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Miranda Priestly Vs Amy Dunne: Two Types Of Narcissism You Never Noticed (By A Licensed Therapist)
This video essay explores the intriguing contrast between overt and covert narcissism through the lens of two iconic movie characters: Miranda Priestly from The Devil Wears Prada (20th Century Fox) and Amy Dunne from Gone Girl (20th Century Fox). Miranda Priestly represents overt narcissism with her commanding presence, lack of empathy, and obsession with control in the high-stakes fashion world. In contrast, Amy Dunne embodies covert narcissism, hiding her manipulative tendencies behind a facade of victimhood, weaving a web of deceit to achieve her goals.
#gonegirl #devilwearsprada #movies #narcissism
I delve into the psychology behind these characters, analyzing their behaviors, motivations, and interpersonal strategies. What drives their narcissistic tendencies? How do their traits manifest differently? By examining their fictional stories, we uncover valuable insights into these two distinct expressions of narcissism.
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This video may contain copyright material; the use of which has not been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. This material is made available under section 107 of the Copyright Act of 1976, allowance is made "fair use" for the purposes such as criticism, comment, review, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, education and research. All rights belong to its owners.
00:00 - Who is a Narcissist?
00:43 - Miranda Priestly As An Overt Narcissist
04:05 - Amy Dunne As A Covert Narcissist
Hi! I’m Jourdan Travers, LCSW, a licensed clinical therapist and Clinical Director of Awake Therapy, making videos about mental health, relationships, wellness, and finding our purpose. I am available for online therapy.
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3 Tips To Craft ☀️Affirmations☀️That ACTUALLY work! (From A Licensed Therapist)
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Discover the power of affirmations with the 3 P's: Positive, Present, and Personal! In this video, we dive deep into how affirmations can reshape your mindset and boost your self-confidence. Learn why they need to be positive to uplift you, present to ground you in the moment, and personal to truly resonate with your unique journey. 00:00 - How do affirmations actually work? 01:06 - Affirmation...
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  • @anadubar4819
    @anadubar4819 11 годин тому

    I automatically mirror their behaviour. He is breadcrumbing me leads to me breadcrumbing him. Which confuses him and makes him insecure. And then I either loose interest or I get annoyed. Either way, it's over.

  • @ArpitaSinha
    @ArpitaSinha 5 днів тому

    Great work. Keep them coming!

  • @mimipacheco
    @mimipacheco 6 днів тому

    Saying it like it’s already true is key w affirmations! Love the video

  • @christopherbullens5494
    @christopherbullens5494 7 днів тому

    I just found out I was bread crumbed. She kept. Sending. Me photos of your kids. But never wanted to see me. Because there was no time. She had no time for a relationship now we work together. Again and she is married. I gave her photos back. She. Said thank u acted like it was no big deal

  • @totalwomanja9105
    @totalwomanja9105 8 днів тому

    Thank you for these tips. I’ll be working on these with my niece.

  • @mikecamps7226
    @mikecamps7226 9 днів тому

    PSYCHOLOGY CREATING VOCABULARY WORDS FOR SELF PROMOTION OF A GARBAGE PROFESSION FLOUNDERING IN DESPERATION AND GRASPING AT STRAWS FOR JUSTIFICATION AND VALIDATION ! WHAT A COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY WASTE OF TIME & MONEY AND BEING RIPPED OFF ! BTW....NICE ADMISSION OF MISCALCULATION AND REASONING AND DISPLAY OF ACQUIRED INTELLIGENCE....SO TEXTBOOK ! DID THE ADVISOR MENTION.....ALL SALES ARE FINAL ???

  • @Eyedtornado11
    @Eyedtornado11 10 днів тому

    💯 Hear you, definitely a positive approach for each question.. Can you give us advice on what to do if "we" get gaslighted by the "breadcrumber" Because more ofter than not, they cannot self reflect to a point where they can comprehend what's being said to them.. The most appropriate approach majority of the time is to walk away and say nothing. If they are unaware that this is what they are doing, they will definitely lack the comprehension to being "called out" on their behaviour ☕🌻

  • @CarolOwen-cj4sq
    @CarolOwen-cj4sq 10 днів тому

    Oh great, but what about Adult children????

  • @catesinnl2965
    @catesinnl2965 11 днів тому

    Can you say this that you want consistent communication when he is clear we are just fwb.

  • @catesinnl2965
    @catesinnl2965 11 днів тому

    I block him

  • @Eyedtornado11
    @Eyedtornado11 12 днів тому

    Bless you😅🌻🌻

  • @timothybell5698
    @timothybell5698 12 днів тому

    are women really out here watching these videos like I watch videos about how to learn the circle of fifths on piano? that's crazy. i knew men were bad but... that's crazy. i'm sorry, ladies -- not that i've ever done anything untoward, it just seems worse than I thought it was.

  • @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi
    @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi 13 днів тому

    There is no point in doing all this!! The bottom line is that *real man* don’t behave like this!! Only immature men behave like this!! Just walk away and move on!! Simple!!

  • @viiixen
    @viiixen 16 днів тому

    I was sexually abused when I was younger and I don’t think I’m truly over it. But me and this other guy dated and we shared ourselves with each other and he left me. And I told him about my sexual abuse too. Even when we were intimate I remember I would tell him to stop but he didn’t. He never was gentle with me.

  • @lee48lee68
    @lee48lee68 16 днів тому

    You’re a Licensed Therapist and you’re telling people to lower themselves to the level of someone who breadcrumbs? If you have children, is this what you’d advise them to do? When someone doesn’t value your life, LEAVE THEM.

  • @lindatyner3349
    @lindatyner3349 21 день тому

    I hope you dropped that "friend."

  • @v.t.curtains2848
    @v.t.curtains2848 23 дні тому

    Women should never go beyond breadcrumbing we can barely handle that as it is 🙌

  • @berearose
    @berearose 23 дні тому

    Could bread crumbing be poverty? These all seem like things I do because I'm poor and busy with family. Single moms really can't date.😢

  • @gauravchoudhary5984
    @gauravchoudhary5984 24 дні тому

    Interesting insights 😮

  • @lauranydb7979
    @lauranydb7979 25 днів тому

    Then reply, I know, you would have to buy one that fits a Chucky doll. 😂

  • @neha-j4h
    @neha-j4h 25 днів тому

    Thank you so much, doc. I was in my first-ever relationship and was experiencing the same. But I decided enough is enough; it was not good for my mental health, and I decided to move on. I got to know about this term today, and it all makes sense.

  • @EdgiB0Do
    @EdgiB0Do 27 днів тому

    She sends one text and then stays silent as I text back and repeatedly dig myself into a hole for her to exploit later. She says she just wants to spend time with me without me switching but realistically she just wants me to behave and accept my crumbs while she gives someone else the whole loaf

  • @captainmycaptain4195
    @captainmycaptain4195 27 днів тому

    That's called Love bombing

  • @AUSTRALIANAMADE
    @AUSTRALIANAMADE 27 днів тому

    filmed in a shower for 7yrs by a friend, distributed. the only way to self care and heal is to accept it is not happening right now. The gold is that it can be used any minute. It works, it has kept me here to raise my daughter.

  • @Miss_U_12
    @Miss_U_12 28 днів тому

    A.K.A. "Love-Bombing"

  • @vernita0216
    @vernita0216 Місяць тому

    1 - 4. Leave.

  • @mossicely
    @mossicely Місяць тому

    Online I think being the key word here. I feel like these are normal questions if you met in person before or are acquaintances and already kinda have chemistry going. The thing that's so tough about online dating in my experience is most peoples profiles say nothing about how they actually are as a person. Hobbies and stuff change over time, they don't matter too much other than as an icebreaker, but that's the kind of thing so many people talk about or find important. I've been on so many dates where you're chill in the texting phase but when you meet up there's just a mismatch of energy. You might find the other person attractive physically or other qualities attractive on paper, but it doesn't tell you anything about what it will be like to sit and joke with them, and spend time together. That's what it's all about at the end of the day, finding someone you want to spend time with. A first date off a dating app should just be a feeler to see if you both want to go on a "real" first date.

  • @patriot-hj5vx
    @patriot-hj5vx Місяць тому

    Ladies! A breadcrumber hates to be breadcrumbed! As an assertive young female, i attracted a lot of flimsy men who breadcrumbed and were all too happy to let me do all the work. I started matching energy and texting their own words back to them. "Nothing much new with me" "All is good thanks." Within weeks a guy demanded whether i hated him. He then unfollowed me on socials and stopped reaching out at all. Try it! It drives them crazy muahaha 😂

  • @marinvidovic763
    @marinvidovic763 Місяць тому

    It is unbeleveable that * at One hand modern women expect relationship "*To lead to SOMEWHERE !" ... without realising, at the other hand * to WHERE it goes for any modern men. (*This inability is unbeleveble.) e.g. Allan Harper's case -"2 & 1/2 men" series. Better question here is Isn't any modern mariage an act of bredcrumbing by modern manipulative women to lead a men into a disasterous Allan'$ ... scenario ? What is exactly women"s comitment ? Can you describe Judith's exact comitments to Allan ... comparing to Allan's very exact , please ?

  • @goldbrick2563
    @goldbrick2563 Місяць тому

    Just walk away. Don't waste your time.

  • @21copyCat
    @21copyCat Місяць тому

    If they SHOW interest but don’t make moves- they got a wife or girlfriend

  • @Havana_ooh_na_na
    @Havana_ooh_na_na Місяць тому

    my boyfriend pressured me to have seggs with him on multiple occasions and I said no. he always told me I pu$$yed out which made me upset. he told me that he was disappointed bc he never got what he wanted. One day I gave in. I never wanted to, I was visibly uncomfortable and he knew that but he didn't care, I told him to stop and he didn't. Not only did he not stop but put his hands on me and held me down and slammed my head into the trunk of his car and left a bruise on my head. currently going through an investigation about it and hoping to recover soon.

    • @Ash-x9m
      @Ash-x9m Місяць тому

      You made him upset that’s your fault

    • @km915313
      @km915313 7 днів тому

      I cant imagine how this person can be so unsympathetic, you are nothing but just freaking garbage!

    • @km915313
      @km915313 7 днів тому

      Havana It's okay not to be okay sometimes...IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT NEVER BELIEVE IT WAS YOUR FAULT, IT WAS HIS FAULT AND IT WILL BE HIS FAULT;Have hope in life i hope your life gets better

  • @jlm517rocks
    @jlm517rocks Місяць тому

    50/50 mom & dad... duh...

  • @simonep1104
    @simonep1104 Місяць тому

    Hells no! - rest all’s okay but when adopting a direct approach please don’t say - ‘ I feel frustrated and start to spiral’ ! Whoa. The breadcrumber is anyways playing games with you and this literally is giving away your power and letting them know how much they affect you. They’ll probably get a high of this. Calling them out okay - but just extremely short and non emotional. If you can’t make a real plan stop wasting my time.

  • @MS-ns4ki
    @MS-ns4ki Місяць тому

    I just left . I feel this time there is no turning back now . I would be a fool to put myself with somebody that doesn’t want a child when I have a child and doesn’t want anything that I do and keep a life completely separate from me come on. I don’t deserve that and we know this American people.

  • @DGardener-pu9kz
    @DGardener-pu9kz Місяць тому

    YES

  • @god_oreoz
    @god_oreoz Місяць тому

    I got called out lol

  • @justAsmileyface
    @justAsmileyface Місяць тому

    I always wanted to say this, i also thought this was over so heres my story.. 2021 I was living in my grandma's house cuz my mom had to deal with my father's abuse of drinking, then it was the start of the pandemic, my mom met a new man named Raymond, thought he was a nice guy till he wasnt, after he married my mom. 2022 Everyday he did weird things to me teaming up with my brother, making me confused and when i told my mom my back hurts after working all day i let my step dad do it at that time, but i never thought he would do such things to me i told my mom she kicked him out but 1 month later i thought she finally understand me! 2024 she agreed my step dad visit, till it was his birthday, Nov 23 so while he was there i couldnt say "hi" or "bless u po" or even "happy birthday" i felt frustrated and when i look at him he has this cold, distant personality he looked mad at me like i did a crime! So after that, i made an OC who understands me by adding a trauma similar to it, so whenever i felt hurt ill just imagine my oc, hugging me. My OCs name btw is Nolan, if any are wondering *pretty shocking how i feel normal saying this in online but in irl its hard like even my mouth can't say what he did to me like it was disgusted.*

    • @dulcepicosa
      @dulcepicosa Місяць тому

      Everyone says to just talk to a therapist but how can we when we can barely say it out loud.

    • @justAsmileyface
      @justAsmileyface Місяць тому

      @@dulcepicosa so true fr

  • @CaseyMartin
    @CaseyMartin Місяць тому

    What are the signs?

  • @marinvidovic763
    @marinvidovic763 Місяць тому

    To make "*a convinience" from : MIXING Your * saliva * blood and * body Aura WITH strangers from the pubs, bars and bus stations is The Craziest IDEA ever propagated, ...

  • @marinvidovic763
    @marinvidovic763 Місяць тому

    We live in a New Time of the hystory of human relationships ( in the West), Times WHERE ... Nobody can't aford to be ..." Yours" or " ...into You " . ..etc.. ( all that old romantic Stuff) ... simply ... . because : * You are NOT Those romantic ladies from the past ! .... ( just compare pictures of their outlook and modern candidates from the cityscape, and city kerbs of today ) ... mind banding. This Present legal framework transformed (!!!) every women IRESPECTIVELY ... into a literly DEVA$$$TATING dangeriou$ 💔💔💔💔💔 Landmine . So what do you expect ? ... ( if you have any % of Logical thinking?) ... Women created an EPYDEMIC of male cautiousness (* ©induced Narcissisam) . .. simply by manipulative Legal system. Only realistic response , for men, tiday, is ... to go into Charly Harper Life style (* 2 & 1/2 men)(!) ....until You insist on legal changes.

  • @marinvidovic763
    @marinvidovic763 Місяць тому

    "*Well, ... I'll be damned ! ... ... HERE Comes Your ghost again !" ... 🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊 ... 🌀🌀🌀🌀 ... 💔💔💔💔 * * * - - - * * * November 1974. Somewhere in the WWW of real Life (*) ... ... (*after years of pain, grief and .... gradual healing) (??? realy ???) ... A sudden telephone call.... in the night of a Full Moon 🌕 . and... Suddenly A tidal waves begin to rise and bring to the surface , from the depths of our memories Strange feeling of love , conflicting imediatelly with feelings of pain and massaging 🚩 from the Logical side of our brain .... And such a nice combination of sounds and Lyrics delicately DEPICTING sudden fluffy, deep, romantic pictures ( in the brain of the Targeted person): *"Now,..) see you ... ..... (here ... ... There... 😮😢 Everywhere ! ) One of the nicest ghosting song ever. and " Judas priests " gave it such a good male version that proofs that man has very deep feelings, but in the proces of growing Up , learned to master them ( or become alcoholics, drugg adicts and destroy themselves.) Joan Baez " Dimond and rust". * 1974. (* Long Time berefe VIRTUAL (fake life) and WWW Took over our Real LIFE . )

  • @Razz-kt9rg
    @Razz-kt9rg Місяць тому

    Thank you!!!!!!❤

  • @Molly07518
    @Molly07518 Місяць тому

    I am experiencing that now. I met a guy and he asked me for my phone number. He started giving me awkward signals. He didn't ask me about my day, he just wanted to know what I was doing and what I was going to do next. I noticed that he was breadcrumbing when I saw that his answers were very very short and he didn't answer my questions. Thanks for explaining that to me, in Spanish I would say 'migajear' or 'dar migajas'

  • @Molly07518
    @Molly07518 Місяць тому

    Why do a person do this?

  • @teamjesus6383
    @teamjesus6383 Місяць тому

    Anytime i’ve ever experienced this and it becomes obvious, the minute i call them out is the minute the narcissist in them manifests. They play the victim or rage, and most likely start stonewalling, ghosting, or end up blocked

    • @JourdanTravers
      @JourdanTravers Місяць тому

      Setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being are crucial in these situations. Thanks for sharing your experience!

  • @mauricematla8379
    @mauricematla8379 Місяць тому

    You don't know that. Particularly not without knowing me.

  • @AVINASHJADHAV-m5k
    @AVINASHJADHAV-m5k 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for giving information,now I am feeling better 🙏🏻

  • @polinastroikova9551
    @polinastroikova9551 2 місяці тому

    Hi! Is it a dissociation if I lose sense of where I am and what I'm doing for a few seconds? (Maybe even who I am) It happens to me at work sometimes. It's like not remembering/recognizing(?) anything for a second or two.

    • @JourdanTravers
      @JourdanTravers Місяць тому

      Hi! Brief moments like this can sometimes be mild dissociation, especially if you’re stressed or fatigued, but they can also happen for other reasons, like lapses in attention or sleep issues. If it’s frequent or concerning, a mental health professional could help explore it further. Thanks for sharing-it’s more common than you might think!

    • @polinastroikova9551
      @polinastroikova9551 Місяць тому

      @JourdanTravers Thank you ❤️

  • @marinvidovic763
    @marinvidovic763 2 місяці тому

    Deleting coments is a big BIG 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Unfortunately THOSE that delete need mental help - to get grip with incoming REALITY ! Good luck .

    • @RussellGi
      @RussellGi Місяць тому

      I hear you. That same thing happened to me on this thread last night. Ironically when I was correcting poor advice that promotes even more avoidant behaviour!!! 😎🚩