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Glad it resonated

Everyone is insecure to some extent, yes, but not everyone plays out their insecurities by seeking attention from others. The way you hold that belief comes off a bit like projection. It may be rare, but there are people who handle their insecurities via far healthier means than that

@@MindsetWithJosh or they think they are handling their insecurities via far healthier means but in reality aren't, few people truly deal with their issues problems and insecurities in healthy manners. The fact you jump to projection in defense of your belief based solely on how you believe I hold my opinion from all of a few short sentences kinda speaks volumes. From my perspective your opinion on the psychology of attention seeking seems to be more based on your personal dealings with someone in your life who is or at the very least you perceive as attention seeking, rather than the actual psychology behind it, but I could easily be wrong, however 3 minuets and some seconds is hardly enough time to go into the matter in any real depth. As an AuDHD I find that NT's often over simplify and/or over complicate matters in order to echo their own beliefs which only stands to reinforce those beliefs in their own self made echo chamber.

Well, why are you giving those rejections so much focus and importance in your life? You don't need to let them define you. Especially since nearly all rejections happen so early on that they aren't rejecting the real you, they're rejecting whatever they believe you to be (which is often incredibly wrong since they haven't had the time to get to know you). The way we handle rejection has far more to do with our mindset than anything else, and you can train yourself to not let it impact you to such a degree that it makes you give up on things that can bring you much fulfillment and happiness

@@MindsetWithJosh dont get me wrong, i have what i would call a fullfilling life, i take care of my elderly mother, i volunteer, i find my job fulfilling and it keeps the lights on, i have friends that i hang out with. i am confident in several facets of my life, im getting in shape and im healthy despite a few recent happenings. but im 32, and so far women havent been intrested in me romantically, i dont begrudge them or hate them, theyre not evil for what they want, but whatever they want, its not me, its been 16 years of rejection so far, and honestly, im a bit tired of even trying, this game is not for me nor quite a few other men, its how the world is, some people dont really have value in that game.

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"So the way we should deal with it is to not deal with it?" I mean, if you want to straw man what I said in the video, sure. But that's rather intellectually dishonest. 🤷🏻‍♂

@MindsetWithJosh I'm seeing a pattern here. You make many words. You say nothing. Seems like a lot of , well intellectually desolate. Your words are crawling through the deseet, desperately straining, on the verge of giving up, repeating the chant,,"meaning...i have no meaning.... just a small glass of meaning, please! Did you just learn that term? Straw man? Did that make u feel clever? Bless your useless little heart. You aren't very adept at the humor thing , apparently. I was makin jokes kid. But now you will suffer my wrath. "And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee. " -name the quote So after quoting me (for redundancy, i guess, you began your respose with ,"I mean..." Thats one of the dumber recent language fads. Probably only 2nd to what you nerds are doing to the word "literally" and another is "conspiracy" To those of us that have completed puberty, its pretty obvious who is thinking for themselves and who is repeating things they heard others say in s similar context as what they think they heard it. You're listening to idiots. You really should look stuff up. Its not like you have to ooen a book anymore. Theres no excuse for babbling out of pocket these days. Sounding like someone who sounds educated, isn't the same as being educated. You don't want any , trust me. Ill have you feeling so dumb, by the end, you will delete this post due to embarrassment. But if you're feeling froggy, then jump!

Plz don't project, MILFSLAYER6969

@@MindsetWithJoshI think the problem is op tried to project but couldn’t reach his mouth

Awesome to hear. Have a great workout! 💪🏻

Anyone who is striving to better themselves is a legend in my book 💪🏻

Yeah, it's unfortunate. Society is failing men big time

Yeah, I'm sure quite a lot of women would agree. Yet another good reason why men shouldn't chase women

Lmao, no! Don't chase anyone 😤

Exactly

Have you tried meditating on it? Asking yourself those questions may help you dig to the root cause of it

Chasing is never worth it. The right folks won't hide their interest in you

That's a good question, Ivy! I'm not familiar with how ADHD can impact this, but if they genuinely struggle with tracking time, part of me wants to provide leniency for them. Another part of me thinks 'well, what about using timers?' 😅 Idk, it's a bit rough when someone is consistently late. I've seen people attribute that to selfishness, but I haven't delved into the research on that yet myself. Regardless, if you have a boundary due to self-respect and don't want others to carelessly waste your time, the people who care about you should respect that and do their best to be on time. It's really not that difficult to do 😛

Society has nearly lost all the subtle ways in which people were motivated to better themselves. Nowadays, society seems mostly about enabling selfishness and other bad behavior. Go figure we're already seeing the results of it

​@@MindsetWithJosh yeah and you say anything you're the heartless jerk. I hope we get it back I miss those times

That's the goal!

This is pretty much the way I view it based off all my research into psychology. It's one thing if someone is occasionally toxic on a bad day, but when they're consistently toxic, that speaks volumes about their level of inner work

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Yeah, it's definitely a combination of selfish people, the noise and distractions, and the lack of easy access to nature that makes city life tough for some of us. Most city folks don't even realize how loud and distracting city life can be until they experience the peace and serenity found in nature. I grew up visiting national parks and camping with my family, so city life never felt quite right to me

@@MindsetWithJosh it's interesting, this human experience

Indeed! It seems like cities are distracting enough that people forget just how insane it is that everything even exists haha

Your last sentence is true af. However, on the aspect of sticking up for others when there's no direct benefit to you-I've seen quite a few people do this in gaming communities. It likely greatly depends on the game in question since every game will attract different audiences. But I've seen gamers stand up against toxicity rather often, and it's really cool to see

Haha, I imagine there are a decent amount of people who do this as well. As long as you're not rude to others for no reason for any of your characters, there's no harm in that at all

Definitions are slightly different depending on the source, but here's one I found with a quick Google search that defines it well: "Toxic behavior is characterized by actions and attitudes that harm or manipulate others."

I'm inclined to agree. Even when people say they behave differently offline, all that tells me is that they switch up their behavior due to the consequences being far more dire in person. That doesn't make them a good person. If anything, it makes them a coward.

That sounds like either a very specific type of hopeless romantic or projection based on your own experiences. I highly doubt all of them, or even the majority of them, are like this. Some hopeless romantics simply just place too much importance on finding love and become needy due to it. That's all

​@@MindsetWithJoshProbably you might be right. I just think the majority that I've met have all these high expectations of how a relationship should be to how it really is long term. Idk lol

Thank you. 🙏🏻 Glad you enjoyed the video!

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It's sad how common this is. Society did men a huge disservice by expecting us to be overly masculine all the time. With that expectation, even hugs between men are nearly 'taboo'

Yeah, it's rather unfortunate. The worst of it is when you see someone who lacks self-awareness call others out on behavior they do themselves... Make it make sense 😅

Exactly. Literally just engaging with people when you go about your everyday life. That's all it takes!

What if that low body count comes from meaningless one-night stands? Sure, it may be low and meet your criteria there, but would that not make you think a bit differently about it? On the other hand, what if that low body count was purely from meaningful experiences, whether they were committed relationships or one-night stands that had an emotional connection? Would you value that more than the former example? This is what I mean about the nuance in this conversation. When we forgo all nuance, we aren't thinking nearly as logically as we'd like to believe.

@@MindsetWithJosh You are cheating...you are changing the frame...I am talking about a high body count, not a low one...and if you reach 30 years old single with a high body count, you are not the best candidate to build a solid and stable family...here I am talking about building something very serious: children in good mental health and the stability of the couple is one of the most important criteria for them...and when you have a serious project, you do not play with "nuances"....I will not hire a technician to build a rocket if he does not have a clear and solid background and proof of his skills....and as always, in these discussions, we always forget the main thing: the children...every topic about feminism or women forget all the time the main topic : what about the children ?

You only consider this cheating because it goes against your confirmation bias. Heck, you're shifting the goal posts yourself with your response. At least be intellectually honest if you're going to debate this topic. Otherwise, everyone's time is better spent elsewhere

@@MindsetWithJosh In your response I observe that you are now off topic, you do not answer, and you attribute intentions to me, attack ad hominem and you order and decide what is a waste of time or not... You are not in the exchange, you order, decide etc... in short, you only talk about yourself by doing that.... again, I would like us to talk about something other than "me", I am not the subject of the conversation... I would like to return to my basic topic, which is that I maintain that a high number of partners is correlated with family instability... and increases the chances of divorce, statistics have been made in this sense and prove it... : Someone who has had many partners demonstrates that he has never found it important to build a solid relationship, based on sacrifice in his life and I am writing to you that a rational person will not see in this person a good candidate to build a stable and serious family in the long term... and we cannot to blame an adult for wanting to choose carefully the person with whom he will build his family...and sorry for my bad english, it's not my langage.

@@MindsetWithJosh ho ? And can you show me where i writed " i consider this cheating" ? i am curious...Solipcism...