One thing people don't understand is this shit hurts. As a African American man it hurts to know people hate me simply for being another color. It's insane to me. From the first look I am judged and hated without even being asked what's my name. It hurts. Humans are humans, that's it. No matter what belief, color, or life you live we should get to know other types of people.
Gohan With Down Syndrome That's all I can do man and I do. I'm the optimistic type and I know living my life to fullest is my #1 priority. Just have to block out that negativity.
You sound like one of those white validation chasers. So long as we are not hurting each other and staying out of each other's way, all is alright. White people can judge me, hate me for what I am, I do not care. *go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated*
How does Ana's mother feel about her working for a man whos unwilling to acknowledge a genocide commited against her people and who gave his network the same name as the people that carried out the genocide?
Simple psychology: if you want to adjust someone's attitude, you reinforce their progress and punish their undesired behaviors. Criticizing her when she is making progress is not conducive to eradicating her racist views.
Interracial couples face a lot of unjust judgement. From their motives to their frame of mind to their self esteem. We should learn to mind our own business and judge our own hearts and motives.
I as a mom from an interracial marriage will never tell my kids who to be who to be with at the end of the day each individual have the rights to choose and we as parents should respect their decision.
Sarah Apple your so right i dont get this one and I'm black. People don't understand that some people are from different Generations. So not everything is going to be holding hands and Kumbaya the moment you see a person of another race walk to the door with your child. Even a psychiatrist once said most people when they have children and imagine grandchildren they imagine their grandchildren would look somewhat like them. So yes it is a disappointment at first because the dream u imagined just changed, but its how u deal with it that defines who u are.
It takes time to change one's prejudices. Where that Mom is today might be short of where she is tomorrow. The fact that she was able to accept her daughter's black husband at all shows growth. Let us not judge her because she does not fully understand her limited understanding of her prejudices. She has made a step , some are not willing to even try.
My dad is German and my mom Mexican: right now they are celebrating their 27 anniversary; so I don't know why people write about their fail relationship's or their friends. We are four kids raised in a beloved family and we speak 3 languages. When there's real love and passion one can over come everything.
My mom is asian and my dad is black and my 2 older siblings are full asian. I never looked at them as anything but family. I am so thankful for this upbringing. Race was never an issue when it came to my friends or boyfriends. Btw I married a white man. Talk about blended family! I love it.
use the spiritual eye ignore the physical you don’t need to know about science to know that a black child with brown eyes does not look like a blonde haired, blue eyed woman
My girlfriend is Asian (Chinese) and USUALLY 9/10 Asian date whites. Plain and simple. They usually don’t date each other. So when I met her family and they saw this dread head guy with a beard they went CRAZY 😜 kicked me out and told her, “you left Jason for him?” I’m black so I’m pretty use to racism so it didn’t bother me a bit. I tried to break up with her so I wouldn’t come in between her and her family but she said go to hell. She stuck it out with me and now we have triplets, girls! And now her funky ass fam want to come thru! Nope! We won’t allow it! My girls are 5 and it took 5 years for them to see their black grandchildren. We won’t allow it.
Mango Steel I'm sorry to hear that, But to be honest with you I don't necessarily think it's racism (not saying it isn't) but more of a cultural thing. Asians are very proud of being homogenis and want to preserve their culture.
Chucks got the Stuff nope 👎 all her brothers and sisters are married to white men and women and her parents are so proud! They tried to say I’m not successful but.... I make more money 💰 then her siblings and their spouses. I write apps and it’s booming now. They said I’ll beat her and/or kill her. Still waiting on that lol. Plus she could kill me in a fight lol 😂. They came up with every excuse but now they are getting old and they want to spend time with their grandchildren. Nope! I’m moving back home to atlanta from San Diego and we are sure they won’t visit. When she was pregnant the made a joke on Facebook saying our kids will be half criminal lol. So.... it’s not cultural is RACISM
Mango Steel thanks for sharing your story. Congrats to you and your wife on your 3 girls! Sounds like my partner and my grandma 3 hours ago at dinner smh...😣
Mango Steel I am mixed Central American and African American. We teach our 2 boys about both cultures. However my grandma who s from Nicaragua and my guy whos Afro American can't get along to save their lives and they don't even speak the same language lol. Deff know where you guys are coming from😕
9/10 interracial involving blacks end up with fatherless children. I don't think the parents are racist, just statistically competent and you are naive and shortsighted.
I am currently engaged to a white man and we will be getting married in about 25 days. His mom and dad are divorced now. His dad does not believe in “mixing of the races.” However, his mom felt the same, but after spending time with me has grown to love me too and even calls me her daughter already. Meanwhile, we don’t know if his dad will even show up for the wedding. He has had 2 years to meet me and has refused or cancelled at the last minute when we schedule a time to meet. His fear or ignorance is so bad that he may miss his own son’s wedding.
David Jacquet Update: Not only did his dad come to the wedding, but he does accept our marriage now and looking forward to seeing his grandchild next year.
My wife is white. I also love and find all types of women attractive especially black women. I did not marry a skin color, but a beautiful woman who just happened to be white. I also understand the viewpoint of the mom discussed in this poece. Her heart was in the right place. When I consider what her intention was, I've got nothing but love for her.
When I was a teenager, my best friend Caroline was black, and the only black student in my high school, a school of very privileged white kids. Caroline went through hell and back attending that school, but because her mother was wealthy, for whatever reason they assumed everything would be OK, but it didn’t turn out like that. That poor girl was tormented every day of her life, I think I was literally the only friend she had, but to me it was irrelevant, I never look at somebody’s color, I look at the quality of their character, and she was such a character, with a wicked sense of humor, and so much fun to be around. I was a gay kid still trying to figure out my sexuality, deep in the closet, but happy to have such a good friend like her, so we decided to go on a road trip in the summer when I was 17. When I got home my mother was sobbing in tears, thinking that I was dating a black girl. My mom and my father both come from small towns, that were 100% white, and refused to except anything else. I told my mom we’re just friends, that we weren’t dating, but she was still bawling her eyes out like an idiot, but I left it at that, because what’s the point in arguing? When I turned 20, I met my husband, who is Latin American, and very obviously Latin American. I’ll never forget the look on my mothers face all those years ago when I told her, and I quote, “hey mom, remember when you thought I was dating a black girl, well what do you prefer, a black girl or a Latino man?“. She just stood there with a look of disgust and anger, as I told her that it’s either except me for who and what I am, and respect my choices, or lose me forever. I didn’t give them a choice, I walked out the door expecting full well to never hear from them again, but they surprise me. My parents are so racist and so ignorant and close minded, it took the threat of losing their only son, to open their eyes to reality, and to openly embrace the person that I fell in love with. It took many years, but eventually they finally came around, and realized that I wasn’t going to settle for anything less than 100% acceptance. I told them that if they can’t except it then they would never see me again, and I meant it. My parents are extremely wealthy and would constantly throw that in my face, telling me that if I did what I wanted to I would be cut out of the will, and would die dirt poor. I told him that I would rather die dirt poor and incredibly happy with the person I love most, then be rich and live a lie and be a blind bigot. I think that’s what got them the most, because shortly there after they begin to talk to my spouse, and I told him not to take any crap from them, but fortunately they didn’t give cost to start any fights. That was 31 years ago, and we’re still together, so for much for my mothers “it’s just a phase, you’ll get over it” idea! My Stuck up sister, who is still refuses to speak to me because I am in an intra-racial marriage, and gay, has been divorced three times, yet constantly insists to my parents that I’m going to hell first, I beg to differ. All I can tell you is you have to live the life you were meant to live, and to hell with what anyone else says. If you allow other people to dictate your actions, you will never amount to anything, and will live a life of misery and loneliness, not to mention regret. I literally completely forget that I am in an interracial marriage, because it’s a relevant to me, I could care less, we love each other more than life itself, we were meant to be together. I literally cannot picture life without him, and I could care less what my idiot evil ignorant bigoted sister says, little does she know she’s already been written out of the will completely, because I’m also adopted, and kept telling my parents that because of a doubt that I’m not really part of the family, so she should get all of their money after they’re dead. My parents didn’t take too kindly to that remark, and made me The sole inheritor of their estate, well, me and my husband, I just can’t wait to see the look on her face when she finds that out, even though I promised my parents to not say a word about it until one of them passes away, I’m also the executor of their estate, and I am prepared for a battle, knowing full well she will hire an attorney and try to do everything and anything that she can, to get her hands on money that she does not deserve at all. I don’t deserve it either, I didn’t do anything to earn it, other than to live my life to the best of my ability, with integrity and honesty, and despite my parents misgivings, they told me that they truly admired that about me, so after a great deal of soul-searching I just cited to forgive them for their initial reaction, because now if you see my husband and I and the two of them, you would think that were the best of friends from day one, and although that’s not true, the fact that it is now, is all that truly matters to me. I mention all this only for one point, and that is to never let your family dictate your happiness and your decisions, because only you can make yourself happy, nobody else can do it for you, and if you caved into pressure, and didn’t listen to your heart, then I guarantee you that you will have an absolutely miserable life, filled with anger, regrets, resentment, and a ton of other horribly negative emotions, not a way you want to live your life. I’ll never understand why people have to be like that, if you truly love somebody, then you respect them and their decisions, even if you don’t agree, it is not your place to say so, people who love other people are there to support each other, not to threaten and insult each other. Life is far too short, and there’s no room for toxic people, so I say get rid of any people like that, because if you don’t, don’t make your life a living hell, And you won’t even be able to look at yourself in the mirror without feeling shame.
This is real most whyt e folks are the real racost and then there is the 1% guy looks you who is not! Blacks go there he'll all day and every day! We need to separate, period! This hatred is ingrained in whyt e folks and then they teach there kids and pass the torch with every generation!
Why are y'all mad? This is progress. You should be applauding this lady for changing her view. Even if she didn't own... Its a step to the right direction!
I have more respect for this woman than I have for those smiling in someone's face while stabbing them in the back. She faced her prejudices, realized they were demons, and effected a change. She didn't gloss it over, nor was it fake reality thing with a choir singing, swirling colors and baby cherubs flying around as she "suddenly realize her thinking she was wrong" moment. Even if there were some residual feelings still left, I admire her for admitting that, not sweeping it under the rug, but facing herself head on. I wish others would do the same, especially since within one year, the worms are crawling out of the woodwork feeling like they have been given a passport for hatred and can freely express it to anyone, about anyone they please. .
Doesn't matter if she ultimately came to embrace her daughter's decision or not people are going to love whoever they want and be with them regardless.
1) Anna is correct, we need dialogue. would you rather white people be silently and subtly racist or try to be open and honest and communicate with you and get past the racism? 2) if this was a woman coming out speaking about her daughter marrying a woman, we wouldn't have an issue. It would be like 'oh great you embraced her and everything's better now'. if we're so racially sensitive we can't even communicate, that would be the problem.
The same damn thing would've happened had a black woman brought home vanilla ice! all ethnicities have internalize biases within us that we at times aren't even aware are there until.........well a situation like this happens! i say koodos to the mother for facing her bias/prejudice and embracing her black son in law!
I agree, I would be a little reserved but only because I know what comes with interracial marriages and I would really want to know are they truly ready for the evils.
ethnicities don't have biases, people do..and its clear the mother was already aware of her own racism so she wasn't surprised..and one of the more important points, as sam mentioned, is that she projected all responsibilities onto 'the others' instead of owning up to it being her own limitations projected outwardly.
Elza Lakshman I’m Christian and in interracial relationship💖 the Bible says a marriage between a man and woman. It doesn’t talk about what race should marry what race. So no that’s not a true Christian
So would this lady be a better person if she covered up how she felt and never dealt with it? I think not. She had a real problem and brought it out in the open to help herself and others. I think dealing with truth is better than sweeping it under the rug. I hope she was able to work through her bias and come out a more loving enlightened human being. It isn't just a white issue. There are black parents who would prefer their children not date a white person. I don't think it means they hate white people. Usually It's how you were raised that influences your choices. Deal with it, talk about it, and be the best human being you can be. To truly love someone you have to take the time to get to know them.
i have a black brother grwoing up he a marine , i have kroean sister and brother , so learn to love being human being and stop the online abusing people or be reported
+The Worm hahaha you know they're also an opinion web show. They're here to discuss a certain social situation. Don't put them into this arbitrary box of all the content they can produce. As if they don't also speak on larger stories. You are either a troll or willfully ignorant to make such a dumb short sighted comment lol
My parents, especially my mum didnt want me even dating a Black girl. But im with one at the moment. My parents are old school Eastern Europeans and they always wanted me to be with someone from my own ethnic group, but living in the Bronx and America your exposed to all different kinds of cultures.
I feel foreign to people who focus on race like it's important. I met my husband through voice only, we were friends over a blind friendship app for months and I developed feelings for him without seeing or knowing his skin color. Our brains just clicked and matched each other's values and ambitions. I personally think everyone should date this way or meet people this way, then people can get over their assumptions of people and actually listen to the soul of the person in front of them. I personally also think people should be friends first before romantically, then there's no acting or scripted dates involved and it just kind of blossoms. If it's meant to be it's meant to be. I saw someone on this thread say ever heard of the saying you can't take the thing that you had in the world to heaven, that includes your skin color, so we should all get over it.
To be honest, I'm glad she was able to accept that it's her daughter's decision and that her bias was irrational. My family is from the Caribbeans and they are not big fans of me dating Americans or anyone not from the place that they are (even when we are the same race). I've met Cubans who don't want their kids dating Mexicans or other Hispanics. Let's not crucify this lady.
Yes there is. Racism is as natural as breathing, and there is an important, biological reason for it. If you truly value diversity, then you must value racism as well, because racist (in-group) preference is necessary for the preservation of diversity.
I am happy to see this coverage and dialogue. Everyone take a deep breath. This is going to take ALL OF US to overcome the American original sin and subsequent systematic discrimination that influence biased thinking for centuries in our country. Let’s unpack it all (respectfully) and move forward step by step- TOGETHER ✨✨✨🙏🏾🙌🏽
Sorry, but that's just a lie. Blacks and whites are two different species, as are the other races as well. Interracial marriage and miscegenation produces a mongrelization of our genes and actually destroys diversity.
Well, I'm black and I get how the mother felt. Now, hear me out. Black people are not treated fairly. As a white person, she knows how white people think about and talk about them behind their backs. So, when she saw her daughter was going to marry a black man her mind went straight to the fact that her grandchildren would share the heritage of people who struggle on their jobs and for equality. There is more to her fear than racism. The children is what will actually bring her around because she will love them and begin to be more caring about how black people are treated and she will start to stand up for things she once ignored. I have a daughter in an interracial relationship but I love it. I'm black and it doesn't concern me that their children will be considered black. This is not the same for a white mom who may need an adjustment period to accept that. Really this is how racism ends, when white people begin to accept white bloodlines. It happened in England and it needs to happen here. The real hero in this this story is her daughter. It is more complicated than sheer ignorance.
Chelle Weatherspoon You speak as if mistreatment of Black's like Black's are some helpless charity who need other people to care and nurture us. We do not need their kindness or their charity we. Need to unite in ourselves and build our own systems. I promise you that my children and their children will not live in a world where they feel they are weak and inferior. We need to make that stand now join us.
Larry Hardy Obviously. This woman wrote an article about it. Black, white, Indian, Asian, some family’s don’t want to mix. Stop being mad because this story is about a white woman. Every race could be afraid to mix.
Exactly look at serena williams. Her dad didnt want to walk her down the aisle because of who she married and i agree with him. The man protected his daughters their whole life from racist ppl only for her to lay down and have a halfbreeded child by one , shit make no sense
stryfetc1 black people stay begging for acceptance from other groups of ppl shit is sad and shows how much self hate we have . Niggas pass up the most beautiful black women for a white girl with a racist family
This is true, but we live in a day and age where race is a big tool for war with our selves if we're devided and we keep the hate towards each other it's easier for them to say to pick us off
If we are going to heal racism, then we need to allow people who are racist and who genuinely want to change, to safely admit their racism, speak honestly about their feelings and not have to fear constant retribution and resentment. I have friends and family members of all ethnic backgrounds and the only way we can get along is to have that honest space to speak how we really feel, safe in the knowledge that we will listen to each other and too quick to rush to judgment.
My mother tried to pull that racist none sense and I set her straight. I date white, Asian, Hispanic, Indian and other women out of my race. My life, my choice.
I'm African-American, and I'm recently married to a French Canadian woman who has Lily white skin. She is a great partner in life and I love her. People have the right to marry and love whoever they choose, as long as it is husband and wife. To involve color creed culture, most of the time is borderline stereotypic Behavior. Get to know your partner before you marry them, whoever they may be then make your decision.
To each is own. I'm not bothered by her daughter marrying a brotha. I wish them the best. Go and show the bigots on both sides of your families that love sees no color. It's 2018. The mom probably should have kept this conversation private but i respect her being open. I don't care why she's a bigot and/or racist I'm just ready for ppl to get over it! She'll have a change of heart when she has and loves her soon to come black grandchildren. Just beautiful innocent babies. Discrimination is a disease we should all try to avoid.
It's good she accepted the relationship. Both my parents have no problem when I date black men. We all bleed red and we are all human, it's sad she had a negative bias of her son-in-law, skin color DOES NOT define a person Stop judging people of color and putting them in a negative light.
+Madam President I'm sure you have links to prove that, oh wait you don't. Well I am say dumb shit too, you make 100% of the people with HIV on this comment section
***** Shit I doubt that White people want her on their side either. She should probably find her way to Stormfront where she can be among the other sleestaks and dweebs
***** Nope, I meant to say racist(Black, White, Hispanic, etc...) rather than White people don't want her stupidity on their side either. Not a Freudian slip because I believe that there are just as high percentages of racist among Black and Hispanic Americans
I think that the criticism that the Mom didn't act perfectly about her daughter's choice is unwarranted. We are all products of our upbringing, which is not always ideal, and in the end, she did the right thing by finding acceptance and embracing him into her family. While I can see how it could be seen as self-serving to write something telling how she overcame her bias, the same could be said for any self-help book or motivational speaker that has aided people in their hunt to better themselves. I know many that have found perspective in such things, and to critique her for giving her personal experience in order to help similar people who find themselves in the same position is misguided.
Raised in an independent fundamental baptist home, adopted by a white family. I am mixed and married a white man. My brother is white married a Nigerian women. Her making this blog probably took SO MUCH courage. I think she honestly wanted to open the door for it to be “ok” for these relationships to happen. Even though from the outside it can look bad. I applaud her.
I do appreciate her being woman enough to acknowledge her ignorance but why did this have to become public? Why wasn't it kept behind closed doors then that would give more credence to her coming out.
I'm really proud of Anna's stance. If anything, look at our liberal side as the more reasonable and educational. Yes, we get frustrated, but just like Anna said, the aggressive response will NEVER get through to them. It will push them farther back to the right. I believe the aggressiveness and hyperbole in modern, radical feminism and anti-racism helped to form "Trump's America". Too many Trump supporters are the response to the belittling nature of some liberals. Equality MEANS equality, and neither of the radical sides are truly embracing that.
Let's ask Indian, Asian, middle eastern immigrant parents how they would react if their daughter was going to marry a black man? White people are wayyyyyy more open minded and accepting of interracial marriages than other cultures.
Very true. You dare not be a black man and want to go and date/marry Indian or middle- eastern girls. Their parents will kill you and even the daughters.
There's a difference. White people enslaved them and brought them into their country. White culture has adapted to living with blacks. Keep in mind that this acceptance grew out of white people's hate for blacks in the first place.
My husband is white and my father is from the Ivory Coast, who is a traditionalist through and through. He did everything under the sun to undermine my relationship and it wasn't until I had my son where things really came to ahead. He said he was going to leave me out of the will and I was like, "lol, k." He then said he didn't want us to come around anymore and I was like, "lololol, k." It wasn't until my mother, who is a fiery Dominican, laid into him that just because he wanted to be stupid and ignorant didn't mean that she wasn't going to see her grandson. She really bonded with her son-in-law, so she also wanted to spend time with him. So, my mom and younger sister would come over on holidays or just randomly to spend time. When he seen his wife spend more time with us than her own husband, he caught the hint. He admitted that his extreme prejudice came from old ideologies that are no longer relevant. He apologized and now, those two are joined at the hip. Dad calls my husband more than me and they talk on the phone like a bunch of cackling teenagers.
Global Daily Media I wish I cared enough to know what you mean by that comment, but chances are it's going to something egregious and stupid, so I'll pass.
[NQZATR] when at war ..the man can take the enemies females...the females should never go with the enemy. ..but I'm a idiot & you will rationalize your way of thinking.. So no need to respond.
She's doing it because she loves her daughter and not because she suddenly saw the light and decided not to care about race. I don't see this as her changing her mind but more like making the best out of a situation that she can't really get out of.
Im not mad at the mother, because i definitely dont want my son or daughter marrying outside of their race. I love being around my people and our culture and the dark melanin . I agree with this woman, but not because im racist its because im selfish. I just love being Black and I want dark skinned nappy head beautiful black grand babies !
Phyllis Dee lady u stupid ijs and yes I'm black that's the problem now color but green is OK with everybody any color will do any thing for that even turn on love ones and friends you cool with that rite smh
The sooner we all accept that racism is not a bad thing the better, there’s a reason the creator stuck us on separate continents!!! We were never supposed to mix. Seriously...after thousands of years and still we don’t truly accept each other...it’s built into us. The original comment here says she wants black grandchildren, nothing wrong with that whatsoever. I sure as hell want white grandchildren...it is what it is. I don’t want my son to grow up and tell me he’s gay...does that make me a bad human being, maybe...but I have never, ever, met a perfect human being!! I don’t steal, I don’t abuse women, I rarely use foul language, never been arrested...but I’m not keen on the idea of a member of my family marrying a black...guess that makes me a vile human?!!
Carfilliot That in and of itself - not at all. In my personal opinion, whether you’re a “vile human” would be dictated by what your actions would be if your son did indeed marry a black person. Would you disown him? Threaten or intimidate his partner in an attempt to get her to leave? Or grudgingly accept your son’s choice even though you weren’t happy with it? By the way, what is the definition of a “white child”? I ask because my daughter looks like my husband - almost white (think tanned Californian), blonde hair, blue eyes, etc. Everyone thinks she’s white because she looks white. Is she 100% white? Nope, not at all.
this is one of the reasons why I believe in sticking to our own as black people. Not so we can hate but so we can build ourselves in this one step along with many others.
Charmain Drayton speaking honesty for those in her position but at the same time think abt how much white ppl are naive to there way of life and how they approach or express themselves.
I gotta agree with Ana. I've been fighting with discrimination my whole life. When someone is willing to admit any type of bias. It is a win. Not a big win, but small steps is how progression is made. Same with the people who discriminate, we have to learn how to accept any type of progression, no matter how small. It's a learning process. Every and any progression towards acceptance of others (no matter how small) should be welcomed. Otherwise you are no worse than the people who were biased against you. Quit judging, start accepting.
The last thing these commentators should be upset about is that someone admitted to their racial bias and is correcting it and may inspire others to do the same.
I'm with her. I don't think we should attack people for coming around and breaking through their prejudices. Yes the woman is kind of tone deaf but, it's a start.
There is nothing wrong with having a preference for your child's partner. All my black friends in school said that their parents would go crazy if they brought back a white girl, it's the point of preserving your race and heritage. White people are entitled to do this too.
+kaizoku ou ni ore wa naru I understand that, but is it wrong to put your pride aside for your Daughter's happiness instead? Isn't that what every parent want for their children regardless of who He/She marries? To be happy?
Chris EZbreezy yes of course your child's happiness comes above all else, I'm just saying a parent having a preference for their child is not an unusual or bad thing.
***** Of course it's not a bad thing, we all have opinions and different views, but when your Daughter's preferences doesn't necessarily match yours and she is happy then it's only fair to be accepting of that, other kids would've never spoken to their parents ever again over an issue that stupid.
***** wow that's incredibly ignorant. Have you heard of the Romans? The Anglo-Saxons? The Vikings? The Celts? All this is part of white heritage. That's like saying black people have no culture or heritage, it's not only an ignorant comment it's painfully wrong.
Mark : Mrs. Clark may well be brave and honest, I haven't read the article so cannot say; what I do know is that a well meant comment badly phrased is easily misconstrued, particularly on a sensitive topic. Donald Trumps dispute about his call to the Gold Star Widow is possibly much the same, Bringing up the son of General Kelly was Trump's cheap trick to get out of what would have been a simple apology. Mrs. Clark will probably see the same kind of misinterpretations, I hope she handles it more wisely.
OMG!!!! I loved Anna's comments at the beginning of this thing. Never have I heard someone verbalize what I have internalized in regards to being cautious that maybe there is a little room for discretion and nuance in criticism in these situations. So many times I've seen right through the awkward or inartfully worded comments people make to the real meaning of the message they are trying to convey. I've always wondered why more people can't see it that way. Anna is right that dialogue is too important to risk losing because a little understanding wasn't extended in some cases.
Agreed, I feel foreign to people who focus on race like it's important. I met my husband through voice only, we were friends over a blind friendship app for months and I developed feelings for him without seeing or knowing his skin color. Our brains just clicked and matched each other's values and ambitions. I personally think everyone should date this way or meet people this way, then people can get over their assumptions of people and actually listen to the soul of the person in front of them.
I personally also think people should be friends first before romantically, then there's no acting or scripted dates involved and it just kind of blossoms. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.
Ana is so right on this. Every single one of us has internal prejudices left over from the way we were raised and where we were raised. People of every colour, gender, class, and sexuality are prejudiced against SOMETHING. No one is completely without sin. Is it okay that this woman was/is racist? Of course not. But is it her fault that she is a product of her environment? Also no. Maybe she could have worded her post better but this is an example of a person trying to grow and learn. It isn't fair or helpful to expect everyone to pop out of the womb perfect. SJWs who attack people for not knowing absolutely everything or not having the same access to the types of information that they did are just as self righteous as the other two are claiming this woman is, because they are implying that they themselves have never held problematic beliefs. Educate people and let them grow and change. Attacking someone because they don't know everything you know is not only ignorant on your part, but also is not constructive in the long run. No prejudices are ever going to be solved by people yelling at each other and refusing to act with patience and maturity.
This is why we can't have a racial discussion in America. It's way to easy for someone to be called racist even when they they wised up and want to reflect on their previous prejudices.
I am white and when I was in my early teens, my mom "brought home" a black man... I can now admit that at the time, I was not in favor of the idea of my mom being with a black man and potentially having mixed kids with him... I was terrified of that. They ended up getting married and having two kids together, we all grew up happy together and there were never any issues regarding race or anything like that. They are very happy together, have been married for more than 10 years and are still together. I am really happy for her and love my siblings. Race is only an issue if you choose to make it so. However I don't blame this woman, she is just ignorant like I was.
I live in a country where despite being born to extremely white parents you can turn out dark skinned so interracial marriages make no sense to me. People are just people. Why hate?
I knew when I was in my teenage years that I would be married to a Hispanic female, or a white female. My wife happens to be a white woman. It's just what you find attractive personally.
Different cultures have different standards. My brother-in-law's family wasn't too happy that their son was marrying a white girl, they wanted him to marry Indian. In some places, there is a much more rigid definition of family and family values. It can be really hard to escape these expected norms without outright disowning your family. You can call it ignorance, you can call it racist, but that is not the whole story and likely never will be.
Are King Leopold's sins really the burden of Belgians living in the 21st century? Sounds like some ignorant racism to me. I'd be more disappointed if a child of mine came back with somebody who doesn't understand the difference between Belgium and Belgian than somebody of X ethnicity.
Reel Deel I don't know go ask about those 23 million Congolese that was murdered What their thoughts are on 21 century Belgium -Belgian I know what my thoughts no french-france belgium-belgian in my family ...:)
You can have those beliefs, and many in your area probably do, but that does not mean they are reasonable. This is how many cultures work, it is unfortunate but hard to get rid of due to the scale of some beliefs.
Racism or more specifically white supremacy is not about hatred. People get that confused. White supremacy is a school teacher or administrator diagnosing black children as having a learning deficiency and funneling them into special ed classes. No hatred, just inherit superiority complex.
this hurts me... im in an interracial relationship and I love him so much but because he is black everyone raises eyebrows and I had to prove myself to his siblings but they still push him to get into a different race.... im so scared im gonna lose him sometimes.. white w/ black interracial couples get the most judgement and we're the lowest percent of couples
Yeah! She should be welcomed and then she should be urged to keep up with learning. I think she must have faced her feelings and overcame them through being open to her son in law. I am glad she has got to where she is now and I bet she will keep on improving. She is likely to come back to this in the future with the same view as the hosts.
Yes, of course. White women see green 99% of the time. No green no man. I think the White woman purposely consume the BM time and money because it stops him from bringing his wealth back into the Black communities to build and uplift.
Our family is multiracial and we never had these issues. We have every race except Chinese. We have Japanese and South Korea. Lol. Such love we have. ❤️❤️❤️
Because it speaks to a wider social phenomenanon, and is enlightning. That's like saying why report on a murder of some guy just because most of the country doesn't know the guy
This is the same why do we care. We should be sadden about someones untimely death to give that person justice. Meanwhile this pointless and only starts a dialogue between the super right and left of USA.
Miltonman100 you stupid we are all the same we just evolved in the place on the earth we were at dumbass we can mix not like lion and Tigard the ligers can’t have kids humans can so we are the same dummy
When I met my boyfriend's family for the first time, his mom and siblings, were so welcoming of me. His more extended family I think it took a little longer to warm up to me since I seemed to be one of the only black people they've ever come in contact with XD. But his family feels like mine now. I never felt any prejudice as a black woman. My family however took a minute to warm up to him and my father is still distrusting. Being in an interracial relationship comes with its challenges but both parties have to be willing to work through it. The letter came off pretty distasteful from a certain perspective but... hopefully she learned something?
From my experiences, People of color are more vocal about their "distrust," while, White people (unlike the woman who is the subject of this video) aren't so vocal. That is why i welcome this woman and her comments. They open up for a conversation. I wish people were not so harsh to her.
This is common to most cultures. Regardless of ethnicity, parents do not generally like their kids to marry outside their group.
Mostly when the other group is generally shit.
+Sayuas Islam?
NickFromFlorida Muslims in Europe, black people in the US etc...
And that's not ok.
it's not as common to black people as it is for white people and immigrants, it's racist either way
One thing people don't understand is this shit hurts. As a African American man it hurts to know people hate me simply for being another color. It's insane to me. From the first look I am judged and hated without even being asked what's my name. It hurts. Humans are humans, that's it. No matter what belief, color, or life you live we should get to know other types of people.
f1s7PumP
Accept it for what it is and move on bro. That's all we can do
Gohan With Down Syndrome That's all I can do man and I do. I'm the optimistic type and I know living my life to fullest is my #1 priority. Just have to block out that negativity.
No thy self
You sound like one of those white validation chasers. So long as we are not hurting each other and staying out of each other's way, all is alright. White people can judge me, hate me for what I am, I do not care. *go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated*
'Murica!
How does Ana's mother feel about her working for a man whos unwilling to acknowledge a genocide commited against her people and who gave his network the same name as the people that carried out the genocide?
I'm guessing you would need to ask Ana's mother this question. Nobody here will be able to answer that.
+King Kaiden
Prove it. She has never done any of that through TYT; it's only been through her personal channel.
+Bazuuka Joe she did a final judgement on it not too long ago.
bruplay556
[Citation needed]
AGAIN.....AS IF YOU SONS OF BITCHES REALLY GIVE A GODDAMN ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS IN COUNTRY'S WHERE BROWN PEOPLE ARE THE MAJORITY.
Why is this such an issue? Marry whoever you wanna marry. Doesn't matter whatever race they are, if you love them... you love them.
I'm glad that she took a look at her life and recognized her bias. If only more of us could do that.
Well since she's getting a load of grief for it, I doubt that'll encourage others.
I'm Black and i agree with Ana, this is a conversation that needs to be had with folks of that mindset. It is a starting point. the lady did her best.
Simple psychology: if you want to adjust someone's attitude, you reinforce their progress and punish their undesired behaviors. Criticizing her when she is making progress is not conducive to eradicating her racist views.
Poor Finian dont pretend to want a conversation if you just shut down the people who need to hear it most. You've completely missed my point also.
Interracial couples face a lot of unjust judgement. From their motives to their frame of mind to their self esteem. We should learn to mind our own business and judge our own hearts and motives.
I as a mom from an interracial marriage will never tell my kids who to be who to be with at the end of the day each individual have the rights to choose and we as parents should respect their decision.
No matter what, people will say racist things. Some are aware, and some aren't.
the freeeeedom.... my wife is black. my kids are black.. no problems at our house!
Shouldn’t people be commending her for overcoming her bias and being able to acknowledge and accept it
Sarah Apple your so right i dont get this one and I'm black. People don't understand that some people are from different Generations. So not everything is going to be holding hands and Kumbaya the moment you see a person of another race walk to the door with your child. Even a psychiatrist once said most people when they have children and imagine grandchildren they imagine their grandchildren would look somewhat like them. So yes it is a disappointment at first because the dream u imagined just changed, but its how u deal with it that defines who u are.
It takes time to change one's prejudices. Where that Mom is today might be short of where she is tomorrow. The fact that she was able to accept her daughter's black husband at all shows growth. Let us not judge her because she does not fully understand her limited understanding of her prejudices. She has made a step , some are not willing to even try.
My dad is German and my mom Mexican: right now they are celebrating their 27 anniversary; so I don't know why people write about their fail relationship's or their friends. We are four kids raised in a beloved family and we speak 3 languages. When there's real love and passion one can over come everything.
My mom is asian and my dad is black and my 2 older siblings are full asian. I never looked at them as anything but family. I am so thankful for this upbringing. Race was never an issue when it came to my friends or boyfriends. Btw I married a white man. Talk about blended family! I love it.
Dont Listen to Him, Honey😘Just do your best to be happy and try to be decent along the way.
I respect her honesty. Bashing her won't help the mother or the conversation but well thought out critism is important.
Let you're kids date who they want...As long they are happy stay out of it....glad her daughters found someone to spend the rest of her days with
Pamela Harrington mmm you kinda want your grandkids to look like you... if not then they’re not your grandkids.
This whole "let your kids do whatever they want" style of parenting is one of the main reasons why society is collapsing.
use the spiritual eye ignore the physical you don’t need to know about science to know that a black child with brown eyes does not look like a blonde haired, blue eyed woman
Miscegenation is harmful, as it produces a mongrelization of races, which in turn destroys diversity.
M L Give one example.
This comment section is so digustingly toxic... We are all human at the end of the day. Whether some of you like it or not.
My girlfriend is Asian (Chinese) and USUALLY 9/10 Asian date whites. Plain and simple. They usually don’t date each other. So when I met her family and they saw this dread head guy with a beard they went CRAZY 😜 kicked me out and told her, “you left Jason for him?” I’m black so I’m pretty use to racism so it didn’t bother me a bit. I tried to break up with her so I wouldn’t come in between her and her family but she said go to hell. She stuck it out with me and now we have triplets, girls! And now her funky ass fam want to come thru! Nope! We won’t allow it! My girls are 5 and it took 5 years for them to see their black grandchildren. We won’t allow it.
Mango Steel I'm sorry to hear that, But to be honest with you I don't necessarily think it's racism (not saying it isn't) but more of a cultural thing. Asians are very proud of being homogenis and want to preserve their culture.
Chucks got the Stuff nope 👎 all her brothers and sisters are married to white men and women and her parents are so proud! They tried to say I’m not successful but.... I make more money 💰 then her siblings and their spouses. I write apps and it’s booming now. They said I’ll beat her and/or kill her. Still waiting on that lol. Plus she could kill me in a fight lol 😂. They came up with every excuse but now they are getting old and they want to spend time with their grandchildren. Nope! I’m moving back home to atlanta from San Diego and we are sure they won’t visit. When she was pregnant the made a joke on Facebook saying our kids will be half criminal lol. So.... it’s not cultural is RACISM
Mango Steel thanks for sharing your story. Congrats to you and your wife on your 3 girls! Sounds like my partner and my grandma 3 hours ago at dinner smh...😣
Mango Steel I am mixed Central American and African American. We teach our 2 boys about both cultures. However my grandma who s from Nicaragua and my guy whos Afro American can't get along to save their lives and they don't even speak the same language lol.
Deff know where you guys are coming from😕
9/10 interracial involving blacks end up with fatherless children. I don't think the parents are racist, just statistically competent and you are naive and shortsighted.
White conservative male here. I'm marrying the gorgeous black liberal love of my life in February! God is good!
i look forward to your divorce
@@wiseguy01lol
@@wiseguy01 Good one!!
@@wiseguy01 Looking forward to your funeral.
@@wiseguy01 Lol you are. So jealous! And envy! Let the man be happy! Why you so racist?
People need to talk about race. It is the silence that perpetuates stereotypes and fear of the unknown.
I am currently engaged to a white man and we will be getting married in about 25 days. His mom and dad are divorced now. His dad does not believe in “mixing of the races.” However, his mom felt the same, but after spending time with me has grown to love me too and even calls me her daughter already. Meanwhile, we don’t know if his dad will even show up for the wedding. He has had 2 years to meet me and has refused or cancelled at the last minute when we schedule a time to meet. His fear or ignorance is so bad that he may miss his own son’s wedding.
I hope he disowned him for marrying you.
David Jacquet Update: Not only did his dad come to the wedding, but he does accept our marriage now and looking forward to seeing his grandchild next year.
@@TheBlackbarbie1987 May YAHWAH Curse your marriage, and the bastered children that come from it.
David Jacquet woah now chill out just because you don’t agree doesn’t give you the right to bash people.
@David Jacquet shame on you.
My wife is white. I also love and find all types of women attractive especially black women. I did not marry a skin color, but a beautiful woman who just happened to be white. I also understand the viewpoint of the mom discussed in this poece. Her heart was in the right place. When I consider what her intention was, I've got nothing but love for her.
Dennis Lee never with my hands :-)
suavevalen race traitor your a non white ally of racism white supremacy!!
Jeff 20131 my wife is human, so I rebuke your rebuke.
When I was a teenager, my best friend Caroline was black, and the only black student in my high school, a school of very privileged white kids. Caroline went through hell and back attending that school, but because her mother was wealthy, for whatever reason they assumed everything would be OK, but it didn’t turn out like that. That poor girl was tormented every day of her life, I think I was literally the only friend she had, but to me it was irrelevant, I never look at somebody’s color, I look at the quality of their character, and she was such a character, with a wicked sense of humor, and so much fun to be around. I was a gay kid still trying to figure out my sexuality, deep in the closet, but happy to have such a good friend like her, so we decided to go on a road trip in the summer when I was 17. When I got home my mother was sobbing in tears, thinking that I was dating a black girl. My mom and my father both come from small towns, that were 100% white, and refused to except anything else. I told my mom we’re just friends, that we weren’t dating, but she was still bawling her eyes out like an idiot, but I left it at that, because what’s the point in arguing? When I turned 20, I met my husband, who is Latin American, and very obviously Latin American. I’ll never forget the look on my mothers face all those years ago when I told her, and I quote, “hey mom, remember when you thought I was dating a black girl, well what do you prefer, a black girl or a Latino man?“. She just stood there with a look of disgust and anger, as I told her that it’s either except me for who and what I am, and respect my choices, or lose me forever. I didn’t give them a choice, I walked out the door expecting full well to never hear from them again, but they surprise me. My parents are so racist and so ignorant and close minded, it took the threat of losing their only son, to open their eyes to reality, and to openly embrace the person that I fell in love with. It took many years, but eventually they finally came around, and realized that I wasn’t going to settle for anything less than 100% acceptance. I told them that if they can’t except it then they would never see me again, and I meant it. My parents are extremely wealthy and would constantly throw that in my face, telling me that if I did what I wanted to I would be cut out of the will, and would die dirt poor. I told him that I would rather die dirt poor and incredibly happy with the person I love most, then be rich and live a lie and be a blind bigot. I think that’s what got them the most, because shortly there after they begin to talk to my spouse, and I told him not to take any crap from them, but fortunately they didn’t give cost to start any fights. That was 31 years ago, and we’re still together, so for much for my mothers “it’s just a phase, you’ll get over it” idea! My Stuck up sister, who is still refuses to speak to me because I am in an intra-racial marriage, and gay, has been divorced three times, yet constantly insists to my parents that I’m going to hell first, I beg to differ. All I can tell you is you have to live the life you were meant to live, and to hell with what anyone else says. If you allow other people to dictate your actions, you will never amount to anything, and will live a life of misery and loneliness, not to mention regret. I literally completely forget that I am in an interracial marriage, because it’s a relevant to me, I could care less, we love each other more than life itself, we were meant to be together. I literally cannot picture life without him, and I could care less what my idiot evil ignorant bigoted sister says, little does she know she’s already been written out of the will completely, because I’m also adopted, and kept telling my parents that because of a doubt that I’m not really part of the family, so she should get all of their money after they’re dead. My parents didn’t take too kindly to that remark, and made me The sole inheritor of their estate, well, me and my husband, I just can’t wait to see the look on her face when she finds that out, even though I promised my parents to not say a word about it until one of them passes away, I’m also the executor of their estate, and I am prepared for a battle, knowing full well she will hire an attorney and try to do everything and anything that she can, to get her hands on money that she does not deserve at all. I don’t deserve it either, I didn’t do anything to earn it, other than to live my life to the best of my ability, with integrity and honesty, and despite my parents misgivings, they told me that they truly admired that about me, so after a great deal of soul-searching I just cited to forgive them for their initial reaction, because now if you see my husband and I and the two of them, you would think that were the best of friends from day one, and although that’s not true, the fact that it is now, is all that truly matters to me. I mention all this only for one point, and that is to never let your family dictate your happiness and your decisions, because only you can make yourself happy, nobody else can do it for you, and if you caved into pressure, and didn’t listen to your heart, then I guarantee you that you will have an absolutely miserable life, filled with anger, regrets, resentment, and a ton of other horribly negative emotions, not a way you want to live your life. I’ll never understand why people have to be like that, if you truly love somebody, then you respect them and their decisions, even if you don’t agree, it is not your place to say so, people who love other people are there to support each other, not to threaten and insult each other. Life is far too short, and there’s no room for toxic people, so I say get rid of any people like that, because if you don’t, don’t make your life a living hell, And you won’t even be able to look at yourself in the mirror without feeling shame.
Beautiful story
This is real most whyt e folks are the real racost and then there is the 1% guy looks you who is not! Blacks go there he'll all day and every day! We need to separate, period! This hatred is ingrained in whyt e folks and then they teach there kids and pass the torch with every generation!
Why are y'all mad?
This is progress. You should be applauding this lady for changing her view. Even if she didn't own... Its a step to the right direction!
I have more respect for this woman than I have for those smiling in someone's face while stabbing them in the back. She faced her prejudices, realized they were demons, and effected a change. She didn't gloss it over, nor was it fake reality thing with a choir singing, swirling colors and baby cherubs flying around as she "suddenly realize her thinking she was wrong" moment. Even if there were some residual feelings still left, I admire her for admitting that, not sweeping it under the rug, but facing herself head on. I wish others would do the same, especially since within one year, the worms are crawling out of the woodwork feeling like they have been given a passport for hatred and can freely express it to anyone, about anyone they please. .
Doesn't matter if she ultimately came to embrace her daughter's decision or not people are going to love whoever they want and be with them regardless.
1) Anna is correct, we need dialogue. would you rather white people be silently and subtly racist or try to be open and honest and communicate with you and get past the racism? 2) if this was a woman coming out speaking about her daughter marrying a woman, we wouldn't have an issue. It would be like 'oh great you embraced her and everything's better now'. if we're so racially sensitive we can't even communicate, that would be the problem.
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@@jayreeves2613 what does le mean?
The same damn thing would've happened had a black woman brought home vanilla ice! all ethnicities have internalize biases within us that we at times aren't even aware are there until.........well a situation like this happens!
i say koodos to the mother for facing her bias/prejudice and embracing her black son in law!
same thing happens across the pond
you cant judge people based on stereotypes
get to know them 1st.
Hahhaa Yeah you see that in every Tyler Perry film
A Santi Lol
I agree, I would be a little reserved but only because I know what comes with interracial marriages and I would really want to know are they truly ready for the evils.
ethnicities don't have biases, people do..and its clear the mother was already aware of her own racism so she wasn't surprised..and one of the more important points, as sam mentioned, is that she projected all responsibilities onto 'the others' instead of owning up to it being her own limitations projected outwardly.
This lady saying that she's a Christian... smh. People really need to spend money travelling and learning about different cultures.
Elza Lakshman I’m Christian and in interracial relationship💖 the Bible says a marriage between a man and woman. It doesn’t talk about what race should marry what race. So no that’s not a true Christian
So would this lady be a better person if she covered up how she felt and never dealt with it? I think not. She had a real problem and brought it out in the open to help herself and others. I think dealing with truth is better than sweeping it under the rug. I hope she was able to work through her bias and come out a more loving enlightened human being. It isn't just a white issue. There are black parents who would prefer their children not date a white person. I don't think it means they hate white people. Usually It's how you were raised that influences your choices. Deal with it, talk about it, and be the best human being you can be. To truly love someone you have to take the time to get to know them.
i have a black brother grwoing up he a marine , i have kroean sister and brother , so learn to love being human being and stop the online abusing people or be reported
No offense but of all the dumbass things humans do... Keeping and ignoring the existence of racism this long is at the top of the list. 💯
It's funny how the trolls made a bunch of comments on just the title and not the arguments in the actual video.
Welcome to the internet.
Not true
***** what arguement
+The Worm hahaha you know they're also an opinion web show. They're here to discuss a certain social situation. Don't put them into this arbitrary box of all the content they can produce. As if they don't also speak on larger stories. You are either a troll or willfully ignorant to make such a dumb short sighted comment lol
She was trying to rise above her own bias. Calling her an idiot is a classy move. These self righteous fools disgust me.
I don't see the problem. Mom recognizes her bias and deals with it. Like grown ups. Very Valuable.
My parents, especially my mum didnt want me even dating a Black girl. But im with one at the moment. My parents are old school Eastern Europeans and they always wanted me to be with someone from my own ethnic group, but living in the Bronx and America your exposed to all different kinds of cultures.
I hope she disowns you.
@@djsteel7 what is wrong with you?
@@winniediallo4118 I don't know, why don't you tell me what's wrong with me?
@@djsteel7 your going around the comment section telling people there parents should disown them for being in interracial relationships, like wtf?
I feel foreign to people who focus on race like it's important. I met my husband through voice only, we were friends over a blind friendship app for months and I developed feelings for him without seeing or knowing his skin color. Our brains just clicked and matched each other's values and ambitions. I personally think everyone should date this way or meet people this way, then people can get over their assumptions of people and actually listen to the soul of the person in front of them. I personally also think people should be friends first before romantically, then there's no acting or scripted dates involved and it just kind of blossoms. If it's meant to be it's meant to be. I saw someone on this thread say ever heard of the saying you can't take the thing that you had in the world to heaven, that includes your skin color, so we should all get over it.
To be honest, I'm glad she was able to accept that it's her daughter's decision and that her bias was irrational. My family is from the Caribbeans and they are not big fans of me dating Americans or anyone not from the place that they are (even when we are the same race). I've met Cubans who don't want their kids dating Mexicans or other Hispanics. Let's not crucify this lady.
The problem is the point that she was racist for no reason
LovingN they is reason to be racist
soirilien st hilaire There's not
Yes there is. Racism is as natural as breathing, and there is an important, biological reason for it.
If you truly value diversity, then you must value racism as well, because racist (in-group) preference is necessary for the preservation of diversity.
M L Are you mixing racism with having preferences??
I am happy to see this coverage and dialogue. Everyone take a deep breath. This is going to take ALL OF US to overcome the American original sin and subsequent systematic discrimination that influence biased thinking for centuries in our country. Let’s unpack it all (respectfully) and move forward step by step- TOGETHER ✨✨✨🙏🏾🙌🏽
Wishful thinking
Like 2pac said "some shit won't never change".
Why Is called interracial marriage? Two humans becoming partners shouldn't be a problem there is only one race, and that's the human race.
Exactly.
M.A B everyone in the world should read your comment right here!!!
On point 💯
Do you feel better with your virtue signaling?
Sorry, but that's just a lie. Blacks and whites are two different species, as are the other races as well. Interracial marriage and miscegenation produces a mongrelization of our genes and actually destroys diversity.
No ML wrong learn genetics you jackass.
Well, I'm black and I get how the mother felt. Now, hear me out. Black people are not treated fairly. As a white person, she knows how white people think about and talk about them behind their backs. So, when she saw her daughter was going to marry a black man her mind went straight to the fact that her grandchildren would share the heritage of people who struggle on their jobs and for equality. There is more to her fear than racism. The children is what will actually bring her around because she will love them and begin to be more caring about how black people are treated and she will start to stand up for things she once ignored. I have a daughter in an interracial relationship but I love it. I'm black and it doesn't concern me that their children will be considered black. This is not the same for a white mom who may need an adjustment period to accept that. Really this is how racism ends, when white people begin to accept white bloodlines. It happened in England and it needs to happen here. The real hero in this this story is her daughter. It is more complicated than sheer ignorance.
Chelle Weatherspoon You speak as if mistreatment of Black's like Black's are some helpless charity who need other people to care and nurture us. We do not need their kindness or their charity we. Need to unite in ourselves and build our own systems. I promise you that my children and their children will not live in a world where they feel they are weak and inferior. We need to make that stand now join us.
I’m black and my girlfriend is white, we’ve been together for a long time and plan on being together forever.
Jayden Wright That’s so sweet man :) treat her right.
That's great
Make sure you play in her peanut butter for the culture.
Khandaker Mostafa omg people like you need to shutup😒😒
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if their future child is darker skin, then prepare for cop troubles.
Why because you commit more crime the darker your skin is??
Their children won't be darker than their day. They'll be a white yellow if anything.
Legendary Item no, cops will discriminately target them unjustly , that's what I meant.
+mrzack888 sure, dude. That's what you meant, you racist bigot.
+Gilbert Give it a rest you idiot.
People act like it doesnt go both ways which is plain ignorant alot of black parents dont want whites in their family at all
Larry Hardy
Obviously. This woman wrote an article about it. Black, white, Indian, Asian, some family’s don’t want to mix. Stop being mad because this story is about a white woman. Every race could be afraid to mix.
stryfetc1 you know what u said is rascist geez mate its not 1940
Exactly look at serena williams. Her dad didnt want to walk her down the aisle because of who she married and i agree with him. The man protected his daughters their whole life from racist ppl only for her to lay down and have a halfbreeded child by one , shit make no sense
stryfetc1 black people stay begging for acceptance from other groups of ppl shit is sad and shows how much self hate we have . Niggas pass up the most beautiful black women for a white girl with a racist family
This is true, but we live in a day and age where race is a big tool for war with our selves if we're devided and we keep the hate towards each other it's easier for them to say to pick us off
If we are going to heal racism, then we need to allow people who are racist and who genuinely want to change, to safely admit their racism, speak honestly about their feelings and not have to fear constant retribution and resentment. I have friends and family members of all ethnic backgrounds and the only way we can get along is to have that honest space to speak how we really feel, safe in the knowledge that we will listen to each other and too quick to rush to judgment.
She's a nurse? Why is she allowed to practice medicine on African American patients, how many have been neglected by her?
Just because she's not too big on interracial marriage doesn't mean she's malicious towards black people.
fnjdc 1973 that's your biased assumption
My mother tried to pull that racist none sense and I set her straight. I date white, Asian, Hispanic, Indian and other women out of my race. My life, my choice.
I'm African-American, and I'm recently married to a French Canadian woman who has Lily white skin.
She is a great partner in life and I love her. People have the right to marry and love whoever they choose, as long as it is husband and wife. To involve color creed culture, most of the time is borderline stereotypic Behavior.
Get to know your partner before you marry them, whoever they may be then make your decision.
Lgge Gee yoooo at this point just shut up. You are the most dumbest person I’ve seen in UA-cam comments. 😒
Blacks Founded Civilization you are racist
Kali Love no he’s not
@@applefarm6126 hes white dont worry
@@darthvaderoftheredpill5196 idc about his race, what he said was hateful and wasn’t right
To each is own. I'm not bothered by her daughter marrying a brotha. I wish them the best. Go and show the bigots on both sides of your families that love sees no color. It's 2018. The mom probably should have kept this conversation private but i respect her being open. I don't care why she's a bigot and/or racist I'm just ready for ppl to get over it! She'll have a change of heart when she has and loves her soon to come black grandchildren. Just beautiful innocent babies. Discrimination is a disease we should all try to avoid.
I'd love to have a meaningful relationship with someone from another race. I think The cultural experience will be most rewarding.
So what's stopping you?
It's good she accepted the relationship.
Both my parents have no problem when I date black men. We all bleed red and we are all human, it's sad she had a negative bias of her son-in-law, skin color DOES NOT define a person
Stop judging people of color and putting them in a negative light.
Hiv/Aids in Europe is BIG..
+Madam President I'm sure you have links to prove that, oh wait you don't. Well I am say dumb shit too, you make 100% of the people with HIV on this comment section
+Madam President wow you're stupid
***** Shit I doubt that White people want her on their side either. She should probably find her way to Stormfront where she can be among the other sleestaks and dweebs
***** Nope, I meant to say racist(Black, White, Hispanic, etc...) rather than White people don't want her stupidity on their side either. Not a Freudian slip because I believe that there are just as high percentages of racist among Black and Hispanic Americans
I think that the criticism that the Mom didn't act perfectly about her daughter's choice is unwarranted. We are all products of our upbringing, which is not always ideal, and in the end, she did the right thing by finding acceptance and embracing him into her family. While I can see how it could be seen as self-serving to write something telling how she overcame her bias, the same could be said for any self-help book or motivational speaker that has aided people in their hunt to better themselves. I know many that have found perspective in such things, and to critique her for giving her personal experience in order to help similar people who find themselves in the same position is misguided.
Raised in an independent fundamental baptist home, adopted by a white family. I am mixed and married a white man. My brother is white married a Nigerian women. Her making this blog probably took SO MUCH courage. I think she honestly wanted to open the door for it to be “ok” for these relationships to happen. Even though from the outside it can look bad. I applaud her.
People critized a person that opened her heart.
I do appreciate her being woman enough to acknowledge her ignorance but why did this have to become public? Why wasn't it kept behind closed doors then that would give more credence to her coming out.
Aayan Russell because white women are professional victims who stay thirsty for attention
Ascension 2000 I think you may be on to something.
Because the writer said she wanted to help those like in the similar situation. It said so in the video. Selective hearing much?
All of these negative comments about race is disgusting..I guess ignorance is bliss..😒
Jean Stoudemire So true.
It's not about the color of your skin, it's about you willing to dig deep into finding the true character of the person. Glad she learned her lesson.
I'm really proud of Anna's stance. If anything, look at our liberal side as the more reasonable and educational. Yes, we get frustrated, but just like Anna said, the aggressive response will NEVER get through to them. It will push them farther back to the right. I believe the aggressiveness and hyperbole in modern, radical feminism and anti-racism helped to form "Trump's America". Too many Trump supporters are the response to the belittling nature of some liberals.
Equality MEANS equality, and neither of the radical sides are truly embracing that.
WreckedRadio exactly, I agree with you 100%
Let's ask Indian, Asian, middle eastern immigrant parents how they would react if their daughter was going to marry a black man? White people are wayyyyyy more open minded and accepting of interracial marriages than other cultures.
I think this is the most accurate comment on this video
Very true. You dare not be a black man and want to go and date/marry Indian or middle- eastern girls. Their parents will kill you and even the daughters.
There's a difference. White people enslaved them and brought them into their country. White culture has adapted to living with blacks. Keep in mind that this acceptance grew out of white people's hate for blacks in the first place.
+xShadow so did Arab and turks let not forget that
+onepiecefan20isback no
My husband is white and my father is from the Ivory Coast, who is a traditionalist through and through. He did everything under the sun to undermine my relationship and it wasn't until I had my son where things really came to ahead. He said he was going to leave me out of the will and I was like, "lol, k." He then said he didn't want us to come around anymore and I was like, "lololol, k." It wasn't until my mother, who is a fiery Dominican, laid into him that just because he wanted to be stupid and ignorant didn't mean that she wasn't going to see her grandson. She really bonded with her son-in-law, so she also wanted to spend time with him.
So, my mom and younger sister would come over on holidays or just randomly to spend time. When he seen his wife spend more time with us than her own husband, he caught the hint. He admitted that his extreme prejudice came from old ideologies that are no longer relevant. He apologized and now, those two are joined at the hip. Dad calls my husband more than me and they talk on the phone like a bunch of cackling teenagers.
[NQZATR] I'm really glad it worked out for you guys!
Global Daily Media I wish I cared enough to know what you mean by that comment, but chances are it's going to something egregious and stupid, so I'll pass.
[NQZATR] when at war ..the man can take the enemies females...the females should never go with the enemy. ..but I'm a idiot & you will rationalize your way of thinking.. So no need to respond.
We dont need ur life story you half breed ass bitch
COUNTLUKKY18thST Didn't you just say another thread how you didn't "hate" anyone? Lol.
She's doing it because she loves her daughter and not because she suddenly saw the light and decided not to care about race. I don't see this as her changing her mind but more like making the best out of a situation that she can't really get out of.
toxman99 well said!
yea my house is racist as hell but I'm not, be your own person not a sheep
Prank TV i like you
Im not mad at the mother, because i definitely dont want my son or daughter marrying outside of their race. I love being around my people and our culture and the dark melanin . I agree with this woman, but not because im racist its because im selfish. I just love being Black and I want dark skinned nappy head beautiful black grand babies !
Phyllis Dee yeah that’s racist
Phyllis Dee lady u stupid ijs and yes I'm black that's the problem now color but green is OK with everybody any color will do any thing for that even turn on love ones and friends you cool with that rite smh
Merlene Taylor I’m saying What Phyllis Dee said was racist
The sooner we all accept that racism is not a bad thing the better, there’s a reason the creator stuck us on separate continents!!! We were never supposed to mix. Seriously...after thousands of years and still we don’t truly accept each other...it’s built into us. The original comment here says she wants black grandchildren, nothing wrong with that whatsoever. I sure as hell want white grandchildren...it is what it is. I don’t want my son to grow up and tell me he’s gay...does that make me a bad human being, maybe...but I have never, ever, met a perfect human being!! I don’t steal, I don’t abuse women, I rarely use foul language, never been arrested...but I’m not keen on the idea of a member of my family marrying a black...guess that makes me a vile human?!!
Carfilliot That in and of itself - not at all. In my personal opinion, whether you’re a “vile human” would be dictated by what your actions would be if your son did indeed marry a black person. Would you disown him? Threaten or intimidate his partner in an attempt to get her to leave? Or grudgingly accept your son’s choice even though you weren’t happy with it?
By the way, what is the definition of a “white child”? I ask because my daughter looks like my husband - almost white (think tanned Californian), blonde hair, blue eyes, etc. Everyone thinks she’s white because she looks white. Is she 100% white? Nope, not at all.
this is one of the reasons why I believe in sticking to our own as black people. Not so we can hate but so we can build ourselves in this one step along with many others.
#respect brother. I admire your values.
YoungFly Prince thanks
That makes no sense.
+Samuel Hannah I love you my black King.
She was being honest
Charmain Drayton speaking honesty for those in her position but at the same time think abt how much white ppl are naive to there way of life and how they approach or express themselves.
jaymes jones aint about that lmao nice try
jaymes jones...that don't only apply to white people but all people...I just respect a person being honest and not being a phony...no matter what
Anthony Morrison....what are you talking about???? You just want someone to fight with apparently..go and find someone else to play with...
Charmain Drayton i respect your PoV on this💯
I gotta agree with Ana. I've been fighting with discrimination my whole life. When someone is willing to admit any type of bias. It is a win. Not a big win, but small steps is how progression is made. Same with the people who discriminate, we have to learn how to accept any type of progression, no matter how small. It's a learning process. Every and any progression towards acceptance of others (no matter how small) should be welcomed. Otherwise you are no worse than the people who were biased against you. Quit judging, start accepting.
The last thing these commentators should be upset about is that someone admitted to their racial bias and is correcting it and may inspire others to do the same.
I'm with her. I don't think we should attack people for coming around and breaking through their prejudices. Yes the woman is kind of tone deaf but, it's a start.
You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't.
Did anyone else get that guess whose coming to dinner reference?
Ellise Walton sure did
Im black and that felt weird
people picking on this woman's growth are ridiculous.
+George Walser dr frances cress welsing was right about white supremacist cowards like you
+AndroidDoctorr also you obviously don't know what Communism is lol
well freaking said
There is nothing wrong with having a preference for your child's partner. All my black friends in school said that their parents would go crazy if they brought back a white girl, it's the point of preserving your race and heritage. White people are entitled to do this too.
+kaizoku ou ni ore wa naru I understand that, but is it wrong to put your pride aside for your Daughter's happiness instead? Isn't that what every parent want for their children regardless of who He/She marries? To be happy?
Chris EZbreezy yes of course your child's happiness comes above all else, I'm just saying a parent having a preference for their child is not an unusual or bad thing.
There is no white heritage or culture white people are made up of many different ethnicities
***** Of course it's not a bad thing, we all have opinions and different views, but when your Daughter's preferences doesn't necessarily match yours and she is happy then it's only fair to be accepting of that, other kids would've never spoken to their parents ever again over an issue that stupid.
***** wow that's incredibly ignorant. Have you heard of the Romans? The Anglo-Saxons? The Vikings? The Celts?
All this is part of white heritage.
That's like saying black people have no culture or heritage, it's not only an ignorant comment it's painfully wrong.
She was brave and honest. Its the quite, sneaky ones you must watch out for
Mark :
Mrs. Clark may well be brave and honest, I haven't read the article so cannot say; what I do know is that a well meant comment badly phrased is easily misconstrued, particularly on a sensitive topic.
Donald Trumps dispute about his call to the Gold Star Widow is possibly much the same, Bringing up the son of General Kelly was Trump's cheap trick to get out of what would have been a simple apology.
Mrs. Clark will probably see the same kind of misinterpretations, I hope she handles it more wisely.
OMG!!!! I loved Anna's comments at the beginning of this thing. Never have I heard someone verbalize what I have internalized in regards to being cautious that maybe there is a little room for discretion and nuance in criticism in these situations. So many times I've seen right through the awkward or inartfully worded comments people make to the real meaning of the message they are trying to convey. I've always wondered why more people can't see it that way. Anna is right that dialogue is too important to risk losing because a little understanding wasn't extended in some cases.
Well, she may be a racist. But to het credit, at least she is willing to improve, and to admit she is/was racist
Im a damn racist and I admit it.
My black dad is mad I am marrying white man, maybe you can help him.
I don't see anything wrong with what she did actually she is brave.
i don't think the mother is hateful, just entitled.
I dont see a problem. I was not raised to see color. Get to know a person before you judge them. White, black, blue or green we are all gods people.
Shut yo gay ass up you unkle Tom
I fux with Criss, I was born and raised in the south my grandparents told me "Love is Blind and Genderless"
@@blacksfoundedcivilization9182 look at your name why do you not like diversity
Agreed, I feel foreign to people who focus on race like it's important. I met my husband through voice only, we were friends over a blind friendship app for months and I developed feelings for him without seeing or knowing his skin color. Our brains just clicked and matched each other's values and ambitions. I personally think everyone should date this way or meet people this way, then people can get over their assumptions of people and actually listen to the soul of the person in front of them.
I personally also think people should be friends first before romantically, then there's no acting or scripted dates involved and it just kind of blossoms. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.
Ana is so right on this. Every single one of us has internal prejudices left over from the way we were raised and where we were raised. People of every colour, gender, class, and sexuality are prejudiced against SOMETHING. No one is completely without sin. Is it okay that this woman was/is racist? Of course not. But is it her fault that she is a product of her environment? Also no. Maybe she could have worded her post better but this is an example of a person trying to grow and learn. It isn't fair or helpful to expect everyone to pop out of the womb perfect. SJWs who attack people for not knowing absolutely everything or not having the same access to the types of information that they did are just as self righteous as the other two are claiming this woman is, because they are implying that they themselves have never held problematic beliefs. Educate people and let them grow and change. Attacking someone because they don't know everything you know is not only ignorant on your part, but also is not constructive in the long run. No prejudices are ever going to be solved by people yelling at each other and refusing to act with patience and maturity.
do you really think she was in a position to teach other people? really?
You date/ marry whomever you want.
@George George Oh pipe down, people can date who they want...
@George George 😆 your funny.
George George you’re mental
This is why we can't have a racial discussion in America. It's way to easy for someone to be called racist even when they they wised up and want to reflect on their previous prejudices.
I am white and when I was in my early teens, my mom "brought home" a black man... I can now admit that at the time, I was not in favor of the idea of my mom being with a black man and potentially having mixed kids with him... I was terrified of that. They ended up getting married and having two kids together, we all grew up happy together and there were never any issues regarding race or anything like that. They are very happy together, have been married for more than 10 years and are still together. I am really happy for her and love my siblings. Race is only an issue if you choose to make it so.
However I don't blame this woman, she is just ignorant like I was.
if keeping white race alive makes person ignorant, then im proud to be 100% ignorant :)
wait until it gets mulato, and you will have a low IQ country in general
I live in a country where despite being born to extremely white parents you can turn out dark skinned so interracial marriages make no sense to me. People are just people. Why hate?
Nothing wrong with mother objecting daughter's choice of spouse. I am African and at times in my culture parents do refuse intertribal marriages.
252 boston which part of Africa are you from? Am from Kenya and I agree it's quite a problem sometimes.
John Mbogholi I am Somali Kenyan lol Lamu and mombasa
252 boston Nice, i am normally based in kilifi but make often trips to nairobi. Same province 😎😎
252 boston That doesn’t mean there’s nothing wrong with it. Let people love who they wanna love. It’s none of ur business
Everyone has opinions but opinions don't rule another person's life
I knew when I was in my teenage years that I would be married to a Hispanic female, or a white female. My wife happens to be a white woman. It's just what you find attractive personally.
Tbh its not the moms choice on who her daughter dates or marrys
Dennis Christopher why so late tho?
Different cultures have different standards. My brother-in-law's family wasn't too happy that their son was marrying a white girl, they wanted him to marry Indian.
In some places, there is a much more rigid definition of family and family values. It can be really hard to escape these expected norms without outright disowning your family.
You can call it ignorance, you can call it racist, but that is not the whole story and likely never will be.
Are King Leopold's sins really the burden of Belgians living in the 21st century? Sounds like some ignorant racism to me. I'd be more disappointed if a child of mine came back with somebody who doesn't understand the difference between Belgium and Belgian than somebody of X ethnicity.
Reel Deel
I don't know go ask about those 23 million Congolese that was murdered
What their thoughts are on 21 century Belgium -Belgian
I know what my thoughts
no french-france belgium-belgian in my family ...:)
You can have those beliefs, and many in your area probably do, but that does not mean they are reasonable. This is how many cultures work, it is unfortunate but hard to get rid of due to the scale of some beliefs.
Racism or more specifically white supremacy is not about hatred. People get that confused. White supremacy is a school teacher or administrator diagnosing black children as having a learning deficiency and funneling them into special ed classes. No hatred, just inherit superiority complex.
this hurts me... im in an interracial relationship and I love him so much but because he is black everyone raises eyebrows and I had to prove myself to his siblings but they still push him to get into a different race.... im so scared im gonna lose him sometimes.. white w/ black interracial couples get the most judgement and we're the lowest percent of couples
gene wolfking And please forgive me if all that seemed a little jumbled or off base I’m kinda in a rush lol.
Yeah! She should be welcomed and then she should be urged to keep up with learning. I think she must have faced her feelings and overcame them through being open to her son in law. I am glad she has got to where she is now and I bet she will keep on improving. She is likely to come back to this in the future with the same view as the hosts.
There is but one race of people on this earth its called human, someone once tried to teach us that, he died trying .
wrong blks & whites aren't the same.
PlasticRa: Agreed we are not the same as white people but have to accept our differences.
It's amazing ..If was black athlete it wouldn't be a issue ....because all she would see is Green 💰💰💴
Ain't that the truth!!!
Yes, of course. White women see green 99% of the time. No green no man.
I think the White woman purposely consume the BM time and money because it stops him from bringing his wealth back into the Black communities to build and uplift.
I'm surprised she said "black " news reporters always say "african american" not that i care or it matters
mob psycho100 yea i think its better when they say black
Yes because I'm black American
Our family is multiracial and we never had these issues. We have every race except Chinese. We have Japanese and South Korea. Lol. Such love we have. ❤️❤️❤️
Cheri White can I join the family then? 😉
Why is it newsworthy what some random woman thinks of her daughter's marriage? These headlines sound more and more like The Onion.
Because they are free to report on anything they want...
Because it speaks to a wider social phenomenanon, and is enlightning. That's like saying why report on a murder of some guy just because most of the country doesn't know the guy
This is the same why do we care. We should be sadden about someones untimely death to give that person justice. Meanwhile this pointless and only starts a dialogue between the super right and left of USA.
It's newsworthy because of the large online reaction.
There wasn't any before this. New sites like this are able to make news out of anything and get it over hyped and looked at.
I would never marry someone whose family is prejudiced against me. There's not that much love in the world.
alot of races dont like to mix not just whites
And people think that that's racist but in reality It's because they want to preserve their culture and customs
Miltonman100 you stupid we are all the same we just evolved in the place on the earth we were at dumbass we can mix not like lion and Tigard the ligers can’t have kids humans can so we are the same dummy
When I met my boyfriend's family for the first time, his mom and siblings, were so welcoming of me. His more extended family I think it took a little longer to warm up to me since I seemed to be one of the only black people they've ever come in contact with XD. But his family feels like mine now. I never felt any prejudice as a black woman. My family however took a minute to warm up to him and my father is still distrusting. Being in an interracial relationship comes with its challenges but both parties have to be willing to work through it.
The letter came off pretty distasteful from a certain perspective but... hopefully she learned something?
From my experiences, People of color are more vocal about their "distrust," while, White people (unlike the woman who is the subject of this video) aren't so vocal. That is why i welcome this woman and her comments. They open up for a conversation. I wish people were not so harsh to her.