Our Honest Struggles With Body Positivity | Sierra Unfiltered Ep. 4
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2024
- Our body positivity journeys! We're being honest about our struggles with becoming body positive from feeling fat, gaining weight, losing weight, unhealthy weight loss and exercise, pregnancy and accepting your changing body and belly, photoshopping and facetuning photos, and more. Here's everything about how we learned to love our bodies!
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‘I’m SO body positive when it comes to other women’ - THIS
This is the only podcast I can and will listen to in its entirety! It's so good!!
D Feng right like same
CARRIE DAYTON !!!
Same
Thank you so much for the eating disorder warning. I’ve been in recovery for years now but I battled with eating disorders for 10+ years. Some days I’m not ok to listen to ED talk. And that’s ok! I love you both so much. See you on the next episode!!
Madi Wilson congrats on recovering!! also for knowing when you need your boundaries. it’s so important, and doesn’t mean you’re not ‘in a good place’ and i’m very proud of you 💕
i'm so proud of you, madi. congratulations on your recovery and knowing your boundaries. you're beautiful and worth all the love! :)
I would love if you had Carrie Dayton on the Podcasts, also another person I think that would be good is Shaylee
Yesssss!!
Tara Johnston Honestly, what about Shane Dawson. He’s been very open with his body dysmorphia and struggles with weight.
I was bulimic, but my first pregnancy when I was 21 changed that, because it was no longer about me and my looks, but the health of my baby. I haven’t relapsed since becoming a mom, and I’m on my third pregnancy now.
YES, I totally understand being body positive when it comes to other bodies and the struggle of feeling that way about your own as well...
Im just ,she is curvy and plus size but i think she i beautiful ,and i am chubby and like why cant i think that for myself
Mia Radanović you are beautiful inside and out! Don’t bring yourself down! Your awesome!
For someone who has struggled with an eating disorder for almost 10 years, I found this podcast really comforting. I struggle a lot with eating alone, it gives me a lot of anxiety, but I’ve been putting your videos on for the past few months while I’m eating and it feels like I’m eating with a friend and it’s been really helpful for me. Thanks for spreading the message of loving yourself and loving your body. 💖
can you do a podcast talking about your differing views on religion?
Agree! That would be very interesting...
Tori fuck religion
I AM EVIL! !!!!!!!! calm down. it’s totally okay for you to not be religious, but you need to be respectful to those who are.
You should bring your mom on Sierra! She sounds like an amazing woman! The part in this video when you mentioned what she told you after what your relative said to you is what I’ve needed to hear for a long time! Thank you for sharing!
Ooooh skylar, your opinion on naps may just change when that cute little baby gets here! Remember, when baby sleeps, you sleep. The laundry, dishes, and everything else can wait.
I disagree so hard lol. Napping when baby naps gave me headaches and threw off my sleep schedule. Especially after I had my second child I had to be up for the older. I've never been a napper
I also have to say that the household was not my Main reason for not napping. I needed some time to Do things I like, which I could not Do when the Baby was awake. So for my self care I often watched some Videos or did something fun instead of sleeping
I liked napping when my twins were really young. At least one 2 hour stretch a day while they slept because they would sleep for 2.5-3 hours at a time. I’d try to get all the housework done between waking up and lunch and then I’d nap after lunch.
I guess it just depends on what works for each mum and baby and how well babies sleep at night.
I have had a total of three naps since my baby was born two years ago. Two times were when I was sick. I hate naps. They mess me up for the entire day!! Naps are not necessary lol
At 38, I'm probably far older than your target audience. But as someone who has struggled with weight and body image - even after losing 100 pounds, having kids, etc. - these are conversations that anyone, at any age, can benefit from. I wish I had the confidence in myself at your age to know that I was not the problem. And, funny enough, the smaller my body became, the bigger my image problems. Thank you for putting this out there.
Also, I applaud talking about image + pregnancy is key. It was very hard for me to gain weight when was pregnant.To come to terms with it.
It is actually quite common in Finland to take babies to baby swimming lessons! You can start those lessons when the baby is 3 months old because the swimming/holding breath underwater reflex is still there. The lessons are nothing serious, just splashing water and singing baby songs :D
Same in Canada!
it’s actually pretty common in the us too!
My mom brought me to Baby Swimmers classes.
I got to be body positive when I realized that their is nothing I couldn’t have with the mid-size body that I have: I have an amazing career, great friends, a loving husband and a nice new home. What could I get more that I don’t have?! If you are attaining your goals and you are happy, that’s all it matters! ❤️🙌💪🏻
Girls this has been molded into our brains since the day we were born, I can’t tell you how many times growing up I heard all the women in my life talk about losing/gaining weight, getting tans, having the perfect hair, skin, nails, makeup etc. so so so focused on “looking good.” we are having to unlearn these things. Yes we want to take care of ourselves and feel good and even look good. those things are all okay, when looked at in a health way but 9 times out of 10 it was out of insecurity. And I’m almost glad that after having my daughter who is now 6 years old, that I have struggled with my weight and body image. It has taught me how bad it can feel to have someone (mainly loved ones) focus on your looks or weight. How much their comments can hurt. Because of this, her father (a proud feminist) and I have been so conscious about what we say about ourselves and others. Every time I feel like saying “I’m so fat” I think of my daughter saying that to herself. And that breaks my heart. I never let her hear those things. She has never heard “black people” or “white people.” “Fat” Or “skinny.” “That’s only for a boys/ girls” she hears things like “you were so kind today.” “You are so smart.” “You have a beautiful heart.” And I want those to be the things she focuses on. Because when my daughter tells me about a new friend I want to hear about their personalities, how they treated her, what they do for fun.. not what they look like. So please, keep spreading this amazing message. You are doing good things in this world and I promise to do my part in raising a body positive little girl who will build others up instead of tearing others down. ❤️
I was a size 4 about 3 years ago. I had been a size 12 prior to that and I was in that head space that if I was skinny I would be happy. I got down to being that size 4, but I still wasn't happy. I was still being so negative towards myself and how I still didn't think I was good enough. The past year I have been going through my body positive journey since I gained all that weight back and I'm back to being a size 12. I'm in such a better head space now at a size 12 then I was at a size 4. I still have my bad days, but I don't feel the worthless feeling I constantly had when I was a size 12 those 3 years ago. I'm definitely feeling more confident with the help of finding you almost 3 months ago. You have definitely helped keep me motivated during my body positive journey. Thanks so much for all you do! ♥️
This was absolutely so perfect to hear!! I have recently lost 50lbs. I started my journey for health purposes...had a cancer scare and decided that I needed to get healthier for my son. Today a woman I work with saw me and said "you look wonderful, better than before you got pregnant!" What she didn't know is that my husband and I are trying for baby #2. So hearing that hurt. I love your views on body positivity and feel so much better today after watching this!! Thank you girls ♡
I remember using the my fitness pal app in 7th and 8th grade to track every single piece of food I put in my body. I was 13/14!!! Now I’m 22 and still working on loving my body, but I’m getting there! It’s also nice that we are similar in age and the things you two discuss are so relatable since we grew up at the same time. I love the podcast - see you guys next week!
OMG I REMEMBER THAT MERMAID DOCUMENTARY!!!! I remember it being terrifying honestly lol
I am so thankful for Skylar in this episode cause gaining weight during and after pregnancy is so freaking terrifying to me. Not because I think I would look ugly, but because society constantly put pressure to stay “the same person” after pregnancy and not change into typical-unattractive mother. It’s awful. It’s unhealthy. It’s impossible not to change. I want to go into a new chapter with hope, not fear 💕
My peak of body negativity is right now. I am 24 and struggling more than ever. I was always the small friend until recently, and even now I'm a size small/4, but I see pictures of myself and feel so discouraged. It is so hard to go to the gym and think about anything else other than losing weight. I also find it really hard because everyone tells me I'm small but I don't see that or feel that way about myself :( thank you for this podcast though, it made me feel a little better!
Go watch any of the Colleen vlogs from pregnancy and postpartum. She talks SO much about her body changing and is extremely vulnerable.
I think getting a disabled woman on to talk about body positivity (among other things) would be amazing. My 6 year old is already super aware of her body because people stare at her because she uses a wheelchair and is Deaf so we use ASL. We were just on vacation and I could see her becoming more and more self conscious and even wanting me to stop taking pictures because so many kids & adults would stare. Not just look but stare to the point of ignoring both her and me when we said (or waved) "hi" and just gawking.
It sucks because we actually moved from a place where everyone (kids and adults) did that and made comments on her "what's wrong with her" to a place where parents encourage their kids to just say "hi."
I follow disabled adults across social media but body positivity isn't as common of a topic as I wish it were.
I just graduated with a BFA(bachelor of fine arts) in ceramics and my final project was all about the value that society puts on bodies mainly the female body but I modeled my large sculpture after my own body and I feel like it helped my body confidence! But I like went really deep for my statement talking body value and how people think less of themselves due to weight. You guys helped me create this project. By your positivity and your knowledge and honesty
I personally still struggle with my eating disorder and body dyspmorphia ive struggled since i was 11 I'm 15 now and this podcast gives me hope that it does get better and i will be eventually confident in my body. I love you guys so much 💕
The one thing that gets me about the body positivity conversation is something that I think you guys overlook. You focus on loving your body and showing off fun fashions, which I'm all for - you don't have to be a size 2 to enjoy wearing a hot pink barbie dress for example. However, you never talk about finding fashions that flatter your figure, or styles that work together, or wearing your best colors etc. I understand that you're overall point is to "wear what makes you happy"/"wear what you're comfortable in", but at the same time, a lot of women have confidence issues that could be changed if they were given an outfit that they felt great in not neccessarily something that they think is their style....Think like What Not to Wear - not so much the cookie cutter style that Stacy and Clinton dressed people in, but rather when they asked people about why they chose certain items and how they showed them that they can feel better when they rock something fabulous that flatters their figure - which yes, I know if all subjective, but still. At lot of times when I'm watching your videos and you comment about not liking an outfit, my first thought is "well you probably would have loved it if you had paired it with xyz, but since xyz "isn't your style" you didn't consider that item"...and then from there I feel like if a girl of a similar body type is watching, it's possible that she'll get discouraged because she'll think she can't wear that item as well. I'm not saying it has to be all about the rules, but I don't think they should be excluded either.
I needed this. When Sierra talks about being the least body positive when she was the smallest, it resonated with me. Right now I am the smallest I've been in a while. And I'm paranoid of gaining the weight. I had surgery and could only eat soft foods and liquids. I just started eating solid foods this week and see myself gaining weight all over again. It's hard and stressing me out a lot. I become fixated on food and binge when stressed but i also have body dysmorphia, so it's not a good mix either. Anyway thank you I needed this podcast episode.
I'm not advocating for throwing infants into the pool... OMG I lolled & nearly spat out my water!! 😁 ❤️ Ha Ha ha love you guys so much. Please never stop these pod casts... It's my favourite ever part of a Monday
Xxx
I totally agree with Skylar’s unpopular opinion! Animals are here with us, not for us! ❤️
I think about you saying "its not your body that's the problem, its the clothes" ALL THE TIME! I still struggle everyday with working to value myself not for how my body looks, but that comment really stuck with me and I think about it every time i go to a store or try on new clothes.
This is legit the only reason I get on UA-cam anymore! 😩🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ y’all ladies are great!! 💜💜💜
Skyler I love that you are talking about the changes with pregnancy. I struggle with my postpartum body. I gained 60lbs in pregnancy and I was working out almost every day even if it was only a half-mile walk. So I have stretch marks and extra skin and I struggle to relate to anyone else body wise because very few women slow off the extra skin and severe stretch marks. I weigh less then I did when I got pregnant but I can't feel good in my body yet. >.< Thank you for talking about it!
Yes!!! Naps are the worst!!!! I am always more tired and angrier when I wake up from a nap!!
I love what you are saying about your workouts. I was so disappointed when after working out at the gym for three years doing cardio for my heart and weight lifting for muscle, that one of the trainers came up to me and said, "you work out so hard and are at athlete level in your workouts, why aren't you losing weight?" uhhh...'cause I am not trying to lose weight. I have never lost weight by exercising. I do love being strong.
I’ve struggled with both anorexia and bulimia for over 10 years. Still have an ongoing struggle with bulimia. In 2014 I had a very bad running injury and my knee has never been the same. When I was running I was a size 2, but prior to that had been a 16. I wrapped up so much of my identity in being a runner. The bulimia started after my injury in order to “keep” my thinner body. I was never more unhappy in my life. Since the injury I gradually went back up to a size 12. Your videos and podcasts help me SO MUCH with accepting the body I have now. It’s a journey that may not end any time soon, but I don’t know what I would do without the amazingly supportive content you create. Thank you so much for everything!
Hey!! I noticed Skylar mentioned Colleen Ballinger as a reference when saying influencers don’t show a lot of the hard, body issues going on when pregnant but I just wanted to note that Colleen was very open about so many struggles she was having while pregnant. She had an unbelievably hard pregnancy and documented so many hard days when she felt like her body was not her own and she couldn’t even leave her house because of her mental or physical state. She made it a point to share the other, less happy side of pregnancy most people don’t share and really worked to bring awareness to women who struggle through their pregnancies. I just wanted to point this out, I don’t mean anything rude by it at all! I love this podcast and have listened to all the episodes and am a huge supporter of you two!! That comment just nudged me the wrong way because I know how many issues Colleen had and how hard she worked to overcome them and being awareness. Love you guys!!!
When you forget that it’s Monday and WE GET A PODCAST 😍
I’m 22 with two kids 16 months apart and because of your channels I am slowly learning how to love my body even though it’s at its “worst” looking that it’s ever been. After pregnancy it is so hard to look at your new body by I’m working towards loving and appreciating it!
Hearing you talk about growing up in the midst of this diet culture makes me remember as a kid watching the commercials for Nutrisystem and remembering how I couldn't wait to get older and be able to order it for myself. It's crazy looking back now and realizing the impact these commercials and ads had on you subconsciously as a child.
I feel exactly the same as Skylar when talking about, loving or showing appreciation and positive energy for other women's body but not my own. My entire life I have struggled with hating my body and pinpointing every flaw I see. I love this podcast for reminding me to work on myself and learning to love my body and not let a size define me.
I think that body positivity is AMAZING and I’m on my own journey. But I also think it’s important to advocate for health too! Being my size & weight, I’m getting more comfortable in it. BUT I am also on a journey to get cardiovascular and body health, which also leads to mental health. Because carrying extra belly weight does lead to mental health issues and cardiovascular issues. It’s a whole journey! :) love love LOVE your message and this podcast. Amazing work, ladies!
Yassss ever week I literally can’t wait for you guys to post. I love my to favorite girls and I can’t wait to see that beautiful baby 👶😘
This has become my absolute favorite podcast! The way you two talk to each other and bounce ideas off of each other reminds me of me and my best friend :)
I'm 13/14 weeks pregnant and it took a good couple of months to get my head ok with the changes and that surprised me. I always knew that my body would change but I've always been the same size for years so this is the biggest changes since puberty! Some days I feel stretched and huge and overall "gross," but thankfully my husband tells me daily that he finds me beautiful and loves every aspect of my changing body. His constant loving me and my "difficult to love areas" has made it so much easier for me to be more body positive in my thinking. I'm also blessed to have so many encouraging people around me who are happy to gush over my "cute little bump" (even if it was mostly bloat at that point in my pregnancy, it wouldn't be there if there wasn't a little bean in there). Definitely love the way you both approach body positivity! Keep up the wonderful work ladies
I needed this podcast so much! I have been following your channel for a while now because I find your message of body positivity so refreshing. But being a smaller size, I felt like I wasn't "accepted" in the body positive community - that being a smaller size meant I wasn't allowed to struggle with negative thoughts and body image issues. I appreciated this message so much! Love you and this!
Confession: I hoard a ton of clothes I don't fit into anymore because I keep saying I'm going to fit in them. Tbh I objectively need to lose weight. My BMI is like 39 so ehm.. yeah. But I remember when I didn't fit in my clothes as a teen - like 15, I said to my mum that I am older and I can't fit into clothes I did like 3 years ago. My mum said - but you didn't grow up (height wise), did you? Refferencing that i should still fit in everything 😐
SKYLAR I SCREAMED WHEN YOU SAID YOU STAGE MANAGE!! GIRL YOU ARE MY IDOLLLLLLLL WOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOWWOWOWOOWW I AM SCREAMING
I would love if you could get Carrie Dayton and Sarah Rae Vargas on your podcast. I would love a collab with Sarah too! 💕
I love both of you and your podcast💕 I would love to see Carrie Dayton as a guest😊
Yes!
100% agree with all sizes and ages (I'm 50 btw!) need body positivity. Some of the most insecure women and teens I know (I'm a JH/HS Band teacher) are thin. Also personally I am working to lose weight after years of mental "work" on my self image. I am ready to get healthier. Just as you said everyone's journey is their own. Love you both Skylar and Sierra thanks so much for this channel!!!
I love everything about this episode! Thanks for reminding me I’m worth it at any size and worthy of loving myself. I really resonated with the getting rid of the old pair of jeans and I’m excited that my views have grown exponentially since finding your channel. Thank you thank you thank you, ladies!!
I had a eating disorder and I am now in recovery. This podcast take all your body positivity messages in your videos to form a really helpful pod. This is all your videos who help me love my body more each day. So this episode was like a avalanche of helpful conversations. Love you too ❤️❤️
Grown woman here who doesn't know how to swim....(born in the NorthEast in January....totally didn't happen for me....so sad!
Skylar, be sure to get that baby in the water.) Thank you for the positive body talk! I was always a bit bigger than my friends growing up, which stayed with me a long time. Doing well and will really be digging any future musical theater content! Thank you so so much!!! :D
Love talking about post partum struggles ♡♡♡ it's such a huge change with the loose skin esspecially for someone who never had a belly before and getting used to how it looks having a pooch and learning to love this new body.
I puke LOVE to see Molly Burke as a guest on this podcast!
I really enjoy this podcast, and I definitely understand that it’s good to understand that a lot of times you’re not the most confident when you’re the smallest and you’re actually often times you’re going to work to finally be small and realize you’re not as happy as when you were bigger... BUT if there’s anyone out there who is really small and happy with your body, don’t feel pressured to think that you’re supposed to be bigger to feel good or feel confident. Small girls who don’t have curves can be confident too! ❤️
I appreciate this video so much! I am only 13 years old and I have a eating disorder. I am struggling at my peak right now.💞💞Ahhh videos like this are so motivating!
Thanks for saying body positivity is for everyone. I have ED and am always told I’m small and I don’t feel small and I am not positive, but you really help me on UA-cam. Thanks for all u do!
For me: it's a on- going journey with body positivity. When I left the toxic relationship that I was in, I promised myself that I wouldn't move on in a relationship until I was happy by myself. That included being happy with who I was, where I was, and what I was. I'm in a very healthy relationship now, and I am constantly working on respecting myself. I cant sat I don't have "bad days" in general with myself (days that I'm emotional/ days I don't like what I look like, etc) but I remind myself to respect myself. Love you girls!!!!
Thank you for making this! I always have problems with bodydismorphia and this is so what I needed. Trust me I’ve tried all the skinny teas and all it did was making me feel worse. I love you
Ahhh another great podcast!!! Also please please have Carrie Dayton as a guest on the podcast! I loved the little segment you guys filmed for the vlog channel awhile back.
Please bring your mom on the podcast! I already love her from past videos but hearing that story makes me want to hear more of her amazing advice!!
I love that you recognize where the body positive movement came from! I also do agree that body positivity should be for everyone whether you are a woman, non binary, man, trans, child, etc. However, even though like you said size 2 people may not see themselves as such I do think it is important to acknowledge and recognize one's privilege within the movement. Meaning, though one may not see themselves as that size two that person, in regards to a cisgendered person, isn't viewed by society as wrong or "gross" compared to someone who is plus size or trans whose body is constantly attack by society. I overall think it is important to understand that even though you may not see yourself as having privilege as a size 2 it is important to remember that other bodies may be attacked more from others. On the other hand, I also do value everyone's experiences and do think a cisgendered size 2 body positivity story is valued just like a trans person of color or plus size body positive story :)
This is the first balanced and actually positive body positivity discussion I've heard. There is an extreme body positivity movement that seems to have become quite toxic. Please continue to be a rational voice in this sea of madness.
Can't believe it's already week 4. Loving the podcast so far
Girls...i know that you have a lot to deal with... but i am missing soooo much the confidence makeover series.
anyway i love everything you do
7SEVENDAYS YESSSSS ME TOO!!!!
Yes bring confidence makeover back!!! X
My husband has been the best thing for my body positivity I would say I had an eating disorder and excersize addiction I used to just really want to be strong and thin and even when I'm not pregnant I still get that way but I used to hate my post baby belly but now I dont mind it at all like it's okay to have that haha especially after 2 or 3 kids (I'm 23 weeks into my third right now hehe) but I went through my first pregnancy at 18 and my body changed so much I was depressed for a long time over it, but through all that my hubby was always super attracted to me and always has been so supportive of the way I look and how good of a mom I am
Gosh! I just want to sit and talk with you two.
"Your not the problem, the clothes are the problem" has become one of my mottos! Thank you.
Also im pregnant with my 2nd and due September 1st. I think its SOOOOO important to talk about body changes in pregnancy and that IT IS GOOD!
I so appreciate this episode. The crazy thing is that even though I hear everything you both are saying and know I agree, I still can't seem to wrap my head around loving my body and not constantly criticizing myself and trying to lose weight. It's almost like I feel like the whole body positivity thing is for other people, but my case is separate from that. I know that's not true, but it's so hard to convince my mental patterns to change. It's just something that is a perpetual learning curve, I guess.
Thank you for making a platform for body positivity!
Second comment, sorry.
I saw a SnapChat story where someone wrote about you taking on the Victoria's Secret Ads. I am so proud of you for breaking the internet in your own way by challenging the media's perception of what women are supposed to look at. You are rippling the water in such a good way! Happy to be aware of your channel!
This podcast has quickly become the highlight of the working week!
The “you may wish you were that size but you don’t wish you were that person...” oh my god. If I’m honest your main channel can be a little too outgoing for me (this isn’t a bad thing, I’m just a much more mellow person) but this showed how truly incredible your mind is and how far it’s come. You talk BP on your main channel but don’t talk this deep about it. It was enlightening and so encouraging as someone who is still recovering, i agree with skylar when she said you’re always recovering. I feel like I’m constantly on the edge of a relapse and your content helps keep me from falling into old patterns. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
An hour never goes by as quickly as when I'm watching this podcast 👏 I loved every episode
This is the BEST podcast I’ve ever followed!! Love you both!💗💗
I thought you were going to link the music theater workout UA-cam channel. I came from Apple Podcasts, but sad not to find the link.
Love this podcast though. I 100% found myself trying on a bathing suit coverup the other day and was not loving how I looked in it, but then I remembered it’s ok, I can return it. Your phrase, “it’s not my body, it’s the clothes that’s the problem” resonated with me in that moment, and it was freeing thinking that I can return an article of clothing for something that legitimately makes me feel more empowered. 😍😭😍 Keep pushing that body positivity forward!! 💜
i really resonate with what skyler talked about being body positive and kind of thinking you’re bigger than you are (and being okay with it). i’ve always been very petite and was always commented on my eating habits and how ‘skinny’ i was, like i’m a VERY picky eater so people (a lot of family members at events) would comment that i wasn’t really eating and talk about my size. i would get anxious about going to those family events and just every day places. i didn’t really think about how much it affected me. and i still don’t think i went through as much as others have when it comes to body positivity or lack there of. but the other month my coworker had asked me if i was a 0 or 00, and i told her that no, i’m a 4 and i was proud of that fact, which is good that i don’t mind being bigger, but still not healthy probably because i’m still putting that emphasis on this number and striving for an ideal body, which for me is a bit ‘bigger’ and ‘fuller’. it’s a weird place to be in. i used to be exclusively xs, and while i’m still so small chested i normally still need xs or small, in bottoms i need a size up.. i know in the back of my head i want to stay away from being ‘too small’ and that’s not mentally healthy either. i’m so body positive but it’s fixated on the curvy nature and not ALL bodies sometimes. and that’s not fair. and that’s on me and my past. i went through a depressive year or two after high school (was depressed beforehand and still am on medication but it was more intense at that time) and had almost zero appetite, like physically i would gag trying to eat some stuff and not out of not wanting to, it just wouldn’t happen. i’m 5’1 but i got down to 89 or so pounds. i’m at around 115 now and i’m very happy.. but i think that has a bit to do with not wanting to be ‘too skinny’. idk what this rant was but what skyler talked about kinda hit me, and i hadn’t really heard others talk about it. love you girls!!!!
obsessed with this podcast!!
I agree with your nap statement. I try to nap occasionally, but I never wake up feeling better. The only time I allow myself to nap is when I'm sick.
Gosh where were you guys when I was growing up??
I was constantly taught by parents & family members, let alone friends & the magazines, that my outward appearance was the most important thing. Making people like me was where my value was.
I feel like I could cry hearing you guys say that my worth is in my heart & my actions not in my body. I have Vitiligo & acne scars. I never leave the house without makeup unless it is dark & I won't see anyone.
I have gained weight & can't lose it thanks to a thyroid problem, I didn't go to my 20 year school reunion because of that... When I meet new people I would find myself telling them at some point that I have a small appetite or about my thyroid so that they wouldn't judge me as being greedy or just fat & lazy. I don't see my nana very often because I know she judges me for the way I look...
I don't go clothes shopping with anyone other than my mum & then I don't try on in the store, rather go home & try clothes on & then return what doesn't fit or look right.
I stopped buying fashion mags/ following trends about 10 years ago because I was obsessed & ended up with mental health problem. I used to starve myself until I felt dizzy/ shaky & that was when I allowed myself to eat...
I am 38 years old! Married to my best friend who I know loves me for me... But still I can't see my worth unless I know how I matter to other people...
Please if you ever come to the UK Sierra & Skylar, do a meet & greet/ forum question & answer thing. People need to hear your words xoxo
Thank you for helping me take the first step to valuing myself xoxo
totally took a sip when y'all were talking about glee and legit almost did a spit take. but I absolutely loved this episode especially as someone who only this past year I've had a healthy relationship to workout. I so agree the mindset really is the hardest part.
I can definitely relate. I was always skinny growing up and praised so much for it, rarely praised for my academic achievements. Only until I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder and put on medication and gained 60lbs over 2 years from the medication did my body dysmorphia develop. Everyone around me, including my family were focused not on my disease but on my weight gain and how beautiful I used to be and how I needed to loose weight. When I got off the medications and started weekly infusions the weight melted off of me. Unfortunately it left me with stretch marks and cellulite and now when I see myself I still do not feel good. I just see the bigger me. My whole family and friends praise me for my “transformation” and tell me how beautiful I am now which triggers me so much, I was diagnosed by my therapist a few years ago with body dysmorphia. Even now, I like Skylar will still try on bigger clothing and when I see it on me, my mind doesn’t think “this is not your size”, it thinks “these clothes must be vanity sized”.
I also lost a lot of weight before college to avoid the freshman 15, and it didn't validate anything! My gaining weight journey isn't always easy, your channel helps! Thanks for sharing your story. It's something I have a hard time talking about, so it's amazing to be able to hear you talk about it ❤️❤️
When I was in college I remember I went to a workout class where the instructor ask every women in the room "What is your fitness goal?". Most women mentioned the amount of weight they wanted to lose. Then she got to me and I answered that it was getting stronger and distressing (because I do not really care about my weight) and the instructor kept looking at me wanting a different answer because I am an inbetweenie women and all the skinnier women in class had mentioned they wanted to lose weight, since she wasn't getting the answer that she wanted. She then asked me "How much weight do you want to lose?" which made me feel like she was putting me on the spot so I just said a random number so she can move on and leave me alone. After she asked everyone she began the class and was like "focus on the amount of weight that you want to lose" therefore she was focusing her class on weight loss instead of making the class about being stronger. I did not return to that class and moved on with a better instructor that didn't focus on societies norms.
RaNdoMNAwZom3 Good for you queen! No one needs that judgmental nonsense in their lives!
Omg thanks for the shoutout!! You two are the best 💕
unpopular opinion!! working out and eating healthy to try to gain results can make you happy once those results are achieved! I feel like I always hear from you guys that achieving the desired body shape won't change how you feel about yourself but I feel like thats not often true... I have never been on the bigger size at all but growing up I was skinny fat and never had a perfectly flat stomach or nice round booty and I was obviously insecure about it which is normal but now that I work out and lift weights I have the body I've always wanted and I couldn't be happier! I get so giddy and feel so proud when look at myself in the mirror! I feel like often times I see people stop trying to get fit bc they think it won't change their insecurities yet still struggle daily with maintaining this body positivity when their not their own ideal shape but I think that achieving certain results can make one feel better but im also aware that everyone tackles their body transformations differently and when done wrong it completely negates this opinion (don't attack me this is my opinion and personal experience)
also this isn't meant as hate in case that wasn't clear :)
kelley Wilkey how is this not the space to talk about this? im talking about body positivity
kelley Wilkey so im not allowed to talk about my experience with body positivity on a podcast that focuses not only on body positivity but also unpopular opinions? i see where youre coming from but i dont think i should be excluded from the conversation. i tried to be clear with my intentions in my comment and if anyone was offended by it at all kinda knew they were going on a page that was focusing on body standards and EDs. I love sierras content even though i may not be super representative of her demographic!
Thank you very much for speaking up on this topic!
There was a period in my life when I ate no more than 800 calories a day and thought that it was normal. But at the same time, I could finish a day with a whole pack of biscuits or other sweet things. I hated myself for that! But now I know that it was a real eating disorder. Not eating and then compulsive eating.
At that time met my husband who taught me how to love myself and how to enjoy my life... it was a long journey. It's been 4 years now, I'm happy and I'm loving myself!
BUT I agree that people still should make healthier choices. Exercises and healthy foods are good!
I love this! This is my first video seeing you two. I wanted to thank you for recognizing where body positivity came from, and being inclusive of who is allowed to be body positive. Body dysmorphia and self esteem issues affects people of all sizes and appearances. It’s a cultural issue and putting in the mental work to overcome that is so important.
i lost it when sierra said ‘ everybody’s like i ❤️ naps, naps, naps, naps’ you two are such characters 😂 i watch these in class when we do essays on spotify :))
I am literally tearing up as I am listening to this podcast...I resonate with everything it’s been said. Like, I remember a time where I was soooo happy with myself, I was eating what I wanted (and healthy) and was just content. But then I went to visit my fam and they told my mum that I wasn’t looking good and that I should loose weight and I just plummeted after that. I didn’t want to eat for a while, I decreased portion sizes, I was super self-conscious of what I order or cooked. All because people were (and are) telling me I am not enough even when I feel confident and happy and that just hurts because, you know, they are my family and should love me in any way, shape or form. Now I am working on myself, working out, eating healthy (but not restricting myself tot hunts like French fries or ice cream or pizza from time to time) and tbh, I kinda need help because I feel so guilty when I don’t work out!! And I know the goal is to be healthy and not just to loose weight and that it’s a lifestyle not a diet but it’s so hard!
I can only say the same thing every week! I love this podcast - You both are such beautiful people, inside & out! ❤️ This has been the highlight of my Monday/Week! THANK YOU!! 🥰
Skylar I'm so glad you brought up looking a picture from you past on Instagram and thinking wow I look beautiful. I have caught myself looking at pictures of other women or even old pictures of myself and being like wow she looks great I wish I liked more like that. You saying how you were in a bad head space when that picture was taken makes my think that I don't know what's going on behind that picture and when looking at mine most of the old pictures I think I look good in now at the time I was so self conscious. Thank you for bringing that up!
god I relate to Skylar's body dysmorphia while being body positive thing so much asdgjgj it's weird feeling that way
Thank you so much for this. The episode is full of great moments, but in particular, I'd like to thank you for inspiring me to work out *right now*. I work from home and I was struggling to concentrate. I wasn't in a good mood and I was listening to your podcast while doing some research. Then I realized I felt stiff and my neck was hurting from sitting at my desk for too long. Listening to you guys talking about working out for mental health made me get out of my chair right away. Now I'm going to listen to another episode while I stretch, lift some weights, and do a bit of cardio. Thank you for helping me get back on track with my body positive exercise routine! Love you both and loving the podcast! ❤️❤️
thank you for having these important conversations about body positivity :,) you both inspire me to love myself even on my hard days
Best mocumentary EVER! Definitely didn’t realize it was fake at first, that’s how well put together it is.
Can we all agree that skipping Cheesecake Factory bread should be criminal?!?!?! Enjoying these on my Monday lunch breaks! Love you ladies!
Carrie Dayton is a MUST!!!
OMG OMG OMG
When I was rewatching this video I got a fabletics ad with Sierra in it!
Congrats sis!!!!
Letting go of old clothes that don't fit was hard and still is a bit hard. I used to think I was motivating myself by keeping them and it ended up being the opposite. Thanks for sharing your experiences and making this episode!
I love this podcast more and more with every episode. Sierra you are such an inspirational person, my self esteem improved so much since I started following you!
P.s. I would love to listen to an episode with your Mom, she's awesome!
Thank you girls ❤
Seriously the only podcast i have ever and probably will ever listen too lol
U guys are just awesome!
Still struggling with being body positive but maybe one day ill get there