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Just found your touching note, our grief is commensurate to our great fortune to have met, love, and terminally like our guys our husband's I had written a huge long reply too personal for this public forum... for me my useless superpower tells me we're still very much connected and he's here when I didn't know I'd need something..... it is put in my path to be discovered. When my useless superpower John named this Oddity that...when it's active I know he's laughing and also protecting me as we had protected each other I looked this Oddity up only this month and who knew?.... there are peoples and cultures that pay attention to these things right now this particular useless superpower is in high drive.... the nerd that I am I calculated the odds and it's an Oddity I look at a clock when the thought hits me....what time is it? It's either thirteen minutes past any given hour or it's 12:34 am or pm Darnedest thing.... we never put any stock into this.... hence useless superpower. But I've come to welcome it because I know there's something needing done and he's making me laugh he's here and I speak of love in the present tense.... it's here he's my love and I really like him without question and know he shares this love and deep like. We knew we had to meet this guy we had heard about......each of us first heard of the other being described in unflattering terms but by different men...in two different cities... we both had the same thoughts This person has no idea what they have decided to toss aside We both knew I've got to find this man he's wonderful he's perfect Two years we looked for one another and when he walked into that near empty tavern where I would stop daily between busses because I had decided I wanted to teach myself how to play pool... he had come to the city to drop off his entry into a juried useful art show called table lamp and chair ... images of his work...slides remember those? He entered he looked up to the mezzanine at me where I was being easily defeated by a seven foot tall proud drag queen...and she was doing this while wearing six inches of heel six inches of magnificent hairdo....and she confessed they were Lee press on finger nails the longest ones It's so vivid we knew from that first gaze upon one another.... I've been looking for you for two years ...we were never apart from that moment... he is amazing and hasn't seased to amaze me. If you have too few men in your world who welcome you speaking of Randy speaking of sadness worries the difference I'm sure you've observed between the depth the genuine love now different .... when you've witnessed the brevity of others morning the death of their spouse if they did... how swiftly the clothes were removed and the shoes thrown away no longer under his side of the bed... how quickly there isnt even a side of the bed that remains If you find yourself wanting to speak freely not just to yourself and Randy.... but out loud to someone who welcomes you speaking of loss and love, and the birthday being more difficult ... I welcome hearing a brother's story to hear about the blue days.. hear of what was revealed... Who ran away and who if any ran towards you. Please be well as you can ....if stiffeled to speak when you really need to give voice to your husband dying .....I welcome you to speak freely to me and if doubt creeps in as you grieving continues..... those who may not want to hear it anymore were not as fortunate as you and Randy.... that should remind you to hold no doubt. And thank you for offering me the understanding and sincerity I so wish you never came to know this pain. And it was so kind of you to afford me some comfort some understanding when you yourself were suffering Randy's absence the lose of his counsel the comfort of his embrace the way John's nape of his neck no matter what.... always smelled so lovely, heavenly...I'd ask how do you do that every time thank you for this act of kindness I've only just discovered my friend, sincerely and with deep profound sympathy, David Wishart Dan savage wrote a short piece about why we can identify and empathize sincerely and are current on all things heterosexual.......short answer: we had and have no choice.... and yet the best of the very best heterosexual family or friend can't truly identify are not well informed . yet the best of the