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There's one in here. Total asshole and loving it.

Sometimes I feel bad for cutting toxic ppl out of my life, but other times I don’t feel bad. Sometimes, I question if I’m a little narcissistic, since I’ve been around those type of people for a while now.

Is it common for antagonistic narc to be extra harmful to others (men in particular) at work due to a break up with their spouse?

Hi!! I was diagnosed with paraphrenia almost 2 months ago but I’m only 23. So it’s not only in the elderly right??

🙏 thank you 🙏

Great explanation.Appreciated 👍🏻

Wow. How many more subscriptions in this to vloggers that nail it so well . Thank you for this, funny, she was such a magnet for me that i really believed all her BS lies, deceit, love bombs, manipulation, i believe they also live to cast onto you their OWN PTSD that THEY may suffer from (she was psych diagnosed as "all the above and WOW was it ever blatant) empath / ppl pleaser aware afer this epic disaster of late for sure, she even resorted to supplier of/to my ailing elder - aunt with full blown dimentia a concoction of opiods and methamphetamine (just to vindication of her affirmations of i being "the abuser" the first and ONLY time i left Aunti alone with her for Maybe 20min) un frikkin real. The Psychopathy in these individuals is beyond dangerous to the victim (s) near by Bless you short and to the point. Very well done.

Thank you. Good words.

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hi! thank you for this piece. what in your opinion are the best books/articles on Paraphrenia to begin with? thank you in advance!

My wife likes to say things to my daughter about me. while knowing that what she's saying is about me and in front of me. she knows she is trying to get under my skin. When I call her out on it she says I'm being crazy and it makes me angry .... At that point I'm angry and call it what it is... It really bothers me. I just turned 40 and I made a pact to myself at 37 that of it doesn't change by 40 I have to leave. My wife is a middle child and has played the victim roll mostly all of her life. Where as I am an oldest sibling of four and have had to endure an abusive childhood with a single mother and no positive male roll model. I've had to suck it up and overcome a lot of stuff to try and become a man that I can be proud of and I'll be damned if I am going to backslide into the guy I was in my 20s. So I have to leave her. I do care a great deal about her and I love my child unconditionally but I feel that her mother is stunted by her inability to think outside her own victimhood. I can admit when I'm wrong and do apologize when I am. It's not in her character to apologize. It's cold shoulders and days of not speaking to me which feels like a form of psychological punishment. At this point I'll be glad to be rid of her. .. when we met I was on a path of self work and trying to meet new friends and build meaningful healthy relationships. We were friends for awhile before we dated and never fought or argued.. once we made it official things went south. Thanks for listening I guess... Fml

imo antogonistic narcissists have many psychopath traits. narcopaths are very antogonistic and aggressive.

When a narcissists gets a taste of their own medicine it makes them more bitter

God bless you in the name of Jesus amen!

Cutting people is not toxic. Its about boundaries.

This video was depressing and the few comments I read made it even more depressing.

This is my exhusband!!!!!!!! 26 years of mental, emotional and physical abuse still live with him with no way out!

One of the hardest things to work on is letting go of an adult narc child. The deep unconditional love is always there

there is nothing better for your mental health than rejecting post modern liberal ideas.

Tattoo and piercings. Exactly, what kind of reaction does she want to elicit from her appearance? Will others see you in a credible way?

Pisses me off too! You just described my mother. 18 years of dealing with her. Thank God she’s dead. I know pretty harsh huh? I’ve never heard about this one - ever. “NO” is a red flag for these people. ♥️

cutting someone out of your life is NOT a toxic trait. Where on earth did you get that from?

The technique of a narcissist poking and prodding until you react is called “reactive abuse”. The whole goal is to get a rise out of you so they can immediately pull the victim role-reversal card and make you look like the aggressor. To win with the narcissist you do not play their game. Cut them off completely and take your power back. No-contact all the way is the only way. Do not feed the narcissist. You must starve them. NEGATIVE ATTENTION (fighting with them) is one of the strongest forms of supply. 💜✌🏻

Thanks

I understand when you said cutting off as toxic trait….when one goes through toxicity, narcissism over and over …at times the victim develops this trait of cutting off people without communicating much as self defence mechanism

I dont even hve any tides with this person she always after my every move and doing her dirty evil works behind the dark.

My next door neighbour has this. Or something like it. She makes my life a misery. I wish she’d drop dead, to be honest.

Thank you, it's hard to have church people screaming at me. I see it so much on Utube. Even though people mean well it brings up bad vibes. I think many children ended up homeless in the streets because of the Sceaming " you must have a demon in you. It's just not ok. You have a very nice approach. Thank you

Very aggressive. I dont like their behavior at all. I went supernova on him. He never could love bomb me. I am a super empath. I know how to pick out narcissist. I will take them all down.

I am dealing with one. Fortunately he is self arresting and less than well thought-out. Despite being in my midst, an unfortunate reality at this point, silence/no contact has proven HIGHLY effective. Simply going about my business as he goes out of his way to scream, yell and explode (in front of whoever is around) exposes him for who he truly is whilst I move forward undetered. I simply do not respond or look at him as the histronics go over the top.

its my ex, i finally understand her problem. Thank you

My ex-husband is a covert or has these tendencies. I am currently no contact. Working on staying that way. Please keep doing these types of videos. Thank you.

Very accurate description. Good video!

A communal Narcissism: communal is regional. So, a new term like this is better not broadcast with half understanding. Psychology applicable for individual are different from representative sample size of a group or team. The lesser is hard, the better.

Hallmarks of Antagonistic NPD. -Parasitic behavior. Sponged off men. Ex. Kimbal Musk/Elon Musk relationship. -Predation. Lightning fast, transfer your pocket into her pocket. Ex. My dad's whole life policy proceeds. -Competition. Really, her monkeyshines and desire to destroy me exposed this theft. Ex. Me! Yep. That's Martha.

Once u ever unfortunately encounter a NARC u r traumatized for life u never EVER WANT TO MEET ANOTHER ONE UGH EVERY CELL IN UR BODY IS AFFECTED BY THESE DEMONS FROM HELL😈Stay strong guard ur energy 🙏💜

All priests and many social workers, in Brazil kardecists as they call themselves believe they have special power on their hands and are eternal beings very special and superior to other shades of christianity.

Sounds like (Re)Gretha Thumberg or something. I kind of like what she does, but she doesn't get that she ain't got shit to sacrifice like some people's got full on lifes. She's a kiddo. Somebody get her orange juice." there there."

So hard when the means in which we must enforce our boundaries is constant being challenenged by narcissist(s). When that is happening we must remember that their is a season for everyhing.

i believe you

Many times, when someone "re-examines their Faith", .....i would offer this, to be cautious about. Suppose, you were in a very strict or abusive church. Then, you got away or left it. And you feel good about that. But-- too often-- those same folks who do that, then go from a strict or abusive church to a far-too-lax and loose/casual "hyper-Grace" church where hardly anything is a sin and its all so "totally caszh, duuude" and everything is all about "llooovve" and "Grace"....but no accountability. No difference from "the World". Christians are to be the "Salt of the earth" but where is the salt? I think its good to ask questions and to feel a confidence in one's beliefs. But its sad that sooo often people get out of something and then swing to some opposite extreme. Beware of that. You might enjoy some youtube videos (about Christianity & current "culture") by Natasha Crain.

How interesting. I've listened to several UA-cam videos (from various people) on Narcissism and have never experienced the "early love bombing" that later gets taken away. What I HAVE experienced is a whole lot of: "Disagree, Dismiss, Invalidate and Minimize!" Over and over. And, as Jess pointed out somewhere, their "little interest in others experiences". They quickly shift to a different topic or turn the conversation back to themselves.. But I have 2 other questions: 1. Is Jess a Psychologist? Certified? This is not an attack. If she is just someone with opinions on Psychology, I still enjoy her informative videos. I'm a "layman" myself. But I'm curious. And-- 2. Has anyone ever run into this? Is it even "a thing"? What might be behind this? Any speculations? It's a sort of cluster that seems unrelated to each other. It goes like this: A) HUGE concern/emphasis on PRODUCTIVITY/Workaholism. This person visits you once, possibly twice, in a year. Always when convenient for them. Because their yard "needs" constant attention. They are gone from home working 2 weeks on and maybe home for 2 weeks or sometimes just 1 week. But still. I mean, for once or twice out of a year, couldn't they pay someone 75 bucks to mow their lawn and water some plants while their gone visiting you for a week or 10 days? And-- B) Other people this person works with are usually categorized as either competent or worthless. Hardly any in-between. There's still more . . . C) when visiting here, they are on a very tight schedule and they have it planned and mapped out. They may help and do yardwork for your old parents for hours and barely have much more free time than to have brunch and dinner and maybe an hour of TV after dinner then into bed and repeat the next day. But where was any Fun? You don't get along with them. It's as if every encounter, you feel they will try to "set the agenda" of what happens and when, and also the standards by which others will be judged. You feel like they too often act as if they are your boss and you are getting some evaluation and they will decide if you are "measuring up". That's a bit of sarcasm but also alot of truth. D) They don't seem to give a Damn, about anything that frustrates or aggravates you. They blow it off (repeatedly!) with "That's LIFE", as if, you should just suck it up and shut up.....until....it happens to THEM. Then, they get P*ssed and gripe like a 6 yr old. Its the HYPOCRISY that bothers me. E) they keep trying to be IN CHARGE in places and situations where they clearly aren't. Example: SINCE WHEN do I need "permission" to play music in my own car just because they are riding with me? Its MY car, they are my "turf" and NO ONE forced them to ride with me. But they try to tell me what I can and cant do, or when and where. F) Talking about anything "speculative" or uncertain seems to really annoy them. (It could be Religion, Psychology, Science Fiction and who knows what else?). So you happen to be talking about something "subjective". So what? "What does your gut say? What is your "most likely"best-guess?" But they are very reluctant to give any opinion here or may quickly say it's "pointless" to talk about because we dont know. God forbid that "kicking around ideas" might actually be fun . . . G) The Past. Bring up some Rock song from 30 yrs ago. or talk about something way back in high school and they may shake their head like you're the crazy one or they say: that was a long time ago. So what? Are all of their old memories bad ones? Whats up with this, and "F" above? So thats it. A big jumbled mess. But by far, the near-constant work & busyness, and the trying to be in charge, and the invalidation are the big things. All this may not be any particular recognized "disorder". (shrug). Is it Narcissism plus something else? I don't know. Nonetheless, its a royal pain-in-the-A** to keep dealing with. Any thoughts? Anyone . . .

What do you think of this? I say, that all people, get to be totally-in-charge, in 3 places on this earth. Those 3 places are: 1. IN your house 2. ON your property 3. IN your own car/truck/vehicle . . . . .and with that in mind, imagine this everyday situation and Boundaries: A family member is riding with you in *your* car and you have the radio or a music CD on while driving. Its music you really like, but they say the music sucks and to turn it off. How do you (or anyone reading this) feel about this conversation? Here is what I feel they would be likely to say, and my responses: Them: Gawd, that music sucks. Shut it off. Me: I like it and this is my car. Them: But I'm a "captive audience". Me: #1--NO ONE forced you to ride with me. And its my car. Would you tell me what TV channel to have on if you were in my house? Them: Well, iiiii wouldn't do things like that. I'd shut if off it you were in my car." Me: Maybe. But you would be within your rights either way. But even aside from that: Your-choices-dont-obligate-me! Them: well, you could have a little more consideration. Me: IIII could? 2 replies: #1. who is on who's "turf" here? When iiii'm the passenger, or a visitor at someone else's place, I do things *their* way. They, or you, can show "consideration" and respect by doing the same for me. and #2: What would I do if you weren't even here? I'd enjoy this same music. Nothing is different. Same behavior. And why should I diminish my enjoyment any less, or inhibit myself just because you are here? Them: That sounds selfish. 15 minutes without your music wouldn't kill you. Me: And 15 minutes of hearing it won't kill you, either. I am within my rights if its in my house, on my property or in my car. Just like you are. Them: Gawd, I hate driving with you. Me: I can stop the car. You are free to go. No one ever forced you at all. Comment: There! That should cover the likely objections and arguments. One more thing---suppose i *did* give them their way on this bit with the radio. How soon would it be before they found 6 other ways and situations for me (or you) to be more "considerate" ? You get to be "courteous" but they will never admit to being "manipulative", will they? I didn't think so. It's an ongoing battle but we usually feel better when we stand up for our rights . Do you disagree with this? If so, why? I feel we are "within the rights of our own legitimate boundaries" here. Any thoughts?

So! We know how to set boundaries. We have a good feel for who is, and who isn't "good for us". And then-- you meet someone new. Will the two of you become good friends? Here is a list you can use to avoid a big fat batch of aggravation. Watch for these things, especially early on. Go through this list and then I ask you: Do you think that this list is "going too far?" Here goes: 1. Call--before you come over un-announced. Show up on time. 2. Don’t block my car in the driveway 3. When you come in, dont walk in with a half-eaten Burger and fries and the sack they were in and continue at my place. I didn’t invite you over to dump your garbage here. 4. When you call and I tell you to come on over, I meant just you, NOT also yer buddy from work, kids in diapers or your dog. 5. You came over to visit me. Therefore, leave your cell phone in your car. I dont want you to no sooner walk in and have your phone go off and listen to you yack for 20 minutes with someone at your work or while you catch up with someone you havent spoke to in 6 months while I sit there completely uninvolved. 6. No smoking. 7. Dont ask me to lend you money. I wont, either. 8. Don’t bring over some “bunch of papers” and ask me to help you fill them out. 9. No, you cant borrow my laptop, tablet, phone or computer. BUY your own. 10. Don’t bring over any “Gifts” (translation: junk items you no longer want. I dont want them either.) 11. Dont bring over any small appliances or gadgets and want me to repair/fix them. 12. Don't come over and give me some sales-pitch or try to get me to JOIN anything!, or sign up for anything. Or buy anything.

Sounds like someone I know hmmmm

I found out that the narc that I was talked into moving into his house has used me as his justification to being a model citizen made me out to be homeless and having mental health issues to his neighbors. Some have been taken in by his facades and I’m realizing that I’m not the only one being abused but so are they. The second narc in my life has used a smear campaign on me at where I go skiing. I’m continuing to be myself regardless

I agree with you because I have had a female like that at my former workplace, here in Australia

Setting boundaries over your life is not a toxic trait. Jesus said Whoever does Gods will is my mother and brother A man’s enemies is member of household Cutting people is not toxic The codependent people pleaser is a Spiritual issue that Jesus got me free from If I was a people pleaser I would not be a servant of Christ You can not control others

I appreciate this insight; unfortunately, I grew up with an older sister who definitely met these criteria. My father was also a narcissist, but more prone to manipulation than being antagonistic. Not surprisingly, I have been in professional mental health treatment for years, and no longer have contact with my most toxic relatives.