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Move on for Gods sake.

ah yes, the mean gays. not restricted to twinks. they come in all types. just like the mean girls, pretty or ugly, and to some peoples surprise, theres mean str8 boys, sporty or nerdy. they are a loud minority but we dont call all women or str8 men mean, yet people are quick to label all gays as mean. this is not the gay community. this is a section of the whole community. calling the cliquey club gays 'the community' is missing the forest for the single tree on fire. again, we dont do this for women or str8 men

Thank you for sharing your experience, you are not alone. There’s other gays that share your values. I hope you find a loving community ❤❤❤

At the end, all of us in LGBT+ Community are a small group of men and women within his/her phobias and philias...That's why the System puppetier us as it does with the straight people very easily too

You have my deepest condolences for all the abuse you've endured at the hands of other gay men. I found your tale rivetting and fascinating. HOWEVER, I don't like how you presumed your experience with southern white gay men typified THE gay male experience in the United States. There are MANY sub cultures in the US where gay men frequent and thrive. Geographically, there are the costal cities and Chicago. There are clubs, facebook groups, and newsletters for bears, GAYmers, chubs, seniors, and admirers for those groups. As well as LGBTQ SciFi/ Fantasy groups. Although black clubs and latino clubs are becoming extinct, there are still lots of facebook groups for them and their admirers. Lastly there are lots of philosophical and religious groups that are queer affirming: Unity church (think The Secret), Unity Fellowship Church (think black gay baptist church), Metropolitan Community Church (think gay Catholic church) and the Episcopal church. Personally I attend an online church that's right here on UA-cam called Celebration Spiritual Center (think The Secret but with a black baptist twist). Anyways I guess what I'm really trying to say is don't give up on us gays. A lot of us are out here meeting up being in community with each other, accepting each other and NOT BEING WHITE SUPREMACISTS!! Lol. Maybe you can start your own online community just for gay men in America. Judging by these comments, a lot of us would like a different experience of gay life.

Get to a meeting brotha

I'm not sure if you're active anymore, but you made a video that resonated with me because it's not the generic stories in the community. I have always been an outsider in my life, I never fit in anywhere with anyone. I have autism, so already when I realized I wasn't straight I wanted to keep that aspect repressed as much as possible. I fooled around with men, but never had intercourse with them. I'm 31 years old now and realized I robbed myself of developing a healthy bisexual life because I was fearful of my parents or peers rejecting me. So many deaths happened within my family and inner circle last year, it put things into perspective for me, like so I really want to pretend I am something I'm not anymore? I'm not attracted to men who act like women, I'm attracted to men. If I want to date women, I will date a women and have no issues with it, the moment she starts thinking she's a guy and wants HRT, that's my cue to leave. It is hard to find guys for me because I never allowed myself to experiment when I was younger, I cared too much about what others thought about me.

This is gold 😂

I have faced more hate from the gay community than the straights. And no, Im no right-wing nutjob either.

21:35. When you say toplesss nudity should be legal do you also include women? Topless woman?

They have to be to survive

Oh, you stole my thunder. I had to delete my comment recommending 'Velvet Rage' , thought I was special knowing that book. Still an amazing read, and a very quick one. I think more straight people should dive into it, maybe they'd be nicer to us.

Wanna know you mate!!

Hi you mate! Very true what you said. Big hugs

Why speaking on homecsualuti? It is not a theme. People are just tolerant. If you habe been sexually abused just denouce. I do not teprent you. I am a gay guy and I find you sre confusrd. You need hel. Go to your doctor.

So much in this video. Ok, first, I am sorry you had such a horrid experience. You and many, many others have had similar stories. I did not. I came out in my early 20s. I did use marijuana in college, but have avoided illicit drugs since. Being military helped me stay focus though. I agree with what you have said that the moral compass of the Community is broken. But there are good gay men in the world who want to see people succeed. I was lucky to have known a few in San Diego where I lived for 15 years. I also knew some good guys in New York. I live in San Antonio now, and have heard horrid stories about Dallas. I know New Orleans as some of my family live there, and no thank you. So what I can tell is you had what one may call a “typical experience for so many young gay men. But a lot of it is situational, and from what I can tell, you lived in a “confined” area of the country. Maybe go north to NY, or far west to SD. They are perfect, but I know that my experience in both was positive for the most part. Like you I don’t fit in with the behavior of so many gay men. It is hard. I also don’t like small talk, which is part of that community at large (I found). So I understand the sense of being an outcast. I do hope you move to a place where there is a sense of community and you find uplifting members of our community. They do exist.

Im a gay man and have no gay friends, most are stuck up snobs, if your not good looking, Rich or have something to offer them they want nothing to do with you, not all are that way but 90% are.

I'm so proud of you for being able to speak your truth. You're a very strong young man.

Wow, Selispeks is so gorgeous inside and out! If most gay guys valued monogamy like this above sexual adventures ad nauseam lifelong, versus the orgie story he tells, there would be no legitimate arguments against same-sex marriage for men. Yes! White Christian nationalists into meth and cocaine, what the hell? I was walking toward the Café du Monde in Nouvelle Orléans around 10 am, and a guy stopped me on the street to ask me if I was interested in cocaine. I retorted, "No, coffee in the morning will do quite nicely for any healthy or sane person, thank you!" And yes, the night before, at the supposedly oldest gay bar in the USA, a fave of Oscar Wilde, the Café Lafitte, someone roofied my drink, and I awoke the next day totally , etc. ... and some local sandwich shop ladies outside the Vieux Carré told me they never go there do these things and gave me milk and called my mother so I could get back to the airport. It's the worst, most exploitive city I've visited in the entire world.

The vocal fry! Nope. Nope. Nope.

This could be controversial. Selispeks, I hope you see this. I'm a straight man watching you for the first time, and yes, I see your gay mannerisms. But to me, it goes beyond that. I hear the way you describe that you don't fit into gay society's social norms, just like you don't fit into straight society. Take me seriously when I say this: From all your objections to all societies, I sense that you may be on the autism spectrum. Not conforming to any norms in your thought process is a dead giveaway. I say this as someone who is on the spectrum myself. That's how I can notice it. Clearly, you're so high functioning that no one would notice it in you, just as they don't notice it in me. Your ability to point out plain facts and see the really big societal picture is another indication, as is your lack of eye contact with the webcam. This is something you need to investigate in yourself. It could be the missing puzzle piece. It will take effort and research on your part. Trust me, shrinks won't be interested in helping you. Please be open to this possibility, because it may be the thing that makes your whole life make sense.

As I was told before - skin folk ain't always kin folk. Just because one is a certain demographic, even minority/marginalized, does not mean one will be a good person. Parts of an identity does not shape values and character, that's internal. Many people get so lost in a part of their identity they forget to show up as a whole human being. That creates an internal lack of respect and integration and then is spewed out to others in unfavorable ways. I hope more Gay men, and people in general can be brave enough to heal and do the inner to see just how much more interconnected we are, and to not be a perpetrator of hurt just because they've been hurt.

This is true I saw that on the CK Louis reference it was common in Europe to do that due to the fact that he was very Christian and they used Bible verses to justify killing them.

Before apps it was much better. We galvanized to fight the AIDS crisis, get marriage rights, get positive representation and roles in media among so much more. Pride then was a protest and a family. We elders get slapped in the face for that by a generation that stacks conquest on chemsex Grindr and only cares about what they will wear at Pride. It was better in the bar days. There is no more community. I hang with straights now.

I've pretty much completely retreated from the "gay community." Men are terrifying to me, gay men included, sometimes even more so than straight men. I don't really feel like I have anything in common with the gay men I've known in person. 🤷‍♂ Thanks for talking about this.

He's right about identifying causes for things instead of just embracing every part of a culture just for political reasons. There is one thing though, consensual BDSM culture has beautiful roots in freedom trust and love (the three fundies of BDSM) don't confuse the roots of BDSM with the fallen leaves ok

They actually cancelled gay culture in Russia. Young gay men are sent to prison and camps where they are tortured and killed. 🇺🇸🤡

I don't use drugs. None of my gay friends use drugs. You can choose which "community" you want to be a part of.

Agree! 🦆

🦆 Sending a duck emoji as requested 😉 I would love to hear more about the spiritual experiences, so if & whenever you're inspired, feel free to grace us with a video on that topic. Thanks a lot for everything that you do on this channel, take care ❤

Wow! Thank you for sharing. I share many of your views. Sorry for what you’ve gone through and how bad you feel. I have to say however, although I’ve felt some of the negativity from the gay male community, I have removed myself from those who partake in that behavior. I always gravitate to those who are more humane in behavior, have their lives on track, mature and treat each other kindly. With that, it usually ended up these men who were nicer people were those who didn’t dress in expensive clothing, Were not overly concerned about fashion, the trends of the day, perfect hair, etc ( not always the case however). But please know there are plenty of wonderful giving, concerned, hard working, politically active, helpful, friendly, ….gay men out there. Oh we all have our flaws, but the many I know , most who I call friends, are good people. Out of living in the bar, club, bath culture (though visits may be fun occasionally) and on to making friends to live in positive groups on line with to gay hike groups, dinner groups, political groups, etc. and especially at lgbt centers. The centers need volunteers to help others too. I joined our lgbt center where by I’ve joined a weekly lunch group, volunteer doing many chores with their history project, Joined a monthly social group for my age group, started a monthly field trip there, formed another evening social group, going to an all inclusive lgbt rap group at another towns lgbt center…, There is positive people n places to go. Get out and find them and or create them in person and in line. Come to our area and experience it! Harrisburg/Lancaster/York area. I’d be happy to be your tour guide.

I remember reading “The Velvet Rage” almost 20 years ago. It is such an important study of the psychological and emotional challenges faced by gay men growing up in a predominantly heterosexual and often prejudiced society. The book delves into how shame, stemming from societal rejection and familial expectations, profoundly shapes their identities and behaviors. It offers a framework for understanding and overcoming this shame to lead more authentic and fulfilling lives. I love that this book continues to help us build resilience through self-compassion, meaningful connections, and authentic living.

More times than not, suicide is not so much a desire to end one’s life but to rid oneself of the “tyranny of the personality”. Kudos to you for rising from the dead to discover your true self. Life is certainly a journey and not for the faint of heart. I am happy that you survived to tell your story. ❤️

❤ Be true to you. Be as you are. ❤

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I can relate to u and ur struggles and im a black person who is attached to the alphabet community. Its amazing how both the minority alphabet community and white alphabet community have similar issues.

Strangest video I've ever stopped watching 😲😲😲😲😲😲

Gay...is weird and has nothing to do with sr8 people. I feel it is genetic and may be resolved after I am long gone. It may be as simple as gene plicing and the disintegration of gay men into...str8.

Why do you sound like and your affect come across as a...girl? It's really...weired...

I am a 63 year old gay man. I hear what you are saying and it makes me very sad. I have been in recovery from alcohol since I was 33, and that has saved me from much of the culture downsides, Being sober really helped me understand I was not terminally unique and there are other people more like me than different from me in the world. I became aware of the sex trafficking grooming techniques that abusers use to trap men and women in prostituting themselves for drugs and even porn. When I was a student in college taking courses on substance abuse I realized the need to educate men everywhere about those grooming techniques because otherwise you get men who honestly believe the victims of sex trafficking want it and are asking for it, and your right many of them end up in prison and becoming abusers themselves. This is not unique to the “Gay” community, it is everywhere.

I was my moms medical POA yet a distant relative my mom hasn’t seen in years managed to get conservatorship over her. I was never notified, nor were my siblings, or my dad. We can’t locate my mom, and no one will give us any info. Relatives told us she died and now won’t answer our calls or emails or letters.

Thank you for being honest.

I hope you got into psychology to look at yourself, gay trauma, and the gay community. You have potential. And again, I am in agreement with you I think. ❤😊 stay true to you.

You make a good video and point out serious concerns that I have seen and heard and experienced. Thank you. Be real. Be true to yourself. Don’t try to satisfy anyone by giving up on your own integrity. ❤😊

I have noticed women nowadays are more supportive of each other, when we all heard “women competed a lot between themselves”. I think we should too learn from this, I hardly had seen gays supporting each other when there is no sexual interest inbetween. Generally diversity has won some terrain in human rights today (theres still a lot to do however) we should evolve with this too in some way I think. I love many of my gay acquaintances and friends.

This is so true thank you for having the balls to post this. I feel just like you.

What the gay community trying to say that they are the world's ugliest people on earth

I’ve been out of the scene since I first saw a few glimpses and realized I didn’t want to be a part. I have apergers and it luckily kept me safe because I would call stuff out and leave the scene. They don’t tend to like “truth tellers.” I found a few gay people that are decent and we are still in touch, but I knew a few queen bee types in my time too and steer clear of them now.

Many reasons you won’t catch me in the “scene”, honestly I get along with straight religious folks with respect despite their beliefs, there is hope in the world. You don’t need to be in these “gay” spaces or get into the party drug life, sure you might “enjoy” it, but after hearing all this, was it ever worth it? I’m probably going to get out more myself but, I will certainly take note of these issues and stay cautious. Hope things get better, sad to see what I’ve missed out on was not really even good.

Because they came out and want out of date revenge for how they feel. A personal privilege that they covet and protect.