I don't know why you people keep saying he was disrespectful, he's freaking mother in law was decorating they're house without permission and also his father in law was being mean and comparing him to someone else, and the only thing he did was say hello while laying down and you people call him disrespectful, his in laws were being more disrespectul in my opinion. I think he's a good , outgoing and chill guy.
I am korean married to an american guy. I can understand why he does what he does. He is more of a free kind of soul and there is nothing wrong with it. He seems like a good person just don't know how to deal with the stubborn people. He does need more wisdom when it comes to dealing with old koreans. This korean parents are unreasonable for forcing him to eat what he doesn't or can't eat. Even if it was my mother who changes stuff around my house I would have said something. The most important thing between them is respect. And it should be both ways. Why do they expect other people to be conformed into their way. Their ways are not the only ways. Really, older generation of koreans need to adapt to the new time. It's no longer 50's anymore. Good for anthony for trying at least!!
Wtf??? The grandpa has only visited them 10 times in 3 years, grandma had the nerve to change the decor in their home with out permission, the family knew that Anthony can't eat sea food yet they didn't make something else's for him .....and yet most of you are Anthony for being rude and disrespectful ?
The grandma straight up admitted that she would be upset if Anthony changed the curtains in her house but since she older it's okay for her to do it to him.
Eve A - Talking about delusion and your selective bias, for starters, that's not Anthony's house. His in-laws gave their daughter the deposit money to secure that apartment so it's actually theirs. Secondly, Anthony lied about his likes and dislikes. He told his wife and in-laws that he dislikes fish, but he can eat blue crab. That's why his mother-in-law went to all the expense and effort to prepare him and the entire family a crab dish, which is so expensive in Korea that most Korean families don't have crab regularly, as fish is cheaper. So, they went out on a limb to accommodate Anthony's tastes, but it turned out that Anthony lied and was just putting them on. He apparently doesn't like crab enough to actually eat it. Now who is the one who's being disrespectful and insincere?
yo did she just walk into their house with some fugly nyquil curtains and just decide to put them up! and after reading the comments below about his being disrespectful, in some ways i agree, but she flat out said im doing this for my daughter and grand-daughter, not even bringing him into the equation. if you think he needs to be more respectful they need to be more consierate. No he's not korean. he wasnt reaised to be the perfect Korean son in law and unless they plan to tell him directly what he's doing wrong then they can just enjoy being pissed off for not doing anything about it. Don't expect someone to change just because you want them too. If you want that person to be better help the to do so.
I love Anthony a lot, such a funny and caring man. I'm happy he made the effort to be more polite bc I was so shocked when he got up from the table and made his own food. That's disrespectful even in America. This episode seems so short though.
Y'all are criticizing but they are literally working on their problems here. And the most important thing is, that Anthony is a really good and loving husband and father.
He needs to be more respectful and learn korean manners but I agree that you just can't go to your son-in-law house and change the decoration at least you should ask first because is not your house.
Jackson right ! I don't understand why she do that. For me it's disrespected about her daughter first and then her son in law too, because you show indirectly your decorations are the worst...
Some of the comments are plain offensive concerning the foreigner insulting him just because he happens to come from a different lifestyle that happens to be more open minded/relaxed not so traditional. I watched this show long enough to know that not all Korean older generation in-laws are so closed minded, but happen to adapt to their daugther/son in-law love them. These in-laws are just very uptight/closed minded and very hypocritical liking the guy only after he gives them pocket money saying nice things at the end of the show. What matters here is not about traditions, but how well he treats and take cares of his wife and child. At the end of the day, the wife is a grown woman with her own family and household her parents should respect that it's the guy she chose to marry she said he treats like a queen that's good enough for me. He's a good guy with a beautiful little girl.
Yes, i had believe this too. When two different cultures met, it should be an assimiliation or even an acculturation. Beside, acculturation still the best way rather than assimilation. Acculturation will create a new culture based by the combination of 2 differeny cultures, but assimiliation will eliminate one of two from the 2 different cultures.
He lives in Korea. He should assimilate to the Korean way of life. Americans always talk about how immigrants need to speak English, learn American customs etc. He should do the same in Korea.
I could never live with my Korean mother and father-in-law together....soooo frustrating, soo stressful....and I am half Korean!! But seriously, neverrr!!
LOL. FYI, did you even watch this episode? The in-laws do NOT live with them. However, just like all normal families all over the world, families do get together once in a while and have dinner with their married children, as this family is doing. What, are you saying that American and western parents never get to see their grandchildren? LOL.
I think it works both ways...Anthony needs to follow the Korean custom more and the parents need to let loose a bit and not be so hating or controlling....like they need to relax and not hate him for being a foreigner, but at least Anthony is learning.
I'm really surprised he greeted the grandfather like that. I come from a black family and greeted family members or people older than you at family gatherings like that is rlly disrespectful.
Exactly. Doesn't matter what country you came from. Lying down on the floor to greet elderly family members is such obvious disrespect that I don't know how this guy couldn't figure that out.
Anthony means well and loves his family. It's difficult to change your personality and mannerism. It sucks having so much pressure put on you regardless of whether you are a foreigner. If the in-laws moved to another country, they would also find it hard to change their ways. People should be more understanding. .. Is that a fanny pack??? lol that's too cute.
he's such a great husband i wish i could marry someone like him but omg he lived in Korea for 7 years at least he should know a little bit of their culture like his father and mother in law are asking for a proper greet u won't break a bone if he stand up and bow even in my country's culture we respect elders as much as we can
If you live in another country, its basic manners to learn their culture and language. He is great at being a husband and father but needs to be a good son-in-law too. Bowing when saying hello is not hard. However, his mother-in-law should have asked if she can change anything in the house instead of doing it anyway. As with the food, they made food especially for him but they know he doesn't eat fish..they should have made something he does eat. He can pretend to eat but you can't force yourself to eat something you don't like. People have different likes and dislikes in food. But I think it was of rude of him to get up and make something else, he should have waited.
What nonsense....they want him eat something he cant eat and they call that being respectful...also, why do the parents keep coming over and invading their space?
The grandparents are disrespectful too especially the grandma, change the curtains without permission but Anthony also lacking in certain manners like BIG TIME, I felt so bad when Anthony doesn't want to eat the foods made by his in-law and recklessly cooks something in front of his in-laws like WTH? at least you try it and don't make that kind of expression )': I believe the main problem here is the communication which can occur anywhere not just in Korea.. So I guess, the grandparents should be more open-minded and Anthony should learns some manners so both can be happy
Lmaooo this EP is so funny. If you know or have been introduced to the korean culture you'll understand why the granpa doesn't like him. But watch the last part where they sit together at the end of the show to explain their concerns it's damn funny I can't stop laughing Anthony mimicking his granpa and his granpa explaining how he talks to him without honorifics. He invited his granpa in law cookies and said 'Manee Mogeo' lmaooo that's damn funny.
Honestly he seems like a great husband and it works with his wife so fine and dandy BUT I think regardless of the culture, there's certain tactful acts you do with in laws and just elders in general that he doesn't seem to know. Like he's missing some type of social common sense? And it seems to be his wife's fault too for explaining the different customs from the beginning or how to just act around his in laws... like he's a child. Yet you can't hate him because he seems like a good person & his in laws are overbearing
Yeah I agree, it's the wife who should help him adjust with her family and tell him what to do instead of him having to go outside to seek advice in order to learn how to act and what not to do. She's caught in the middle true but her wanting to being neutral is not helping anyone really.
Big fat Anthony trying on the suit at 39:10 is hysterical. It's like the late Chris Farley trying on David Spade's suit jacket while singing "Fat man in a lil' suit..." in the movie "Tommy Boy." LOL.
He is so disrespectful and his excuse is so lame. Even in the U.S you don't greet anyone like that! Laying on a floor and say hi? Are you serious? what kind of manner did his parents teach him when he was younger? And him saying it is American culture is bs! He is just an ignorant American. It isn't about him being an American and cultural shock but him being so ignorant and not trying to change his rude and disrespectful manner. As for his in laws, I fully understand his frustration when they pushed him to try this and that which he doesn't like. You can try once, but you can't eat them just to make them happy. I would gag bc my stomach wouldn't be able to accept it. Everyone is different but Korean culture is sometimes out of control.
That's how people greet each other in informal situations outside of Asia. Nobody gets up or kisses anyone's butt, whatever their age is. Either his wife or in-laws should have explained the new rules to him, since he is more than willing to learn, instead of him going around trying to find out from strangers what the in-laws' expectations are for him. Her mom changing the curtains in their house without asking is unacceptable. Doing it for her daughter is not a reason to act like an owner. I don't know and can't even imagine anybody who would be okay with it. Anyway, they are all well-meaning and the married couple is happy, the rest is not that important.
People get up, shake their guests' hands, show them to the living room and ask them if you can get them anything. Either way, he is in Asia so he should follow their customs. If they lived in the US, he can do it the American way.
Reading the comments everyone be siding Anthony or the grandpa's side lol both are right tho, they just need to compromise each other which I think they will very soon. Minjeong is very lucky to have him as husband 😊 I hope the best for this family!
i know i'm probally asking for to much, BUT i wish koreans and any other culture that it's totally strict and to crazy for manners, would actually cool down a little. Anthony is not disrespectful. Disrespectful would be if he smoke in front of of the grandfather. Anthony is easygoing. I can see he want to treat even elders as close friends, because that's is actually means get married. You get close to each other (couples) or with the family. If one day i get married with a korean or whatever, i would think twice because of the family because i cant stand the idea to get married with someone and need to treat some one that's is more older than me as a god or even my boss, i want them to be close with AS A FAMILY.
***** im sorry but i've been whatching to much korean dramas, i've been into kpop for many years. I know what im talking about. Koreans olders, yes like to be treaten as something superior. Sometimes olders treats the youngers one as garbage and just because you are consider younger than that person you can not even talk back, because would be disrespectful. If i had anthony as a son in law i would hang out with him or even drink with him. Because if anthony was really disrespectful with the wife parents, of course she wouldnt be married with him already. You to, actually do not know ehat is consider disrespectful or not in every culture. So please, just respect my commentary BECAUSE THIS IS THE WAY I SEE THIS EPISODE.
Haha I understand the dude, he's def more chill and relaxed than most. I do find that (even as an American) that white Americans are way more chill to elders than lets say Americans that are POC. I didn't find him rude or disrespectful, but from the Korean standpoint who (overzealously imo) treat their elders with upmost respect, it's probably lacking in a lot of areas. I think that dad and the in-laws need to meet more in the middle. The dad is a very nice and caring husband, he just has to try to show that to his in-laws. Also, the in-laws should be more open to him. It seems that the in-laws are taking way too much liberty at his house, too lol I wouldn't mind if my mom did that if the curtains are pretty lol if my mom put some ugly ass curtains in my house, I'd fake it and say i love it, then take it down once she leaves haha no need to make her feel bad about it cuz she did buy it thinking that the dad's fam would like it. Relaxed dad definitely needs more tact lol
okay so here we have another kinda rude foreigner. You'd think, considering he's been in korea for quite a while now, he'd have some manners and would have adopted korean culture as well as the language considering his korean is really quite good... Literally how hard is it to just stand up, bow, and say hello in korean when his elders walk into the room...
he should have adopted those 'efforts' ages ago. he's been in Korea far too long now to use being a foreigner as an excuse. nevermind having a Korean wife.
I’m korean and I can’t even understand what the f is wrong with the father and mother in law They are just too strict and I think they need to wake up It’s 21st
Anthony is tactless, but he's not a loss cause because for the sake of his wife and wanting to be liked by his FIL, he's willing to "change a bit." Even I was aghast at his demeanor during that dinner when he not only rejected the food cooked on his behalf (even if it wasn't to his taste), but got up and cooked his own food to eat. Now, that was rude in any culture. You just don't do that. That was the time to act like an adult and just go with the flow until it's over. It's not like the in-laws would be staying overnight. He could've just picked out the crabs that he likes and ate just that. Even if he had to drown those things, the crabs, in any sauce or butter just to be palatable for him and washed them down with soju/beer. His wife could've put a couple of crabs on the side for him to eat, so they wouldn't have gone into the same pot of fish stew, but I'm not so sure how that would've gone down with her mother. ~sighs~ On the other hand, I understand his pov about the MIL coming in their home and just changing his curtains without asking at all especially when he's just a few feet away. Even if she means well, it's not only her daughter's house, but her son-in-law's house as well. Now, if they had paid for the house themselves, they need to talk, lol I'm glad though that they've all come to agreement of some sort in the end.
ops! I don't know if it's because I grew up in a strict and conservative family, but he needs to be more respectful with others. Maybe he escude to be western but it is not. I'm Western and i would never do that.
Anthony is a great husband, just need to except at least bow to the elders since he chose to married into the culture. That's all he needs to do. He is willing to make that effort for the sake of his wife, that is a good man in any culture. It is okay to not smooch so much in front of the elders making them uncomfortable. Glad that things change to better because Anthony is willing to make the effort.
the difference in culture is evident. However i agree that the in laws are so mean to him. they should also consider that the husband did not have the same customs that they have and should also compromise.
I actually found him childish , like when his wife told him spices are not okay for the baby he still proceeded to feed her .... Even when the older ladies told him it's not still he was kind of not satisfied . it looks like he takes things with his ego . 19:50 when he throws the garbage, he throws it like he is some kind of rich man throwing out his money to poors .. Even if he is raised by foreign culture I bet foreign people could at least stand up to welcome in-laws He has lived in Korea for so many years .. he could easily tell how much respect matters in Korean culture... Even if he was not mannered in house or with other people he could at least pretend to be a good son in law in front of his wife's father
I mean i can understand the parents in law a little like You dont have to eat the food but standing up and cooking food in front of them while she cooked the meal for him and If he wants to get along he should stand up to greet them and its just a curtain i mean its not a tragic change in the living room 🤷♀️ my opinion
they want him to lose his identity and become like them which is not right. they should respect his and their daughter choice. in my place these frequent visits of in laws is not seen as something responsible. they should let their daughter live .
Yes, couldn't agree more. They need to stop controling them and criticising him over everything he does. They keep telling him to changne and respect their culture which is understandable but they also need to change and respect his.
The father in law didn't like him because he isn't Korean. Not because he's disrespectful. He wouldn't be happy no matter what he did. He can't change who he is to suit his father in law because he can't turn himself into Korean. And this was an issue before they got married. Strictly conservative Koreans like his father in law may love their grandchildren from mixed marriages but not their son in laws. The only way the situation can change for the better is if the father in law has a change of heart. How much the son in law can effect that is difficult to say because it depends upon the receptiveness to change of the father in law.
It looks like at the end they started to make some progress. That's good to see, especially for his wife's sake. But one thing about Korea that needs to change is some of this traditionalism. The strictness on behavior/respect needs to soften. The drinking culture needs to weaken. There needs to be more awareness of mental health issues so the suicide rate can go down. South Korea is a country on the rise. It's a small country but is having a bigger and bigger effect on the world. That's all good but with that effect comes a reverse effect on them. Their culture needs to open up a little more and be more accepting and less onerous especially on their own citizens. Reducing traditionalism won't weaken the country, only strengthen it. Eventually North Korea will fall apart and be absorbed into South Korea. How long that takes, who knows. But it will happen. When it does, South Korea needs to be ready to make full use of their united country. To do that, their society needs to lighten up enough make full use of their potential. If all that happens I can see South Korea as being the next Germany. A fully awakened country that is a world leader.
He is so disrespectful! For someone who's lived in Korea for 7 years surely he must know by now how to greet the elders. He seems like a child. Even if your mother in law cooked you a dish that you did not like. It common courtesy to at least say thank you. If she changes your curtain, be grateful! Why whine like a child? He needs to learn to have respect for his in laws.
I know the in laws are at fault but the guy needs to step up too he knew what he was getting into when he married a korean in korea "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" if you hate the culture and tradition of that specific place why go live there miserably...jeeezzzz
Nah, he's pretty disrespectful even from an American point of view. He's like a child acting out, not even trying to learn the mannerism of Korea, not even considering the other person before he acts. Even if someone has a different mindset from him, they're his in-laws, so it's to be expected that you show respect to them. He's also in front of the camera but he's upset and arguing back. The grandparents are openly upset with him and he doesn't seem to care. It's not a culture difference, it's just that his level of respect is different.
Yeah this guy is disrespectful but the in laws aren't the best either. Good thing they don't live with each other. But yeah seriously one thing I will never understand is why I have to throw out certain garbage on certain days. It makes no sense because if I keep garbage for 2-3 days, it will smell.
I am a Muslim, therefore Koreans in relation to elders. but even for me to come to a strange house and change the curtains without permission would be too much. or why cook fish for those who don’t eat it. then take offense at it.
His wife should have helped him learn the culture and the dos and not-to-dos better but she's being "modern" and doesn't want to it it seems. By saying she knows American culture and her parents should be more understanding. She's the bridge who can make that understanding happen though. And him omg, he's like Po from Kung fu panda!
Honestly..I watched this video 3 years ago and today I watched it again and again I was angry when I saw his father and mother-in-law 🤬🤬🤬🤬..so before the end of this video I will quickly look for another video..😅😅😅😅
If youre a foreigner its not that hard to bow your head to others because its not a big deal to other countries. i cant understand why it is so hard him to do it for his in laws.
That guy just has no manners... Like who in what culture just gets up and literally leaves the dinner table without excusing themselves and legit starts making their own dinner because the one prepared wasn't to their liking? Like you could have at least told them before they cooked that you didn't like fish, and then cooked a separate meal and still eat at the table with them or something. And if you *know* you don't like fish, why start eating it and make a face like it's so gross and then just get up and cook something else? Like that's rude whatever way you look it at! He just shows no consideration. And I won't even begin on how he greets is parents-in-law... Like when his mother-in-law had to ask him to get up and greet her, and he even groans as he gets up... For goodness sake! Show some respect for the parents of the woman you love! How many things in a day can he do to disrespect them and keep excusing it as "it's not my culture so I'm not used to it"? that's such a lame excuse. The in-laws are not perfect, but like maybe if her showed some respect and *tried* to please them, then they would also consider him and meet him half way - e.g learn to ask him before changing things in the house.
this guy needs to grow up. just respect your in laws and be nice while they are around. they just want him to respect them and their culture and customs, that's it. respect. if you don't like the soup, pretend you do. it's just soup! now if they want you to move in with them that's a bit more serious, talk it out like an adult.
I don't like how he speaks korean but yet uses informal language with anyone regardless of who it is, he can't just pick and choose what he wants from korean culture I agree that maybe his in laws are a little over bearing and rigid and he's a nice guy, but he expects everyone to just adapt to him if I married a korean person I would never say "할머니 뭐해?" to my husband's mother America doesn't have strict social standards within our language, but any decent person at least uses a respectful tone with their grandparents
Seriously his father in law is comparing him with Korean son in law? His first son in law is American not Korean they should understand that & yes husband also should try to change himself little bit atleast infront of his parents in law & understand they are Korean family & his mother in law should stop interfering there space 🙏🙏🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
휴... 왜 사위집에 커튼을 자기맘대로 바꾸고 왜 안고마워하냐고 소리지르시다니...저런게 한국문화라고 강요하는 자체가 너무 답답하네요.. 딸이 외국사위와 결혼을 했으면 부모님도 사위의 문화를 배우고 이해하도록 하는게 사위에 대한 최소한의 존중 아닐까요 왜 무조건 저 사위에게 저런 일방적인 한국문화를 강요하는지??? 문화라고 하기에도 민망한.. 기본 매너 아닌가...
The mother in law was out of line putting up curtains without asking him. But he needs to at least put an effort to respect Korean culture. Tbh i dont think the in laws like him
well, he couldve been more tactful in rejecting lol but yeah i guess he really really dont want seafood, the inlaws are kinda cold and the stuffs they do are just typical old ppl stuffs lol but yeah he just need to put more effort n be more patient
man this dude is'nt even trying i havent seen a more stubborn person in my life. you moved to korea, you have to adapt to a certain degree. Was it so hard to accept some new curtains. or get up to say hello, he foreal is too disrespectful
It's not just pork, in Islam were are not allow to bow to any living thing. We are only allowed to bow to God. Another thing, it is not allowed to marry a non-muslim unless they are willing to convert to Islam. But all that aside, you shouldn't force someone to eat something they don't like or can't eat. They knew he doesn't like fish but they still wanted him to eat it.
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I don't know why you people keep saying he was disrespectful, he's freaking mother in law was decorating they're house without permission and also his father in law was being mean and comparing him to someone else, and the only thing he did was say hello while laying down and you people call him disrespectful, his in laws were being more disrespectul in my opinion. I think he's a good , outgoing and chill guy.
I am korean married to an american guy. I can understand why he does what he does. He is more of a free kind of soul and there is nothing wrong with it. He seems like a good person just don't know how to deal with the stubborn people. He does need more wisdom when it comes to dealing with old koreans. This korean parents are unreasonable for forcing him to eat what he doesn't or can't eat. Even if it was my mother who changes stuff around my house I would have said something. The most important thing between them is respect. And it should be both ways. Why do they expect other people to be conformed into their way. Their ways are not the only ways. Really, older generation of koreans need to adapt to the new time. It's no longer 50's anymore. Good for anthony for trying at least!!
You've must be adapted disrespectful low-class American culture obviously..... and you've certainly not brought up well neither.
fat people dont do weight lifting goofy fuck
Wtf??? The grandpa has only visited them 10 times in 3 years, grandma had the nerve to change the decor in their home with out permission, the family knew that Anthony can't eat sea food yet they didn't make something else's for him .....and yet most of you are Anthony for being rude and disrespectful ?
The grandma straight up admitted that she would be upset if Anthony changed the curtains in her house but since she older it's okay for her to do it to him.
these korean folks are nuts!
This grandpa has absolute reason to be....
Eve A - Talking about delusion and your selective bias, for starters, that's not Anthony's house. His in-laws gave their daughter the deposit money to secure that apartment so it's actually theirs. Secondly, Anthony lied about his likes and dislikes. He told his wife and in-laws that he dislikes fish, but he can eat blue crab. That's why his mother-in-law went to all the expense and effort to prepare him and the entire family a crab dish, which is so expensive in Korea that most Korean families don't have crab regularly, as fish is cheaper. So, they went out on a limb to accommodate Anthony's tastes, but it turned out that Anthony lied and was just putting them on. He apparently doesn't like crab enough to actually eat it. Now who is the one who's being disrespectful and insincere?
yo did she just walk into their house with some fugly nyquil curtains and just decide to put them up! and after reading the comments below about his being disrespectful, in some ways i agree, but she flat out said im doing this for my daughter and grand-daughter, not even bringing him into the equation. if you think he needs to be more respectful they need to be more consierate. No he's not korean. he wasnt reaised to be the perfect Korean son in law and unless they plan to tell him directly what he's doing wrong then they can just enjoy being pissed off for not doing anything about it. Don't expect someone to change just because you want them too. If you want that person to be better help the to do so.
his father in-law only happy when he gave the money.....such as gold-digger😒😒😒😒😒😒😒
My grandma is a gold digger too she only wants a new husband that has cars legit 😆
I love Anthony a lot, such a funny and caring man. I'm happy he made the effort to be more polite bc I was so shocked when he got up from the table and made his own food. That's disrespectful even in America. This episode seems so short though.
Y'all are criticizing but they are literally working on their problems here. And the most important thing is, that Anthony is a really good and loving husband and father.
Compared to the other foreigners on the show, his family seemed well off. Figures, he is an English teacher in Korea :-)
He needs to be more respectful and learn korean manners but I agree that you just can't go to your son-in-law house and change the decoration at least you should ask first because is not your house.
Jackson right ! I don't understand why she do that. For me it's disrespected about her daughter first and then her son in law too, because you show indirectly your decorations are the worst...
Absolutely right, the two guys should not judge each other based on their cultural biases. However, I guess the mom of his wife is an ass.
Jackson Park い
He is like a petulant child. A deliberate disrupter no manners
Jackson, I totaly agree. He is just disrespectful, low class, immature low-class American.
Some of the comments are plain offensive concerning the foreigner insulting him just because he happens to come from a different lifestyle that happens to be more open minded/relaxed not so traditional. I watched this show long enough to know that not all Korean older generation in-laws are so closed minded, but happen to adapt to their daugther/son in-law love them. These in-laws are just very uptight/closed minded and very hypocritical liking the guy only after he gives them pocket money saying nice things at the end of the show. What matters here is not about traditions, but how well he treats and take cares of his wife and child. At the end of the day, the wife is a grown woman with her own family and household her parents should respect that it's the guy she chose to marry she said he treats like a queen that's good enough for me. He's a good guy with a beautiful little girl.
Yes, i had believe this too. When two different cultures met, it should be an assimiliation or even an acculturation. Beside, acculturation still the best way rather than assimilation. Acculturation will create a new culture based by the combination of 2 differeny cultures, but assimiliation will eliminate one of two from the 2 different cultures.
He lives in Korea. He should assimilate to the Korean way of life. Koreans in Korea should change their lives to fit foreigners.
He lives in Korea. He should assimilate to the Korean way of life. Americans always talk about how immigrants need to speak English, learn American customs etc. He should do the same in Korea.
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@@utah123ify Totally....
I could never live with my Korean mother and father-in-law together....soooo frustrating, soo stressful....and I am half Korean!! But seriously, neverrr!!
LOL. FYI, did you even watch this episode? The in-laws do NOT live with them. However, just like all normal families all over the world, families do get together once in a while and have dinner with their married children, as this family is doing. What, are you saying that American and western parents never get to see their grandchildren? LOL.
Wow ok. Just makes me sad how narrow minded you are. They don't represent all korean parents and that kind of rural people aren't normal here.
Even in America you're supposed to at least pretend to eat you parents in laws food lol
This is by far the best episode of this series
I think it works both ways...Anthony needs to follow the Korean custom more and the parents need to let loose a bit and not be so hating or controlling....like they need to relax and not hate him for being a foreigner, but at least Anthony is learning.
100Andreamichel I am right with you
I'm really surprised he greeted the grandfather like that. I come from a black family and greeted family members or people older than you at family gatherings like that is rlly disrespectful.
Exactly. Doesn't matter what country you came from. Lying down on the floor to greet elderly family members is such obvious disrespect that I don't know how this guy couldn't figure that out.
Lmao ur icon
which country are your family from?
Anthony means well and loves his family.
It's difficult to change your personality and mannerism. It sucks having so much pressure put on you regardless of whether you are a foreigner. If the in-laws moved to another country, they would also find it hard to change their ways.
People should be more understanding.
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Is that a fanny pack??? lol that's too cute.
he's such a great husband i wish i could marry someone like him but omg he lived in Korea for 7 years at least he
should know a little bit of their culture like his father and mother in law are asking for a proper greet u won't break a bone if he stand up and bow even in my country's culture we respect elders as much as we can
If you live in another country, its basic manners to learn their culture and language. He is great at being a husband and father but needs to be a good son-in-law too. Bowing when saying hello is not hard. However, his mother-in-law should have asked if she can change anything in the house instead of doing it anyway. As with the food, they made food especially for him but they know he doesn't eat fish..they should have made something he does eat. He can pretend to eat but you can't force yourself to eat something you don't like. People have different likes and dislikes in food. But I think it was of rude of him to get up and make something else, he should have waited.
What nonsense....they want him eat something he cant eat and they call that being respectful...also, why do the parents keep coming over and invading their space?
The grandparents are disrespectful too especially the grandma, change the curtains without permission but Anthony also lacking in certain manners like BIG TIME, I felt so bad when Anthony doesn't want to eat the foods made by his in-law and recklessly cooks something in front of his in-laws like WTH? at least you try it and don't make that kind of expression )':
I believe the main problem here is the communication which can occur anywhere not just in Korea.. So I guess, the grandparents should be more open-minded and Anthony should learns some manners so both can be happy
Lmaooo this EP is so funny. If you know or have been introduced to the korean culture you'll understand why the granpa doesn't like him. But watch the last part where they sit together at the end of the show to explain their concerns it's damn funny I can't stop laughing Anthony mimicking his granpa and his granpa explaining how he talks to him without honorifics. He invited his granpa in law cookies and said 'Manee Mogeo' lmaooo that's damn funny.
Honestly he seems like a great husband and it works with his wife so fine and dandy BUT I think regardless of the culture, there's certain tactful acts you do with in laws and just elders in general that he doesn't seem to know. Like he's missing some type of social common sense? And it seems to be his wife's fault too for explaining the different customs from the beginning or how to just act around his in laws... like he's a child. Yet you can't hate him because he seems like a good person & his in laws are overbearing
And at least he's trying!!
Yeah I agree, it's the wife who should help him adjust with her family and tell him what to do instead of him having to go outside to seek advice in order to learn how to act and what not to do. She's caught in the middle true but her wanting to being neutral is not helping anyone really.
Omg he is funny😂 when he use his hand hold the open and glare stare at grandfather😂
Big fat Anthony trying on the suit at 39:10 is hysterical. It's like the late Chris Farley trying on David Spade's suit jacket while singing "Fat man in a lil' suit..." in the movie "Tommy Boy." LOL.
He is so disrespectful and his excuse is so lame. Even in the U.S you don't greet anyone like that! Laying on a floor and say hi? Are you serious? what kind of manner did his parents teach him when he was younger? And him saying it is American culture is bs! He is just an ignorant American. It isn't about him being an American and cultural shock but him being so ignorant and not trying to change his rude and disrespectful manner. As for his in laws, I fully understand his frustration when they pushed him to try this and that which he doesn't like. You can try once, but you can't eat them just to make them happy. I would gag bc my stomach wouldn't be able to accept it. Everyone is different but Korean culture is sometimes out of control.
That's how people greet each other in informal situations outside of Asia. Nobody gets up or kisses anyone's butt, whatever their age is. Either his wife or in-laws should have explained the new rules to him, since he is more than willing to learn, instead of him going around trying to find out from strangers what the in-laws' expectations are for him. Her mom changing the curtains in their house without asking is unacceptable. Doing it for her daughter is not a reason to act like an owner. I don't know and can't even imagine anybody who would be okay with it. Anyway, they are all well-meaning and the married couple is happy, the rest is not that important.
notice that almost all people who are disrespectful in others' lands are usually US citizens...
Ehm no, I've never greeted my grandparents like that and I live outside of Asia.
People get up, shake their guests' hands, show them to the living room and ask them if you can get them anything.
Either way, he is in Asia so he should follow their customs. If they lived in the US, he can do it the American way.
In love with Anthony's Archer t-shirt XD
The wife is the bridge between the two cultures. It's unfortunate that the bridge is out of order.
Reading the comments everyone be siding Anthony or the grandpa's side lol both are right tho, they just need to compromise each other which I think they will very soon. Minjeong is very lucky to have him as husband 😊 I hope the best for this family!
Anthony is such a good husband to his wife!
Different cultures and it takes time to be adapted for it. But, he's good after all.
i know i'm probally asking for to much, BUT i wish koreans and any other culture that it's totally strict and to crazy for manners, would actually cool down a little. Anthony is not disrespectful. Disrespectful would be if he smoke in front of of the grandfather. Anthony is easygoing. I can see he want to treat even elders as close friends, because that's is actually means get married. You get close to each other (couples) or with the family. If one day i get married with a korean or whatever, i would think twice because of the family because i cant stand the idea to get married with someone and need to treat some one that's is more older than me as a god or even my boss, i want them to be close with AS A FAMILY.
BARBARA ALVES 그래도 누워서 인사하는건 아니라고 봄
***** im sorry but i've been whatching to much korean dramas, i've been into kpop for many years. I know what im talking about. Koreans olders, yes like to be treaten as something superior. Sometimes olders treats the youngers one as garbage and just because you are consider younger than that person you can not even talk back, because would be disrespectful. If i had anthony as a son in law i would hang out with him or even drink with him. Because if anthony was really disrespectful with the wife parents, of course she wouldnt be married with him already. You to, actually do not know ehat is consider disrespectful or not in every culture. So please, just respect my commentary BECAUSE THIS IS THE WAY I SEE THIS EPISODE.
solmi kang i have no idea what you are saying. Sorry
***** i wish you the same, my dear. Good luck with your life ~
***** oh yeah, of course. I totally agree with you
I love how they were playing "hard carry"😅
Btw this airhead is ruining the reputation of all foreigners in Korea. JESUS DUDE PICK YOUR STUFF UP!!!
Haha I understand the dude, he's def more chill and relaxed than most. I do find that (even as an American) that white Americans are way more chill to elders than lets say Americans that are POC. I didn't find him rude or disrespectful, but from the Korean standpoint who (overzealously imo) treat their elders with upmost respect, it's probably lacking in a lot of areas.
I think that dad and the in-laws need to meet more in the middle. The dad is a very nice and caring husband, he just has to try to show that to his in-laws. Also, the in-laws should be more open to him. It seems that the in-laws are taking way too much liberty at his house, too lol I wouldn't mind if my mom did that if the curtains are pretty lol if my mom put some ugly ass curtains in my house, I'd fake it and say i love it, then take it down once she leaves haha no need to make her feel bad about it cuz she did buy it thinking that the dad's fam would like it. Relaxed dad definitely needs more tact lol
This is an ignorant ass and racist comment. Smh
okay so here we have another kinda rude foreigner. You'd think, considering he's been in korea for quite a while now, he'd have some manners and would have adopted korean culture as well as the language considering his korean is really quite good... Literally how hard is it to just stand up, bow, and say hello in korean when his elders walk into the room...
onah at least he made efforts at the end
he should have adopted those 'efforts' ages ago. he's been in Korea far too long now to use being a foreigner as an excuse. nevermind having a Korean wife.
i love him. he's full of rejoicing and playful.im in love
My favorite couple! They should make a UA-cam channel!!
When hard carry (by GOT7) played....hhhhhh love that song
I’m korean and I can’t even understand what the f is wrong with the father and mother in law
They are just too strict and I think they need to wake up
It’s 21st
Anthony is tactless, but he's not a loss cause because for the sake of his wife and wanting to be liked by his FIL, he's willing to "change a bit."
Even I was aghast at his demeanor during that dinner when he not only rejected the food cooked on his behalf (even if it wasn't to his taste), but got up and cooked his own food to eat. Now, that was rude in any culture. You just don't do that. That was the time to act like an adult and just go with the flow until it's over. It's not like the in-laws would be staying overnight. He could've just picked out the crabs that he likes and ate just that. Even if he had to drown those things, the crabs, in any sauce or butter just to be palatable for him and washed them down with soju/beer. His wife could've put a couple of crabs on the side for him to eat, so they wouldn't have gone into the same pot of fish stew, but I'm not so sure how that would've gone down with her mother. ~sighs~
On the other hand, I understand his pov about the MIL coming in their home and just changing his curtains without asking at all especially when he's just a few feet away. Even if she means well, it's not only her daughter's house, but her son-in-law's house as well. Now, if they had paid for the house themselves, they need to talk, lol
I'm glad though that they've all come to agreement of some sort in the end.
Their baby is so adorable and looks like the grandpa, a bit
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I don't know if it's because I grew up in a strict and conservative family, but he needs to be more respectful with others. Maybe he escude to be western but it is not. I'm Western and i would never do that.
Lol, got7 hard carry song starts playing , 12:08.😂
Anthony is a great husband, just need to except at least bow to the elders since he chose to married into the culture. That's all he needs to do. He is willing to make that effort for the sake of his wife, that is a good man in any culture. It is okay to not smooch so much in front of the elders making them uncomfortable. Glad that things change to better because Anthony is willing to make the effort.
the difference in culture is evident. However i agree that the in laws are so mean to him. they should also consider that the husband did not have the same customs that they have and should also compromise.
i hate mother in low...! i think he is doing best, he is so nice actually.
Anthony is a great & funny guy ... he is so my type okay
The world has gone mad hahah . If i was him i took the first plane back to amerika .
Manner is one thing but 5days in week wid in-laws is too much and how would any1eat if they can't even stand d smell.
song at 12:06 is GOT7 - Hard Carry
I actually found him childish , like when his wife told him spices are not okay for the baby he still proceeded to feed her .... Even when the older ladies told him it's not still he was kind of not satisfied . it looks like he takes things with his ego .
19:50 when he throws the garbage, he throws it like he is some kind of rich man throwing out his money to poors ..
Even if he is raised by foreign culture I bet foreign people could at least stand up to welcome in-laws
He has lived in Korea for so many years .. he could easily tell how much respect matters in Korean culture... Even if he was not mannered in house or with other people he could at least pretend to be a good son in law in front of his wife's father
I mean i can understand the parents in law a little like You dont have to eat the food but standing up and cooking food in front of them while she cooked the meal for him and If he wants to get along he should stand up to greet them and its just a curtain i mean its not a tragic change in the living room 🤷♀️ my opinion
they want him to lose his identity and become like them which is not right. they should respect his and their daughter choice. in my place these frequent visits of in laws is not seen as something responsible. they should let their daughter live .
Yes, couldn't agree more. They need to stop controling them and criticising him over everything he does. They keep telling him to changne and respect their culture which is understandable but they also need to change and respect his.
Wow!!! I hope he succeeds!! Phew!!😓
A very fun gringo, I lov this episode hahaha 😂
The father in law didn't like him because he isn't Korean. Not because he's disrespectful. He wouldn't be happy no matter what he did. He can't change who he is to suit his father in law because he can't turn himself into Korean. And this was an issue before they got married. Strictly conservative Koreans like his father in law may love their grandchildren from mixed marriages but not their son in laws. The only way the situation can change for the better is if the father in law has a change of heart. How much the son in law can effect that is difficult to say because it depends upon the receptiveness to change of the father in law.
It looks like at the end they started to make some progress. That's good to see, especially for his wife's sake. But one thing about Korea that needs to change is some of this traditionalism. The strictness on behavior/respect needs to soften. The drinking culture needs to weaken. There needs to be more awareness of mental health issues so the suicide rate can go down. South Korea is a country on the rise. It's a small country but is having a bigger and bigger effect on the world. That's all good but with that effect comes a reverse effect on them. Their culture needs to open up a little more and be more accepting and less onerous especially on their own citizens. Reducing traditionalism won't weaken the country, only strengthen it. Eventually North Korea will fall apart and be absorbed into South Korea. How long that takes, who knows. But it will happen. When it does, South Korea needs to be ready to make full use of their united country. To do that, their society needs to lighten up enough make full use of their potential. If all that happens I can see South Korea as being the next Germany. A fully awakened country that is a world leader.
acts pretty childish for his age, he should know how to act respectful
How come the wife’s family is always in anthony’s house?just asking?
I will not eat anything i hate ...simple they should know that he dont like it before they cook for him
I love this episode
Did anyone notice him singing snsd oh lol 21:55
Waaa what a cute husband, i what one like him. im from México.... my parents gonna love him...
To be fair the only fish I like eating is fish fingers or battered cod from fish n chips
He is so disrespectful! For someone who's lived in Korea for 7 years surely he must know by now how to greet the elders. He seems like a child. Even if your mother in law cooked you a dish that you did not like. It common courtesy to at least say thank you. If she changes your curtain, be grateful! Why whine like a child? He needs to learn to have respect for his in laws.
미국 무시기.....
I know the in laws are at fault but the guy needs to step up too he knew what he was getting into when he married a korean in korea "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" if you hate the culture and tradition of that specific place why go live there miserably...jeeezzzz
Nah, he's pretty disrespectful even from an American point of view. He's like a child acting out, not even trying to learn the mannerism of Korea, not even considering the other person before he acts. Even if someone has a different mindset from him, they're his in-laws, so it's to be expected that you show respect to them. He's also in front of the camera but he's upset and arguing back. The grandparents are openly upset with him and he doesn't seem to care. It's not a culture difference, it's just that his level of respect is different.
Yeah this guy is disrespectful but the in laws aren't the best either. Good thing they don't live with each other.
But yeah seriously one thing I will never understand is why I have to throw out certain garbage on certain days. It makes no sense because if I keep garbage for 2-3 days, it will smell.
I am a Muslim, therefore Koreans in relation to elders. but even for me to come to a strange house and change the curtains without permission would be too much.
or why cook fish for those who don’t eat it. then take offense at it.
His wife should have helped him learn the culture and the dos and not-to-dos better but she's being "modern" and doesn't want to it it seems. By saying she knows American culture and her parents should be more understanding. She's the bridge who can make that understanding happen though.
And him omg, he's like Po from Kung fu panda!
Honestly..I watched this video 3 years ago and today I watched it again and again I was angry when I saw his father and mother-in-law 🤬🤬🤬🤬..so before the end of this video I will quickly look for another video..😅😅😅😅
Korean elders need to stop being so judgemental
If youre a foreigner its not that hard to bow your head to others because its not a big deal to other countries. i cant understand why it is so hard him to do it for his in laws.
He gives him money 💸 to be satisfied ,this is so ridiculous
That guy just has no manners... Like who in what culture just gets up and literally leaves the dinner table without excusing themselves and legit starts making their own dinner because the one prepared wasn't to their liking? Like you could have at least told them before they cooked that you didn't like fish, and then cooked a separate meal and still eat at the table with them or something. And if you *know* you don't like fish, why start eating it and make a face like it's so gross and then just get up and cook something else? Like that's rude whatever way you look it at! He just shows no consideration. And I won't even begin on how he greets is parents-in-law... Like when his mother-in-law had to ask him to get up and greet her, and he even groans as he gets up... For goodness sake! Show some respect for the parents of the woman you love! How many things in a day can he do to disrespect them and keep excusing it as "it's not my culture so I'm not used to it"? that's such a lame excuse.
The in-laws are not perfect, but like maybe if her showed some respect and *tried* to please them, then they would also consider him and meet him half way - e.g learn to ask him before changing things in the house.
His wife is naturally beautiful :).
this guy needs to grow up. just respect your in laws and be nice while they are around. they just want him to respect them and their culture and customs, that's it. respect.
if you don't like the soup, pretend you do. it's just soup!
now if they want you to move in with them that's a bit more serious, talk it out like an adult.
I can squat 140kg for 2 @ 69kg... It's not hard... those big Korean guys should be able too wow
lol they are being polite
C'mon, culture or not you gotta get up an be in a respectful position when _someone_ walks in.
I don't like how he speaks korean but yet uses informal language with anyone regardless of who it is, he can't just pick and choose what he wants from korean culture
I agree that maybe his in laws are a little over bearing and rigid and he's a nice guy, but he expects everyone to just adapt to him
if I married a korean person I would never say "할머니 뭐해?" to my husband's mother
America doesn't have strict social standards within our language, but any decent person at least uses a respectful tone with their grandparents
asian vs western culture
the point is don't force your culture on someone, if yo u are a family let them slowly assimilate,
Guy in yellow shirt is ☺☺
Seriously his father in law is comparing him with Korean son in law? His first son in law is American not Korean they should understand that & yes husband also should try to change himself little bit atleast infront of his parents in law & understand they are Korean family & his mother in law should stop interfering there space 🙏🙏🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I think the son in law has no manners, or respect. And also the parents are too stubborn and rude as well.
휴... 왜 사위집에 커튼을 자기맘대로 바꾸고 왜 안고마워하냐고 소리지르시다니...저런게 한국문화라고 강요하는 자체가 너무 답답하네요.. 딸이 외국사위와 결혼을 했으면 부모님도 사위의 문화를 배우고 이해하도록 하는게 사위에 대한 최소한의 존중 아닐까요 왜 무조건 저 사위에게 저런 일방적인 한국문화를 강요하는지??? 문화라고 하기에도 민망한.. 기본 매너 아닌가...
even in America this guy is rude and immature...give Americans a bad name
뭔가 부족한 집안이네 .. 서로 기대하는게 너무 많다
The mother in law was out of line putting up curtains without asking him. But he needs to at least put an effort to respect Korean culture.
Tbh i dont think the in laws like him
Did i just saw Siamese twin in sub is that what her mom said anyone know please tell me
well, he couldve been more tactful in rejecting lol but yeah i guess he really really dont want seafood, the inlaws are kinda cold and the stuffs they do are just typical old ppl stuffs lol but yeah he just need to put more effort n be more patient
Well Welcome to Korea and korean Culture if you married a korean^^
i hate how the wife doesnt try to convey and teach him..and plus he is being inconsiderate..stubborn..
He seems rude, I think his rudeness applies to all cultures
Old man needs to grow a hair
got7 xDD
man this dude is'nt even trying i havent seen a more stubborn person in my life. you moved to korea, you have to adapt to a certain degree. Was it so hard to accept some new curtains. or get up to say hello, he foreal is too disrespectful
My friend is a Muslim and she is married to a non-muslim Korean man, i wonder if she refused one day to eat pork how her in-laws will react !!
Trinity DiCamillo Muslim in name?
It's not just pork, in Islam were are not allow to bow to any living thing. We are only allowed to bow to God. Another thing, it is not allowed to marry a non-muslim unless they are willing to convert to Islam. But all that aside, you shouldn't force someone to eat something they don't like or can't eat. They knew he doesn't like fish but they still wanted him to eat it.
paul blart?
this family pisses me off.
딸한테 문제있내. 예의범절 알려줘야지 그리고 너무 와이프 가족들이 일방적이다. 서양 사람들은 간섭 받는거 정말 싫어한다.
hard carry
저집 불안불안 하다
세인트조셉 본인입니다 무엇이 그리보이나요 매년 미국으로 가족모두가 여행을 다니고있습니다 저게 사실이면 가능할까요 방송이 무엇을 원하는지 저는 알지못했습니다 편집도 몰랐지요 세인트조셉님 상대방을 생각해주신다면 이해하며 살수있습니다
미국서도 저정도면 무식한데 속함