SO BASICALY HE WAS TRING TO STICK UP FOR THE DUDES AT FIRT BUT BUT THEN SWITCHED TO OH ONLY THE BLACKS AND LATINOS DO THAT, ITS NOT WHITE MEN WHO ACT THIS WAY SO BE BASICALLY PLAYED THE MINORITY CARD.
@Gon Gri I think the point is how you compliment. It's very kind to say how are you? You're very beautiful. I'll say thank you and keep it moving. Men think yelling and cat calling is complimentary and it's not, it's objectifying. I think that was the point Amanda is trying to make. Being yelled at, "damn!!" Or " where you going? What you doing?" Any response is the wrong response. We don't reply or affirm we don't want to tell, often than not men take it as if we're being a "bitch". There's an expectancy as shown by the gentleman here, that we're to smile through it and should feel good that there's an implication of objectivity. No. Say hello, say I'm pretty; fine. Thank you very much. Even then, there's this expectancy placed on women to so more. As if we should be gushing. Sometimes, again more often than not, we are just trying to get through are day. We're not trying to have that obligation, which is sexist. I hope that makes sense.
@elizabeth. So you think this is all about being respected? Right? But the people in this video are claiming it's about safety. Which one are we supposed to believe?
Gin Gri respecting someone would be to not objectify them I’m 14 I don’t need 50 year old men making me scared to go outside in fear of being kidnapped. No I shouldn’t have to carry a gun in fear of being killed because I’m not interested in someone.
So why can't you just think she's "fine" and NOT SAY ANYTHING?? Why do you think your personal opinion needs to be spoken? Do you think she will give you her phone number based on your damned remark? How stupid of you. "Great ass" yeah the best pick up line ever, women swoon.
@@crazynats367 Just ignore people like him. Ik it's tempting to laugh at his grammar, but fighting with people who use menstruation as an argument is like fighting a brick wall.
"I am an expert on men. And the bottom line, women love to be complimented." English is not my first language, someone balance me how the first sentence qualifies the second.🤔🤔🤔
@fooloof stranger danger is really not just for children. Women go missing all the time. More so than men. Women are attacked all the time. We need to be aware of our surroundings at all times really. Some women like cat calling, a lot don't. The point is to approach a woman the way you'd want someone to approach/talk to your mother, sister, etc. Know when she isn't interested and to keep it moving. And always make sure they're of age. Simples
Yeah like dude shut up you dont know what your talking about and she is right a guy says hello you be courteous and responsible hello he thinks it's an invitation for more conversation no its not
Guy's solutions: -it's ok cuz you wouldn't care if they were hot - you should also compliment men - women should get out of NYC - women should stand up for themselves and tell men to shut up - women should carry guns. And the girl's solution is: Men should stop and respect women.
The Sniper I never heard of random women or girls catcalling unless they're prostitutes. Yeah you get a crazy one here and there but it nothing like the random calls from men as you walk
Sattalight he brought up over population. He’s a far right paid lobbiest part of the rich elite whose pairing these opinions with the elite right wing agenda
🤦🏽♂️ This man has deflected and made every effort to blame literally everyone except for the men who are doing this. How does he not see that his mindset towards this issue is a part of the problem??
TheHolyGhost it’s called feminism because it’s about bringing women up to the same level of respect as men. The same reason it’s called black lives matter and not all lives matter. Men and white people are already important and treated as people by society, while women and black people repeatedly aren’t
TheHolyGhost I never said that men don’t have obstacles but no man has ever had people trying to stop him from succeeding because of his gender. A lot of the obstacles that men face are a result of the patriarchy so you can shut the fuck up
TheHolyGhost okay 😂😂. The patriarchy hasn’t worked, we’ve just ended up here and it’s a pretty shut result. Maybe you’d be more suited to the 1920’s when being a sexist prick was normal
@kayemen415 Thank you. Shut up. Your kind of disrespect is why we're glad you 've made this decision. So you see women as bitches and yet you cat call and expect us not to sense people like you and ignore. Maybe you should advice your mom, sis, baby mama and daughter to turn around for any thing that calls them in the streets
I don’t know this guy, you may be right but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true. “Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women should be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year). It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young. Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
"Stand up for yourself, be a strong woman" so ignorant. I'm 5'2, if i even tried to yell at a 6'2 man on the street what good does that do for me? The fact is, it shouldn't happen.
H. Marsh actually yes you can find stories on all the things you listed. But what does that have to do with my point? If you are to scared to go outside because youre scared that every man you see might rape you the stay the FUCK inside. Men also lead in workplace deaths, murder victims, suicide, rape victims, forced to sign up for war etc.. but you never hear you women bitching about that though
Musty Savage I would get scared if a strange man comes close to me to tell me that he liked my boobs or butt or anything about my body. Yes I would be scared because I won't be able to fight him if he tries to do something but we don't ask for catcalls when we're walking in the streets so should I stay in home because men can't controll themselves when they see a female?
Ana P then freaking buy a gun or mace or whatever tf you want to protect yourself because newsflash its a dangerous world out there and there is gonna be guys and FEMALES as well ( dont act like women dont do this as well) like this out there wheter you like it or not. But what you shouldnt do is act like some hopeless little girl who isnt mentally strong enough to ignore it and go about your day. Stop listening to crap like this "social expirement" that does nothing but feed into this cancerous modern day feminism ( that most women dont identify as) to try and paint the picture that all men are supossedly rape crazy monsters and the patriarchy and all that other bullshit they spew
shes trying soo hard to make him look wrong with faces because he isnt far from wrong , he is kind of right. She is actually trying to look like she is not hurt and that she isnt hearing something that is thought provoking.
@@ThePeacePlant lol shes making those faces because she cant believe that he is telling her she doesnt know how women feel, that actually him and other men know what they feel. Hes also saying funny shit like instead of listening when someone says "stop, i dont like it" the response should be "no, you DO like it, shoot me if you dont".
At one sight he's saying it's compliment and on the other note he accepts that it's bad and women should carry a gun and don't complain about men being shitty*"* and simpson
Mina Wren - Don't feed the troll. This person is deliberately saying provocative things and making ridiculous arguments to intentionally provoke people. They find it funny. They wouldn't say any of that stuff to anyone irl and probably don't even believe what they're saying themselves. He or she is literally just using that account to see how mad he or she can make people. Honestly, they're just trying to be funny, not engaging in any kind of real opinion sharing. Don't feed the trolls.
@@aricatrall sis i respect your opinion but please dont use 'mansplaining'. Its just him being an asshole, period. We dont have to make a whole new term for blabbering idiots like him
i think it would also make a difference if it were guys that were bigger then him, and could kick his ass or guys in a group and hes alone. But what... his solution that he states in the video for woman who do find themselves in a situation like that that does turn violent is to carry a gun? The guy in this video is just so infuriating it makes my insides hurt. He's never going to be in this situation himself and just writes off anyone's experience that actually has been in the situation where 'hell yeah I'd love to turn around and tell you to knock it off but I'm also well aware that if you decided to you could hurt me, follow me, kill me.' I didn't leave the house looking good in order for someone anyone to grace me with thier random comments, I left the house looking good because I wanted to look good and feel good for myself. But please tell me how lucky I am to be cat called. ugh. It makes me so mad to see anyone try to justify how anyone 'asks for it'
When you walk alone on the streets fearing youll get groped or raped, cat calling just furthers ur anxiety. We women are weaker physically and everything’s especially horrifying when youve experienced a close call of getting raped.
Man: Women enjoy catcalling. Woman: No we don't. Man: Then tell them to stop. Woman: We do. Some women get killed for that. Man: Then carry a gun! Sheesh, it's like you expect us to follow the law!
@Miad Developer She didn't say that women should fight back- she said that she herself does stand up for herself. But she acknowledges that in that there is risk- as women get killed for fighting against or standing up to those harassing them. She is saying women can stand up to those catcalling them- but are fearful of what it could escalate to, so they often don't. Saying women should just 'fight back' is impractical because it can increase likelihood of getting hurt.
@Miad Developer This is not an isolated incident. Women are actively killed for standing up for themselves and by street harassers all the time. Telling women to carry a gun is equally, if not moreso dangerous, and we should not put the responsibility on women to change their lives (i.e. moving or buying a gun) as to recieve human decency from men. It is disgusting you think women would take dehumanization and objectification if the men were more attractive. Making this a matter of looks truly shows how little you care about or understamd women. Catcalling is a traumatic event for many women- looks have nothing to do with it.
@Miad Developer As i explained, the woman in the video is not dead because that is not a guaranteed occurance and because she not once responded to or fought back to those men. This is serious because it is a representative of how plenty of men view women- targets for their unwanted attention to be treated how they want. Letting behavior like this slide is what leads into more severe sexual assault. Your story about your friends is simply from your personal experience. Even so, bad men get girlfriends all the time (may be as a result of having changed their ways or those women not being aware of their behavior). But most importantly, that catcalling and degrading of women is not what got them girlfriends. Please acknowledge this is a serious issue that as i said does not always lead to assault but can seriously traumarize and upset many women.
@Miad Developer It is not harmless fun- it is only fun to the male perpetrator. I am not blowing it out of proportion- men do not understand how deeply upsetting and disturbing catcalling can be to young women's psyches. Acknowledge that you are part of the problem in seeing the public harassment of women as harmless just because it may not result in an assault. A woman should absolutely never have to be more approachable just for your satisfaction.
I thought she was acting silly...as a woman herself she could have done better than laughing and making facial impressions for me to read...she's a bit ditzy
@@RafaelReyesofficial I agree with L *. She was only laughing, seeming like she only wanted to "keep it polite" instead of actually mediating the conversation with the seriousness it deserved. It plays into his favour not to actually go against what he is saying.
She was trying to remain bias but was applauded and used laughter instead. People mask emotions often.. her facial expressions showed that she was in shock by the man’s stupidity. Just like when she thought Amanda Seales was talking to her forcibly her facial expression changed.
Darth Ur men choose those jobs dumbass. stfu with your “men are stronger” bs. do you have to deal with periods every month? do you have to give birth to have kids? do you have to be catcalled and objectified daily by random men? no. you wouldn’t last a day in a woman’s world.
Darth Ur just to clarify my comment: by woman’s world, i meant a woman’s life. by mans world, i’m assuming you mean the world in general, since most of it is built by men. a mans world isn’t made well for women.
I mean maybe not, I didnt look into it at all outside of just watching this, but it kinda seems like he might have been there just to be the way you see him being... like abrasive and douche-y but purposefully making weak af arguments like saying "I can't speak for women" literally seconds apart from when he fails at trying to speak on behalf of women in a weird ass way when its literally only 2 women and him talking lol or when they like ask dudes on the street to be not pieces of shit being like "mami lemme eat that ass" & the dude is basically like "feminists taking this all too far, you should like it"... like fr I cant be the only one. it just kinda reminds me of the few ultra shit-tier fox news clips (still not anywhere near as shitty as fox tho) when they have "debates" with like tucker carlson, alex jones, or some shit and then they have on some unknown 'liberal' expert who says shit that is weak af and/or shit that literally no one is really trying to advocate for. But the 'liberal' expert is literally just being paid to say stupid shit so the fox team guy can be like "nah get OWN'D w FACTS LIBs". idk I might just be overly cynical and should treat this like entertainment, because it was pretty entertaining tbh. plus if we are just going to look at this like entertainment only, then I am the equivalent of someone going to a WWE comment section being like "this shit fake as fuck yall dummys" lol... yeah
I think their aim was to show the type of men who are like this. But at this point, we all know there are idiots of every gender, race, etc. It would have been more beneficial to have someone reasonable represent the population of men who are reasonable... or at least coming from a reasonable place.....
One of the things I hate the most is men who act like that. I said I wasn't interested and I meant it, so please back off unless you want to get hurt. This is precisely why Mr. Collins from Pride and Prejudice made me so angry. And don't even get me started on men pressuring women into sexual acts with which they are not comfortable.
@@alexanderedinger i am genuinely wondering if you are some troll being controlled in Russia right now. i've seen you comment the same thing on so many of these comments with absolutely no intelligence or argument. it's cracking me up
I agree, he is an idiot, so his parents failed a bit, but his point is still a good one though, don't you think? A large part of some of society's biggest problems these days is a lack of decent parenting, and it's a problem that will be very difficult or even impossible to fix, unfortunately. If I have sons, I'll be raising them to respect women, and that's really one of the best things I can do for the cause. So if everybody else starts doing the same, we might get somewhere. lol
Clara Fernandes he said it's good and then it's bad because it comes from poor parenting?? Earlier he said that it was a part of Black and Latino culture but then dismissed Holla Back as racist. He said that he could speak for men because he's a man, too??
He clearly doesn't have any daughters. I would like to see his opinion about cat calling when his 14 year old daughter comes home upset and crying because some dude cat called her. I bet his opinion on the subject might change a bit.
Why is this even debatable? If a woman says she doesn't like getting comments on her body, don't comment it. And if you are not sure if she would enjoy the cat calling. Don't, freaking, do, it. Why does a mans ego mean more than womens safety? We live in a world where i, a 16 year old girl, is afraid to go out in the evening. I constantly have to think about what i wear. I like to train in loose clothing, that shows my skin. Do i really have to choose between working out, and feeling safe? We should not teach girls all kinds of how Not to get raped. Men should just not rape. It is that easy. I have lived 16 years, and i have never raped a single person my whole life. I have never shouted inapropriate things at strangers to get anyone to sleep with me, or whatever their reasons is. We need to adress this issue. Men like him, shall not silence us!! We stand together!
hey, I am a sixteen year old girl too, and I feel where you're coming from. Difference between me and you is that I'm not one bit scared of the outside world. I easily walk out of the house and tell my parents I'll be home around 11pm and that I'll be riding my bike home. They honestly don't give a damn. I bike around my neighbourhood past 11pm to get my energy out and help me fall asleep. It makes me feel great, empowered, and tired after. for caution I use a flashlight when going through parks with no lights, and if I hear anything i nope out of there. What I'm gonna say to you, try to go out in the evening. Show that you are strong and empowered. You might be scared but if I can do it, you can too. take the precautions like having your phone with you, use it as a flashlight but really that's all you need. Everyone needs that. Go into the world without fear.
I am very happy that you live somewhere safer than here. But i have experienced more than once, that a car have followed me. And even someone shouting at me and trying to force me into their car. Fear is not real, fear is something made up in our minds. Danger, on the other hand, is very real. And where i live, i need to do what i need to do to not get hurt. For me, it is not as easy as to just Not be scared, cause i have my reasons to be.
Brock T, you do not know what i am wearing when i am out. I have been cat called wearing long pants and a hoodie, so yes! It still does happen. It doesn't stop just because i put on more clothes. And Why are you trying to tell young girls, that their worth come from what they wear? You are not helping me to Not get raped, right now you are trying to make sure he rapes the other girl! I do not see why it matters what girls wear, just because som girls like to wear short shorts, doesn't mean they ae ''asking for it''. If they feel confident wearing that type of clothes, then tell me, why are they not allowed to do that? Why are you telling girls to wear clothes they don't feel beautyful, hot or comftable in? Why can't we just teach young men to not comment on girls bodys. And not only young men, but old guys do this as well. Where are the manners, and the commen sense to not mind other peoples bodies?
I am so tired of hearing 'most of the time', it is not a valid argument. It might be true, but what does it change? It still happens, no matter what. And you will be surprised by how many white men do it as well. Trust me, i know how to defend myself, and that is not my point. It is not, that i as one person can't defend myself. The problem is, that we shouldn't have to! We should not be needing to defend us selves from guys on the street. Guys should just learn how to behave. Men have never had it as hard as women. This is not a meetoo cry, this is our everyday life!
Excuse me? How can you think it is okay to say that to another person? FYI i do Not have rape fantasies, just like you don't have neither a heart nor common sense or a life.
That dude will be singing a different tune when his daughter comes home in tears because men catcalled or harassed her while she's minding her own business..
@@ic2063 hollering back isn’t always a good idea, especially at night 💀 a lot of women end up getting followed home or worst case scenario raped and or killed by these type of men.
Nothing makes me more angry than the comments on this video. first off: Cat Calling DOES NOT equal genuine compliments. If a guy came up to me and said "hey, I just want to tell you you're really pretty" I would thank them, regardless of what they looked like. But coming from someone who's been catcalled before, that is NOT the same thing. Also, saying "don't live in a populated city." Excuse me? I think a person has the right to live wherever he or she wants, without worrying about being harassed on the streets. I have been catcalled and I live in a tiny little town. I've seen stories of women attacked for standing up for themselves after being catcalled. One more point: If being catcalled should be respected, should we also respect a guy and say thank you if he comes up and gropes us? because "you have such a nice ass" its okay because girls want to have boys touch their butts, right? Girls would like it if the guy was hot right? NO. I don't care if a professional Calvin Klen model came up and groped me or catcalled me. I would not enjoy it. I don't think anyone would.
Preach girl! I totally agree with you! This shows what the majority of men really think of when it comes to "complimenting" women. They think that they're "boosting" our confidence but we appreciate a man that comes and says hello or just smiles rather than says "Damn girl" or "Hey beautiful" I can't believe we're being told to live in certain places so that we can be safe. Sad!
Citizen Qua Remember it goes both ways. Men can't control how they feel either, but they can control their actions. Some men might feel like women are taking a stand to say that all compliments and therefore any advancements whatsoever are bad, because any sort of attention could be perceived as unwanted attention. I don't necessarily think guys are looking for a rich girl--definitely a good looking girl--but I do think the backlash is not necessarily coming from catcallers but guys who are now wondering if any time is OK to walk up to a girl and start talking to her. It's terrifying enough as it is.
Sarah en Because it's not up to me to decide how she feels. That's up to her. I could do what I think is gentlemanly, and she could take it as intimidating if she wants to (or automatically, I guess). The fact that maybe a 100 guys went up to her today may have put her in a defensive posture. Any way you look at it, there's no way to know how a woman is going to react, and empathetic people would probably prefer to not even risk scaring or intimidating someone, regardless of their intentions. The likelihood of you meeting a random nice guy diminishes because of the fact that he'd rather happen to find himself in a place where it's not intimidating for anyone. So I think unless you make it just as clear what appropriate behavior is, making less clear what inappropriate behavior is just going to confuse nicer gentlemen into leaving you alone completely. I guess if that's what you want (less interaction overall), that's fine though.
that's the same type of thinking a lot of people have with other forms of discrimination. minorities will complain about lack of diversity in the media, sometimes the response is "then make your own hollywood movie".
diornotwar123 Sounds exactly like when non-gendercentric issues are raised from the other gender's point of view, and the modern feminist movement tells men to "get their own movement", then of course when men DO speak up, on their own, they are then labelled horrible evil neck bearded fedora wearing MRA's! Such hypocrisy withing the modern western third wave feminist movement, it is BUILT on hypocrisy and double standards!
Cory Karp no, no, no.... just no. Men do not need to get their own movement. do you even know what feminism is? its is equality for all (race, gender, socioeconomic standing). Anyone who says otherwise is not a true feminist. please do try to hide your ignorance or alleviate it before you speak
Morgan 147 That is what the definition of feminism was from when the first wave of feminism happened, but just because that WAS the definition, in the first wave, does not mean IN ANY WAY that third wave feminism lives up to that definition, your argument is nothing more than a "No true Scotsman" logical fallacy, Feminism has not meant anything near the original dictionary definition of "feminism" since the end of the second wave. The last thing modern third wave feminism in the west is interested in, is equality, that is why notable second wave feminists like Erin Pizzey, the first person to open a DV shelter for women, and Dr. Warren Farrell, the only man to be elected to the NY executive board for NOW (National Organization for Women) not only divorced themselves from the feminist name and movement, but are strong men's rights advocates (The dirty MRA's) and align themselves with "A Voice for Men". The reason? Men very much need a voice for their rights, as they are being trampled by a corrupted ideology that is nothing more than a cancer on society in the name of political correctness, that cancer is called by it's short name... "feminism", long name, modern western third wave feminism, no relation to first or second wave feminism, they only borrowed the name in an attempt to add an air of legitimacy to the sexist and anti-social movement. The term "feminsm" has NEVER been about equality for men or about men's issues, the movement has ALWAYS been about woman's issues, hence the prefix "fem-", modern feminists just want everyone to believe it also looks at mens issues so there is no movement competeing for attention from the public or governments while they (the feminist movement) continue to ignore the males side of nongendercentric issues like sexual assault , domestic violence and rape, or male specific issues like anti-male bias in the courts when it comes to false rape allegations, custody issues, sentencing and the like. FROM the Oxford English Dictionary: *feminism* See definition in Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary Line breaks: fem¦in|ism Pronunciation: /ˈfɛmɪnɪz(ə)m/ Definition of feminism in English: noun [mass noun] The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Example sentences Synonyms The issue of rights for women first became prominent during the French and American revolutions in the late 18th century. In Britain it was not until the emergence of the suffragette movement in the late 19th century that there was significant political change. A ‘second wave’ of feminism arose in the 1960s, with an emphasis on unity and sisterhood; seminal figures included Betty Friedan and Germaine Greer www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/feminism Tell me again where the definition says men's issues as well please... I know what second and first wave feminism was about, I learned from a very active feminist in the second wave, my own mother, who, like Erin Pizzey and Dr. Warren Farrell, divorced herself fromt he movement and became an MRA when the third wave, the child of the bat-shit man hating crazy radicals from the second wave. True feminism achieved it's goals a long time ago, women have all...scratch that... MORE legally protected rights than men in the west, modern third wave feminists now want special privilege and rights without any responsibility attached, and their demands are based on wants and feels, not rights and equality. They want equality of outcome regardless of effort, NOT equality of opportunity, they already have that, and have for a long time. What you claim is "feminism" is actually egalitarianism: FROM the Oxford English Dictionary: egalitarianism See definition in Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary Line breaks: egali|tar¦ian|ism Pronunciation: /ɪˌɡaləˈtɛːrɪənɪz(ə)m/ Definition of egalitarianism in English: noun [mass noun] The doctrine that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities. www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/egalitarianism Check your ignorance before you attempt to pretend to even know what it is,or call out others on your incorrect perception of what constitutes "ignorance". Feminism by definition, does not care about men's issues or non-gendercentric issues, it ONLY cares about woman's issues. _"please do try to hide your ignorance or alleviate it before you speak"_ Next time, take your OWN advice.
its called feminism because it was created by a group of women in order to get voting rights. And because women couldnt get these rights themselves, they enlisted the help of men that agreed with their cause (so its not just about women or just involving women). After that goal it expanded to fighting for the rights of everyone. and there is also a difference of being "hyper-politically correct" and believing in a cause.
stone sherrill women naturally have bad coordination. It is in their genes. You dont need that much training to point and shoot. But i would be weary of a female with a gun because girls get emotional and will pop off for silly things
I’ve been getting cat called since I was 12, for me it’s scary. First time was at 12 and it really made me uncomfortable. To this day, I don’t answer to any boy that addresses me in that way.
@@aricatrall guys like these really believe that men should take no responsibility. They'll cry and say that women can't control their emotions and thus won't converse with us but in the same vain tell us they "can't control themselves" whenever they lay eyes on us. Thankfully I've never met a guy like this, but men like this one are obnoxious and want to get away with what they're doing. They don't want any responsibility and feel it's their right to always blame us for merely existing.
Bishop Well I mean, there are ways to say it respectfully! But saying "hey baby, damnnnnn" or whatever... that's rude. You can look, but vocalizing it like that makes me feel awkward.
DaisyDukeBeauty right?! Like no i don't care how he looks or who he is we don't want the sexual harassment from strangers. There's other ways to talk to someone on the street then cat calling
@jugy I'm not wrong buddy. This is what I think about the whole situation: I think it's not right for men to stalk or give off a rapey vibe or say things which are sexually explicit to a female stranger, but I think it's ok for a man to compliment a female stranger by saying "Your dress is very nice today, lady". Not all catcalling is bad, as I have mentioned in my previous sentence.
@@aspiknf theres a difference between catcalling and compliments. Catcalling is to comment on a womans body and objectify her because u are interested. Complimenting is to genuinely comment something nice. Catcalling makes woman feel unsafe. You should learn the difference on how to actually compliment someone. Imagine a woman looking down at ur pants and say "Ooh you packing, lemme get ur number" when are absolutely not interested? You wouldn't like that. Period
@@watermelon6850 If a woman looked down at my pants and said "ooh you packing, lemme get ur number" when I'm absolutely not interested, then personally it wouldn't bother me. I have never catcalled in my life. Two girls did slap me on the bum without my consent to it when I was in high school but I enjoyed it, that's just me. I know that if the tables were turned and two guys slapped a woman on the bum without her consent then nowadays some women would scream "rape!" or "he assaulted me!" when it's just a playful pat on the bum. If I can cope with being patted on the bum then so can they. Now that I think about it in hindsight, I don't think catcalling is that bad e.g. someone shouting "Hey sexy!" or "Grrr hey tiger! you've big melons" etc. I wouldn't mind if women shouted that to me on the street. If there are women who get scared because of catcalling, then that's understandable because the men catcalling could look physically stronger and bigger and it could look intimidating but that doesn't mean catcalling itself should be banned, catcalling is just silly fun in a way. If some of these women are feeling threatened by catcalling then they could keep pepper spray or a taser or a panic alarm but I don't think catcalling should be banned, I'll think about it
tony montana - Ahhh, admonishing the use of shaming language with shaming language. Classic hypocritical incel. I am not saying it to shame you - I'm saying it because you genuinely come across that way, and the word is the best common language to describe that. Let me put it another way: you sound like a guy who hates women, and your hatred comes across in the same sort of way as the type of guys who hate women because they can't get one, have stopped trying, and have angrily embraced their lot in life, reaffirming hateful sentiments to convince themselves that they're not the problem: everyone else is. But the reality is, deep down, they know it's not anyone but themselves that causes their situation; but that doesn't mean they'll stop trying to convince themselves otherwise. So yeah, that's what I mean when I call you an incel. If you feel ashamed, that's your business. I mean, I get it. I'd be ashamed too.
So first he was saying how he thought women who didnt like being cat called were whiny and how he was more of an expert on the matter THAN AN EXPERIENCED WOMAN And then he continues to tell her she should stand up for herself and tell them to stop. He contradicted himself right there, if he was more of an expert than her he should have known that yelling back leads to deaths, rapes, and so much more. Then he tells her to carry a gun😑 ignorant men are so annoying. i bet hes probably a catcaller himself
It's really heartening to me to see all these women in the comments emphatically saying: "this shit is not right". I have a couple of friends who do it and it makes *me* really uncomfortable so God knows how it makes women feel. Yeah, I walk a lot faster/slower when they do it so as to make it look like I'm not associated with them (and I have asked them not to do it, it's crass af AND they've both got girlfriends but it goes in one ear and out the other...oh shit my friends are dicks, aren't they?!!??)...
I'm 13 and people already cat call me also when I'm walking on the sidewalk I look at people in their cars and the are all looking at me and my ass once an old man slowed down beside me when and just stared at me I pretend not to see him but then I looked at him and gave him the death stare and he drove off. Honestly it's uncomfortable and gross how some men think this is okay
Jay Tee I'm 13 of course I like attractive guys but if the hottest guy in my school was making me feel uncomfortable and rude then he would be less attractive and I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Because don't get me wrong I do find some guys really hot but it also comes down to personality
I was 9 year old when someone cat called me. I was getting ice cream at corner store and I was wear pink flower shirt with Jean skirt and my mom bought it for me. He was in the car and he said that he love my skirt and that was cute, I didn't say anything and I didn't look at him. I was so scared and I started running. I was thinking it's was my fault because what I weared. I don't want kids to think that's they fault and think that catcalled are okay. No little girl or boy should be catcalled or feel uncomfortable.
I don’t know this guy, you may be right but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true. “Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women should be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok... BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year). It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young. Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
“there’s nothing a woman wants more than to know how pretty she is” okay first of all, when I did go to NYC in the summer of 2015, I was 14 years old. And when I walked the streets to go get McDonald’s, I would get cat called literally all the time. My body had always been a little more developed but that was not my fault nor was I seeking attention. Does this man really believe that a 14 year old wants random grown ass men to tell her what they love about her body? Describing what they’d like to do to her when all she wanted to do was go get some McDonald’s and go back to her hotel. That shit literally gave me anxiety and now I really don’t enjoy going to big cities anymore. I’m just a girl from a small town in Texas and I was certainly not prepared for such a display of toxic masculinity. And another thing, I would rather be told that I’m loved rather than told that I’m pretty. Compliments are one thing but I’m more than what people see on the outside. Tbh those same men catcalling are probably lonely and have to resort to blatant disrespect to get attention from a woman.
Heauxmade if you’re an Attractive women you hear how pretty you are all the time. So I don’t know why men think their 100th “ you’re beautiful“makes a difference. It’s gets annoying real quick. Men think from their lens. They won’t understand Because they are always on the pry for women and thinking about sex so they think we are the same way.
I'd like for someone to send you to those strict Shariah judges to ask you do you have proofs for Muhammad being a pedophile. If you don't have the proofs, they cut off your stupid typing, bigot commenting hands and we could all continue living. Lot from the Bible had sex with his two daughters, you people believe that God had sex with a woman and after all that you dare to talk shit about other religion. What a believer of the year you must be. No, scratch that, a human of the year. Meanwhile, bye bitch.
Says the guy whose religion teaches that God raped a 14 year old, virgin, married woman. And there are lots of stories about incest and killing innocent people. And also you are the one attacking and cursing other people, not another way around. God must love you. :*
It's funny how each time the women try to give their point of view he always interrupted and telling them to hold up yet when he spoke they were not interrupting him plus he seems like one of those Republican type creeps that talks family but in the dark doing all kind of non family things!!!
@@joyr9279 .. Has nothing to do with Feminism and a lot to do with respect. From what I understand Feminism was a term Men label Women. Started decades ago when women were refusing to be submissive to man..
I can imagine if on his way out of the CNN studio someone punched the man in the face, then said "THAT'S YOUR OWN FAULT- YOU SHOULDA BEEN CARRYING A GUN."
J Briggs your counter argument cannot counter so you just go straight for the strawman. Congratulations you have no argument or ground to stand on and you should just accept that you're wrong
"someone's acknowledging you, you should say thank you." Is literally the most disgusting line ever, she's just walking, she doesn't *want* attention. It also implies all she wants is attention...
The women's faces while that ridiculous man is speaking are priceless, and well represent my face. He seriously used air quotes for feminist. Yes, cat calling is 100% not complimentary. Holy geez dude
"I don't care what makes you uncomfortable. Why should I stop." How about because they want you to? Consent is relevant to more than intercourse, social interaction also falls under that agreement. That attitude of "I don't care, why should I?" is exactly the problem. People putting their own desire to objectify someone over the recipient's comfort at being objectified. And if you're complimenting a person's body over their personality, you're reducing them to their sex characteristics. Some people respond well to be told they're hot, but unless you know it's safer for all concerned, and far preferable, to just not.
Yasmin Reyhani quit lying. Yes u do! People seek approval and positive reinforcement from their surroundings . U are just not smart enough to realize it. If when you went through all that trouble to look good and no one gave you the attention you were seeking, you would have self-esteem issues. Women spend all that time infront of a mirror because they want and crave the attention! You might not want it from a unattractive guy but you still crave attention. Plus this chick is average. Nothing special
Yasmin Reyhani What B Jvuhsaini is trying to say is that we women are simply too deceitful to be trusted to know our own motivations, desires, and emotions. Men clearly have psychic powers of which us poor women folk can only dare to dream. The voices in their heads tell them what women truly want and need, so who are men to deny women the privilege of being told that a man would honor them with his attention? And if women disagree with those voices, well, the poor creatures are clearly either lying or deluded! (And yes, this is sarcasm).
Oh, my God. Don't live in New York or just carry a gun? This man is the definition of unreasonable and defensive. What a creep. Also, use this video if you ever want to show a sample of 'mansplaining' or 'manterrupting'. The female guest was so well spoken and pretty patient with his bullshit.
As a plus size woman, I get catcalled even when I'm dressed head to toe in black, hat on, shades on, headphones, literally trying to be incognito, and it still happens. I hate the feelings of eyes on me like preyed on. It's terrifying and it happens everywhere. This man has no idea what it's like.
This video was incredibly hard for me to watch. I wanted to scream at my phone the entire time. What a cocky, entitled, ignorant man who is literally A BIG PART of the problem. His 'if you don't want to be cat called, don't walk around, don't live in NY and carry a gun' logic was inane. All of the respect and love in the world to this woman, Amanda.
no .the woman and way too oversensitive about AN ACTUAL COMPLIMENT. i. don't care how you wanna twist it ,its a compliment. either way what are you gonna do, restrict their freedom of speech. i just marvel at feminist stupidity.
Yeah, the book The Manual wasn't that bad (I skim read it cuz one of my female friends was reading it). I'd like to think he was playing the devil's advocate :S
+Sad Otaku no just NO you are clearly forgetting manners 101 as it's basic manners to know the difference between a compliment and a insult you should know this and in case you don't lemme tell you......as a CHILD you should have learned the proper tone to use when talking or GIVING A COMPLEMENT when giving a compliment you should restrain yourself from using vulgar language such as ass boobs curse words etc and you should look the person in the face and say with a smile (and proper tone) "you look lovely today goodbye!" and go on your way and if you don't want to go through the trouble of all this how bout you just look straight ahead and leave her alone cuz your too lazy to compliment a girl/women properly OK! BYE
Light Yagami You do realize you're complaining as well? A woman complaining about being catcalled doesn't automatically make her a feminist. Seriously, stfu yourself.
Light Yagami I think you need therapy first and foremost. No one enjoys strangers talking to them. I'm sure you'd complain like a bitch if random guys said stuff like "sexy man" or "hot legs".
OK SO... when I was 14 I was living in Tokyo for a while. Everyday, alone, I would walk to the corner store (literally half a block away) and at first I was very secure in my safety. The locals were always very sweet and helpful. EVENTUALLY I became terrified to walk to the store because every time I saw European or American tourists (which was actually quite often where I was) I would be "complimented" as this guy is saying. On my looks, body etc. 40 year old men would ask to sleep with me. Some young English guys threw food at my butt. And it was terrifying. I. would always check to see that they weren't following me. fuck this guy, its scary. AND I CERTAINLY did NOT want to be "complimented". I wanted to feel safe and be left alone, and it was SCARY NO MATTER HOW ATTRACTIVE THEY WERE.
claire mitchell..............The thing is, a compliment does not make someone feel threatened and uncomfortable. The word compliment is not appropriate for the situation in this video, or what occured to you. It was catcalling and sexual harassment at it's finest. It was a hostile and fearful environment.
claire mitchell It's very difficult and nerve racking. but when you reach a certain age, it gets more respectful and not every 2 seconds, and some people leave it at just looking. It's a shame there's not an easier/quicker way to get a break! it's NEVER been a joyous part of life...
He’s literally missing the point...😂😂It’s UNWANTED bro if a women doesn’t want it maybe DONT do IT... Regardless of how you think she should be taking the “compliment”
men shouldn’t be allowed to comment on problems they’ll never experience. women are always IN FEAR that those comments will turn into something more than comments. it’s terrifying, especially when you live in a big city. i don’t think most men will ever grasp this concept. it’s sad. this man is pathetic.
Who has made those laws men. That is why men don't want women in positions of power in politics so they have no one stoping them from changing Laws so women have little to no rights " AGAIN ". The past always repeats itself if we don't educate ourselves about history.
I’m a man. I’ve been hollered at by women. Had my ass grabbed by a woman at a bar. & even had a random woman at the mall intentionally put down a girl I was with out loud as we passed by. Saying “Why is he with her”.
I'm sorry but are people seriously trying to conflate a compliment and catcalling? If you wanted to compliment someone then why would you holla at them from the other side of the street where they can't see you? A compliment is someone coming up to you in a polite manner and acknowledging that you've got nice hair or look pretty; A damn catcall is "Ayy sexy, wanna make my day?" or "God bless you baby" or the infamous "Ayy yo mami, what that mouth do". You see the difference? Its not as simple as someone saying "Yo beautiful", its much more degrading than that and it makes women feel uncomfortable. Are compliments meant to do that?
You are correct, but the whole purpose of "street harassment" is that men shouldnt compliment women. Hence the video had several examples of guys saying "Hello Beautiful" as being harassment. There is certainly a problem with some of this and the one guy in this video is creepy as shit, but making it to where men arent allowed to talk to women they dont know isnt the answer, and agree with it or not, thats the ultimate goal of "hollaback"
u do understand that if women didnt have a positive response to catcalls they wouldnt exist right?. u do understand that if women only responded to men who were polite and courteous and respectful we'd all be that way right? the fact is there are too many women that like men who are rude, and disrespectful so men wont change for the select few that walk around nyc for 10 hours.
Patriarchal norms are why these guys think they're entitled to shout stuff at women like this. But patriarchal norms work more insidiously and on everyone. Read up on it. ps. bell hooks is awesome
I agree with this logic. It just seems that women do not agree on this issue either. Not the bigger point of being harassed, but women (as a collective) don't agree on what harassment is. Some women have stated that they believe they shouldn't even be "hit on" or "approached", they consider those things to be cat calling. They have stated that "hello beautiful" is cat calling. I believe cat calling is screaming, whistling, etc... things that you stated. I also view harassment as "to annoy persistently"....meaning if you reject my advances and I stop talking to you immediately, I didn't harass you.
Focused313, you are correct in my opinion. A person can't simply redefine a word and expect it to mean anything to other people. I could consider someone saying hello to me to be a death threat, that wouldn't make it true though, would it? The issue here is that the way to redefine words and/or the social dynamic to do with such words, and verbal communication is by altering public opinion in favor of the new definition, and that videos like these are made with that intention. Personally though I would hardly consider this to be a success in that context, it acts as confirmation bias to those who already thought this way, and as being completely daft and laughable to those who do not.
The first ever time a man has ever came up to me was when I was only 14 years old and I was sitting in the car with my window down when my mum went in the shop ( I couldn’t put my window up cause my mum took the keys ) and a man around his 40’s came to the car and asked for some money so I told him I didn’t have any so he turned away and I can remember feeling so much relief but then he turned back to the car and started asking me if I was single, a virgin and all stuff like that and then saying how sexy I was baring in mind at the time I was ONLY 14 I can remember freezing up and not knowing what to say so I just said I did have a boyfriend but sitting in that car I just felt so trapped and scared because I couldn’t get out or shut my window I was just stuck eventually he walked a bit away but he stood infont of the car and just watched me I was so terrified !!! I know this isn’t catcalling but it just shows that some men treat us like dolls or don’t understand how scared and uncomfortable they make us also I would just like to point out AGAIN THAT U WAS ONLY 14!!!!!
I am so sorry this happened to you girl.A situation like this also happened to me when I was 11.Don't worry though.We'll all get through this together :)
i have no laifu If you’re a guy this’ll be a million times more ironic, since you clearly don’t know what mansplaining is. So here’s the actual definition! man·splain - verb - (of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.
Azami Wren for 1 I'm a girl okay for 2 anyone can interrupt someone so you don't need a name for it it's just one of those things the feminist made up yes I agree with 1 and 2 wave feminism but 3rd wave feminism is just a joke
Alexander Edinger I think it's called mansplaining because of a man explaining a woman how she should feel in her situation instead of recognizing that he doesn't experience the same to know and be qualified to tell others how to react and feel about catcalling. He's clearly telling Amanda how women find catcalling attractive because they need compliments so you can see he's arrogantly making assumptions about women that he has no right to not to mention, happen to be entirely inaccurate. If a woman told a man condescendingly on how he should feel when disrespected and belittled on the streets and how he shouldn't consider it to be demeaning then that's just as wrong in my opinion.
Because girls love it when attractive men show them attention and feed them compliments. They just don't want to hear it from ugly, undesirable men. If 6'3" model millionaire Chad were complimenting her on the street she'd EAT it the fuck up.
This man is so clueless and why did CNN bring someone with an uneducated point of view... Compliments are great, cat calls is someone you may not be interested in visibly letting you know you are sexually attractive even when your mindset is I just want to get to work safely.
But that's the thing "compliments are great" yet nowadays there are women who get offended and become crybabies even with simple compliments like 'your dress is lovely'
Arran Vid honestly, if I don’t know you and I’m walking down the street, u don’t need to give any compliments. I’m fine, women can feel uncomfortable talking to strangers.
Arran Vid maybe in a convo or something where you’re actually talking to them but just with them walking by to me is just weird af. just be honest and say u wanna fuck lol
I don’t know this guy, you are right cat calls are wrong... but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true. “Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women must be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok... BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year). And to deny the best looking guys get away with saying things average or below average guys can’t is to deny the truth. There are actual studies on this that prove it, and it also helps get the the job and get promoted. Basically being very attractive is the golden ticket to a much easier life (yes, it can be messed up by a shitty personality but overall it is true). It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young. Those were her words not mine, what changed? Her perspective, that’s all, nothing else. Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
Lilly Love please don’t do the “women/men are better than this because they are more __.” Because it’s just pitting all of us against each other. We don’t need an unnecessary gender war on UA-cam .
Awa Touray thanks for your comment. But it has nothing to do with putting men and women against eachother. The statement that the man made was just based on ignorance and he wouldn’t understand how women feel in this sense and Amanda was stating facts. This stuff happens all the time. This is not a gender war, this is reality. I get that the statement I made may be offensive but that’s just my own opinion, if you don’t agree with it, then keep scrolling. Thank you!!
His entire demeanor demonstrates what he thinks of women, he talked over BOTH women, even though they gave him an opportunity to explain his position. And his answer was, “There is nothing wrong with this behavior, women love it.”, and, “If the men cat-calling were more attractive they would love it.” That logic is ridiculous: if a woman is saying “no I don’t” yet he feels entitled to tell her she is lying or wrong, he has zero respect for women as a whole. “Move to a different city.” ??? “Carry a gun.” In case a man takes offense because you responded and rejected his cat-call ‘compliment’ as he refers to it. I have no doubt any woman who dates this guy for one night is being told “No.” and is answer is “no means yes” when he in on the stand in court after he is arrested for rape. He is a Neanderthal (and I apologize for insulting Neanderthals)
The question is why should woman be put in a position where they would be required to stand up for themselves? Why are we teaching woman how to defend themselves from this rather than teaching the MEN (the clear source of this issue) to respect woman the way they'd want a man to respect their daughter?
saying men is the clear source of the issue is your opinion. How come you don't see women as being the clear source of the issues. Why don't we teach women how to dress more conservatively and respectfully? Have you ever thought about that?
Nunya Dambidnis In the context of the video, who was trying to seek negative attention. Is silently walking down the street seeking negative attention to you? Does silently walking down the street condone being followed for 5 minutes or being constantly cat called? Great logic.
Nunya Dambidnis How many times is this vile and idiotic argument going to be uttered? It's so fucking baseless it's ridiculous. Just. Don't. Do. It. No matter what she wears. It's not like being asked to solve complex math problems....
He reminds me of the guy he thinks that pushing himself on you harder is just him helping you see that you want him. I'm pretty sure he has made the women in his office feel very uncomfortable and unsafe.
How about, instead of women having to stand up for themselves and carry guns to avoid being catcalled, the men catcalling just stop catcalling? Woah. Revolutionary, l know. I'm a radical. (Also I'll say people should stop catcalling people, for all who say "men get catcalled too." Yes, we know. But there is a skewed ratio. It happens more to women.)
***** Talking to them like a normal human being leads to them thinking they're getting more out of you which leads to you inevitably telling them you're not interested which leads to them getting angry and saying horrible things.
Urukins Right. But the standing up for themselves would be more of a survival tactic and wouldn't be necessary if no one was catcalling in the first place. But it might be necessary now since it does happen, so you have a point.
Ugh, why can't men who catcall understand that catcalling doesn't make women feel empowered? Like, it's not a compliment. You can't just objectify women and then expect them to want you. Like, sorry? But that's not how it works, Sweetheart.
Mikey Silva first off, it is a compliment I don’t get how you think it’s not. If a guy tells a woman “hey your beautiful” is that not a compliment? And also, it’s not objectifying woman at all they are getting acknowledged for their beauty. Mind you this also happens to men but do they flip out and go on the news? No. They don’t.
Josh There's a big difference between telling a woman "Hey you're beautiful" then leaving it at that and the men who shout things after us. Yesterday I was in the grocery store, and an older gentleman walking by said "I like your outfit, you look really nice." I smiled and said thank you, he said you're welcome, and went along his merry way. THAT was a compliment, it made me feel good and I had a smile on my face for the rest of the day. However, walking down the street and having guys SHOUT after you is not a compliment, and neither is telling a woman you like her boobs, butt, legs, or in general saying something about her body. When guys do that, it's often because they either think it's funny, or because they're just looking to get a woman's attention for sexual purposes. They're not looking at me as a person, they're looking at me as a body. That's objectifying. It doesn't feel good AT ALL. When that gentleman complimented me in the grocery store, his calm, kind demeanor made his intentions obvious: To be a nice person and tell a girl she looked nice. The men on street who catcall aren't being "nice" for the sake of being nice. They're looking for some sort of reward. It's especially obvious when they YELL at women, comment on their bodies, and sometimes even follow them. If you truly want to compliment a woman, that's awesome, you're a great guy. But give her an actual compliment. Put it this way: If you wouldn't say it to your mother, don't say it to any other woman. "That's a nice outfit", "You look beautiful", "I love your hair", are all examples of good compliments - provided you're not shouting them at women walking down the street, and that you don't follow them just to tell them, because that's really creepy.
I remember watching that video and thinking, "man, there is a catcalling problem among the minority community". I'm not racist, just making an observation that the cat-callers were mostly minority, maybe a culture thing.
Bill BurrFan - no, its not a culture thing, thats dumb. My cat callers are white, because guess what... i live in a predominantly white neighborhood, its not hard to grasp. "Regions"
I think it’s really sad we have men in our world that think this way! I commend Amanda for standing up for what’s right and what’s not right. Just because he was raised a certain way he feels entitled ,also for him to come at parents the way he did is disrespectful.I’m a gay man in America and I hear this daily from women all around me. It hurts me that my mother,grandmother,sisters,women,girls,and young ladies have to deal with this bull! I have a close girlfriend who is literally scared for her and her 2 children’s lives because a guy wants to be with her. The catch is that she doesn’t want him,so he decides he wants to stock her. We also worked together and he was literally calling our store asking for her. She had erased her Instagram to get away from him but,he just keeps finding way.....I told her to try and get a restraining order put out against him,she said cops said they can’t if he hasn’t touched or tried to harm her physically. But what happens when he does try to hurts her the first time? Those are 2 young babies without their mother to raise them. Amanda is a boss!❤️✨
Completely agree with the man. If dude is a 6’3” male model who is immediately recognized as a man of resources, these women immediately go into hypergamy mode. So sick of the pseudo indignation. Funny how the lady “woman-splains” and preaches down to the man while simultaneously tells the man what he should be thinking.
So you'd rather me get into a gun battle, risk my life, than to tell a man to stop being disgusting and creepy? Sometimes silence is our only defense because we are so terrified when we're catcalled on the street. I'd rather use my words than bullets to end an argument, sir, thank you very much.
i believe mary is referring to you're comment, but what she may be trying to say is that feminist say men and women should be treated equally (in some occasions for both sides they are not treated equally). Added with the fact women are allowed to be afraid because in most occasions they are not physically stronger then some men. I believe they are both just saying they have to be cautious, like all people do.
Zane Moon Everyone has to be cautious but it seems only men and non-feminists know this. But feminists keep saying we're equal so I'll go with that since it grants me benefits too. Women can't ask me for anything because they should be able to equally handle their problems.
That's what's concerning. If his books do sell and if theyre full of the same nonsense reasoning that he gave here, he could be educating a large group of men on how NOT to properly act like a man. He practically "man-splained" his way through the whole conversation and essentially victim blamed by implying that women shouldnt dress/present themselves in a certain way. If that doesnt work, then they shouldnt act in a certain way. And if that doesnt work, they should flat out just move. Like seriously, wouldnt it be easier if we just taught everyone proper manners that respected others feelings? It isnt rocket science!
Of course it sells...to all the ALT-RIGHT MAGA people who think Trump is the best thing that ever happened to this country even though everything he's done so far (and that isn't much) has hurt/damaged our country, its people and its resources. I wouldn't be surprised if the Red States were already buying slaves from Libya. That's where this country is headed if Trump has his way.
After the whole Harvey Weinstein/Hollywood abuse scandal, I wonder if he regrets saying these things... *Amanda is very wise!* Her facial expressions could easily make iconic gifs 😁
Mitch Anderson Amen-i just posted how it's "inferring" and the most basic logic mistake. I happen to be a women and don't expect my comment to get to much criticism (lol sarcasm)
Amanda deserves ALL of the awards! She said everything we were thinking and shut homeboy down at every turn. Thank you thank you!
Her eye-rolling and faces towards the end were the perfect response to that torrent of bollocks.
SO BASICALY HE WAS TRING TO STICK UP FOR THE DUDES AT FIRT BUT BUT THEN SWITCHED TO OH ONLY THE BLACKS AND LATINOS DO THAT, ITS NOT WHITE MEN WHO ACT THIS WAY SO BE BASICALLY PLAYED THE MINORITY CARD.
Who the fuck are WE? I can;t stand people speaking for others.
chescaleigh this man is straight trash 🚮
Mike Hawk 😐
"Stand up for yourself...carry a gun" no thank you can I just be respected?
Gon Gri wanting respect is being controling? Dude what
@Gon Gri I think the point is how you compliment. It's very kind to say how are you? You're very beautiful. I'll say thank you and keep it moving. Men think yelling and cat calling is complimentary and it's not, it's objectifying. I think that was the point Amanda is trying to make. Being yelled at, "damn!!" Or " where you going? What you doing?" Any response is the wrong response. We don't reply or affirm we don't want to tell, often than not men take it as if we're being a "bitch". There's an expectancy as shown by the gentleman here, that we're to smile through it and should feel good that there's an implication of objectivity. No. Say hello, say I'm pretty; fine. Thank you very much. Even then, there's this expectancy placed on women to so more. As if we should be gushing. Sometimes, again more often than not, we are just trying to get through are day. We're not trying to have that obligation, which is sexist. I hope that makes sense.
@elizabeth. So you think this is all about being respected? Right? But the people in this video are claiming it's about safety. Which one are we supposed to believe?
Gin Gri respecting someone would be to not objectify them I’m 14 I don’t need 50 year old men making me scared to go outside in fear of being kidnapped. No I shouldn’t have to carry a gun in fear of being killed because I’m not interested in someone.
So why can't you just think she's "fine" and NOT SAY ANYTHING?? Why do you think your personal opinion needs to be spoken? Do you think she will give you her phone number based on your damned remark? How stupid of you. "Great ass" yeah the best pick up line ever, women swoon.
“I’m not a woman so I can’t speak for one- *proceeds to tell us how we should feel*”
Bruh!!! I'm saying!!!
@ real mature
Crazy Nats well I’m tired of all the women’s in this video hanging up on this man. He makes a lot of valid points and isn’t misogynistic at all
@@crazynats367 Just ignore people like him. Ik it's tempting to laugh at his grammar, but fighting with people who use menstruation as an argument is like fighting a brick wall.
Rico Suavemente nahhh please go sym you’ve been in the comments talking pure shit shut the fuck up & get out kmt
"I am an expert on men. And the bottom line, women love to be complimented." English is not my first language, someone balance me how the first sentence qualifies the second.🤔🤔🤔
He's an idiot. I wish I could say he's part of a rare breed.
Nope you’re hearing it right
Seven months later, he still said a dumb thing, and the problem is not your English skills.
It only makes sense to him because he is an arrogant doofus.
@fooloof stranger danger is really not just for children. Women go missing all the time. More so than men. Women are attacked all the time. We need to be aware of our surroundings at all times really. Some women like cat calling, a lot don't. The point is to approach a woman the way you'd want someone to approach/talk to your mother, sister, etc. Know when she isn't interested and to keep it moving. And always make sure they're of age. Simples
amanda's facial expressions were my favorite part of this entire segment
Amanda always have those facial expressions, lol! She is seeing pass the BS!!!!!!
Dude, true, I'm actually going to go back and watch a bit of it just for that 🤣
Yeah like dude shut up you dont know what your talking about and she is right a guy says hello you be courteous and responsible hello he thinks it's an invitation for more conversation no its not
@@meekappletini1702 Early
Making strange faces to the camera while the other person is talking doesn't make you right.
Guy's solutions: -it's ok cuz you wouldn't care if they were hot - you should also compliment men - women should get out of NYC - women should stand up for themselves and tell men to shut up - women should carry guns.
And the girl's solution is: Men should stop and respect women.
***** I am defending women.
exactly!! You put it so well! It's amazing how that guy's mouth just blurts out stupidity at a hundred miles per hour.
Women's side soz
João Ferreira women do the same thing but either guys like it or they brush it off. Its the way women react which makes it an issue.
The Sniper I never heard of random women or girls catcalling unless they're prostitutes. Yeah you get a crazy one here and there but it nothing like the random calls from men as you walk
"I can't get in a woman's head".......... "There's nothing more a woman wants to hear than how pretty she is"
Why is this man speaking please?
Sattalight he brought up over population. He’s a far right paid lobbiest part of the rich elite whose pairing these opinions with the elite right wing agenda
I do
Yawl don't want to say it stop lying we like compliments from men..stop lying
@@passionjones8143 I HATE when men catcall me
Passion Jones I’m 14 I don’t want 50 year old men commenting on my body and it’s terrifying like they could easily hurt me why would anyone want that
🤦🏽♂️ This man has deflected and made every effort to blame literally everyone except for the men who are doing this. How does he not see that his mindset towards this issue is a part of the problem??
He is an idiot.
The moment he said "feminists" I knew he was a POS...
He is making men look idiotic
Because he’s a cat caller
Cos he doesn't see it as a problem
Ladies, we apologise for the existence of this man.
God bless you for having sense.
Thank you lol 🙏
It's okay we dont blame you
Thx Sean.
That man is ok, Amanda was wrong and so was the man
Why is that whenever a woman expresses herself she's a feminist taking it too far?
@@Alice-hn2cp I know right. I've noticed that it's become an insulting word and lots of women reject it.
TheHolyGhost it’s called feminism because it’s about bringing women up to the same level of respect as men. The same reason it’s called black lives matter and not all lives matter. Men and white people are already important and treated as people by society, while women and black people repeatedly aren’t
TheHolyGhost the us isn’t all that great and even though women do technically have the same rights, women have obstacles that men simply don’t.
TheHolyGhost I never said that men don’t have obstacles but no man has ever had people trying to stop him from succeeding because of his gender. A lot of the obstacles that men face are a result of the patriarchy so you can shut the fuck up
TheHolyGhost okay 😂😂. The patriarchy hasn’t worked, we’ve just ended up here and it’s a pretty shut result. Maybe you’d be more suited to the 1920’s when being a sexist prick was normal
I’ve actually never wanted to slap someone more than this man.
That’s his opinion no need to get hostile
He is "Bob BULLDOG Brisko" from Fraser.... You know he is the guy who will get a drink thrown on him and think "WHEW YEAH! She wants ME!!! 😍😍😍
He is a clueless arse. He is the problem.
Amanda Seales is freaking hilarious 😂
@kayemen415 Thank you. Shut up. Your kind of disrespect is why we're glad you 've made this decision. So you see women as bitches and yet you cat call and expect us not to sense people like you and ignore.
Maybe you should advice your mom, sis, baby mama and daughter to turn around for any thing that calls them in the streets
I'm a man. And this guy doesn't know what he's talking about. Amanda seales won this debate hands down.
I don’t know this guy, you may be right but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true.
“Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women should be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year).
It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young.
Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
Rico Suavemente why are copy/pasting your same argument to every comment lol
I keep tapping the thumbs up button, is this thing broke🤪
I'm a woman and I think you're desperately trying to get laid. How's that working out for you?
Amanda is never right because she speaks out of context and everyone is wrong who don't agree with her bs...by the way, wtf was her point??
I love that girl... her facial expressions say it all👏🏼👏🏼
Amanda cmon girl, she's nuts
"Stand up for yourself, be a strong woman" so ignorant. I'm 5'2, if i even tried to yell at a 6'2 man on the street what good does that do for me? The fact is, it shouldn't happen.
Exactly! I'm 5'8", and How are WOMEN supposed to "stand up" to Men!!!!!
So then stay inside if youre such a fragile creature that a man saying hello to you makes you so frightened
H. Marsh actually yes you can find stories on all the things you listed. But what does that have to do with my point? If you are to scared to go outside because youre scared that every man you see might rape you the stay the FUCK inside. Men also lead in workplace deaths, murder victims, suicide, rape victims, forced to sign up for war etc.. but you never hear you women bitching about that though
Musty Savage I would get scared if a strange man comes close to me to tell me that he liked my boobs or butt or anything about my body. Yes I would be scared because I won't be able to fight him if he tries to do something but we don't ask for catcalls when we're walking in the streets so should I stay in home because men can't controll themselves when they see a female?
Ana P then freaking buy a gun or mace or whatever tf you want to protect yourself because newsflash its a dangerous world out there and there is gonna be guys and FEMALES as well ( dont act like women dont do this as well) like this out there wheter you like it or not. But what you shouldnt do is act like some hopeless little girl who isnt mentally strong enough to ignore it and go about your day. Stop listening to crap like this "social expirement" that does nothing but feed into this cancerous modern day feminism ( that most women dont identify as) to try and paint the picture that all men are supossedly rape crazy monsters and the patriarchy and all that other bullshit they spew
I love the face she makes when she's listening to him.
shes trying soo hard to make him look wrong with faces because he isnt far from wrong , he is kind of right. She is actually trying to look like she is not hurt and that she isnt hearing something that is thought provoking.
Snootches Bootches Sorry, what experience do you have in this topic?
Yep, he's going to tell her how she thinks and feels, those are definitely the appropriate faces.
TheLaughinAssassin fuck no she’s ugly as fuck
@@ThePeacePlant lol shes making those faces because she cant believe that he is telling her she doesnt know how women feel, that actually him and other men know what they feel. Hes also saying funny shit like instead of listening when someone says "stop, i dont like it" the response should be "no, you DO like it, shoot me if you dont".
"... Then carry a gun..." Did he really say that?! 🤢
This response of his was so stupid.
Talk about toxic masculinity
At one sight he's saying it's compliment and on the other note he accepts that it's bad and women should carry a gun and don't complain about men being shitty*"* and simpson
Or, better yet, they should stay out of areas filled with you-know-whats.
Yea, it's really bad. He really just said If you want to talk to men, you should carry a gun.
“The problem starts by parents not raising their children right” Clearly his parents didn’t do it
ᴄʜᴏᴘᴘᴀ sᴛʏʟᴇ - 👌 okay troll.
Mina Wren - Don't feed the troll. This person is deliberately saying provocative things and making ridiculous arguments to intentionally provoke people. They find it funny. They wouldn't say any of that stuff to anyone irl and probably don't even believe what they're saying themselves. He or she is literally just using that account to see how mad he or she can make people. Honestly, they're just trying to be funny, not engaging in any kind of real opinion sharing. Don't feed the trolls.
Okay, and thanks. Your comment calmed me down a bit. You're probably right :)
I can just picture the both of you girls punching the air in frustration as I serve you with all these facts 😛
@@aricatrall sis i respect your opinion but please dont use 'mansplaining'. Its just him being an asshole, period. We dont have to make a whole new term for blabbering idiots like him
Her face represents everything that was passing through my mind while he was speaking
Mónica Sibaja yo I’m not a girl but I was still thinking “wtf is this man saying”
I’m certain my face read the same as hers through the whole segment.
Wonder how quickly his attitude would change if a bunch of guys catcalled him on the streets. His fragile "manhood" would crumble real fast.
Nick Damours 💯
i think it would also make a difference if it were guys that were bigger then him, and could kick his ass or guys in a group and hes alone. But what... his solution that he states in the video for woman who do find themselves in a situation like that that does turn violent is to carry a gun? The guy in this video is just so infuriating it makes my insides hurt. He's never going to be in this situation himself and just writes off anyone's experience that actually has been in the situation where 'hell yeah I'd love to turn around and tell you to knock it off but I'm also well aware that if you decided to you could hurt me, follow me, kill me.' I didn't leave the house looking good in order for someone anyone to grace me with thier random comments, I left the house looking good because I wanted to look good and feel good for myself. But please tell me how lucky I am to be cat called. ugh. It makes me so mad to see anyone try to justify how anyone 'asks for it'
Katelyn Pribula oh yea, it's a typical oppresor mentality "How can oppression exist if I've never experienced it? You must be making it up".
I think being catcalled by women would do the trick.
sag2007ama Not so sure about that, he'd probably continue to argue that it's a "compliment" and it might even reinforce his argument.
“tHeN caRry a gUn” who let this man on CNN
It’s CNN. Everyone there is like this
thats a good point tho.
@@samsom4122 it shouldn't have to go this far.. can these guys be decent human beings?
no
When you walk alone on the streets fearing youll get groped or raped, cat calling just furthers ur anxiety. We women are weaker physically and everything’s especially horrifying when youve experienced a close call of getting raped.
Man: Women enjoy catcalling.
Woman: No we don't.
Man: Then tell them to stop.
Woman: We do. Some women get killed for that.
Man: Then carry a gun! Sheesh, it's like you expect us to follow the law!
@Miad Developer
What are you on my guy
@Miad Developer
She didn't say that women should fight back- she said that she herself does stand up for herself. But she acknowledges that in that there is risk- as women get killed for fighting against or standing up to those harassing them. She is saying women can stand up to those catcalling them- but are fearful of what it could escalate to, so they often don't. Saying women should just 'fight back' is impractical because it can increase likelihood of getting hurt.
@Miad Developer
This is not an isolated incident. Women are actively killed for standing up for themselves and by street harassers all the time. Telling women to carry a gun is equally, if not moreso dangerous, and we should not put the responsibility on women to change their lives (i.e. moving or buying a gun) as to recieve human decency from men. It is disgusting you think women would take dehumanization and objectification if the men were more attractive. Making this a matter of looks truly shows how little you care about or understamd women. Catcalling is a traumatic event for many women- looks have nothing to do with it.
@Miad Developer
As i explained, the woman in the video is not dead because that is not a guaranteed occurance and because she not once responded to or fought back to those men. This is serious because it is a representative of how plenty of men view women- targets for their unwanted attention to be treated how they want. Letting behavior like this slide is what leads into more severe sexual assault. Your story about your friends is simply from your personal experience. Even so, bad men get girlfriends all the time (may be as a result of having changed their ways or those women not being aware of their behavior). But most importantly, that catcalling and degrading of women is not what got them girlfriends. Please acknowledge this is a serious issue that as i said does not always lead to assault but can seriously traumarize and upset many women.
@Miad Developer
It is not harmless fun- it is only fun to the male perpetrator. I am not blowing it out of proportion- men do not understand how deeply upsetting and disturbing catcalling can be to young women's psyches. Acknowledge that you are part of the problem in seeing the public harassment of women as harmless just because it may not result in an assault. A woman should absolutely never have to be more approachable just for your satisfaction.
The reporter is definitely loving it. You can clearly see it in her face when Amanda speaks. I mean Amanda wasn't lying.
I thought she was acting silly...as a woman herself she could have done better than laughing and making facial impressions for me to read...she's a bit ditzy
L * on the contrary. Her reactions spoke more than her words.
@@RafaelReyesofficial I agree with L *. She was only laughing, seeming like she only wanted to "keep it polite" instead of actually mediating the conversation with the seriousness it deserved. It plays into his favour not to actually go against what he is saying.
@@devoneciaswartz2026 That' not what that kind of laughter means. It means "are you really that stupid?"
She was trying to remain bias but was applauded and used laughter instead. People mask emotions often.. her facial expressions showed that she was in shock by the man’s stupidity. Just like when she thought Amanda Seales was talking to her forcibly her facial expression changed.
i'm looking forward to his lecture on how it feels to give birth. I'm sure he's an expert.
Chris N 🤣🤣👍🏼
Darth Ur men choose those jobs dumbass. stfu with your “men are stronger” bs. do you have to deal with periods every month? do you have to give birth to have kids? do you have to be catcalled and objectified daily by random men? no. you wouldn’t last a day in a woman’s world.
Darth Ur also, women do those jobs too, so...
Darth Ur yes, you’re absolutely right. you know why? cause a mans world is made for men. simple as that.
Darth Ur just to clarify my comment: by woman’s world, i meant a woman’s life. by mans world, i’m assuming you mean the world in general, since most of it is built by men. a mans world isn’t made well for women.
Im sure his career was RUINED after this, and I'm very happy about it.
E.t. I wonder how his book is doing?
I mean maybe not, I didnt look into it at all outside of just watching this, but it kinda seems like he might have been there just to be the way you see him being... like abrasive and douche-y but purposefully making weak af arguments
like saying "I can't speak for women" literally seconds apart from when he fails at trying to speak on behalf of women in a weird ass way when its literally only 2 women and him talking lol
or when they like ask dudes on the street to be not pieces of shit being like "mami lemme eat that ass" & the dude is basically like "feminists taking this all too far, you should like it"... like fr I cant be the only one.
it just kinda reminds me of the few ultra shit-tier fox news clips (still not anywhere near as shitty as fox tho) when they have "debates" with like tucker carlson, alex jones, or some shit and then they have on some unknown 'liberal' expert who says shit that is weak af and/or shit that literally no one is really trying to advocate for. But the 'liberal' expert is literally just being paid to say stupid shit so the fox team guy can be like "nah get OWN'D w FACTS LIBs".
idk I might just be overly cynical and should treat this like entertainment, because it was pretty entertaining tbh. plus if we are just going to look at this like entertainment only, then I am the equivalent of someone going to a WWE comment section being like "this shit fake as fuck yall dummys"
lol... yeah
@@von... Fax man, That shit is really funny to watch though.
@@Thaddeus2007 it indeed do be lol
I sincerely hope you're right, but if he works in some jobs, I'm afraid he might just be applauded by his "macho" co-workers.
Why would they invite this guy to 'represent" men?
Said Alhayek I think/hope that the hidden agenda was to have a really stupid person represent sexism.
I think their aim was to show the type of men who are like this. But at this point, we all know there are idiots of every gender, race, etc. It would have been more beneficial to have someone reasonable represent the population of men who are reasonable... or at least coming from a reasonable place.....
Said Alhayek Because it’s impossible to find someone’s who’s NOT a moron and can honestly defend catcalling
Said Alhayek ikr !
Because he does such a good job at it (sarcasm)
This guy clearly fits into the "no means yes" category!🤤
Shelton gail I WAS JUST ABOUT TO COMMENT THIS,, PREACH
One of the things I hate the most is men who act like that. I said I wasn't interested and I meant it, so please back off unless you want to get hurt. This is precisely why Mr. Collins from Pride and Prejudice made me so angry.
And don't even get me started on men pressuring women into sexual acts with which they are not comfortable.
shelton gail yeeees
He just wanted to be friends lol
@@alexanderedinger i am genuinely wondering if you are some troll being controlled in Russia right now. i've seen you comment the same thing on so many of these comments with absolutely no intelligence or argument. it's cracking me up
he said it's about parenting and raising your children right, well apparently his parents did a very bad job at it
I agree, he is an idiot, so his parents failed a bit, but his point is still a good one though, don't you think? A large part of some of society's biggest problems these days is a lack of decent parenting, and it's a problem that will be very difficult or even impossible to fix, unfortunately.
If I have sons, I'll be raising them to respect women, and that's really one of the best things I can do for the cause. So if everybody else starts doing the same, we might get somewhere. lol
Clara Fernandes he said it's good and then it's bad because it comes from poor parenting?? Earlier he said that it was a part of Black and Latino culture but then dismissed Holla Back as racist. He said that he could speak for men because he's a man, too??
Clara Fernandes yass queen drag him and put all men on eating disorders case men are fat
LOL Clara exactly
He clearly doesn't have any daughters. I would like to see his opinion about cat calling when his 14 year old daughter comes home upset and crying because some dude cat called her. I bet his opinion on the subject might change a bit.
The most worrying part is this guy saying yEs you do like it after she’s said we don’t 😪
IKR he's a man talking for women when he should just shut up he's treating her like she doesn't think like a women when she is a fucking women!
He's an asshole
Proves how men listen..
“I stopped you before you even started” LMAO SIS SNAPPED
Kaam 💕💕💕💜
Why is this even debatable? If a woman says she doesn't like getting comments on her body, don't comment it. And if you are not sure if she would enjoy the cat calling. Don't, freaking, do, it. Why does a mans ego mean more than womens safety?
We live in a world where i, a 16 year old girl, is afraid to go out in the evening. I constantly have to think about what i wear. I like to train in loose clothing, that shows my skin. Do i really have to choose between working out, and feeling safe?
We should not teach girls all kinds of how Not to get raped. Men should just not rape. It is that easy. I have lived 16 years, and i have never raped a single person my whole life. I have never shouted inapropriate things at strangers to get anyone to sleep with me, or whatever their reasons is. We need to adress this issue. Men like him, shall not silence us!! We stand together!
hey, I am a sixteen year old girl too, and I feel where you're coming from. Difference between me and you is that I'm not one bit scared of the outside world. I easily walk out of the house and tell my parents I'll be home around 11pm and that I'll be riding my bike home. They honestly don't give a damn. I bike around my neighbourhood past 11pm to get my energy out and help me fall asleep. It makes me feel great, empowered, and tired after. for caution I use a flashlight when going through parks with no lights, and if I hear anything i nope out of there. What I'm gonna say to you, try to go out in the evening. Show that you are strong and empowered. You might be scared but if I can do it, you can too. take the precautions like having your phone with you, use it as a flashlight but really that's all you need. Everyone needs that. Go into the world without fear.
I am very happy that you live somewhere safer than here.
But i have experienced more than once, that a car have followed me. And even someone shouting at me and trying to force me into their car.
Fear is not real, fear is something made up in our minds. Danger, on the other hand, is very real. And where i live, i need to do what i need to do to not get hurt. For me, it is not as easy as to just Not be scared, cause i have my reasons to be.
Brock T, you do not know what i am wearing when i am out. I have been cat called wearing long pants and a hoodie, so yes! It still does happen. It doesn't stop just because i put on more clothes.
And Why are you trying to tell young girls, that their worth come from what they wear? You are not helping me to Not get raped, right now you are trying to make sure he rapes the other girl!
I do not see why it matters what girls wear, just because som girls like to wear short shorts, doesn't mean they ae ''asking for it''. If they feel confident wearing that type of clothes, then tell me, why are they not allowed to do that? Why are you telling girls to wear clothes they don't feel beautyful, hot or comftable in? Why can't we just teach young men to not comment on girls bodys. And not only young men, but old guys do this as well. Where are the manners, and the commen sense to not mind other peoples bodies?
I am so tired of hearing 'most of the time', it is not a valid argument. It might be true, but what does it change? It still happens, no matter what. And you will be surprised by how many white men do it as well.
Trust me, i know how to defend myself, and that is not my point. It is not, that i as one person can't defend myself. The problem is, that we shouldn't have to! We should not be needing to defend us selves from guys on the street. Guys should just learn how to behave.
Men have never had it as hard as women. This is not a meetoo cry, this is our everyday life!
Excuse me?
How can you think it is okay to say that to another person?
FYI i do Not have rape fantasies, just like you don't have neither a heart nor common sense or a life.
That dude will be singing a different tune when his daughter comes home in tears because men catcalled or harassed her while she's minding her own business..
This man shouldn’t be allowed to have a daughter if he does she should be taken away from him
He will most likely raise a strong woman. She will know herself and know how to holler back.
@@ic2063 hollering back isn’t always a good idea, especially at night 💀 a lot of women end up getting followed home or worst case scenario raped and or killed by these type of men.
Ahh yes, so she can be harassed even more. 🙄🙄
Or when he's hit with a Me Too lawsuit
This man is an embarrassment 🤦🏾♀️
@ what
Rico Suavemente lolll shut up
Rico Suavemente stfu you fool
@ he shouldn't be spitting, that's uncivilised
Nothing makes me more angry than the comments on this video.
first off: Cat Calling DOES NOT equal genuine compliments. If a guy came up to me and said "hey, I just want to tell you you're really pretty" I would thank them, regardless of what they looked like. But coming from someone who's been catcalled before, that is NOT the same thing.
Also, saying "don't live in a populated city." Excuse me? I think a person has the right to live wherever he or she wants, without worrying about being harassed on the streets. I have been catcalled and I live in a tiny little town. I've seen stories of women attacked for standing up for themselves after being catcalled.
One more point: If being catcalled should be respected, should we also respect a guy and say thank you if he comes up and gropes us? because "you have such a nice ass" its okay because girls want to have boys touch their butts, right? Girls would like it if the guy was hot right? NO. I don't care if a professional Calvin Klen model came up and groped me or catcalled me. I would not enjoy it. I don't think anyone would.
Preach girl! I totally agree with you! This shows what the majority of men really think of when it comes to "complimenting" women. They think that they're "boosting" our confidence but we appreciate a man that comes and says hello or just smiles rather than says "Damn girl" or "Hey beautiful" I can't believe we're being told to live in certain places so that we can be safe. Sad!
Thank you. I hate that we have to state these facts. It's even more sad that men do not understand this notion.
Citizen Qua Remember it goes both ways. Men can't control how they feel either, but they can control their actions. Some men might feel like women are taking a stand to say that all compliments and therefore any advancements whatsoever are bad, because any sort of attention could be perceived as unwanted attention. I don't necessarily think guys are looking for a rich girl--definitely a good looking girl--but I do think the backlash is not necessarily coming from catcallers but guys who are now wondering if any time is OK to walk up to a girl and start talking to her. It's terrifying enough as it is.
Shewit Gebru "They think that they're "boosting" our confidence"
When really they're making you nervous, and a future gun owner. lol
Sarah en Because it's not up to me to decide how she feels. That's up to her. I could do what I think is gentlemanly, and she could take it as intimidating if she wants to (or automatically, I guess). The fact that maybe a 100 guys went up to her today may have put her in a defensive posture. Any way you look at it, there's no way to know how a woman is going to react, and empathetic people would probably prefer to not even risk scaring or intimidating someone, regardless of their intentions. The likelihood of you meeting a random nice guy diminishes because of the fact that he'd rather happen to find himself in a place where it's not intimidating for anyone. So I think unless you make it just as clear what appropriate behavior is, making less clear what inappropriate behavior is just going to confuse nicer gentlemen into leaving you alone completely. I guess if that's what you want (less interaction overall), that's fine though.
"then carry a gun" OH MY GOD WTF IS THIS GUY LIKE DIWQNEIFWQHFIERGWEIHWEIHERHEIRF WTFFFFFFFF
that's the same type of thinking a lot of people have with other forms of discrimination. minorities will complain about lack of diversity in the media, sometimes the response is "then make your own hollywood movie".
diornotwar123 Sounds exactly like when non-gendercentric issues are raised from the other gender's point of view, and the modern feminist movement tells men to "get their own movement", then of course when men DO speak up, on their own, they are then labelled horrible evil neck bearded fedora wearing MRA's! Such hypocrisy withing the modern western third wave feminist movement, it is BUILT on hypocrisy and double standards!
Cory Karp no, no, no.... just no. Men do not need to get their own movement. do you even know what feminism is? its is equality for all (race, gender, socioeconomic standing). Anyone who says otherwise is not a true feminist. please do try to hide your ignorance or alleviate it before you speak
Morgan 147 That is what the definition of feminism was from when the first wave of feminism happened, but just because that WAS the definition, in the first wave, does not mean IN ANY WAY that third wave feminism lives up to that definition, your argument is nothing more than a "No true Scotsman" logical fallacy, Feminism has not meant anything near the original dictionary definition of "feminism" since the end of the second wave.
The last thing modern third wave feminism in the west is interested in, is equality, that is why notable second wave feminists like Erin Pizzey, the first person to open a DV shelter for women, and Dr. Warren Farrell, the only man to be elected to the NY executive board for NOW (National Organization for Women) not only divorced themselves from the feminist name and movement, but are strong men's rights advocates (The dirty MRA's) and align themselves with "A Voice for Men".
The reason? Men very much need a voice for their rights, as they are being trampled by a corrupted ideology that is nothing more than a cancer on society in the name of political correctness, that cancer is called by it's short name... "feminism", long name, modern western third wave feminism, no relation to first or second wave feminism, they only borrowed the name in an attempt to add an air of legitimacy to the sexist and anti-social movement.
The term "feminsm" has NEVER been about equality for men or about men's issues, the movement has ALWAYS been about woman's issues, hence the prefix "fem-", modern feminists just want everyone to believe it also looks at mens issues so there is no movement competeing for attention from the public or governments while they (the feminist movement) continue to ignore the males side of nongendercentric issues like sexual assault , domestic violence and rape, or male specific issues like anti-male bias in the courts when it comes to false rape allegations, custody issues, sentencing and the like.
FROM the Oxford English Dictionary:
*feminism*
See definition in
Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary
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fem¦in|ism
Pronunciation: /ˈfɛmɪnɪz(ə)m/
Definition of feminism in English:
noun [mass noun]
The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
Example sentences
Synonyms
The issue of rights for women first became prominent during the French and American revolutions in the late 18th century. In Britain it was not until the emergence of the suffragette movement in the late 19th century that there was significant political change. A ‘second wave’ of feminism arose in the 1960s, with an emphasis on unity and sisterhood; seminal figures included Betty Friedan and Germaine Greer
www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/feminism
Tell me again where the definition says men's issues as well please...
I know what second and first wave feminism was about, I learned from a very active feminist in the second wave, my own mother, who, like Erin Pizzey and Dr. Warren Farrell, divorced herself fromt he movement and became an MRA when the third wave, the child of the bat-shit man hating crazy radicals from the second wave.
True feminism achieved it's goals a long time ago, women have all...scratch that... MORE legally protected rights than men in the west, modern third wave feminists now want special privilege and rights without any responsibility attached, and their demands are based on wants and feels, not rights and equality. They want equality of outcome regardless of effort, NOT equality of opportunity, they already have that, and have for a long time.
What you claim is "feminism" is actually egalitarianism:
FROM the Oxford English Dictionary:
egalitarianism
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Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary
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egali|tar¦ian|ism
Pronunciation: /ɪˌɡaləˈtɛːrɪənɪz(ə)m/
Definition of egalitarianism in English:
noun [mass noun] The doctrine that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities.
www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/egalitarianism
Check your ignorance before you attempt to pretend to even know what it is,or call out others on your incorrect perception of what constitutes "ignorance".
Feminism by definition, does not care about men's issues or non-gendercentric issues, it ONLY cares about woman's issues.
_"please do try to hide your ignorance or alleviate it before you speak"_
Next time, take your OWN advice.
its called feminism because it was created by a group of women in order to get voting rights. And because women couldnt get these rights themselves, they enlisted the help of men that agreed with their cause (so its not just about women or just involving women). After that goal it expanded to fighting for the rights of everyone. and there is also a difference of being "hyper-politically correct" and believing in a cause.
“I stopped you before you started” 🤣 I love Amanda
That guy is not very smart.
Peter Kazavis creep
Peter Kazavis how do you want to know that?
lovemyslowee he's much more intelligent then you which is why he's right. Okay. Bye!!!
which one ?
I don’t agree with the woman at all but his argument was weak and he doesn’t have the intelligence to explain why she’s wrong.
How he tells her she should let him finish talking and then he doesn't let her talk
M-E-N
she does the same thing to him
I love how she doesn’t let him mansplain.
I love how they woman splain and interrupt him at every opportunity. Misandry at its finest.
when he was all ‘then carry a gun!’ I WAS SO ANGRY BECAUSE WOMEN SHOULD NOT HAVE TO CARRY A GUN JUST TO WALK DOWN THE STREET AND TELL A MAN NO
I was angry too because women dont have good coordination to be carrying a firearm.
Nunya Dambidnis anyone who hasn't had any training don't have coordination, sit down. And did you thumb yourself up?
stone sherrill women naturally have bad coordination. It is in their genes. You dont need that much training to point and shoot. But i would be weary of a female with a gun because girls get emotional and will pop off for silly things
Nunya, just stfu, for real... Damn
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows.
I’ve been getting cat called since I was 12, for me it’s scary. First time was at 12 and it really made me uncomfortable. To this day, I don’t answer to any boy that addresses me in that way.
Jesus Christ what is he, 11 years old?
I’m pretty sure 11 year olds have better respect than him
that's an insult to 11 year olds
"I'm an expert I know how guys think" *proceeds to tell Amanda (a woman) how women think*
This is so true, and it's obnoxious that we have to go through this every day, and have to deal with assholes like that man.
@@aricatrall guys like these really believe that men should take no responsibility. They'll cry and say that women can't control their emotions and thus won't converse with us but in the same vain tell us they "can't control themselves" whenever they lay eyes on us. Thankfully I've never met a guy like this, but men like this one are obnoxious and want to get away with what they're doing. They don't want any responsibility and feel it's their right to always blame us for merely existing.
Omg this guy is totally the same kind of guy who says you should leave the country if there's anything you don't approve of politically 🙄
Doesn't matter if the men are good looking or not... it's disrespectful.
DaisyDukeBeauty How?
Bishop Well I mean, there are ways to say it respectfully! But saying "hey baby, damnnnnn" or whatever... that's rude. You can look, but vocalizing it like that makes me feel awkward.
You hit/catcall on me and you're "hot" you instantly become ugly!! Period.
Aleister White exactly
DaisyDukeBeauty right?! Like no i don't care how he looks or who he is we don't want the sexual harassment from strangers. There's other ways to talk to someone on the street then cat calling
I’m a man and I apologize to every women out there on behalf of this “man”! Not all of us are major idiots!
The man said good things, Amanda made good points too. You don't need to discount everything the guy said because he wasn't fully wrong.
@jugy I'm not wrong buddy. This is what I think about the whole situation: I think it's not right for men to stalk or give off a rapey vibe or say things which are sexually explicit to a female stranger, but I think it's ok for a man to compliment a female stranger by saying "Your dress is very nice today, lady". Not all catcalling is bad, as I have mentioned in my previous sentence.
@@margaretstrickland3255 Then that means women shouldn't be allowed to say "Hey handsome" to a guy walking down on the street
@@aspiknf theres a difference between catcalling and compliments. Catcalling is to comment on a womans body and objectify her because u are interested. Complimenting is to genuinely comment something nice. Catcalling makes woman feel unsafe. You should learn the difference on how to actually compliment someone. Imagine a woman looking down at ur pants and say "Ooh you packing, lemme get ur number" when are absolutely not interested? You wouldn't like that. Period
@@watermelon6850 If a woman looked down at my pants and said "ooh you packing, lemme get ur number" when I'm absolutely not interested, then personally it wouldn't bother me. I have never catcalled in my life. Two girls did slap me on the bum without my consent to it when I was in high school but I enjoyed it, that's just me. I know that if the tables were turned and two guys slapped a woman on the bum without her consent then nowadays some women would scream "rape!" or "he assaulted me!" when it's just a playful pat on the bum. If I can cope with being patted on the bum then so can they.
Now that I think about it in hindsight, I don't think catcalling is that bad e.g. someone shouting "Hey sexy!" or "Grrr hey tiger! you've big melons" etc. I wouldn't mind if women shouted that to me on the street. If there are women who get scared because of catcalling, then that's understandable because the men catcalling could look physically stronger and bigger and it could look intimidating but that doesn't mean catcalling itself should be banned, catcalling is just silly fun in a way. If some of these women are feeling threatened by catcalling then they could keep pepper spray or a taser or a panic alarm but I don't think catcalling should be banned, I'll think about it
Men should feel weird speaking to a woman like this and if they don’t then their not what a man should be in my opinion.
r/niceguys.... 🤦🏼♀️🙄
tony montana - okay incel 👌
tony montana - Ahhh, admonishing the use of shaming language with shaming language. Classic hypocritical incel. I am not saying it to shame you - I'm saying it because you genuinely come across that way, and the word is the best common language to describe that. Let me put it another way: you sound like a guy who hates women, and your hatred comes across in the same sort of way as the type of guys who hate women because they can't get one, have stopped trying, and have angrily embraced their lot in life, reaffirming hateful sentiments to convince themselves that they're not the problem: everyone else is. But the reality is, deep down, they know it's not anyone but themselves that causes their situation; but that doesn't mean they'll stop trying to convince themselves otherwise.
So yeah, that's what I mean when I call you an incel. If you feel ashamed, that's your business. I mean, I get it. I'd be ashamed too.
My 13 y/o brother got more respect than him
Shut the fuck up
A so called “attractive” man that catcalled me would immediately make him unattractive.
So first he was saying how he thought women who didnt like being cat called were whiny and how he was more of an expert on the matter THAN AN EXPERIENCED WOMAN And then he continues to tell her she should stand up for herself and tell them to stop. He contradicted himself right there, if he was more of an expert than her he should have known that yelling back leads to deaths, rapes, and so much more. Then he tells her to carry a gun😑 ignorant men are so annoying. i bet hes probably a catcaller himself
The definition of mansplaining.
It's really heartening to me to see all these women in the comments emphatically saying: "this shit is not right". I have a couple of friends who do it and it makes *me* really uncomfortable so God knows how it makes women feel.
Yeah, I walk a lot faster/slower when they do it so as to make it look like I'm not associated with them (and I have asked them not to do it, it's crass af AND they've both got girlfriends but it goes in one ear and out the other...oh shit my friends are dicks, aren't they?!!??)...
I'm 13 and people already cat call me also when I'm walking on the sidewalk I look at people in their cars and the are all looking at me and my ass once an old man slowed down beside me when and just stared at me I pretend not to see him but then I looked at him and gave him the death stare and he drove off. Honestly it's uncomfortable and gross how some men think this is okay
Thx I will
Jay Tee I'm 13 of course I like attractive guys but if the hottest guy in my school was making me feel uncomfortable and rude then he would be less attractive and I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Because don't get me wrong I do find some guys really hot but it also comes down to personality
I was 9 year old when someone cat called me. I was getting ice cream at corner store and I was wear pink flower shirt with Jean skirt and my mom bought it for me. He was in the car and he said that he love my skirt and that was cute, I didn't say anything and I didn't look at him. I was so scared and I started running. I was thinking it's was my fault because what I weared. I don't want kids to think that's they fault and think that catcalled are okay. No little girl or boy should be catcalled or feel uncomfortable.
True
Samantha Escobar you are so right and I'm so sorry that happened to you when you were nine
This man is gross
He’s just an honest man, sweetheart. Sorry to give you a taste of reality 😥
Rico Suavemente He’s honestly a prick.
Rico Suavemente sym 🤣
I don’t know this guy, you may be right but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true.
“Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women should be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok... BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year).
It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young.
Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
Rico Suavemente if you truly believe that, i feel sad for you.
"you are wrong" - Amanda Seales. -SOMEONE PUT THAT ON A T-SHIRT
That is genius
“there’s nothing a woman wants more than to know how pretty she is” okay first of all, when I did go to NYC in the summer of 2015, I was 14 years old. And when I walked the streets to go get McDonald’s, I would get cat called literally all the time. My body had always been a little more developed but that was not my fault nor was I seeking attention. Does this man really believe that a 14 year old wants random grown ass men to tell her what they love about her body? Describing what they’d like to do to her when all she wanted to do was go get some McDonald’s and go back to her hotel. That shit literally gave me anxiety and now I really don’t enjoy going to big cities anymore. I’m just a girl from a small town in Texas and I was certainly not prepared for such a display of toxic masculinity. And another thing, I would rather be told that I’m loved rather than told that I’m pretty. Compliments are one thing but I’m more than what people see on the outside. Tbh those same men catcalling are probably lonely and have to resort to blatant disrespect to get attention from a woman.
Heauxmade if you’re an Attractive women you hear how pretty you are all the time. So I don’t know why men think their 100th “ you’re beautiful“makes a difference. It’s gets annoying real quick. Men think from their lens. They won’t understand Because they are always on the pry for women and thinking about sex so they think we are the same way.
This woman was great, the guy on the other hand...... no
you are a maleminist huh? I wonder why that's not a term. Sexist is too general tho.
vvgu I'm not gonna start an argument with an idiot
lol this guy vvgu hates women probably he can't get laid. Plus he is a stalker looking at who you follow, lol, creep
I'd like for someone to send you to those strict Shariah judges to ask you do you have proofs for Muhammad being a pedophile. If you don't have the proofs, they cut off your stupid typing, bigot commenting hands and we could all continue living. Lot from the Bible had sex with his two daughters, you people believe that God had sex with a woman and after all that you dare to talk shit about other religion. What a believer of the year you must be. No, scratch that, a human of the year. Meanwhile, bye bitch.
Says the guy whose religion teaches that God raped a 14 year old,
virgin, married woman. And there are lots of stories about incest and
killing innocent people. And also you are the one attacking and cursing
other people, not another way around. God must love you. :*
It's funny how each time the women try to give their point of view he always interrupted and telling them to hold up yet when he spoke they were not interrupting him plus he seems like one of those Republican type creeps that talks family but in the dark doing all kind of non family things!!!
Ron Copeland right
Ron Copeland __ Yep!
when she started laughing, i was like YASSS queen
I have never developed such a strong hatred for a man in such a short period of time.
BECAUSE YOUR A LESBIAN !!!!!!!!
Lynn Taylor lolololol🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
We hate you too, feminazi
👍👍👍👍
@@joyr9279 .. Has nothing to do with Feminism and a lot to do with respect.
From what I understand Feminism was a term Men label Women. Started decades ago when women were refusing to be submissive to man..
I can imagine if on his way out of the CNN studio someone punched the man in the face, then said "THAT'S YOUR OWN FAULT- YOU SHOULDA BEEN CARRYING A GUN."
If that happened this guy would defend himself. No problem.
You, on the other hand, would cry and make a video about it, no doubt.
PLEASE.
I wish I could be the one to punch him. He should have just been quieter and listened to what those women were saying before opening his big mouth.
This is why you're a male feminist virgin
J Briggs
your counter argument cannot counter so you just go straight for the strawman. Congratulations you have no argument or ground to stand on and you should just accept that you're wrong
she said it perfectly.
"someone's acknowledging you, you should say thank you." Is literally the most disgusting line ever, she's just walking, she doesn't *want* attention. It also implies all she wants is attention...
The women's faces while that ridiculous man is speaking are priceless, and well represent my face. He seriously used air quotes for feminist. Yes, cat calling is 100% not complimentary. Holy geez dude
Alexander Edinger It's really not as complimentary as you think it is man. It makes a lot of women uncomfortable.
Alexander Edinger Lmao arrogant. I love thosr
Alexander Edinger dude i was simply defending women against your sexism. Nothing wrong with that
Alexander Edinger you flunting your male superiority knowing damn well most women are conditioned to being the weaker sex.
"I don't care what makes you uncomfortable. Why should I stop." How about because they want you to? Consent is relevant to more than intercourse, social interaction also falls under that agreement. That attitude of "I don't care, why should I?" is exactly the problem. People putting their own desire to objectify someone over the recipient's comfort at being objectified. And if you're complimenting a person's body over their personality, you're reducing them to their sex characteristics. Some people respond well to be told they're hot, but unless you know it's safer for all concerned, and far preferable, to just not.
What pisses me off even more when they say you were asking for it... I’ve got news for you, we don’t dress for you.
Brock T for us. We like to look pretty for us.
Крис T Kookabura sits in the old gum tree, eating all the gum drops he can see. Stop! Kookabura, stop! Kookabura save some gum for me!
Yasmin Reyhani quit lying. Yes u do! People seek approval and positive reinforcement from their surroundings . U are just not smart enough to realize it. If when you went through all that trouble to look good and no one gave you the attention you were seeking, you would have self-esteem issues. Women spend all that time infront of a mirror because they want and crave the attention! You might not want it from a unattractive guy but you still crave attention. Plus this chick is average. Nothing special
Yasmin Reyhani What B Jvuhsaini is trying to say is that we women are simply too deceitful to be trusted to know our own motivations, desires, and emotions. Men clearly have psychic powers of which us poor women folk can only dare to dream. The voices in their heads tell them what women truly want and need, so who are men to deny women the privilege of being told that a man would honor them with his attention? And if women disagree with those voices, well, the poor creatures are clearly either lying or deluded! (And yes, this is sarcasm).
Крис T OURSELVES WHAT DONT YOU UNDERSTAND
Oh, my God. Don't live in New York or just carry a gun? This man is the definition of unreasonable and defensive. What a creep. Also, use this video if you ever want to show a sample of 'mansplaining' or 'manterrupting'. The female guest was so well spoken and pretty patient with his bullshit.
K G 😂
Yeah! I think they also neglected the fact that teens get catcalled often too, so if we followed his logic we can't able to carry a gun
As a plus size woman, I get catcalled even when I'm dressed head to toe in black, hat on, shades on, headphones, literally trying to be incognito, and it still happens. I hate the feelings of eyes on me like preyed on. It's terrifying and it happens everywhere. This man has no idea what it's like.
This video was incredibly hard for me to watch. I wanted to scream at my phone the entire time. What a cocky, entitled, ignorant man who is literally A BIG PART of the problem. His 'if you don't want to be cat called, don't walk around, don't live in NY and carry a gun' logic was inane. All of the respect and love in the world to this woman, Amanda.
no .the woman and way too oversensitive about AN ACTUAL COMPLIMENT. i. don't care how you wanna twist it ,its a compliment. either way what are you gonna do, restrict their freedom of speech. i just marvel at feminist stupidity.
Yeah, the book The Manual wasn't that bad (I skim read it cuz one of my female friends was reading it). I'd like to think he was playing the devil's advocate :S
+Sad Otaku no just NO you are clearly forgetting manners 101 as it's basic manners to know the difference between a compliment and a insult you should know this and in case you don't lemme tell you......as a CHILD you should have learned the proper tone to use when talking or GIVING A COMPLEMENT when giving a compliment you should restrain yourself from using vulgar language such as ass boobs curse words etc and you should look the person in the face and say with a smile (and proper tone) "you look lovely today goodbye!" and go on your way and if you don't want to go through the trouble of all this how bout you just look straight ahead and leave her alone cuz your too lazy to compliment a girl/women properly OK! BYE
Light Yagami You do realize you're complaining as well?
A woman complaining about being catcalled doesn't automatically make her a feminist. Seriously, stfu yourself.
Light Yagami I think you need therapy first and foremost.
No one enjoys strangers talking to them. I'm sure you'd complain like a bitch if random guys said stuff like "sexy man" or "hot legs".
It’d be different if it was guys genuinely walking up and starting a conversation with the girl and then complimenting her in a respectful way.
You can't do that nowadays only except if that guy's attractive to the female. If she's not attracted to man then it's harassment.
Крис T Don’t be a freaking animal. Problem solved
Крис T don’t not wear armor. Problem solved.
@@LoLunaaa shut yo rambling ass up lol
Gregorio Alcantara Lemme guess you’re a perv?
OK SO... when I was 14 I was living in Tokyo for a while. Everyday, alone, I would walk to the corner store (literally half a block away) and at first I was very secure in my safety. The locals were always very sweet and helpful. EVENTUALLY I became terrified to walk to the store because every time I saw European or American tourists (which was actually quite often where I was) I would be "complimented" as this guy is saying. On my looks, body etc. 40 year old men would ask to sleep with me. Some young English guys threw food at my butt. And it was terrifying. I. would always check to see that they weren't following me. fuck this guy, its scary. AND I CERTAINLY did NOT want to be "complimented". I wanted to feel safe and be left alone, and it was SCARY NO MATTER HOW ATTRACTIVE THEY WERE.
claire mitchell..............The thing is, a compliment does not make someone feel threatened and uncomfortable. The word compliment is not appropriate for the situation in this video, or what occured to you. It was catcalling and sexual harassment at it's finest. It was a hostile and fearful environment.
claire mitchell It's very difficult and nerve racking. but when you reach a certain age, it gets more respectful and not every 2 seconds, and some people leave it at just looking. It's a shame there's not an easier/quicker way to get a break! it's NEVER been a joyous part of life...
I’m sorry this happened to you and I’m sorry the people above are trying to rationalize what happened to you. It’s not okay!
He’s literally missing the point...😂😂It’s UNWANTED bro if a women doesn’t want it maybe DONT do IT... Regardless of how you think she should be taking the “compliment”
men shouldn’t be allowed to comment on problems they’ll never experience. women are always IN FEAR that those comments will turn into something more than comments. it’s terrifying, especially when you live in a big city.
i don’t think most men will ever grasp this concept. it’s sad. this man is pathetic.
I've already been catcalled before. I'm only 11!
benzo boi
YES!
Who has made those laws men. That is why men don't want women in positions of power in politics so they have no one stoping them from changing Laws so women have little to no rights " AGAIN ". The past always repeats itself if we don't educate ourselves about history.
I’m a man. I’ve been hollered at by women. Had my ass grabbed by a woman at a bar. & even had a random woman at the mall intentionally put down a girl I was with out loud as we passed by. Saying “Why is he with her”.
ZORO-ASTER
That's not ok either. Everyone need to be more considerate of others or mind their own business.
As creepy as this man is, I'm glad he's speaking, so we can see how dense and dangerous he and his cronies are.
right, it’s unfortunate that there are actually more people like him too
That man is 100% unfaithful to his wife. I can assure you.
Dont teach your daughters to protect themselves cause they already do. TEACH YOUR SONS TO BE RESPECTFUL
I'm sorry but are people seriously trying to conflate a compliment and catcalling? If you wanted to compliment someone then why would you holla at them from the other side of the street where they can't see you? A compliment is someone coming up to you in a polite manner and acknowledging that you've got nice hair or look pretty; A damn catcall is "Ayy sexy, wanna make my day?" or "God bless you baby" or the infamous "Ayy yo mami, what that mouth do". You see the difference? Its not as simple as someone saying "Yo beautiful", its much more degrading than that and it makes women feel uncomfortable. Are compliments meant to do that?
You are correct, but the whole purpose of "street harassment" is that men shouldnt compliment women. Hence the video had several examples of guys saying "Hello Beautiful" as being harassment. There is certainly a problem with some of this and the one guy in this video is creepy as shit, but making it to where men arent allowed to talk to women they dont know isnt the answer, and agree with it or not, thats the ultimate goal of "hollaback"
u do understand that if women didnt have a positive response to catcalls they wouldnt exist right?. u do understand that if women only responded to men who were polite and courteous and respectful we'd all be that way right?
the fact is there are too many women that like men who are rude, and disrespectful so men wont change for the select few that walk around nyc for 10 hours.
Patriarchal norms are why these guys think they're entitled to shout stuff at women like this. But patriarchal norms work more insidiously and on everyone. Read up on it.
ps. bell hooks is awesome
I agree with this logic. It just seems that women do not agree on this issue either. Not the bigger point of being harassed, but women (as a collective) don't agree on what harassment is. Some women have stated that they believe they shouldn't even be "hit on" or "approached", they consider those things to be cat calling. They have stated that "hello beautiful" is cat calling. I believe cat calling is screaming, whistling, etc... things that you stated.
I also view harassment as "to annoy persistently"....meaning if you reject my advances and I stop talking to you immediately, I didn't harass you.
Focused313, you are correct in my opinion. A person can't simply redefine a word and expect it to mean anything to other people. I could consider someone saying hello to me to be a death threat, that wouldn't make it true though, would it? The issue here is that the way to redefine words and/or the social dynamic to do with such words, and verbal communication is by altering public opinion in favor of the new definition, and that videos like these are made with that intention. Personally though I would hardly consider this to be a success in that context, it acts as confirmation bias to those who already thought this way, and as being completely daft and laughable to those who do not.
I had to stop halfway, this guy is destroying my brain cells
I stopped when he started classifying races of men and indicating that it was a "cultural" thing to catcall like wtf stop
Omaima 😂😂
I stopped when he got pissed because she wasn't letting him interrupt her and stop speaking to let HIM speak.
Omaima I couldn’t even make it halfway I wanted to cut my ears kff
im halfway thru i cant watch more
Did he actually say that women should stand up for themselves and carry a gun??? lol .. not the brightest bulb, that's for sure.
And you obviously didnt realize that he was being sarcastic.
Youre not the brightest bulb yourself, arent you?
he wasn't being sarcastic mr."brightbulb"^
Nothing wrong with defending yourself . if you were in a locale that was not privileged you might understand that sad , though true , reality.
Christian P No.. he was pretty serious
The first ever time a man has ever came up to me was when I was only 14 years old and I was sitting in the car with my window down when my mum went in the shop ( I couldn’t put my window up cause my mum took the keys ) and a man around his 40’s came to the car and asked for some money so I told him I didn’t have any so he turned away and I can remember feeling so much relief but then he turned back to the car and started asking me if I was single, a virgin and all stuff like that and then saying how sexy I was baring in mind at the time I was ONLY 14
I can remember freezing up and not knowing what to say so I just said I did have a boyfriend but sitting in that car I just felt so trapped and scared because I couldn’t get out or shut my window I was just stuck eventually he walked a bit away but he stood infont of the car and just watched me I was so terrified !!!
I know this isn’t catcalling but it just shows that some men treat us like dolls or don’t understand how scared and uncomfortable they make us also I would just like to point out AGAIN THAT U WAS ONLY 14!!!!!
I am so sorry this happened to you girl.A situation like this also happened to me when I was 11.Don't worry though.We'll all get through this together :)
I love this woman already purely based on her facial expressions.
Dakota
same i thought I was the only one
Dakota UGH, SAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAME.
it was actually pretty annoying to me
Amanda is seriously such a gem! I love her so much and her advocacy for racial and gender equality ❤️
Hey Dakota twinnnning
He’s tryna mansplain something he’s literally never experienced this is hilarious
i have no laifu If you’re a guy this’ll be a million times more ironic, since you clearly don’t know what mansplaining is. So here’s the actual definition! man·splain - verb - (of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.
Azami Wren for 1 I'm a girl okay for 2 anyone can interrupt someone so you don't need a name for it it's just one of those things the feminist made up yes I agree with 1 and 2 wave feminism but 3rd wave feminism is just a joke
Azami Wren a woman can explain something to a guy I know I can and I'm pretty sure anyone else can
Azami Wren goodbye this is why I don't speak to feminist lol
Alexander Edinger I think it's called mansplaining because of a man explaining a woman how she should feel in her situation instead of recognizing that he doesn't experience the same to know and be qualified to tell others how to react and feel about catcalling. He's clearly telling Amanda how women find catcalling attractive because they need compliments so you can see he's arrogantly making assumptions about women that he has no right to not to mention, happen to be entirely inaccurate. If a woman told a man condescendingly on how he should feel when disrespected and belittled on the streets and how he shouldn't consider it to be demeaning then that's just as wrong in my opinion.
HOW do guys think this is ok?
Umi Princess
If the roles were reversed, it will be a lot of men out here with low sperm counts
Bishop what are you talking about?
U do know women cat call too?
Because girls love it when attractive men show them attention and feed them compliments. They just don't want to hear it from ugly, undesirable men. If 6'3" model millionaire Chad were complimenting her on the street she'd EAT it the fuck up.
zim babwe can't speak for every woman, but idc what the person looks like. I don't take shit from anyone.
He’s totally right👍🏼 If it was Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Jason Mamoa, we wouldn’t be offended. We’d love it!
This man is so clueless and why did CNN bring someone with an uneducated point of view... Compliments are great, cat calls is someone you may not be interested in visibly letting you know you are sexually attractive even when your mindset is I just want to get to work safely.
But that's the thing "compliments are great" yet nowadays there are women who get offended and become crybabies even with simple compliments like 'your dress is lovely'
What is so great about objectifying someone?!
Arran Vid honestly, if I don’t know you and I’m walking down the street, u don’t need to give any compliments. I’m fine, women can feel uncomfortable talking to strangers.
Arran Vid maybe in a convo or something where you’re actually talking to them but just with them walking by to me is just weird af. just be honest and say u wanna fuck lol
I don’t know this guy, you are right cat calls are wrong... but to say is wrong about everything isn’t true.
“Political correctness has gone too far”.... All the hate this guy is getting, I’m not saying he is right about everything but he definitely is right that political correctness has gone too far. Yes women must be respected, I do agree with him though the better looking a guy is the more he can get away with it. I see it all the time at work and everywhere guys that women think are hot say the most sexual explicit things and it’s ok... BUT the average or ugly guy is told that even asking a women out may be considered sexual harassment or a look (and that is exactly the anti harassment training we have to sit through every year). And to deny the best looking guys get away with saying things average or below average guys can’t is to deny the truth. There are actual studies on this that prove it, and it also helps get the the job and get promoted. Basically being very attractive is the golden ticket to a much easier life (yes, it can be messed up by a shitty personality but overall it is true).
It’s all BS, yes be respectful to each other but also get mad about everything. I’ll always remember an older women commenting how when she was younger she thought men went too far but now that she is older she said she really misses the attention from men and wished she hadn’t taken things so negative when she was young. Those were her words not mine, what changed? Her perspective, that’s all, nothing else.
Personally as a guy, attention from women is a compliant and not all women are put off by men being flirts (I think it’s more of a cultural thing and in some other countries overt flirting is normal. Yet in others you can’t even hold hands with the opposite sex).
im still amazed and disgusted that there actually guys like this. thank God i was brought up to respect women..
Scott Taylor Amen
"Then carry a gun" good lord XD what has possessed this man
Amanda Seales being called a comedian is hysterical in and of itself 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀
And this is exactly why women live longer😂 cause we got sense 💯
Lol that's funny
Cash you can’t even spell, sit down male.
Lilly Love please don’t do the “women/men are better than this because they are more __.” Because it’s just pitting all of us against each other. We don’t need an unnecessary gender war on UA-cam .
Cash - why are you so mad?? I wanna see you dating/trying to hit on a man if you think this poorly about women 🤔
Awa Touray thanks for your comment. But it has nothing to do with putting men and women against eachother. The statement that the man made was just based on ignorance and he wouldn’t understand how women feel in this sense and Amanda was stating facts. This stuff happens all the time. This is not a gender war, this is reality. I get that the statement I made may be offensive but that’s just my own opinion, if you don’t agree with it, then keep scrolling. Thank you!!
This guy refuses to listen. He's making excuses.
His entire demeanor demonstrates what he thinks of women, he talked over BOTH women, even though they gave him an opportunity to explain his position. And his answer was, “There is nothing wrong with this behavior, women love it.”, and, “If the men cat-calling were more attractive they would love it.”
That logic is ridiculous: if a woman is saying “no I don’t” yet he feels entitled to tell her she is lying or wrong, he has zero respect for women as a whole.
“Move to a different city.” ???
“Carry a gun.” In case a man takes offense because you responded and rejected his cat-call ‘compliment’ as he refers to it.
I have no doubt any woman who dates this guy for one night is being told “No.” and is answer is “no means yes” when he in on the stand in court after he is arrested for rape. He is a Neanderthal (and I apologize for insulting Neanderthals)
The question is why should woman be put in a position where they would be required to stand up for themselves? Why are we teaching woman how to defend themselves from this rather than teaching the MEN (the clear source of this issue) to respect woman the way they'd want a man to respect their daughter?
saying men is the clear source of the issue is your opinion. How come you don't see women as being the clear source of the issues. Why don't we teach women how to dress more conservatively and respectfully? Have you ever thought about that?
Ok Nunya, are you recommending all women should ware burkas because men have so little self restraint. Of course, that's the women's fault?
Nunya Dambidnis In the context of the video, who was trying to seek negative attention. Is silently walking down the street seeking negative attention to you? Does silently walking down the street condone being followed for 5 minutes or being constantly cat called? Great logic.
Nunya Dambidnis How many times is this vile and idiotic argument going to be uttered? It's so fucking baseless it's ridiculous. Just. Don't. Do. It. No matter what she wears. It's not like being asked to solve complex math problems....
D0llyS0x b-o-o h-o-o welcome to the real world. if you dont like it stay in your hermit shell.
“They’re Type of Culture,The Way They Were Brought Up” Her FACE IS MY MOOOOD
He reminds me of the guy he thinks that pushing himself on you harder is just him helping you see that you want him. I'm pretty sure he has made the women in his office feel very uncomfortable and unsafe.
Loo
Spanky S. Sexual harassment for sure
“You are Wrong” I love Amanda. This guy must be hanging out around a lot of insecure women
without sex workers he would definitely be one of those angry virgin incels who hates women
How about, instead of women having to stand up for themselves and carry guns to avoid being catcalled, the men catcalling just stop catcalling? Woah. Revolutionary, l know. I'm a radical.
(Also I'll say people should stop catcalling people, for all who say "men get catcalled too." Yes, we know. But there is a skewed ratio. It happens more to women.)
***** Talking to them like a normal human being leads to them thinking they're getting more out of you which leads to you inevitably telling them you're not interested which leads to them getting angry and saying horrible things.
***** Your username isn't helping
To be fair, women should learn how to stand up for themselves as well as men not being disrespectful.
Urukins
Right. But the standing up for themselves would be more of a survival tactic and wouldn't be necessary if no one was catcalling in the first place. But it might be necessary now since it does happen, so you have a point.
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You have no idea how much more aggressive catcalling is in latinamerica. No idea, guys.
Ugh, why can't men who catcall understand that catcalling doesn't make women feel empowered? Like, it's not a compliment. You can't just objectify women and then expect them to want you. Like, sorry? But that's not how it works, Sweetheart.
Mikey Silva first off, it is a compliment I don’t get how you think it’s not. If a guy tells a woman “hey your beautiful” is that not a compliment? And also, it’s not objectifying woman at all they are getting acknowledged for their beauty. Mind you this also happens to men but do they flip out and go on the news? No. They don’t.
Josh There's a big difference between telling a woman "Hey you're beautiful" then leaving it at that and the men who shout things after us. Yesterday I was in the grocery store, and an older gentleman walking by said "I like your outfit, you look really nice." I smiled and said thank you, he said you're welcome, and went along his merry way. THAT was a compliment, it made me feel good and I had a smile on my face for the rest of the day.
However, walking down the street and having guys SHOUT after you is not a compliment, and neither is telling a woman you like her boobs, butt, legs, or in general saying something about her body. When guys do that, it's often because they either think it's funny, or because they're just looking to get a woman's attention for sexual purposes. They're not looking at me as a person, they're looking at me as a body. That's objectifying. It doesn't feel good AT ALL. When that gentleman complimented me in the grocery store, his calm, kind demeanor made his intentions obvious: To be a nice person and tell a girl she looked nice. The men on street who catcall aren't being "nice" for the sake of being nice. They're looking for some sort of reward. It's especially obvious when they YELL at women, comment on their bodies, and sometimes even follow them.
If you truly want to compliment a woman, that's awesome, you're a great guy. But give her an actual compliment. Put it this way: If you wouldn't say it to your mother, don't say it to any other woman. "That's a nice outfit", "You look beautiful", "I love your hair", are all examples of good compliments - provided you're not shouting them at women walking down the street, and that you don't follow them just to tell them, because that's really creepy.
I don't know of a single woman who likes being catcalled...
I remember watching that video and thinking, "man, there is a catcalling problem among the minority community". I'm not racist, just making an observation that the cat-callers were mostly minority, maybe a culture thing.
Bill BurrFan - no, its not a culture thing, thats dumb. My cat callers are white, because guess what... i live in a predominantly white neighborhood, its not hard to grasp. "Regions"
that guy is a jerk
Ant Que stfu
Juanito Gonzalez u stfu
Kenny Chu don't tell me what to do male trash
I think it’s really sad we have men in our world that think this way! I commend Amanda for standing up for what’s right and what’s not right. Just because he was raised a certain way he feels entitled ,also for him to come at parents the way he did is disrespectful.I’m a gay man in America and I hear this daily from women all around me. It hurts me that my mother,grandmother,sisters,women,girls,and young ladies have to deal with this bull! I have a close girlfriend who is literally scared for her and her 2 children’s lives because a guy wants to be with her. The catch is that she doesn’t want him,so he decides he wants to stock her. We also worked together and he was literally calling our store asking for her. She had erased her Instagram to get away from him but,he just keeps finding way.....I told her to try and get a restraining order put out against him,she said cops said they can’t if he hasn’t touched or tried to harm her physically. But what happens when he does try to hurts her the first time? Those are 2 young babies without their mother to raise them. Amanda is a boss!❤️✨
TheTavaraus omg that's horrible I hope nothing bad happens to your friend.... :(
Ty's World! Thank you for speaking out 😊
Ari Onassis-Sugen, yea insecure women.
It’s nice that you sympathize with us. God bless you
Completely agree with the man. If dude is a 6’3” male model who is immediately recognized as a man of resources, these women immediately go into hypergamy mode. So sick of the pseudo indignation. Funny how the lady “woman-splains” and preaches down to the man while simultaneously tells the man what he should be thinking.
So you'd rather me get into a gun battle, risk my life, than to tell a man to stop being disgusting and creepy? Sometimes silence is our only defense because we are so terrified when we're catcalled on the street. I'd rather use my words than bullets to end an argument, sir, thank you very much.
Why would you be afraid of men? Feminist have pointed out that men and women are equal. What is there to fear in your equal?
***** Who are you referring to? Me or the person who posted the original comment?
i believe mary is referring to you're comment, but what she may be trying to say is that feminist say men and women should be treated equally (in some occasions for both sides they are not treated equally). Added with the fact women are allowed to be afraid because in most occasions they are not physically stronger then some men. I believe they are both just saying they have to be cautious, like all people do.
Zane Moon Everyone has to be cautious but it seems only men and non-feminists know this. But feminists keep saying we're equal so I'll go with that since it grants me benefits too. Women can't ask me for anything because they should be able to equally handle their problems.
I mean you do you, but not all feminist think that and personally i believe i should help anyone in need; but thats just me.
this Steve dude blocked me on twitter just for sharing this video
😂😂
omg😭😂
Does this man's book even sell? His arguments are so f*cked up!
Probably doing really well among young males who wear fedoras, and own a katana.
Morihiro Tsuruta omae wa mo sindau nani
That's what's concerning. If his books do sell and if theyre full of the same nonsense reasoning that he gave here, he could be educating a large group of men on how NOT to properly act like a man. He practically "man-splained" his way through the whole conversation and essentially victim blamed by implying that women shouldnt dress/present themselves in a certain way. If that doesnt work, then they shouldnt act in a certain way. And if that doesnt work, they should flat out just move. Like seriously, wouldnt it be easier if we just taught everyone proper manners that respected others feelings? It isnt rocket science!
Sadly they probably do
Of course it sells...to all the ALT-RIGHT MAGA people who think Trump is the best thing that ever happened to this country even though everything he's done so far (and that isn't much) has hurt/damaged our country, its people and its resources. I wouldn't be surprised if the Red States were already buying slaves from Libya. That's where this country is headed if Trump has his way.
After the whole Harvey Weinstein/Hollywood abuse scandal, I wonder if he regrets saying these things... *Amanda is very wise!* Her facial expressions could easily make iconic gifs 😁
GarageStudio agreeed my brotha
Your level of gayness is a hundred plus, you never get laid by kissing woman's ass buddy.
Mitch Anderson Amen-i just posted how it's "inferring" and the most basic logic mistake. I happen to be a women and don't expect my comment to get to much criticism (lol sarcasm)
I was just wondering to same thing. He's probably walking on egg shells now.
She did that awesome and iconic full body eyeroll ya know. Like, the you’re such a dumbass, eyeroll
Your behaviour should not be a reflection of another person's personal choice.
wait........ this guy has actually written a book???????? what a waste of paper poor tree