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@@etmreacts Naw dont all lives matter his comment. Its real, when you do the research we have a lot of these issues and on a large scale. When you look at cultural dysfunctions. Family issues, relationship issues, and it all stems from our history.
I was waiting for y'all to do this one for a while... She reminds me of my late auntie, love her to bits but she's stubborn AF! She went to her grave as a very bitter, jaded, and single woman. I remember watching this one like wow, some people just cant see beyond their own pain and pessimism 🤷🏼♂
She's the type of person that will absolutely DESTROY a good man! He will lose his mind trying to manage anything with a woman who's been through this trauma and doesn't know how to get help, she wants too much control of things, she's clearly unable to control, like OTHER people! This is why I rock with you guys, even though your first impressions were positive, you were able to still speak candidly and honestly about her flaws without any name calling. I think more of the guests should watch you guys in order to get a balanced fair criticism of what they can work on IF they're truly looking for love because these patterns will never lead to any genuine romantic connections
Pay attention in the beginning, she's not even comfortable in her own skin. When the first guy with two kids initially said he popped cuz of his two kids but didn't want to be shallow cuz she wasn't usually his type and she said it was because of her color, she assumed it was her color skin and he corrected her and said not at all he loves chocolate skin. She assumed cuz she has a problem with self and to want to take the lead and say she's aggressive I think she must of had trauma issues with a male figure growing up, I get it as a woman with my own wounds I get it. It's a healing process and I think we need that healing but you first gotta realize it.
She was saying at the end something along the lines of “buzzwords like ride or die” etc being used in a relationship and the context it can have but interestingly SHE is the one who brought up those words😕
The saddest part of these videos is the fact that the people who need to learn the most from it will most likely never watch or learn anything from them
Swamp thing, you don't get to change the meaning of ride or die. You don't get to just apply your perception to whatever you want to, Some things have definitions. And ride or die goes both ways!!
I understand her perspective. I’m not knocking it. I think her person will get it. She probably just needs someone who really has a lotta years in the game and his success is solidified. It is what it is. At least she’s honest.
Her loss. These men were so respectful. I think they are the take the lead stand up guys. The one said he have a business but sometimes things happened. She pretty well shot him down. Seems she'd be out the door instead of stepping up while he get back up, not realizing her business can do the same, and he would support her. As my mom would say to us as babies trying to walk, when fell down "get up and try it again." So when her man is trying to get back on his feet. Is she gonna trip him, and not encourage him? If he did it before he can do it again with or without her but the support from your spouse is like being there holding the flashlight while your man find his way in the dark to the fuse box. He may not need you to hold the flashlight but he love that you're there with him.
I went from really feeling bad for her after a few mins to getting annoyed at her reactions and explanations to just outright upset with how delusional she's coming off. This is probably how she turns men off... I completely agree with her needing help to heal or she'll always have this mindset or even worse
Idk why a woman with standards is so triggering to men. The moment she said she’s not into a man JUST having potential and doing nothing else with it, based on her experiences, she was shunned for that. And “ROD” always meant ridin’ wit’ a man that’s up to no good and crashing out with/for him, there’s plenty women w/ their head on straight that does not wana do that. And let’s not act like men would stick around with a woman that was up to no good. For example, majority of men wouldn’t stick around to do a bid wit a woman, it’s not too many Papoose’s out here, and that’s okay. God forbid a woman in that same scenario would say nah I’m not sticking it out to do no bid with a man (just one example) she gets shunned for that, she’s expected to stick around. I’m glad she has her standards I hope she sticks to them. As far as her being a leader wanting a man to stick to HER flow, is something else idk nothin bout that lmao
I totally agree with the commentators, i am a strong women however i love my guy taking control and leading and more I let him is the stronger we get and I have seen so many changes in our relationship for the better. She thinks she believes in God, even the Bible talks about the man leading and being the head and God being the head of the household physically the man is still the leader
Basically, she is not 100% Part of the Relationship. She is the relationship. Regarding her view of "potential in the man", she is why Snow Bunnies are popular.
Her mindset and attitude is a complete turnoff and disaster! I really hope she gets it together because for her to come on a show this popular and say what she said to potentially hundreds of thousands of eligible bachelors goes to show how oblivious she is about anything good that was said
This episode was very interesting and disturbing at the same time. You can learn a lot about why some people are single but its not as easy with someone like her since she's probably used to sharing a serious sob story mixed in with tales of turbulence all keeping her the innocent victim who cant seem to get a fair shake. That's definitely not the case but dont let her tell it
The male host, on this channel, keeps cutting the female co-host off. Also, it's very easy to imagine our own preference is "the standard" , bit if you (hosts) watch a variety of love stories across cultures (especially older cpuples now starting to share their meet cute stories), you will find people do what works for them. Not everyone is obsessed with submission.
Flower print is a tricky thing to wear especially if the print gives off a strong resemblance to grandma's curtains and bed sheets. Her stance and walk was not cute and she could have done something a little more interesting with her hair.
"I am not a ride or die"... anyone holding a balloon after that is just a fool... so she got her own description of "ride or die" then said thats a mans perspective and im a woman so we see it differently... NO SHEEEEEEE sees it differently for no good reason... I believe shes trying to clean up what she said... she knows damn well what ride or die means, and its not at all negative... Saying Im here with you through thick and thin "ride or die" is not a negative phrase
She is the type of woman that thinks that she is bringing so much to the table, is a catch and that there are no good men out there. SMDH. Her limiting beliefs will keep her single. She was hurt baddddd and needs therapy and shouldn't be dating anyone.
So….nobody’s going to mention how her previous relationships scarred her? No blame for the men? Remove the colloquialisms and speak directly. She wants consistency and reciprocity. There ARE men who say they want a ride or die meaning I can cheat, be inconsistent, etc., and she’ll still be there, which is unfair to women. She experienced that and doesn’t want it. Simple. She just didn’t articulate well.
Ride or die is more about sharing the journey together of pursuing and supporting your mate's dreams NOT co-sign to their bad choices... remember , you can always leave.
She made that comment after the business man stated how a successful business can easily crumble and he would want his woman in his corner to encourage him and help rebuild him.....she immediately took offense to that.
Good for her she's not a ride or die. Why the hell should she? These guys weren't exactly in their masculine. They want to be treated like a Dad. Respect I e. Don't question me. Ambitious like him I e. A mule to work. Guy with the glasses build a bear and wants a woman to build him up and leave her when he gets to where he wants to go. For her, she still doesn't know how to receive. She said she's Jamaican and I get why she's afraid to let go of control But she is 💯 about not being with a man who hasn't achieved what HE feels is his full potential. Never ever do this
How many men that stays horrible situation? Look at the divorce stats and it will tell you that most stay in a horrible situation to make the family better even at the detriment to himself. Men more after the spouse cheats, bring another man baby, gets injured, and etc. Women have the higher chance of leaving because you don't agree with them on the most mediocre issue. Women break up family because she is bored rather than working on situation. This is why I said I would pop the moment she said I am Jamaican , has an entitlement attitude, and don't want to date potential. My wife dated me when i was at the starting area of my career, doing freelance work to get the experience years before I could be hired, and I am now with her while she is going to school to be a sonographer. Most black women want a ready made man without realizing that that man might not want them.
So she just wasted all of they time unless they learned from talking to her 😅 The last u say is that u basically can’t support nobody if they fall down u jus look at everyone and keep it pushing
You all hit it on the head while watching the episode. She truly hurt herself while talking and definitely may need to step back from dating and adjust her way of thinking get some counseling and sel exam her views.
I'm new here out of everybody that reacts to pop the balloons y'all are my favorite because y'all break down exactly what's going on in the video either whether it's a man or it's a woman yeah I'll tell ya truth you do your little 15-second countdown about first impressions of them and I like that but with that being said why would she come on the show when she still dealing with trauma and you can tell that she's dealing with trauma because what man I don't care if he's not even financially stable yet ain't no real man going to allow a female to control him lead him she wants to be the man in the relationship and that's not how that works and then she wants to bring up God females kill me when they bring up God about traditional females list of traditional females out of the window if you are not a virgin you are not considered traditional no more same thing with a male if you are not a virgin you are not considered as traditional anymore okay now that we got past that part now let's get to the part where we can co-exist as man and a woman I'm your man you my woman let me lead and you follow me I have your back you have my back that's what a relationship is all about it's not about competing with each other I noticed in a lot of relationships on pop the balloon they're trying to compete with each other and that's not how that works because if you are looking for a new relationship whether you a man looking for a woman are woman looking for a man you should not keep saying oh my exes was like that first of all I would have popped my balloon a long time ago soon as you would have said something about your ex I would have popped my balloon
If any woman says that she isnt a ride or die, then run. She aint the one. And when they say "as a woman" trust me, they will never have your best interest or even a mutual interest at heart. And this particular woman is not a good one at all from start to finish of the audio.
No woman should spend her life waiting for a man to fulfill his potential while holding back on her own dreams. Question: How many of these MEN would agree to ride or die?
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It would be what the title says... Stop looking for love until you're healed and ready to love!
I was waiting for y'all to analyze this segment
@@dimitriassession2327 It was one of the most cringe but I did learn a lot from it. My ex is just like her
The men were overly respectful, the fact she still had balloons left after a minute is amazing to me!
She needs help
Just watched the whole thing and wow! Our people are in desperate need of emotional, mental, and psychological healing! 🙏🏼
People in general are suffering from all the above, ignorance is only bliss to those who want you to remain in it 🙏🏼🙏🏽
@@etmreacts
Naw dont all lives matter his comment. Its real, when you do the research we have a lot of these issues and on a large scale. When you look at cultural dysfunctions. Family issues, relationship issues, and it all stems from our history.
She’s wack…
I was waiting for y'all to do this one for a while... She reminds me of my late auntie, love her to bits but she's stubborn AF! She went to her grave as a very bitter, jaded, and single woman. I remember watching this one like wow, some people just cant see beyond their own pain and pessimism 🤷🏼♂
She said what she said and you have to respect it! She shouldn't enter into a situation with a man who is not ready
This is the type of woman that will punish you for NOT sticking to HER program! 😂
She's the type of person that will absolutely DESTROY a good man! He will lose his mind trying to manage anything with a woman who's been through this trauma and doesn't know how to get help, she wants too much control of things, she's clearly unable to control, like OTHER people! This is why I rock with you guys, even though your first impressions were positive, you were able to still speak candidly and honestly about her flaws without any name calling. I think more of the guests should watch you guys in order to get a balanced fair criticism of what they can work on IF they're truly looking for love because these patterns will never lead to any genuine romantic connections
First impression, she's carry a lot more baggage than she can ever process but she does a great job hiding it until she speaks later on...
She’s damaged goods
Shoutout to you guys for making the best reaction videos
Pay attention in the beginning, she's not even comfortable in her own skin. When the first guy with two kids initially said he popped cuz of his two kids but didn't want to be shallow cuz she wasn't usually his type and she said it was because of her color, she assumed it was her color skin and he corrected her and said not at all he loves chocolate skin. She assumed cuz she has a problem with self and to want to take the lead and say she's aggressive I think she must of had trauma issues with a male figure growing up, I get it as a woman with my own wounds I get it. It's a healing process and I think we need that healing but you first gotta realize it.
You nailed it! She may need years of healing before popping out again
What if she's just not willing to tolerate any type of BS anymore?
I noticed that too!
She went STRAIGHT to her skin colour as the reason why.....
🤦🏾♀️
Ok, I think I may need therapy and all I did was listen to her speak 😂
😂😂😂😂
She was saying at the end something along the lines of “buzzwords like ride or die” etc being used in a relationship and the context it can have but interestingly SHE is the one who brought up those words😕
The saddest part of these videos is the fact that the people who need to learn the most from it will most likely never watch or learn anything from them
MAYBE SHE NEEDS A ALPHA MALE ,A WHITE MAN ,OR A RUTHLESS DICTATOR.
SOME SHE CANT DESTROY .
Sunglasses inside is a dealbreaker.😂
I don't blame you.
Is he blind? Is he hiding from the law?
She does not speak for all women. She is speaking for herself. She is out there. She's very masculine in her beliefs.
Swamp thing, you don't get to change the meaning of ride or die. You don't get to just apply your perception to whatever you want to, Some things have definitions. And ride or die goes both ways!!
I understand her perspective. I’m not knocking it. I think her person will get it. She probably just needs someone who really has a lotta years in the game and his success is solidified. It is what it is. At least she’s honest.
Her loss. These men were so respectful. I think they are the take the lead stand up guys. The one said he have a business but sometimes things happened. She pretty well shot him down. Seems she'd be out the door instead of stepping up while he get back up, not realizing her business can do the same, and he would support her. As my mom would say to us as babies trying to walk, when fell down "get up and try it again." So when her man is trying to get back on his feet. Is she gonna trip him, and not encourage him? If he did it before he can do it again with or without her but the support from your spouse is like being there holding the flashlight while your man find his way in the dark to the fuse box. He may not need you to hold the flashlight but he love that you're there with him.
Most of the issues with love are people like this, no self awareness but cant tell her a damn thing!
I went from really feeling bad for her after a few mins to getting annoyed at her reactions and explanations to just outright upset with how delusional she's coming off. This is probably how she turns men off... I completely agree with her needing help to heal or she'll always have this mindset or even worse
She needs to heal before dealing
She may need a few years of healing before she pops out again, sheesh
YEA SHE THAT WAY
Idk why a woman with standards is so triggering to men. The moment she said she’s not into a man JUST having potential and doing nothing else with it, based on her experiences, she was shunned for that. And “ROD” always meant ridin’ wit’ a man that’s up to no good and crashing out with/for him, there’s plenty women w/ their head on straight that does not wana do that. And let’s not act like men would stick around with a woman that was up to no good. For example, majority of men wouldn’t stick around to do a bid wit a woman, it’s not too many Papoose’s out here, and that’s okay. God forbid a woman in that same scenario would say nah I’m not sticking it out to do no bid with a man (just one example) she gets shunned for that, she’s expected to stick around. I’m glad she has her standards I hope she sticks to them.
As far as her being a leader wanting a man to stick to HER flow, is something else idk nothin bout that lmao
She's giving me the Jezebel feeling
She is, the more I listened to her, the less I felt bad for her
They all dodged a bullet, can I get an AMEN?!
I totally agree with the commentators, i am a strong women however i love my guy taking control and leading and more I let him is the stronger we get and I have seen so many changes in our relationship for the better. She thinks she believes in God, even the Bible talks about the man leading and being the head and God being the head of the household physically the man is still the leader
I wouldn't set up my worst enemy on a blind that with her, nope!
Basically, she is not 100% Part of the Relationship. She is the relationship. Regarding her view of "potential in the man", she is why Snow Bunnies are popular.
Her mindset and attitude is a complete turnoff and disaster! I really hope she gets it together because for her to come on a show this popular and say what she said to potentially hundreds of thousands of eligible bachelors goes to show how oblivious she is about anything good that was said
This episode was very interesting and disturbing at the same time. You can learn a lot about why some people are single but its not as easy with someone like her since she's probably used to sharing a serious sob story mixed in with tales of turbulence all keeping her the innocent victim who cant seem to get a fair shake. That's definitely not the case but dont let her tell it
The male host, on this channel, keeps cutting the female co-host off.
Also, it's very easy to imagine our own preference is "the standard" , bit if you (hosts) watch a variety of love stories across cultures (especially older cpuples now starting to share their meet cute stories), you will find people do what works for them. Not everyone is obsessed with submission.
Flower print is a tricky thing to wear especially if the print gives off a strong resemblance to grandma's curtains and bed sheets. Her stance and walk was not cute and she could have done something a little more interesting with her hair.
"I am not a ride or die"... anyone holding a balloon after that is just a fool... so she got her own description of "ride or die" then said thats a mans perspective and im a woman so we see it differently... NO SHEEEEEEE sees it differently for no good reason... I believe shes trying to clean up what she said... she knows damn well what ride or die means, and its not at all negative... Saying Im here with you through thick and thin "ride or die" is not a negative phrase
Took my thoughts and wrote em down before I could, lol. Them guys were too polite with her
17:30 This pretty much sums it up. Explains why she's single.
She is the type of woman that thinks that she is bringing so much to the table, is a catch and that there are no good men out there. SMDH. Her limiting beliefs will keep her single. She was hurt baddddd and needs therapy and shouldn't be dating anyone.
She’s brining nothing but heartache and pain 😂
A mans true worst nightmare
Oh my, 🤦🏾 from her perspective, but I wish her all the best
This girl needs to go back and look at this segment to hear herself. These guys was giving her some good advice
So healthy love is safe, healthy love is boring.......wow
So….nobody’s going to mention how her previous relationships scarred her? No blame for the men?
Remove the colloquialisms and speak directly. She wants consistency and reciprocity. There ARE men who say they want a ride or die meaning I can cheat, be inconsistent, etc., and she’ll still be there, which is unfair to women. She experienced that and doesn’t want it. Simple. She just didn’t articulate well.
Ride or die is more about sharing the journey together of pursuing and supporting your mate's dreams NOT co-sign to their bad choices...
remember , you can always leave.
For me, ride or die does have a negative connotation. I associate the phrase with rappers who want women who will take their abuse.
She made that comment after the business man stated how a successful business can easily crumble and he would want his woman in his corner to encourage him and help rebuild him.....she immediately took offense to that.
You wont find out if you leave...
Good for her she's not a ride or die. Why the hell should she?
These guys weren't exactly in their masculine. They want to be treated like a Dad. Respect I e. Don't question me. Ambitious like him I e. A mule to work. Guy with the glasses build a bear and wants a woman to build him up and leave her when he gets to where he wants to go.
For her, she still doesn't know how to receive. She said she's Jamaican and I get why she's afraid to let go of control
But she is 💯 about not being with a man who hasn't achieved what HE feels is his full potential. Never ever do this
Ain’t no man wanna let you take the lead lol😂
How many men that stays horrible situation? Look at the divorce stats and it will tell you that most stay in a horrible situation to make the family better even at the detriment to himself. Men more after the spouse cheats, bring another man baby, gets injured, and etc. Women have the higher chance of leaving because you don't agree with them on the most mediocre issue. Women break up family because she is bored rather than working on situation. This is why I said I would pop the moment she said I am Jamaican , has an entitlement attitude, and don't want to date potential. My wife dated me when i was at the starting area of my career, doing freelance work to get the experience years before I could be hired, and I am now with her while she is going to school to be a sonographer. Most black women want a ready made man without realizing that that man might not want them.
I’m not a ride or die, wow
She kept contradicting herself and what makes it worse is she was never good at choosing the right partner from her previous relationships.
I'm starting to see why some men take their chances with gold-diggers, at least they're typically hot
Why the 3rd dude pants so damn tight!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So she just wasted all of they time unless they learned from talking to her 😅
The last u say is that u basically can’t support nobody if they fall down u jus look at everyone and keep it pushing
The most shocking thing I heard from her was, she has children 😟😟
IF she was smart, she would read the room of all these guys on how they Pop of pretty much the same reasons and learn from what just happened..
That level of SELF-awareness and willingness to learn from each experience is a lost art
🤦🏾♀️"I'm not a ride or die."
You all hit it on the head while watching the episode. She truly hurt herself while talking and definitely may need to step back from dating and adjust her way of thinking get some counseling and sel exam her views.
what is up with terrible t shirts? seems like some of the guys don’t want to put any effort into looking nice
Let's call it for what it is and stop using big words to describe something simple....she's a gold digger
I'm new here out of everybody that reacts to pop the balloons y'all are my favorite because y'all break down exactly what's going on in the video either whether it's a man or it's a woman yeah I'll tell ya truth you do your little 15-second countdown about first impressions of them and I like that but with that being said why would she come on the show when she still dealing with trauma and you can tell that she's dealing with trauma because what man I don't care if he's not even financially stable yet ain't no real man going to allow a female to control him lead him she wants to be the man in the relationship and that's not how that works and then she wants to bring up God females kill me when they bring up God about traditional females list of traditional females out of the window if you are not a virgin you are not considered traditional no more same thing with a male if you are not a virgin you are not considered as traditional anymore okay now that we got past that part now let's get to the part where we can co-exist as man and a woman I'm your man you my woman let me lead and you follow me I have your back you have my back that's what a relationship is all about it's not about competing with each other I noticed in a lot of relationships on pop the balloon they're trying to compete with each other and that's not how that works because if you are looking for a new relationship whether you a man looking for a woman are woman looking for a man you should not keep saying oh my exes was like that first of all I would have popped my balloon a long time ago soon as you would have said something about your ex I would have popped my balloon
If any woman says that she isnt a ride or die, then run. She aint the one. And when they say "as a woman" trust me, they will never have your best interest or even a mutual interest at heart. And this particular woman is not a good one at all from start to finish of the audio.
She needs some form of healing
How about you just listen to your heart and love someone... she's doing transactional love.
All I hear is me me me
Why does dude have on shades?
Is that cory holcomb sound like him js
She needs a lifetime membership for therapy
I think she needs to take time to learn how to be in a working team with a man before she starts dating.
No woman should spend her life waiting for a man to fulfill his potential while holding back on her own dreams. Question: How many of these MEN would agree to ride or die?
😂❤i was searching for a comment like yours ride or die they crazy
WOW, she's absolutely delusional 😱
She seems like she’s 38 to me
She gone remain single cuz she to big yo have all these requirements
😮
She been though some shit.
It’s not intimidating it’s a turn off
She IS A MAJOR DUB let her be the man and her own man go date yourself
She will be more controlling.
She not worth it honestly
I’m
Sick of her