I wish everybody who is having an affair would watch this video. But most people think they are the exception and they justify their actions to themselves.
Spot on. When I was in my affair, I became someone I hated and the affair nearly ruined my life. Because of my affair, the consequences because of it are lifelong and it's something I wish I didn't have to live with but that's on me and it's my fault because of my selfishness. I'm just extremely grateful I ended it so I could be myself again and as Dr Joe said, a better version of myself. The day I ended it, I felt like I was released from an emotional prison. It was the best decision I ever made in my life.
@@TM_Stone How did it help? Does your partner know? Did you fall in love with the Ap? How long was your affair and what did you do to make it right? There is so much pain still because he will not discuss it.
@@mominator69 Yes, my wife knows. My affair lasted around 3 years and yes, I did fall in love with the AP. It started off as most do, as friends. We worked in the same office. I tried to end it many times but like any addiction, I was always around her so we would always get back together. I eventually moved out of my house. With my life spiraling out of control, my goal was to end the affair for good since I was no longer in the same office with the AP. I wasn’t sure I could put my marriage back together but we did after a few months. I made it right by blocking all forms of communication with the AP to the best of my ability. I changed my phone number. I also made everything accessible to my wife, phone, PC etc. to build back trust. If I go somewhere, I make sure she knows exactly where I’m going and how long it will take. As far as discussing things with him, I would not discuss the affair, only how you can make things better going forward. If my wife could do one thing differently, she would say she shouldn’t have asked questions about my affair.
Excellent video. I stayed in my marriage after my wife confessed to a 7 year affair in our Pastor’s office. I suspected but had no proof. I stayed for our small children. Our children turned out well - all active in their churches and serving. What did it do to me? It has been 32 years and a day does not go by where I am not reminded about something in the past - our home that we still live in, restaurants they went to, apartment buildings they managed, hotel, etc. My life has been a wreck - you can forgive but the reminders never stop. You can stop your affair, repent and find someone to hold you accountable. You don’t have to ruin your spouses life.
So sorry for your pain. You might want to get help for you to completely be able to heal from this. Not easy, but necessary. Best wishes for you. God Bless
If only I could show my wife this, but she has been an exception in reaping what she has sown after her affair. Instead, her relationships with our children, her family and friends has been solid and fruitful and the only relationship that has suffered has been in reconciling and reconnecting with me.
Am attractive to this person I know for a long time .and when I saw this person they awake feelings I thought wears dead.and know I can't stop thinking about this person and they are married and I know they have feelings for me the way they held me.
I wish everybody who is having an affair would watch this video. But most people think they are the exception and they justify their actions to themselves.
my beliefs and values are apart of my identity.
Spot on. When I was in my affair, I became someone I hated and the affair nearly ruined my life. Because of my affair, the consequences because of it are lifelong and it's something I wish I didn't have to live with but that's on me and it's my fault because of my selfishness. I'm just extremely grateful I ended it so I could be myself again and as Dr Joe said, a better version of myself. The day I ended it, I felt like I was released from an emotional prison. It was the best decision I ever made in my life.
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Did your relationship survive?
@@mominator69 Yes and as Dr Joe has mentioned many times, a marriage can better after an affair and it’s true. At least in my situation it is.
@@TM_Stone
How did it help? Does your partner know? Did you fall in love with the Ap? How long was your affair and what did you do to make it right? There is so much pain still because he will not discuss it.
@@mominator69 Yes, my wife knows. My affair lasted around 3 years and yes, I did fall in love with the AP. It started off as most do, as friends. We worked in the same office. I tried to end it many times but like any addiction, I was always around her so we would always get back together. I eventually moved out of my house. With my life spiraling out of control, my goal was to end the affair for good since I was no longer in the same office with the AP. I wasn’t sure I could put my marriage back together but we did after a few months. I made it right by blocking all forms of communication with the AP to the best of my ability. I changed my phone number. I also made everything accessible to my wife, phone, PC etc. to build back trust. If I go somewhere, I make sure she knows exactly where I’m going and how long it will take.
As far as discussing things with him, I would not discuss the affair, only how you can make things better going forward. If my wife could do one thing differently, she would say she shouldn’t have asked questions about my affair.
Excellent video. I stayed in my marriage after my wife confessed to a 7 year affair in our Pastor’s office. I suspected but had no proof. I stayed for our small children. Our children turned out well - all active in their churches and serving. What did it do to me? It has been 32 years and a day does not go by where I am not reminded about something in the past - our home that we still live in, restaurants they went to, apartment buildings they managed, hotel, etc. My life has been a wreck - you can forgive but the reminders never stop. You can stop your affair, repent and find someone to hold you accountable. You don’t have to ruin your spouses life.
So sorry for your pain. You might want to get help for you to completely be able to heal from this. Not easy, but necessary. Best wishes for you. God Bless
Age and experience is wisdom. That's why I'm always here listening.
It only affects your future if you have a soul.
If only I could show my wife this, but she has been an exception in reaping what she has sown after her affair. Instead, her relationships with our children, her family and friends has been solid and fruitful and the only relationship that has suffered has been in reconciling and reconnecting with me.
It doesn't matter sir, still integrity is doing the right thing....even when you stand alone.
give her a few years.....you may not see it now. you will....she will sow.
His view of the kids is spotty.
I wish my wife has seen this earlier
Am attractive to this person I know for a long time .and when I saw this person they awake feelings I thought wears dead.and know I can't stop thinking about this person and they are married and I know they have feelings for me the way they held me.
Just end it now
I'm so alone
How are you now?
Why not let the affair run its course...why end it abruptly.
You are rationalizing!