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Thriving at Life
Приєднався 13 вер 2019
Having been in a relationship with a Narcissist, this is channel for me to document my journey of self discovery after the narcissistic abuse.
Me and My Anxiety
This is a video I made for Mr Narcy to try and explain what my day to day life can be like living with anxiety.
He would constantly blame our issues on my anxiety. He didn't understand it, and would confuse the anxiety for me not loving him. Be warned, spoiler alert, from about 2:45, it is just picture of us.
He would constantly blame our issues on my anxiety. He didn't understand it, and would confuse the anxiety for me not loving him. Be warned, spoiler alert, from about 2:45, it is just picture of us.
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Time with my Narcy - Part 2
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Part 2 of my riveting story of some of the things that happened while I was with Mr Narcy. There is a bit in it where the sound goes, can't remember what I was going on about but I doubt it was important lol ua-cam.com/video/paW0ashwyG4/v-deo.html - Link to video I did to try and explain my Anxiety to him when he was using it as the reason why we weren't getting on. Be warned, the last bit does...
Time with my Narcy - Part 3 - The disgaurd
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Finally got the disguard part of my story! Well towards the end i do lol
Getting the 1st video out the way.
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Here it is, my 1st video! I wanted to tell my story but realised I'm not going to be able to do that in one video. So this one is just an intro to say hi this is me and where I am now. I will do more videos to tell my story.
Great vid Jen. Don't be thinking it's too long. It's like sitting down with a friend and having a good chat about all the nitty gritty stuff.
Thank you! I can relate. U remind me of me. I think you have PTSD in you video you jumped because you heard a car that's how I use to be until I got meds. Hopefully, it helps you. Keep sharing! Be you, don't stop!
Jen , please don’t let him have control over your happiness and keeping you from becoming your true authentic self. Start your new beginnings without him sabotaging it including going back to the church you love with your head held high
When you reverse what the narc says, you get the answer! it's you he wants isolate, have no friends, they blame you for everything they're trying to do to you! sadly we found out after it's too late. One thing i've come across regarding narcs and churches, as the narc ages they start going to church, in the hope they'll go to heaven or some greater place,there sins forgiven. you'll never cover any experience with a narc in 5 mins lol the experience will stay with you for a long time sadly.
The Narc ex wanted porn photos of me during a hoover. I said no thank god I'm not in his secret photo locker. He sent me dozens of nudes of himself. It was just normal behavior for him and I'm sure I'm not the only recipient.
You most certainly wouldn't have been the first or the last one to have been asked or be sent them. Well done on saying no to the photos!
Hi Jen, I am halfway through your video. You are doing an awesome job. Brings back awful memories for me. His laptop ended up in the cop shop. I will never un see what I saw. Through that God saved me, I took my bible to hospital. I was six months pregnant, couldn't eat or sleep. Two and a half years on I belong to an amazing church. I will send you some links to some Christian songs that you might like. BTW You remind me so much of myself!
Just a couple of my favorites! I'll get back to watching your video :)😊
@@nicolamarie3848 Thanks Nicola. I would love any links you have to the song :)
@@jenscully365 I shared some linked in the comments above. If you can't see them I'll resend. X
Hi Jen, found your channel through Dave ! i'm another survivor (just) in the uk , what support group did you use? i'll play catch up on your videos, i'm seriously thinking of starting my own channel and going through my life experience with a narc.
Congratulations on surviving! Start making videos now. I wish I had made them from the point of discard so it was documented and I could look back and see how far I've come on those days when I feel weak inside. Live chat with Dave and Empaths on Pateron is such a great place. Everyone on there is amazing and anytime you are dealing with something everyone is there to keep you strong and remind you you are not in your own. The in person support group I attended was a meetup group based in London. They meet once a month and is well worth getting attending. www.meetup.com/Discovery-to-Recovery-Narcissistic-Abuse-Support-Group/ There is another group that holds monthly meetings in Manchester and although I've not attended any sessions in person, the lady that runs it does a free webinar and concentrates on the healing side. She does sometimes arrange things around the country www.meetup.com/Survive-Narcissistic-Abuse-London/
Me too. Jen I found your channel thru Dave to . ♥️
I feel for you Jen!! I went through the same incidents with my ex husband. Cheating was one of the many evil things he did. He always had lies , excuses and of course it was my or someone else’s fault for all of his behavior so he could feel justified. Thank you for your wonderful videos!!
Thank you for watching
I've watched you videos. You are sooo adorable, funny and lovable!!! I COMPLETELY identify with your stories. You didn't deserve any of that abuse. Can't wait to meet you in Nashville. ~Kelly
You are gorgeous, inside and out!
Thanks Donna. It's hard when most people just see the Anxiety and can't see past it
Jen, I stayed with you to the end of the video, and I am proud of you! I do believe there is a dark energy that wants us to think of suicide when things are too much. Thank you for sharing your story so that we can figure out the traits of those who do not have our best interests.
Jen, I'm so sorry you had to go through the loss of your friend and the love in your life at the same time. It's too much to bear. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thanks Donna x
I am so glad your friend called that day :( man.. I never had those types of thoughts either, until I met the narcissist.. it’s so awful! But, I’m also really glad bc now I know all these wonderful people such as yourself! 🙏🏼
I can't believe how natural and real those thoughts were. And when I look back, I still can't believe I had them or how low I actually was due to this person. It highlights how much power he had over me. And I agree, without this experience, I would not know the absolutely awesome people I know now. A blessing in disguise and what is they say, the lord works on mysterious ways.
Thriving at Life that He does :) that He does!
Wow! That’s a lot of porn :( I’m so sorry.
Apparently, it’s totally normal! Silly me for not knowing that lol
Jen! Thanks for sharing all those types of details. But before I go on. What you experienced in church was real! Please continue to seek out other places like that. I may be premature in saying this bc I haven’t watched the follow videos yet. But I am super familiar w the type you went to, and it’s more of an on denominational church that is “seeker” friendly. They create a atmosphere that is more comfortable then traditional styles. :) it’s not a cult and please do not allow the devil that foothold in your life :) you are a awesome person and I would love to see you move more naturally in that direction sense narcy is gone ;)
As soon as I move back south, I'll make sure I find another to join :)
I just die laughing whenever I here you say the word “narcy” lol
Thank you so much for the shout out! It’s incredible how fake there concerns are for others, and how easily they get away w it. His selfish desires couldn’t be put to the side for one day without seeing his mum. And then they have the audacity to pick a fight ore argue the point “if you don’t see it there way”.. so sorry to hear that. By the way, you might want to take that car back immediately!!! The steering wheel is on the wrong side! 😳😁🤣
Picking a fight or arguing due to not seeing things their way seems to be a common trait among them. And that explains a lot. i thought I kept hitting the curb due to my bad driving, but it was the car being the wrong way round this whole time! :-)
Jen, It almost made me sick to hear how cruel your ex narc was to you! It's good that you are getting this toxic memory out of your system. It will be cathartic for you and you are definitely helping other people see the real-life traumas that empathic people like yourself endure at the hands of these childish, tyrannical, brat narcs!
Thanks Janet. I couldn't see it as being cruel at the time, i just thought he was misunderstood and i wasn't communicating properly. I now know, there is now communicating with them. They hear what they want to hear
aww hugs, really sorry he wasnt there for you and you had to feel that pain, let it out and your so brave talking about it x
It was a major red flag I couldn't see at the time. Thank you :)
I am excited for you Jen & it is long journey that will keep us learning from this disorder & how to react to these people. I have come to find out I have been around quit a bit of them looking back & spotting them now makes it easier to deal with them especially in the work place. Thank you for your bravery 🤗🤗
Thanks Crystal. When your eyes are open, it's amazing how many you can spot :)
What a SOULLESS DEMON! I really wanna hop over the pond & wrap my hands every so CRUSHINGLY around Narcy's larynx right now! I have no words, other that I wish I could be shocked, but I'm not. They're a truly different kinda AWFUL!! Oh Jen, I'm SOOO SORRY! 😢 Big Hugs Beauty! 💗
Thanks Sarah. And that's the strange thing, nothing seems to shock us about these people any more.
Great Job Jen! 💖
Thanks Sarah :-)
I’m so sorry you went through that Jen! He wasn’t there for you at your lowest point when you needed him the most. Instead he created more stress for you.
Thanks, unfortunately that was what he was really good at
Great video! Narcy LOL Love the car ride story!!!
I like calling him Narcy. I thought he was my Mr Darcy but he ended up being my Mr Narcy
Jen I really appreciated that you shared that, as hard as it was to bring to the surface. What that narcy did was heartless, typical selfish behavior and it leaves us confused as to why and how they act that way. Im sorry it re opened a wound and made you sick, I know how that feels. Stay strong my friend, thank you again for being so brave
Thanks Eisha. I just want to get it out there what went on and the things he did.
@@jenscully365 you did an awesome job Jen. Very proud of you
So... that was the most immoral thing I've ever heard. You're time with your passing friend had to be hurried up because he was a momma's boy...🤬 Jen, YOU did nothing wrong! He was acting like a selfish 3 year old. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Stay strong!
Yep. Because everything was about him. I spent about 4 hours defending myself to him to try and get him to understand it had nothing to do with me having a problem going to his mums twice a week.
We understand Jen! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Tammi x
I absolutely love this video! You’ve got an amazing personality and style, it’s like I am hanging with a great friend! You have opened my eyes with your video...I never knew it was a blessing to have gone through this. Wow, you are right, it is a blessing to realize we can stop them with stronger boundaries. We must put a stop to their antics.
Thanks Donna for your kind words :-)
Tha k you Jen, for sharing. A world with so many players....
It's quite scary how may there are
Ahhh I freakin love this!! You are doing such a good job 😁😁😁. You have already said so many things that I agree on and would love to elaborate on!
Thanks Sir :-)
Great job Jen! Keep it up!
Thanks Chris. You too :-)
+Love this
Thank you :)