому +3

      #DamnStraight

    • @AgainstTheBladeOfHonour
      @AgainstTheBladeOfHonour Рік тому +2

      It’s dark for those on the receiving end

  • @thomashunt6000
    @thomashunt6000 Рік тому +178

    "There are two kinds of people in this world. Me, and everyone else."
    - The Sigma

    • @puakagrinder2766
      @puakagrinder2766 Рік тому +7

      "Nope...there're three. Me, you and everyone else."
      - The man who's above all

    • @wormbo2
      @wormbo2 Рік тому +3

      @@puakagrinder2766 amen.
      May the lord shine his glory upon you, brother!
      🙏❤️💪

    • @halidbinvelid0646
      @halidbinvelid0646 Рік тому

      @@puakagrinder2766 nah both of u are not real me and everyone

    • @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars
      @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars Рік тому

      What’s the Month and day you were born I tell you if your a Sigma male or not

    • @thomashunt6000
      @thomashunt6000 Рік тому +1

      @@OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars that's not how that works bro

  • @zhangyi9496
    @zhangyi9496 Рік тому +21

    I really don't care what ppl say about me. I'm more of a weird dude. I don't need to be in a crowd to be happy. I like to be alone and be with my own thought. Then to be in a huge group.

  • @walpurgisnacht9234
    @walpurgisnacht9234 Рік тому +16

    I really don't understand how any of these traits are negative. If anything they are the traits of someone who is seeking to be wise, and balanced. You can't do that when you are surrounded by idiots who don't understand what you are trying to accomplish.

    • @mitchellwilley7208
      @mitchellwilley7208 Рік тому

      Sigma here to help you understand. They can be dark traits as sigmas don't let anything stop them from obtaining their goals. But how they obtain said goal may be let's say questionable or illegal.

  • @Dragorama11
    @Dragorama11 Рік тому +4

    Telling people what I think has gotten me into trouble a few times because I'm not good at kissing @ss..

  • @oneonly5129
    @oneonly5129 Рік тому

    Absolutely me. Crazy video yo.

  • @Tenshihan-Quinn
    @Tenshihan-Quinn 5 місяців тому

    @6:16 - Hahahah - "?Cutting THINGS OFF people?" I'm positive that DEXTER would agree! Hahahaha!

  • @GypsyNomad912
    @GypsyNomad912 Рік тому +2

    Other people ( not all) seem to be intimidated by self sufficient people..Or more likely... Jealous

  • @Szklana147
    @Szklana147 Рік тому +2

    7:45 - themself and other people who are in distress (especially close ones).

  • @HelptheBroncos
    @HelptheBroncos Рік тому

    I'm rolling my eyes out of my head 😆. Mine as well read your horoscopes to "ladies". Live your life and have fun

  • @jessieitown6026
    @jessieitown6026 Рік тому +7

    My dark side as a Sigma is that you lie and betray me, break my trust and it's FY for life and in the after Life.
    I'm keep Real Honest opinion to my Death.

  • @GHOST5663
    @GHOST5663 Рік тому +1

    Good content and love the drawings. I can barely write legibly so appreciate the artist.

  • @ciaran134
    @ciaran134 Рік тому

    Sounds like me fully I really don't speak though my eye contact tells people everything

  • @ricmartinez2590
    @ricmartinez2590 Рік тому

    True, true, true, true, true, true, and true

  • @bobholyoake8577
    @bobholyoake8577 Рік тому

    love to point people out when we catch them out .

  • @GoodViibeGames
    @GoodViibeGames Рік тому +3

    If you identify personality traits about yourself and think it puts you in some kind of "category of male" the only category you actually fall into is "douche bag" 😂

    • @dragginmedown
      @dragginmedown Рік тому

      Haha spot on. All these dudes like “yeah I’m a sigma male”

  • @aforancel9441
    @aforancel9441 Рік тому

    Have sat and dealt with your demons 😈?? Developed internally ?? Practice what you know?? If not its me you need while your playing with my head.

  • @nutgone100
    @nutgone100 Рік тому +4

    This video keeps contradicting itself by saying sigma males strive for success but also saying they don’t care what others think.
    Sigma males have their own ideas of success, this is often completely different from what most people would consider success to be. That could be something as simple as earning just enough money for a comfortable life & actually enjoying that life rather than chasing material gains.

  • @lorentaidhg8534
    @lorentaidhg8534 Рік тому +2

    I don't see anything wrong with these traits. The old saying..."keep up with the action or get back on the porch".

  • @charlesbr7684
    @charlesbr7684 Рік тому

    Refuse to be dominated!!

  • @martyreking5487
    @martyreking5487 Рік тому

    The sigma male in me really enjoy watching the drawings, the sigma male in me say "it's really good".

  • @ItsNikoHIMself
    @ItsNikoHIMself Рік тому

    The first one right away was no dark trait at all.
    That was funny.

  • @ryanunderwood5465
    @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому +1

    We will fight to the death, if that’s what our intuition tells us. We live through our Soul!

  • @Ease54
    @Ease54 Рік тому

    You spelled "dork" wrong.

  • @tomcruise7095
    @tomcruise7095 Рік тому

    These are not dark traits they are survival traits!

  • @louiscolborn6715
    @louiscolborn6715 Рік тому +1

    Wrong; Forgive and move on. Right: never forgive and move on. Compassion and forgiveness is for the weak.

  • @jilow6356
    @jilow6356 Рік тому +3

    Sigma males are just Sagittarius people.

  • @tokomarwina9964
    @tokomarwina9964 Рік тому +151

    The most annoying thing to a sigma male is that when we cut people off, those people pretend not to understand why they got cut off.

    • @armedcivilian5561
      @armedcivilian5561 Рік тому +9

      No, I find that they really don't get it. And we really do think differently about the world and people.

    • @nicoj84
      @nicoj84 Рік тому

      Have stumbled upon this term quite recently, I fortunately have a very sigma wife and a very close sigma male friend. I honestly thought they were pretending to not understand, but my mate has pretty much convinced me they don't understand, they're completely unconsciously aware of their behaviour.
      I think that makes the difference in Sigma men and women. We are consciously aware of our actions because of this inner mapping we can do to understand ourselves.

    • @tokomarwina9964
      @tokomarwina9964 Рік тому +1

      @@nicoj84 then your mate is not sigma

    • @nicoj84
      @nicoj84 Рік тому

      @tokomarwina9964 completely disagree bud. If anything, that points to a rigid view of a personality type which you ascribe yourself too. Inflexibility is not a Sigma trait.

    • @tokomarwina9964
      @tokomarwina9964 Рік тому +1

      @@nicoj84 a sigma is very flexible, but at some point you can go .... yourselves.
      Normal.

  • @mightycritic1602
    @mightycritic1602 Рік тому +64

    None of these are dark traits. Infact these men have confidence, maturity, independence and strength to be themselves without being a fake ass trying to please everyone for personal benefits . They're true to themselves and to others. Most people nowadays are so fake that they can't swallow the good and true qualities of a pure person. Sigmas are no bullshitters and I'm 100% with them.

    • @justaperson772
      @justaperson772 Рік тому +2

      through the entire video i kept asking myself. "how are these traits dark? these are good traits to have". so the title of this video really confuses me.

    • @ryanunderwood5465
      @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому

      Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @mrdavinci4178
    @mrdavinci4178 Рік тому +51

    Sounds to me that "Jesus" was a warrior who knew what needed to be done. To bring everyone together. Metaphorically... maybe...

    • @jessieitown6026
      @jessieitown6026 Рік тому +3

      You are Correct 💯

    • @mrdavinci4178
      @mrdavinci4178 Рік тому +2

      @Jessie Itown since you are here, I created a quote. I believe this is the foundation of learning. For children and adults. The quote is for adults. The answer is for the kids.
      "Respect the professional, listen to the technician, and speak only when necessary.
      What is the answer to the meaning of this ? Only use a math equation to solve.
      Hint: Look in the mirror. "
      Please take this seriously. I am teaching this to my 3 year old son. I will respect both replies your opinion counts. I have nobody to talk to. When you give up, I will tell you the answer

    • @lyenaction
      @lyenaction Рік тому +2

      César Borgia never exist.

    • @jessieitown6026
      @jessieitown6026 Рік тому

      @@mrdavinci4178 You don't freaking know me and your kids still don't know shit about life,sex or death so don't you judge without knowing a person,teach that to your damn kids.

    • @mrdavinci4178
      @mrdavinci4178 Рік тому +1

      @@jessieitown6026 🐑 🐏 🐑 🐏

  • @TattooGames
    @TattooGames Рік тому +6

    I'm a sigma. The older I get the more detach from society. I found that brazilian jiu-jitsu training is enough socialising for me, and satisfes my longing for chess, keeps me in shape and the pleasure aspect is addicting. I do find these similarities in this video to be quite accurate. I wouldn't rather be any other way than a sigma.

  • @mikenolan5542
    @mikenolan5542 Рік тому +40

    Wouldn't want too label myself one but this has described me down too a T, These videos are weirdly comforting :)

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 Рік тому +2

      We mostly don’t call ourselves this or anything besides ourselves. We identify as self, a real true individual.

    • @BROMINE_bz
      @BROMINE_bz Рік тому +3

      my study of social interactions shows there are some people who are genetically very talented in things but in their childhood they were not allowed to express them selves properly (in my case by my father). so we lose trust of other people and we know from inside that we are better than other. thus people like us are created. there nothing to be proud in being called sigma or nothing negative about being sigma. everything is just the outcome of our social structure. whats ur view?

    • @nicoj84
      @nicoj84 Рік тому

      @gauravnanglu3407 Can I just say, you have nailed this for me. I have often wondered when I would see a video combining Sigma Men / Women and how they developed. Like you, I have had a turbulent childhood, ripe with family members being narcassitic and me being the scapegoat.
      I like no drama, genuine people, even if they are coarse or rude as it's better than the fake facade shown to the public by people you've just witnessed being horrid. There is probably a level of intellect, even in childhood, that sees this duality as exhausting, pointless and to be honest weird as it's totally fake. It's inefficient with no real goal of self-improvement or for the improvement of others in an enlightened self interest way.

    • @nicoj84
      @nicoj84 Рік тому

      @gauravnanglu3407 Interestingly, I'm near the 40 mark, raised by boomers. Demographically, I would love to see the average age of the masses of people who now fit this "Light Alpha / Dark Beta" personality.
      While there will have always been Sigmas in society since the beginning of time, I'm willing to bet we number now to a large portion of the population than ever before.

    • @BROMINE_bz
      @BROMINE_bz Рік тому +1

      @@nicoj84 their is only one secret to self-improvement

  • @pgronemeier
    @pgronemeier Рік тому +5

    I missed the "Dark" part? LoL

  • @Szklana147
    @Szklana147 Рік тому +24

    4. Strongly disagree. Sigmas are loyal people. Their "bubble" (as you called) extends on the closest people as f.e. life partner. We are not lone wolfs vs the World.

    • @Lonewolf_rider
      @Lonewolf_rider Рік тому +10

      Agreed to an extent!
      Where very honest en loyal humans, but there is a boundary and when crossed to many times, guess what.....Ciao and we go our own way...again and again until we find the recognition we deserve ❤️

    • @bobholyoake8577
      @bobholyoake8577 Рік тому

      🎯

    • @georgeelder8415
      @georgeelder8415 Рік тому

      We toggle back and forth, yet in the end we need others occasionally...

  • @metricdeep8856
    @metricdeep8856 Рік тому +1

    Sigma = Rational and Functional. Those are highlights...Not a dark traits.

  • @svwilliams2933
    @svwilliams2933 Рік тому +1

    Just because you stay home and play video games 🎮 doesn't make you a sigma male!

  • @giovanniviscardi4455
    @giovanniviscardi4455 Рік тому +1

    It's justified, play stupid games get stupid prizes

  • @emilioperez6435
    @emilioperez6435 Рік тому +24

    Wow I didn't know I was a sigma male I was told I was antisocial thanks for clarifying that for me

    • @SigmaMale1337
      @SigmaMale1337  Рік тому +2

      always welcome Thanks For Watching

    • @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars
      @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars Рік тому +2

      What Month and day we’re you born I tell you if your a Sigma male

    • @bobholyoake8577
      @bobholyoake8577 Рік тому +1

      Exactly 🎯

    • @williamgadomski8207
      @williamgadomski8207 Рік тому +1

      @@OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars That's not going to tell you if someone is a sigma, that's not even going to give you someone's full chart. Please stop spreading misinformation under the guise of helping others.

    • @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars
      @OgaugeTrainsplusslotCars Рік тому

      @@williamgadomski8207 Yes it is going to tell me if a person is a Sigma or not .Your sign is a sign of who you are are .And Apparently you are not a Sigma male.Therefore you won’t understand what a Sigma is

  • @nite-eagle1
    @nite-eagle1 Рік тому +1

    Calling anyone with this label isn't dangerous to me. Weird video

  • @VersusARCH
    @VersusARCH Рік тому +1

    "Sigma" is an invention. Every man is different, and every man's understanding of wtf "sigma" actually encompasses is different. Pointless discussion.

  • @djnor1979
    @djnor1979 Рік тому +1

    Being sigma is just the way everyone should be.
    Take care of yourself, do not "expect" others to solve everything for you (no one does), and analyze everything happening around you.
    If you see something is BAD for you and your life, cut them off. You have only one life with given amount of minutes in it. Do not waste it on people who does not GAS about you, just want to use you ...
    First i thought this will be a trashing video, but i can only agree 100% on the content of this video ...
    DO NOT MESS WITH A SIGMA. They will find the way to f@ck you up for good without you knowing they did it to You.
    Just be kind to your fellow people. Do not try to cheat them or lie to them. Sigmas react "poorly" to this. You will learn the hard way once you met a sigma ...

    • @mitchellwilley7208
      @mitchellwilley7208 Рік тому

      Lol I relate to this so much. And yes you may win a battle against a sigma which doesn't happen often but ull be sure as shit the sigma ain't gonna lose the war.

  • @slumy8195
    @slumy8195 Рік тому +1

    today is the day I get to see people understand me

  • @mississippidrifter5960
    @mississippidrifter5960 Рік тому +16

    Never heard this term before and I'm 45 but it fits my life perfectly the way I've always been and I always will be.

    • @ryanunderwood5465
      @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому

      Catch up your falling behind

    • @patienceobongo
      @patienceobongo Рік тому

      The percentage of this personality is increasing because marriage no longer exists ie the need to compromise.

  • @shahbazkhan-pv1co
    @shahbazkhan-pv1co Рік тому +15

    I just came to know I'm sigma... especially the cutting off part. My peers always questioned that in me and i thought that there was something wrong with me. But this video is spot on on why i do it. I stay clear hearted but when i see toxicity around me i just cant stand it

  • @ryanunderwood5465
    @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому +1

    Your soul is who you truly are, and sigma is a beautiful genuine soul given from our god.

  • @camerons6466
    @camerons6466 Рік тому +1

    Do a video on how they talk to themselves

  • @darthdamn
    @darthdamn Рік тому +2

    People with courage and character always seem sinister to the rest.
    Hermann Hesse

  • @bargomcfargo3753
    @bargomcfargo3753 Рік тому +1

    First it was "Alpha shouldn't be fucked with"
    Now it's Sigmas. Just another over hyped trend... Next you'll be saying the most dangerous types are actually "Zeta Males." Or something

  • @julianfrachtman5866
    @julianfrachtman5866 Рік тому +2

    Just gonna throw this in with my Patrick Bateman Playlist. Thanks.

  • @keithbolding7915
    @keithbolding7915 Рік тому

    Basically...We don't give a dam what people think!!!!!!

  • @bodhi9464
    @bodhi9464 Рік тому +1

    I’ve known what alphas and betas are and these “sigma”
    clips keep showing up ~ I opened it up and found myself ! I don’t do (un) social media ~ don’t watch tv or listen to the radio ~ I live alone ~ train alone ~ surf alone ~ travel alone ~ live according to myself ~ keep my friends at arms length ..
    “Why are you calling 📞 me, I thought you liked me” ~ Henry Rollins ~ on the JRE pod.. I could relate to that 😂
    “ ‘cos I don’t wanna be lonely ~ I just wanna be alone”
    Daniel Johns ~ Silverchair 🎶🇦🇺

  • @TroijanSkinhead
    @TroijanSkinhead Рік тому

    I'm just an old Long Beach bastard man. Who's to much man for the general public. Its just the beast in me

  • @DarkTower5357
    @DarkTower5357 Рік тому

    To Hell with fitting in with the crowd do your own thing no matter who doesn't like it. If you find few that do they are your true Allie's. My favorite color Blue...

  • @johnk8825
    @johnk8825 Рік тому

    Reasonable listing of dark traits but the drawings are a waste of time and resources.

  • @alexandermaclean1735
    @alexandermaclean1735 Рік тому

    Yeah well most people are scared of their own shadow......

  • @wertziouk
    @wertziouk Рік тому

    I wonder if you get Sigma females? never hear of them.

  • @RAWSHEEM
    @RAWSHEEM Рік тому

    Why everyone like to say sigma male I guess I’m one 😂

  • @dariuspeace7
    @dariuspeace7 Рік тому +1

    I agree with most of this it’s 95% me

  • @schmooplesthesecond5997
    @schmooplesthesecond5997 Рік тому +1

    opening up to other people only allowing yourself to be mocked and ridiculed. you can take yourself less seriously to mitigate the emotional damage. but we all know people in this category wouldn't do such a thing, at least i wouldn't. If you're struggling with this like was, i find solace in the remembrance of God. May God bless you all with peace.

  • @sinestre71
    @sinestre71 Рік тому

    Sounds like 7 them problems not 7 me problems

  • @DeepeyeLV
    @DeepeyeLV Рік тому +1

    Guess I fit the pattern to a degree. Interesting though how so many negative aspects are highlighted in contrast to everything/everyone else. Aren't there sigma style women? I think I met some.

  • @dragginmedown
    @dragginmedown Рік тому

    What’s this sigma male shit all of a sudden. Labels labels

  • @jeremiebrown4316
    @jeremiebrown4316 Рік тому

    (Throat clearing noise)

  • @frankcastle2876
    @frankcastle2876 Рік тому +1

    I find going after ordinary goals are not enough to get my fire started. If I can get into serious trouble attaining harder to reach goals, THEN I'm interested. Who am I trying to impress... ...who could care less?

  • @albertoguadarrama3152
    @albertoguadarrama3152 Рік тому

    well great! thanks for describing me to the teeth!who made this video? I don’t trust you!😊😅

  • @XenoxGOWGODOFWINTER
    @XenoxGOWGODOFWINTER Рік тому

    Sounds like Vegeta.

  • @raymondezell7817
    @raymondezell7817 Рік тому

    Undeniable that this is me.

  • @witchcandy3671
    @witchcandy3671 Рік тому

    I didn't see any dark traits here.

  • @deutzallis6497
    @deutzallis6497 Рік тому

    Fake people, like actors.

  • @Staytrue4ver
    @Staytrue4ver Рік тому

    If this isn't me too the T! ♌ 🦁 🌍!

  • @jonrevere7446
    @jonrevere7446 Рік тому

    Why can't a man just be a man?

  • @michaelarojas
    @michaelarojas Рік тому +2

    A stoic sigma is a dangerous one.

  • @rollzolo
    @rollzolo Рік тому

    You scaring me

  • @freak0529
    @freak0529 Рік тому

    Exactly me.

  • @Snookpatrol1968
    @Snookpatrol1968 Рік тому

    Nice artwork by the artist, lol. The sketches are awesome

  • @customgadget3385
    @customgadget3385 Рік тому +1

    UA-cam normally gives a very tunnel visioned view of sigma male. Even though the descriptions are often very close there are various sigma male types unmentioned.

  • @rigelgamagamefowl8301
    @rigelgamagamefowl8301 Рік тому

    this is me

  • @3210-online
    @3210-online Рік тому

    San po loc?

  • @shadowscreamer1
    @shadowscreamer1 Рік тому +1

    I’m still waiting for the “dark side” Of being a signal male

  • @KanadianGrime
    @KanadianGrime Рік тому

    Gang 😊😅

  • @webdev10000hours
    @webdev10000hours Рік тому

    😂😂😂

  • @MikkiThaiGuy13
    @MikkiThaiGuy13 Рік тому

    Is "Fight Club" one sigmas journey to destroy his own Alpha tendencies?

  • @AnnaAnnaTT
    @AnnaAnnaTT Рік тому

    why do you think SIGMA persons are only males ? I think SIGMA people can be male or female

  • @serafinacrystal9991
    @serafinacrystal9991 Рік тому

    I don't really care what other people think about me and what they don't. If someone p*sses me off, they'll get in trouble. I've never put up with anything, whether it's at work or in my private life. I don't have to pretend to be liked or not, I know what I can do and that's it. and I only accept people on my level, I can't relate to stupid people. But thats for me a normal, healthy attitude because Life has a Time so you have to use this Time wisely as not to waste it on unimportant Things or people who don't help you mentally and intellectually. When you stop learning, you stop existing, it's as simple as that. But I don't think in categories, to me it's all completely normal and healthy behavior.

  • @Hydra-V
    @Hydra-V Рік тому

    All wannabe sigmas, listen up.
    You must not connect with other people. This is your natural imperative, & not at all a subversive tactic.

  • @madcoconut4749
    @madcoconut4749 Рік тому

    There are times when i like to socialize with the crowd and there are times i like to be alone with my dog and talking shit with her after a few ales. Keeping a balanced headspace is the key to my happiness.

  • @JorgeHernandez-kc4gz
    @JorgeHernandez-kc4gz Рік тому

    Thank you 🙏, it’s perfect! Your analogy on this matter is extraordinary and to the point. Stay safe my friend.

  • @davidblake1227
    @davidblake1227 Рік тому

    Fuck is he exposing me by saying all this relatable shit 💯🤣

  • @nacaric2868
    @nacaric2868 Рік тому

    i use my time to learn any skill possible to not rely on any other people im 30 and i been like this my whole life learned many crafts my whole house is crafted you can see in iron man movie but i dont care to show it off enjoy your lifes be creative stop repeating your days over and over always learn new thing let your brain grow and thrive

  • @chriscruze797
    @chriscruze797 Рік тому

    Still trying to figure out why cutting off toxic people is a bad thing.

  • @sydneyhunter2807
    @sydneyhunter2807 Рік тому

    Like with women competition there is also men competition
    It's just getting worse

  • @9MileRoar
    @9MileRoar Рік тому +1

    I am Vulcan 👽

  • @asamarisimeon2418
    @asamarisimeon2418 Рік тому +2

    ✔️💯

  • @lordenlightenedluciferian
    @lordenlightenedluciferian Рік тому

    Me all day long!

  • @ageofechochambers9469
    @ageofechochambers9469 Рік тому +4

    As a 45 year old who's " lived " this life , don't call yourself that if you have a social circle that you care about what they think about your behavior . Or if you have female friends.
    Or if you haven't walked away from multiple jobs despite needing the money because of toxicity.
    FYI the true sign of a insane person is one that tries to assimilate into a mad society like the 1 we have now , so a isolated life becomes easier.
    Plus sigmas ( if there is such a thing are flexible ) they compromise in what's asked of them but don't compromise who they are ( selling out )

  • @ryanunderwood5465
    @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому +2

    We will never back down to EVIL!

  • @miltonpowell9520
    @miltonpowell9520 Рік тому +1

    I love this video so much 👍👍👍

  • @beingsshepherd
    @beingsshepherd Рік тому

    Sigma males wear neckties now?

  • @ivansilvagonzalez861
    @ivansilvagonzalez861 Рік тому

    Duuude, the supervillan mindset

  • @ryanunderwood5465
    @ryanunderwood5465 Рік тому

    Sigma likes listening to people tell on themselves