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Sue Monk Kidd on Blessing our Largeness
“She believed she could, so she did.”
These seven words are at the cornerstone of our “Empowerment Industrial Complex,” whose message is that we, alone, transform ourselves.
But for Sue Monk Kidd, that’s only half the equation.
The #1 New York Times best-selling author of books like "The Secret Life of Bees" and "The Invention of Wings," believes that inside each of us is a largeness, the stamp of our unique genius.
"The Book of Longing," Kidd’s latest novel, reflects on women's longing and silencing and awakening, through the story of Ana, the fictional wife of Jesus, and a first century chronicler of women’s stories.
The novel explores the scaffolding of support we need to harness our power in the face of fear and self-doubt. Primal to Ana’s journey of living into her largeness is her Aunt Yaltha. Through their relationship, Ana discovers her potency and finds the courage to express it. Part mentor, part muse, Aunt Yaltha ultimately tells Ana, “my largeness is to bless yours.”
Ana and Yaltha’s sacred alliance illuminates what it means to accompany each other. I bear witness to your suffering and to your light, and you do the same for me. Inside the relationship, we reach the promise of our shared humanity.
Taken alone, both empowerment and accompaniment are powerful. But held together in balance, these twin forces get activated, drawing us closer together while spurring us even deeper within, to the heart of truth and goodness inside us.
Sue is intimately familiar with the interplay between self-development and robust mutuality. Both were essential in her own awakening.
In her memoir, "The Dance of The Dissident Daughter," Kidd describes the harrowing sexism she faced raising her daughter, Ann. These experiences propelled her to question everything she knew as a traditional Southern Baptist wife and mother, and to begin a life-changing journey to seek out the divine feminine.
Exposing what she refers to as the “holy misogyny” inside Christianity was controversial, even dangerous. But calling out the systemic silencing of women and erasure of the feminine spirit of God by our patriarchal faith traditions forced Sue to become, as she says, “braver and feistier.” Ultimately, she learned to create, and to live, with more wisdom, passion, and power.
But she’s quick to point out that she didn’t evolve on her own. Sisterhood remains at the heart of blessing her largeness. “My girlfriends are not only my Aunt Yaltha’s,” she laughs during our conversation, “they are my mental health insurance policy.”
Still, holding these forces in balance can be challenging.
Americans put the “self” in self-improvement. As hyper-individualistic culture, we might be granted the support of a therapist or coach, but fundamentally, we’re taught that cultivating personal resilience is an inside job.
The abiding tension in my life is grappling the shame of needing external validation, and trusting that authentic encouragement is essential to showing up bravely to do my work.
As a creative person, putting my work out into the world feels like playing with fire.
“Will they like it?” quickly spirals into “will they like me?”
Sussing out if I’m honoring my voice or chasing validation takes constant vigilance and close monitoring of my ego, motives, and intention.
Somewhere along the way, in guarding against the slippery slope of seeking approval, I told myself that needing support, outside encouragement, really any version of accompaniment, was a weakness.
It meant there was something wrong with me.
Living our largeness requires mining the deepest parts of ourselves. Descending into the fertile bottom of things, where they all connect.
Turning ourselves inside out is the most wildly vulnerable journey imaginable.
Yet I was trying to do that alone?
Oh hell no.
What violence. What sickness.
Thankfully, Sue has a better idea:
“Look for your Aunt Yaltha.
Find someone who can bless your largeness.
But be prepared to bless yourself.”
At the beginning of our conversation, Kidd urges us not to squander this global time out. Our salvation, she says, is in our imagination. As we grapple with the viruses of racism and COVID-19, we’ve run out of time to tinker around the edges.
There is no individual salvation. We are responsible for each other’s transformation. Healing is relational, always and forever.
Blessing our largeness-alone and together-will set our souls on fire.
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  • @andreahodos7213
    @andreahodos7213 26 днів тому

    Yes to all you have written. I am scouring the internet right now trying to gather a specific gem Emile had offered in a lecture I was in during the lead-up to the 2016 election. I am so sad that he is no longer in this world with us so that I could ask him where it is written -- and SO many other questions, too. Thanks for recording this.

  • @MrBobbystyles
    @MrBobbystyles 2 місяці тому

    Supports Kamala harris

  • @supanova4126
    @supanova4126 Рік тому

    Haha!! 370 views wow!! What a loser

  • @kramzaid4720
    @kramzaid4720 Рік тому

    Ernest Owens an "Award Winning Journalist & Editor" ? He has less than 500 subscribers his writing must be read by a few dozen readers. In his world ....everyone wins a ribbon - so I guess that how he got his "Award". If you ever actually listen to him, his words have no meaning or substance. (Just like a con artist) People and the world are a better place for highlighting this fool.

  • @jallen1227
    @jallen1227 Рік тому

    338 views after 4 years, hahaha

  • @MrHoneybee2121
    @MrHoneybee2121 Рік тому

    Ernest, I am posting in the hope you can relate and offer some solution to the problems originating from within black society more so than white. Look, firstly, I am marrying a Nigerian man who lives in a country where he is frightened to go outside his front door, fearing his own people and their prejudice against gay men and other black people with privilaged lifestyles. The worst racism is not white to black or vice versa it is actually black to black. Too many black people, you included, play the race card for whatever reason, you with Piers Morgan when he is NOT racist although in your perception you seem to think to the contrary? constantly playing the racist card, for effect, and it is damaging the good people like myself, NOT SELF PRAISE BUT A STATEMENT OF FACT, who are doing what they can to erradicate racism. Ism's are an abomination and create a divide that should not be there, but it can be taken to an extreme, for example, NOW, on television the 'INCLUSIVENESS' has gone too far, now there is an imbalance of black actors, presenters etc over white and disabled almost over able bodied. On the latter point I have to say what many are fearful of saying, on programmes designed to be light entertainment it is not right to exploit disabled individuals to make a point or for them to be seen in, perhaps ways that actually demeans them. that is as much a ism as exclusion. Sure most areas on ism's are sensitive but they cannot be glossed over. Also, the removal of statues, road and house names, paintings and art works, purely because of some historical association with the slave trade. These things are real, they are part of history and should NOT BE DESTROYED OR HIDDEN AWAY but used as a reminder to everyone what once was and never should be again. One cannot, and should not rewrite history it has a point to prove and a valid one at that.

  • @MelodyVillaMusic
    @MelodyVillaMusic Рік тому

    Thank you for posting this interview. Jim Lauderdale is extraordinary. He's such a kind soul.

  • @cliffordcrimson7124
    @cliffordcrimson7124 Рік тому

    I miss you, Sturge.

  • @WandaWooten
    @WandaWooten 2 роки тому

    I just finalized your book. What a beautiful journey through this beautiful book! Thank you x

  • @maureenfrancher5244
    @maureenfrancher5244 2 роки тому

    So wonderful to see you doing well. I was one of the neighbor kids in Bismarck who came to your house just to hang out and be kids. I was at your home the week you received a new set of prosthetics. The recall is that you fed yourself 6 pancakes. The internet is a wonderful way to satisfy curiosity about people one used to know. Life's richest blessings to you - looks like you are a massive blessing to those around you.

  • @homeschoolfarm1922
    @homeschoolfarm1922 2 роки тому

    Reading the book. I love music!

  • @Dundatta258
    @Dundatta258 2 роки тому

    This dude Ernest is ignorant and hateful. I’m glad Elon brought twitter so he can cancel the ones who like to cancel.

  • @sangeetavenkatraman9316
    @sangeetavenkatraman9316 2 роки тому

    Beautiful book! Very heart warming and moving, blessed to have come across it 👌🙏

  • @klarheit3909
    @klarheit3909 2 роки тому

    Big love

  • @maeleighfrost1024
    @maeleighfrost1024 2 роки тому

    Incredibly inspiring and beautiful, thank you Chloe and Leah for being such profound role models in today’s society and two sisters i look up to greatly. Absolutely cannot wait to see you live and receive this luminous healing energy you cultivate in person! I hope more artists take after your example, slow down (leave their egos behind) and join the ‘slow music movement’ too! I also super appreciate your activism with spreading awareness around the Amazon deforesting-i had no idea that was an issue until I watched pulse. And for being there at Standing Rock <\3 you two make me wanna get involved way more than i have and I can’t say that for many other music artists (none that I can think of on the top of my head besides Paul Izak :P ) anyway-you’re AMAZING and I’m sending gratitude, love, blessings, joy, peace and light your way! <3 :)

  • @klarheit3909
    @klarheit3909 2 роки тому

    Immer wieder, wahnsinn

  • @travis8947
    @travis8947 3 роки тому

    Pretty bad editing

  • @klarheit3909
    @klarheit3909 3 роки тому

    Big love

  • @annjackson5662
    @annjackson5662 3 роки тому

    Fascinating, powerful, and helpful. I have a new job as an instructor and want to base my day on effective conversation. Conversation as the delivery system for the knowledge and or skills.

  • @noodlewhitley
    @noodlewhitley 3 роки тому

    Margaret Mead and the Holy Modal Rounders? Sign me up!

  • @chaizea9429
    @chaizea9429 3 роки тому

    I'm an undergraduate right now studying neuroscience and it's my dream to do this kind of research someday. I just have to figure out how.

  • @DavidMartin-bi2vz
    @DavidMartin-bi2vz 3 роки тому

    I think you should delete your account in protest of social media.

  • @richardfoos4989
    @richardfoos4989 3 роки тому

    Blacks and the Irish

  • @jorgeh71
    @jorgeh71 3 роки тому

    I loved this interview. Great speaker this McCann. Thanks!

  • @susandean786
    @susandean786 3 роки тому

    Ruruiewieeieei

  • @tonyabreu6912
    @tonyabreu6912 3 роки тому

    Would love to see the contenum going uphill would be nice thank you much

  • @ClarkKent-mr7zc
    @ClarkKent-mr7zc 3 роки тому

    I use sing for john I'm 2nd generation choirs member he's taught me a lot over the years when I was apart of the program and I carry his lessons now 15yrs later. Thank you john

  • @dodgyclan5706
    @dodgyclan5706 3 роки тому

    My dad minh quach loves me a lot

  • @jeffstrong4311
    @jeffstrong4311 4 роки тому

    There is a proverb that says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The music blended with a message and a vision has the ability to chase darkness from the heart and replace it with seeds of visions and hope which are the foundations of faith and the courage to take the first step. Your music does that.

  • @mani7263
    @mani7263 4 роки тому

    Just found out we have lost her...I had no idea. I'm heartbroken.

  • @su....
    @su.... 4 роки тому

    love your enthusiasm. i believe the kingdom is jesus. jesus in us and with us. holy spirit. at 65 years of age and having 'been there, done that' regarding helping others, what i believe people need more than anything is a direct encounter with the living god, one on one, for themselves. in the corporate jesus-body setting as well as alone. that that is our primal and primary need.

  • @sheemakarp6424
    @sheemakarp6424 4 роки тому

    Honest & loving & inspiring woman. Fine daughter, too ❤️

  • @spot7396
    @spot7396 4 роки тому

    I sure do miss Kill County

  • @vanillagorilla8236
    @vanillagorilla8236 4 роки тому

    Jim Croce's cousin !

  • @bigwalnut3676
    @bigwalnut3676 4 роки тому

    Saly was at the control panel.

  • @soniatyler4097
    @soniatyler4097 4 роки тому

    Speak truth sister!!! Thank you!

  • @Toocoolforunclesam
    @Toocoolforunclesam 4 роки тому

    My mom had me at young age, Im assuming her development was stunted she has poor impulse control/anger.

  • @bettycampbell7440
    @bettycampbell7440 4 роки тому

    I heard the song " I Still Can't Breathe"last night on the PBS Newshour. I had been praying for a song and last night I was inspired to write a song titled "Jesus Lord Over All." I am arranging it now and need to make contact with you. You can listen to music I have been given by the Holy Spirit by searching for music on my You Tube Channel. Original songs include: Peace Begin with Me, Keep Your Eyes on the Light, Jesus, Light of the World, Hear Our Humble Prayer, Spirit of God Descend on Me, Show Hospitality to Strangers, Lord of My Life, Pray for Healing Mercy and more. I am owner of Serendipity Music Studio. I teach piano and voice. I''m going to teach on line because of the coronavirus. E-mail serendipitymusicstudio@centurylink.net

  • @hypeviews6440
    @hypeviews6440 4 роки тому

    Fuvk you ....you destroyed a lot of steel company monuments !

  • @abbast.3606
    @abbast.3606 4 роки тому

    Very cool! Here is a quotation I love: *"The world of humanity has two wings-one is women and the other men. Not until both wings are equally developed can the bird fly. Should one wing remain weak, flight is impossible. Not until the world of women becomes equal to the world of men in the acquisition of virtues and perfections, can success and prosperity be attained as they ought to be"* *"...Until these two members are equal in strength, the oneness of humanity cannot be established, and the happiness and felicity of mankind will not be a reality"* -from the writings of the Baha'i Faith

  • @rossmarshall3906
    @rossmarshall3906 4 роки тому

    Wow, Betty Davis reincarnated?

  • @rishipuntes557
    @rishipuntes557 4 роки тому

    me n all

  • @Seeker0fTruth
    @Seeker0fTruth 4 роки тому

    Typo in the title “Archbishop” not ARCHIbishop

  • @mamayahmed546
    @mamayahmed546 5 років тому

    ترجم بالعربيه احب هذا الكتاب وشرحك جمييل ❤️

  • @jschuler53
    @jschuler53 5 років тому

    Receiving a kind, but undeserved gesture from someone is a fantastic idea. How to do that? Our brains is made to be flexible. Great. Thank you.

  • @KalypsoKent
    @KalypsoKent 5 років тому

    I just heard you on KALW - Have not heard such interesting fusion in the last 3 decades! Congrats!

  • @patrickmills6571
    @patrickmills6571 5 років тому

    Wow

  • @NadineHack
    @NadineHack 5 років тому

    I too love idea Jamia Wilson & Gloria Steinem share that mentor-ship is a two-way street: elders and emerging leaders learning from each other! I've tried to embody this over five+ decades of activism. I'm excited by all I now learn from younger activists, and what I learned by working with great role models like Shirley Chisholm and Bella Abzug who made a path for me.

    • @3-minutestoryteller583
      @3-minutestoryteller583 5 років тому

      I love the mutually enriching relationships that you describe, Nadine! How incredible that you’ve been able to work with such luminaries and pass their wisdom through to the next generation. Thank you for sharing!

  • @fanonche1
    @fanonche1 5 років тому

    That was beautiful:)

    • @3-minutestoryteller583
      @3-minutestoryteller583 5 років тому

      Thank you so much! Totally agree that Due and her powerful message sparkles.

  • @meb8743
    @meb8743 5 років тому

    Wait... What? This looks interesting! When was this written???