What Does It Mean To Be INFJ? The INFJ personality type, commonly known as The Advocate or Counselor, is one of sixteen in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). INFJs account for about 1-3 percent of the population. If you get an INFJ personality type, it suggests you're introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. Dominant: Introverted Intuition is your primary cognitive function. Extroverted Feeling: Auxiliary Introverted Thinking (tertiary). Extroverted Sensing is inferior. The MBTI test was designed to help people understand their own communication styles and how they connect with others. Knowing your MBTI type can help you better understand your mental processes and behavior, as well as adjust your interpersonal approach to various situations and people. 00:00 INTRO 00:23 10 Your future will stay as it is 01:36 09 You will get tired of your own lies 02:51 08 You will question your values 04:05 07 You will beg for a second chance 05:16 06 You will start taking life seriously 06:15 05 You will give yourself some time 07:15 04 You will ponder on the things you never ponder about 08:17 03 You will be addicted to your memories with them 09:11 02 You will never see things the same way 10:06 01 You will be preoccupied with what-ifs and regrets Do You Have Topics In Mind? Comment Below... ♥♥♥Help Us Serve You Better! ♥♥♥ Show us love and support through our Patreon: www.patreon.com/ON_TRACK Share This Video Right NOW: ua-cam.com/video/-6VPmJ8NOgU/v-deo.html ------------------------------------------------------------------------- Thanks for Watching! Are you an INFJ? What more would you like to add? We would definitely love to know! DROP A LIKE, SHARE, Click the SUBSCRIBE Button and HIT that notification bell to get the latest updates! SUBSCRIBE to our CHANNEL NOW 👉👉👉 bit.ly/2LY533N Help Our Channel Reach Awareness Share it With your Friends and Family. Caption Our Video To Your Language Here: 👉👉👉 bit.ly/3gBgWbU -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Videos You May Also Like: 10 Ways That CAN TURN ON AN INFJ ua-cam.com/video/9C_hjpv5Whg/v-deo.html 10 Reasons Why The INFJ Stands Out From The Rest ua-cam.com/video/dRYZI9crnbs/v-deo.html Here's Why YOU SHOULD NEVER MESS With An EMPATH ua-cam.com/video/42CKb6wGZr4/v-deo.html Is The INFJ The TRUE ALPHA Of The MBTI? ua-cam.com/video/CBgu8SnxxHI/v-deo.html 10 Shocking Confessions of A TRUE INFJ ua-cam.com/video/iliHHAtMhm4/v-deo.html How TABOO Is The INFJ Personality? ua-cam.com/video/jIHFIBeXNr0/v-deo.html
once an INFJ knows who they are and own and claim their rights and powers, they can rise above and move beyond anyone and anything and still come out pure and unsullied in heart and spirit!
Great point and so true. But they can also sacrifice everything for that person and be betrayed and lose everything in a bad divorce. This happened to me. At the time I was willing to make that sacrifice and went down with the ship you could say while she jumped off at the last minute and saved herself. Maybe what I should have done. BUT I made a comeback and now have my own house and doing well again. Took me 3 years but it built my charactor and taught me some very hard lessons I needed to learn. Next time I will jump off and save myself before its too late. I think as Infj mature and get older they learn these lessons. Especially if you make a effort to work on your weaknesses. What you stuggle with in your 20's or 30's by 50s you have are much wiser. Thanks
There's an ugly part of me that I don't like. After a solid breakup, meaning I'm done trying to save the relationship, done giving chances, done done, then I would go into this cold state of being indifferent to them. I would smile to them like I would to strangers or I would pass by them as if they were strangers. What happened to us in the past was just a very distant memory that seems like it belongs to someone else. A memory without feelings like it never existed in my life. The opposite of love isn't hate, the opposite of love is indifference...
Same thing happened to me as well, my ex keep begging and regret doing what she doing, after a while I meet her in a gym by accident, I literally forget her last name, even face like a memory loss or something. A strangers.
Loyal when we commit, Honor means doing what you say you would, Respect is not insulting, not rude, but doesn't mean you have to agree all the time coz you respect yourself too Depth is about morals, ethics, and beliefs Truth is stranger than fiction for ex. Jesus said "a man who loses his life gains it, a man who gains it loses his life."
As an INFJ, i have attempted to help him years and years, i have accepted him as it is. Tried to appreciate even a small thing he did , which meant for me a lot. But he never understood me,as the time goes, he kept on repeatedly hurting me with his disloyalty and insensitivity. Now i know He was the most hurtful man i have ever met, but i have never been rude to him the way he did to me. Because i had love and empathy i accepted all his flaws believeing he will understand me one day. But that day never came. At one point he insulted me for no reason, i still remember those words. Those are the most hurtful words i have ever heard. I walked away
Once again, this video is spot on. I am an INFJ and I can't believe how these videos are so perfect. Exes always say "You are the one that got away" and I always left because of exactly what the video says. I never go back, but they were warned. My high school boyfriend told my son, your mom is the one no one ever has measured up too". By the time I've had enough, the door slam is so easy, and once that door is closed, it's never going to open. They knew the consequences but choose the behavior, never thinking I would severe the relationship. Love being an INFJ, and all these videos bring out what I use to think was "JUST ME" and know one knew. Peace Out - much love & friendship......
@@Ms.Delphine1204 Yeeeeeees! 1 narc i cut off 2010 tried comin back again for the like a million time but he see im stubborn as a mule n it fold him up everytime
As an INFJ, I give chances while we are in a relationship before my breaking point. When I reach my breaking point, I NEVER give people a second chance. Once it is over, it is OVER. It was over for a reason. I would say that all of my ex’s have tried to come back. If it was meant to be, the relationship would have never been completely out of alignment with our values, standards, and beliefs. Cheating for me is an automatic dismissal. If a person can not commit to their words then what is the point of giving them another chance? People change but for me once I am hurt to the core, that is it. I am famous for the infamous INFJ door slam. When I shut a door, I then remove it and add drywall because that person will never have the satisfaction to be with me again (PERIOD).
I have to agree with your comment, my exes did not even realize they crossed the line, violated my "hell no" boundaries . Then found themselves desperately trying to fix what they broke. As if I would or should take that crap. This same thing has happened with friends who found themselves cut out of my life. Just because it seemed like no big deal to them it violated me and never should have happened and wouldn't have had they been more sensitive to me. Not that I am one sided in my relationships, but when someone has gone too far it must end. My love for self matters to me.
@May Bee 🐝 “Just because it seemed like no big deal to them it violated me and never should have happened and wouldn't have had they been more sensitive to me.” Were they previously informed of where the line was? What made it so you should have felt violated? Here’s an example I had to deal with: Earlier this year, I was at a hardware store, and while at the cashier, I got this light, loose, comfortable feeling in my heart I haven’t had before or since, towards the cashier. I also heard an abstract voice say to me, “Go talk to her. Ask her on a date.” So after a lot of internal debate, I decided not to do so. Why? Simple: Because partly from this cashier’s attitude, I had to assume enough of a chance that she’d view my conversation as harassment, getting me in trouble with the business, and possibly the law. It was too much of a risk. Where is the line of what a woman deems harassment? It’s variable between women, and regardless of where the line is with a given woman, if I cross it, I know that I face significant consequences in today’s culture. This woman seemed rather aggressive to me, and I wondered how much third or fourth wave stuff she had internalized. Considering both, was it safe to talk to her and ask her on a date, without crossing her individual boundary of harassment? Because I wasn’t confident enough that the feeling and instruction came from God, I had to assume it could have been a subconscious upwelling, and as such, decided to keep things professional so as to assure I wouldn’t cross her individual line of personal sensitivity. Did I deny myself the biggest opportunity of my life, because I assumed a very sensitive boundary that should not have been there, and with that woman, may not have been there? Maybe! With what I know, now, that feeling in my chest may very well have come from God, and striking a conversation could even have prevented a lot of trouble in her life in ways that seem surreal to me now, and personally unimaginable, then.
@@Taurusboy07 , Thank you, by the time I slam the door the person in question has been given some leniency, there are of course the no no never never uh uh uh situations, like a cheating spouse, or a BFF who says you need mental help. 😉 In true INFJ style, I am my own best counselor. I know instinctively what I will never tolerate, I can surmise from your comments that you as well are a true INFJ. 👍
@@EMichaelBall, Hello Michael, We are not talking about harmless friendly flirting, so glad to see you have some level of discernment. We all know what works in a healthy relationship and what doesn't. If you work at the same hardware store as the cutie you are interested in it is a good idea to pause in your pursuit until such time as all doubt has been removed. Good luck to you.
It’s so true about walking out. I literally talked to the person, walked-out and never returned. I was surprised by my emotionless-ness with it. But then again I had already gone through so much that it was like I couldn’t give it anymore emotion.
People come and go but that internal guidance system is here to stay. If an INFJ doesn't see you in their long term future you're gone regardless of good or bad reasoning. We know we're all part of one entity/energy. And we would have to feel that energy and emotions. Infjs are the natural counselors because of it. And just like a Trained Counselor we have an Oath Infjs have very high integrity but they can be corrupted by the unhealthy black n white thinkers also
After 13 years with my wife, she was always negative. I asked her to change but she couldn’t. I decided to leave her for that. She refused to understand my views. We are now separated and I’m living my best life. It was more than tough but it’s the best decision ever. I choose myself first. 😊✌️
It’s important to clarify that this video mostly describes INFJ’s who have a secure attachment style with relationships. An Anxious attachment style can be difficult because you feel you need to maintain relationships when you think you shouldn’t.
As a 25-year old INFJ, I never thought of going back to people who hurt me badly in the past unless they needed me to help with something so badly... 😁
Absolutely true on this video🎯 my ex-boyfriend my mother , sister, all those who have betrayed me, they did not know me 🤣, I am an infj Sigma Empath Awakening 👁 walking away with no remorse ,U WILL NOTget a second chance here, this is once in a lifetime.. girl
The values and morals is on the spot. My grandmother changed her own teachings about values and morals of 22 years to me just to prove that she has the power to manipulate the family members so that it fits her agenda. I am a big believer of basic manners such as sorry, excuse me, thank you and greetings. She wronged me but she refused to say sorry instead she wanted to buy me something to apologize instead I flatly refused so since that we have not been talking even though we live in the same house and I'm okay with this no one is going to buy my emotions or love at best
I am sending this to my ex . I really do not lies or cheating or flirting . You are right . These things are a sign of totally bad morals . I want trust , I want someone who is stable , who wants to care and be cared for . These people are hard to find .
If they are lying, cheating and flirting they are looking to cut you out of their life, when they have another lined up. Slam the door on them immediately.
Don't send to your ex, this is ment to help you, they didn't see it when they were with you so if you send it makes you look like your better than them and they won't get it. You left for a good reason and it hurts if you really tried with them and they need to go through what this video says, you will destroy them going through pain to get better. Do you understand? Believe me , I want them to hurt bad! I waisted alot of good years on him! Don't send. Probably too late
I thought it was interesting, that you landed on the “go on” aspect of the INFJ. That resonated; we do go on. And we go on, without, if necessary. And so often, it is. As though this is just the internal programming and burden we carry in life. We touch a persons life; it is made better; it comes to an end; we go on. As for the internal gyroscope, for me, It has always been Godword, although for many years, I didn't realize this. And the journey, though painful at times, and more in the beginning of my life than now as a mature INFJ, the journey sees the eternal. And only those who see this too "go on" with us. I am finally thankful for this quality that is part of our nature. I’m sure you guys are too. "When I only see in part I will prophesy Your promise I believe You, God 'Cause You finish what You start I will trust You in the process I believe You, God "You set a table in the middle of my war You knew the outcome of it all When what I faced looked like it would never end You said, "Watch the giants fall" "And the lies I once believed They crumble At the weight of Your truth And the fear that gripped my heart Is arrested So that I can see You." And I can go on. music.ua-cam.com/video/ZiuvKo-7Me4/v-deo.html&feature=share
Yes…. They always always always come back, sooner or later they always come back, but I was gone and done from the very first second I disappeared, so, they never find me again. NEVER. And I never regret it. Sorry for causing so much pain 😕
My past always comes back, over and over again. They don't get the hint. They think that they can force their way back into my life when I have constantly refused and will not change my mind. A relationship works TWO ways. They obviously don't understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship. One can't "force" someone to be in a relationship. Talk about unhealthy. Healthy individuals learn from the experience, heal, move on, let go, and try to do better in the next relationship. I have no intention of trying again. They lost a lot, but I lost nothing. When one is pure, one doesn't lose anything. I have no interest in allowing anyone from my past to come back who was unworthy, as they bring nothing to the table, but their narcissistic unhealthy lower self. I also know my value and it is a lot more than theirs. If they were meant to be in my life, they would be. God would make it so. I don't do 3D relationships and if God doesn't approve of the relationship, no such luck. I only have relationships that have purpose for myself, society as a whole, or etc. They brought nothing to the table in helping me, society as a whole, or anything purposeful. There really is no point in having useless matrix relationships. I have to help others work off their karmic debt, if they have any. I don't have time sitting around watching them live out toxic cycles creating constant bad karma for themselves, when I can be using my time wisely on those that "deserve it". Talk about the arrogance and self entitlement. I want them to think about what purpos do they think that they are playing in my life, or society, as a whole? Instead of wanting me back because I "do" for them, they "need" me, or I "bless" them. My job is to help individuals who want to leave the matrix, so that they could possibly do the same for others. God knows exactly what I do and why I do it. They should of done better the first time. I am kind, not a f**l. I am not the same person I was a month ago, let alone a year ago, or years ago. They didn't know me then and they wouldn't know me now. My purpose in life has changed, according to how God willed it. I am kind to everyone because I have empathy and love, as I am of Christ consciousness. Christ consciousness is love and enlightenment. I treat everyone the same way. They assumed that they meant more to me than they actually did. Actions speak louder than words. If they meant so much to me, I wouldn't of dropped them so easily. Without an emotional, psychological, and spiritual connection, there is no relationship. One can't create a relationship off of superficial means and expect it to last long term. One has to work towards a "relationship", which never happened. They never even tried to connect to me in such manners and they expected a long term relationship to last? My past really has been living in delusion. It is sad that they are so desperate to force themselves back into my life over and over again and show no empathy or even try to understand my point of view. This is how toxic they are. Always thinking only about themselves. Unbelievable.
I give and give and give second, third, fourth chances until I feel they can no longer grow or I can no longer grow from the relationship. Then I will walk away without regret and feeling like my purpose in their life was fulfilled and vice-versa. It's like we are born to be hurricanes.
Great video and I know that my ex misses me and was surprised when I had enough and door slammed her. BUT she is a covert narcissist and I thought that they do not feel all these emotions and rarely if ever change. I think all these things are so true but not in that case. Great video thks!
As an INFJ, if start actin irrationally, dishonestly, over-dramatically, or are regularly unappreciative…I will literally walk away in that moment and never look back. One of the biggest read flags is if a girl says she loves watching shows with lots of arguing, cheating, and/or drama. I shut the door on unnecessary drama. The other big game ender is if someone doesn’t listen to what others are saying or they are incapable of deep conversation.
The first time a womsn effs me is the last time. I turn into a ghost and disappear for good. Losing someone isn't pleasant but you can move on. If you lose yourself, you are done for.
The sadness thing is when you love so deeply someone to the point you give all you have to them and feel empty to deth... And when you look at them and seems they can' t give you nothing even 1% you gave them. And we infj feel that our love is like the deep ocean in from a glass of water.... Sometimes I hate to be a Infj....I feel so missunderstood ...I feel that love isn' t fair to me. And yes a few of ex boys friend told me or sad about me for other peaple:" she is the one no one ever has measured up too." So why they always do everything to loose us?😢😢😢
I am the first to like and comment. I would definitely give a second chance. It was just not done between us. Circumstances obliged to part ways but that parting was never from heart. We are more matured and evolved now. We have worked on our insecurities to face life head-on. It's just impossible to not give a second chance to the one who means the whole world to me.
I gave more than second chances, that's called taking forgaranted, if your married. But when I'm done I never go back because the TRUST IS GONE AND DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW IT WILL BE HELL TO GO BACK TO THERE FAKE LOES AND ABUSE.
Julielehmann you would have resonated to what I have said only if you were in a twinflame journey. But as it is in your case you are absolutely right you must never give another chance to anybody who ever it may be who have been disrespectful towards you. I wish you peace and healing and lots of love in your life. We all deserve authentic love as human persons. ❤️ And I just can't thank enough the channel On Track as it has helped me ascend in my spiritual journey. Regards. Namaste 🙏
I'm an INFJ andf this INFJ worshipping is getting out of hand. What's being said in this video is too much worshipping. So without an INFJ, others' lives ain't shit basically. Lol.
Had a boyfriend in high school who said " i think we should date other people for a while" i said "OK" I never looked back and never took a call or answered the door other than to say " no thank you".
What I found out about other 15 MBTI people, doesn’t like to listen, I come across many and all they want to do is play and enjoy the moment without learning from it and is hard to communicate too, they get too caught up in their things, because of having fun. It’s normal and it’s not normal and is always because of wrong timing
Our society and the folks in it are generally more materialist than spiritual. It's the way the machine tries to program us, and it mostly works. So it's difficult to find the type of people you are looking for.
I said the same thing tonight on a different INFJ! People are so shallow and fake world bs, no depth and they think we are weird? I get vibes off of people who look at me and I can tell they are wondering, lol. They are either one of us or they are just intrigued 🤔
I am infj women.. I have been lied to and lost trust in someone. I kept going away because I felt there was no point in staying there. to come back, make me think so many times.
I was thinking that I am a cursed woman because all my Ex are not succeed in their life, this gave me a hard time thinking about it, so I decided to search about it but it is true, no one who hurt is successful in their life, I am so sorry for them.
Wow I sound serious I'm an infj and I hope I don't door slam myself that sounds quite serious 😀. Most of the videos are correct though people don't get it.
I am infj... And leaving is the hardest part for mo si do if it's them who leave me... I have a friend. An infp.. and that friend give me a sign that there will be a time that our friendship might be over.. and it's really disturbing me thinking what I did wrong where did the misunderstanding came from an I really the one at fault... Hay.. why it's always happen I need to understand and trust them but they can't to me... I'm turning a blind eye.. coz i know once I also made a decision to cut off everything will be over...
When can I retire from this "teaching job"? Really is that all it is is just being a person who makes another person wake up after its too late? I am tired of this damn game.
As an infj(not sure if I am or not) once someone asked me don’t you ever lie… I am posing same question to you. Kindly answer it, don’t take it as any offence. I would like to know and from true infj…
Responding to Supid A M Yes anybody can lie, but what's the intention of a lie? Will it hurt others, or it could be as a way to gain something your taking from someone else, or protecting yourself ....many reasons. However, my situation way to long to explain, lol. Just moving on in life is better and being aware of my happiness now.
These aspects of an infj are aspects of a healthy one. One that has strived through a tough marriage which was full of emotional blackmail, gaslighting, victim based living styles & fear... oh the fear! The flame of the infj has been dimmed, their understanding of self has been damaged & being the introspective feelers they/we are, healing comes first before the break up. Only healthy infj's can sever the marital bond, for the reasons which they know they need to. If you are an infj & this vid has turned up in your feed & it resonates with you, yet it doesn't. There may be some more healing to come. Embrace it, it is no more difficult than the last thing in your life which you changed. Yes i am a wounded soldier, healing though & about to severe ties from a very toxic relationship. My light has been dimmed long enough & the current *womens movements are what strangled it.
All of the ex lovers have come back at least once. There have been very few ex friends and now that I know what the door-slam is (and have recently done) I am curious as to if an ex friend will try to come back -- especially since it was a bully and her flying monkey that were door-slammed. Me? I'm feeling quite good about how things fell out; we tend to give too many chances and too much forgiveness.
If you are a woman and you meet an INFJ male and it develops into a relationship, be very aware of one thing: this is your only chance to have someone so deep and full of wonder close to you. If you lose him, you will never get a chance to replace him. His touch will never be equaled, the feeling you have sharing deep things will not be reproduced. Keep him by getting comfortable in his orbit, keep his trust and fulfill those ideals he has for you. If you do, you will be not only happy, but satisfied in all aspects of life. If you lose him, there will be a void impossible to fill.
@@btdu2789 Only if a woman gets rid of the macho man idea rattling around in their head and see the benefit of an INFJ male before they drive that wedge which turns into the infamous door slam.
Im very curious to see a coment by a borderline who had relationship with a INFJ, becouse those mostly tend to forget any partner before when start a new relationship. Did the borderlile forget a INFJ?
My First Girlfriend. Broke my heart, complete floozy. Anyway, some 25 years later she came tracking me down trying to get back with me. Told me I was the only person she ever loved! I laughed her out of the pub, I'm sure it was a humiliating experience for a woman. She might be a woman, but she was never a lady
@@KN-os1pv very true! That would have been a polite apology telling them we can't go through that again. In fact, INFJ's will go through great lengths at their own expense to not humiliate someone.
Do any other INFJs get slightly offended by these ego stroke vids? While I like knowing there is a reason i am the way i am, i never needed confirmation or validation for being who i am? Curious to hear if anyone else feels this way?🤷🤪👍
What Does It Mean To Be INFJ?
The INFJ personality type, commonly known as The Advocate or Counselor, is one of sixteen in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). INFJs account for about 1-3 percent of the population. If you get an INFJ personality type, it suggests you're introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. Dominant: Introverted Intuition is your primary cognitive function. Extroverted Feeling: Auxiliary Introverted Thinking (tertiary). Extroverted Sensing is inferior. The MBTI test was designed to help people understand their own communication styles and how they connect with others. Knowing your MBTI type can help you better understand your mental processes and behavior, as well as adjust your interpersonal approach to various situations and people.
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00:23 10 Your future will stay as it is
01:36 09 You will get tired of your own lies
02:51 08 You will question your values
04:05 07 You will beg for a second chance
05:16 06 You will start taking life seriously
06:15 05 You will give yourself some time
07:15 04 You will ponder on the things you never ponder about
08:17 03 You will be addicted to your memories with them
09:11 02 You will never see things the same way
10:06 01 You will be preoccupied with what-ifs and regrets
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Losing an INFJ will cause you to look for “them” in everyone you meet.
Yep
Yes in total less than 3% but male INF-J under 0.8% and now with nearly 40 and everbody thinks I am just a pussy, I got it finally.
@dominikschmohl1084 You are not a pussy!
I am an INFJ, and so is my father.
My father is the perfect gentleman in every way!! ❤
once an INFJ knows who they are and own and claim their rights and powers, they can rise above and move beyond anyone and anything and still come out pure and unsullied in heart and spirit!
Amen
Great point and so true. But they can also sacrifice everything for that person and be betrayed and lose everything in a bad divorce. This happened to me. At the time I was willing to make that sacrifice and went down with the ship you could say while she jumped off at the last minute and saved herself. Maybe what I should have done. BUT I made a comeback and now have my own house and doing well again. Took me 3 years but it built my charactor and taught me some very hard lessons I needed to learn. Next time I will jump off and save myself before its too late. I think as Infj mature and get older they learn these lessons. Especially if you make a effort to work on your weaknesses. What you stuggle with in your 20's or 30's by 50s you have are much wiser. Thanks
You’re not wrong
Gosh!
@@dlphelan7774 3 years is a short amount of time. Care to share some wise words to immature INFJ
There's an ugly part of me that I don't like. After a solid breakup, meaning I'm done trying to save the relationship, done giving chances, done done, then I would go into this cold state of being indifferent to them. I would smile to them like I would to strangers or I would pass by them as if they were strangers. What happened to us in the past was just a very distant memory that seems like it belongs to someone else. A memory without feelings like it never existed in my life. The opposite of love isn't hate, the opposite of love is indifference...
That's nor ugly. That's smart.
Same thing happened to me as well, my ex keep begging and regret doing what she doing, after a while I meet her in a gym by accident, I literally forget her last name, even face like a memory loss or something. A strangers.
Once im emotionally detached, it's a wrap!!! I always tell them "Catch me while I care, cause once I don't it's too late and over!"
I say the same exact thing!!!!💯
100%
I am above everything else LOYAL, loyal, LOYAL. If I am stabbed in the back, I will remove the offender from my life surgically.
+1 E-x-actly !
Loyaly. Honor. Respect. Depth. Truth.
Yes....Only infj know deeply what it means.
Loyal when we commit, Honor means doing what you say you would, Respect is not insulting, not rude, but doesn't mean you have to agree all the time coz you respect yourself too Depth is about morals, ethics, and beliefs Truth is stranger than fiction for ex. Jesus said "a man who loses his life gains it, a man who gains it loses his life."
Integrity.
Don't just close the door. Lock the damn gate!
Nevermind that. I brick up the door to blend it in with the rest of the wall like it wasn't even THERE 🧱🧱🧱😅
As an INFJ, i have attempted to help him years and years, i have accepted him as it is. Tried to appreciate even a small thing he did , which meant for me a lot. But he never understood me,as the time goes, he kept on repeatedly hurting me with his disloyalty and insensitivity. Now i know He was the most hurtful man i have ever met, but i have never been rude to him the way he did to me. Because i had love and empathy i accepted all his flaws believeing he will understand me one day. But that day never came. At one point he insulted me for no reason, i still remember those words. Those are the most hurtful words i have ever heard. I walked away
Once again, this video is spot on. I am an INFJ and I can't believe how these videos are so perfect. Exes always say "You are the one that got away" and I always left because of exactly what the video says. I never go back, but they were warned. My high school boyfriend told my son, your mom is the one no one ever has measured up too". By the time I've had enough, the door slam is so easy, and once that door is closed, it's never going to open. They knew the consequences but choose the behavior, never thinking I would severe the relationship. Love being an INFJ, and all these videos bring out what I use to think was "JUST ME" and know one knew. Peace Out - much love & friendship......
Same here!
Me too! I seen alot of karma hit ppl i cut off
Ditto. Before I knew it was my personality type. I thought I was an weirdo ice chick for being able to cut people off. 😅
Yes they always try to come back
@@Ms.Delphine1204 Yeeeeeees! 1 narc i cut off 2010 tried comin back again for the like a million time but he see im stubborn as a mule n it fold him up everytime
As an INFJ, I give chances while we are in a relationship before my breaking point. When I reach my breaking point, I NEVER give people a second chance. Once it is over, it is OVER. It was over for a reason. I would say that all of my ex’s have tried to come back. If it was meant to be, the relationship would have never been completely out of alignment with our values, standards, and beliefs. Cheating for me is an automatic dismissal. If a person can not commit to their words then what is the point of giving them another chance? People change but for me once I am hurt to the core, that is it. I am famous for the infamous INFJ door slam. When I shut a door, I then remove it and add drywall because that person will never have the satisfaction to be with me again (PERIOD).
I have to agree with your comment, my exes did not even realize they crossed the line, violated my "hell no" boundaries . Then found themselves desperately trying to fix what they broke. As if I would or should take that crap. This same thing has happened with friends who found themselves cut out of my life. Just because it seemed like no big deal to them it violated me and never should have happened and wouldn't have had they been more sensitive to me. Not that I am one sided in my relationships, but when someone has gone too far it must end. My love for self matters to me.
@May Bee 🐝 “Just because it seemed like no big deal to them it violated me and never should have happened and wouldn't have had they been more sensitive to me.” Were they previously informed of where the line was? What made it so you should have felt violated?
Here’s an example I had to deal with: Earlier this year, I was at a hardware store, and while at the cashier, I got this light, loose, comfortable feeling in my heart I haven’t had before or since, towards the cashier. I also heard an abstract voice say to me, “Go talk to her. Ask her on a date.” So after a lot of internal debate, I decided not to do so. Why? Simple: Because partly from this cashier’s attitude, I had to assume enough of a chance that she’d view my conversation as harassment, getting me in trouble with the business, and possibly the law. It was too much of a risk.
Where is the line of what a woman deems harassment? It’s variable between women, and regardless of where the line is with a given woman, if I cross it, I know that I face significant consequences in today’s culture. This woman seemed rather aggressive to me, and I wondered how much third or fourth wave stuff she had internalized. Considering both, was it safe to talk to her and ask her on a date, without crossing her individual boundary of harassment?
Because I wasn’t confident enough that the feeling and instruction came from God, I had to assume it could have been a subconscious upwelling, and as such, decided to keep things professional so as to assure I wouldn’t cross her individual line of personal sensitivity. Did I deny myself the biggest opportunity of my life, because I assumed a very sensitive boundary that should not have been there, and with that woman, may not have been there? Maybe! With what I know, now, that feeling in my chest may very well have come from God, and striking a conversation could even have prevented a lot of trouble in her life in ways that seem surreal to me now, and personally unimaginable, then.
@@maybee... I totally agree with you. I give people chances before I slam the door. When I shut the door, that is it.
@@Taurusboy07 , Thank you, by the time I slam the door the person in question has been given some leniency, there are of course the no no never never uh uh uh situations, like a cheating spouse, or a BFF who says you need mental help. 😉
In true INFJ style, I am my own best counselor. I know instinctively what I will never tolerate, I can surmise from your comments that you as well are a true INFJ. 👍
@@EMichaelBall,
Hello Michael, We are not talking about harmless friendly flirting, so glad to see you have some level of discernment. We all know what works in a healthy relationship and what doesn't. If you work at the same hardware store as the cutie you are interested in it is a good idea to pause in your pursuit until such time as all doubt has been removed.
Good luck to you.
Respect. Loyalty. Kindness.
I just door slammed a narc.
Closed. For eternity
everyone gets a second chance but after its never the same
True and getting back with an ex is an abomination to God.
It’s so true about walking out. I literally talked to the person, walked-out and never returned. I was surprised by my emotionless-ness with it. But then again I had already gone through so much that it was like I couldn’t give it anymore emotion.
As an INFJ I agree with this 100 percent. You only get one chance with me and that's it.
@@sunstarpunk Yes, this video is a wonderful way to tell us how good we are in our own ways. We don't have to be afraid to set boundaries.
People come and go but that internal guidance system is here to stay.
If an INFJ doesn't see you in their long term future you're gone regardless of good or bad reasoning.
We know we're all part of one entity/energy. And we would have to feel that energy and emotions.
Infjs are the natural counselors because of it.
And just like a Trained Counselor we have an Oath
Infjs have very high integrity but they can be corrupted by the unhealthy black n white thinkers also
@@markrains6130 well said I agree with you all the way
@@sunstarpunk I agree
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As a infj, this also applies to my friendships
After 13 years with my wife, she was always negative. I asked her to change but she couldn’t. I decided to leave her for that. She refused to understand my views. We are now separated and I’m living my best life. It was more than tough but it’s the best decision ever. I choose myself first. 😊✌️
I'm proud of you emphatic people worst nightmare, and you managed to walk through it, that gonna be tough, congrats.
It’s important to clarify that this video mostly describes INFJ’s who have a secure attachment style with relationships. An Anxious attachment style can be difficult because you feel you need to maintain relationships when you think you shouldn’t.
Agreed. What about INFJs-avoidant attachment style? Just curious....
Take note non-INFJs, mess around, find out!
Thank you for this video. Loyalty is vital to me and I will door slam friends and even family if that's broken. 🤷🏾♀️
100%
It is double worse for those that walk out on you, even if you don't see them you just know they are stewing in missery.
Very accurate.
It's kind of amusing to watch those red flags wave while realizing person has no idea you can see them.
No going back.
As a 25-year old INFJ, I never thought of going back to people who hurt me badly in the past unless they needed me to help with something so badly... 😁
Absolutely true on this video🎯 my ex-boyfriend my mother , sister, all those who have betrayed me, they did not know me 🤣, I am an infj Sigma Empath Awakening 👁 walking away with no remorse ,U WILL NOTget a second chance here, this is once in a lifetime.. girl
Walking away when I see your true colors, mostly betrayal, Im out
and so you are happy with that I suppose-because I wouldn t. but I am not an INFJ. I am INFP.
The values and morals is on the spot. My grandmother changed her own teachings about values and morals of 22 years to me just to prove that she has the power to manipulate the family members so that it fits her agenda. I am a big believer of basic manners such as sorry, excuse me, thank you and greetings. She wronged me but she refused to say sorry instead she wanted to buy me something to apologize instead I flatly refused so since that we have not been talking even though we live in the same house and I'm okay with this no one is going to buy my emotions or love at best
I am sending this to my ex . I really do not lies or cheating or flirting . You are right . These things are a sign of totally bad morals . I want trust , I want someone who is stable , who wants to care and be cared for . These people are hard to find .
If they are lying, cheating and flirting they are looking to cut you out of their life, when they have another lined up. Slam the door on them immediately.
Don't send to your ex, this is ment to help you, they didn't see it when they were with you so if you send it makes you look like your better than them and they won't get it. You left for a good reason and it hurts if you really tried with them and they need to go through what this video says, you will destroy them going through pain to get better. Do you understand? Believe me , I want them to hurt bad! I waisted alot of good years on him! Don't send. Probably too late
This is so true. I have slammed the door and bolted the gate. Bless you and thank you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊
This truely on track
I thought it was interesting, that you landed on the “go on” aspect of the INFJ. That resonated; we do go on. And we go on, without, if necessary. And so often, it is. As though this is just the internal programming and burden we carry in life. We touch a persons life; it is made better; it comes to an end; we go on.
As for the internal gyroscope, for me, It has always been Godword, although for many years, I didn't realize this. And the journey, though painful at times, and more in the beginning of my life than now as a mature INFJ, the journey sees the eternal. And only those who see this too "go on" with us.
I am finally thankful for this quality that is part of our nature.
I’m sure you guys are too.
"When I only see in part
I will prophesy Your promise
I believe You, God
'Cause You finish what You start
I will trust You in the process
I believe You, God
"You set a table in the middle of my war
You knew the outcome of it all
When what I faced looked like it would never end
You said, "Watch the giants fall"
"And the lies I once believed
They crumble
At the weight of Your truth
And the fear that gripped my heart
Is arrested
So that I can see You."
And I can go on.
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You speak truth! God is the only one who we should truly trust in. Therefore my favorite verse being Psalm 37:5. God bless!
@@KulSteph98
Amen. Thanks for taking the time to say so.
Yes…. They always always always come back, sooner or later they always come back, but I was gone and done from the very first second I disappeared, so, they never find me again. NEVER. And I never regret it. Sorry for causing so much pain 😕
My past always comes back, over and over again. They don't get the hint. They think that they can force their way back into my life when I have constantly refused and will not change my mind. A relationship works TWO ways. They obviously don't understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship. One can't "force" someone to be in a relationship. Talk about unhealthy. Healthy individuals learn from the experience, heal, move on, let go, and try to do better in the next relationship. I have no intention of trying again. They lost a lot, but I lost nothing. When one is pure, one doesn't lose anything. I have no interest in allowing anyone from my past to come back who was unworthy, as they bring nothing to the table, but their narcissistic unhealthy lower self. I also know my value and it is a lot more than theirs. If they were meant to be in my life, they would be. God would make it so. I don't do 3D relationships and if God doesn't approve of the relationship, no such luck. I only have relationships that have purpose for myself, society as a whole, or etc. They brought nothing to the table in helping me, society as a whole, or anything purposeful. There really is no point in having useless matrix relationships. I have to help others work off their karmic debt, if they have any. I don't have time sitting around watching them live out toxic cycles creating constant bad karma for themselves, when I can be using my time wisely on those that "deserve it". Talk about the arrogance and self entitlement. I want them to think about what purpos do they think that they are playing in my life, or society, as a whole? Instead of wanting me back because I "do" for them, they "need" me, or I "bless" them. My job is to help individuals who want to leave the matrix, so that they could possibly do the same for others. God knows exactly what I do and why I do it. They should of done better the first time. I am kind, not a f**l. I am not the same person I was a month ago, let alone a year ago, or years ago. They didn't know me then and they wouldn't know me now. My purpose in life has changed, according to how God willed it. I am kind to everyone because I have empathy and love, as I am of Christ consciousness. Christ consciousness is love and enlightenment. I treat everyone the same way. They assumed that they meant more to me than they actually did. Actions speak louder than words. If they meant so much to me, I wouldn't of dropped them so easily. Without an emotional, psychological, and spiritual connection, there is no relationship. One can't create a relationship off of superficial means and expect it to last long term. One has to work towards a "relationship", which never happened. They never even tried to connect to me in such manners and they expected a long term relationship to last? My past really has been living in delusion. It is sad that they are so desperate to force themselves back into my life over and over again and show no empathy or even try to understand my point of view. This is how toxic they are. Always thinking only about themselves. Unbelievable.
I give and give and give second, third, fourth chances until I feel they can no longer grow or I can no longer grow from the relationship. Then I will walk away without regret and feeling like my purpose in their life was fulfilled and vice-versa. It's like we are born to be hurricanes.
Great video and I know that my ex misses me and was surprised when I had enough and door slammed her. BUT she is a covert narcissist and I thought that they do not feel all these emotions and rarely if ever change. I think all these things are so true but not in that case. Great video thks!
Dear Universe, I would love to find and be with an INFJ..🙏🏻🥰💭
You are welcome.JT-GAL...
Lol, that's cute
As an INFJ, if start actin irrationally, dishonestly, over-dramatically, or are regularly unappreciative…I will literally walk away in that moment and never look back.
One of the biggest read flags is if a girl says she loves watching shows with lots of arguing, cheating, and/or drama. I shut the door on unnecessary drama.
The other big game ender is if someone doesn’t listen to what others are saying or they are incapable of deep conversation.
Sooo true, sooo blue. Leave behind those who are complacent !
If your morals are trash, I walk away faster
The first time a womsn effs me is the last time. I turn into a ghost and disappear for good. Losing someone isn't pleasant but you can move on. If you lose yourself, you are done for.
This is a very interesting content.
As INTP, my ex are INFJ and I can confirm this is correct.
Did you experience all of this or some?
I can't tolerate people that don't respect limits or boundaries or those who attack my character.
The sadness thing is when you love so deeply someone to the point you give all you have to them and feel empty to deth... And when you look at them and seems they can' t give you nothing even 1% you gave them. And we infj feel that our love is like the deep ocean in from a glass of water.... Sometimes I hate to be a Infj....I feel so missunderstood ...I feel that love isn' t fair to me.
And yes a few of ex boys friend told me or sad about me for other peaple:" she is the one no one ever has measured up too." So why they always do everything to loose us?😢😢😢
I am the first to like and comment.
I would definitely give a second chance. It was just not done between us. Circumstances obliged to part ways but that parting was never from heart. We are more matured and evolved now. We have worked on our insecurities to face life head-on. It's just impossible to not give a second chance to the one who means the whole world to me.
Exactly!
Thank you♥️⚘✌🏻🇱🇺
I gave more than second chances, that's called taking forgaranted, if your married. But when I'm done I never go back because the TRUST IS GONE AND DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW IT WILL BE HELL TO GO BACK TO THERE FAKE LOES AND ABUSE.
Julielehmann you would have resonated to what I have said only if you were in a twinflame journey. But as it is in your case you are absolutely right you must never give another chance to anybody who ever it may be who have been disrespectful towards you.
I wish you peace and healing and lots of love in your life. We all deserve authentic love as human persons. ❤️
And I just can't thank enough the channel On Track as it has helped me ascend in my spiritual journey.
Regards. Namaste 🙏
True, true, true!
I'm an INFJ andf this INFJ worshipping is getting out of hand. What's being said in this video is too much worshipping. So without an INFJ, others' lives ain't shit basically. Lol.
Right! I can't even watch this stupid exaggeration.
Had a boyfriend in high school who said " i think we should date other people for a while" i said "OK" I never looked back and never took a call or answered the door other than to say " no thank you".
You hit the Point thousands thumbs up!
What I found out about other 15 MBTI people, doesn’t like to listen, I come across many and all they want to do is play and enjoy the moment without learning from it and is hard to communicate too, they get too caught up in their things, because of having fun. It’s normal and it’s not normal and is always because of wrong timing
Our society and the folks in it are generally more materialist than spiritual. It's the way the machine tries to program us, and it mostly works. So it's difficult to find the type of people you are looking for.
I said the same thing tonight on a different INFJ! People are so shallow and fake world bs, no depth and they think we are weird? I get vibes off of people who look at me and I can tell they are wondering, lol. They are either one of us or they are just intrigued 🤔
Good god, this video knows my life....
Well said. 💯
Thank you very much, Sir as always. I have been there, and you are always spot on.
I am infj women.. I have been lied to and lost trust in someone. I kept going away because I felt there was no point in staying there. to come back, make me think so many times.
Yeah it's never the same
I was thinking that I am a cursed woman because all my Ex are not succeed in their life, this gave me a hard time thinking about it, so I decided to search about it but it is true, no one who hurt is successful in their life, I am so sorry for them.
They don't want that
Wow I sound serious I'm an infj and I hope I don't door slam myself that sounds quite serious 😀. Most of the videos are correct though people don't get it.
I am infj... And leaving is the hardest part for mo si do if it's them who leave me... I have a friend. An infp.. and that friend give me a sign that there will be a time that our friendship might be over.. and it's really disturbing me thinking what I did wrong where did the misunderstanding came from an I really the one at fault... Hay.. why it's always happen I need to understand and trust them but they can't to me... I'm turning a blind eye.. coz i know once I also made a decision to cut off everything will be over...
When can I retire from this "teaching job"? Really is that all it is is just being a person who makes another person wake up after its too late? I am tired of this damn game.
Nw..I've To Ask My Xs'?!🤔
How I Impact Their Life After Leaving!😏
How do narcissts react, when long-term INFJ partner leaves them and doorslam after discovering their unfaithfulness?
At least, you get to attract higher quality relationships with other people
Exactly, My husband lied, his morals, all was red flags. I just couldn't live under such deception.
As an infj(not sure if I am or not) once someone asked me don’t you ever lie… I am posing same question to you. Kindly answer it, don’t take it as any offence. I would like to know and from true infj…
Responding to Supid A M
Yes anybody can lie, but what's the intention of a lie? Will it hurt others, or it could be as a way to gain something your taking from someone else, or protecting yourself ....many reasons. However, my situation way to long to explain, lol.
Just moving on in life is better and being aware of my happiness now.
Ticking all the boxes .....
These aspects of an infj are aspects of a healthy one. One that has strived through a tough marriage which was full of emotional blackmail, gaslighting, victim based living styles & fear... oh the fear!
The flame of the infj has been dimmed, their understanding of self has been damaged & being the introspective feelers they/we are, healing comes first before the break up.
Only healthy infj's can sever the marital bond, for the reasons which they know they need to.
If you are an infj & this vid has turned up in your feed & it resonates with you, yet it doesn't. There may be some more healing to come. Embrace it, it is no more difficult than the last thing in your life which you changed.
Yes i am a wounded soldier, healing though & about to severe ties from a very toxic relationship. My light has been dimmed long enough & the current *womens movements are what strangled it.
All of the ex lovers have come back at least once.
There have been very few ex friends and now that I know what the door-slam is (and have recently done) I am curious as to if an ex friend will try to come back -- especially since it was a bully and her flying monkey that were door-slammed.
Me? I'm feeling quite good about how things fell out; we tend to give too many chances and too much forgiveness.
If you are a woman and you meet an INFJ male and it develops into a relationship, be very aware of one thing: this is your only chance to have someone so deep and full of wonder close to you. If you lose him, you will never get a chance to replace him. His touch will never be equaled, the feeling you have sharing deep things will not be reproduced. Keep him by getting comfortable in his orbit, keep his trust and fulfill those ideals he has for you. If you do, you will be not only happy, but satisfied in all aspects of life. If you lose him, there will be a void impossible to fill.
Is that right? And I thought only INFJ women are like that. Signed Sigma INFJ FM
@@btdu2789 Only if a woman gets rid of the macho man idea rattling around in their head and see the benefit of an INFJ male before they drive that wedge which turns into the infamous door slam.
Well put.
Thank u this is me all thw way
Spot on!
Incredibly accurate
this boom. could have used this years ago
Remember my place 😌☺️🥲😞💔🧱
FACTS!!!!!!!
When the infj do the 180, you become baggage
Oh yeah bay bay
Infj character is Batman and i married the joker personality. In the movie batman
Maybe 🤔🙂 I don't know
Im very curious to see a coment by a borderline who had relationship with a INFJ, becouse those mostly tend to forget any partner before when start a new relationship. Did the borderlile forget a INFJ?
Keep crossing that boundary and I’ll kick you out of my life…it’s that simple.
You only get on chance with us if you blow it then there's the door 🚪 don't let it hit you on your way out... hopefully
Wanna visit other mbti type video comment box , if they have shown same level of sympathy /agreements in the comment box like us (INFJ) lol
Yes 👀👌🏻
Hope my ex bestfriend regret losing me
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What is an INFJ?
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Danke, nur bin ich müde, andere Menschen in den Himmel zu bringen. Sollen sie es selbst tun. Zeit, Zeit zu finden für mich selbst.
People really dont care yall be reaching they meant to be who they are towards us
This is inadequate....the entire framework is flawed...
The arrogance 😂
What bull
My First Girlfriend. Broke my heart, complete floozy. Anyway, some 25 years later she came tracking me down trying to get back with me.
Told me I was the only person she ever loved! I laughed her out of the pub, I'm sure it was a humiliating experience for a woman. She might be a woman, but she was never a lady
You are not an infj. We don't treat people like shit, no matter what they did to us or how they behave.
@@KN-os1pv very true! That would have been a polite apology telling them we can't go through that again. In fact, INFJ's will go through great lengths at their own expense to not humiliate someone.
Do any other INFJs get slightly offended by these ego stroke vids? While I like knowing there is a reason i am the way i am, i never needed confirmation or validation for being who i am? Curious to hear if anyone else feels this way?🤷🤪👍
So tired of my past always coming back. 🥱💤😴💤
Close the damn door and lock the gate.💯🚪🌉🔒🔏🔑🔓