Leave Men Alone Who Don't Chase

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  • @manalosman872
    @manalosman872 Рік тому +3555

    Ladies the man who doesn't chase you doesn't want you. Period.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv Рік тому +73

      U missed all the T's in the word Period. Periodttt

    • @rhyno8644
      @rhyno8644 Рік тому +39

      SAY IT AGAIN
      GAMES LEAD TO GAMES LEAD TO GAMES LEAD TO GAMES. You're specifically looking for the person whos willing to forfeit their manhood all together just to entertain you.

    • @alexiepfeiffer145
      @alexiepfeiffer145 Рік тому +135

      @@rhyno8644there’s nothing more manly than a man going after the woman he wants

    • @nikkishacollicutt2093
      @nikkishacollicutt2093 Рік тому +5

      Amen!!!✨️✨️

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 11 місяців тому +4

      exactly

  • @FEMININELY_ME
    @FEMININELY_ME Рік тому +1731

    Exactly, I can't stand a man who doesn't chase me. Like, you want me but you're not actively pursuing me? You're lying!

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Рік тому +145

      Them words don’t match his actions🥴

    • @SiSTARWande
      @SiSTARWande Рік тому +106

      "Why you always lying " 🎤🎷🎸

    • @Steve-mp7by
      @Steve-mp7by Рік тому +28

      Maybe he doesn't want to give off stalker vibes?

    • @rhyno8644
      @rhyno8644 Рік тому +6

      At the end of the day this is an extremely clumsy way of training. Obviously the goal is to book as many donors live spot your as target market faster. Shes obviously from Houston. Show up in New Orleans with your boots laced. We got appointments in a much faster environment.

    • @mountainkid417
      @mountainkid417 11 місяців тому +3

      @Camrynns some women are also like that too. I dealt with couple of them in the past

  • @s1996g
    @s1996g Рік тому +2096

    Literally, us women have the power! When we all start to deny them dusties any access to us, that’s when men won’t have any other choice but to level up and offer us more.

    • @Emiliah1996
      @Emiliah1996 Рік тому +6

      This. I realised in my late 20s that men are literally obsessed with women and they need sex and intimacy. They always are in the search for women. That’s why they get so mad when women are confident and knows what she wants. Not saying to be rude or a diva, just stop accept dustys.

    • @PINKDiva88
      @PINKDiva88 Рік тому +145

      They know this. Which is why they they shame and shout down women who speak up.

    • @s1996g
      @s1996g Рік тому +76

      ​@@Emiliah1996 And they use women to get confidence boost and respect from other men and women. They will be with a woman, not because they have feelings for her, or want her, but simply for the fact that she wanted them and they were able to get with her, so they can boast themselves and brag to other men.

    • @nathanielelzie8898
      @nathanielelzie8898 Рік тому +17

      @@s1996ghey… money rules. I understand your frustration, knowing that you’ll always be just an object… well at least shera is teaching you to use it to your advantage

    • @elegantempress1395
      @elegantempress1395 Рік тому +56

      @@nathanielelzie8898”just an object” to males. Which is irrelevant because another person’s opinion of me isn’t the truth, it’s what I think of myself that matters. Your male opinions hold no value 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @jbates725
    @jbates725 Рік тому +1610

    I wish I would have found content and reality checks like this in my twenties, instead of my mid 40's. Straight truth.

    • @misskogan
      @misskogan Рік тому +62

      Same from this 45 year old

    • @Laurie-RenéeVoltaire
      @Laurie-RenéeVoltaire Рік тому +160

      It' s better late than never . . .

    • @CynthiaAva
      @CynthiaAva Рік тому +121

      Better in your mid-40's than mid 50's like me. lol But also...better late than never.

    • @chayo4537
      @chayo4537 Рік тому

      @@Laurie-RenéeVoltaire but never late is better. . . . Take care

    • @tabithaedwards1205
      @tabithaedwards1205 Рік тому +88

      Grateful for this knowledge at 19

  • @head8nana
    @head8nana Рік тому +948

    Low effort is unattractive… keep the standards high, ladies! ❤

    • @angiec9087
      @angiec9087 10 місяців тому +3

      It really is.

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 10 місяців тому

      👸well stated👏👏👏major turn-off! ick. no matter how cute he is; he's super ugly if he's cheap & not $poiln u. bye man-boy🏃‍♀️.

    • @kristinsteckler10419
      @kristinsteckler10419 10 місяців тому +1

      Absolutely

    • @Vincedaprince1
      @Vincedaprince1 10 місяців тому +2

      Yal don’t b worth it. Plenty other fish 😂😂

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 10 місяців тому +32

      @@Vincedaprince1go run to pickmeshia. Her arms wide open

  • @ruel.e.i.
    @ruel.e.i. 11 місяців тому +703

    NEVER EVER EVER CHASE a MAN.. MEN CHASE women they wanna chase.. if he ain’t chasing you, it’s because he doesn’t want YOU…PERIOD

    • @originalmix2546
      @originalmix2546 9 місяців тому +9

      exactly!!!!!!

    • @RobertHernández-q8b
      @RobertHernández-q8b 7 місяців тому

      Not always something is because she messed up and Men have honor, you girls can't understand that

    • @kobiwan8231
      @kobiwan8231 7 місяців тому +6

      I chase my dreams not some 🐱 humble yo self

    • @NoLaGurl18
      @NoLaGurl18 7 місяців тому +3

      Period!

    • @Girlwithapurse03
      @Girlwithapurse03 7 місяців тому +20

      @@kobiwan8231that's why you on this channel trying to see what we talking about 😂😂

  • @ashleygoodrich3294
    @ashleygoodrich3294 7 місяців тому +124

    1. Paying Bills
    2. Doing the most for you
    3. And chasing YOU
    MORAL OF THIS video☝🏽🤞🏽

  • @mskaiser33
    @mskaiser33 Рік тому +606

    Listen to this lady😅. I have went on a full paid trip to Jamaica, a brand new refrigerator, a trp to Denver!! I am a middle age lady! Okay looking 😅. I chose a man who wants me.

    • @stephsteph1338
      @stephsteph1338 Рік тому +78

      Sprinkle, Sprinkle! That's awesome! 😊⭐️❤️

    • @leonaluvs
      @leonaluvs Рік тому +38

      Does he got brother

    • @dianemary
      @dianemary Рік тому +21

      Sprinkle sprinkle 🎉

    • @1120forevrr
      @1120forevrr Рік тому +23

      @pekoml3999😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 11 місяців тому

      you know he is. or sloppy overweight.

  • @jedimastermind007
    @jedimastermind007 10 місяців тому +223

    How a man (consistently) treats you is key. The wrong man can chase, obtain, conquer, and discard.

  • @Thee_PinkD0t
    @Thee_PinkD0t Рік тому +4021

    If he not chasing, I’m replacing 💅🏾

  • @fwvipra
    @fwvipra 5 місяців тому +55

    chasing is a very masculine activity in which i will never participate in again . if a man doesn’t chase me i automatically assume he doesn’t want me and move on , and that’s how it should be ladies !

  • @queensun6059
    @queensun6059 Рік тому +573

    👸if he's NOT chasing and/or he stops chasing u. he doesn't like or want u. block. delete. access denied.😌

    • @SuperLibra101
      @SuperLibra101 Рік тому +31

      Yes!!!! Access denied !!!!!!!

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 Рік тому +11

      Period

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому +9

      Yup blocked yu so i can find females who aint on bs

    • @leopardxo
      @leopardxo 11 місяців тому +2

      What if I like him as a friend but he still won’t make time to see me ?:(

    • @mrgabe1
      @mrgabe1 10 місяців тому +1

      @@leopardxo Guess you got access denied?

  • @lulapaloozah
    @lulapaloozah 11 місяців тому +453

    "If he's not proving it, and you're still believing it, then we know who the dumb one is. " 😂😂

    • @lulapaloozah
      @lulapaloozah 11 місяців тому +6

      2:28

    • @LadyRev
      @LadyRev 11 місяців тому +10

      😂😂😂😂

    • @solafa22
      @solafa22 4 місяці тому +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @ninawestlake5005
    @ninawestlake5005 Рік тому +615

    My block and delete game, literally and figuratively is 100% on point and i'm not just talking about men alone. I apply it to everybody.

    • @Loveskelly-hr
      @Loveskelly-hr Рік тому +43

      I'm tryna get used to applying it to friends who put me down too

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 Рік тому +7

      Period !

    • @BigDripTV-ix3hp
      @BigDripTV-ix3hp Рік тому

      yall are irrelevant. 🤣.

    • @liviareyna6704
      @liviareyna6704 Рік тому +24

      as you should. be selective with everybody.

    • @userygfd
      @userygfd 11 місяців тому +16

      had a guy i used to text, his friend ran his mouth. I blocked him and the friend, I draw the line at disrespect

  • @natalieetched
    @natalieetched Рік тому +621

    I’m 20 and I’m seeing all these comments wishing they’d had your advice at my age. Just got played by a 24 year old “successful” man who wanted wifey privileges without a title. Talkn bout some “cook for me” lmaoooo never again! Next!!! I’m so glad I found your channel you’re helping me find what I need as a woman.

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY Рік тому +15

      Lolol as if your cooking is some amazing honor that beats Popeyes 2 piece chicken wing special

    • @themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755
      @themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755 Рік тому +148

      @@ImThePrizeXYYou must be the “successful” man in question

    • @Jeniffer61867
      @Jeniffer61867 Рік тому +105

      ​@@ImThePrizeXYthen why was he asking her to cook if her cooking isn't better than Popeye. If he was really successful he should buy it

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY Рік тому +2

      ​@themagicalcupcakeunicorn5755 how'd you guess😃

    • @MeenieAlf24
      @MeenieAlf24 Рік тому +1

      @@ImThePrizeXY Bye, Dusty. Enjoy your cholesterol-laden "meals". 🤮 You're erasing your dusty 🧬 off this planet faster.

  • @proletvladimirova828
    @proletvladimirova828 Рік тому +420

    Shera is right! If a man doesn’t pursue you, he doesn’t like you! Even he decides to be with you, it’s cus you want him and he benefits from being with you. Don’t be Pickmesha

  • @Jules-740
    @Jules-740 Рік тому +570

    I dont wanna be chased. I want to be pursued.

  • @Iceblaker
    @Iceblaker Рік тому +1070

    If he aint chasing, he aint that interested! Sprinkle sprinkle

    • @garden_dork
      @garden_dork Рік тому +26

      Keep telling yourself that ladies

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 Рік тому +58

      FACTS!! 🔥💯 He doesn’t like you forreal.

    • @mysticx33
      @mysticx33 Рік тому +23

      lmao men are wising up and we aint chasing no more. Especially a man who takes care of himself meaning striving for improvement daily. There isnt enough manly man out there so if you find one and you try to play the "game" with him, he will move on to next immodestly. Only a simp and a lame chases. Know that ladies.

    • @cvtisdz
      @cvtisdz Рік тому +106

      @@mysticx33you chasing and kissing men instead since you know them so well

    • @mysticx33
      @mysticx33 Рік тому +1

      keep denying the truth@@cvtisdz

  • @yolandav5196
    @yolandav5196 Рік тому +393

    14:16 She is soooooo real about not meeting them online. It’s funny I felt this even before this video. And always felt the online men were just not it. Finally met a guy in person who hates social media and it’s great

    • @Victoria_Fama
      @Victoria_Fama Рік тому +30

      Where do I even go to meet them lol I feel like most irl would be married

    • @KeiyaHood
      @KeiyaHood 11 місяців тому +30

      @@Victoria_FamaGo to your favorite places. Like Target, Starbucks, Costco, Sam’s Club etc. I know she says “freestyle” so nice bars and restaurants.
      No lie, I met the best man I ever had at the mall in my twenties. He will always be my bar, he was a real man and did everything Shera talks about on this channel without any manipulation. This is the person I should have married but has my own ideas back then.

    • @Victoria_Fama
      @Victoria_Fama 11 місяців тому +4

      @@KeiyaHood I’m so sorry for your loss :(

    • @LadyRev
      @LadyRev 11 місяців тому

      ❤❤❤

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 10 місяців тому

      ​​@@Victoria_Famahey Victoria, ur a total cutie . How old are u ?

  • @alanaryan97
    @alanaryan97 Рік тому +674

    I literally don’t know what I would do without Shera’s videos. She keeps my head on straight 😅

    • @proletvladimirova828
      @proletvladimirova828 Рік тому +11

      She’s our lord and saviour ❤

    • @sp55807
      @sp55807 Рік тому +23

      No seriously 😩🫶🏾 so grateful I found her in my 20s

    • @joad8537
      @joad8537 11 місяців тому +5

      shes like 50 and single. 😂

    • @sp55807
      @sp55807 11 місяців тому +20

      @@joad8537 she's married but ok 😅

    • @jasonwilliams9307
      @jasonwilliams9307 11 місяців тому

      ​@@joad8537😂😂😂😂

  • @BAlkrishnapatel-hf5bp
    @BAlkrishnapatel-hf5bp Місяць тому +692

    Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone

  • @AnthonyYoung-gh3ob
    @AnthonyYoung-gh3ob 10 місяців тому +92

    I am a man and I like this video. I am applying this . And I do understand chasing means showing interest. Thankyou for this information.

  • @NativeRedbone77
    @NativeRedbone77 Рік тому +462

    A lot of them don't chase anymore. Some will at first and then stop. Even the ones with 💵, the older ones with strong work ethics, etc. I think this era of men are just built different.

    • @Blissedx
      @Blissedx Рік тому +1

      If all women do what Shera says then the men will have to just start chasing again. Women have become way too lazy with our standards hence the current state of lazy men❤

    • @rainacherienne1010
      @rainacherienne1010 Рік тому +177

      Like seriously, I always reject first offer because I think a man needs to ask me twice, but after first no they give up. Remember when older grandmas used to say that they didn’t like their husband when they first met them, but they kept trying, so finally they agreed and now they’ve been married 60 years. Not like that anymore.

    • @RosaMaria-xs7qs
      @RosaMaria-xs7qs Рік тому +9

      I also need some strategy.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv Рік тому +21

      Why? How long did u expect him to chase u for? Do u have a timer or a dater or is he supposed to guess how long?

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv Рік тому

      They were like 6 to 12 when they first met of course the girl was playing hard to get but u a grown ass woman that's a different thing. They got married way early back then. Ya'll are not the same. there's no point comparing the two, U ain't your older grandma and he ain't your older grandad u don't possess there great qualities. @@rainacherienne1010

  • @brittanyhorton8892
    @brittanyhorton8892 11 місяців тому +208

    Hold on… let me share this! Boys!!!!! Will HATE! That you choose yourself first!
    I have had men tell me ,” you go to the gym everyday” “ you could’ve cancelled going to the gym”
    Just so I can lay up with them smoke weed , watch a movie and give him some cookie. 😭🤣🤣🤣 jokes on youuu! I’m at the gym! Every👏🏽Single👏🏽Time!!

    • @angelika87
      @angelika87 11 місяців тому +36

      the gym is the 2nd best investment of a woman's time. you'll increase your chances of attracting better men.

    • @number-uz1es
      @number-uz1es 10 місяців тому +11

      @@angelika87absolutely. It makes you feel better too. Man I used to be 👺, chasing any attractive guys attention. Whew chile just going to the gym I feel like a celebrity now😂

    • @FitnessSweets
      @FitnessSweets 9 місяців тому +1

      @@number-uz1esFr also you can kick some asses if need be.

  • @cyquestspay9721
    @cyquestspay9721 Рік тому +313

    Most men dating online, even after you have a connection with, are still active online with their profile. As a matter of fact, they are on multiple platforms. I find that you cant ever trust them bc they are addicted to online dating.

    • @intentionalparenting2605
      @intentionalparenting2605 Рік тому

      @jtw99235to say only is an exaggeration.

    • @speaktruthpeace1612
      @speaktruthpeace1612 11 місяців тому +21

      Facts

    • @FitnessSweets
      @FitnessSweets 9 місяців тому

      They thing to find “better” when they suck themselves. Hell some of them were secretly married! Shady!

    • @sunkissedmodel2946
      @sunkissedmodel2946 6 місяців тому +4

      Single men too, who be playing around.. dating online

  • @summrrgrrl
    @summrrgrrl 7 місяців тому +22

    She's SO RIGHT about meeting Men online..NEVER worked for me and they treat it like a Candy store 💯💯

  • @jmc1111_
    @jmc1111_ Рік тому +467

    I didn’t even watch the video just yet, and I’m still gonna like it and scream facts! I literally just met a guy that I really was feeling, and he mentioned something about his previous partners chasing him and proposing to him. That was the last time he heard from me.

    • @Hahahah7718
      @Hahahah7718 Рік тому +2

      Ewwwwwww. The biggest ick possible!

    • @kettanistar
      @kettanistar Рік тому +42

      And that's how ir's done!

    • @frankieroberson3398
      @frankieroberson3398 Рік тому +47

      Run Forest Run

    • @jmc1111_
      @jmc1111_ Рік тому +9

      @TheArielrb girl yes, I was like “???“

    • @jmc1111_
      @jmc1111_ Рік тому +36

      @@frankieroberson3398 most definitely did. I think he knew I was turned off after that statement. it was showing up all on my face 🥴

  • @lucyhalverson6009
    @lucyhalverson6009 Рік тому +309

    “If they wanna be the feminine man let them represent”😂💀💀💗

    • @haryel5058
      @haryel5058 Рік тому +14

      Lmaooo believe all the men of this generation are gay and you’re a straight women. Ashera is sooo funny 🤭🤣🤣🤣

    • @marianistor8163
      @marianistor8163 Рік тому +2

      @@haryel5058😅😅😅😅

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому

      @@haryel5058 BS

    • @naimahsochi2683
      @naimahsochi2683 Рік тому +3

      Man I fell out when she said that! 🤣

    • @ParisAntoinette
      @ParisAntoinette 10 місяців тому +1

      Time stamp please 🙏🏾

  • @CameronDupuy
    @CameronDupuy Рік тому +231

    Let him be who he is

  • @kettanistar
    @kettanistar Рік тому +147

    Actions not words, be a priority not an option, stop wasting time-like someone said they chase or you replace!

  • @kikilove1101
    @kikilove1101 10 місяців тому +90

    You are either his dream girl or the placeholder. Choose wisely sprinkle sprinkle ✨

  • @Madlikedasha
    @Madlikedasha Рік тому +333

    Really appreciating the take on adult friendships here. At some point you just don’t have time and capacity to deal with what’s going on in other people’s lives on top of your own. Especially if u have enough going for yourself 🙌🏻🖤

    • @chayo4537
      @chayo4537 Рік тому

      But you make time to deal with a stupid man. 🤔🤣

    • @frankieroberson3398
      @frankieroberson3398 Рік тому +9

      I am the same way

    • @LookoutYoru
      @LookoutYoru Рік тому +2

      ​@@Bb-jm6wxshe said that in the video before this one

    • @Saras232
      @Saras232 Рік тому +5

      @@Bb-jm6wx She talks about it briefly in this video at the 1hour mark

  • @Alysia.in.Wonderland
    @Alysia.in.Wonderland 11 місяців тому +224

    If a man doesn’t marry you within a year of dating, he’s just not that into you 💅

    • @bkgarr6041
      @bkgarr6041 11 місяців тому +31

      Say it louder for the ones in the back! 👍

    • @bkgarr6041
      @bkgarr6041 11 місяців тому +21

      @vre7474 yes you are.

    • @AhminaIsmael
      @AhminaIsmael 10 місяців тому +24

      Uh, I don’t know about this one. lol this is a little far fetched. If a man is too quick to marry you, something might be wrong with him. I would say give it two years of consistency at LEAST. If he doesn’t bring up marriage within this time period then I would say he’s not serious. You should have a roster though…
      I would say look more at his effort, and look at what he’s doing for you. I wouldn’t cut a bag off because he didn’t propose. Some men aren’t looking for marriage, if you are… then you should have a roster of men.

    • @rosemarybanner
      @rosemarybanner 9 місяців тому +10

      Depends on your age…I wouldn’t recommend an 18 year old to marry in a year.

    • @sagba947
      @sagba947 9 місяців тому +7

      Um no don’t listen to this ladies I work in family court and general sessions they come by my office to fill out marriage applications but be right back in there divorced because they got married too fast

  • @BlAcKaPiNoChIcK9
    @BlAcKaPiNoChIcK9 Рік тому +143

    The wig, lash, booty pose took me out!! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @chakydd
      @chakydd 2 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂 she ain't lying tho

  • @DarkandlovelyLovely
    @DarkandlovelyLovely 11 місяців тому +69

    Also don’t go out with a man who’s always asking you, wyd or when are you going to cook for me! He should be taking you out, where you want to go and he should be feeding you and also buying everything.

  • @kettanistar
    @kettanistar Рік тому +138

    Older men with money-that have it together-legacy men..period!

  • @L0ve365Beauty
    @L0ve365Beauty Рік тому +76

    Exactly. If yall stop chasing they'll start.

  • @doniciasdream
    @doniciasdream Рік тому +120

    I never play fight ever, my father always told me to never give a man space to hit me ever.

    • @therealkoolaidandkale
      @therealkoolaidandkale 9 місяців тому

      Oh, hell no. I immediately nip that in the bud before I block him (if I say anything, because it’s usually a straight block): “I don’t play like that, so don’t ever play with me like that again.” Ick! 🤮

    • @Dcvfbngefeeecbb
      @Dcvfbngefeeecbb 7 місяців тому

      👊I just hit u

  • @emilyc5625
    @emilyc5625 9 місяців тому +26

    For those asking about dating apps I think we should have a two week rule . If he doesn’t ask you to hang out in person after 2 weeks move on .

  • @pookietheplant_
    @pookietheplant_ 11 місяців тому +48

    This women is a full time comedian 😂❤

  • @aspegel5281
    @aspegel5281 10 місяців тому +117

    LOL - "I never travel to no man. What am I, pizza delivery?" That was great!!

  • @domino_seam
    @domino_seam 11 місяців тому +132

    Wish i found her earlier.. Must confess i dated a guy for 9 months who didn’t gift me ANYTHING… luckily we learn from our mistakes 💀

    • @bertille19
      @bertille19 10 місяців тому

      no girl, he dont like you@aphrodite-vz9it

    • @misterb5926
      @misterb5926 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@aphrodite-vz9itSelfish looking for gifts 😂..Transactional relationship is what you desire ? Not all guys are into fake material holidays etc.. maybe he does other things for you dates, vacations, share of bills etc. ?

    • @mattheweveryday
      @mattheweveryday 9 місяців тому +2

      @aphrodite-vz9ityou need to stand up a bit…

    • @khrisi9410
      @khrisi9410 9 місяців тому

      ​​​he's sezually using you, move on. Don't waste your youth on men your age. Go older early ie 40s on up. You will not receive anything from a man whose young broke and jobless. Unfortunately you gave yourself away for free so there is no way to convince him to give to you when he's already had you without having to give you anything.

    • @domino_seam
      @domino_seam 9 місяців тому +10

      @aphrodite-vz9it girl… a starbucks coffee is like 6€ … I mean he GOTTA be sweet and great cause he ain’t got no money- that’s all he can offer. But i am in my teenage years as well, and unless y’all are like 12 he got some money. the problem is he does not want to spend that money on YOU. No gift for bday is actually crazy, like, insane even…

  • @caramellv8099
    @caramellv8099 Рік тому +131

    Congrats on 500k!

  • @SRobinson-hr6me
    @SRobinson-hr6me Рік тому +167

    9:49 There is no point in being with an older man unless he can fund my entire lifestyle. These older men be looking a HOT DAMN mess, they better know they paying bills!

    • @stephsteph1338
      @stephsteph1338 Рік тому +25

      Facts! Some of these older men are 🥴🥴. And Some of the young men too...🥴🥴🥴

    • @Loveskelly-hr
      @Loveskelly-hr Рік тому +45

      Some of them truly believe we'd get with them because we're attracted to them too 🥴 they be looking musty and still don't wanna pay

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 Рік тому +1

      Delusional and dusty. Smh

    • @SRobinson-hr6me
      @SRobinson-hr6me Рік тому +1

      @@Loveskelly-hr That is mental illness. SMH

    • @jazz22354
      @jazz22354 Рік тому +37

      @@Loveskelly-hr Foreal 😂 I cut one off cuz he wasn't doing shit for me, & straight up told him I hope u don't think a young woman in her prime is with your old ass cuz she likes you?....

  • @Blissedx
    @Blissedx Рік тому +163

    Absolutely appreciate the advice of women mainly meeting men outside and not online. Especially for us black women, sage advice there❤

  • @ladies8705
    @ladies8705 Рік тому +103

    When she said "you can skip this whole generation" I cackled deep in my soul..I skipped x3 😂 *sprinkle sprinkle*

    • @dfghjdfgh256
      @dfghjdfgh256 10 місяців тому +1

      Okayyy sprinkle sprinkle girl I see u✨🥂

  • @creolehoney2253
    @creolehoney2253 11 місяців тому +35

    ❤❤ Thank you. This is how I was raised. I taught my daughter how to be a lady also. Now she is married to a high value man in her early 20s. We need to know your value

    • @Amandaaaaaa123
      @Amandaaaaaa123 8 місяців тому +1

      Please may I know where to find these men? I am not allowed to go out at night

    • @creolehoney2253
      @creolehoney2253 8 місяців тому +2

      @@Amandaaaaaa123 How old are you?

    • @Amandaaaaaa123
      @Amandaaaaaa123 8 місяців тому

      @@creolehoney2253 I am 23 :)

    • @laya-9160
      @laya-9160 7 місяців тому

      Please help me too 🥺

  • @juanita_piju
    @juanita_piju 10 місяців тому +35

    A man who doesn’t chase u is BEYOND stressful bc ur ultimately doing the chasing and it’s exhausting. A woman shouldn’t be adding that to her plate of satisfying her partner, being pregnant, carrying a baby to term, raising your child & supporting ur husband! Women should not chase.
    Chasing means; texting first, asking to hang out first, paying for a date, worrying about him when he’s literally f**** some other girl, going 50/50 on a date (he’s just using u bc he’s broke), NOT COMMITTING!!! Stop CHASING that man he will hurt u beyond belief in the long run!!!

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 10 місяців тому

      U are a total cutie young lady.
      How old are u ?

    • @juanita_piju
      @juanita_piju 10 місяців тому

      @@dante19890 guess

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 10 місяців тому +1

      @@juanita_piju 19. The perfect age for a girl

    • @justlurkin
      @justlurkin 9 місяців тому

      ok what about the ones who don't get care to be pregnant or won't be pregnant for a long time. If pregnancy is your excuse how come it doesn't stop you from doing all the things men use to only do like working, driving, etc.?

    • @yk-who-it-is
      @yk-who-it-is 6 місяців тому +3

      @@justlurkin Pregnancy is not the only thing sweetie. Women still get paid less than men to this day so y'all better change that or make up for it... Just saying

  • @Maumau21
    @Maumau21 Рік тому +52

    If you don’t like her don’t watch … some of these people ! Even you don’t like her she is giving real true advice .. take the information you need❤️

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому +1

      Nahh we gettin this shut down

    • @susiecarmichael5423
      @susiecarmichael5423 Рік тому

      Damn.. y'all funny.

    • @joad8537
      @joad8537 11 місяців тому

      taking relationship advice from a 40 year old single woman is like taking financial advice from a brokie.

    • @Maumau21
      @Maumau21 11 місяців тому +4

      @@joad8537 what does her age have to do with anything... weird.... anyways... I just don't understand why anyone would waste their time on content they don't like ... why not just watch something else.

  • @sambam5382
    @sambam5382 Рік тому +270

    Because THEY Wanna Be The Prize & Princess 😊

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому +2

      Cap

    • @jt305
      @jt305 Рік тому +26

      yuk these grown ass men 😂😂

    • @geralddial3154
      @geralddial3154 10 місяців тому +6

      I am the prize. you want a man who represents a corporation. So if I am the CEO of the corporation of the Olympics, do you think you are more important than the CEO of the Olympics.. you are only the prize compared to other women.

    • @sambam5382
      @sambam5382 8 місяців тому

      @@geralddial3154 && Without A WOMAN, You Wouldn’t Be Here To Do ANY Of That. It’s Deeper Than Whats On Paper….Its UNIVERSAL. 🥱

    • @iamkeandra5932
      @iamkeandra5932 8 місяців тому +3

      Exactly 😂😂

  • @linabeans6328
    @linabeans6328 Рік тому +72

    You are so wise . Always can count on your videos to get my mind right abt men.

  • @GREENxTARA
    @GREENxTARA 6 місяців тому +16

    Ever since I started listening to your channel, I don’t even want to man anymore. I just want to get money from them.

  • @SKYBOYZ4L
    @SKYBOYZ4L 9 місяців тому +72

    Only Dogs chase. Men step Up and Lead. Facts!

  • @kuuleiana6950
    @kuuleiana6950 Рік тому +32

    💯 everything you said is so on point! Absolutely DO NOT go anywhere if your own bills ain’t settled no way we gonna fall behind just for some trip a man springing on you

  • @kaywisseh
    @kaywisseh Рік тому +71

    Chase? No one should be chasing anyone. He should pursue you and the woman should show interest if she is.

    • @creolehoney2253
      @creolehoney2253 11 місяців тому +25

      Pursue, chase whatever. I get what she is saying.

  • @tori3158
    @tori3158 7 місяців тому +6

    They don't chase because they don't have to anymore.
    They use internet to find what they need, is a holy grail for guys, especially awkward one's, not specifically pretty one's, one's without money or with lots of.
    I opt for a guy that stays away from social media platforms and is eager to focuse on genuine relationships only.

  • @StylesbyNina
    @StylesbyNina Рік тому +132

    I literally just broke up with my high school sweetheart for this! I told him he too relaxed for me! Then no action. Then I sent him a invoice for waste 4 months of my energy. 🤷🏽‍♀️💅🏾🙃🙄💃🏽

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv Рік тому +7

      how long was he meant to be chasing u for? If his already caught u? Make that make sense?

    • @sarahlikesmusic7347
      @sarahlikesmusic7347 Рік тому +43

      @@allthewayuptvliterally forever ? Lol

    • @hillsideonly
      @hillsideonly Рік тому +6

      @@sarahlikesmusic7347 and that's why videos like this are made. Ain't nobody got the time to be chasing another human forever.

    • @HollowNoFace
      @HollowNoFace Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @devinesent7696
      @devinesent7696 11 місяців тому

      😂

  • @khandi3872
    @khandi3872 11 місяців тому +35

    First off if your credit bad and you out here dating and not fixing it from the money you getting, something wrong! That's apart of leveling up. Never be afraid to pull your credit and pay off those bills or dispute them!❤

    • @dvnwifey222
      @dvnwifey222 11 місяців тому +3

      So well said😩🙏🏽

  • @lainikole
    @lainikole Рік тому +154

    Shera is aging backwards 😍

  • @salmabenzzine570
    @salmabenzzine570 10 місяців тому +26

    I have real hair, I never wear lashes, and I never take booty pictures. but YOU ARE RIGHT! I post my opinion on social media and men do not react ...but the moment I post a selfie they all react even the married ones. they give me attention the 24 hours of the story I posted then they vanish till I post another story lol

  • @jaylynnfarr1276
    @jaylynnfarr1276 11 місяців тому +77

    Please listen to her point about being flown out! I definitely made the mistake of being flown to see a guy I met in my town because he travels constantly for work. I didn't even think about what Shera is saying....and it definitely was a waste of my time and energy. The next time someone offers me that, I will pick the destination, the hotel, ask for my own room, AND spending money...and watch him disappear. 🤣

    • @djeanpierre
      @djeanpierre 7 місяців тому +1

      As well he should. F that. You don’t dictate terms if I’m paying….lol.

  • @Insightful_Locs
    @Insightful_Locs Рік тому +117

    Just waiting on shera to reach 1 million subscribers ❤❤ she’s always dropping gems 💎

  • @lazydaisy4453
    @lazydaisy4453 Рік тому +62

    I wish I found your channel before falling for the man child who persued me and when I fell for him he dropped me and broke my heart 💔

  • @TIAOFNEBULA
    @TIAOFNEBULA Рік тому +40

    Yep even in a argument, he still needs to be chasing.

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому +4

      Yea chasing money not women

    • @PrincesaHermosa444
      @PrincesaHermosa444 Рік тому +14

      @@LeftHimDeadif you’re gay just say that

    • @SaRaHeru27
      @SaRaHeru27 Рік тому

      @@PrincesaHermosa444 and your a lame and you didn't have to say it foh bih lmao

    • @mountainkid417
      @mountainkid417 11 місяців тому +1

      @@PrincesaHermosa444 why are you insecure that men are empowering and learn not to chase women instead chase money?

    • @devinesent7696
      @devinesent7696 11 місяців тому +7

      @@mountainkid417men have been chasing women since the beginning of time and real men still do it and they still have time to get their bag too.

  • @SabinaAli81
    @SabinaAli81 Рік тому +129

    Unless they are worshipping me I’m simply not interested ☺️🥂

    • @ashleylauren5934
      @ashleylauren5934 Рік тому +4

      E N E R G Y 🎉🎉🎉

    • @SoLoud3Music
      @SoLoud3Music Рік тому +6

      Poor mindset in my opinion

    • @HollowNoFace
      @HollowNoFace Рік тому

      How immature and delusional of you.

    • @SabinaAli81
      @SabinaAli81 11 місяців тому +9

      @@SoLoud3Music your opinion doesn’t matter anymore :)

    • @SoLoud3Music
      @SoLoud3Music 11 місяців тому +1

      @@SabinaAli81 Jesus the only way mahm

  • @UniversoSpiritualUnido
    @UniversoSpiritualUnido Рік тому +104

    Choose yourself! Sprinkle sprinkle 😂❤

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Рік тому +7

      Period!!! I’ve NEVER regretted investing in me!

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Рік тому +6

      Women are the choosers. We do the picking. Let the best man win. 👏

  • @myleaburch2507
    @myleaburch2507 Рік тому +96

    Shera has been glowing up more and more she’s glowing!!🔥

    • @HoneyBunches100
      @HoneyBunches100 Рік тому +10

      Shera has leveled up consistently for 18 yrs. She stays switching up her physical, which keeps men intrigued. She provides a living example and practices what she teaches.

    • @allthewayuptv
      @allthewayuptv Рік тому

      She damn sure keeping u intrigued. Hahahahahaha @@HoneyBunches100

  • @stephaniederrick8585
    @stephaniederrick8585 Рік тому +108

    You are helping so many women and I really appreciate that. I share your videos with young girls so they can realize their value.

  • @missgoodfeels
    @missgoodfeels 11 місяців тому +31

    I recently came across a man that’s used to being chased…I caught him driving by my house and tried to run into me in public. all I can say is 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @therealkoolaidandkale
      @therealkoolaidandkale 9 місяців тому +11

      Girl why does he know where you live?! These dudes are unhinged: please be careful.

  • @alexk7037
    @alexk7037 10 місяців тому +9

    You need to be chaseable. It is not only a matter of physics but it is more than that! If you don’t have value you need to create it for yourself.

  • @lifeofshariparker2477
    @lifeofshariparker2477 11 місяців тому +12

    Period she gave me a reality check.

  • @Norainnoflowerz
    @Norainnoflowerz 9 місяців тому +6

    Shera idk if you’ll see this, but seriously thank you. I don’t have any guidance when it comes to dating etc as a young woman. I never witnessed healthy relationships or a man being a real provider

  • @nickysunshine8734
    @nickysunshine8734 11 місяців тому +11

    I didn’t watch the entire video yet…just the title only…made me hit the like button! Agree that nooooo woman should chase a man. Men are hunters! 😊

  • @Jupiterascend9
    @Jupiterascend9 10 місяців тому +19

    Facts she knows what she’s talking about I’ve been chased by most men and those were the ones that actually wanted to invest in me. I’ve only had 1 or 2 men that didn’t want to chase me and took me for granted lol bc they said they don’t chase women regardless of them wanting them. How funnyyy when you pull your energy back they actually do chaseee 😄

  • @melawieeinapfel8594
    @melawieeinapfel8594 Рік тому +164

    It‘s simple. When you as a female human are in your masculine because you are working or have a career or simply are a do-er-type of person you have an urge to feel validated for you achievments through the attention of a man and you get triggered by a man who us not interested in you🤷🏽‍♀️ that‘s when you start feeling to chase a man and yup there you are, finally behaving like a man is supposed to. It‘s just logical.

    • @istillbetalkin
      @istillbetalkin Рік тому

      What? I swear if it’s not these fake intellectual men it’s the women. This is why so many people are lonely. I don’t mean just having a body next to you but everyone things mind games will get them a relationship. It will. It will get you a bad relationship.

    • @hillsideonly
      @hillsideonly 11 місяців тому +6

      That's why men are learning not to chase.

    • @princessmj15
      @princessmj15 11 місяців тому +1

      You ateeeee

    • @KeiyaHood
      @KeiyaHood 11 місяців тому +4

      I like what you said. I need think about this.

    • @cynthiakila1161
      @cynthiakila1161 11 місяців тому

      Thats where the balance follows urself

  • @novatastic1111
    @novatastic1111 Рік тому +23

    It’s true … let him go give them time to act right. Never beg for mans attention.

  • @sissuramanne
    @sissuramanne Рік тому +46

    SHERA FOR PRESIDENT 2024

    • @vee4eva
      @vee4eva 8 місяців тому

      Yesssss❤❤😊😊

  • @Jenny-e4v
    @Jenny-e4v 10 місяців тому +18

    Some men chase and when they get what they waht, they leave.

    • @kamahchioma7271
      @kamahchioma7271 7 місяців тому +11

      That's why you date those you can benefit from .. so that when they leave you will have things to hold on to

  • @SRobinson-hr6me
    @SRobinson-hr6me Рік тому +36

    20:34 I think play fighting is a nerdy loser boy thing. A guy who didn’t have many friends growing up in school and now he gets his wires crossed around women because he never got that out of his system in boyhood. He’s still a child!

  • @aishalove513
    @aishalove513 Рік тому +50

    Play fighting is grooming for future abuse in some cases

  • @Hooray7874
    @Hooray7874 Рік тому +152

    Factz 💯 If he’s not putting in effort he’s not worth your time. High value women know men are hunters/providers. We don’t settle for less than gentleman’s behavior.
    Literally a couple coworkers came into my office lurking around me in front of women they are getting with. Those girls looking at them while they looking at me 😳. It’s so sad cus no matter how young, cute, or trying to work hard for his attention type of girls they are, dudes leave them with nothing but a used butt and poor work reputation smdh. They literally didn’t upgrade these girls in any way or get them anything yet be looking at me like I’m supposed to jealous🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY Рік тому +10

      Nope. Only a desperate man would pay you out of fear you wouldn't want him, just his money

    • @Jeniffer61867
      @Jeniffer61867 Рік тому +43

      ​@@ImThePrizeXYyou're definitely broke. 😅

    • @ImThePrizeXY
      @ImThePrizeXY Рік тому

      @@Jeniffer61867 heeyyy... you can't talk about me like that, u creep!😡

    • @LeftHimDead
      @LeftHimDead Рік тому +5

      @@Jeniffer61867 Nahh yall broke, yall expect us to pay

    • @ayonaroy4299
      @ayonaroy4299 10 місяців тому +4

      ​@@LeftHimDead
      You all are proudly saying women's money or their career is not what men get attracted to. Then if our money is not attractive then your money better be..😂😂

  • @aspegel5281
    @aspegel5281 10 місяців тому +8

    LOL again - "My friends are so old; they probably don't remember what I said." You are so entertaining, I had to subscribe!

  • @beatricedevarenne2621
    @beatricedevarenne2621 9 місяців тому +8

    Never chase a man except if you want to lose your time! Know your worth

    • @Danken4
      @Danken4 4 місяці тому

      Why should I chase you while I'm chasing money,
      In my experience when women say u need to chase them its either she done a lot sex she can't feel anything anymore, or she just wants to feel the experience you provide

  • @annaisis7510
    @annaisis7510 Рік тому +28

    What you say about dating apps is the truth. Personally i beg to differ in the way i present myself even when online. Certainly that doesn't mean i ve matched anyone who was " serious" either 😂😂😂

  • @mkayokay3192
    @mkayokay3192 Рік тому +49

    I’m not even sure how a man who wasn’t chasing me would ever even….how would I even know he exists?

  • @marynicolec
    @marynicolec 11 місяців тому +12

    Why am I just finding you? You are hilarious, and your advice is priceless!

  • @greciavargas3563
    @greciavargas3563 Рік тому +24

    Yes sherah I feel the same, I can’t have friends I’m too up here in my thinking unless you’re like me which is super rare.

  • @sherrymechum7102
    @sherrymechum7102 11 місяців тому +15

    Every one I have met online have been losers

  • @danidiaz2377
    @danidiaz2377 10 місяців тому +6

    This is words to live by. My new motto if he don’t chase replace

  • @hirrasakura
    @hirrasakura Рік тому +24

    SHERA COMING THRU WITH THE KNOWLEDGE 🙏

  • @10times_better
    @10times_better 10 місяців тому +6

    This VIDEO is a must watch! girlies please watch the WHOLE VIDEO!

  • @lionesstemple6185
    @lionesstemple6185 Рік тому +42

    What if no man chooses you? Then chose yourself ❗️😂 I missed you

  • @sunshine-mc2mr
    @sunshine-mc2mr Рік тому +38

    “Wig , lash, booty” I’m crying 😭

  • @Peace-lt8bc
    @Peace-lt8bc Рік тому +21

    Oh my gosh to the fake fighting, I get this a lot & I voice that it is absolutely not okay & I get told I'm too sensitive & people spread the word that I "take things seriously" "watch out for her (me). I'm like this can't be normal & I'm a lady I don't play fight. Never understood it. No thank you, I don't want to accidentally on purpose "playfully" be assaulted. These people are weird.

  • @dominikalee8179
    @dominikalee8179 11 місяців тому +24

    You definitely setting yourself up for disappointment if he not chasing you.

  • @misslunabay
    @misslunabay 9 місяців тому +2

    Today was the first time of me being here and I’m soo happy i found this channel.

  • @portiawebb533
    @portiawebb533 8 місяців тому +3

    “If you can’t help me tie up these loose ends, I’m not flying anywhere…” -Priorities….!
    I’m hollering…..🙅🏽‍♀️😃

  • @Camilliamahal
    @Camilliamahal Рік тому +33

    If you want someone to chase you, one day they will run from you😂 that’s the human mind. Who is chasing you and why ? All ego. They should want to be with your energy, creating, loving, growing, not chasing. What have you chased and thrown out after ? Or wanted and didn’t want after you had it ? Women are so twisted these days wanting to be desired in all the wrong ways and wondering why the garden they grow has no beauty or roots. But to each his own, if this is your path enjoy 🙏

    • @indianprincesstarot
      @indianprincesstarot Рік тому +8

      THIS. THIS COMMENT RIGHT HERE

    • @sharifs649
      @sharifs649 11 місяців тому +3

      ​@@indianprincesstarotGod bless women like y'all 💯💯. It's sad cause this basically just promoting hoe trick culture

    • @honey-gs9lh
      @honey-gs9lh 11 місяців тому +3

      @@sharifs649nobody said go and sleep with them
      Y’all don’t listen before you talk

    • @pazyamor1313
      @pazyamor1313 11 місяців тому +1

      That's not what she is saying. A man is the head, and he is supposed to court a woman. In this generation everything has been twisted you even have women getting on one knee proposing to a man!🤦🏽‍♀️Rib of my rib #adamandeve! Women have to live in their femine energy and let a man be a man.

    • @kimberlymiller3105
      @kimberlymiller3105 4 місяці тому

      You’re taken it too literally. But like it or not, men pursue women they want. And u will live to c a “laidback” man chase a woman or an opportunity he really wants.

  • @ansleyjarvis4198
    @ansleyjarvis4198 9 місяців тому +13

    “We don’t have time to mess around. Just pretend this whole generation turned out gay.” 😭😂😂

  • @StacyAnderson-eg2gf
    @StacyAnderson-eg2gf 10 місяців тому +7

    Yep because alot of men want you to chase them