Charleys Journey
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19. PEOPLE-PLEASING
Hi Everyone,
In this video I discuss what I’m currently struggling with and attempting to work through on my healing journey- people-pleasing.
Hope you've all been doing well.
Charley x
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MY SECOND CHANNEL
www.youtube.com/@CharleysLifeOfficial
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Відео

WHERE HAVE I BEEN????
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Hi Everyone, I've been missing for a few weeks and in this video I briefly explain why. P.S I also want to thank those of you who reached out to me personally by emailing to see how I've been - I really appreciate it. Hope you've all been doing well. Charley x MY SECOND CHANNEL www.youtube.com/@CharleysLifeOfficial
MY BULLYING STORY PART 2
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Hi Everyone, Today’s video is part 2 of my bullying story. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for that. My overall intention is help others who are going through a simila...
18: MY BULLYING STORY
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I talk about how I was bullied from the age of around 10-16 years old for my race and being a JW. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for tha...
17: MLM’s & JW’s
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video i talk about one of the first red flags I noticed about my former religion and what that has to do with MLM conpanies…. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot ...
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚 NARROW-MINDED THINKING
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In this‘Undoing Indocrination’ series video I discuss the JW thinking I’ve been working to overcome since leaving. As always, hope this helps. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for that. My o...
16: SHUNNING
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I talk about the practice of shunning as carried out by the JWs. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for that. My overall intention is help o...
15: REPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I talk about the effects repression has on some ex JWs Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for that. My overall intention is help others who ...
14: JUST WANTED TO SAY…
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I just wanted to address something based on a few comments I’ve had recently. This isn’t aimed at anyone in particular, I’m just saying…. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negati...
13. BEING LIED TO
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I talk about the impact being lied to most for my life had on me. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for that. My overall intention is help ...
12: WAS IT ALL BAD???
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Hi Everyone, In today’s video I talk about finding out that I had been lied to my whole life (being a JW) and how that affected me. Hope you're all well. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsible for...
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚 JUDGEMENTAL
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This is the fifth video in my ‘Undoing Indocrination’ series. Today, I speak honestly about my judgemental attitude in my past life as a JW, and how I’ve been working on that since I left the religion. As always, hope this helps. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing ...
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚INDECISION
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This is the fourth video in my ‘Undoing Indocrination’ series. I discuss my struggle with decision making since becoming an ex JW. As always, hope this helps. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me personally. If by doing so, the organisation is seen in a negative light I cannot be responsibl...
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚 SUFFERING IS SUCCESS
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This is the third video in my ‘Undoing Indocrination’ series. I discuss how I was affected by the JW interpretation of suffering as defined in the bible what I've done to help free myself from that particular doctrine. As always, hope this helps. Charley x DISCLAIMER: My videos are NOT intended to bash the JW religion, instead I'm sharing my journey and experiences that have affected me persona...
11: THANK YOU & VIDEO SUGGESTIONS
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11: THANK YOU & VIDEO SUGGESTIONS
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚 GULIT SHAME & INADEQUACY
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📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES📚 GULIT SHAME & INADEQUACY
📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES:📚 DOOMS DAY, END OF THE WORLD TEACHINGS
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📚UNDOING INDOCTRINATION SERIES:📚 DOOMS DAY, END OF THE WORLD TEACHINGS
10: JW LIFE
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10: JW LIFE
9: LETTING GO…
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9: LETTING GO…
8:AM I STILL RELIGIOUS?
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8:AM I STILL RELIGIOUS?
7: MY INITIAL SELF HELP STEPS
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7: MY INITIAL SELF HELP STEPS
6: IT’S IMPORTANT TO HEAL
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6: IT’S IMPORTANT TO HEAL
5: THE STRUGGLES BEGIN PART 2
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5: THE STRUGGLES BEGIN PART 2
5: THE STRUGGLES BEGIN
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5: THE STRUGGLES BEGIN
4: THE VERY EARLY DAYS, NEW JOB & MAKING FRIENDS
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4: THE VERY EARLY DAYS, NEW JOB & MAKING FRIENDS
3: MY FIRST HURDLE
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3: MY FIRST HURDLE
2: WHY I LEFT…
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2: WHY I LEFT…
1: MY JW BACKSTORY
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1: MY JW BACKSTORY
INTRO: Why I started this channel
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INTRO: Why I started this channel

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @KuswandiRia03
    @KuswandiRia03 3 дні тому

    PEOPLE-PLEASING, very good my friend

  • @dennmmmy
    @dennmmmy Місяць тому

    With ur fine self

  • @ExjwEmancipation
    @ExjwEmancipation 5 місяців тому

    ❤ keep your head up. Sad. Would love to collaborate sometime though. My wife would love to collaborate

  • @rodman1303
    @rodman1303 5 місяців тому

    I understand... going thru it now

  • @TzedeckHaya
    @TzedeckHaya 6 місяців тому

    You have a new subscriber

  • @alicedavis6556
    @alicedavis6556 Рік тому

    Suppressing our needs, we put others first in a unhealthy way to the point where we lose who we really are dont value ourselves we become like a non person,. Glad you made this content thank you. Hard to lose people pleasing. Its getting more healthy from years of these conditioning tactics thanks again Charlie

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Hello Charley, I is so nice to see you. I hope that you and your family are doing well ❤😊

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      Awww thank you, it’s nice to be back. I’ve missed making videos and speaking with you all

  • @alicedavis6556
    @alicedavis6556 Рік тому

    🎉 Congratulations 🎉

  • @oxfamshop
    @oxfamshop Рік тому

    I wondered how you were doing but did not want pry . Many congratulations and very best wishes

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    That's why you haven't responded since Aug 14th. You emailed me Aug 14th, and I replied back, but haven't heard from you since. I'm back at Wall St and studying at a university.

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    I'm still awaiting your email reply back. That was a month ago. I hope your okay.

  • @soulofstace
    @soulofstace Рік тому

    CONGRATULATIONS BEAUTIFUL 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉

  • @wiktorchm
    @wiktorchm Рік тому

    Hello again :)

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Wow! Charley, you have been through so much. Bullying is never a good thing. Kids do it in school sometimes just to dominate others and wanting to improve their social status and not knowing the negative effects it puts on the person being bullied.

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Hello Charley, it has been a while. I am so happy that you’re back . Congratulations on the birth of your baby ❤

  • @rachelwilliams1292
    @rachelwilliams1292 Рік тому

    I'm currently in high-school 12th grade to be exact and I get bullied every single day it's always ugly this or ugly that. I told my principal but no one believed me, Even though my experience was not as bad as yours this video really helped me. It's like people don't understand how much bullying hurts you even if it is just verbal especially if it's for years i've been bullied since the 6th grade and kids really think its funny to bully. But bullying is serious and it still makes me hate myself but hopefully I can get out of this funk Anyways this video helped a lot I'm grateful I came across this channel.

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment, and I just want to say I’m so sorry sweetie that you’ve had to go through this! Bullies are insecure, unhappy individuals. How they are treating you is just a pure reflection of their hatred for themselves. I’m so glad you found my video helpful. Just know you’ll get through it. I hope you have good friends and family supporting you, because you don’t deserve anyone making you feel bad. Sending so much love 💕

  • @oxfamshop
    @oxfamshop Рік тому

    I know forgive is a big part of religion but if anyone gave me an emotional kicking I'm afraid I do not forget and do not forgive . You poor soul . God bless you

  • @alicedavis6556
    @alicedavis6556 Рік тому

    Thankyou for sharing, its hard to go back there, you are helping so many people, can see it still hard for you to go there. We need to really listen to our children. Actively.

  • @soulofstace
    @soulofstace Рік тому

    Totally agree💯💯

  • @alicedavis6556
    @alicedavis6556 Рік тому

    Hi Charley, thank you for sharing😢 it will help many, very honest, brave of you to go back into past memories. 😢❤

  • @tammyg8031
    @tammyg8031 Рік тому

    Hey Charley!!! You look absolutely beautiful. You are GLOWING..Love hearing your stories.

  • @jaycitowilli6428
    @jaycitowilli6428 Рік тому

    You are a Lovely Woman❤

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Hello Charley, I hope you’re having a great day. I can just imagine what you’ve been through in school. Now that you’re no longer affiliated with that organization. Are you able to understand the reasons why so many people dislike the JW denomination? Just by growing up without friends must be painful and you have a double whammy. Being black and being a JW.❤❤

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    I hope you continue to heal. I've been bullied my entire life. I've been bullied as a child, teen, and adult. Sadly most of the physical, and emotional abuse came mostly from women, outside of my family. In daycare I was physically abused by women. In elementary and junior high school I was abused by boys and girls. The boys beating me up. In junior high school boys and girls physically abused me. The girls slapping me across my face while I was pinned by my arms. I was emotionally abused by females in high school. Made fun of because I was a geek and nerd. The abuse got worse from women entering my adult years. I was abused by both my ex's, both women. To the point my first love, wanted me to kill myself, and kept telling me on several occasions to stab myself with a kitchen knife. Both were manipulative. Over the years I've encountered abusive people, but sadly mostly from women, and in several cases, racist women. I didn't find real friends until years later. Gordana Biernat, who was discovered by Oprah Winfrey, my first ever friend. My best friend Anna, of six years, along with my best friends Bridget, Teresa, Sarah, and Tia helped me heal, along with my family. Those six women took the time to get to know me. Anna was already engaged with her fiance when she first met. It didn't stop her from asking for my number, engaging in art with me, and we've been best friends for six years. Bridget for six years now. Teresa for three years. Teresa lives in London. We talked everyday, and video chat twice a month. My best friend Sarah we talk almost everyday, and video chat once or twice month. Anna has helped me and my family many times, and we did a toddler day for my nephew. She stayed on the phone on me when I was rushed to the hospital after breaking my foot back in 2018, and she stayed on phone with me when I was assaulted last year. My best friends support me spiritually, encourage me to engage in my art exercises, took the time to get to know me, soft-spoken, never put me in circles, never late for hangouts, we've never missed a hangout.

  • @jimpalmer4916
    @jimpalmer4916 Рік тому

    Heretic, when you besmirch fellow believers, you incur the wrath of God.

  • @LaineyW1983
    @LaineyW1983 Рік тому

    I never thought about the creepy similarities in the recruitment tactics. I thought you were going to talk about the insane peer pressure to support MLM’s within the congregation.

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    Yeah I ended a friendship with a MLM earlier this this. She was a narcissist like most abusive women I've met in life. Background on my story I've been physically and emotionally abused by women outside of my family, as a child, teen and adult. I hope everyone is safe and well. Charlie, I'm still awaiting your email. I replied to your email you sent me back on Aug 14th. Its now Aug 26th. I hope your safe and well.

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    Charley it seems a lot of your previous JW family want you back. They’re not giving up on you. Seems like even though they’ve shunned you in the physical, they’re communicating with you on the Internet. They don’t want to leave you alone 😂

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    So what do you do for leisure now that you’re out of the cult? One thing I have seen about JWs is all their time is invested in their religion. Even what they call leisure is related to their faith. Always in witness mode.

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    So did you shun completely as well or would you communicate with them because of your humanity although on the quiet so nobody saw you?

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    One thing I can’t tolerate is disrespect. So they would let a door hit someone in the face and put them at risk of injury and then come out of that hall to witness about Jehovah to an outsider. Charity begins at home. If you’re literally putting someone at risk of injury when I’m your comfort zone, what chance will I have with you outside of your comfort zone 😂. The hypocrisy is astounding

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    I would like any church group to try this with me. I promise you, they’ll be the ones regretting it because I can be very petty 😂. One thing I have seen with this shunning thing is, they always find a way to contact the person they have so called shunned. Now this where I will discipline them in a way they’ll never forget 😂

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    Definitely a pyramid scheme.

  • @AbenaK-K
    @AbenaK-K Рік тому

    They are friendly especially to people who they think are vulnerable. That’s what a couple thought of me till I showed them otherwise. Now it’s just ‘good morning’ or ‘hello’. No more trying to give me books or putting notes in my door about angels😂😂

  • @ShoNuffSoulBro1
    @ShoNuffSoulBro1 Рік тому

    Feigning an interest in folks at the door is definitely step #1 in the JW playbook. Showing love and helping folks, but only as long as they are having a progressive bible study is conditional friendship and phony love. The moment they discern that a bible study student isn’t going to fully embrace their teachings and isn’t progressing towards getting baptized into the organization, they will drop you like a hot potato! !

    • @AbenaK-K
      @AbenaK-K Рік тому

      That’s why I let them know from the jump that I’m not interested.😂

    • @jimpalmer4916
      @jimpalmer4916 Рік тому

      A hot tater

  • @allwhen
    @allwhen Рік тому

    I've never been in an MLM but my mom was in several while I was growing up. she always lost money and then we'd have whatever product it was for years after, trying to use it or get rid of it. as an adult, my only interaction with an MLM was a friend inviting me for a "spa night" and showing up to it actually being an MLM pitch. I was livid about the deception of the invite and ended up leaving. she was shocked 😮 because "it's such a good opportunity and the products are really good" I've been out of the JWs for about 6 years now and I did a deep dive into researching cults and high control groups and the similarities between MLMs and religious cults are so incredibly high, it's laughable really

    • @AbenaK-K
      @AbenaK-K Рік тому

      People in MLM behave in a similar way to high control groups. I know one lady who became so bitter towards a lady who didn’t join her MK (the cosmetics group) to the point of rejoicing over a health issue the other lady had. The lady is now relieved of that problem so I’m waiting to see how she would respond.

  • @tammyg8031
    @tammyg8031 Рік тому

    Hey Charley!!! Love your hair color. So good to see that you are doing well. Thanks for everything that you are doing.

  • @oxfamshop
    @oxfamshop Рік тому

    Watching this video is bringing back many memories on the business front and the JW . On the business front OTE earnings folk fall for , It means nothing and the recruitment bit makes it a pyramid scheme. I would never be a witness because it do know if the religion I was brought is correct or if any other religion is corect . I like to think a have a faith , that faith is I have a maker that is my faith at least I may have a maker . Bless you

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    Good morning Charley, I'm still awaiting your email reply back from your email you sent me back on August 14th.

  • @norwalltino
    @norwalltino Рік тому

    Great conveyance, the right way of alerting people, thanks😊😏😎🥺🤩

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Hello Charley, This is another great video. It is very informative, you definitely know what you’re talking about. Keep up the good work and keep the videos coming ❤❤

  • @queentopia9225
    @queentopia9225 Рік тому

    Imagine this- a mother who is a staunch, brainwashed member of a cult, and a father who is just as dedicated to Amway in the same extremist fashion. Two parents who are both extremely susceptible to pyramid schemes and scammers. 😐

  • @LaineyW1983
    @LaineyW1983 Рік тому

    I am still learning too! My brain defaults to black and white and I really have to make myself pause.

  • @Spartanthermopylae
    @Spartanthermopylae Рік тому

    Where do you stand in terms of your belief in God or a god? There is a difference between being religious and in having a personal relationship with the God of the Bible.

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      I believe in a higher being for sure (not necessarily the way god is portrayed in the bible). And I agree, there’s a massive difference between being religious and having a relationship with god. I don’t think the two need to go hand in hand at all. My personal relationship with the higher being I believe in is just that - personal. As it should be with everyone, that’s what I think anyway

    • @Spartanthermopylae
      @Spartanthermopylae Рік тому

      @@charleysjourney I understand. It's such a pity that so many ex-JWs have been so damaged by the organisation that their view of the God of the Bible has been distorted and manipulated. The WTS has done such a lot of damage.

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      @@Spartanthermopylae I totally agree

  • @terrrell7798
    @terrrell7798 Рік тому

    Good morning Charley, I'm still awaiting your email reply back from Monday of last week. I replied back that day. I hope your safe and well.

  • @Spartanthermopylae
    @Spartanthermopylae Рік тому

    Charley, how do you make the distinction between the teachings in the Bible and narrow-minded thinking?

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      I’m not making a distinction between those things. If you watch the video I was talking about my personal experience with the way my previous religion conditioned it’s members to think

    • @Spartanthermopylae
      @Spartanthermopylae Рік тому

      @@charleysjourney It doesn't answer my question, Charley.

  • @oxfamshop
    @oxfamshop Рік тому

    God bless you and all . Hope you have a good week

  • @alicedavis6556
    @alicedavis6556 Рік тому

    Thank you as always you are very honest and reflective, i still working on things as im very black or white thinking, it's either right or wrong, but grey areas exist, being narrow minded is certainly what i need to work on, i felt like you i was very rounded person. Its wake up call, i have lots to put right.feel so out of place, but free.

  • @JustDeannaJune
    @JustDeannaJune Рік тому

    I agree with you, this was especially true when our daughter came out to my husband and I as bisexual... We were still JWs at the time and didn't want to deal with it because of being narrow minded. We weren't mean, we basically pretended like she never told us. 😢 But over time and waking up, we realized the error in our ways and how terribly we hurt her. We have since apologized profusely and she is very happy now 😊💗🌈🏳️‍🌈 but it goes to show how narrow minded thinking could really hurt others. Great subject! Thanks Charley!

    • @charleysjourney
      @charleysjourney Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad things are good with you all now. Don’t beat yourself up for how you dealt with it because you were conditioned as we all were. Happy for your family that you aren’t part of the organisation anymore 💕

    • @JustDeannaJune
      @JustDeannaJune Рік тому

      @@charleysjourney thank you 💖

    • @oroedwards-ib7vy
      @oroedwards-ib7vy Рік тому

      Yes, we all struggle because of this cruel cult disguised as a religion.

  • @sylverfox5283
    @sylverfox5283 Рік тому

    Hello Charley, I think all JW have that narrow minded way of thinking and It is because they were trained to be like that from a very young age. They have to follow and believe in everything coming from the watchtower. I have never been a JW but I have read stuff from the watchtower and the awake when I was younger. I have never been interested ❤❤ I really love the color of your hair ❤❤