Ep 36 | Phindile speaks out on divorce, narcissists,coparenting | life after divorce

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 160

  • @phindileyendeauthor
    @phindileyendeauthor 3 місяці тому +20

    Thank you so much for hosting me Queen ❤️

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for honoring the invite ❤️🫂

    • @andiswamjadu1106
      @andiswamjadu1106 3 місяці тому

      @@TheTeaWorld Phindile wow! I never listen to these but wow. You're wise and so well spoken.

    • @senyatsisolomonkgolane467
      @senyatsisolomonkgolane467 2 місяці тому

      You're amazing 👏🏽 @phindileyende

    • @roslynmohlago6055
      @roslynmohlago6055 Місяць тому

      How can I get the book please??

    • @roslynmohlago6055
      @roslynmohlago6055 Місяць тому

      Ooh I got it on Take a lot. I was impatient to wait for end of interview to get details 😅

  • @moroesinkone4294
    @moroesinkone4294 3 місяці тому +20

    I can listen to Phindile speaks the whole day. I Love her ❤

  • @Blessed_for_life_2023
    @Blessed_for_life_2023 3 місяці тому +14

    Absolutely, i never went to maintenance court for my two boys , because I felt I'm not going to remind a person to take care of their child. They're 24 and 13 now, and I've been doing it alone, and now karma is dealing with them.
    But for those who have the energy to go to court, big ups to you.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Big ups to you my Queen, May God enlarge your territory

    • @Leboko80
      @Leboko80 3 місяці тому +1

      I feel you my Sister.i did the same.

    • @cosmic_sunflower3864
      @cosmic_sunflower3864 3 місяці тому

      I totally understand you.

  • @xolilemazibuko4390
    @xolilemazibuko4390 3 місяці тому +23

    "God was not in the foundation " heei we mess up and want God to interven when we didn’t consult him at first

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Very true my lovely Queen 👸

    • @pheladinare2876
      @pheladinare2876 3 місяці тому +2

      So true we put ourselves in situations and then later when we are in trouble we turn and ask God why? Especially when the red flag where always there.

    • @mrsG488
      @mrsG488 2 місяці тому +1

      And there is nothing wrong about that...actually we all stumble and sometimes fall but its good to always run back to Him.❤

  • @vinoliaphusoane790
    @vinoliaphusoane790 6 днів тому +1

    Yhoooo it's like you talking about the situation I'm in right now and worse since the time Lobola was paid my life turned upside down, I saw it from the beginning and kept on dreaming about my future but he was not in it and I kept telling him about my dreams. Currently I'm unemployed, keep loosing my jobs after miscarriages, now I'm on anti-depressant meds and attending counseling.After counselling I have to come back to the same house.😢Life is humbling me but I will never stop praying.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  4 дні тому

      So sorry 😞
      Indeed don't stop praying

  • @harryshokane5668
    @harryshokane5668 2 місяці тому +1

    Wow when she said Phindile your a healer I felt it,love her so much indeed she's a healer.... I'm healed and would listen to her the whole day.

  • @MissCombs1511
    @MissCombs1511 3 місяці тому +7

    I looooooove women who write books! It's like bringing us into her mind, more importantly for us to give to our kids one day. It helps so much to equip them.
    The khula uzobona era is over, thank the Lord!

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Indeed I'm loving the authors we are hosting at the Teaworld Podcast

  • @langabi408
    @langabi408 3 місяці тому +3

    Oh I love Phindi, I bought and read her book in 1day😀🤭. It was captivating.
    Will definitely buy the second book.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      She is an amazing Author 👏 🤩

  • @zanelexaba4561
    @zanelexaba4561 3 місяці тому +2

    Yho Phindi feeling healed already as m gng through divorce thanks for sharing your story God bless you it's true God is not far from the broken heart looking beautiful healed and happy ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Sending you love and light ❤️❤️

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 3 місяці тому +6

    My ex narc hubby was a pastor, he defied God and consulted witchdoctors in pursuit for power until my life was in danger! You can never work on a marriage alone, that is for sure!👍

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +2

      What a profound point, you can never work on a marriage alone 😔

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor 3 місяці тому +1

      Some of these things sound far fetched but they happen! I’m so sorry 🥺

    • @user-bk1zs2uf3t
      @user-bk1zs2uf3t 3 місяці тому

      Hi Queen Rummy, may you please invite her, we would love to hear her story of restoration

  • @matomesetati5661
    @matomesetati5661 3 місяці тому +2

    Phindile is such a powerhouse. Enjoyed this conversation so much. Really learned a lot from her journey 🌸

  • @lindiwemhlanga
    @lindiwemhlanga 3 місяці тому +5

    He suffered from "breadwinner syndrome" The family will never see anything wrong with his actions as long as he provides for them!

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 3 місяці тому

      It's the case with my older brother. He can never do wrong in the eyes of my parents.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +1

      I agree

  • @dot510
    @dot510 3 місяці тому +9

    Look young for 42 years. Beautiful chocolate babe

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +1

      She really looks amazing and so young 😍 ❤️

  • @nenesibanda4171
    @nenesibanda4171 3 місяці тому +5

    I love Ndivhu T's voice in the intro❤ you look beautiful queen Ramy❤

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 3 місяці тому +2

    Love Phindi and I am so excited to see her on this podcast . Last week I was just recommending her to this other podcast host because I feel like her story is worth sharing. I am still hoping to see her there too ❤

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Thank you so much, you will be happy to know she even has her own Podcast ❤️🫂

  • @LesOhNyC
    @LesOhNyC 3 місяці тому +2

    Aus Phindi you have such a grat aura.. I'm yet to watch the entire interview but let me tell you when I say, I sure will enjoy this because wow, the little clip I got to hear.. bliss

  • @tshenogotswai7283
    @tshenogotswai7283 2 місяці тому +1

    I love how she speaks shes well articulated...mara banna shem!!!!!

  • @Sebi_P
    @Sebi_P 3 місяці тому +4

    26:18 so true sis Phindi narcissist never apologize they exactly said you made me do that

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 3 місяці тому +5

    Yooo my girl, looks like there are many of us with your experience! While you try to make him look good to your family, he’s painting you black to his own family! When you eventually leave, you are the bad person 😢😢

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      It's really so sad💔😔

  • @lufunochristopherrathogwa1886
    @lufunochristopherrathogwa1886 2 місяці тому +2

    To be honest marriages of our generation are failing because we are starting a marriage on a wrong foot. We get married without pre-marital counselling, all we want is a married tittle. If the couple involve their pastors such mess would hardly be there

  • @debramontymmatau5136
    @debramontymmatau5136 3 місяці тому +2

    Bona ..,ke letsa molodi😢😢😢yhooo ausi Phindile. You hit all the spots 😞. Tjo. This conversation was packed. Tjoo shout out to my homie. I love you ❤️ mam.

  • @MrsD_2022
    @MrsD_2022 2 місяці тому +2

    She has a beautiful voice

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 місяці тому

      She does, check out her own UA-cam Channel ❤👌

    • @MrsD_2022
      @MrsD_2022 2 місяці тому

      @TheTeaWorld what is the name of her utube channel?

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 місяці тому

      Phindile yende

    • @MrsD_2022
      @MrsD_2022 2 місяці тому

      @@TheTeaWorld Thank you.

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor 2 місяці тому

      Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @TselengCeciliaMohale
    @TselengCeciliaMohale Місяць тому

    Thank you very much I think Iam healed ❤

  • @seipeishole9674
    @seipeishole9674 20 днів тому

    Inspired🙏
    Thanks Phindi.

  • @user-yf6yb7un3y
    @user-yf6yb7un3y 2 місяці тому

    So true "we know" but choose to turn a blind eye hoping things will be okay. Phindi yhoo u can talk my sister 💐👏❤️. First time i come across this channel and i love it already,we learn a lot as women surely i will also teach my friends(daughters)

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 місяці тому

      Thank you so much 🫂🫂❤️❤️

  • @annerosealimo5682
    @annerosealimo5682 2 місяці тому +2

    Nice pink shoes....still sorry about ur experience

  • @pokonoza
    @pokonoza 3 місяці тому +1

    Yoh yoh yoh!!! Phindile is telling my story as it is @15:30

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 2 місяці тому +1

    Nxa!!!! I am so angry with narcissist type of men, always apportioning blame to the innocent people!!! Yhooooo!!!!🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

  • @godsbeloved6436
    @godsbeloved6436 2 місяці тому

    Sisters...I can relate. Nearly married 1. It rings a tone of memories n what I endured in a short space of time. Though we did not get married but he left a mark. Red flags were there but I chose 2 ignore cause I wanted to play savior....but I thañk God I overcame. The healing process took time though n taught me 2 lv myself....but it taught me that in the Christian world we've got a lot of concealed wolves in sheep skin who know exactly what 2 say...!!!

  • @faithmaqungo308
    @faithmaqungo308 3 місяці тому +2

    Tjooo I'm currently in a yr marriage with a Narcissist 😢😢😢
    Im going through hell😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      🫂🫂🫂🫂May it be well with you

    • @sheronsnethembancube2693
      @sheronsnethembancube2693 3 місяці тому +1

      Girl, I am 1 month 17 days out of it. I didn't leave because I didn't have the guts but he chased me away. Days aren't the same, others are an emotional wreck others I feel fine but I trust God will carry me through

    • @martinamakgeta9467
      @martinamakgeta9467 3 місяці тому

      You and me both. with me I saw and felt that the marriage will not work 4months into it. I'm going through the most right now and have been planning on leaving for quite some time now. I'm emotionally & mentally out of the marriage. having the worst 9month s of marriage

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor 3 місяці тому

      @@sheronsnethembancube2693God will indeed carry you through.

    • @servantofgod4311
      @servantofgod4311 3 місяці тому

      ​@@martinamakgeta9467imagine, 9mnths in 😮Askisi chomi may God give you wisdom and strength

  • @masandefuzile2261
    @masandefuzile2261 3 місяці тому +1

    I am a Narcissist and I don't like when ppl talk bad about us.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Okay 👍

    • @masandefuzile2261
      @masandefuzile2261 3 місяці тому

      You didn't read.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +2

      Okay 😂 what do you want us to do with your statement?

    • @judyatoro9387
      @judyatoro9387 3 місяці тому +1

      They say if devil cannot deal with you physically he sends a narcissist person 😮

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 3 місяці тому +2

      I don't think people talk bad about narcissistic people but people do talk about their experiences with a narc and often times it is bad. For an example, I am co-parenting with a narc and it's a nightmare, do I talk bad about narcissistic people/him, no, but I am definitely talking about my experience of having stayed in such a relationship & having a child with such a person.

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali 3 місяці тому +2

    Yoooo! Sounds like a book I should have written 😂.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Get on it 😂😂😂

    • @pfulu
      @pfulu 3 місяці тому

      @@TheTeaWorldwhat is she manufacturing.

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 2 місяці тому

    Urhhhh!!!! Phindile you provoked me, we need to write a book about ones self but we are scared, culturally afraid, and not used to openly allowed to talk about your marriages issues.
    Yhooooo!!!!! Sis Phindile 😭😭😭😭 how do we meet its for the 1st time watching this video.

  • @khethiwemethula4977
    @khethiwemethula4977 3 місяці тому +2

    Uma kusaqala ngathi umlethelwe uNkulunkulu i.e. love bombing stage, but as time goes (manipulation and emotional abuse) you realise that no man uGod akazi lutho ngalomuntu.
    📌 Listen actively when having conversations about ones upbringing and background, don't turn a blind eye to the red flags just because of the carrot being dangled before you.

  • @user-ip4so3dz3w
    @user-ip4so3dz3w Місяць тому

    Looking beautiful Phindi,that pink🤏

  • @tumelohellen5132
    @tumelohellen5132 3 місяці тому +2

    Powerful

  • @Mbali_Nkabinde
    @Mbali_Nkabinde Місяць тому

    Omg are we talking about my ex husband 😂I’m glad I left early.. one year within marriage with no kids focusing on my career 🙏🏽❤️

  • @Nanatsofe
    @Nanatsofe 2 місяці тому

    Foundation of marriage 😢😢 ohhh this is hitting me. ...that is so true ..

  • @nobumasiziba1680
    @nobumasiziba1680 3 місяці тому +4

    Podcast turning into a therapy session

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @martinamakgeta9467
      @martinamakgeta9467 3 місяці тому

      RIGHT

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 3 місяці тому +1

      Neh....bringing one to self, there's so much comfort in realising that one is not alone. There's hope that we will win

  • @proxlee
    @proxlee 3 місяці тому +1

    Even if the man disappears all year and want kids for that December. As a mother you have no right saying no. You are denying your kids moments with their father. Let the kids ask their father that question and let him answer. That is not your place.... my opinion

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +1

      We hear your opinion 🙏

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 2 місяці тому

    My parents even said to me, when He hit me and I went home, driving our car, because we were far from home.
    Mama said: *Dont come to us come report SB driving his car* *Lihlazo eli* go home quickly dont ever come here to do this embarrassment again.
    And it was killing me this thing.

  • @lisemelomafaesa2100
    @lisemelomafaesa2100 3 місяці тому +1

    I like vibe ladies 👌👌

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 2 місяці тому

    What about the marriage that was officiated by an *Umfundisi* signed together, but left somebody crying behind the scene, about him not marrying her??? *Its all lies*

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 місяці тому

      🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️

  • @florahgaboipofemokgaotsi4543
    @florahgaboipofemokgaotsi4543 2 місяці тому

    Phindi o tshwana le Imani wa ko Muvhango🥰

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 місяці тому

      Yes and too much ka this hairstyle

  • @lindanyatela2501
    @lindanyatela2501 2 місяці тому +1

  • @thabilemkhize2585
    @thabilemkhize2585 3 місяці тому

    Qeen Rammy please how can i Phundiles books? I need them urgently

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому +1

      She will definitely respond @Phindile_yende

  • @ofentselefore6646
    @ofentselefore6646 3 місяці тому

    15:02 that bathong 😅😅😅

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Shocked beyond measure 😂

  • @masandefuzile2261
    @masandefuzile2261 3 місяці тому +3

    Ngame ke ng?

  • @AkhonaNozibele
    @AkhonaNozibele 3 місяці тому

    Same same

  • @mamagaseangelique1282
    @mamagaseangelique1282 3 місяці тому +1

    Queen onyaka onkge moroto😂😂😂

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      Like I was shocked 😲 😂😂😂

  • @nonkosinkalashe8431
    @nonkosinkalashe8431 3 місяці тому

    How do I get the book

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      @phindile_yende

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor 3 місяці тому +2

      It’s available from exclusive books, bargain books and Takealot.

  • @DerickFisher-ex3xd
    @DerickFisher-ex3xd 3 місяці тому

    👌👌👌❤❤

  • @user-ip4so3dz3w
    @user-ip4so3dz3w Місяць тому

    What about a narcissist who is a Christian and always talking about God,yey kuningi

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Місяць тому

      Kiningi indeed

    • @missjones9737
      @missjones9737 3 дні тому

      He isn't a Christian.the Bible has the standard of what a husband should be like. Run sis 🏃🏾‍♀️ 🏃🏾‍♀️

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali 3 місяці тому +1

    😂😂😂😂😂🙈🙊🙉 not o nkga sesepa 😅.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂 He really wasn't nice to her💔

  • @AkhonaNozibele
    @AkhonaNozibele 3 місяці тому

    Triggered

  • @DMopai
    @DMopai 2 місяці тому +1

    Tjoo sis vele dats how narcissist behave

  • @ncedisakhewu
    @ncedisakhewu 3 місяці тому

    😂😂😂😂

  • @NkamohelengLebakeng
    @NkamohelengLebakeng 3 місяці тому

    Ngame is a stingy person

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 3 місяці тому +1