What am I to do with my sadness? | Fr. Gregory Pine, O.P.
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2024
- Father Gregory Pine talks about St Thomas Aquinas' 6 remedies for sadness. These remedies are beautifully simple and practical and can help anyone.
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I’m 76 and I’ve been combating sorrow all my life. Thanks to my sainted grandmother, I was taught from the beginning of my life to be grateful to God for everything. Gratitude has been my greatest defense against sadness. Gratitude to God has taught me to find joy in the smallest things, like today, I can taste. today I have clean water. Today I have clean sheets. The more gratitude is practiced the more I find it deepens. The most basic gratitude is that the Lord created me as a conscious being, and that I am allowed to experience loving him.
Sadness is morally neutral. Cultivate virtues. Ways To combat sadness :
1. Cry it out
2. Talk to a friend
3. Take delight in small things. Change of scenery
4. Repeat simple truths to yourself
5. Sleep
6. Baths
Reach out and help someone
Thank you so much father. I am a devout Catholic (at least I try to be one) but I have suffered from clinical depression since infancy. So, throughout all my life I have been told that "there can be no sad Christians" and in the past that even made me feel worse! The episode of Christ praying in Gethsemane has always reminded me that Our Lord cried, he was fearful, he was terribly sad! I am so grateful to Him for having sent me a great therapist and continue to be loyal to His Word and Sacraments. And I have found another remedy to avoid sadness or at least tackle it: GRATITUDE. If you are grateful you are able to put things in perspective and there is no way you cannot feel Our Lord or Our Holy Mother's presence, love and comfort.
Yesterday I asked God how to get out of sadness, and today, as I open UA-cam, this video shows up.
Thanks Father and the whole team of pints of acquinas. God bless you all.
ST. JANE DE CHANTAL: “Must you continue to be your own cross? No matter which way God leads you, you change everything into bitterness by constantly brooding over everything. For the love of God, replace all this self-scrutiny with a pure and simple glance at God’s goodness!”
There is a difference, I believe between sadness and depression. Everyone feels sad at some stages of their life. It’s part of being human but depression is something far more than that. Becoming a Catholic three years ago has not taken the edge off my mental health problems. In some ways, it has simply served to highlight them. I tried to combat the thing I try to lock horns and push back the sometimes it’s overwhelming. Going to Mass can very difficult. Other people in my Parish can be very intimidating and I’m not saying that I’m perfect in anyway, but the difficulties I face day to day are very real.
Thank you for your honesty and foresight. You are already done with what we are supposed to do. You are opening the door to it all, and let it be in the open. The more you do that, it seems to me, it helps to cope. I have written my first book that helps me enormously to find joy and walk away from the darkness.
@@josephoyanadel4184 I appreciate your comments. Easter has been very bad; I’ve been to Mass but it was the opposite of what it should have been. Even just to get to Mass, I had to go to a strange church rather than my usual one. I’m now aiming for Divine Mercy Sunday. Whether I go to my Parish, or not, is still not certain. I wish I could just flick a switch and get rid of it.
I can relate. Coming into faith helped my life in a lot of ways and I do experience joy in prayer and sacraments but in day to day life my inner experience is awful. becoming Catholic though did help give me insight into my patterns and enable me to describe what goes on in my head. I’m starting treatment for OCD with a Catholic psychotherapist. I do feel like Christ is helping me even though I can’t always see and feel. I pray you do as well. Depression, especially long standing, is usually a symptom than a root cause of itself. I encourage you to reach out beyond your pastor or church community. Not every pastor is competent with mental disorders.
I got married this January, and have had 2 miscarriages since then. It's been very hard, but I've been blessed with a wonderful husband and sister-in-law, both of whom have made the burden lighter. So needless to say, this video is very timely for me, and I like Aquinas a lot, which just adds another layer of happiness.
Thank you for this and all of your videos Fr. Pine!
Pease watch Following padre Pio. Then the warning or illumination of conscience by Christine Watkins. Always ask your guardian angel to help you and to communicate with your family’s guardian angel’s.
@@simonslater9024 We're not allowed to talk to angels! Jesus Christ alone is the one to go to.
@@misspeach3755 Catholics are permitted to talk to angels.
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@@misspeach3755 Protestants have an incomplete gospel. They’ve succumbed to what Paul prophesied in 2 Timothy 4:3-4
3 For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, 4 and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.
The Catholic Church teaches now what it has always believed from the beginning of the Church when Jesus Christ Himself instituted it & taught His Apostles who then taught their disciples who recorded & continued teaching through the ages. This was not changed until the Protestant revolution in the 16th century, more than 1500 after Christ. Since then each break in the Protestant denominations lost more & more truth until now. It’s almost not recognizable as Christianity. We pray fervently for Protestants to come to know the full truth of the gospel.🙏❤️
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This is so perfectly timed, as I'm approaching the 2 year anniversary of my dad's death. Thank you Father.
Sorry for your loss. Approaching the first anniversary of my dear mum's departure 😢♥️🌹🙏
"God doesn’t love me because I'm lovable, He loves me because He loves. God put 'love' there, God puts 'lovable' there -- and there I am!" ❤
Going though a break up rn and it's been so hard to deal with my sadness. It's the first time I've ever delt with this. Thank you for this video, it's good to hear that I've been dealing with my sadness well. It's also comforting to hear that seasons of sadness are normal. One challenge ive had was that I've been dealing with the sadness during lent, so a lot of avenues I'd turn to for pleasure are off limits. Though it's probably a good thing, i haven't made a dependency on thoes things such as food and media. And instead have turned to God, and being more social.
Thank you for sharing! I’m going through the same thing and it’s helped me to know that I’m not alone and that others who I’ve spoken to who have gone through this are better now. They all say time and prayer heal. It’s hard to believe right now but if we let go now then we’ll never know the joy of the other side. I’ll be praying for you :)
The first cure for the broken heart
1) heal yourself, you have no business dating if you are not happy. To be truly happy you need to be able to be by yourself without relying one someone else for joy.
2) connect your pain with Jesus. He knows the suffering heart all too well and watching or reading about him will help
3) understand that as painful it is, at least the relationship didn’t go further . You are more mature now than you were back then, so you can make sure that the next person is more aligned with a mature you.
4) make sure your next partner is Catholic. When they are followers of Christ they will not be so willing to break the commandments which are all related to love.
I'm going through the exact same thing now too. It is a very, very hard breakup for me, but it had to happen. It helps me knowing others are going through the same thing. Praying for you
Going through the hardest break up, we're both catholic, engineers and musicians...he is leaving for Seminary. I had to convince him and myself that I support him because I do love him. He said I was his love sacrifice for God because he love me and although he really wants to be with me, he feels deeply inside he is called to priesthood. He said God taught him to love with me. This was 3 months ago, we started an (interrupted ) zero contact. It hasn't been easy but the consolations that God has granted me in prayer, in communion, in Eucharistic adoration are wonderful.
This message from Fr. Pine is so refreshing. It is common, in this day and age, to reflexively pathologize sadness as clinical depression, and simply resort to medication as a means to "fix" the issue. Fr. Pine's commentary, instructing us to use that sadness as a foundation for positive change and self-reform is far better way to handle sadness. While I don't doubt that there is clinical depression that may indeed require pharmaceutical intervention, I think our predilection to always view such low moods as purely a medical problem leads to the overdiagnosis of depression and overreliance on medication, all which masks the true issues driving sadness.
Thank you for this Father, this is immeasurably encouraging.
“Mr Intellectual Pants” made me laugh out loud & lifted my sadness. So TY!
That's very appropriate for today: what our Blessed Mother and the disciples did to fight the normal sadness of having the Lord on His tomb? I'm sure they used some of these tips besides the Hope that they surely harbored in their hearts.
Workout. Train hard. Exert yourself.
Proven to be one of the best remedy for depression.
Yes that will help 100% with sleep too, so win-win.
ST. THOMAS AQUINAS: “ Sorrow can be alleviated by good sleep, a bath and a glass of wine. Drink to the point of hilarity.”
I find getting out of my own head and praying or doing for others helps me to break out of the sadness. It’s normal and natural to be sad over something. But when you keep ruminating in it….it’s time to break out. My prayers are with those of you battling with sadness today. ❤
Padre chad beard over here with the feels wisdom
Wow - St. Thomas sure got it, and so does Fr. Gregory!
Really appreciate this video.
Just FYI, audio is de-synched about 4 frames behind video. Love the content.
Very timely. Thank you for sharing this wisdom! God bless you
Thank you for this. Very timely and helpful.
Great video as always Father
This is exactly what I needed to hear
I wish God would miraculously make me happy...I am sad all the time.
THANK YOU!
Thank you, Father. It's very helpful
Love the channel!❤
Thank you 🙏
Excellent. Thank you for posting this!
Thank you!
If I may add.... Chocolates and ice cream! Great remedy for sadness 😁
Chocolate is cheaper than therapy
Being Swiss I couldn't agree more😂. But joking apart, father's advice is great once more!
Not when it causes weight gain, which makes you feel worse.
@@taraelizabethdensley9475 I agree :)
Powerful and helpful. Thank you.
Fr. Gregory Pine, thank you so much for sharing St. Thomas remedies for sadness in a tangible manner, I really needed this today and you have a blessed Easter as well 🙏😊
Thank you, Fr. Gregory, it's spot on again. You're very happy about the (wrong) pressure to be happy all the time as a catholic - I experience it :(
Sometimes one just IS sad.
'In sooth, I know not why I am so sad.
It wearies me. You say it wearies you.
But how I caught it, found it or came by it,
What stuff 'tis made of, whereof it is born,
I am to learn.
And such a Want-wit Sadness makes of me,
That I have much ado to know myself.'
-Antonio, the opening lines of THE MERCHANT OF VENICE.
OTOH I'm sad just now because it's still Winter in Pittsburgh - dark and grey and wet...
Would be interested in seeing Fr. Pine’s thoughts on Episcopal Bishop Budde’s statement on Aquinas on conscience in her interview with Cardinal Gregory on Face the Nation on Easter Sunday.
In the midst of the descent, a delightful reflection, Fr. Pine!
During my recent contemplations, it was impressed upon me that Christ delights in my wife and our marriage, more than I do. The reality is that Christ pulled out all the stops to present me, as a gift, with a most wondrous wife. I try to delight in my wife and marriage!
A long time ago, after I finished my graduate studies and was married, a friend, still a grad student, called to pick my brain on a weekday night. My wife answered to say that I was taking a bath! He started laughing that I was able to afford the luxury of taking a bath! Fr. Pine, have your sister buy you some bath bombs and take a long soaking bath and do not come out until you look like a raisin, LOL! Cheers to baths! 🍻
sleep and baths is a mood fr
Nobody has friends these days.
I feel this.
Maybe it’s just that I have an idealized notion of friendship, though, because I do have people with whom I am friendly. But none of my childhood friendships made it into my adulthood, and pretty much all of my adult friendships feel less intimate than I would want them to be. I don’t feel like there are any people in my life who I can completely be myself around, without risk of alienating them, or not eliciting a charitable reaction. Making friends as an adult is a much harder game, and I don’t think I even know all the rules!
Hey what about wine, that's my favorite.
Also, workout, that helps when you're sad.
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I think that St. Thomas would also have said, 'And, listen to the podcast. God'splaining , which will give much delight, especially while relaxing in a nice hot bath'😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤
Not the anxiety driven insomnia spiral. I know that one all too well 😫
Working out at the gym helps my sadness. Do my advice is exercise and you have access to a sauna used it 15 to 20 minutes 3 or 4 times a week.
There are people who don’t have friends …. On a recent survey I noted that most people don’t have more than two good friends who they can turn to
This is so random and weird, but I feel anxiety, fear, and sadness when I read too many manga/webtoon/comic books. I think the fear is that I get a huge rush of excitement and I'm scared that I am committing idolatry. But I feel so good when I read these, I admit I can get hooked though.
My son is so sad, 3 small children, wife found with another man, she is divorcing him. Really, how do l pull him out? He is a devout Catholic.
Please pray the chapel of Divine Mercy prayer powerful 🙏 prayer. Visits to the blessed Sacrament , pray the Holy rosary 📿 in this case the best company is Jesús and tell him if you need to cry we cry together I am here for you lots of support and love. I have been through so much pain and suffering in my life and this is what had being helping me enormously to keep on going through all troubles and sorrows. 🙏
Also share this video to him Jesús will talk to him and found a way to persevere with this St. Thomas tips to help him with his everyday struggles🙏
When you do start thinking about something or looking for a distraction, I do have a tendency to forget to take showers, go to bed, or eat something every few hours because I am stressed about completing a task in a good time. Maybe it is the workhorse in me that needs to be trained not to skip meals if I do overeat when I start eating again.
ST. PADRE PIO: “You must have boundless faith in the divine goodness, for the victory is absolutely certain. How could you think otherwise? Isn’t our God more concerned about our salvation than we are ourselves? Isn’t he stronger than hell itself? Who can ever resist and overcome the King of the heavens? What are the world, the devil, the flesh and all our enemies before the Lord?”
What do you do when the sadness gives way to suicidal thoughts. Severe in nature. That all the daily masses, all the prayers, all the therapy, the meds, the hospitals, the ECT, the self work...none of it resolves the pain that leads to wishing death? And on top of it, the more you pray the worse it starts to get. You start to wonder if God is even real. How his definition of love can be such severe suffering for you. What then do you do?
I'd encourage you to look into the deliverance ministry in your area. Not all sadness/depression originates from us
I know you may have already tried this,, but don't stick with one therapist or one medication. Yes, it's true that you have to give things time to work, but it's can also take trying different approaches to find the right one.
Share your feelings with loved ones and your mental health team. They need to know about your thoughts of death. Talk to your family about competent 2nd opinion. Often more than one med required. God loves you and you are important. Don’t fall into dispair about your worth. You are loved. Seek a spiritual director. Your feelings are natural but concerning. There is help for you. I will pray for you!
I'm in the same place. I wish I could be done with life.
ST. TERESA OF AVILA: “God protect me from gloomy saints! I am more afraid of those who are terrified of the devil than I am of the devil himself!
From somber devotions and sour-faced saints, good Lord, deliver us!”
I’m not sure St Teresa was not referring to sadness. I think sadness & gloomy are 2 very different things. Sadness can be very moving- it’s an internal or external manifestation of love over a loss, or perceived loss, of a good, true or beautiful thing, & a longing for things to be perfect as God intended.
Gloomy doesn’t acknowledge the virtue of such love, & is without hope.
@@veritascaritas8500 After warming up a crowd of several thousand rain-soaked young people with some jokes in the main square of Trent, Italy, Pope John Paul II told them:
“Don’t tell your colleagues, and above all the press, that the pope makes jokes instead of making a serious meditation... Being holy means living in profound communion with the God of joy, having a heart free from sin and from the sadness of the world.
Christ came to bring joy: joy to children, joy to parents, joy to families and friends, joy to workers and scholars, joy to the sick and elderly, joy to all humanity. In a true sense joy is the keynote message of Christianity, and the recurring message of the Gospels. Go therefore and become messengers of joy. Every human heart is made for joy.”
😆...i'm reminded of Kramer's distaste of baths -- "...You're sitting in your own filth!!..." 🤭// also, undoubtedly... * i am a VERY sad human being * ... it's punctuated by momentary lapses of LessThanSad, which at this age, ...holy crap, i'll totally take. Cheers! & Don't get struck by lightening!
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St Thomas Aquinas was right about tears - crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system and it releases cortisol and increases endorphins
With Me I overthinking about old friends and certain family members who I don't like or they don't like me for insist My half sister wants me to hangout with her whole family including her husband which her Husband Mentally Abused me .and my family & she wants me to Reunite with but everytime a family member my sister leaves me with him starts talk negatively to me I start crying privately that was last time it's was at family Get together I'm people pleasing my half sister
To make her happy more my than happiness I don't know what to do?
My siblings tells me to be careful what I say to him I don't know what to say hi how are that it not full conversation
I have social anxiety too so when it's comes to friends or when I meet someone I tend to not trust til they so nice
And if there mean or start drama it's like a biggie I don't talk or anything lol 😂
Friend's may not want to listen
I think you are incorrect
Mr intellectual pants 😂
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Deal with it!