It's scary to even think about it. I'm scared to get married. Those kinds of thoughts always run through my brain. We live in a time where it's hard to find the right person. May Allah make it easy for us. Ameen
@@semirsinani1342 first of all getting married it's hard and finding the right person is more harder and top of all of that this same person is going to cheat on you that's crazy to even think about it.
Betray not the trusts given to you.Once the bond of trust is broken through infidelity the marraige is OVER.You will NEVER feel at peace or at ease with anything they tell you again.Its a torment,I know from experience. It's hard, but ending the marraige I's the best thing you can do for your mental & emotional health.
This advice will do nothing but make the innocent spouse continuously suspicious of the guilty. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship like that.
@@midnightpear886 zina is so many type the final one is their choice... Lustful look then sextings, then touching then physical... The last one is from their choice they know its a biggest sin, but they did they caught and saying its mistake" its not a mistake...
One thing that I learned in this life is whatever you do Allah will show you in this life and the life after FOR SURE . You don’t have to put yourself in pain or cause them or others pain, Just remember Allah said that whatever good or bad you or others do it will be brought up on the day of judgement even if it weights as an atom and Allah is the best Judge. Good or worse this life will pass but what matters is eventually we are gonna meet the Creator and then we will complain to him as a child goes to his/her mother.
I disagree with the scholar when he said it. cheating on someone is a mistake. It's not just like You wake up one day in the morning and decide to cheat on your spouse. There has been talking and feeling and emotion exchange between two people.
I agree. In my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. Every single time I decided to stay with my ex husband, he cheated again. And again. And again. Each time caring less and less, until I came home one day and he had divorce papers waiting to be signed. It is not a mistake, it’s malicious and I will never give a second chance again, to anyone.
the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever prays Fajr in congregation then sits remembering Allaah until the sun rises, then prays two rak’ahs, (after 15 minutes of sunrise) will have a reward like that of Hajj and ‘Umrah, complete, complete, complete.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 3403. Remember you must sit in the masjid till after 15 minutes of sunrise then pray 2 rakahs then you will get the reward. Check out the time of sunrise in your area and pray 2 rakhahs after 15 minutes of the time of sunrise then you will get the reward.
I am walking this path. You are right nothing to be sad or angry. Alhamdulillah my relationship is with Allah now. I trust Allah with whatever trial he try me with. The only one who will always be there for you. The only one who will never betray you. The only one who deserve your devotion. May Allah make it easy for muslim bro and sis who undergo such trial. May Allah ease our chest and bring us closer in love with him. Ameen.
Agreed brother once they backstab you , don't give them a chance just leave them be in their sin and you just be with Allah alone bcoz only Allah never betray you .
I have just found out few days ago my husband is cheating on me with men I’m nearly 8 months pregnant. This pain is unbearable. We have been in love and together for 10 years. I love him to bits I can’t believe he did this to me when I’m about to give birth soon I’m lost and going crazy. I don’t know what to do or whether to tell anyone. I’ve been crying none stop and in a bad state on my own asking Allah to guide me on what to do and what is best for me and my baby. I don’t think I can ever heal from this. I have never felt this much heart ache and damage.
I do not agree with what has been said on this video. The trust has now been broken and if the relationship continues, it would be one filled with suspicion. This is probably the greatest betrayal one can suffer in this world. Just because it's a Sheikh that's saying it, doesnt make it right thing. May Allah protect us.
May Allah SWT protect us from the sin of Zina which is a terrible sin to commit and cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice there's no mistake in that you can't justify cheating may Allah SWT protect us Amin
@@zakariyajama8004 Dont make stuff ok we all sin even you so dont act like an angel and yes mistakes can happen and will happen no can stay sinless yes cheating even good people sometimes do this because they are weak. I am not justifying anything and i am also not saying that everyone will cheat but there will be a possibility because saitan is alive not dead.
@@rabbi619 subhanallah i'm not making anything up zina is a sin and commibtting adultery is a choice that people make nobody's forcing them i sin too yes but i will never commit zina i'll pray to Allah SWT for protection from it since humans are weak but Allah isn't
Asalamu alaikum. Can you please give a segment on spouses(in particular wives) who are being stalked and/or harass after separation or divorce? This is an issue that many Imams are not discussing. Stalking/harassment causes mental and emotional stresses. Harassment can lead to physical abuse on the victims. Jazak Allah khayr 🤲🏾
My wife cheated on me and blamed me for cheating on her. She left me with my 2 year old son. She had been cheating on me for quite a long time, may be from the time we got married. One of my friends exposed her and she was very infuriated. Now she got married on the 16th of Oct, 2023 secretly and I am left alone.
She was supposed to get the death penalty according to sharia law. But obviously there are no country with sharia law now a days so always expect that there is no punishment for cheating. The end of times are near. انا لله وانا اليه راجعون
Something similar happened to me but be assured she is a toxic narcissist and Allah spares you, now get your child and be there for the child to guide them InshAllah
Cheating is not a mistake it is a sin!! Once you forgive your husband and them he did once again that's a sin and that's is not a m8stake they mean it.
Cheating is a no go. Cant forgive this. I didnt touch a woman for 6 years now and im rdy to wait till next life to get the right wife from allah. But if someone cant even controll himself and cheat, eventho they already have a partner, their loyality and their faith is just as weak as they are. I would prefer living and dying alone, than having someone like this in my life. Ppl should know the value of a wife or husband. If u want to prevent cheating, then wait for the proper spouse. Be very sure, her body, her genetics, her eyes, her character, her heart, her soul should make you crazy. I think if u just look for character or just body or wealth, it wont be enough to stay together for ur whole life. Be patient, better late and right, than early and wrong.
@@ahmedbukhamsin4733 im 100% sure there are women who are like angels. no doubt. even if they are very few and our prophet said, most ppl in hellfire are women...sadly. but i think and i hope, that you lay ur trust into allah, because u cant control that. but you can actually "control" it or "search/find" the right women, by working on ur self and specially on ur heart. to clean urself, raise ur iman and to know and understand ur mistakes u did in the past and to know and understand the value of all things, specially women in this case. and learn to be TRUELY greatful for everything. so maybe allah will send the right and rightous women to you, which you could never have found by ur own if you would try to search for her ur whole life. everything begins within urself i think. like every matter in life. im in this process myself for more than 6 years and since 6 months allah wont let me sleep before i pray all 5 prayers. i never prayed or didnt know anything about islam. im a born muslim, but my familiy isnt pracitcing or teaching anything. so i think im on the right path, when allah called me to the prayer. which actually showed me how important the prayer probably is, if he forces me to do it. now i love to do it and i learned so much about islam. i think and hope this was and is the preparation for the rightous women and marriage. inshallah. if not in this life, then inshallah in the afterlife. its a hard journey, but with allah its all doable, without him and his signs/help everyday, i wouldnt be here anymore. so dont lose ur hope brother and find the most true and important love first, the love and relationship with allah. and then you are ready to love a woman and to have a triangle marriage with allah on the top and you and ur spouse on the buttom. as closer both of u get to allah, as closer you will get to each other. its very very interesting and true. may allah guide us all inshallah. selam.
If he or she is a regular Cheater, then only it will become paranoid for you. If it happened by an unfortunate situation, then you can rest assure, he or she will not do it again, nor would you be paranoid about it. Remember error occurred Allah Azawajaal did told us, He will forgive whatever sin which could happen. So we too we should forgive And move forward.
@@javidoozeer8092 but you dont know people. You can never be sure about what they are doing when you're not around. If your spouse cheats everytime they get a text or act suspicious you will worry about them cheating. If you cared about your marriage you wouldn't cheat and throw away all trust away. How do you respect someone that cheats on you.
@@maramra393 this is a very difficult topic in marriage life. There is not any good solution to this problem, rather each one have to look for a solution that fit their situation. I know how hard it is, Hopefully by Allah Azawajaal ......
@sanaa it is a possibility I agree. But there is no guarantee that someone else is better. Sometimes you can get a husband that is very loyal but which will beat you up for any reason. Thinking well, he might have faulted once or a few times but has agreed to change, but if he is a very generous and helpful husband with a superb manner, it is better to keep him rather than taking the risk of taking a new husband without any guarantee that he is better than the actual husband. There is no perfect spouse, some can be good in some ways and less in others. But sometimes we need to see where is better.
@@javidoozeer8092 You need to understand in humans cheating, it rarely happens out of the blue, men start talking to the woman they want, she allows him to talk to her and then she gets feelings for him. Then they spend time to together, touch each other, then share feelings, the guy is married, she will most likely invite him when her man is not home or go to a hotel/motel. And it never stops after one time, a woman in the meantime is not talking, alot on her phone, very cautious of when her husband walks in on her, she will also make herself look good for him. Cheating is psychological, and men cheat for lust, women for the feeling being desired and loved. Essentially its never a one time thing, it's a whole process.
@@RedaReda-vl9ff اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
Same here sighh Idk it’s like nowadays they want the girl to forgive her spouse and bare patience as long he feeds her and gives her money so if it’s cheating or talking to another woman as long he provides for u because she has kids But if it’s a guy they kill her most of the time or ruin her reputation bc she wasn’t supposed be a whore and protect her reputation Sighhh it’s so disgusting
If they repent, then forgive them. If they rebel, then temporary forsake them. If they want to make peace, then reconcile. If they repeat over and over the same offence, then leave them permanently. The adulterer and the adulteress are meant for each other.
Questions have to be asked first! the reason why they did that? what lead them to cheat? Counseling is needed by the imam to get to the bottom of this action! A decision need to be made! To leave or to stay together! Shaytan was all up in that situation! May Allah don't let this happen to any of us! Ameen 🤍💚
@@aisham1057 Lol yeh if my wife cheats I’ll ask her to sit down and calmly justify herself. Might as well ask her lover to join in. Do you think it’s best to make some tea for them as well?
My wife cheated on me i was in rage confused after a while I felt i have two choices leave or kill her i diceded to leave The only thing to do leave and never come back time will heal your wounds forgive and don't forget
Have you ever thought it could have been by your mistake, error, or unaffordable time, that she got the opportunity to cheat on you ? Anyway it was best you had moved away, rather than killing her. Because by now, Allah Azawajaal had already forgiven her, for she was the examination paper for you. Hope you had passed that test or else you are a loser.
As for the thief example he gave...i imagine if someone is starving they may end up stealing a loaf of bread out of desperation. That doesn't make stealing it right, but it definitely something a bit different than someone who steals continually just for the thrill of stealing, and doing so even though they have good healthy food at home 🏠 😢 Allah protect us from mistakes as these. 🤲
If you see your spouse cheating on you puts you in a position to think your worth their loyalty and destruction of trust I would send that person packing Allah knows what diseases they picked and can spread I wouldn’t by pass it
What is all this understanding and forgiveness coming from for this matter? There is punishment by 100 lashes in Quran and stoning to death according to hadith.
Do not call upon Allah Azawajaal to test you in that direction. Whenever you affirm something, It is like you are asking Allah Azawajaal to test you from that point. I hope you get my point.
@@selfruqyaguide اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
@@javidoozeer8092 اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
@@Ricestlover اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
Jazakallah khair A large number of families are being destroyed by a mere mistake by husband / wife. We must be very much cautious while communicating on whatsapp or Facebook messenger. Initially, it starts with religious, political messages. Then, some jokes come. And finally intimate chat starts. Humble request for males: please save your family.
Cheating is a Choice. Both man and woman are adults and wise; that's why they were in marriage in the first place. If either of them committed cheating than its safe to say that they are cheaters.
Divorce is an option. Its not the end. Sometime its better to be going our own way. If your wife cheat on you like will smith, dont be a simp. Just leave
SubhanAllah Allhumdulillah Allah Hu Akbar 🤲🏾 📿 🙏🏽 may Allah swt give us all guidance to stay on the SURATUL MUSTAQEEN and give us all TOFEEQ to cast shaytan out of our lives and give us mental strength 💪🏾 and capacity to make decisions that will help us in the future 🔮 rather than make life harder for us. Everyone is in the Duniya being tested with temptations and THE FITNA OF THE DAJALIA SYSTEM as women will be the most biggest followers of the DAJAL. 👍🏾 ♥ 🙏🏽 🤲🏾 📿
The man the hides the phone from his wife and his wife is not allowed to ask him question .... On go on it .. And he easily gets angry ... Bcz he dsnt want her to know anything about him .. What is marriage ... A relationship is a wife she know everything about her partner and her partner can not tell her ... If she needs to know anything about him.. He haves to tell ... So she can feel comfortable.. And feel loved from husband and she can feel safe around him .. What is this man called.. a coward and a dog ... And he dsnt fear Allah .. This isn't a real man at all ...
Riyad as-Salihin 32 Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Allah, the Exalted, says: 'I have no reward other than Jannah for a believing slave of Mine who remains patient for My sake when I take away his beloved one from among the inhabitants of the world". [Al- Bukhari]. Abu Sa'id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the breaking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience." I
Surah An Nur 24:6-10. It is haraam for men to be cuckold. Divorce needs to happen if the adulterer is caught. They aren't sorry for the sin if they never get caught. At the very least, divorce must happen. Also look up the tafsir on Al Lian. You cannot sugarcoat this offense.
Well i don't like to take the risk to be in marriage bcoz of this kind of problem , I clearly don't forgive ppl who backstab me when I give my trust to them so that why I don't really have hope to find a spouse in possible future , may Allah protect me from this problematic world and this problematic life.
Walaahi, twice...;( I'm left in depression still till today.im tryin. I swear if lies and cheating werent in his agenda he would have still have me.i couldn't anymore.
One cheater always repeater. Have a honor and never live with a cheater then you will have peace of heart and peace of mind.. do iftikhara and ask Allah permission
What did sharia law says regarding to the punishment about a spouse who make zina...? Anyone who married to someone commited adultery, he/she would have been buried and murdered by throwing stones to their head. Consider the above sharia law. How will they get second chance...?
Some one please give suggestion 😭 what should i do? I was going to Marry her and she cheated on me Its hard to forget her and so hard to forgive her i am in deep pain, Please pray for me May Allah make it easy for me to decide
Yes but this can only be enforced by Sharia court following the right laws, not for the husband or wife to stone each other. Still, stoning to death is not worse than cheating on a spouse.
My worst nightmare, I hope you can move on, heal, and grow closer to Allah. Even though humans are not loyal, Allah never abandons anyone. Believing in Allah is the greatest treasure in this life.
Answer this question Why do revert men get offered divorced/ exgirlfriends( " changed ") women , as if that's what they're worth and the actual fornicators get married to good women from villages back home? I've never understood this?
Very true acctually just learn the game bro life aint fair i know alot of guys clubbung and they always end with virgin good wives while the virgin guys always end with hoes😂
What if they are looking at things are not permissible. How can you have trust in the person? He is a good father. But he hides and watches things My heart is broken My heart is broken I don’t know what to do😢
When men cheat if feels like its expected and to just be forgiven. If a women cheats its a whole big discussion. Both r just as bad as each other. Its just the women whos ment to carry on like nothing happened.
Never take marriage advice from sheikhs i would rather get it from a pornstar than them wallah i saw a sheikh gaslight a man into forgiving his cheating wife and accepting her kid born out of cheating 🤦♂️
Hey I was caught texting other women in my relationship not once but twice! i seeked the attention of other women outside my spouse my spouse went through my phone and fond the women i was texting and text and called all these women to confirm if I've been having any sexual contact's with them they all told her no but she cant get over the fact that i even did it she feels broken and ended things i am extremely regretful and apologized 100 of times I fee; I ruined my life
In your next marriage, don’t make this mistake again. Speaking to other women is considered cheating to some people even if you are doing it just for attention. Unfortunately you have to face the consequences and lost her but I hope you change your ways and be happy in your next relationship.
Remember you will have to go there too, sooner or later. By sending her there through death, You would wiped off her sin with her blood, she will be as clean as the day prior to your marriage with her. On the other hand, you will be in Jahannam for, Murdering her Carrying her zina as it was your For being a bad husband. She will be in Jannah and enjoying.
@@javidoozeer8092 no man, look what you have to do if you catch someone cheating and doing zina, you have to death stone them. I'll get all her good deeds and she we will be in jahannam
He cheat at me and we talk and continue and impregnent her i have 2 boys with him and he continue proud him self about her women😢am not happy at all i suffer so much
What about the person who has made it a habit and has been caught off and on, still no effect.Besides makes false accusations and continues with his nonsense with a bold heart where there is no escape from the person because of the family concerns
the comments here are so wild. If you dont have the capability to forgive or if you think that youll be suspicious of them in an unhealthy manner then yes let them go but dont generalize your bad experiences for everyone. Dont tell everyone to say goodbye to their partners of 10-20 years over a wrong text or other sin. There is also levels to it as mentioned. Some can forgive small cheating others cant even do that. To each and their own. Haven't even mentioned the fact that some people have 4-5 kids and a divorce would impact not 2 people but 7 now. Stop being close minded.
True story : Muslim wife who cheats got caught, forgiven one time by husband, she lie swearing by Allah, then continue to cheats 100x worst. Husband has no choice : if he stays he's weak and will be cheated again, but the children are happy and he is dishonored. If he leaves children are unhappy, but he feels better. Once a cheater, always a cheater is true.
@@gouzanzei254bro wallah this sheikhs are so dumb the non muslim have tried the forgivness shit it never works thats qhy we have the saying once a cheater always a chapter btw after cheating your chance of doing it again is 3x.more
What do you mean like koi kisi ka rape karke aa jaye or spouse use maaf kar de ....ki ye shyd isse glti se ho gya hoga he is a good man 😂is that okay isse to sab apne apne spouse ko maaf karte rahenge or rishta bachate phirenge jabki they both know the fact .... isiliye to india me koi married man rape karta hai to biwiyo ko vishwash hi nhi hota ki mere aadmi ne aese kiya hoga or rishta bachane ke chkkr me andhi ho jati hai or defend karti rehti hai ...sad reality
Ask your wife what do you like in me to change? Be straight forward with me Do you want me to change my behavior? My Clothing style? What exactly will make you love me more?
I think this should come before they cheat Communication is key throught the marriage But if the husband blame themself for their spouse cheating, this is enabling her & enforce lower self esteem that will drop it down a bad spiral where it usually ends in her leaving & him hating himself I hope no person faces such a thing
It's scary to even think about it. I'm scared to get married. Those kinds of thoughts always run through my brain. We live in a time where it's hard to find the right person. May Allah make it easy for us. Ameen
Same
internet made it possible for sneaky conversations to happen and i think that paranoia is very bad in me, the worst combo ever
@@semirsinani1342 first of all getting married it's hard and finding the right person is more harder and top of all of that this same person is going to cheat on you that's crazy to even think about it.
@@mixshake3991 yes it is hard in all sides sadly
old age saying. ' When you find the 'one' you'll know' , and of course if Allah S.W.T wills it so 😁
Betray not the trusts given to you.Once the bond of trust is broken through infidelity the marraige is OVER.You will NEVER feel at peace or at ease with anything they tell you again.Its a torment,I know from experience. It's hard, but ending the marraige I's the best thing you can do for your mental & emotional health.
This advice will do nothing but make the innocent spouse continuously suspicious of the guilty. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship like that.
I don't know about other if someone cheating there is no place for him/her in my heart may Allah forgive them but my heart can't accept them 💔
Such a mistake is not a normal thing, if someone is so far and did this and you 'forgive', your brain and the waswaas will make you mad and unhappy..
"Once broken, consider sold!"
🤣 Just say bye to him/her. This kinda thing can't be a mistake; it's a choice. So just leave them
Did you even watch the video?
@@midnightpear886 zina is so many type the final one is their choice... Lustful look then sextings, then touching then physical... The last one is from their choice they know its a biggest sin, but they did they caught and saying its mistake" its not a mistake...
Facts
It's always a choice
Cheating it's totally unacceptable may ya Allah protect us from the trap of Satan Allaahumma Ameen!
One thing that I learned in this life is whatever you do Allah will show you in this life and the life after FOR SURE . You don’t have to put yourself in pain or cause them or others pain, Just remember Allah said that whatever good or bad you or others do it will be brought up on the day of judgement even if it weights as an atom and Allah is the best Judge. Good or worse this life will pass but what matters is eventually we are gonna meet the Creator and then we will complain to him as a child goes to his/her mother.
I disagree with the scholar when he said it. cheating on someone is a mistake. It's not just like You wake up one day in the morning and decide to cheat on your spouse. There has been talking and feeling and emotion exchange between two people.
I agree. In my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. Every single time I decided to stay with my ex husband, he cheated again. And again. And again. Each time caring less and less, until I came home one day and he had divorce papers waiting to be signed.
It is not a mistake, it’s malicious and I will never give a second chance again, to anyone.
@@vanillacreoleso sorry to hear that may Allah give you a better husband
@@vanillacreolefacts
the Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever prays Fajr in congregation then sits remembering Allaah until the sun rises, then prays two rak’ahs, (after 15 minutes of sunrise) will have a reward like that of Hajj and ‘Umrah, complete, complete, complete.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 3403.
Remember you must sit in the masjid till after 15 minutes of sunrise then pray 2 rakahs then you will get the reward. Check out the time of sunrise in your area and pray 2 rakhahs after 15 minutes of the time of sunrise then you will get the reward.
Cheating isn’t mistake and when trust is broken it could never get repainted
If you are among that situation, Nothing to be sad, ashemed or anger, walk the straight path on...this is life...Ameen.
I am walking this path. You are right nothing to be sad or angry. Alhamdulillah my relationship is with Allah now. I trust Allah with whatever trial he try me with. The only one who will always be there for you. The only one who will never betray you. The only one who deserve your devotion. May Allah make it easy for muslim bro and sis who undergo such trial. May Allah ease our chest and bring us closer in love with him. Ameen.
Once a cheater always a cheater- ( I'm female )
Not true
Agreed brother once they backstab you , don't give them a chance just leave them be in their sin and you just be with Allah alone bcoz only Allah never betray you .
Statistically speaking, he’s right. lol, studies out there show that if someone has cheated before, there’s a 100-350% chance they’ll cheat again.
Well said.
Well said
I have just found out few days ago my husband is cheating on me with men I’m nearly 8 months pregnant. This pain is unbearable. We have been in love and together for 10 years. I love him to bits I can’t believe he did this to me when I’m about to give birth soon I’m lost and going crazy. I don’t know what to do or whether to tell anyone. I’ve been crying none stop and in a bad state on my own asking Allah to guide me on what to do and what is best for me and my baby. I don’t think I can ever heal from this. I have never felt this much heart ache and damage.
So sorry to hear this my sister .. I’m in a similar situation.. may Allah fill your heart with peace and remove all the pain
How are feeling now sister???❤
Salam dear sis, we pray you are okay and safe insha’Allah? How r u sis? 💕
I pray to Allah to heal your heart
I am also going through this.
Was in shock when caught my husband
Did you divorce your husband. You deserve better@@thahirarizwana5714
Once trust is gone, you can never trust again. U start living but actually that's a compromise.
Imam Ali (as) used to say “Never make a promise in happiness and never make a decision in anger.”
Mashallah.
I hope success for you my belove brother in islam
fr? he a real one.
Don’t use (as) its just ali (ra)
@@sanislam6550 he’s from the shia because they’re the only one who add a.s
Exactly. You should wait for the nerves to come down, then stone her.
Once cheated cannot forgive.That person will not be the same person
Allah Guides people Many people who were horrible in past Allah has guided them
@@AMANKHAN-yr1zq True.Allah sw does guide them back to the right path but not back to the same person again.
@@Nozthedon1 No need to accept a cheater. The punishment for them in the Sharia is death, we can move on and marry again to good loyal people.
Facts
Forgiveness is between Lord and them. My job is to make the way.
I do not agree with what has been said on this video. The trust has now been broken and if the relationship continues, it would be one filled with suspicion. This is probably the greatest betrayal one can suffer in this world. Just because it's a Sheikh that's saying it, doesnt make it right thing. May Allah protect us.
May Allah SWT protect us from the sin of Zina which is a terrible sin to commit and cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice there's no mistake in that you can't justify cheating may Allah SWT protect us Amin
No you are wrong
@@rabbi619 are you saying you can justify cheating how so? Zina is still zina may Allah SWT protect us
@sanaa amin to that a cheater is a cheater no matter the situation you can't say 'oh i cheated because you work to har' or nothing it’s still a sin
@@zakariyajama8004 Dont make stuff ok we all sin even you so dont act like an angel and yes mistakes can happen and will happen no can stay sinless yes cheating even good people sometimes do this because they are weak. I am not justifying anything and i am also not saying that everyone will cheat but there will be a possibility because saitan is alive not dead.
@@rabbi619 subhanallah i'm not making anything up zina is a sin and commibtting adultery is a choice that people make nobody's forcing them i sin too yes but i will never commit zina i'll pray to Allah SWT for protection from it since humans are weak but Allah isn't
If they cheat then they’ll cheat again so you have only two hard choices, live together and not trust for rest of your life or leave straight away.
Sounds like one choice to me : leave straight away.
Cheating is really unacceptable...😅😂. For Men and women both Don't want a cheater...😂😅
May Allah give us righteous spouses
Ameen.
Asalamu alaikum. Can you please give a segment on spouses(in particular wives) who are being stalked and/or harass after separation or divorce?
This is an issue that many Imams are not discussing. Stalking/harassment causes mental and emotional stresses. Harassment can lead to physical abuse on the victims.
Jazak Allah khayr 🤲🏾
@@idkbruh5096one phone call will stop stalking/harassment???? Respectfully disagree….
My wife cheated on me and blamed me for cheating on her. She left me with my 2 year old son. She had been cheating on me for quite a long time, may be from the time we got married. One of my friends exposed her and she was very infuriated. Now she got married on the 16th of Oct, 2023 secretly and I am left alone.
I am sorry brother. Please remain strong and be a good example to your child. I will do dua for you. ❤
Allah is not with her , he is with you
She was supposed to get the death penalty according to sharia law. But obviously there are no country with sharia law now a days so always expect that there is no punishment for cheating.
The end of times are near.
انا لله وانا اليه راجعون
You r lucky. Thank to Allah..
Something similar happened to me but be assured she is a toxic narcissist and Allah spares you, now get your child and be there for the child to guide them InshAllah
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Alhamdulillah 🤲🏾 needed this Can everyone make Dua for me I’m really going through the ringer rn
Cheating is not a mistake it is a sin!! Once you forgive your husband and them he did once again that's a sin and that's is not a m8stake they mean it.
Cheating is a no go. Cant forgive this. I didnt touch a woman for 6 years now and im rdy to wait till next life to get the right wife from allah. But if someone cant even controll himself and cheat, eventho they already have a partner, their loyality and their faith is just as weak as they are. I would prefer living and dying alone, than having someone like this in my life. Ppl should know the value of a wife or husband. If u want to prevent cheating, then wait for the proper spouse. Be very sure, her body, her genetics, her eyes, her character, her heart, her soul should make you crazy. I think if u just look for character or just body or wealth, it wont be enough to stay together for ur whole life. Be patient, better late and right, than early and wrong.
I’m terrified of getting married I think all women cheat
@@ahmedbukhamsin4733 im 100% sure there are women who are like angels. no doubt. even if they are very few and our prophet said, most ppl in hellfire are women...sadly. but i think and i hope, that you lay ur trust into allah, because u cant control that. but you can actually "control" it or "search/find" the right women, by working on ur self and specially on ur heart. to clean urself, raise ur iman and to know and understand ur mistakes u did in the past and to know and understand the value of all things, specially women in this case. and learn to be TRUELY greatful for everything. so maybe allah will send the right and rightous women to you, which you could never have found by ur own if you would try to search for her ur whole life. everything begins within urself i think. like every matter in life. im in this process myself for more than 6 years and since 6 months allah wont let me sleep before i pray all 5 prayers. i never prayed or didnt know anything about islam. im a born muslim, but my familiy isnt pracitcing or teaching anything. so i think im on the right path, when allah called me to the prayer. which actually showed me how important the prayer probably is, if he forces me to do it. now i love to do it and i learned so much about islam. i think and hope this was and is the preparation for the rightous women and marriage. inshallah. if not in this life, then inshallah in the afterlife. its a hard journey, but with allah its all doable, without him and his signs/help everyday, i wouldnt be here anymore. so dont lose ur hope brother and find the most true and important love first, the love and relationship with allah. and then you are ready to love a woman and to have a triangle marriage with allah on the top and you and ur spouse on the buttom. as closer both of u get to allah, as closer you will get to each other. its very very interesting and true. may allah guide us all inshallah. selam.
@@FFeeLiT not true all women cheat
@@sunshinestar2244 u didnt touch anyone for 13 years?
@@FFeeLiT 13 years & 7 months. now.Celibacy is great and a commandment if your not married.Its nothing that should suprise you.😄
But if they cheat you just can't just trust them anymore and you will be paranoid all the time that they are doing things behind your back
If he or she is a regular Cheater,
then only it will become paranoid for you.
If it happened by an unfortunate situation, then you can rest assure, he or she will not do it again, nor would you be paranoid about it.
Remember error occurred
Allah Azawajaal did told us,
He will forgive whatever sin which could happen.
So we too we should forgive
And move forward.
@@javidoozeer8092 but you dont know people. You can never be sure about what they are doing when you're not around. If your spouse cheats everytime they get a text or act suspicious you will worry about them cheating. If you cared about your marriage you wouldn't cheat and throw away all trust away. How do you respect someone that cheats on you.
@@maramra393 this is a very difficult topic in marriage life.
There is not any good solution to this problem, rather each one have to look for a solution that fit their situation.
I know how hard it is,
Hopefully by Allah Azawajaal ......
@sanaa it is a possibility I agree.
But there is no guarantee that someone else is better.
Sometimes you can get a husband that is very loyal but which will beat you up for any reason.
Thinking well, he might have faulted once or a few times but has agreed to change, but if he is a very generous and helpful husband with a superb manner, it is better to keep him rather than taking the risk of taking a new husband without any guarantee that he is better than the actual husband.
There is no perfect spouse, some can be good in some ways and less in others. But sometimes we need to see where is better.
@@javidoozeer8092 You need to understand in humans cheating, it rarely happens out of the blue, men start talking to the woman they want, she allows him to talk to her and then she gets feelings for him. Then they spend time to together, touch each other, then share feelings, the guy is married, she will most likely invite him when her man is not home or go to a hotel/motel. And it never stops after one time, a woman in the meantime is not talking, alot on her phone, very cautious of when her husband walks in on her, she will also make herself look good for him. Cheating is psychological, and men cheat for lust, women for the feeling being desired and loved. Essentially its never a one time thing, it's a whole process.
mash allah Love from Bangladesh 🥰🥰🥰
First comment💚💚
You are a beauthifull person,take care my friend from bangladesh,have a good day/night
Who is proud to be a part of UMMAT E MUHAMMAD SAW
couldn't care less, if someone cheats you leave them
OMG FIRST TIME IM EARLY FOR SOMETHING, Alhamdulillah 😌
Why you cheated on someone ???
I hope success and peace for you
May Allah bless us all Ameen
I hope success for you a lot of happinness my brother in islam
@@RedaReda-vl9ff اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
INSHALLAHnAmee
INSHALLAH
As Salamu Alaikum I am going through this very situation right now, I really needed this right now. Thank you from my heart
Same here sighh
Idk it’s like nowadays they want the girl to forgive her spouse and bare patience as long he feeds her and gives her money so if it’s cheating or talking to another woman as long he provides for u because she has kids
But if it’s a guy they kill her most of the time or ruin her reputation bc she wasn’t supposed be a whore and protect her reputation
Sighhh it’s so disgusting
Wa alaikum asalam I'm really sorry for your situation :(
Same here. Except it was my wife who committed adultery I caught them on our bed. Came home early from work and I heard everything on cctv
@@shawnkay5462 bro I'm really sorry for your situation ;(
I’m so sorry, I know how gut wrenching it is. May Allah heal you.
If they repent, then forgive them. If they rebel, then temporary forsake them. If they want to make peace, then reconcile. If they repeat over and over the same offence, then leave them permanently. The adulterer and the adulteress are meant for each other.
Thank u so much brother
@@maseratione5231 Alhamdulillah brother. To God belongs all praise.
Well said
JZK
Khasarah people should be together until Yumal Hiyam for Allah to make Full Justice.
Or become numb towards them….work on getting rid of your emotions towards that person. Make them realise that you’re not cheap
"Once broken, consider sold!"
Now a days it is way too wide spread in both men and women in all religions. There must be made a balance. To stop this destruction of families.
Allah knows best may he give recompense in this life or the hereafter
Betrayal is so hurtful. You are giving a life sentence of pain to your partner.
Alhamdulillah !!!
I hope success for you and happinness
such golden advice
Its diamond advice
SubhaaAllah jajak Allah khairan MUFTI Mank 🤲💓💐🌺😟😥Ameen
Questions have to be asked first! the reason why they did that? what lead them to cheat? Counseling is needed by the imam to get to the bottom of this action! A decision need to be made! To leave or to stay together! Shaytan was all up in that situation! May Allah don't let this happen to any of us! Ameen 🤍💚
I hope success for you sister
@sanaa you don't know what Allah has planned for them! stop jumping to conclusions! Only Allah knows!
@@aisham1057 Lol yeh if my wife cheats I’ll ask her to sit down and calmly justify herself. Might as well ask her lover to join in. Do you think it’s best to make some tea for them as well?
I truly believe it is a character deficit or a symptom of a personality disorder.
@@samia6888facts
My wife cheated on me i was in rage confused after a while I felt i have two choices leave or kill her i diceded to leave The only thing to do leave and never come back time will heal your wounds forgive and don't forget
Dude wth why did you have the thought of killing her la hawla wala quwata ila bilah but alhamdulilah brother glad you left.
Kill her? you are so doomed, Allah would have not forgiven you if you had taken her soul.
Have you ever thought it could have been by your mistake, error, or unaffordable time, that she got the opportunity to cheat on you ?
Anyway it was best you had moved away, rather than killing her.
Because by now, Allah Azawajaal had already forgiven her, for she was the examination paper for you.
Hope you had passed that test or else you are a loser.
I hope for you peace in your life my brother,have a good day/night and dont forget,you are beauthifull
It just happened 2 me bro with a guy I called my friend, want 2 kill them both but 👎 I left also
As for the thief example he gave...i imagine if someone is starving they may end up stealing a loaf of bread out of desperation. That doesn't make stealing it right, but it definitely something a bit different than someone who steals continually just for the thrill of stealing, and doing so even though they have good healthy food at home 🏠 😢 Allah protect us from mistakes as these. 🤲
If you see your spouse cheating on you puts you in a position to think your worth their loyalty and destruction of trust I would send that person packing Allah knows what diseases they picked and can spread I wouldn’t by pass it
Agreed. I mean, at that point there’s no marriage left at all. It’s best to split.
@sanaa or just move on without forgiving
What is all this understanding and forgiveness coming from for this matter? There is punishment by 100 lashes in Quran and stoning to death according to hadith.
You can be the poorest man, have the b3st character I will love u for eternity...but don't lie to me or cheat.nooo😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Completely fair, I do :)
Do not call upon Allah Azawajaal to test you in that direction.
Whenever you affirm something,
It is like you are asking Allah Azawajaal to test you from that point.
I hope you get my point.
@@selfruqyaguide اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
@@javidoozeer8092 اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
@@Ricestlover اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
Can you please make dua for me to Allah to accept all my dua's. Can you please make dua particularly for helping me concentrate in halal medical studies.
Jazakallah khair
A large number of families are being destroyed by a mere mistake by husband / wife.
We must be very much cautious while communicating on whatsapp or Facebook messenger. Initially, it starts with religious, political messages. Then, some jokes come. And finally intimate chat starts.
Humble request for males: please save your family.
I’m in unhappy marriage right now only my sabir let me to stay I want the right spouse make duaa for me I deserve the best men
You are already emotionaly cheating smh just divorce instead of thinking about other men🙄🤦♂️
to see these reactions i now understand a bit better why the ummah is so humiliated
what do you mean?
@@hasibabdullah3463 Main cause is Muslims arent following the Quran and Snnah properly en masse
Facts
If my cheating spouse marries again and be happy no problem for me. A single life with self respect is more important for me.
Cheating is a Choice. Both man and woman are adults and wise; that's why they were in marriage in the first place. If either of them committed cheating than its safe to say that they are cheaters.
Divorce is an option. Its not the end. Sometime its better to be going our own way. If your wife cheat on you like will smith, dont be a simp. Just leave
Hey! That was an entanglement
Fr
SubhanAllah Allhumdulillah Allah Hu Akbar 🤲🏾 📿 🙏🏽 may Allah swt give us all guidance to stay on the SURATUL MUSTAQEEN and give us all TOFEEQ to cast shaytan out of our lives and give us mental strength 💪🏾 and capacity to make decisions that will help us in the future 🔮 rather than make life harder for us. Everyone is in the Duniya being tested with temptations and THE FITNA OF THE DAJALIA SYSTEM as women will be the most biggest followers of the DAJAL. 👍🏾 ♥ 🙏🏽 🤲🏾 📿
It too scary😢😢i dont have more courage to bear these things😢😢😢
Why not even sinle chance to be good and loyal. What do you think?
The man the hides the phone from his wife and his wife is not allowed to ask him question .... On go on it ..
And he easily gets angry ... Bcz he dsnt want her to know anything about him .. What is marriage ...
A relationship is a wife she know everything about her partner and her partner can not tell her ... If she needs to know anything about him.. He haves to tell ... So she can feel comfortable.. And feel loved from husband and she can feel safe around him ..
What is this man called.. a coward and a dog ... And he dsnt fear Allah .. This isn't a real man at all ...
He cheating
Riyad as-Salihin 32
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Allah, the Exalted, says: 'I have no reward other than Jannah for a believing slave of Mine who remains patient for My sake when I take away his beloved one from among the inhabitants of the world".
[Al- Bukhari].
Abu Sa'id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
"Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the breaking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience."
I
Surah An Nur 24:6-10. It is haraam for men to be cuckold. Divorce needs to happen if the adulterer is caught. They aren't sorry for the sin if they never get caught. At the very least, divorce must happen. Also look up the tafsir on Al Lian. You cannot sugarcoat this offense.
It's true, you should give people the chance to redeem themselves
if you to soft the will repeat it infinity on you, bc you will forgive no metter what she will keep cheating on you bc you will forgive
@@QUANT_PAPA work on your English 👍
I hope success and happinness for you my brother in islam,you are beauthifull
Well i don't like to take the risk to be in marriage bcoz of this kind of problem , I clearly don't forgive ppl who backstab me when I give my trust to them so that why I don't really have hope to find a spouse in possible future , may Allah protect me from this problematic world and this problematic life.
@@zengetsugaming1990 No you have to get married you should be forced!
Walaahi, twice...;( I'm left in depression still till today.im tryin.
I swear if lies and cheating werent in his agenda he would have still have me.i couldn't anymore.
Thank Allah that you did not cheat so you are blessed.
Stay with him he will become good
@@rabbi619 no way!
@@samia6888 Yes
Cheating is cheating. Period.
One cheater always repeater. Have a honor and never live with a cheater then you will have peace of heart and peace of mind.. do iftikhara and ask Allah permission
Facts
Most brothers would NEVER forgive their wife for cheating. In fact, there is a good chance she would killed.
What did sharia law says regarding to the punishment about a spouse who make zina...?
Anyone who married to someone commited adultery, he/she would have been buried and murdered by throwing stones to their head.
Consider the above sharia law.
How will they get second chance...?
Some one please give suggestion 😭 what should i do?
I was going to Marry her and she cheated on me
Its hard to forget her and so hard to forgive her i am in deep pain,
Please pray for me May Allah make it easy for me to decide
I don’t think you should - she might do it in the marriage as well idk tho
If a person is also not good to you even after a single time after marriage
Arent the punishment for adulterers who are married is stoning to death according to islam?
Can't stone them to death in the west.🤣
Yes but this can only be enforced by Sharia court following the right laws, not for the husband or wife to stone each other. Still, stoning to death is not worse than cheating on a spouse.
I am currently going through this.
My worst nightmare, I hope you can move on, heal, and grow closer to Allah. Even though humans are not loyal, Allah never abandons anyone. Believing in Allah is the greatest treasure in this life.
People who cheat always threaten their spouse for divorce. Specially men do this alot..
Allah exposed them, they were caught and yet they are still carrying on with this sin and are being shameless about it.
What about 2 or 3 times and she still say Allah eill forget her
If there's no fault from your side then leave them and get divorce as fast as possible 😁
Even if there is fault no excuse for cheating
@@suhaibsuhaib5947 then go n get divorce
Answer this question
Why do revert men get offered divorced/ exgirlfriends( " changed ") women , as if that's what they're worth and the actual fornicators get married to good women from villages back home?
I've never understood this?
What?
The village is worse...been there...they just act good and simple.
Divorced women are not bad. Lol you are delusional. Be grateful you aren’t divorced and considered less than by judgmental people.
Very true acctually just learn the game bro life aint fair i know alot of guys clubbung and they always end with virgin good wives while the virgin guys always end with hoes😂
What if they are looking at things are not permissible. How can you have trust in the person? He is a good father. But he hides and watches things
My heart is broken
My heart is broken
I don’t know what to do😢
I pray for you, may Allah heal your heart and let you husband stop hiding and watching things. It is heartbreaking.
When men cheat if feels like its expected and to just be forgiven. If a women cheats its a whole big discussion. Both r just as bad as each other. Its just the women whos ment to carry on like nothing happened.
why isn’t there a proper sentencing on cheating. fking hell.
What happens when they play such a game where your left paralysed
I’m sorry but no there are no second chances for cheating. May Allah forgive them but I’m gone after that.
Never take marriage advice from sheikhs i would rather get it from a pornstar than them wallah i saw a sheikh gaslight a man into forgiving his cheating wife and accepting her kid born out of cheating 🤦♂️
4:24 subhannah good for her, but there's always a reason.
If they cheats more than three times?
Hey I was caught texting other women in my relationship not once but twice! i seeked the attention of other women outside my spouse my spouse went through my phone and fond the women i was texting and text and called all these women to confirm if I've been having any sexual contact's with them they all told her no but she cant get over the fact that i even did it she feels broken and ended things i am extremely regretful and apologized 100 of times I fee; I ruined my life
In your next marriage, don’t make this mistake again. Speaking to other women is considered cheating to some people even if you are doing it just for attention. Unfortunately you have to face the consequences and lost her but I hope you change your ways and be happy in your next relationship.
Alhamdullilah she did the best props to her. 🎉
اللهم صل وسلم على سيدنا ومولانا محمد عبدك ورسولك النبي الأمي وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم
Nice
I will send her to Allah SWT
Remember you will have to go there too, sooner or later.
By sending her there through death,
You would wiped off her sin with her blood, she will be as clean as the day prior to your marriage with her.
On the other hand,
you will be in Jahannam for,
Murdering her
Carrying her zina as it was your
For being a bad husband.
She will be in Jannah and enjoying.
@@javidoozeer8092 no man, look what you have to do if you catch someone cheating and doing zina, you have to death stone them. I'll get all her good deeds and she we will be in jahannam
allah will send you to hell for killing her
I will send her to Allah and Allah will send her to Jahannam
😂
He cheat at me and we talk and continue and impregnent her i have 2 boys with him and he continue proud him self about her women😢am not happy at all i suffer so much
What about the person who has made it a habit and has been caught off and on, still no effect.Besides makes false accusations and continues with his nonsense with a bold heart where there is no escape from the person because of the family concerns
I hope every bad husband gets punish ya rab
& what about the bad wives?
Can not believe. This man is justifying levels of cheating!!!
Subhannallah
It takes two to tango.
Its like prostitution but with extra steps
the comments here are so wild. If you dont have the capability to forgive or if you think that youll be suspicious of them in an unhealthy manner then yes let them go but dont generalize your bad experiences for everyone. Dont tell everyone to say goodbye to their partners of 10-20 years over a wrong text or other sin. There is also levels to it as mentioned. Some can forgive small cheating others cant even do that. To each and their own. Haven't even mentioned the fact that some people have 4-5 kids and a divorce would impact not 2 people but 7 now. Stop being close minded.
True story : Muslim wife who cheats got caught, forgiven one time by husband, she lie swearing by Allah, then continue to cheats 100x worst. Husband has no choice : if he stays he's weak and will be cheated again, but the children are happy and he is dishonored. If he leaves children are unhappy, but he feels better. Once a cheater, always a cheater is true.
@@gouzanzei254bro wallah this sheikhs are so dumb the non muslim have tried the forgivness shit it never works thats qhy we have the saying once a cheater always a chapter btw after cheating your chance of doing it again is 3x.more
if you are a man be patient with your wife
A blessed child will never be with the cursed.
Bro
Tell her to go and cheat you hence you will be patient because you are a real man?
Simp!
Be patient, while she gets launched on the ceiling like in scary movie.
🤡
What would you do mufti menk. Why do you act like you would accept it.
I’m in unhappy marriage my husband is very abusive and mean to me he also entertains a women who is not me I want Divorce but I have kids with him
Who cares about kids just leave
What do you mean like koi kisi ka rape karke aa jaye or spouse use maaf kar de ....ki ye shyd isse glti se ho gya hoga he is a good man 😂is that okay isse to sab apne apne spouse ko maaf karte rahenge or rishta bachate phirenge jabki they both know the fact .... isiliye to india me koi married man rape karta hai to biwiyo ko vishwash hi nhi hota ki mere aadmi ne aese kiya hoga or rishta bachane ke chkkr me andhi ho jati hai or defend karti rehti hai ...sad reality
At this moment I found my husband is cheating me. Im blank I don't no how to react morning 😭😭😭. Please make dua for my life I have a 2 little kids
Same i have a baby girl im devastated
How are you doin now?
Divorce
Ask your wife what do you like in me to change?
Be straight forward with me
Do you want me to change my behavior? My Clothing style? What exactly will make you love me more?
I think this should come before they cheat
Communication is key throught the marriage
But if the husband blame themself for their spouse cheating, this is enabling her & enforce lower self esteem that will drop it down a bad spiral where it usually ends in her leaving & him hating himself
I hope no person faces such a thing