Don't feel pressured by the comments! Only YOU know your cat best; the audience is just expressing their opinion for entertainment. Whatever your decision may be, let it be for Kurt's and your best interest.
You're a very thoughtful and loving cat dad. Don't feel pressured in getting another cat. Kurt's wellbeing is the most important. If Kurt's happy, I'm happy 😊
You are Kurt's playmate. If you decide to get a new kitten 😸 try to foster a kitten. That way if Kurt gets along with it you can keep the kitten. If they don't get along the shelter will understand. Usually once they find out that they can play together, they will have so much fun. And get a male kitten .
You know Kurt best. I've had friends that owned orange tabbies and they where definitely solo acts. Give Kurt plenty of time to get used to his new home and used to your new wife. That's a lot of change for a cat right there.
On the other hand, from the Cole and Marmalade channel, we see the famous Marmalade cohabiting with multiple kitties with apparent comfort. And Bond, who was living rough and solo for quite a while, not only fit in with the other cats, he has matched up one kitty (Calypso) as a particular buddy. The two subject cats are ginger boys. A friend of ours had a ginger boy who accepted additional cats over time; I felt certain his initial unhappiness was more about sharing and wariness than ginger genes.
I've had 8 cats in total (not all at once) and I can definitely tell that one of them did NOT get along with other cats. It was only when we got a dog that she calmed down and seemed to actually like having the dog around. But all my other cats were bonded pairs. Currently having 2 pairs, they're lovely
Cats are, in general, resistant to change. They're big fans of their schedules and patterns. We've always had success in introducing kittens, as they seem to be less threatening to an adult cat. They aren't seen as competition quite as much. Good for you for thinking ahead to all the changes and of Kurt's well-being above your desire for the new cute kitten! You're a good cat dad.
Some cats really don't want a little friend. His happy with his dad. Sometimes its the best thing to leave things as they are. It could make Kurt very unhappy.
Mom of 7 indoor cats and 3 dogs here… a kitten is probably the way to go. That being said, animals are generally way more adaptable than we give them credit for. It just takes patience. The way you handle it and react is the most important thing.
@@lakehouse9773 i try adopt a kitten for my cat and she almost murder the kitten even i try many ways for them to know eachother like seperate them for few weeks through a door but she still want to fight other cats. My point is if they just want to be left alone then let them be
We all saw what happens when Abram left the house in a previous video, he doesnt have nobody to play with and starts meowing at the door it might be for the better and if its not then get a babysitter
Adult cats, especially males, will almost always accept a new kitten. It's hit-or-miss with other adults, so don't feel bad if you need to return a cat who either isn't adjusting well, or who isn't being accepted by Kurt. This is one of the benefits of fostering - you can test out your cat's social behavior with a cat who doesn't have to stay with you permanently.
Thank you for explaining although you certainly didn't have to. You're right; that is a lot of change. Perhaps when you're all ready, you could try it out with a foster, see how it goes and then adopt your own foster cat 🤔 Some cats do not want another cat in their home
THIS is a very good idea. It would be a sensible way to see how Kurt reacts to another cat in his territory without a permanent commitment and it would also promote fostering to a large audience.
Bringing a second cat into the household doesn't always work out the way you hope it will. I got a second cat when my first cat was four years old. I thought it would be nice for him to have a playmate. They never became friends and my older cat never warmed up to the younger one. He would have been much happier being the only cat in the household.
My cat Snowy lives with a friend of a relative because I am in university now and my parents live abroad (no good vets there) and comes back here a few times throughout the year. The person keeping Snowy took in a few strays and she is friends with none of them. She is grumpier since a new one came. she didn't like the hyperactiveness of the new cat and the grumpiness of the other new cat. The 2 cats don't have respect for her even though she is much older. She is 10 now, the other cats are 2 and 3.Snowy got along with Ren but that's because they grew up together as kittens but he passed away now from FIP
@@naylisyazwina6836 I am so sorry about your cat, Ren. Hopefully Snowy will have a long healthy life and get back to being the one and only when you are finished with university. Cats are complex just like people and getting new roommates brings out their insecurities and magnifies the differences in their personalities. Everyone needs to consider this when bringing in other cats.
I believe Abram that you’re Kurt’s best friend and you are his and he is yours so, that could be why he isn’t fond of your girlfriend and other cats too. Also, I like the comment of another commenter in that try to be a foster and also show the foster to Kurt and see how he reacts with a foster. That way, it can and will show you if Kurt will be fine with another real cat in the home. God bless you and Kurt and I feel that I’d it’s meant to happen and work out then it will. God bless and hugs to you and Kurt too always! Sue M. Florida ❤️🥰😺🙏👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻🤞🏼❌⭕️
Some advice: Time: After Kurt is almost or completely comfortable with your new house and he is good friends with your fiancé, then wife. The cat: It has to be a kitten. If its an adult, they will fight if male and Kurt will defend his territory and will bully the cat. Kitten: Kurt can easily attack the kitten, and probably will if he gets jealous, so you need to be careful of that and be there to stop it if it happens. Defensive: Kurt won't just defend his territory, he'll defend you aswell, so you need to show Kurt that the kitten won't hurt you. He will also definitely get defensive over all his toys and things, especially his favourite ones, so if the kitten really takes a liking to one of Kurt's favourite things, the smartest move is to get another one for the kitten in his own area and to not let Kurt think it's his own. After: it'll take time to warm up, but afterwards, Kurt might even look after the kit like he would his own one, and they'll have tons of fun playing, and his mental health will definitely improve with a new kitty friend. Hope this helps :)
I have had many cats over the last 40 years, but NEVER had "cat buddies." If I started off with two siblings... maybe. However, keep in mind once you get a companion for Kurt, and he doesn't like the cat, you have THE SAME PROBLEM TIMES TWO. Take Kurt on play dates with other cats at a rescue. Yes, it is a big sacrifice of time but worth the effort to find a cool pal for Kurt.
@@dao8805 yeah. I'm so glad this comment section has much more logical advice or reasonings. The one that tell him to immediately get a new cats, don't know cats that well or was lucky to have cats that got along with each other. Cats are not like dogs. Dogs usually love a new friends but a lot of cats are introverts and prefer just a human friend. Even BilliSpeaks, she lived with her Guppy for 2 years or something but just barely tolerated Guppy, they were never friends. They fought more than slept next to each other
I read somewhere that having sibling cats or dogs make them harder to socialize with other animals, so maybe don't have same litter siblings but around the same age or adopted around the same time
@@PhoenixWeaver We had a brother and sister that bonded with our adult female right away. My brother in law brought home a 5 week old kitten several years later and things were fine at first. He grew into a bully ,though that might be because he was never neutered. The siblings loved the 3 dogs they lived with too.
majority of rescues will take a cat back if they are not a right fit in the household; so not a huge issue. I’ve had many cats that have bonded, really just depends on each individual cat, their upbringing, experiences etc
I'm old and have had a lot of cats in my life. They are individuals like people and can be very particular about whether they like another cat or not. It's hard to predict in advance whether 2 cats will like each other. At best they will tolerate each other even if they don't love each other. Your plan to take time for Kurt to adjust to all the upcoming changes is a good one.
My cat had a sister who ran away and we never saw again. A few years later we found an ADORABLE kitten under our house. My cat was not used to it but now they play all the time and it’s so cute.
I'm glad you're approaching this with a lot of thought. ClaireLuvCat is a really helpful channel even for me a veteran cat rescuer I learn from her a lot. From diet and health to introducing new cats to the family and even making breakthroughs for kidney failure in older cats. She's amazing!
You should put them in seperate rooms with something like a little fence so they can communicate without hurting eachother. I did that with my cats too and it worked very well even though they were both adults.
You are possibly the best dad to that cat I have ever seen on the internet! You and Kurt genuinely warm my heart and cure my sadness on my bad days. Best medicine for my depression ever. Thank you Abram🖤🖤
Do not let the comments and peer pressure get to you. You're very in tune with your cat and how he feels - and how cats feel in general, so you should follow that instinct. You're a great cat dad. The time will come, it's just not now. Congrats on the marriage!!
Yes, definitely! I think when the only change Kurt will have to deal with is the Kitten as a new addition to the family, that is the best time to get him a friend. 😊
Kurt is absolutely beautiful. You will know when the right is for your fur baby. I agree that change is very hard for any cat so go slow and I absolutely agree on getting a kitten. Please do because Kurt is very nurturing with his stuffed animal and a kitten will not threaten Kurt's "territory" rather the kitten will be a part of Kurt's "territory" so it should go well when the time is right.👍👏👏 Congrats on your engagement! 😻
Do whatever you want to! I am sure Kurt will love his potential new sibling, but only if the introduction is done right. Jackson Galaxy has some informative videos about cat introduction. I hope you do the research before, and everything will be just fine. Me and my husband had the same dillema. We had 1 female cat and when she was about 2 years ols we got her little sister. The introduction process was rather long (about 3-4 months) as we didn't want to rush things, but it was so worth it! They are now 6 and 4 years old and are besties, and our older kitty no longer has seperation anxiety thanks to her younger sister. Take care:)
btw female cats are way more territorial than male cats. Every male cat I knew was pretty chill overall, and very sweet about other animals in the house. So you will have it easier as Kurt is male!:)
Sounds like you've put a lot of thought into it and arrived at the appropriate solutions. Hats off to you, I hope Kurt and his new mother and sibling get along quickly!
I personally think he is really good the way he is. I think he will be stressed if you get him a sibling. I had a cocker spaniel for 5 years and then had the bright idea to get her a sibling to play with and i got a poodle/shih tzu mix and my cocker spaniel was annoyed and was never the same towards me... she never forgave me till the day she died!! No need to stress Kurt out.... YOU are his friend!!!
I think your smart to wait until he gets use to all the other changes then maybe when he feels comfortable you can get one. Cats can really get stressed out around other cats so take your time you will know when Kurt's ready.
It’s ok if you don’t want to keep putting change into Kurt’s life! I know when we got our dog for the first time, our cats were very grumpy and were very mad about it and became very territorial. 😂 But over time, they started to play and have fun even if he was kind of annoying. Just make sure Kurt meets the kitten before you get the kitten, just to see if their relationship would work ❤😊
I agree with you that a kitten may be best for Kurt. I might also recommend a female. Sometimes male on male cat buddies do not work out because there can be only one male in the house (and that's clearly going to be Kurt. But getting him a sister has a higher chance of him accepting her and having a positive reaction. Also, if you're going for a kitten, I'd say to look for one at least 6 months old so she could be at least somewhat physically able to play with Kurt. Kurt is just wrestling with his toys. If his toys were other cats, you'd only want to break the up if you heard squeaking or growling. My cats happily play together most times, but every once in a while, it gets too intense. Usually, I just have to clap my hands and they stop. On a handful of occasions I've had to physically intervene. It still might take a couple weeks to a month for the hissing and growling to stop. As for your fiancee, has she gotten more experience with cats who are not Kurt? She's so tentative with him the couple of times I've seen her in videos, I'm not surprised Kurt is having some negative reactions. I think building p her confidence just dealing with cats might be good for her. Because I don't doubt that Kurt is jealous, but some of her body language is going to trigger negative responses in cats.
My dad was worried about his cat changing personality, but we got 4 cats after him, all funny girls, the boy never changed, he was still glued to my dad, but yet he played with the girls and enjoyed their company. They were one happy family. The first was a pretty kit kat, 6 months old but looked younger, she became the boy cat's girlfriend. Next was a year old throwaway, the poor girl was traumatized but soon became happy. We found her on the streets. Then was an abused broken tailed sweet kitten, everyone loved her, especially the boy cat. Last was a Christmas Eve sick kitten who was found crying in a puddle during a rain storm. She was my mothers favorite cat.
You do what's best for Kurt! My 4 oranges get along pretty well. Molly, the only girl, doesn't care for her 3 brothers, though. Lol Freddie is the largest, and then there's Sparky and Hemi. Sparky and Hemi were adopted one right after the other. Hemi was a tiny kitten. But he wasn't shy. Gets along with everyone! Sparky is a year older. He and Freddie mentored Hemi. No one seems to dominate each other. So, it's a pretty happy orange kitty family!
My kitty Luna was a solitary kitty all her life. She would attack almost every other cat she got in contact with and only ever befriended one other cat, one that wasn't available for me to adopt. She was happiest alone, she made that very clear. She loved her humans but most other cats were not her friends. Not every cat needs a buddy. You know your cat best. :)
I talked to my Vet about getting another cat for my 5 yo female cat and he was adamantly against it and said it won't go well. I guess every cat is different but he said they are just so territorial that it would likely cause all kinds of problems. Plus Kurt is a male so could be worse but I hope it goes well and Kurt truly seems like a special cat so hoping for the best.
Adult cats also do well with senior cats. They’re more chill and don’t feel too territorial. No pressure either way. I know you’ll adopt and continue to volunteer your time. Thanks for helping out the cats
We really don't know how Kurt will react to a new kitten in the house. Kurt may like the kitten right a way or he will adjust and accept the kitten eventually. Only time will tell. Having a new kitten is a very good idea. Abram, just do it when you are ready for it. ❤ 🐱 😀 🩷
I rescued 3 week old kitten found roadside in a massive thunderstorm in May 2011. My cat was 8 at the time. Both females. It was an adjustment, but good for both. Your life is about to grow hugely. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, new home, a new fur baby and all the rest. Love your videos so much❗Thanks for sharing all that you do with us, your fans🧡😻🐈🐾✴
One way to make Kurt like your Fiancee better is to make sure they are the only one that gives him Treats and catnip at least for a few months. 2. Yes very smart to keep them separated for a while but able to smell each other.
Very thoughtful approach to getting a new kitty. I definitely like having two fur babies at once. You will see how much they have their own unique personalities. I enjoy watching your interactions w Kurt. Best wishes on your marriage and moving as well as the new baby kitty. You should do a gender reveal.. minus any loud exploding powder thingies. I'm sure you'll come up with something fun and safe as the reveal.
So smart to think about the changes coming up and how that’ll impact Kurt. Also, my husband and I adopted a cat and he adores my husband. I try so hard and he just doesn’t care haha. Kurt might just be okay with your fiancé and that could be the best it’ll get. Maybe not though, who knows. So happy for all of you!
Cats are very attuned to their senses. If you do get a cat keep them in a separate room and every few days swap the toys between the two rooms. That way the scent of both cats will become familiar and it's less of a confrontation when they finally meet. We used to have a cat shelter and this is the only way to make it less stressful for everyone
Cats don't like moving. I wish all of you the best. People can "roll with the punches." Cats take a bit of time to adjust. Kurt is a lucky kitty! He will love a new friend.
Thank you for being so thoughtful about how Kurt would feel! I don't know if my anecdotal experience would help at all - my most territorial tomcat was actually very chill with a female cat that I had to unfortunately return to the shelter as she was unhappy without access to the outside. I didn't realise it at the time, but I had recorded videos of him and her together and the difference in the way he treated her (licking, cuddling and playing with her, etc) compared to the other male cats i have now is night and day... He fights one of the other males every week or so, and the third cat is just neutral to both of them. I realised way too late that i should have tried to get him another female again, when i was re-watching those old videos and he watched too, super intently and slow blinking at it :(
I love that you have put so much thought into this. I have 2 cats and they could not care less about one another. I also have 2 dogs and they don't care about one another. Not all cats/dogs need a friend of the same species. Follow your heart :)
Congratulations! Sounds like you're making the correct responsible choices for your household. Have a feeling he will be obsessed with his new sibling once adjusted and might make him more socially independent.
I hope that everything goes well with the wedding and the move. It's good to hear that you're thinking about everything carefully and how best to do it with your second cat. It's clear that Kurt is jealous. You raised him, cared for him the most and still do. Therefore, you are his caregiver.
Sometimes the optimism of getting your cat a new friend doesn’t work out irl. Cats can be very picky, way more picky than dogs, and not all cats will get along with a new cat in the house. It can result in more stress. The best bet is keeping two siblings since they were babies It’s totally fine to have a solo cat with a lot of human interaction
Cats are social, they do well with a bit of company and if you work away from home, but come home each evening, your cat will likely be a bit lonely during the day. But introducing a new cat is a process and will require planning. Kurt is top of the heap at the moment and he will be concerned about a new cat encroaching on his territory. There will be issues between them to iron out. It will only happen if you feel it’s the right time and if Kurt accepts the other cat. Don’t be pressured because of comments. Love and hugs to you all!
I’m so happy to hear that! I would suggest a baby girl kitten because it has worked out so well in our hime. Our male cat was two years old and I got him a little girl kitten who I kept her in a bathroom when we weren’t around but the first time we left them alone and we came home to this ❤️
You are correct, it would change Kurt's personality. Could be great, could also be a lot of work and time to transition. So RIGHT, has to be a kitten!!!
I work at an animal shelter and we mainly have cats there, and they all have different personalities. I would recommend maybe introducing kirt to a cat like a friends cat or something with maybe them in two separate rooms and having a see through or like a screen door or whatever. Like keeping them in separate rooms but them being able to till see, meet and smell each other and see how Kirt would react but make sure you’re not around. And then if thinks are going well you can enter the area or whatever and see how Kirt acts then
You've got a lot of changes coming. Good to think of the effect on Kurt, but also think of the effect on you and your fiancee. Move. Get married. Settle into married life. Let Kurt absorb all the changes - then consider adopting a new fur baby. Of course, another possible change is a human baby entering your life so just don't feel pressured into jumping into anything new until the rest of your life settles down. You'll know when. Scritchies for Kurt and good luck to you and your future.
Ive had over 25 cat at one time and I've had cats since I was 2 im now 68 with 9 of the little buggers. There are things to do and things not to do in Kurt's case. I don't recommend a adult cat,but a kitten yes,the best way to do this is to get a big cage one big enough to put kitten cat box and water food bowls keep the cage in a place that Kurt will always have access to let them both see each other. Plus the kitten will get potty trained at the same time.Give it a couple of days like this then take out some urine poop and put it in Kurt's cat box so he can smell it this will get him to know more about the new baby. Then a couple more day you should already seen that kirt is very interested in the kitty,take time with them both to play, dirt kitty might start hissing at each other but that's okay as long as Kurt does not go crazy like he did with that toy.lol go from there. I've always done this and it's always worked. Of course let the kitten out to explore the new home but without Kurt in the room Kitty has to adjust too. Hope you read this and it helps I will be watching and waiting for Kurt's reaction..love Kurt I have two Gingers both adorable. ❤❤
I believe it is a Good thing you are waiting to get a kitten-companion for Kurt. IF you do, don't wait too long after you get settled... Because it will be New Territory for both Kurt and the new kitten, so perhaps Kurt won't feel the need to defend it as much. The suggestion already mentioned by others to foster a kitten or take Kurt for a "Meeting/play date", are both good ones. I would just add that maybe an older kitten, like 3 months-ish, & not a super young one would be better. An older kitten might be ( hopefully) more self-assured.
Your relationship with Kurt and your fiancé reminds me of one of my friends and her boyfriend’s cat that marked her territory. I think getting a kitten as a companion is a great idea
I've mentioned getting Kurt a friend in the past, but you know him best and it's pretty damn obvious that you always do what's right by him. Regardless, thanks for your content and please keep it up.
I feel happy that Kurt will have someone more to play with in the future, but I think u should foster a cat for maybe a few weeks and see how Kurt reaches to that. You never know whether he like or dislikes the kitten.
I adopted a cat three years ago and just one month ago I rescued a stray. The cat I’ve had the longest doesn’t fully get along with my newest cat. They do occasionally chase each other and play together but my oldest one still hisses sometimes and wants to fight. It’s been rough and a lot of work but I know they will eventually fully get along and be best buddies! I kept them separated for two weeks and for another week I would keep them separate if I left the house.
Don't feel pressured by the comments! Only YOU know your cat best; the audience is just expressing their opinion for entertainment. Whatever your decision may be, let it be for Kurt's and your best interest.
Will it be good content for views? Sure. But will Kurt be the same? Only time can tell.
I agree, whatever is Best for you and your beautiful kitty... And his future Mom 😊❤🐱🤞🙏🤞
Yeah lot's of entertaining opinions can be found on UA-cam that's for sure lol
Amen!
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You're a very thoughtful and loving cat dad. Don't feel pressured in getting another cat. Kurt's wellbeing is the most important. If Kurt's happy, I'm happy 😊
who tf cares about ur opinions lmao (no hate)
@@cooliocoolster123 that "(blah blah no hating blah blah)" thing makes your comment even worse
Bro I get there points but don’t be rude their good points!
You are Kurt's playmate.
If you decide to get a new kitten 😸 try to foster a kitten.
That way if Kurt gets along with it you can keep the kitten.
If they don't get along the shelter will understand.
Usually once they find out that they can play together, they will have so much fun.
And get a male kitten .
Good advice.
Good advice
@abram.engle can you tell us the origin of Kurt's name ❤❤❤
Great idea. Foster male kitten. Preferable a mellow one, not skittish. If done properly Kurt’s life will be enhanced greatly❤.
This is a great idea!!
Kurt is just a loaf of bread ❤❤ so cute
he is sourdough bread🍞
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U sure he isn’t a sleeping lion? 🦁😴
Lmao yes he is
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You know Kurt best. I've had friends that owned orange tabbies and they where definitely solo acts. Give Kurt plenty of time to get used to his new home and used to your new wife. That's a lot of change for a cat right there.
On the other hand, from the Cole and Marmalade channel, we see the famous Marmalade cohabiting with multiple kitties with apparent comfort. And Bond, who was living rough and solo for quite a while, not only fit in with the other cats, he has matched up one kitty (Calypso) as a particular buddy. The two subject cats are ginger boys. A friend of ours had a ginger boy who accepted additional cats over time; I felt certain his initial unhappiness was more about sharing and wariness than ginger genes.
@billkobinsky7830, I feel the same way.
as for the home and cat at once, it’s definitely a lot of change! as for abram’s ‘new wife’, they’ve been together longer than kurt has been alive!
I've had 8 cats in total (not all at once) and I can definitely tell that one of them did NOT get along with other cats. It was only when we got a dog that she calmed down and seemed to actually like having the dog around. But all my other cats were bonded pairs. Currently having 2 pairs, they're lovely
Guys do not like pressure him.Whenerver you are ready get another cat.❤😊
I agree take your time
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I agree
Cats are, in general, resistant to change. They're big fans of their schedules and patterns. We've always had success in introducing kittens, as they seem to be less threatening to an adult cat. They aren't seen as competition quite as much. Good for you for thinking ahead to all the changes and of Kurt's well-being above your desire for the new cute kitten! You're a good cat dad.
Agreed
I had a adult cat and it the kitten was very threatening for my adult cat
Some cats really don't want a little friend. His happy with his dad. Sometimes its the best thing to leave things as they are. It could make Kurt very unhappy.
Or make him very happy.
Mom of 7 indoor cats and 3 dogs here… a kitten is probably the way to go. That being said, animals are generally way more adaptable than we give them credit for. It just takes patience. The way you handle it and react is the most important thing.
@@lakehouse9773 i try adopt a kitten for my cat and she almost murder the kitten even i try many ways for them to know eachother like seperate them for few weeks through a door but she still want to fight other cats. My point is if they just want to be left alone then let them be
We all saw what happens when Abram left the house in a previous video, he doesnt have nobody to play with and starts meowing at the door it might be for the better and if its not then get a babysitter
right, some cats, like mine, are very solitary and would hate to have a cat companion.
Adult cats, especially males, will almost always accept a new kitten. It's hit-or-miss with other adults, so don't feel bad if you need to return a cat who either isn't adjusting well, or who isn't being accepted by Kurt. This is one of the benefits of fostering - you can test out your cat's social behavior with a cat who doesn't have to stay with you permanently.
I think it's really good that you're waiting until you're settled before getting a new kitten!
Thank you for explaining although you certainly didn't have to. You're right; that is a lot of change. Perhaps when you're all ready, you could try it out with a foster, see how it goes and then adopt your own foster cat 🤔 Some cats do not want another cat in their home
THIS is a very good idea. It would be a sensible way to see how Kurt reacts to another cat in his territory without a permanent commitment and it would also promote fostering to a large audience.
Jackson Galaxy has good advice about introducing cats to each other.
Thank you, searched fot this comment
Love that dude helped me with problems I had with my kitten and cats
I’m very glad you think about Kurt first. Don’t feel pressured into getting another cat. Take your time! 🐈
You know Kurt better than anyone else. You do what's right for you and your orange boy.
Do it when it is best for Kurt and you. Don't rush it. When you do, it will be a process and you want to make sure it's done right. ❤
Bringing a second cat into the household doesn't always work out the way you hope it will. I got a second cat when my first cat was four years old. I thought it would be nice for him to have a playmate. They never became friends and my older cat never warmed up to the younger one. He would have been much happier being the only cat in the household.
Good reality check comment.
My cat Snowy lives with a friend of a relative because I am in university now and my parents live abroad (no good vets there) and comes back here a few times throughout the year. The person keeping Snowy took in a few strays and she is friends with none of them. She is grumpier since a new one came. she didn't like the hyperactiveness of the new cat and the grumpiness of the other new cat. The 2 cats don't have respect for her even though she is much older. She is 10 now, the other cats are 2 and 3.Snowy got along with Ren but that's because they grew up together as kittens but he passed away now from FIP
@@naylisyazwina6836 I am so sorry about your cat, Ren. Hopefully Snowy will have a long healthy life and get back to being the one and only when you are finished with university. Cats are complex just like people and getting new roommates brings out their insecurities and magnifies the differences in their personalities. Everyone needs to consider this when bringing in other cats.
Take your time, we just want the best for Kurt
I believe Abram that you’re Kurt’s best friend and you are his and he is yours so, that could be why he isn’t fond of your girlfriend and other cats too. Also, I like the comment of another commenter in that try to be a foster and also show the foster to Kurt and see how he reacts with a foster. That way, it can and will show you if Kurt will be fine with another real cat in the home. God bless you and Kurt and I feel that I’d it’s meant to happen and work out then it will. God bless and hugs to you and Kurt too always! Sue M. Florida ❤️🥰😺🙏👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻🤞🏼❌⭕️
Some advice:
Time: After Kurt is almost or completely comfortable with your new house and he is good friends with your fiancé, then wife.
The cat: It has to be a kitten. If its an adult, they will fight if male and Kurt will defend his territory and will bully the cat.
Kitten: Kurt can easily attack the kitten, and probably will if he gets jealous, so you need to be careful of that and be there to stop it if it happens.
Defensive: Kurt won't just defend his territory, he'll defend you aswell, so you need to show Kurt that the kitten won't hurt you. He will also definitely get defensive over all his toys and things, especially his favourite ones, so if the kitten really takes a liking to one of Kurt's favourite things, the smartest move is to get another one for the kitten in his own area and to not let Kurt think it's his own.
After: it'll take time to warm up, but afterwards, Kurt might even look after the kit like he would his own one, and they'll have tons of fun playing, and his mental health will definitely improve with a new kitty friend.
Hope this helps :)
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I have had many cats over the last 40 years, but NEVER had "cat buddies." If I started off with two siblings... maybe. However, keep in mind once you get a companion for Kurt, and he doesn't like the cat, you have THE SAME PROBLEM TIMES TWO. Take Kurt on play dates with other cats at a rescue. Yes, it is a big sacrifice of time but worth the effort to find a cool pal for Kurt.
Good solid advice.
@@dao8805 yeah. I'm so glad this comment section has much more logical advice or reasonings. The one that tell him to immediately get a new cats, don't know cats that well or was lucky to have cats that got along with each other. Cats are not like dogs. Dogs usually love a new friends but a lot of cats are introverts and prefer just a human friend. Even BilliSpeaks, she lived with her Guppy for 2 years or something but just barely tolerated Guppy, they were never friends. They fought more than slept next to each other
I read somewhere that having sibling cats or dogs make them harder to socialize with other animals, so maybe don't have same litter siblings but around the same age or adopted around the same time
@@PhoenixWeaver We had a brother and sister that bonded with our adult female right away. My brother in law brought home a 5 week old kitten several years later and things were fine at first. He grew into a bully ,though that might be because he was never neutered. The siblings loved the 3 dogs they lived with too.
majority of rescues will take a cat back if they are not a right fit in the household; so not a huge issue. I’ve had many cats that have bonded, really just depends on each individual cat, their upbringing, experiences etc
I'm old and have had a lot of cats in my life. They are individuals like people and can be very particular about whether they like another cat or not. It's hard to predict in advance whether 2 cats will like each other. At best they will tolerate each other even if they don't love each other. Your plan to take time for Kurt to adjust to all the upcoming changes is a good one.
Kurt needs a sibling. He should choose. I like the idea of fostering.
Congratulations to the two of you, 🥰💍 I can’t wait to see pictures of Kurt on the special day. 🐾🥹🎉
My cat had a sister who ran away and we never saw again. A few years later we found an ADORABLE kitten under our house. My cat was not used to it but now they play all the time and it’s so cute.
I'm glad you're approaching this with a lot of thought. ClaireLuvCat is a really helpful channel even for me a veteran cat rescuer I learn from her a lot. From diet and health to introducing new cats to the family and even making breakthroughs for kidney failure in older cats. She's amazing!
You should put them in seperate rooms with something like a little fence so they can communicate without hurting eachother.
I did that with my cats too and it worked very well even though they were both adults.
You’re an awesome cat dad. Get a black cat 🐈⬛ ❤🐈
He's gotta be the best cat dad ever kurt has more stuff then most people
I have a black and orange cat and a tux and a calico. Different ages and slowly introducing them is key. Kitties are resilient.
THis guy is a really good pet dad. Kurt is well cared for.
I loved " Kurt sometimes likes her"...lol....Cracked me up.
Kurt is so sweet. I love him.
You are possibly the best dad to that cat I have ever seen on the internet! You and Kurt genuinely warm my heart and cure my sadness on my bad days. Best medicine for my depression ever. Thank you Abram🖤🖤
Everyone should put this much thought into getting any pet. Awesome video :)
Do not let the comments and peer pressure get to you. You're very in tune with your cat and how he feels - and how cats feel in general, so you should follow that instinct. You're a great cat dad. The time will come, it's just not now. Congrats on the marriage!!
Kurt is happy no matter what lol
Kurt is gonna be the best big brother ❤
All will be fine, you are a good father. And Kurt is a wonderful 😺 cat. Slowly and surely, all will be fine with you all🎉🎉🎉
Yes, definitely! I think when the only change Kurt will have to deal with is the Kitten as a new addition to the family, that is the best time to get him a friend. 😊
Agree - kitten is good choice. Kurt can mentor him
Congrats on your upcoming marriage and new place! You know your cat, so don't feel pressured by the comments ❤
Kurt is absolutely beautiful. You will know when the right is for your fur baby. I agree that change is very hard for any cat so go slow and I absolutely agree on getting a kitten. Please do because Kurt is very nurturing with his stuffed animal and a kitten will not threaten Kurt's "territory" rather the kitten will be a part of Kurt's "territory" so it should go well when the time is right.👍👏👏 Congrats on your engagement! 😻
Do whatever you want to! I am sure Kurt will love his potential new sibling, but only if the introduction is done right. Jackson Galaxy has some informative videos about cat introduction. I hope you do the research before, and everything will be just fine. Me and my husband had the same dillema. We had 1 female cat and when she was about 2 years ols we got her little sister. The introduction process was rather long (about 3-4 months) as we didn't want to rush things, but it was so worth it! They are now 6 and 4 years old and are besties, and our older kitty no longer has seperation anxiety thanks to her younger sister. Take care:)
btw female cats are way more territorial than male cats. Every male cat I knew was pretty chill overall, and very sweet about other animals in the house. So you will have it easier as Kurt is male!:)
Sounds like you've put a lot of thought into it and arrived at the appropriate solutions. Hats off
to you, I hope Kurt and his new mother and sibling get along quickly!
A kitten is the best choice! Kurt's gonna make a good big brother ❤
I personally think he is really good the way he is. I think he will be stressed if you get him a sibling. I had a cocker spaniel for 5 years and then had the bright idea to get her a sibling to play with and i got a poodle/shih tzu mix and my cocker spaniel was annoyed and was never the same towards me... she never forgave me till the day she died!! No need to stress Kurt out.... YOU are his friend!!!
I think your smart to wait until he gets use to all the other changes then maybe when he feels comfortable you can get one. Cats can really get stressed out around other cats so take your time you will know when Kurt's ready.
You're absolutely right to take it slow. With all those changes coming, it will be better for Kurt to get a sibling when things calm down. ❤
Do it!!!❤❤❤❤❤ A stray could always need the love!!!
It’s ok if you don’t want to keep putting change into Kurt’s life! I know when we got our dog for the first time, our cats were very grumpy and were very mad about it and became very territorial. 😂 But over time, they started to play and have fun even if he was kind of annoying. Just make sure Kurt meets the kitten before you get the kitten, just to see if their relationship would work ❤😊
I agree with you that a kitten may be best for Kurt. I might also recommend a female. Sometimes male on male cat buddies do not work out because there can be only one male in the house (and that's clearly going to be Kurt. But getting him a sister has a higher chance of him accepting her and having a positive reaction.
Also, if you're going for a kitten, I'd say to look for one at least 6 months old so she could be at least somewhat physically able to play with Kurt.
Kurt is just wrestling with his toys. If his toys were other cats, you'd only want to break the up if you heard squeaking or growling. My cats happily play together most times, but every once in a while, it gets too intense. Usually, I just have to clap my hands and they stop. On a handful of occasions I've had to physically intervene.
It still might take a couple weeks to a month for the hissing and growling to stop.
As for your fiancee, has she gotten more experience with cats who are not Kurt? She's so tentative with him the couple of times I've seen her in videos, I'm not surprised Kurt is having some negative reactions. I think building p her confidence just dealing with cats might be good for her. Because I don't doubt that Kurt is jealous, but some of her body language is going to trigger negative responses in cats.
Congratulations on getting married! I hope Kurt adjusts to the new home!
I agree with you. Take your time to do it, no pressure, the most important is that Kurt is comfortable
Do what the best for Kurt! Kurt will be happiest with you . And you correct. Kitten may works.
My dad was worried about his cat changing personality, but we got 4 cats after him, all funny girls, the boy never changed, he was still glued to my dad, but yet he played with the girls and enjoyed their company. They were one happy family.
The first was a pretty kit kat, 6 months old but looked younger, she became the boy cat's girlfriend. Next was a year old throwaway, the poor girl was traumatized but soon became happy. We found her on the streets. Then was an abused broken tailed sweet kitten, everyone loved her, especially the boy cat. Last was a Christmas Eve sick kitten who was found crying in a puddle during a rain storm. She was my mothers favorite cat.
You do what's best for Kurt!
My 4 oranges get along pretty well.
Molly, the only girl, doesn't care for her 3 brothers, though. Lol
Freddie is the largest, and then there's Sparky and Hemi.
Sparky and Hemi were adopted one right after the other. Hemi was a tiny kitten. But he wasn't shy. Gets along with everyone! Sparky is a year older. He and Freddie mentored Hemi.
No one seems to dominate each other.
So, it's a pretty happy orange kitty family!
My kitty Luna was a solitary kitty all her life. She would attack almost every other cat she got in contact with and only ever befriended one other cat, one that wasn't available for me to adopt. She was happiest alone, she made that very clear. She loved her humans but most other cats were not her friends. Not every cat needs a buddy. You know your cat best. :)
I talked to my Vet about getting another cat for my 5 yo female cat and he was adamantly against it and said it won't go well. I guess every cat is different but he said they are just so territorial that it would likely cause all kinds of problems. Plus Kurt is a male so could be worse but I hope it goes well and Kurt truly seems like a special cat so hoping for the best.
Adult cats also do well with senior cats. They’re more chill and don’t feel too territorial. No pressure either way. I know you’ll adopt and continue to volunteer your time. Thanks for helping out the cats
We really don't know how Kurt will react to a new kitten in the house. Kurt may like the kitten right a way or he will adjust and accept the kitten eventually. Only time will tell. Having a new kitten is a very good idea. Abram, just do it when you are ready for it. ❤ 🐱 😀 🩷
Kurt I love u your so cute and you behave so well
Aww he doesn’t need an other cat. Kurt is beautiful
I rescued 3 week old kitten found roadside in a massive thunderstorm in May 2011. My cat was 8 at the time. Both females. It was an adjustment, but good for both. Your life is about to grow hugely. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, new home, a new fur baby and all the rest. Love your videos so much❗Thanks for sharing all that you do with us, your fans🧡😻🐈🐾✴
One way to make Kurt like your Fiancee better is to make sure they are the only one that gives him Treats and catnip at least for a few months.
2. Yes very smart to keep them separated for a while but able to smell each other.
Very thoughtful approach to getting a new kitty. I definitely like having two fur babies at once. You will see how much they have their own unique personalities. I enjoy watching your interactions w Kurt. Best wishes on your marriage and moving as well as the new baby kitty. You should do a gender reveal.. minus any loud exploding powder thingies. I'm sure you'll come up with something fun and safe as the reveal.
So smart to think about the changes coming up and how that’ll impact Kurt. Also, my husband and I adopted a cat and he adores my husband. I try so hard and he just doesn’t care haha. Kurt might just be okay with your fiancé and that could be the best it’ll get. Maybe not though, who knows. So happy for all of you!
Cats are very attuned to their senses. If you do get a cat keep them in a separate room and every few days swap the toys between the two rooms. That way the scent of both cats will become familiar and it's less of a confrontation when they finally meet. We used to have a cat shelter and this is the only way to make it less stressful for everyone
Cats don't like moving. I wish all of you the best. People can "roll with the punches." Cats take a bit of time to adjust.
Kurt is a lucky kitty! He will love a new friend.
Thank you for being so thoughtful about how Kurt would feel!
I don't know if my anecdotal experience would help at all - my most territorial tomcat was actually very chill with a female cat that I had to unfortunately return to the shelter as she was unhappy without access to the outside. I didn't realise it at the time, but I had recorded videos of him and her together and the difference in the way he treated her (licking, cuddling and playing with her, etc) compared to the other male cats i have now is night and day... He fights one of the other males every week or so, and the third cat is just neutral to both of them.
I realised way too late that i should have tried to get him another female again, when i was re-watching those old videos and he watched too, super intently and slow blinking at it :(
Kurt…big brother ❤ Fun times on the way. Good luck to all as your family grows 🐈
Kurt would love to have a friend Every 🐱 cat appreciates a friend to distract him from being jealous of your fiancé 😺
I love that you have put so much thought into this. I have 2 cats and they could not care less about one another. I also have 2 dogs and they don't care about one another. Not all cats/dogs need a friend of the same species. Follow your heart :)
Kurk dad, you just do what you & Kurt are happy with ,only you know Kurt ❤❤🎉🎉
I am not a cat person, but i love Kurt content !!
I’m sure that Kurt would love a little kitten buddy
Congratulations! Sounds like you're making the correct responsible choices for your household. Have a feeling he will be obsessed with his new sibling once adjusted and might make him more socially independent.
I hope that everything goes well with the wedding and the move. It's good to hear that you're thinking about everything carefully and how best to do it with your second cat. It's clear that Kurt is jealous. You raised him, cared for him the most and still do. Therefore, you are his caregiver.
Sometimes the optimism of getting your cat a new friend doesn’t work out irl. Cats can be very picky, way more picky than dogs, and not all cats will get along with a new cat in the house. It can result in more stress. The best bet is keeping two siblings since they were babies
It’s totally fine to have a solo cat with a lot of human interaction
Kurt is just the chillest cat ever❤️❤️
Only you and your fiancé know what's best Kurt and you guys. Do not let outsiders pressure you. I support you.
Cats are social, they do well with a bit of company and if you work away from home, but come home each evening, your cat will likely be a bit lonely during the day.
But introducing a new cat is a process and will require planning. Kurt is top of the heap at the moment and he will be concerned about a new cat encroaching on his territory. There will be issues between them to iron out.
It will only happen if you feel it’s the right time and if Kurt accepts the other cat.
Don’t be pressured because of comments.
Love and hugs to you all!
The kitten will be Happy. Both of them také the advantage. Lucy
Never a thought ever. You just be you. What ever you decide will be just awesome. Your epic. Much respect Mr. Kurt will be ok. He’s got U. 😎🙏
I’m so happy to hear that! I would suggest a baby girl kitten because it has worked out so well in our hime. Our male cat was two years old and I got him a little girl kitten who I kept her in a bathroom when we weren’t around but the first time we left them alone and we came home to this ❤️
Kurt is adorable❤
You are correct, it would change Kurt's personality. Could be great, could also be a lot of work and time to transition.
So RIGHT, has to be a kitten!!!
I have a Ginger Terror as well, I got a female kitten, which made life easier, You also might need to consider that Kurt might start spraying.
Usually getting them a buddy works when they're very young, like under a year. You know him best so do what your gut tells you!
I work at an animal shelter and we mainly have cats there, and they all have different personalities. I would recommend maybe introducing kirt to a cat like a friends cat or something with maybe them in two separate rooms and having a see through or like a screen door or whatever. Like keeping them in separate rooms but them being able to till see, meet and smell each other and see how Kirt would react but make sure you’re not around. And then if thinks are going well you can enter the area or whatever and see how Kirt acts then
Ngl i like kurt alone. He’s the face of the channel and he seems very happy alone.
Congrats on getting married! Also I hope you have a great time with your new cat! (And hopefully they get along)
You've got a lot of changes coming. Good to think of the effect on Kurt, but also think of the effect on you and your fiancee. Move. Get married. Settle into married life. Let Kurt absorb all the changes - then consider adopting a new fur baby.
Of course, another possible change is a human baby entering your life so just don't feel pressured into jumping into anything new until the rest of your life settles down. You'll know when. Scritchies for Kurt and good luck to you and your future.
cats are a man's best friend! I hope you have a good day and a good future!!
Sir it's the dogs,dogs are man's best friend 😅
@@cakewalk4602 both are :)
@@cakewalk4602 oh also, this reminded me of, “sir this is a Wendy’s.”
He doesn’t need a buddy. He has you. I don’t think Kurt would be very welcoming. If you’re gonna get one, you should’ve got them at the same time.
Ive had over 25 cat at one time and I've had cats since I was 2 im now 68 with 9 of the little buggers. There are things to do and things not to do in Kurt's case. I don't recommend a adult cat,but a kitten yes,the best way to do this is to get a big cage one big enough to put kitten cat box and water food bowls keep the cage in a place that Kurt will always have access to let them both see each other. Plus the kitten will get potty trained at the same time.Give it a couple of days like this then take out some urine poop and put it in Kurt's cat box so he can smell it this will get him to know more about the new baby. Then a couple more day you should already seen that kirt is very interested in the kitty,take time with them both to play, dirt kitty might start hissing at each other but that's okay as long as Kurt does not go crazy like he did with that toy.lol go from there. I've always done this and it's always worked. Of course let the kitten out to explore the new home but without Kurt in the room
Kitty has to adjust too. Hope you read this and it helps I will be watching and waiting for Kurt's reaction..love Kurt I have two Gingers both adorable. ❤❤
Must of all get Kurt a leash and a harness and take him outdoors to adventures with you just for a change for sure Kurt will be so happy. 😹❤️
I believe it is a Good thing you are waiting to get a kitten-companion for Kurt. IF you do, don't wait too long after you get settled... Because it will be New Territory for both Kurt and the new kitten, so perhaps Kurt won't feel the need to defend it as much. The suggestion already mentioned by others to foster a kitten or take Kurt for a "Meeting/play date", are both good ones. I would just add that maybe an older kitten, like 3 months-ish, & not a super young one would be better. An older kitten might be ( hopefully) more self-assured.
Your relationship with Kurt and your fiancé reminds me of one of my friends and her boyfriend’s cat that marked her territory. I think getting a kitten as a companion is a great idea
I've mentioned getting Kurt a friend in the past, but you know him best and it's pretty damn obvious that you always do what's right by him. Regardless, thanks for your content and please keep it up.
I feel happy that Kurt will have someone more to play with in the future, but I think u should foster a cat for maybe a few weeks and see how Kurt reaches to that. You never know whether he like or dislikes the kitten.
I adopted a cat three years ago and just one month ago I rescued a stray. The cat I’ve had the longest doesn’t fully get along with my newest cat. They do occasionally chase each other and play together but my oldest one still hisses sometimes and wants to fight. It’s been rough and a lot of work but I know they will eventually fully get along and be best buddies! I kept them separated for two weeks and for another week I would keep them separate if I left the house.
Your cat was in my math question. He’s so famous now