FAM! If you are comfortable, share your sexual orientation as well as relationship status & let us know how YOU go about protecting yourself - physically and emotionally, against STDs (and pregnancy if that applies)...I wanna get to know you all better, it'll help me a lot to come up with video ideas that might be of interest!
I'm gay and currently in a relationship (ish it's complicated) BUtTTT I'm too young to be having sex (currently 15) however this was VERY informative and great to know in the future because we haven't had sex ed in school and no one actually knows anything about lesbian sex (shocker). So thank you so much!
Bisexual ??? I think. But I rather say sexually fluid. Some days I like girls a lot some days I like guys a lot, some days it's both. I don't mean my orientation changes, I'm just more in the mood for one or another some days. Like yesterday there were so many handsome hot guys around the city and i couldn't stop thinking of dreamy men all day long, and then today I see this video with you two beautiful women and I'm like oh my lord " thank goodness for women "
Wolfe Roth lol, my family dont talk about any of it. I had a 5 minute talk about porn with my dad and how i shouldnt watch it (was in the car so couldnt escape and was 13) and had a leaflet left in my room about puberty and then 2 lessons at school. Apart from that it has never been mentioned whatsoever in my family. Its a massively taboo subject for some reason
Ryan True every family to their own I guess but that’s strange for me because it’s a common dinner topic for us 😂 which I’m sure is weird to many people
I'm 17, single and bi and I've still never done anything sexual with another person and I feel quite embarrassed by that sometimes, worries about sex have definitely been in my mind before. However i did find this video very helpful, its so nice to see you talking about this stuff openly and comfortably and it really does help. Love ya guys !
Don't be embarrassed at all! You are still SO young, I know a 24 year old virgin...it's not uncommon to wait! :) Don't ever do anything until you really really want to and feel comfortable and safe xxx
I was 21 when i first had sex, im now 23 and have done it like 4 times. Do it when you feel comfortable and ready and not when others think you should. Its your body and nobody should tell you when to do something
Chloe Mayer I'm 15, bisexual, and I share your embarassment. I'm admittedly not a virgin on the guy side of things (Not something I'm proud of, but pressure is pressure). Never had any problem getting a boyfriend and doing the do. But with girls, I've done nothing more than a peck on the lips. It's so embarassing, especially when I'm more attracted to girls! Argh!
I did know two girls could get STIs, but I only knew that from UA-cam. The education system for sex is poor in England, but it's getting better. For some reason transgender and sex/sexual orientation are lumped together though? Which doesn't make sense to me...
Sexual education varies drastically from school to school in England, my local secondary school does not discuss trans or LGBT issues at all! So silly that they are in the same category but at least they both got discussed. Any two people can pass STI's to each other no matter their sex or gender.
So, my mom is a gynecologist and I talk with her about this kind of stuff all the time, so if someone has a question about contraceptive pills, injections, implants and stuff just comment it and I'm going to ask her. (i'm german so I don't know if the gynecologists handling the things like this in your country) Sorry for spellig or grammer mistakes, i'm trying my best. I also got extra information 1. If you want more information about the effectivity(?) of all kinds of birth control just google "pearl index" this tells you how effective against pregnancies the methodes are. 2. Before you can get the implant you take a contraceptive pill with the same hormone combination for half a year up to a year so the doctor can see if everything goes well, you don't experience any side effects, everything goes well etc. When there are problems with the hormon combination you'll try out another contraceptive pill, because it's easier to change birth control than the implant(obviously). If everything works out well with the hormon combination you get the implant. 3. With apps like the natural cycle app you can't avoid a pregnancy 100 percent. 4. Many people believe that contraceptive pills are making you infertile if you're taking them serverall years. F.e. If you start taking them with 16 because you're experiencing heavy period pain or simply because you have a boyfriend now and you're taking it until you're in your late twenties-early thirties you aren't fertile because of the contraceptive pill. That's wrong. It could be but you don't know. Most of the time, if you take the pill long it takes a few cycles until everything normalizes, so it could just be that your body needs more time to regulate the hormon production etc. Another reason is simply that women are getting less and less fertile the older they get. The eggs in your ovarys are just as old as you are. After thirty years you might be "too old"
I lost my virginity only 6 months ago, with my first serious boyfriend. We didnt use protection because it was just in the moment. I thouroughly regret that I didn’t stand up for myself and said it had to wait. Afterward he said he didn’t even want to use condoms because he thought it didn’t feel as good, which I feel is sort of bullshit because he was not ready at all for having a child so he shouldn’t be risking it. I ended up getting on the pill quickly because I didn’t want to risk anything. Thing is I didn’t like being on that pill, because it made me gain weight and I got emotional during certain phases of my cycle. We recently broke up and it was really emotional, seeing how he was my first and all.
Emma Dettle Oh man your telling me. The guy I lost my virginity to was terrible at using protection, he never bought a condom. We only ever used the pull out method. It's a shock I didn't get pregnant after how much we did it. I'm so glad I didn't too, I'm only 15 and we later broke up. I would hate to have my own child grow up with such an irresponsible father.
It sounds like your ex was not responsible enough, for the future please look into other methods of protection like femidoms or IUD's. Sometimes it can take months for your body to adjust to the pill but it can cause emotional problems so if it doesn't suit just try something else. Avoiding pregnancy is good but please use protection against STI's too. If you are going to have another monogamous relationship please go to a GUM clinic & both get tested before having sex, there are plenty of people who either lie about not having an STI or are completely unaware that they have something like chlamydia. Sorry your relationship ended & it is natural to be sad but I hope your next partner is an upgrade!
You two should make a national campaign and go around schools to teach this. Little me when I came out as bisexual during school would’ve loved this! It is sooooo important and thank you for this video girls! Shared this all over Facebook as I have a large amount of male gay friends who are silly and don’t wrap there willy!
I have the IUD and it's honestly the first time I've been able to be carefree sexually. I'm in a long term relationship but having to constantly worry about pregnancy was too much. The pain of the IUD is comparable to a minor contraction and the pain lasts less than 10 seconds, and I didn't even take the recommended ibuprofen!
Wow! Amazing video. I feel like, in Canada, we have a good sexual education compared to other countries. I did know lesbians could get STIs and should protect themselves and how. It should be talked about more in school.
i'm close to my sisters, but cant imagine doing any type of sex talk with them hahaha. this topic is HELLA important though. i sound so puritanical(??) when i lecture my friends about safe sex but... IT'S SO IMPORTANT ON ALL LEVELS MY DEAR FRIENDS :(
Hi Melanie and Jessica, Watching you two together and the closeness as sisters you so evidently have. I just think how wonderful and lovely it is that you have each other, it's so lovely to have someone to learn with and share life's experiences who you know will always be there, no matter what. You two seem to have such a special closeness and understanding of each other.
I got Natural Cycles because of you, Melanie! and it's the best thing I have ever done, I was miserable on the pill and felt trapped by it. I also love that I have just an overall better understanding of my body because of it. I know where I am in my cycle and I've started to see the patterns in my mood depending on my cycle- not just PMS related
You actually don't need to be awake while getting an IUD, at least not in Germany (where I live). You basically get snoozed out for 5-10 min and after that it's all done. And the pain that some experience whilst having the IUD Comes from it not being the right size. There are different sizes and shapes (again: at least in Germany) and if it's to small it will fall out and if it's too big it will basically scratch/poke you from the inside and that will cause a lot of pain. Your Body will try to get rid of it by cramping but due to the IUD being too big, your Body cannot push it out easily. I've been of the pill for 2 weeks now and I've read a lot about IUDs so I hope this helps :) PS: Jessi has suuuuch pretty eyes! Loved the video xoxo
Theberrypurple I was awake when I got mine and it really wasn't that bad either. I was a bit scared before but my doctor was lovely and for me it was absolutely worth it
So happy to hear that! I don't know if I will be awake or not, probably I'll get myself snoozed out because I don't want to stress about it 😅 If you don't mind me asking, have you been happy with your IUD ? :)
I really love the way that you both talk so openly about these important issues! I use the Marina implant (the one in the arm) and I love it! I have not had my period for just over a year now and everything is pretty blissful. I know that not everyone is comfortable with the idea of not being regular and/or having something put into their arm, but personally I have found it to be a very easy (and inexpensive) way for me to ensure I am protected from pregnancy. Although everyone responds differently to different types of contraception, it is unfortunately one of those things that you 'just don't know how you will respond until you try it'. I read so many off-putting comments and brought them up with my Doctor who was able to alleviate my concerns. I am also a bit squeamish, but after a very simple procedure, I don't have to worry about having the implant removed (or buying sanitary items) for three years :)
I got an IUD and it wasn't painful at all (felt exactly like a pap smear). It definitely varies by person, but also the people with really painful insertions are more likely to talk about their experience
@Melanie Murphy Oh my God. This is amazing. It was very informative indeed. I am straight and single. Medicines do scare me. I like the idea of the app though. It would definitely make things so much easier. Watching this video I could totally relate with how I talk to my lil sis . Your "sister-chemistry" shines through. Love you Melanie :* Keep making videos like this.
I always thought of unsafe sex as gross and dangerous but it never occurred to me that "you're sleeping with everyone they have slept with unprotected and even everyone that they have slept with." That is so important to understand and I really think people should hear that phrase to really get it into their brains. It really showed me how genuinely dangerous unprotected sex can be.
This is when you are glad you live in the UK and tests and protection is free! I started with the patch, its doesn't fall off, you change it every week and its fine. But i was on for a month solid to start with. Then moved onto the pill and in hindsight had horrific mood swings, but was on it for 4 years. Gave myself a break and felt great, but got back with someone and so have gone on the implant. Finding it great so far, very happy and healthy!
I have the implant in my arm! It lasts three years, and I just had mine taken out, and another put back in. You can feel it in your arm, so that is a little weird. But overall, I LOVE it! It is easy, offers me peace of mind and does not give me many side effects.
Thank you guys so much for mentioning the emotions thing. No one speaks about it in these kinds of videos. Naive little me thought that she was capable of not catching the feels in a friends with benefits situation. And here I am and the pain is SO real. Love you guys
In terms of the contraceptive patch, you change the patch weekly for 3 weeks and then have a patch-free week. It contains both Oestrogen and Progesterone. I had great experiences with it, no problems with it falling off. However the Oestrogen gave me terrible mood swings and so I switched to the Implant. It was a little sore during the fitting and there was some bruising after but I can highly recommend it. It's progesterone only and so my mood has completely stabilised and I forget it's even in my arm. I can highly recommend the implant. P.S, I love this channel, thank you for always speaking so openly.
I love this video and think it's so helpful for younger viewers especially. I'm straight, engaged and have a copper iud. I love it as I've tried most hormone methods and none have worked well for me. I'm having surgery next week, a side effect of which is having my coil removed and I'm actually not looking forward to having a hormonal coil instead (at the advice of my gynaecologist) as I had such bad side effects on other hormonal contraception. I think you have to try everything to know what works for you and everyone's experiences are different. Xx
Damn, I wish I had this video like 3 weeks ago, the part about controlling your emotional attachment to people you're sleeping with is so important and so rarely talked about, and definitely something I'm struggling with at the moment- thank you for this video ❤️
I’m single and have not been with anyone sexual before and plan on being a virgin until marriage but this video is amazing and super informative for so many people and I’m so glad people are being educated by it!
You can do the natural cycle thing without the app I was using it for a long time before my boyfriend and I chose to ignore it and I got pregnant. Very happy! I'm glad you mentioned it as it's so healthy and safe for adults in a relationship with a regular cycle
I'm a bisexual cis woman in a monogamous relationship with a cis man. I got a tubal ligation in April. I was in and out in a few hours. I got the kind where they put clamps on your tubes(there's a few different ways they do it...clamps, actually tying them, cauterization, etc), and my doctor put 2 on each tube. 2 teensy little scars, cramping for a few days, then everything was back to normal. I found the pill made me very depressed which was bad since I have Bipolar 2 already. I definitely notice a HUGE change in mood since stopping the pill. It shocks me how reluctant doctors still are to do it though. I already have a kid and knew my whole life I didn't want any (though I'm glad for my daughter). My doctor spent so much time asking me if my boyfriend is ok with it, or if I've thought about future partners wanting kids. I eventually shouted at him and said if they want kids they can go with someone that wants kids, because the point here is that I don't. I think that proved to him that I meant business and he approved everything 😂
On the point of STI tests - I know it's super expensive in Ireland but you can order one free online if you live in England! SH:24 is the website, they send you a test for free, you pop it back in the post and get texted your results. Super simple and discreet :)
Just went on to order one because that sounded perfect but it's not available in all areas of England :( my postcode was not an area in which they provide the service
I love how honest and open you two are with us! A really helpful video and you're absolutely right it's about both the physical and also mental protection of yourself. I myself am bisexual as well and since I really am not a fan of the pill I use condoms and things like that rather than anything more invasive.
I'm 21 and in a 3 year long relationship with my boyfriend. I got the hormonal IUD a few months ago before my boyfriend and I moved abroad , and I've honestly never looked back. After years of mood swings and depression which the pill aggravated, it's so amazing to not feel like I'm pumping hormones into my body ! Yeah it hurts a bit , like a bad period but the pain literally stops after a day or two . Couldn't recommend it more for gals in a relationship. You don't feel a thing and it takes any worry of slip ups away !
Honestly this is so so helpful. Thank you so much for always being so open and talking about the harder subjects!! I needed this! Also you guys are both so adorable and beautiful and I love you both and I just!! Thank you 💙💜💙
I love how unbiased and understanding you both are, your children are going to be so lucky to have yous as a parent and aunt 😊 p.s views on the new bodyform pads advertisement?
Don't be scared of the IUD! I had the mirena coil for 5 years, and no issues. Insertion was fine, nothing more than a period pain, but it does depend on pain tolerance. The entire appointment lasted 10 minutes, but getting it inserted lasted less than a minute. Removal was the same for me. Now i have the Copper IUD. My doctor was horrified when i asked for it because most women hate it. She told me periods would be longer and heavier. Whilst i agree the first three months of it i thought i was bleeding to death, perseverance paid off, and ten months later, i have normal periods. Lasts 6-7 days, with some cramps and sore boobs. I don't want children for various reasons, and i would like to be sterilised so i don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancy, but even at 25 i'm turned down. I have a long term boyfriend who also doesn't want kids, but we're stuck with the IUD until one of us can be sterilised! Videos like this make me happy! Contraception should be discussed way more often, especially with individuals working out what might work for them, because as you said, it's a minefield! Could you perhaps do a video on stealthing? To bring more awareness to that? It's all well and good telling your one night stand to use a condom, but maybe discussing what to do if they don't listen to your wishes or remove the condom during sex.
I had tried the patch ( Ortho Evra ) and it was a terrible experience. I ended up getting pregnant on the patch . I had a lot of female problems, I was getting my first “ cycle “ at 11 . Apparently way too early , my Dr that delivered my daughter told me I have endometriosis. No wonder it was problems after problems my entire life. I’m in my 40’s , and have had an endometrial ablation. No more monthly anything. ( my husband and I celebrated 24 years this past year.... ) it’s been rough , but we’re not giving up . Don’t use the patch!!
I'm a lesbian, I'm single and a virgin but I'm on the pill for my periods, I really want to have an experience (romantic and sexual) with a woman soon but it's not very easy meeting other girls who are into girls.
Agreed! I found it very hard on the dating scene when it came to women...I made a whole video about it called "my bisexuality: a candid chat" it was getting to me so much! x
I'll check it out! It bothers me too! If you don't mind me asking, how did you eventually meet other girls who were into girls, I'm interested in online dating but I don't have a debit card or paypal account to pay for it
I've got the copper IUD and I'm so happy with the desicion because hormonal contraception is not working for me😄 yes, getting the IUD isn't the most pleasurable feeling but I had a 'neutral' experience I guess😊 Just thought I'd share because I do recommend it💗
IUDs are depending on the person. I'm a virgin and everyone I talked to whether it was a doctor or just a friend said I would be in horrible pain. I felt a little pressure in my lower abdomen and then that was it. But it's still the most effective birth control although that's not why I got it.
So much good stuff in this video, well done for being unapologetic in talking about this stuff and helping to get the discussion and info out there! Especially loved the thing about admitting you have an ego and being prepared to wrap your brain as well :') Not meaning to nitpick, but one teeny tiny criticism I do have is just about when you were talking about STIs - it's not the greatest thing to describe people as "clean" for not having them, because it implies that to have an STI makes you dirty/unclean/gross/disgusting, which obviously adds to the stigma surrounding STI discussion in the first place! If instead of "clean" we just say things like "STI-free," it helps fight the stigma and shame of the very real possibility of having one. We can educate on how to prevent STIs without using language that might make people feel shitty if the info didn't get to them in time
Nope wasn't me, but I was wondering if anyone else had picked up on it! I couldn't see anything about it in the other comments so just assumed no-one had mentioned it yet x
Hey! :) I ordered your book a few days ago and i cant wait to read it! I hope and kinda know that it will help me. We have quite some different points of view, non the last i find you very helpful, lovley and you uplift my feelings a lot of times. Latley you have been the youtuber that i watch the most. Youre just so real. I wish you keep on helping people, keep on doing amaizng in youre carieer, have true love, great health and just happiness through out life :)
I grew up in Ireland and I remember we hardly had any sex ed back then and nothing about contraception besides condoms. Nothing about things like the pill. My mum was a GP and told me all about the different types of hormonal contraception, and I'm a doctor and worked in Obs Gyne once so learned pretty much everything about this and fertility there.
A ton of my friends have the iud and they LOVE it. One got it because she moved to Africa for volunteer work for 2 years and it was the easiest choice for her. Some of my other friends got it just because it was easier than taking a pill everyday. They've said the insertion sucks and it might suck for a week or two after but then you're golden. Some people have bad reactions but you can't predict that. Might be a good idea to just take the plunge :)
I was petrified for insertion and removal of the IUD. I didn't even realize the started, and they were already done. Never felt anything. My daughter, who got it at 19, never having had a pregnancy, had the same experience.
I have the Jaydess IUS, which works for 3 years. I have zero regrets and I'm definitely sticking with it. The pill, on the other hand, was a nightmare for me.
The depo injection screwed over my hormones but the patch has been amazing! It's only fallen off if i've had a bath. use the clue app to remember when to put it on. I'm always really sensitive to side effects but this hasn't ruined my hormones and i've had less depression since moving to this one :D
Just came down to the comments to say how beautiful both your eyes are, only to realise that was already the top comment..... but still, your eyes are POPPIN' in this video
I hate the misconception that women can’t transfer to other women. I tested positive for an STI after a year of being in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend. Thankfully I got tested and we were both able to take medication quickly to get it taken care of. We now are really cautious about using taking extra measures like using condoms on toys and making sure we clean them carefully
Im straight. I recently got the hormonal IUD, mainly to help with painful period cramps because the pill doesn't work for me and also the birth control part is great (I'm in a longterm relationship). Personally the IUD works amazingly for me but it did hurt a ton getting it inserted and for a few weeks after which is normal. For me it started working within the next month to help with period cramps. but I do know some people that its taken up to 4 months for it to finally not be painful, and sometimes it period cramps can become more painful before they get better. Obviously everyone has different experiences with medications but for me I think its the best choice I could've ever made!
I just subscribed to you, and this video popped up in my feed. I have to say I am a little disappointed that you would take money from that company. Relying only on a cycle-tracking app for avoiding pregnancy is NOT reliable enough. For some women, if they get pregnant, that is absolutely life-shattering. I am a biomedical scientist, and I looked at the research the company used. It is NOT up to par. Please consider who you accept money from, and who you advertise. Love from Norway.
This was a fab video! I'm married in a heterosexual relationship and we use condoms and natural cycles. Natural cycles is excellent -- it's a way to do natural family planning that is both easy and reliable. Highly recommend it even if it's just to help you get to know your body better :)
Oh how I wish I'd known these things 2 and a half years ago, when I let him touch me for the first time even though I wasn't comfortable. Maybe I'd have seen the red flags and ended it before he raped me a year later. I suffer PTSD and am unable to have any kind of sexual interaction with anyone... I'm bisexual and would love to experience a relationship with a girl but I don't feel comfortable because I feel like I'm a broken person and I don't want to bother anyone. Anyway you girls are beautiful and I love how open you are to us. ♥
Oh damn I am honestly so sorry for you! I really hope that someday you'll be able to fall in love with a person again cause you are worthy and you deserve to be loved and to love no matter what happened in the past. Much love ××
I've had this video in the " watch later" section of my UA-cam for agessss why am I only watching it now ?! This was so helpful 👍 I also miss your videos with Jessica I wish you could do videos together again , damn covid :( Never thought of the whole needing to protect yourself from other women too 🤔
I can't believe, how beautiful and stunning both of you look in this video. I know that that's out of topic, but I just can't get over it. Edit: Omg you pinned me, thank you so much♡
Love this video! I've recently started taking the combined pill and I'd always use protection when sleeping with a guy but not with a girl (even though any girl if been with I've been close to for years or I knew it was their first time so it didn't really matter) but from now on if I'm with a female I'll definitely be more cautious 💜
This is awesome. But guys i had a implanon implant and it was terrible. Not only depression but I had to go to the hospital twice to get it out. It went into my muscle and was really painful. It can also "travel" then the doc cant find it and it doesnt show up on xrays . Have a huge scar on my arm now. So be careful girls!
There is one important side-effect for copper IUDs: it decreases your chances to get pregnant, after it has been removed, so it is only recommended for women who are done with family planning. I almost got one and backed out last minute for that reason
Honestly I wouldn't let horror stories about the IUD scare you, because everyone is different, and realistically the pain of the procedure is seconds long! I found the first two weeks of cramps far far worse than the insertion itself. It also can be used as emergency contraception which I don't think a lot of people realise.
Thanks for this vid. A few months too late, but still really helpful. I really love your content. Every now and then you give really good advice that resonates with me. Thanks for that :D
I had the patch, you change it weekly for 3 weeks and then have a week off so it was just part of my Sunday routine! It was on my abdomen so I couldn’t forget! It was good because it helped me when I was sick and was throwing up my pill a lot but then the balance wasn’t right for me and made me a bit crazy so when I stopped being sick I went back on a pill
IUD ONLY HURT IF YOU GET IT INSERTED WHEN YOUR NOT ON YOUR PERIOD. I work in the Pregnancy and contractive industry, so I am very educated on this topic. I recently had to have the IUD inserted because I am intolerant to the Pill and I need to go on contraception because of a medicine I needed. NOT IMPORTANT I went when I was on my period, this means that cervix, is already open, the pain associated with IUD is caused by forcing the cervix open, but it opens naturally when your on your period. I had the Mirena inserted, I had my GP prescribe me valium because I was so terrified ( I was having panic attacks about it), but the Gyno wouldn't let me take it. I am the same and I am terrified of foreign things going inside me, I can't use tampons or anything either, I am a big wimp and I felt no pain during the insertion and had less cramping that a regular period. They lasted about a month. Now I have no periods, slight spotting once a month and no cramps, I used to be crippled by them. I would do it a thousand times over, its afforded me so much freedom, its unreal.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and I've been on the combined pill for over a year and a half and it works very very well for me.
I'm bi, I've known for a couple of years but only came out like a month ago, and I'm single af. Never even kissed anyone, but I've spent so long figuring myself out it just wasn't a priority. I was on the pill to help with my periods but it made me really depressed, so when I become sexually active I'll have to find something else that works for me
I am bi, married (to a man), and have an IUD. My husband and I don't want children right now so I felt like it was perfect for me! I did a pill for years and then a new doctor put me on the nuva ring because I'd constantly forget to take my pills and my job would keep me from taking it at the same time everyday. I had a really bad reaction, went back to the pill, then explored other options. I have the Skyla IUD/coil and it's been lovely. The hormones are localized which I appreciate but like...ITS SMALLER THAN MIRENA! It only lasts 3yrs compared to Mirena's 5 but knowing it was smaller made me feel more comfortable with the experience. It felt like an intense menstrual cramp when inserted, and I was fine immediately after. My husband and I both have jobs that require yearly check-ups and that includes sexual health so that's really nice :)
Rayna Liddell do mind me asking what reaction you had with the ring? I used it for years and wouldn't use anything else if I ever use hormonal contraception again xx
Kimbers Maria I was on a low-hormone pill before the nuva ring. And for the three weeks I had it, I LOVED IT. It was so convenient and easy but one day I just woke up and I had had migraines before but this was different. I had extreme vertigo (had never experienced before) and any light, movement, and sound made me nauseous. I had to have a friend walk me to medical with my eyes closed so I didn't get sick. I was put on bed rest for a couple of days until my hormones balanced out.
Getting the coil isn't THAT bad . if you go and ask them about the procedure and what goes down when it happens. It was actually faster than i thought. its just scary that one day i will have to get it removed
I'm a 22 year old bisexual, currently single and talking to my crush, the first girl I've ever allowed myself to like (I recently came out to myself which is so strange yet freeing after years of suppression and shame). She's an experienced bi and as a fledgling bi I'm so nervous about perusing her and relationships with women and about sex (I'm a virgin). So yeah...
If you felt comfortable sharing more information about it, I would LOVE to see a video regarding your experience with vaginismus - it's something I live with and I'm always interested to hear other people's experiences of dealing with it. I know for a very very long time I was incredibly reluctant to talk about it, but I'm becoming more open and think if the term was common knowledge it would open doors for a lot of young people being able to put a name to the thing they're struggling with. Once I knew it was a real thing, it became easier for me to come to terms with as I knew I wasn't just a total freak 😂
Oh my god...I cant believe sti tests cost 90€ in Ireland. Where I live you can get them for free, and they encourage you to get them even if you arent having symptoms, just to make sure (since you can be asymptomatic). Im really thankful for that resource!
I know that I’m late to this video, but I thought my experience might help someone. I reacted badly to both the progesterone only pill and the combined pill, which fucked with my mental health and made me gain a lot of weight. I had to go off them, but I needed the hormones for my endometriosis, so I got the hormonal IUD (mirena) which was PERFECT for me because the effects were local, meaning the mirena helps with my endo but doesn’t ruin my mental health. Hope this helps someone!
I used the patch for two years and loved it - it never, ever came off thank god. However it does irritate the skin. I also developed an issue with my joints and carpal tunnel in the last year (I've had surgery and everything!) And now it turns out it might be due to the patch! This is because there is only one patch and that has to work on everybody, big and small. I'm a very small person and underweight so the hormones the patch provided were far too high a dose for my body and very physical issues arised. This week I got moved to the pill as there are all different strengths and combinations of the pill and if one doesn't suit you another might. It's always worth taking about your hormones and side effects with a doctor. A dedicated female doctor definitely helps (unfortunately for me all my doctors were male - all fantastic but hormones' effects were not on the mind). Just a little heads up anyway. I'm definitely an extreme case but I never considered it was my hormone dose throwing me outta whack
Just incase it helps anyone I have been on the patch for like 3 years and has worked well for me :) you change it once a week, I have had the occasion were it has came off but I have always noticed. Think I would be worried to swap now as I don't have side effects with this form
I'm 22, straight and in a long term relationship with my first boyfriend. I use the patch and it works pretty good. You have to replace the patch every week and I always put it on my bum so my underpants can cover it up. And I do notice if the patch is gone (which hasn't happened yet, thank god) because I still kind of check it's still there when I go to the toilet or when I dress myself in the morning). The only problems I've had with it: 1) you can't really take a bath or go in a hot tub (if the patch isn't covered with a bathing suit or bikini) because it always comes loose and I have to change it (aka waisting a patch), but no problem with swimming or taking a shower though. 2) I mostly wear black panties and some fluff of the panties get onto the sides of the patch and after a few days it doesn't really look pretty (but this is really just a small problem). Btw: you forgot to mention the ring (like the Nuvaring) as a contraception.
FAM! If you are comfortable, share your sexual orientation as well as relationship status & let us know how YOU go about protecting yourself - physically and emotionally, against STDs (and pregnancy if that applies)...I wanna get to know you all better, it'll help me a lot to come up with video ideas that might be of interest!
I'm gay and currently in a relationship (ish it's complicated) BUtTTT I'm too young to be having sex (currently 15) however this was VERY informative and great to know in the future because we haven't had sex ed in school and no one actually knows anything about lesbian sex (shocker). So thank you so much!
I'm bisexual & v v single ( & v happy ). I've been on the pill for nearly a year & always use a condom with a boy but am v intreeged about the pill x
I'm bi and have been single my whole life and am a virgin (17) hence why i'm not using any protection atm because i don't have sex lol
gay and in a casual relationship
Bisexual ??? I think. But I rather say sexually fluid. Some days I like girls a lot some days I like guys a lot, some days it's both. I don't mean my orientation changes, I'm just more in the mood for one or another some days. Like yesterday there were so many handsome hot guys around the city and i couldn't stop thinking of dreamy men all day long, and then today I see this video with you two beautiful women and I'm like oh my lord " thank goodness for women "
sorry but you guys have the most beautiful eyes
ItsJustMikee fuck outta here
x2
Why are you sorry?
i was captivated by them the whole video
Lmao "sorry"
I love how you guys are so honest not only with each other but with us
A little bit of Monika cathal like you girl
Cahil REILLY I saw you a minute ago on another video of Melanie's wtf
This is amazing and so important. It's horrible how schools sort of avoid sexual health in general.
lifeinthegrey and if they do talk about it is almost always only straight, cis people
*boys don't be silly, wrap your willy*
Honestly the best thing I've heard all year, also thanks for this vid! It was super informative!
Euphoric Dreamer only fools don't wrap their tools ;)
Some guys will Never use a condom. If he doesn’t then i’m not having sex with him
Its so cool how open you and your sister are together! I dont know anybody who is open about any of it :/ thanks for the informative video!
Ryan True me and my sister are! And me and my parents to be honest - modern family 😂 it’s helpful
Wolfe Roth lol, my family dont talk about any of it. I had a 5 minute talk about porn with my dad and how i shouldnt watch it (was in the car so couldnt escape and was 13) and had a leaflet left in my room about puberty and then 2 lessons at school. Apart from that it has never been mentioned whatsoever in my family. Its a massively taboo subject for some reason
Ryan True every family to their own I guess but that’s strange for me because it’s a common dinner topic for us 😂 which I’m sure is weird to many people
Wolfe Roth thats so cool haha, the word sex is never mentioned in my family
I'm 17, single and bi and I've still never done anything sexual with another person and I feel quite embarrassed by that sometimes, worries about sex have definitely been in my mind before. However i did find this video very helpful, its so nice to see you talking about this stuff openly and comfortably and it really does help. Love ya guys !
Don't be embarrassed at all! You are still SO young, I know a 24 year old virgin...it's not uncommon to wait! :) Don't ever do anything until you really really want to and feel comfortable and safe xxx
Thank you so much Melanie, that's made my day :) xx
Chloe Mayer lol i’m 19 and in the same boat you’re def not alone
I was 21 when i first had sex, im now 23 and have done it like 4 times. Do it when you feel comfortable and ready and not when others think you should. Its your body and nobody should tell you when to do something
Chloe Mayer I'm 15, bisexual, and I share your embarassment. I'm admittedly not a virgin on the guy side of things (Not something I'm proud of, but pressure is pressure). Never had any problem getting a boyfriend and doing the do. But with girls, I've done nothing more than a peck on the lips. It's so embarassing, especially when I'm more attracted to girls! Argh!
I did know two girls could get STIs, but I only knew that from UA-cam. The education system for sex is poor in England, but it's getting better. For some reason transgender and sex/sexual orientation are lumped together though? Which doesn't make sense to me...
Sexual education varies drastically from school to school in England, my local secondary school does not discuss trans or LGBT issues at all! So silly that they are in the same category but at least they both got discussed. Any two people can pass STI's to each other no matter their sex or gender.
Don’t worry guys it’s horrible in America too (ik I’m a year late but I wanted to put it out there)
So, my mom is a gynecologist and I talk with her about this kind of stuff all the time, so if someone has a question about contraceptive pills, injections, implants and stuff just comment it and I'm going to ask her.
(i'm german so I don't know if the gynecologists handling the things like this in your country)
Sorry for spellig or grammer mistakes, i'm trying my best.
I also got extra information
1. If you want more information about the effectivity(?) of all kinds of birth control just google "pearl index" this tells you how effective against pregnancies the methodes are.
2. Before you can get the implant you take a contraceptive pill with the same hormone combination for half a year up to a year so the doctor can see if everything goes well, you don't experience any side effects, everything goes well etc. When there are problems with the hormon combination you'll try out another contraceptive pill, because it's easier to change birth control than the implant(obviously).
If everything works out well with the hormon combination you get the implant.
3. With apps like the natural cycle app you can't avoid a pregnancy 100 percent.
4. Many people believe that contraceptive pills are making you infertile if you're taking them serverall years. F.e. If you start taking them with 16 because you're experiencing heavy period pain or simply because you have a boyfriend now and you're taking it until you're in your late twenties-early thirties you aren't fertile because of the contraceptive pill. That's wrong. It could be but you don't know. Most of the time, if you take the pill long it takes a few cycles until everything normalizes, so it could just be that your body needs more time to regulate the hormon production etc. Another reason is simply that women are getting less and less fertile the older they get. The eggs in your ovarys are just as old as you are. After thirty years you might be "too old"
I lost my virginity only 6 months ago, with my first serious boyfriend. We didnt use protection because it was just in the moment. I thouroughly regret that I didn’t stand up for myself and said it had to wait. Afterward he said he didn’t even want to use condoms because he thought it didn’t feel as good, which I feel is sort of bullshit because he was not ready at all for having a child so he shouldn’t be risking it. I ended up getting on the pill quickly because I didn’t want to risk anything. Thing is I didn’t like being on that pill, because it made me gain weight and I got emotional during certain phases of my cycle. We recently broke up and it was really emotional, seeing how he was my first and all.
Emma Dettle Oh man your telling me. The guy I lost my virginity to was terrible at using protection, he never bought a condom. We only ever used the pull out method.
It's a shock I didn't get pregnant after how much we did it. I'm so glad I didn't too, I'm only 15 and we later broke up. I would hate to have my own child grow up with such an irresponsible father.
It sounds like your ex was not responsible enough, for the future please look into other methods of protection like femidoms or IUD's. Sometimes it can take months for your body to adjust to the pill but it can cause emotional problems so if it doesn't suit just try something else.
Avoiding pregnancy is good but please use protection against STI's too. If you are going to have another monogamous relationship please go to a GUM clinic & both get tested before having sex, there are plenty of people who either lie about not having an STI or are completely unaware that they have something like chlamydia.
Sorry your relationship ended & it is natural to be sad but I hope your next partner is an upgrade!
Girl your story made me sad. I hope you feel better now. Also don't be sad that you guys broke up.........he wasn't worth it.
Coooool 😐
Thank you so so much for making these educational videos. They're so important and necessary! 💚💚💚
AAAAHHHH I always get so excited when you upload a video with Jessie!!!! Endless love for you both 💗💗💗
You two should make a national campaign and go around schools to teach this. Little me when I came out as bisexual during school would’ve loved this! It is sooooo important and thank you for this video girls! Shared this all over Facebook as I have a large amount of male gay friends who are silly and don’t wrap there willy!
I have the IUD and it's honestly the first time I've been able to be carefree sexually. I'm in a long term relationship but having to constantly worry about pregnancy was too much. The pain of the IUD is comparable to a minor contraction and the pain lasts less than 10 seconds, and I didn't even take the recommended ibuprofen!
Forgot to mention that I'm pan and currently in a hetero relationship (-:
Wow! Amazing video. I feel like, in Canada, we have a good sexual education compared to other countries. I did know lesbians could get STIs and should protect themselves and how. It should be talked about more in school.
Tanika L I’m also Canadian but i’m from a pretty small town and i went to a catholic school until grade 8 and it was never talked about
i known everything i know from Stevie Bobbie
if you don’t mind, where in Canada are you from?
i'm close to my sisters, but cant imagine doing any type of sex talk with them hahaha. this topic is HELLA important though. i sound so puritanical(??) when i lecture my friends about safe sex but... IT'S SO IMPORTANT ON ALL LEVELS MY DEAR FRIENDS :(
Hi Melanie and Jessica, Watching you two together and the closeness as sisters you so evidently have. I just think how wonderful and lovely it is that you have each other, it's so lovely to have someone to learn with and share life's experiences who you know will always be there, no matter what. You two seem to have such a special closeness and understanding of each other.
I got Natural Cycles because of you, Melanie! and it's the best thing I have ever done, I was miserable on the pill and felt trapped by it. I also love that I have just an overall better understanding of my body because of it. I know where I am in my cycle and I've started to see the patterns in my mood depending on my cycle- not just PMS related
Sadie Miles awwww this makes me so happy! Xxxx
Y’all make my day so much better!
You actually don't need to be awake while getting an IUD, at least not in Germany (where I live). You basically get snoozed out for 5-10 min and after that it's all done. And the pain that some experience whilst having the IUD Comes from it not being the right size. There are different sizes and shapes (again: at least in Germany) and if it's to small it will fall out and if it's too big it will basically scratch/poke you from the inside and that will cause a lot of pain. Your Body will try to get rid of it by cramping but due to the IUD being too big, your Body cannot push it out easily.
I've been of the pill for 2 weeks now and I've read a lot about IUDs so I hope this helps :)
PS: Jessi has suuuuch pretty eyes! Loved the video xoxo
in Ireland we need to stay awake
That's too bad :( Guess a lot more people would get an IUD if they didn't need to go through the potentional pain...
yeah here in Ireland they insist that you stay awake for it, like with a smear test, which is just so scary for me! x
Theberrypurple I was awake when I got mine and it really wasn't that bad either. I was a bit scared before but my doctor was lovely and for me it was absolutely worth it
So happy to hear that! I don't know if I will be awake or not, probably I'll get myself snoozed out because I don't want to stress about it 😅 If you don't mind me asking, have you been happy with your IUD ? :)
You girls are amazing for doing this, this kind of information absolutely needs to be shared more often, thank you! 💙
I couldn't help but notice that Melanie's orange eyeshadow makes her green eyes pop so much it's so pretty !!
I really love the way that you both talk so openly about these important issues! I use the Marina implant (the one in the arm) and I love it! I have not had my period for just over a year now and everything is pretty blissful. I know that not everyone is comfortable with the idea of not being regular and/or having something put into their arm, but personally I have found it to be a very easy (and inexpensive) way for me to ensure I am protected from pregnancy. Although everyone responds differently to different types of contraception, it is unfortunately one of those things that you 'just don't know how you will respond until you try it'. I read so many off-putting comments and brought them up with my Doctor who was able to alleviate my concerns. I am also a bit squeamish, but after a very simple procedure, I don't have to worry about having the implant removed (or buying sanitary items) for three years :)
I got an IUD and it wasn't painful at all (felt exactly like a pap smear). It definitely varies by person, but also the people with really painful insertions are more likely to talk about their experience
@Melanie Murphy Oh my God. This is amazing. It was very informative indeed. I am straight and single. Medicines do scare me. I like the idea of the app though. It would definitely make things so much easier. Watching this video I could totally relate with how I talk to my lil sis . Your "sister-chemistry" shines through. Love you Melanie :* Keep making videos like this.
I always thought of unsafe sex as gross and dangerous but it never occurred to me that "you're sleeping with everyone they have slept with unprotected and even everyone that they have slept with." That is so important to understand and I really think people should hear that phrase to really get it into their brains. It really showed me how genuinely dangerous unprotected sex can be.
This is when you are glad you live in the UK and tests and protection is free! I started with the patch, its doesn't fall off, you change it every week and its fine. But i was on for a month solid to start with. Then moved onto the pill and in hindsight had horrific mood swings, but was on it for 4 years. Gave myself a break and felt great, but got back with someone and so have gone on the implant. Finding it great so far, very happy and healthy!
I have the implant in my arm! It lasts three years, and I just had mine taken out, and another put back in. You can feel it in your arm, so that is a little weird. But overall, I LOVE it! It is easy, offers me peace of mind and does not give me many side effects.
Hayley Folk same it’s brilliant!
melanie what lipstick are you wearing? 😍😍 trying to focus on the great advice but its captivating 😂
It’s so amazing that you two, as sisters, can talk about these things comfortably.
Thank you guys so much for mentioning the emotions thing. No one speaks about it in these kinds of videos. Naive little me thought that she was capable of not catching the feels in a friends with benefits situation. And here I am and the pain is SO real. Love you guys
Emma Chini 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
In terms of the contraceptive patch, you change the patch weekly for 3 weeks and then have a patch-free week. It contains both Oestrogen and Progesterone. I had great experiences with it, no problems with it falling off. However the Oestrogen gave me terrible mood swings and so I switched to the Implant. It was a little sore during the fitting and there was some bruising after but I can highly recommend it. It's progesterone only and so my mood has completely stabilised and I forget it's even in my arm. I can highly recommend the implant. P.S, I love this channel, thank you for always speaking so openly.
I love the openness of your videos. You two feel like my older sisters that I never had
I love this video and think it's so helpful for younger viewers especially. I'm straight, engaged and have a copper iud. I love it as I've tried most hormone methods and none have worked well for me. I'm having surgery next week, a side effect of which is having my coil removed and I'm actually not looking forward to having a hormonal coil instead (at the advice of my gynaecologist) as I had such bad side effects on other hormonal contraception. I think you have to try everything to know what works for you and everyone's experiences are different. Xx
Damn, I wish I had this video like 3 weeks ago, the part about controlling your emotional attachment to people you're sleeping with is so important and so rarely talked about, and definitely something I'm struggling with at the moment- thank you for this video ❤️
I love your girls relationship , you are so close to each other 💗 reminds me of me and my sisters 💯 love this as always you girls are so stunning 💚
Love this!
Bi and single
I’m single and have not been with anyone sexual before and plan on being a virgin until marriage but this video is amazing and super informative for so many people and I’m so glad people are being educated by it!
You can do the natural cycle thing without the app I was using it for a long time before my boyfriend and I chose to ignore it and I got pregnant. Very happy! I'm glad you mentioned it as it's so healthy and safe for adults in a relationship with a regular cycle
I'm a bisexual cis woman in a monogamous relationship with a cis man.
I got a tubal ligation in April. I was in and out in a few hours. I got the kind where they put clamps on your tubes(there's a few different ways they do it...clamps, actually tying them, cauterization, etc), and my doctor put 2 on each tube. 2 teensy little scars, cramping for a few days, then everything was back to normal. I found the pill made me very depressed which was bad since I have Bipolar 2 already. I definitely notice a HUGE change in mood since stopping the pill.
It shocks me how reluctant doctors still are to do it though. I already have a kid and knew my whole life I didn't want any (though I'm glad for my daughter). My doctor spent so much time asking me if my boyfriend is ok with it, or if I've thought about future partners wanting kids. I eventually shouted at him and said if they want kids they can go with someone that wants kids, because the point here is that I don't. I think that proved to him that I meant business and he approved everything 😂
I just cannot stop acknowledging how beautiful both of you are
Straight, in a long term relationship and ive had the implant in my arm for a year. No complaints.
On the point of STI tests - I know it's super expensive in Ireland but you can order one free online if you live in England! SH:24 is the website, they send you a test for free, you pop it back in the post and get texted your results. Super simple and discreet :)
OOOH that is amazing! Maybe I should do a video about STD testing in various countries and what is involved? x
Melanie Murphy that would be a really cool video!
Just went on to order one because that sounded perfect but it's not available in all areas of England :( my postcode was not an area in which they provide the service
Thanks for this! Had no idea!
Can I just say well done for including pretty much every type of person and not judging anyone's choices.
Thank you for the emotional side- happening to me rn, first time really being hurt and having a bruised ego and man it sucks. You're fabulous girls :)
I love how honest and open you two are with us! A really helpful video and you're absolutely right it's about both the physical and also mental protection of yourself.
I myself am bisexual as well and since I really am not a fan of the pill I use condoms and things like that rather than anything more invasive.
I'm 21 and in a 3 year long relationship with my boyfriend. I got the hormonal IUD a few months ago before my boyfriend and I moved abroad , and I've honestly never looked back. After years of mood swings and depression which the pill aggravated, it's so amazing to not feel like I'm pumping hormones into my body ! Yeah it hurts a bit , like a bad period but the pain literally stops after a day or two . Couldn't recommend it more for gals in a relationship. You don't feel a thing and it takes any worry of slip ups away !
Honestly this is so so helpful. Thank you so much for always being so open and talking about the harder subjects!! I needed this! Also you guys are both so adorable and beautiful and I love you both and I just!! Thank you 💙💜💙
I love how unbiased and understanding you both are, your children are going to be so lucky to have yous as a parent and aunt 😊 p.s views on the new bodyform pads advertisement?
Don't be scared of the IUD! I had the mirena coil for 5 years, and no issues. Insertion was fine, nothing more than a period pain, but it does depend on pain tolerance. The entire appointment lasted 10 minutes, but getting it inserted lasted less than a minute. Removal was the same for me. Now i have the Copper IUD. My doctor was horrified when i asked for it because most women hate it. She told me periods would be longer and heavier. Whilst i agree the first three months of it i thought i was bleeding to death, perseverance paid off, and ten months later, i have normal periods. Lasts 6-7 days, with some cramps and sore boobs. I don't want children for various reasons, and i would like to be sterilised so i don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancy, but even at 25 i'm turned down. I have a long term boyfriend who also doesn't want kids, but we're stuck with the IUD until one of us can be sterilised! Videos like this make me happy! Contraception should be discussed way more often, especially with individuals working out what might work for them, because as you said, it's a minefield! Could you perhaps do a video on stealthing? To bring more awareness to that? It's all well and good telling your one night stand to use a condom, but maybe discussing what to do if they don't listen to your wishes or remove the condom during sex.
The law of attraction is so real! Every time I come to UA-cam and hope for a new video of you there is one 😍😍😍
I had tried the patch ( Ortho Evra ) and it was a terrible experience. I ended up getting pregnant on the patch . I had a lot of female problems, I was getting my first “ cycle “ at 11 . Apparently way too early , my Dr that delivered my daughter told me I have endometriosis. No wonder it was problems after problems my entire life. I’m in my 40’s , and have had an endometrial ablation. No more monthly anything. ( my husband and I celebrated 24 years this past year.... ) it’s been rough , but we’re not giving up .
Don’t use the patch!!
This makes me so happy. 💚 I was just going through all your previous videos, hoping you would upload a new one soon. My day just got so much better!!!
I'm a lesbian, I'm single and a virgin but I'm on the pill for my periods, I really want to have an experience (romantic and sexual) with a woman soon but it's not very easy meeting other girls who are into girls.
Agreed! I found it very hard on the dating scene when it came to women...I made a whole video about it called "my bisexuality: a candid chat" it was getting to me so much! x
I'll check it out! It bothers me too! If you don't mind me asking, how did you eventually meet other girls who were into girls, I'm interested in online dating but I don't have a debit card or paypal account to pay for it
If you wanna do online dating some good free sites/apps are Plenty Of Fish, OKCupid, Tinder and Her :)
a massive thank you to the both of you, I needed this so much
I've got the copper IUD and I'm so happy with the desicion because hormonal contraception is not working for me😄 yes, getting the IUD isn't the most pleasurable feeling but I had a 'neutral' experience I guess😊 Just thought I'd share because I do recommend it💗
congrats on 500k! great and vvv important video
IUDs are depending on the person. I'm a virgin and everyone I talked to whether it was a doctor or just a friend said I would be in horrible pain. I felt a little pressure in my lower abdomen and then that was it. But it's still the most effective birth control although that's not why I got it.
So much good stuff in this video, well done for being unapologetic in talking about this stuff and helping to get the discussion and info out there! Especially loved the thing about admitting you have an ego and being prepared to wrap your brain as well :')
Not meaning to nitpick, but one teeny tiny criticism I do have is just about when you were talking about STIs - it's not the greatest thing to describe people as "clean" for not having them, because it implies that to have an STI makes you dirty/unclean/gross/disgusting, which obviously adds to the stigma surrounding STI discussion in the first place! If instead of "clean" we just say things like "STI-free," it helps fight the stigma and shame of the very real possibility of having one. We can educate on how to prevent STIs without using language that might make people feel shitty if the info didn't get to them in time
Alex Rose are you the gal who tweeted me about this? Massively appreciative of this criticism it’s important! Xxx
Nope wasn't me, but I was wondering if anyone else had picked up on it! I couldn't see anything about it in the other comments so just assumed no-one had mentioned it yet x
Hey! :)
I ordered your book a few days ago and i cant wait to read it!
I hope and kinda know that it will help me.
We have quite some different points of view, non the last i find you very helpful, lovley and you uplift my feelings a lot of times. Latley you have been the youtuber that i watch the most.
Youre just so real.
I wish you keep on helping people, keep on doing amaizng in youre carieer, have true love, great health and just happiness through out life :)
Did noy exspact to get some sort of response.
Thank you.
So nice to see that you make the effort and actually read the comments :)
I grew up in Ireland and I remember we hardly had any sex ed back then and nothing about contraception besides condoms. Nothing about things like the pill. My mum was a GP and told me all about the different types of hormonal contraception, and I'm a doctor and worked in Obs Gyne once so learned pretty much everything about this and fertility there.
this is so informitive! ilyy so muchhh
A ton of my friends have the iud and they LOVE it. One got it because she moved to Africa for volunteer work for 2 years and it was the easiest choice for her. Some of my other friends got it just because it was easier than taking a pill everyday. They've said the insertion sucks and it might suck for a week or two after but then you're golden. Some people have bad reactions but you can't predict that. Might be a good idea to just take the plunge :)
I was petrified for insertion and removal of the IUD. I didn't even realize the started, and they were already done. Never felt anything. My daughter, who got it at 19, never having had a pregnancy, had the same experience.
I have the Jaydess IUS, which works for 3 years. I have zero regrets and I'm definitely sticking with it. The pill, on the other hand, was a nightmare for me.
The depo injection screwed over my hormones but the patch has been amazing! It's only fallen off if i've had a bath. use the clue app to remember when to put it on. I'm always really sensitive to side effects but this hasn't ruined my hormones and i've had less depression since moving to this one :D
Just came down to the comments to say how beautiful both your eyes are, only to realise that was already the top comment..... but still, your eyes are POPPIN' in this video
I hate the misconception that women can’t transfer to other women. I tested positive for an STI after a year of being in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend. Thankfully I got tested and we were both able to take medication quickly to get it taken care of. We now are really cautious about using taking extra measures like using condoms on toys and making sure we clean them carefully
Im straight. I recently got the hormonal IUD, mainly to help with painful period cramps because the pill doesn't work for me and also the birth control part is great (I'm in a longterm relationship). Personally the IUD works amazingly for me but it did hurt a ton getting it inserted and for a few weeks after which is normal. For me it started working within the next month to help with period cramps. but I do know some people that its taken up to 4 months for it to finally not be painful, and sometimes it period cramps can become more painful before they get better.
Obviously everyone has different experiences with medications but for me I think its the best choice I could've ever made!
I just subscribed to you, and this video popped up in my feed. I have to say I am a little disappointed that you would take money from that company. Relying only on a cycle-tracking app for avoiding pregnancy is NOT reliable enough. For some women, if they get pregnant, that is absolutely life-shattering. I am a biomedical scientist, and I looked at the research the company used. It is NOT up to par. Please consider who you accept money from, and who you advertise. Love from Norway.
This was a fab video! I'm married in a heterosexual relationship and we use condoms and natural cycles. Natural cycles is excellent -- it's a way to do natural family planning that is both easy and reliable. Highly recommend it even if it's just to help you get to know your body better :)
So so happy you enjoy it! :) xxxx
Sidenote I think St James hospital have a free STI clinic on certain days and it's walk in.
Oh how I wish I'd known these things 2 and a half years ago, when I let him touch me for the first time even though I wasn't comfortable. Maybe I'd have seen the red flags and ended it before he raped me a year later. I suffer PTSD and am unable to have any kind of sexual interaction with anyone... I'm bisexual and would love to experience a relationship with a girl but I don't feel comfortable because I feel like I'm a broken person and I don't want to bother anyone.
Anyway you girls are beautiful and I love how open you are to us. ♥
Oh damn I am honestly so sorry for you! I really hope that someday you'll be able to fall in love with a person again cause you are worthy and you deserve to be loved and to love no matter what happened in the past. Much love ××
Femke Boon ♥️
There are so many people out there that will love you and be patient until you feel ready.Sending you all of my love and support
I've had this video in the " watch later" section of my UA-cam for agessss why am I only watching it now ?! This was so helpful 👍 I also miss your videos with Jessica I wish you could do videos together again , damn covid :( Never thought of the whole needing to protect yourself from other women too 🤔
I can't believe, how beautiful and stunning both of you look in this video. I know that that's out of topic, but I just can't get over it.
Edit: Omg you pinned me, thank you so much♡
Love this video! I've recently started taking the combined pill and I'd always use protection when sleeping with a guy but not with a girl (even though any girl if been with I've been close to for years or I knew it was their first time so it didn't really matter) but from now on if I'm with a female I'll definitely be more cautious 💜
Irishmermaid well virginity doesn't necessarily mean they don't have an std. You can get an std from more than just sex
They both have the most beautiful eyes!
*YES* More of this please!
This is awesome. But guys i had a implanon implant and it was terrible. Not only depression but I had to go to the hospital twice to get it out. It went into my muscle and was really painful. It can also "travel" then the doc cant find it and it doesnt show up on xrays . Have a huge scar on my arm now. So be careful girls!
There is one important side-effect for copper IUDs: it decreases your chances to get pregnant, after it has been removed, so it is only recommended for women who are done with family planning. I almost got one and backed out last minute for that reason
I’m straight, but I love and relate to your videos so so much. This was really insightful, thank you x
Honestly I wouldn't let horror stories about the IUD scare you, because everyone is different, and realistically the pain of the procedure is seconds long! I found the first two weeks of cramps far far worse than the insertion itself. It also can be used as emergency contraception which I don't think a lot of people realise.
Thanks for this vid. A few months too late, but still really helpful. I really love your content. Every now and then you give really good advice that resonates with me. Thanks for that :D
this video is honestly more helpful than any of my sex ed classes
I had the patch, you change it weekly for 3 weeks and then have a week off so it was just part of my Sunday routine! It was on my abdomen so I couldn’t forget! It was good because it helped me when I was sick and was throwing up my pill a lot but then the balance wasn’t right for me and made me a bit crazy so when I stopped being sick I went back on a pill
Jessie always seems like she's so happy
IUD ONLY HURT IF YOU GET IT INSERTED WHEN YOUR NOT ON YOUR PERIOD.
I work in the Pregnancy and contractive industry, so I am very educated on this topic.
I recently had to have the IUD inserted because I am intolerant to the Pill and I need to go on contraception because of a medicine I needed. NOT IMPORTANT
I went when I was on my period, this means that cervix, is already open, the pain associated with IUD is caused by forcing the cervix open, but it opens naturally when your on your period.
I had the Mirena inserted, I had my GP prescribe me valium because I was so terrified ( I was having panic attacks about it), but the Gyno wouldn't let me take it. I am the same and I am terrified of foreign things going inside me, I can't use tampons or anything either,
I am a big wimp and I felt no pain during the insertion and had less cramping that a regular period. They lasted about a month.
Now I have no periods, slight spotting once a month and no cramps, I used to be crippled by them.
I would do it a thousand times over, its afforded me so much freedom, its unreal.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and I've been on the combined pill for over a year and a half and it works very very well for me.
I'm bi, I've known for a couple of years but only came out like a month ago, and I'm single af. Never even kissed anyone, but I've spent so long figuring myself out it just wasn't a priority. I was on the pill to help with my periods but it made me really depressed, so when I become sexually active I'll have to find something else that works for me
I am bi, married (to a man), and have an IUD. My husband and I don't want children right now so I felt like it was perfect for me! I did a pill for years and then a new doctor put me on the nuva ring because I'd constantly forget to take my pills and my job would keep me from taking it at the same time everyday. I had a really bad reaction, went back to the pill, then explored other options. I have the Skyla IUD/coil and it's been lovely. The hormones are localized which I appreciate but like...ITS SMALLER THAN MIRENA! It only lasts 3yrs compared to Mirena's 5 but knowing it was smaller made me feel more comfortable with the experience. It felt like an intense menstrual cramp when inserted, and I was fine immediately after. My husband and I both have jobs that require yearly check-ups and that includes sexual health so that's really nice :)
Rayna Liddell do mind me asking what reaction you had with the ring? I used it for years and wouldn't use anything else if I ever use hormonal contraception again xx
Kimbers Maria I was on a low-hormone pill before the nuva ring. And for the three weeks I had it, I LOVED IT. It was so convenient and easy but one day I just woke up and I had had migraines before but this was different. I had extreme vertigo (had never experienced before) and any light, movement, and sound made me nauseous. I had to have a friend walk me to medical with my eyes closed so I didn't get sick. I was put on bed rest for a couple of days until my hormones balanced out.
Getting the coil isn't THAT bad . if you go and ask them about the procedure and what goes down when it happens. It was actually faster than i thought. its just scary that one day i will have to get it removed
I'm a 22 year old bisexual, currently single and talking to my crush, the first girl I've ever allowed myself to like (I recently came out to myself which is so strange yet freeing after years of suppression and shame). She's an experienced bi and as a fledgling bi I'm so nervous about perusing her and relationships with women and about sex (I'm a virgin). So yeah...
If you felt comfortable sharing more information about it, I would LOVE to see a video regarding your experience with vaginismus - it's something I live with and I'm always interested to hear other people's experiences of dealing with it. I know for a very very long time I was incredibly reluctant to talk about it, but I'm becoming more open and think if the term was common knowledge it would open doors for a lot of young people being able to put a name to the thing they're struggling with. Once I knew it was a real thing, it became easier for me to come to terms with as I knew I wasn't just a total freak 😂
Heterosexual, and in a long term relationship
I have been on the combined pill for 4 years and I have never had ANY of the side effects 🍀
Oh my god...I cant believe sti tests cost 90€ in Ireland. Where I live you can get them for free, and they encourage you to get them even if you arent having symptoms, just to make sure (since you can be asymptomatic). Im really thankful for that resource!
I know that I’m late to this video, but I thought my experience might help someone. I reacted badly to both the progesterone only pill and the combined pill, which fucked with my mental health and made me gain a lot of weight. I had to go off them, but I needed the hormones for my endometriosis, so I got the hormonal IUD (mirena) which was PERFECT for me because the effects were local, meaning the mirena helps with my endo but doesn’t ruin my mental health. Hope this helps someone!
I used the patch for two years and loved it - it never, ever came off thank god. However it does irritate the skin. I also developed an issue with my joints and carpal tunnel in the last year (I've had surgery and everything!) And now it turns out it might be due to the patch!
This is because there is only one patch and that has to work on everybody, big and small. I'm a very small person and underweight so the hormones the patch provided were far too high a dose for my body and very physical issues arised.
This week I got moved to the pill as there are all different strengths and combinations of the pill and if one doesn't suit you another might. It's always worth taking about your hormones and side effects with a doctor. A dedicated female doctor definitely helps (unfortunately for me all my doctors were male - all fantastic but hormones' effects were not on the mind).
Just a little heads up anyway. I'm definitely an extreme case but I never considered it was my hormone dose throwing me outta whack
That intro reminds me of an ad I used to hear on Spotify when I was in Northern Ireland 😂
Just incase it helps anyone I have been on the patch for like 3 years and has worked well for me :) you change it once a week, I have had the occasion were it has came off but I have always noticed. Think I would be worried to swap now as I don't have side effects with this form
I'm 22, straight and in a long term relationship with my first boyfriend. I use the patch and it works pretty good. You have to replace the patch every week and I always put it on my bum so my underpants can cover it up. And I do notice if the patch is gone (which hasn't happened yet, thank god) because I still kind of check it's still there when I go to the toilet or when I dress myself in the morning). The only problems I've had with it: 1) you can't really take a bath or go in a hot tub (if the patch isn't covered with a bathing suit or bikini) because it always comes loose and I have to change it (aka waisting a patch), but no problem with swimming or taking a shower though. 2) I mostly wear black panties and some fluff of the panties get onto the sides of the patch and after a few days it doesn't really look pretty (but this is really just a small problem).
Btw: you forgot to mention the ring (like the Nuvaring) as a contraception.