This is exactly what I wanted to comment. Not generalize cause obviously not all ballerinas experience this, it’s so common that they get pressured into being so unhealthily thin that their menstrual cycle stops. Which is insane.
@@alexmiguel351🤯 that absolutely is probably one of the reasons why there’s so much shame and abuse around periods. It’s a fact that you don’t menstrate when you’re stressed and have a low body weight. It’s just a covert way to indirectly force students to lose weight.
It cute that you think that would matter You may as well just turn over your feet cuz there's no way any school or teacher or director would look at you twice if you did that
@@medicaoctavia8002she wouldn’t need it anyway after the lawsuit. Especially since social media is a thing now so that definitely would gain a lot of attention in her favor
I had an abusive coach in figure skating who did the exact same thing to me. Except it was on my leggings and if I left she would revoke my lessons for the week so I did the entire practice in tears and utterly embarrassed. I was 11.
If you didn't sue or atleast get them fired I'm concerned about the other young girls who got the same treatment. That teacher better be in the dirt or in a jail
o my gosh thats the worst story i ever heard, im so so sorry for you, im glad my teachers were great but i didnt do ballet professionally for long ,so they were more chill
If you're a child and this happens, leave anyway, clean up, and tell any trusted adult about the situation to get their help, especially a parent, if they will go to bat for you. If you're an adult, a visit to whoever runs the school after you've gone to the bathroom is the best thing to do.
This happens in regular schools too, and parents often side with the teachers. Even in life or death situations the teachers can refuse things and the kid gets punished.
Yeah, that’s where I’d be secretly live streaming and tagging a large news organization and political representatives of the state you are in, along with the dean of students, any board members you can think of, and the teachers/leadership involved in allowing uncontrolled menstrual blood to leak out if a vagina all over shared dance studios after refusing a bathroom break to insert a damn tampon or menstrual cup-five minutes to clean up and change vs however long it takes the poor custodian to clean up a biohazard……..nothing like a little public shaming, forcing school to explain why they are violating basic human rights, women’s rights, and hygiene standards, and discriminating against students whose bodies are doing what they were biologically designed to do, to a relentless media intent on milking a story like that for all it’s worth, dragging any gynecologist willing to share their expert opinions and discuss the public health/sanitation risks involved in allowing others to dance in human uterine tissue, mucous, and blood; lawmakers or lawyers to go over the list of labor violations, student rights violations, public health violations; mental health professionals to discuss the extreme mental duress and trauma that can cause to young girls athletes and dancers still forced to train in toxic, unhealthy training environments after all the scandals (particularly USA Gymnastics Larry Nasser scandal that led to the USA Gymnastics Karolyi scandal with their abusive training methods-overtraining, forcing young girls to train with injuries, restricting access to healthy food that fuels bodies in high impact, extreme sports, period shaming and even pushing for girls to engage in practices meant to disrupt and eliminate menstruating all together)…..and the moment they attempt to retaliate in any way, they’d find themselves in a massive legal sh!t storm and public calls to oust current leadership, instructors and board members who allowed that to happen, because if that happened with you, it’s happened to others, and likely worse! Now is the time for public accountability and for these systemic changes to be forced! Remaining silent and complacent allows this type of behavior to continue unchecked, and not every young dancer that is subjected to that will be able to endure it unaffected. This type of abuse leads to a loss of love for the craft, and it hurts the industry as a whole! Hold their feet to the fire! I’d also ask the female instructor when the last time she was forced to bleed from her Vagina and refused access to a bathroom and a necessary break, and how comfortable she would be once period waste ran down her legs into her point shoes, or how comfortable she would be forced to dance in someone else’s period blood?! That this video resulted in multiple shared stories of solidarity from others exposed to this type of abuse just pisses me off! This is why athletes/dancers in industries like this need to have access to liaisons and legal representation intended to protect the rights, health and safety of the athletes/dancers and preventing systemic abuses from going unchecked!
Do you all not know about Hazmat and OSHA??!! Your at a school ffs! Not a concentration camp! That's a human rights violation! And you PAY for this "honor" elephants in a circus get more respect!
No don't ever clean up (do hide it when moving through the school though if you feel it would be necessary) show the higher authority what they didn't allow you to fix, them seeing the state you're in will improve your chances of success as its more immediate and visceral.
Yeah I wouldn’t go to the bathroom I would go get the dean. Have them follow me back to her class just to have him listen outside the door to make her say the same shit again.
Years ago, i worked at McDonald's. I basically had to try and "hold it in" for hours since my period started right after my shift started. I had to fight passing out the whole time, and my boss was female. This treatment is sickening.
That is insane.. Hearing these stories from the people in the comment section who went through a similar situation and experience makes me think that those who do this to other people are unhygienic themselves. Its sad to think that even girls,WOMAN,who think like men. Hope you heal well from this traumatic situation ❤
This makes me realize how sick some women are against to other women. It's not always men, I think half of discriminating population consists of women. The internet is a proof.
Why does getting your period make you pass out?? Please go to a Dr. You probably have cysts in your ovaries . The sooner you get treated the better it could cause infertility in the future .I know from experience
@vianeyboruel504 I didn't actually pass out, but was fighting not to. I've only experienced this with periods maybe twice, idr the other time aside from it being a vaguely similar scenario of pretty much trying to hold it in. The pain was no more than typical periods. I also have occasional hypoglycemia and pretty bad GAD. It's highly likely that those and embarrassment/frustration (or even muscle fatigue from trying to hold a kegal for hours) alone were the issue since in 18 years of menstruation this type of scenario is the only time I've nearly passed out relating to my period. The passing out struggle went away as soon as I was able to stop holding a d@mn kegal for hours on end.
"Ok, I'll take the absence. While I'm absent, I'll visit the deans office. I'm sure he would love to hear the reason for the absence being that my teacher refused to let me use the bathroom. Au revoir."
@@Eucajuhor just not believe the student as the teacher would probably deny it. Or the teacher wouldn’t deny it but say that the student was disrespectful and that’s why she put the absence. Also the risk of being hated by that teacher for the rest of the year would not be worth it
I am a Teaching assistant in a school, and the battles that girls have to have with their teachers sometimes is beyond a joke. Like, to the point where I go and speak to the doctor, that unless YOU like to clean dry blood from chairs, let her go, or at least let me let her go. Seriously, if an adult is not there to advocate for a girl in these situations, they get brutally shamed for being born a woman... 😖😖😖 Just fu.cking let them go, and if they don't come back or miss something important, let that be their problem, but don't CREATE another problem when they already have a huge one, they will learn even less. 😑
I have been in several performance industries and the amount of pure hate some teachers have toward students is insane. I once had a extremely heavy period and was forced to stay in class for 7 hours. My blood was smeared everywhere on the floor and seats and the teacher, performance director and the performance master just acted like they couldnt see it. Edit: Thanks for the advices and kind comment guys! I was around 11-12 at the time and preparing to perform in a world tour with many other child actors. We were under complete control by those adults, all except one were adult men, the only female present was 25, she cannot do much either, because the performance director at that time and the company I was associated with was huge, worth billions. I still don’t know if I could speak about this publicly with names and stuff without disappearing afterwards 😥 so yeah thats that. Please be careful when sending children into performance industries, there are monsters iut there
Oh man thats so ridiculously unhygienic. Not the womens fault but the fault of the crazy "teachers" who think periods can he held in. Hope cleaning all that taught them a lesson😂
@@kelsey2333 The teacher was a woman but she felt like she couldn’t say stuff infront of the performance master (He was one of the best in our country) And they didn’t even clean it the poor cleaning lady did 😕😕 Luckily I was one of the oldest and most people in that class did not understand what ‘period’ was which made things a bit easier on that day, they all thought I was injured or sth. It sucks to see so many people go through this
They tried to do that to my sister once. She deadass told the instructor that she is fine with bleeding all over the barre and she understands that she hasn't had her period in so long, the instructor might not remember the struggle. They tried to kick her out for that but hell no, girl spit facts! xD Edit: Thank you so much for over 10k likes, I never had this many before! I showed this comment to my sister and she's laughed for a *while!* xD She seriously couldn't believe how many people liked it. xD Y'all have a good day/night/timezone :D
@@user-ql5wm2wv3h Just noticed that my answer somehow got removed? Anyway she got suspended for a week. That teacher never stopped anyone from going to the bathroom again though- xD
I used to be a gymnast and I actually *started* my period while training. I had a wonderful coach that let me know and told me they had pads in the bathroom cabinet. Then a fellow teammate was nice enough to let me borrow her gym shorts. I was already panicking enough at that moment. I can’t imagine any coach not allowing a girl (or an *ADULT* woman for that matter) to be excused to use the bathroom. I continued ballet and dance until my early twenties and never once saw anyone being told they couldn’t be allowed to use the bathroom. That’s just disgusting! And I had a few tough as hell Soviet/Eastern bloc coaches back in the day. This is a power trip on another level.
i feel like it's also pointless? a lot of strict rules i can understand even though i don't always think they're justified or right. but a student bleeding all over their clothing is achieving absolutely nothing except to make them feel bad and probably learn less because of that.
@@overgrownkudzuFor a narcissist like this lowlife instructor, who probably had to blow the dean to get her job, the point is she resents anyone with actual talent and so tries to make herself feel worth something more than the nothing she knows deep down she is...all by winning some power trip against a respectful kid. No one else respects her, she doesnt even respect herself. So she tries to infect everyone with her own self hatred. That's the only real point of psychotic behaviour like this. A desperate attempt to feel superior.
I was a gymnast and had the same experience. We were all there to support each other - coaches AND gymnasts were all there for me and of course always let me use the restroom. I even got a tearful goodbye when my parents divorced and I got too depressed and anxious to continue. My coach told me she went through a hard time too and she felt for me and we cried together and hugged. I don’t know why these dance coaches are so cruel.
@@KallieMae Right? One of the best things about (most gyms) is that we looked out for each other like a supportive, close family. I remember severely fracturing my foot on vault and my coach picked me up, threw me over his shoulders and carried me to the front to have it iced until my dad could come pick me up and take me to the ER. It’s kind of funny when I look back on it. “Coach Morgan put me down NOW!” 🤣
Yeah, if I was a girl at the same group and had to work on equipment that has period blood on it... 😨 I would make it impossible for the teacher to teach. 😡 She would miss 10 minutes max, just let her go... -_______________-'''''''''
I dislocated my knee and had a brace on but hadn't been able to get to the doc yet. I asked my teacher if I could do modified versions of what we were doing that day and she said I'd never make it in dance with that attitude. She's right. I didn't. I didn't want to be in that sort of environment anymore.
Good for you. I've heard parents bragging about their kids training gymnastics with broken toes. Who the hell are you going to impress by risking ending up crippled? Your damn 10-year-old isn't going to win the Olympics.
Already the fact that in a college class/as an adult you have to ask the teacher for permission to go to the bathroom is telling something is not ok with than whole environment/system. Len alone the fact you were not permitted to go, that's abuse in my view🤬
From my experience (in US, studying education and later radiologic tech), you typically don't. Professors just assume you are using the bathroom if you get up and leave for a few minutes. They don't really care.
My favorite was a male dance teacher (older gentleman from Romania) who accepted zero excuses for anything until the last week when he said that women should not attend ballet class while on their period because their bodies needed rest.... you could feel the internal WTF from everyone 😑
This is what my teacher is like. I don’t dance, i sing, but she will accept absolutely no excuses for a bad voice day. Sometime about a week before my final exam i was feeling really sick to the point i almost couldn’t stand and she asked me what was the problem and when i told her she started yelling at me for how stupid i was trying to sing when on my period😐 She wouldn’t even let me have a day off if i had a cold or smth
it’s crazy how the TINIEST bit of authority changes how people are fundamentally. which changes how think about and act with their fellow human. it’s literally not possible to hold it in. it’s involuntary & “happens to you” essentially
Why are teachers like this? What does it accomplish? What is the motivation other than being cruel and controlling? I can understand that discipline is important in ballet but this is a situation that deserves compassion.
That’s absolutely insane!! The fact that a female teacher would do that to you is even more egregious. I’m sorry you had to go through that I hope the other students had your back after class was over.
I was being taught by the principal once and at the start of class I let her know I needed to leave 15 mins into class to go to an appointment with the in-house physiotherapist. She said okay. I went and stood in the corner closest to the clock and propped it up so I could see it. She said she doesn't allow clocks in class. It was like... I just told you I need to leave in 15 mins, did you want me to time that in my head?
I had a teacher back in 92 that wouldn't let me go to the bathroom and when I tried to tell him that it was urgent that I go the LADIES room for a LADIES problem. He ignored me. End of class I loudly dragged my bloody seat up to his desk and walked out. *shrug. Aspie no shame for the win!
Know what? Women keep having to fight for things that should just be automatic. But keep fighting. When I was in 6th grade girls couldn’t wear pants in school. A public school! We got the vote, USE it this November. Change the world. We can do it together!
@@starkiddancer93 to the authorities in the college I assume? Also, this is definitely NOT accepted in the dancing community, but then again I'm a hip hop dancer, don't have much idea about theatrical dance community Regardless this type of dehumanizing behaviour should not be tolerated anywhere
this is just completely inhumane, there HAS to be rules set in place so that teachers cannot abuse their students and their power like this. and there has to be some way to report their behavior so they can get fired.
That’s a good exercise to test your auto-esteem and how you get take care of yourself. Or also training you to give up the control of yourself to strangers.
It's a power/control thing. Some people feel an extreme need to have power and control over others. They might flex that power in harmful ways, just to demonstrate that they have it.
You are nicer than me!!! As a college student I have learned to file a grievance form quickly and often. This professor would’ve gotten 3 from this interaction.
I wasn’t allowed to go to the bathroom for my period in elementary school (got mine at 9, they didn’t know how to handle it but f them) and so I bled and vomited everywhere. Then they let me go and the teacher said he thought I was faking at first
Wonder if the teacher is just used to dancers not having periods. If you're mean enough to your body, like starving it, your body shuts that department down.
That's crazy. I had my first period yesterday and I'm so happy it happened a week after the start of summer break. I need to figure myself out before going back to school😭
Welcome to the " womanhood " club lol what I told my daughter was always carry pads with you because when you first get ur period it will be irregular usually but then after awhile get most in consistent pattern so just every day you have it nark a dot on yr calendar
I hope you’re okay! my advice is ask your parents if they can buy you feminine heating pads (they’re designed for cramps and you can attach it to your underwear, they get super hot) always have two ready in your bag with paracetamol/ibuprofen and some pads. Period trackers are a holy grail too, I use Flo and it’s really good at tracking cycles!
@R5ForeverXx thanks for the advice. I have occasional stomach pain from my sickle cell disease so I'm wondering if I'll even be able to tell the difference lol. I'll use pain meds for sure though.
I'd add to the advice above that if you have, for example, a locker at school, then maybe have a clean pair of underpants and trousers (or a skirt or whatever you wear) permanently stashed there. I think, especially during the first years, it's easy to have an accident; all people who get periods that I've talked to about it have all had one at some point (myself included). So if you do happen to get an unfortunate leak (which is fine, as said, happens to us all), having clean clothes to change into eliminates several stressors in an already stressful situation. (Hell, I still tend to have a change of clothes with me when at work.) If your school does uniforms and you can't spare an extra one for the locker, then just have some regular clothes there. If an accident happens, change into them, and go to the office/nurse/wherever works for you, explain the situation and ask if they could write a uniform pass for you for the rest of the day, so that you don't have to explain yourself out loud to every teacher in front of the class.
Welcome to the club sis :') I think you may already know but Girl code 101: If a girl/woman, whoever it is, needs a pad, you give her a spare. It doesn't matter who she is, could be your enemy, doesn't matter. Also, don't hesitate to ask your girl friends to check if you have a stain. And always let others know if they have one as well. But you probably already know that lol.
I always think gymnastics is brutal and then I hear the horror stories from ballet and I am so happy I chose gymnastics over ballet. I will never understand how women can be so cruel to other women/girls when they (most likely) also dealt with periods.
Lifeguard at a summer camp with required swim lessons for grades 4-8. We told the male guards (16-17 year old boys) that if any girls said they couldn't swim that day don't ask questions and send them right to one of the female guards (who happened to all be young adults). We bent over backwards to make sure the girls were not embarrassed and their needs were taken care of. Can't imagine doing this to anyone.
this kind of dance bullying is something I've faced many times. Unnecessary. You can be a great dancer, have great work ethic and even despite these, still deserve to be treated like a HUMAN with DIGNITY. Who hurt you?!
My daughter wasn't allowed to go, so she simply informed the teacher that he had a bloody chair to clean before the next class. He was new, but learned really quick!
That dance teacher is ridiculous girl I would have just taken a late and went straight to whoever owns the principal whoever is in charge of the dance studio and tell them exactly what happened.
As a man, stories like these are always crazy to me, but I think the worst part is that usually the one shaming is another woman, why? A woman should understand this better
Lucky my teachers are really nice, but wherever I go if I'm due for my period soon I wear period undies so that if it does start I don't have to have an embarrassing situation if I start! Plus they're super comfy and eco friendly, you can endlessly reuse them.
Eco friendly kinda depends on the brand (and some big name brands have been found to have toxic chemicals) so do some research if that's important to you
That is disgusting behaviour from a woman who is supposed to be a role model to young dancers. I know ballet teachers are tough but forcing you to dance in your own blood that is visibly leaking through your tights is absolutely unacceptable. You deserved better ❤
Ok, i know y’all are expected to sacrifice and be uncomfortable to push through and do some of the crazy athletic things you do, but that it so disrespectful for teachers to do, also a bit of a betrayal for a woman to do that. 😢
Please tell me you reported this professor? Any professor that does this should be stripped of their tenure or teaching license that’s not only abusive that’s unhygienic and cruel.
They think every ballerina has an Ed and doesn't get their periods
This is exactly what I wanted to comment. Not generalize cause obviously not all ballerinas experience this, it’s so common that they get pressured into being so unhealthily thin that their menstrual cycle stops. Which is insane.
@@alexmiguel351🤯 that absolutely is probably one of the reasons why there’s so much shame and abuse around periods. It’s a fact that you don’t menstrate when you’re stressed and have a low body weight. It’s just a covert way to indirectly force students to lose weight.
На хуй балет, девочки.
I never thought that, their man’s name may be completely different, they might be into women or single!
@@LorelleJustice huh tf
Fun fact: under title 9 this would be considered gender based discrimination, if you ever encounter this situation go to the dean.
It cute that you think that would matter
You may as well just turn over your feet cuz there's no way any school or teacher or director would look at you twice if you did that
Exactly!!! People should know their rights !! School or job. It's illegal. Part of your civil rights
@@3katfoxdon't worry - the lawsuits she would win would more than make up for any rejection.
@@jonathanhibberd9983not if she can never get into a dance school again. A dream deferred and all.
@@medicaoctavia8002she wouldn’t need it anyway after the lawsuit. Especially since social media is a thing now so that definitely would gain a lot of attention in her favor
This is a "could I get that in writing" moment
They will say NO ,of course
YES💯
Pin this shit fr
Exactly
I had an abusive coach in figure skating who did the exact same thing to me. Except it was on my leggings and if I left she would revoke my lessons for the week so I did the entire practice in tears and utterly embarrassed. I was 11.
If you didn't sue or atleast get them fired I'm concerned about the other young girls who got the same treatment. That teacher better be in the dirt or in a jail
That sounds awful! Your coach being a woman should have understood that that’s things are out of your control and not humiliated you like that!
o my gosh thats the worst story i ever heard, im so so sorry for you, im glad my teachers were great but i didnt do ballet professionally for long ,so they were more chill
@@kldc2156 haha that was the tip of the iceberg. She was involved in a horrible controversy and her coaching membership is revoked
So sorry this happened to you. There are some true sadists out there working with kids.
Okay cool, I'll just be over here BLEEDING ON THE BARRE.
Fr thou 🤦🏾♀️
… And down my leg into the floor, oh, and plz don’t mind the smell; well, here, I’ll stand next to you teacher!
My petty self depending on how angry this made me at the time would've been marking everything
Same like that's on her so she probably won't say anything
Pretty sure that’s not up to standard for any public place.
If you're a child and this happens, leave anyway, clean up, and tell any trusted adult about the situation to get their help, especially a parent, if they will go to bat for you. If you're an adult, a visit to whoever runs the school after you've gone to the bathroom is the best thing to do.
the dean would side with the teacher for pretty much every ballet institution. dancers aren't people to them, they're income.
This happens in regular schools too, and parents often side with the teachers.
Even in life or death situations the teachers can refuse things and the kid gets punished.
Yeah, that’s where I’d be secretly live streaming and tagging a large news organization and political representatives of the state you are in, along with the dean of students, any board members you can think of, and the teachers/leadership involved in allowing uncontrolled menstrual blood to leak out if a vagina all over shared dance studios after refusing a bathroom break to insert a damn tampon or menstrual cup-five minutes to clean up and change vs however long it takes the poor custodian to clean up a biohazard……..nothing like a little public shaming, forcing school to explain why they are violating basic human rights, women’s rights, and hygiene standards, and discriminating against students whose bodies are doing what they were biologically designed to do, to a relentless media intent on milking a story like that for all it’s worth, dragging any gynecologist willing to share their expert opinions and discuss the public health/sanitation risks involved in allowing others to dance in human uterine tissue, mucous, and blood; lawmakers or lawyers to go over the list of labor violations, student rights violations, public health violations; mental health professionals to discuss the extreme mental duress and trauma that can cause to young girls athletes and dancers still forced to train in toxic, unhealthy training environments after all the scandals (particularly USA Gymnastics Larry Nasser scandal that led to the USA Gymnastics Karolyi scandal with their abusive training methods-overtraining, forcing young girls to train with injuries, restricting access to healthy food that fuels bodies in high impact, extreme sports, period shaming and even pushing for girls to engage in practices meant to disrupt and eliminate menstruating all together)…..and the moment they attempt to retaliate in any way, they’d find themselves in a massive legal sh!t storm and public calls to oust current leadership, instructors and board members who allowed that to happen, because if that happened with you, it’s happened to others, and likely worse! Now is the time for public accountability and for these systemic changes to be forced! Remaining silent and complacent allows this type of behavior to continue unchecked, and not every young dancer that is subjected to that will be able to endure it unaffected. This type of abuse leads to a loss of love for the craft, and it hurts the industry as a whole! Hold their feet to the fire! I’d also ask the female instructor when the last time she was forced to bleed from her Vagina and refused access to a bathroom and a necessary break, and how comfortable she would be once period waste ran down her legs into her point shoes, or how comfortable she would be forced to dance in someone else’s period blood?! That this video resulted in multiple shared stories of solidarity from others exposed to this type of abuse just pisses me off! This is why athletes/dancers in industries like this need to have access to liaisons and legal representation intended to protect the rights, health and safety of the athletes/dancers and preventing systemic abuses from going unchecked!
Do you all not know about Hazmat and OSHA??!! Your at a school ffs! Not a concentration camp! That's a human rights violation! And you PAY for this "honor" elephants in a circus get more respect!
No don't ever clean up (do hide it when moving through the school though if you feel it would be necessary) show the higher authority what they didn't allow you to fix, them seeing the state you're in will improve your chances of success as its more immediate and visceral.
Oh, ok, I will be visiting the dean.
That would be my immediate actiom
@@shortylucy yeah gen z definitely won’t be dealing with any of this type of shit cause those teachers are gonna get fired fast af
@@squishyushiI’m a 23 year old gen z so I already missed out on that change. Maybe gen alpha
@@squishyushiidk man, no one my age has the balls to stand up to authority :/ even if they're asking for it
Yeah I wouldn’t go to the bathroom I would go get the dean. Have them follow me back to her class just to have him listen outside the door to make her say the same shit again.
Years ago, i worked at McDonald's. I basically had to try and "hold it in" for hours since my period started right after my shift started. I had to fight passing out the whole time, and my boss was female. This treatment is sickening.
That is insane..
Hearing these stories from the people in the comment section who went through a similar situation and experience makes me think that those who do this to other people are unhygienic themselves.
Its sad to think that even girls,WOMAN,who think like men.
Hope you heal well from this traumatic situation ❤
I think they are punishing because the person is on their time and it is holding things up or something. Or just completely evil.
This makes me realize how sick some women are against to other women. It's not always men, I think half of discriminating population consists of women. The internet is a proof.
Why does getting your period make you pass out?? Please go to a Dr. You probably have cysts in your ovaries . The sooner you get treated the better it could cause infertility in the future .I know from experience
@vianeyboruel504 I didn't actually pass out, but was fighting not to. I've only experienced this with periods maybe twice, idr the other time aside from it being a vaguely similar scenario of pretty much trying to hold it in. The pain was no more than typical periods. I also have occasional hypoglycemia and pretty bad GAD. It's highly likely that those and embarrassment/frustration (or even muscle fatigue from trying to hold a kegal for hours) alone were the issue since in 18 years of menstruation this type of scenario is the only time I've nearly passed out relating to my period. The passing out struggle went away as soon as I was able to stop holding a d@mn kegal for hours on end.
"Ok, I'll take the absence. While I'm absent, I'll visit the deans office. I'm sure he would love to hear the reason for the absence being that my teacher refused to let me use the bathroom. Au revoir."
He would probably agree with the teacher, ballet is a savage sport
@@EucajuhThat's insane
@@Eucajuhthen you go above the dean. There is such thing as basic rules and regulations, especially for PAYING students
@@Eucajuhor just not believe the student as the teacher would probably deny it. Or the teacher wouldn’t deny it but say that the student was disrespectful and that’s why she put the absence. Also the risk of being hated by that teacher for the rest of the year would not be worth it
@@Eucajuh and my lawyer and agree with me and the basic human rights 😊
I'm an admin at a school, this kind of crap that instructors pull is ridiculous and incredibly embarrassing for the school.
I am a Teaching assistant in a school, and the battles that girls have to have with their teachers sometimes is beyond a joke. Like, to the point where I go and speak to the doctor, that unless YOU like to clean dry blood from chairs, let her go, or at least let me let her go.
Seriously, if an adult is not there to advocate for a girl in these situations, they get brutally shamed for being born a woman... 😖😖😖 Just fu.cking let them go, and if they don't come back or miss something important, let that be their problem, but don't CREATE another problem when they already have a huge one, they will learn even less. 😑
I have been in several performance industries and the amount of pure hate some teachers have toward students is insane. I once had a extremely heavy period and was forced to stay in class for 7 hours. My blood was smeared everywhere on the floor and seats and the teacher, performance director and the performance master just acted like they couldnt see it.
Edit: Thanks for the advices and kind comment guys! I was around 11-12 at the time and preparing to perform in a world tour with many other child actors. We were under complete control by those adults, all except one were adult men, the only female present was 25, she cannot do much either, because the performance director at that time and the company I was associated with was huge, worth billions. I still don’t know if I could speak about this publicly with names and stuff without disappearing afterwards 😥 so yeah thats that. Please be careful when sending children into performance industries, there are monsters iut there
Oh man thats so ridiculously unhygienic. Not the womens fault but the fault of the crazy "teachers" who think periods can he held in. Hope cleaning all that taught them a lesson😂
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@@kelsey2333 The teacher was a woman but she felt like she couldn’t say stuff infront of the performance master (He was one of the best in our country) And they didn’t even clean it the poor cleaning lady did 😕😕 Luckily I was one of the oldest and most people in that class did not understand what ‘period’ was which made things a bit easier on that day, they all thought I was injured or sth. It sucks to see so many people go through this
Omg that's horrible all those people should get fired
Technically that's a bio hazard and they can get into alot of trouble for that
That should literally be criminal. What gets me is these same type of instructors cry womens rights while denying them. The hypocrisy.
It is criminal. Title 9.
It actually is illegal under title 9.
They tried to do that to my sister once. She deadass told the instructor that she is fine with bleeding all over the barre and she understands that she hasn't had her period in so long, the instructor might not remember the struggle. They tried to kick her out for that but hell no, girl spit facts! xD
Edit: Thank you so much for over 10k likes, I never had this many before! I showed this comment to my sister and she's laughed for a *while!* xD She seriously couldn't believe how many people liked it. xD Y'all have a good day/night/timezone :D
How did that end? I mean did your sister faced consequences or they just let it go?
@@user-ql5wm2wv3h She was suspended for a week but after that, that teacher never stopped anyone from going to the bathroom again as she told me. xD
@@user-ql5wm2wv3h Just noticed that my answer somehow got removed? Anyway she got suspended for a week. That teacher never stopped anyone from going to the bathroom again though- xD
Story out of ur ass
Sounds illegal to kick someone out over that. Interesting
I used to be a gymnast and I actually *started* my period while training. I had a wonderful coach that let me know and told me they had pads in the bathroom cabinet. Then a fellow teammate was nice enough to let me borrow her gym shorts. I was already panicking enough at that moment. I can’t imagine any coach not allowing a girl (or an *ADULT* woman for that matter) to be excused to use the bathroom. I continued ballet and dance until my early twenties and never once saw anyone being told they couldn’t be allowed to use the bathroom. That’s just disgusting! And I had a few tough as hell Soviet/Eastern bloc coaches back in the day. This is a power trip on another level.
i feel like it's also pointless? a lot of strict rules i can understand even though i don't always think they're justified or right. but a student bleeding all over their clothing is achieving absolutely nothing except to make them feel bad and probably learn less because of that.
@@overgrownkudzuFor a narcissist like this lowlife instructor, who probably had to blow the dean to get her job, the point is she resents anyone with actual talent and so tries to make herself feel worth something more than the nothing she knows deep down she is...all by winning some power trip against a respectful kid. No one else respects her, she doesnt even respect herself. So she tries to infect everyone with her own self hatred. That's the only real point of psychotic behaviour like this. A desperate attempt to feel superior.
@@overgrownkudzu it’s super non productive lol like why do you want that blood everywhere ? What’s the point in that
I was a gymnast and had the same experience. We were all there to support each other - coaches AND gymnasts were all there for me and of course always let me use the restroom. I even got a tearful goodbye when my parents divorced and I got too depressed and anxious to continue. My coach told me she went through a hard time too and she felt for me and we cried together and hugged. I don’t know why these dance coaches are so cruel.
@@KallieMae
Right? One of the best things about (most gyms) is that we looked out for each other like a supportive, close family. I remember severely fracturing my foot on vault and my coach picked me up, threw me over his shoulders and carried me to the front to have it iced until my dad could come pick me up and take me to the ER.
It’s kind of funny when I look back on it. “Coach Morgan put me down NOW!” 🤣
That’s a serious health and safety violation. Disgusting.
Yeah, if I was a girl at the same group and had to work on equipment that has period blood on it... 😨 I would make it impossible for the teacher to teach. 😡 She would miss 10 minutes max, just let her go... -_______________-'''''''''
I dislocated my knee and had a brace on but hadn't been able to get to the doc yet. I asked my teacher if I could do modified versions of what we were doing that day and she said I'd never make it in dance with that attitude. She's right. I didn't. I didn't want to be in that sort of environment anymore.
Good for you. I've heard parents bragging about their kids training gymnastics with broken toes. Who the hell are you going to impress by risking ending up crippled? Your damn 10-year-old isn't going to win the Olympics.
So disgusting. I had a teacher like this. I reported them & it only got worse.
😢 i cant imagine how it could had gotten any worse, but i believe you. Im no dancer but once knowing some people who were, the industry is brutal.
@@susan.b8788 I was actually in musical theater. Both worlds are definitely brutal at times
Wtf
Report them to an attorney.
@@s2000s7 what? I’m going to assume you’re joking lol
Already the fact that in a college class/as an adult you have to ask the teacher for permission to go to the bathroom is telling something is not ok with than whole environment/system. Len alone the fact you were not permitted to go, that's abuse in my view🤬
Do you have to do that? I never heard of that
@@eletmto8238 Definitely not a thing in europe.. unless it's some weird, private establishment
From my experience (in US, studying education and later radiologic tech), you typically don't. Professors just assume you are using the bathroom if you get up and leave for a few minutes. They don't really care.
My favorite was a male dance teacher (older gentleman from Romania) who accepted zero excuses for anything until the last week when he said that women should not attend ballet class while on their period because their bodies needed rest.... you could feel the internal WTF from everyone 😑
This is what my teacher is like. I don’t dance, i sing, but she will accept absolutely no excuses for a bad voice day. Sometime about a week before my final exam i was feeling really sick to the point i almost couldn’t stand and she asked me what was the problem and when i told her she started yelling at me for how stupid i was trying to sing when on my period😐 She wouldn’t even let me have a day off if i had a cold or smth
Honestly I would agree with your teacher, I honestly can barely function in my period so I would appreciate the time off
So...how often were these classes? I mean, I don't understand how the guy would expect females who are dancers to just NEVER have periods.
@@lorisreality8681 3 times a week for a full season (September through late May).
@@tamakikawaii949 I think you missed the part where he didn't mention that until the last week when we had all been working with him for a full season
Reminda me that my FEMALE gym coach told me "you can hold it" when the blood was literally dripping down my leg that stain never came out either 😭
it’s crazy how the TINIEST bit of authority changes how people are fundamentally. which changes how think about and act with their fellow human. it’s literally not possible to hold it in. it’s involuntary & “happens to you” essentially
Why are teachers like this? What does it accomplish? What is the motivation other than being cruel and controlling? I can understand that discipline is important in ballet but this is a situation that deserves compassion.
They’d rather have a biohazard ☣️ than NOT be petty lmao 😅
Al though this is crazy to me the stories I’ve heard from random comments shows how the ballet industry can be scary some times ,
That’s absolutely insane!! The fact that a female teacher would do that to you is even more egregious. I’m sorry you had to go through that I hope the other students had your back after class was over.
I was being taught by the principal once and at the start of class I let her know I needed to leave 15 mins into class to go to an appointment with the in-house physiotherapist. She said okay. I went and stood in the corner closest to the clock and propped it up so I could see it. She said she doesn't allow clocks in class. It was like... I just told you I need to leave in 15 mins, did you want me to time that in my head?
That’s horrible like imagine having your period and you still have to do whatever sport your doing with jumping and running WHILE YOUR LEAKING
Leave a snail trail of blood on the floor and blow a kiss on the way out
Just power scooch your way out the door like a dog with an ass itch. 🤣
I had a teacher back in 92 that wouldn't let me go to the bathroom and when I tried to tell him that it was urgent that I go the LADIES room for a LADIES problem. He ignored me. End of class I loudly dragged my bloody seat up to his desk and walked out. *shrug. Aspie no shame for the win!
That is 1000% a Title IX complaint for SURE.
Nailed it down to the cardigan and hip pose 😅
Know what? Women keep having to fight for things that should just be automatic.
But keep fighting.
When I was in 6th grade girls couldn’t wear pants in school. A public school!
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Bloody hell, I hope you reported that teacher!
Pun intended?
@@katermelonperhaps
To who? There is no governing body for dance teachers and this is considered acceptable in the dance world. There is no oversight people to report to.
@@starkiddancer93 to the authorities in the college I assume? Also, this is definitely NOT accepted in the dancing community, but then again I'm a hip hop dancer, don't have much idea about theatrical dance community
Regardless this type of dehumanizing behaviour should not be tolerated anywhere
A more appropriate comment than you may realize! Or maybe that was on purpose!! 😅
this is just completely inhumane, there HAS to be rules set in place so that teachers cannot abuse their students and their power like this. and there has to be some way to report their behavior so they can get fired.
That’s a good exercise to test your auto-esteem and how you get take care of yourself. Or also training you to give up the control of yourself to strangers.
This would be going straight to the Dean, the schoolboard, the news, and on social media with the teacher's full name and the school's information
That has happened to me and I don't know what they are thinking 😂
It's a power/control thing. Some people feel an extreme need to have power and control over others. They might flex that power in harmful ways, just to demonstrate that they have it.
@@abigaillilac1370 tbf some women are just lucky to have mild periods and are ignorant to think most women are like that.
@@seraby7151 Blind people can't see blood stains and blood on the bars, but I'm assuming the ballet instructor wasn't blind.
Oh, so you're cool with me bleeding all over the floor? Thank you! I dont have to worry about making a mess anymore.
You are nicer than me!!! As a college student I have learned to file a grievance form quickly and often. This professor would’ve gotten 3 from this interaction.
I wasn’t allowed to go to the bathroom for my period in elementary school (got mine at 9, they didn’t know how to handle it but f them) and so I bled and vomited everywhere. Then they let me go and the teacher said he thought I was faking at first
That’s fucked up and I hope you reported that teacher!!!! 😡
Wonder if the teacher is just used to dancers not having periods. If you're mean enough to your body, like starving it, your body shuts that department down.
I'd expect more from a female teacher who also has dealt with periods
"cool, cool, no problem, everyone just gonna have to slip in my PUDDLE OF BLOOD"
Anna Rexia was JELLY that you HAD a period! 😂
ANNA REXIA
That's crazy. I had my first period yesterday and I'm so happy it happened a week after the start of summer break. I need to figure myself out before going back to school😭
Welcome to the " womanhood " club lol what I told my daughter was always carry pads with you because when you first get ur period it will be irregular usually but then after awhile get most in consistent pattern so just every day you have it nark a dot on yr calendar
I hope you’re okay! my advice is ask your parents if they can buy you feminine heating pads (they’re designed for cramps and you can attach it to your underwear, they get super hot) always have two ready in your bag with paracetamol/ibuprofen and some pads. Period trackers are a holy grail too, I use Flo and it’s really good at tracking cycles!
@R5ForeverXx thanks for the advice. I have occasional stomach pain from my sickle cell disease so I'm wondering if I'll even be able to tell the difference lol. I'll use pain meds for sure though.
I'd add to the advice above that if you have, for example, a locker at school, then maybe have a clean pair of underpants and trousers (or a skirt or whatever you wear) permanently stashed there. I think, especially during the first years, it's easy to have an accident; all people who get periods that I've talked to about it have all had one at some point (myself included). So if you do happen to get an unfortunate leak (which is fine, as said, happens to us all), having clean clothes to change into eliminates several stressors in an already stressful situation. (Hell, I still tend to have a change of clothes with me when at work.)
If your school does uniforms and you can't spare an extra one for the locker, then just have some regular clothes there. If an accident happens, change into them, and go to the office/nurse/wherever works for you, explain the situation and ask if they could write a uniform pass for you for the rest of the day, so that you don't have to explain yourself out loud to every teacher in front of the class.
Welcome to the club sis :')
I think you may already know but Girl code 101: If a girl/woman, whoever it is, needs a pad, you give her a spare. It doesn't matter who she is, could be your enemy, doesn't matter. Also, don't hesitate to ask your girl friends to check if you have a stain. And always let others know if they have one as well.
But you probably already know that lol.
I always think gymnastics is brutal and then I hear the horror stories from ballet and I am so happy I chose gymnastics over ballet. I will never understand how women can be so cruel to other women/girls when they (most likely) also dealt with periods.
Lifeguard at a summer camp with required swim lessons for grades 4-8. We told the male guards (16-17 year old boys) that if any girls said they couldn't swim that day don't ask questions and send them right to one of the female guards (who happened to all be young adults). We bent over backwards to make sure the girls were not embarrassed and their needs were taken care of. Can't imagine doing this to anyone.
Can I give you a hug. The idea a woman would do that to another woman, foul.
Yes this accurate in Ballet. I quit dance due to this period shaming, i went through pubery a year before all my peers. Its heartbreaking
yet another reason why I couldn't do dance classes like this - when I get my period it's a miracle I can walk to class, let alone dance through one
this kind of dance bullying is something I've faced many times. Unnecessary. You can be a great dancer, have great work ethic and even despite these, still deserve to be treated like a HUMAN with DIGNITY. Who hurt you?!
Yeah I'd just take the absence, it's not worth all that😂
wow. Always nice to see older women supporting and nurturing younger women...
I heard you talk about this story on the podcast and my jaw LITERALLY DROPPED
Some of these instructors need to understand that their glory days are over. PERIODT 💅🏾
My daughter wasn't allowed to go, so she simply informed the teacher that he had a bloody chair to clean before the next class. He was new, but learned really quick!
As cool and beautiful as ballet is, it's a shame that it seems to be so toxic 😕
Crazyy that a female teacher would do this
Denied necessary medical self care without reason. Should’ve sued her.
That dance teacher is ridiculous girl I would have just taken a late and went straight to whoever owns the principal whoever is in charge of the dance studio and tell them exactly what happened.
Public humiliation is a form of abuse
Bro, I literally got my period in PARTNERING class T-T
Thankfully I brought tights and stuff but it was BADDDD, it literally happened yesterday too 😀
Oh no 😭
@@CaitlynGo yea, it was with a French dude too 🥲
NOO RIP THATS MY WORST FEAR 💀💀
Absolutely cruel. Hope she was fired
Society is full of those unfortunately!
That’s beyond messed up. That’s not teaching anything but humiliation.
I’d start passing out and being so dramatic to make her feel bad 😂
As a man, stories like these are always crazy to me, but I think the worst part is that usually the one shaming is another woman, why? A woman should understand this better
Lucky my teachers are really nice, but wherever I go if I'm due for my period soon I wear period undies so that if it does start I don't have to have an embarrassing situation if I start! Plus they're super comfy and eco friendly, you can endlessly reuse them.
Eco friendly kinda depends on the brand (and some big name brands have been found to have toxic chemicals) so do some research if that's important to you
I love my period panties! I've read the reports on toxins, etc. It's not as bad as you think. A lot of those alarmist articles have been debunked.
This is what I’d be reporting to administration
maybe she was always not eating enough to even get a period when she was younger and taking that fact out on you
That is disgusting behaviour from a woman who is supposed to be a role model to young dancers. I know ballet teachers are tough but forcing you to dance in your own blood that is visibly leaking through your tights is absolutely unacceptable. You deserved better ❤
Oh boy they would think I'm dying after a few minutes.
hopefully the rest of the girls understood and weren't rude abt it.
Good to know I was not alone in this experience
This went from a playful list to trauma dumping😭😭
Ok, i know y’all are expected to sacrifice and be uncomfortable to push through and do some of the crazy athletic things you do, but that it so disrespectful for teachers to do, also a bit of a betrayal for a woman to do that. 😢
Having to ask to go to the restroom in COLLEGE is wild. 😮
That’s inhumane
Imagine because the teacher left to use the bathroom in the middle of class, she didn't get paid for the entire class session.
I would of said
What do you not get your period anymore so you don’t understand
I'd file that with health and safety and a lawyer.
That's psychotic wtf 😅
You shouldn't even need to ask for permission. How unfair and ridiculous!
This is mad 😠
I'd be intentionally wiping blood on EVERYTHING and being like "ooooops! Oh nooooo! Who ever could have guessed I'd get blood everywherrrre????? :o"
DISCRIMINATORY PRACTICES.
Should have reported that teacher!!!! Lawsuit time!
“Whatever you need to figure out” Madam like you don’t know
Why would a woman do that to another woman? How cruel!
Isn't she just a lovely CRAZY-ASSED BEE!
I swear the ballerinas are treated inhumanely.
i love that if someone was having a heart attack and bleeding uncontrollably they would be excused 😭
My periods are so heavy that crap would be dripping on the floor wherever i went in minutes
I wouldn’t stood up and walked out. Idc how much I love something, my dignity comes first
You're sooo pretty. Your lips are beautiful
Please tell me you reported this professor?
Any professor that does this should be stripped of their tenure or teaching license that’s not only abusive that’s unhygienic and cruel.
Leg up on the bar when I got mine, I left then apologized after. My teacher rocked. Love her!
I would have taken the "absence for the day" right to her supervisor.
Imagine standing there making your case instead of just walking out.
That should be considered a war crime.
"Good fight Bianca. Good fight."
It didn't need to be a fight in the FIRST PLACE!