How to manage your Boss. (with translation) 1. Help them advance in their careers. (Don't try to advance your career.) 2. Solve the problems they need to solve. (Take on their responsibilities.) 3. Take work off their plates. (Do their job for them.) 4. Make them look good. ( Let them take credit for all of your good ideas, and take the blame for their bad ideas.) 5. Use positive reinforcement and make them feel good. (Kiss ass.) 6. Don't complain. (Be a doormat.)
Thank you for this content. I think this is too focused on making your manager happy, but what about the employee. I am not looking to take things off my manager’s plate. It leads to burnout and no work life balance. I am experiencing that now, unfortunately. I am considered a “top performer” so while I do have a lot of autonomy and have high levels of responsibility, I’ve had to “manage my manager” by managing their unrealistic expectations. Managers need to realize that people want a life outside of work and need balance.
Then a lot of this video applies, like giving them a positive identity to live up to (an empathetic leader who cares for their team). But your real issue is boundaries. That starts with you, my friend.
@@JenniferBrick YES! Agreed. Do you have any suggestions. I’ve already decided no more weekends and I will not work past a certain time M-F. They will have to prioritize what they need done and everything else will carry over to the next day. I’ve already had the “hard conversation.”
@@GiGiChosen i hear your problem. the problem is many upper management is an old boys club. there is a clear inner circle and rest of the employees. i just suggest keep working hard and focus on your work. i don't suggest taking on new work from boss unless that is something being done as part of your work during business hours. if working past 5p happens more than 2 days in a row, talk to your boss. if they don't want to talk about head out at 5p. luckily for me i would packup at 445p and am out on the road at 5p. for me working past 5p is just a form of indentured slavery. younger crowd gets it.
@@asadb1990 Thank you so much. I’ve already implemented changes. There’s a certain amount of OT required for my job which is fine, but I had the “difficult conversations” talk in my review, which was great. I stated that moving forward, it was a necessity for work life balance and I could no longer work weekends and after 5 pm. I am willing to be flexible, but what I am not willing to do is to be used and burnout. It’s not worth it. I have dreams and aspirations outside of the job and if I am working all the time. I cannot fulfill what needs to be done. I don’t see myself just working for someone the rest of my life. I have a great, lucrative career with high earnings, but I need more me time. I agree with you and Trust me, January 4th, I will be implementing.
I like and agree to most suggestions given in this video, 1 additional pro tip : if your boss is truly terrible it's time to move on. No training, no managing up, across, left, right will work
A tip for anyone who is skilled at Excel or great at spreadsheets: unless you're in a few specific industries/workplaces, there are people in your company that are struggling with their spreadsheets.
I'm so grateful I saw your video when I did. I watched this earlier this morning, and then today I had to take an arrow for my boss. This video had me prepared. Thank you.
I know that you're right about giving bosses positive reinforcement. But I feel like my soul is dying when I have to compliment a toxic boss who mistreats me. I guess the key is to just see work as a game and not to be authentic or truthful. Which kinda sucks.
This is going to sound so bad... but I think of it as training them. Like, don't compliment them on how they're mistreating you - but on the things they do well. Makes your life easier, helps them become a better human, it's win win (and yes I know it would be better if people just knew how to human properly in the first place, but we're not gonna change that).
@@JenniferBrick Great point. Focus on something you authentically CAN compliment them on. If you can't find anything, then it's really time to move on.
1:05 This advice seems logical but cultivating this kind of idea, wouldnt it eventually make them both shallow and superficial? as they will know it too, they are smartass. I wouldnt want my managers/bosses ask me questions to make me LOOK good.(also theres no reason to do it.) I would want them ask me questions to make me become good. I believe so vice versa..
I bring my boss solutions, and he will do the opposite. He will do anything other than what I have suggested as an efficient solution. He likes to be the one in control.
Me too. I'll notice something that could maybe be fixed/improved (eg. recently the team was feeling very frustrated with the timing of when everyone takes their breaks--since we work in customer service, we have to time our breaks so that there's enough people still to serve the customers--and I was like "Hmm, maybe we could change it a little bit," so I thought about it, then came up with a new system where we switched a few of the breaks so it felt more fair, and literally the ENTIRE team was on board with the idea when I told them about it. Our regular shift lead was on vacation, so our assistant manager (who is technically higher up in the hierarchy than our shift lead) was filling in, and he gave the idea two thumbs up and told me to start implementing it. Then, when our shift lead came back from vacation, I asked her if the assistant manager had told her our new way of doing breaks, and she was like "Yeah, but it's too confusing, we're not doing it." I pointed out that we'd been doing it for three weeks now, ever since she'd gone on vacation, and it would be even more confusing if we switched it again, but she was just like "no, we're doing it my way.") I literally brought her a problem (the frontline staff were feeling frustrated about who got to take a break when) and a solution (as simple as switching the order of the breaks just a little bit so the person who had to give other people their breaks could get to everyone faster) and she just didn't care. She's the kind of manager who's just like "It's my way or the highway, take it or leave it." She also tends to micromanage us instead of empowering us with the tools we need to do our jobs successfully and then trusting us to do what we have to. It doesn't help that when she got promoted, we had three veteran staff members who were all interested in being shift lead, including me, but instead of giving all three of us equal consideration, our manager basically handpicked her and didn't even make the application process available to the other two of us. The other employee who got passed over has since left our team, and I'm very close to following suit and getting a new job because it's really grating on my mental health.
The assumption of this video is that you're boss is a good boss. This isn't true of a lot of people. Lots of manages compete with their subordinates especially ones who they think could overtake them. Or your boss sucks at their job. I need to watch how to manage a boss that sucks...
I don't think you're going to like this POV but the fact is, Your boss IS in control. He's the BOSS. He's the one accountable for the team's results, has to report up when goals aren't met and take the 'beatings.' Do you have evidence that the boss intends to do the opposite of what you recommend? Why? If he does, perhaps there's a more serious trust issue than you realize, both ways. Have you been able to have a conversation with examples and say something like, "I'd really to understand how you're seeing things so differently than I do."
no offense but your reasoning is great for a fair boss. but most bosses in the corporate world are highly insecure and love to use and abuse. and they like to keep you away from their boss, because if their boss sees you can do their job as good as them (potentially down the road). that boss could be out of a job as the bosses could save money by giving their job to you. companies don't have any loyalty to anyone. and hence why i say work for the company on your pace so when they let you go, you go home without getting hurt.
My previous manager was a but person , no matter what you did to succeed he always mentioned but , therefore it depends of what kind of person tje manager is... the only way to deal with insecure managers is leaving the company...
That doesn't sound bad at all. It seems like a reasonable way to receive constructive criticism. Meanwhile one of my manager literally yells at me in the middle of a rush on a consistent basis.
I would worry less about them “loving” me which it comes down to it they are looking out for self and will use you. Prestige is not all that. More money more problems.
@@GiGiChosen Very true. This video is more or less for corporate simps. The premise on which the channel is built is only for specific types of ppl with intention of having a long career in the corporate world. Her advice is not necessarily ethical.
Been an assistant manager for 8 years been passed up many times and we as managers get moved to different stores every few years. It gets tiring that I have to keep on proving myself to mangers when I have a new manager ever 2 years or so.
I think this is hands down the worst employment advice on youtube. The boss should never complain to their employees that they are "too busy" for issues. It's their job, they are specifically there to take on the business risk and allocate tasks and finalise decision making. You should never approach your leader with a fix, the liability belongs to them because it's their role within the business and they are compensated very well for it. Sorry, but you're completely deluded if you think this is a role of a manager or that this behaviour will "progress" your career.
How to manage your Boss. (with translation)
1. Help them advance in their careers. (Don't try to advance your career.)
2. Solve the problems they need to solve. (Take on their responsibilities.)
3. Take work off their plates. (Do their job for them.)
4. Make them look good. ( Let them take credit for all of your good ideas, and take the blame for their bad ideas.)
5. Use positive reinforcement and make them feel good. (Kiss ass.)
6. Don't complain. (Be a doormat.)
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omg LOL very good translation
This video was a total joke
I found this video very helpful. Took notes.
Be a doormat make them look good HAHA
Thank you for this content. I think this is too focused on making your manager happy, but what about the employee. I am not looking to take things off my manager’s plate. It leads to burnout and no work life balance. I am experiencing that now, unfortunately. I am considered a “top performer” so while I do have a lot of autonomy and have high levels of responsibility, I’ve had to “manage my manager” by managing their unrealistic expectations. Managers need to realize that people want a life outside of work and need balance.
Then a lot of this video applies, like giving them a positive identity to live up to (an empathetic leader who cares for their team).
But your real issue is boundaries. That starts with you, my friend.
@@JenniferBrick YES! Agreed. Do you have any suggestions. I’ve already decided no more weekends and I will not work past a certain time M-F. They will have to prioritize what they need done and everything else will carry over to the next day. I’ve already had the “hard conversation.”
I have at least one video on work life boundaries here... Let me find for you 🥰
@@GiGiChosen i hear your problem. the problem is many upper management is an old boys club. there is a clear inner circle and rest of the employees. i just suggest keep working hard and focus on your work. i don't suggest taking on new work from boss unless that is something being done as part of your work during business hours. if working past 5p happens more than 2 days in a row, talk to your boss. if they don't want to talk about head out at 5p. luckily for me i would packup at 445p and am out on the road at 5p. for me working past 5p is just a form of indentured slavery. younger crowd gets it.
@@asadb1990 Thank you so much. I’ve already implemented changes. There’s a certain amount of OT required for my job which is fine, but I had the “difficult conversations” talk in my review, which was great. I stated that moving forward, it was a necessity for work life balance and I could no longer work weekends and after 5 pm. I am willing to be flexible, but what I am not willing to do is to be used and burnout. It’s not worth it. I have dreams and aspirations outside of the job and if I am working all the time. I cannot fulfill what needs to be done. I don’t see myself just working for someone the rest of my life. I have a great, lucrative career with high earnings, but I need more me time. I agree with you and Trust me, January 4th, I will be implementing.
I like and agree to most suggestions given in this video, 1 additional pro tip : if your boss is truly terrible it's time to move on. No training, no managing up, across, left, right will work
A tip for anyone who is skilled at Excel or great at spreadsheets: unless you're in a few specific industries/workplaces, there are people in your company that are struggling with their spreadsheets.
There are some great tips here. It would be helpful to give some example of HOW to implement each one of these tips.
Sometimes these can be misconstrued as sucking up and managers manipulate and take advantage of employees who suck up.
I'm so grateful I saw your video when I did. I watched this earlier this morning, and then today I had to take an arrow for my boss. This video had me prepared. Thank you.
I know that you're right about giving bosses positive reinforcement. But I feel like my soul is dying when I have to compliment a toxic boss who mistreats me. I guess the key is to just see work as a game and not to be authentic or truthful. Which kinda sucks.
This is going to sound so bad... but I think of it as training them. Like, don't compliment them on how they're mistreating you - but on the things they do well. Makes your life easier, helps them become a better human, it's win win (and yes I know it would be better if people just knew how to human properly in the first place, but we're not gonna change that).
@@JenniferBrick Great point. Focus on something you authentically CAN compliment them on. If you can't find anything, then it's really time to move on.
1:05 This advice seems logical but cultivating this kind of idea, wouldnt it eventually make them both shallow and superficial? as they will know it too, they are smartass.
I wouldnt want my managers/bosses ask me questions to make me LOOK good.(also theres no reason to do it.) I would want them ask me questions to make me become good. I believe so vice versa..
I bring my boss solutions, and he will do the opposite. He will do anything other than what I have suggested as an efficient solution. He likes to be the one in control.
Me too. I'll notice something that could maybe be fixed/improved (eg. recently the team was feeling very frustrated with the timing of when everyone takes their breaks--since we work in customer service, we have to time our breaks so that there's enough people still to serve the customers--and I was like "Hmm, maybe we could change it a little bit," so I thought about it, then came up with a new system where we switched a few of the breaks so it felt more fair, and literally the ENTIRE team was on board with the idea when I told them about it. Our regular shift lead was on vacation, so our assistant manager (who is technically higher up in the hierarchy than our shift lead) was filling in, and he gave the idea two thumbs up and told me to start implementing it. Then, when our shift lead came back from vacation, I asked her if the assistant manager had told her our new way of doing breaks, and she was like "Yeah, but it's too confusing, we're not doing it." I pointed out that we'd been doing it for three weeks now, ever since she'd gone on vacation, and it would be even more confusing if we switched it again, but she was just like "no, we're doing it my way.") I literally brought her a problem (the frontline staff were feeling frustrated about who got to take a break when) and a solution (as simple as switching the order of the breaks just a little bit so the person who had to give other people their breaks could get to everyone faster) and she just didn't care. She's the kind of manager who's just like "It's my way or the highway, take it or leave it." She also tends to micromanage us instead of empowering us with the tools we need to do our jobs successfully and then trusting us to do what we have to. It doesn't help that when she got promoted, we had three veteran staff members who were all interested in being shift lead, including me, but instead of giving all three of us equal consideration, our manager basically handpicked her and didn't even make the application process available to the other two of us. The other employee who got passed over has since left our team, and I'm very close to following suit and getting a new job because it's really grating on my mental health.
The assumption of this video is that you're boss is a good boss. This isn't true of a lot of people. Lots of manages compete with their subordinates especially ones who they think could overtake them. Or your boss sucks at their job. I need to watch how to manage a boss that sucks...
I don't think you're going to like this POV but the fact is, Your boss IS in control. He's the BOSS. He's the one accountable for the team's results, has to report up when goals aren't met and take the 'beatings.' Do you have evidence that the boss intends to do the opposite of what you recommend? Why? If he does, perhaps there's a more serious trust issue than you realize, both ways. Have you been able to have a conversation with examples and say something like, "I'd really to understand how you're seeing things so differently than I do."
no offense but your reasoning is great for a fair boss. but most bosses in the corporate world are highly insecure and love to use and abuse. and they like to keep you away from their boss, because if their boss sees you can do their job as good as them (potentially down the road). that boss could be out of a job as the bosses could save money by giving their job to you. companies don't have any loyalty to anyone. and hence why i say work for the company on your pace so when they let you go, you go home without getting hurt.
This is very true. I ain’t taking work off their plate. Please. That’s what they get paid top dollar to do
@@GiGiChosen yeah sad so many career advisors don't want to face the elephant in the room. and many times its not you.
That’s a very good suggestion
Thanks for the content! Just a quedtion. What does FOMO stand for? I loved the idea about scarcity, but I didn't get the point.
It's fear of missing out 🙃
@@JenniferBrick Thanks! Now that's clear.
Could you provide an example of who this would look like in the workplace with your manager, Jennifer? I'm still struggling to understand that point.
My previous manager was a but person , no matter what you did to succeed he always mentioned but , therefore it depends of what kind of person tje manager is... the only way to deal with insecure managers is leaving the company...
That doesn't sound bad at all. It seems like a reasonable way to receive constructive criticism. Meanwhile one of my manager literally yells at me in the middle of a rush on a consistent basis.
Jennifer, I would love to be clear/ understand “How does my ask make them look good?”
Would you PLEASE explain this point?
Figure out what's in it for them. If you map to something that is important to them / that they care about, it's easier for them to support.
Ohhhhh, yes! Their WIFM !
Thank you.
Thanks for the video.
I would love to have my boss love me :-) . Prestige is a key ! No Problems please !
I would worry less about them “loving” me which it comes down to it they are looking out for self and will use you. Prestige is not all that. More money more problems.
@@GiGiChosen Very true. This video is more or less for corporate simps. The premise on which the channel is built is only for specific types of ppl with intention of having a long career in the corporate world. Her advice is not necessarily ethical.
i would love my boss to be transparent and honest with me. give me a heads up when i should leave and tell me if i deserve better.
Been an assistant manager for 8 years been passed up many times and we as managers get moved to different stores every few years. It gets tiring that I have to keep on proving myself to mangers when I have a new manager ever 2 years or so.
What if your manager just rip you off and you get psychologically effected by being a doormat?
I have to tell you positive reenforcement comment - rofl
I'm pointing out that they want to be "king turd on shit mountain." I'm fixing to go for it. Don't make $$'s anyway. 🙄
Make my boss love me, lol, not gonna happen
I just unsubscribed so I could resubscribe, started to fomo on all this subscribe button clicking going on
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I think this is hands down the worst employment advice on youtube. The boss should never complain to their employees that they are "too busy" for issues. It's their job, they are specifically there to take on the business risk and allocate tasks and finalise decision making. You should never approach your leader with a fix, the liability belongs to them because it's their role within the business and they are compensated very well for it. Sorry, but you're completely deluded if you think this is a role of a manager or that this behaviour will "progress" your career.
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