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I feel the need to say that the self-interrogation will need to take place many, many times over your life. It's not a "one-and-done" thing. I'm almost 60, and I've made the explicit choice many times to focus on myself. Thankfully, I absolutely love what I do for a living, am respected for it at a high level, and it pays well, but yes, I have wished from time to time that I lived in a world with good, solid reasons to enter into a relationship with men. We just do not live in a world where heterosexuality is a good thing for women. I wish we did. We don't. And I've had to perform that interrogation multiple times. As you get older, you will need to do that as well, and it will be different every time. Just be prepared for it, and be prepared for the Nth shapeshifting iteration of, "My God, we really are barely sentient livestock that makes inconvenient noises in this world." When you are young, there will always be that faint 2% of your brain that will hold out hope, but as you get older, you realize that humans have been like this for one million years, and they will continue to be like this for one million more. It's not nice. It does have the advantage of being true, but it's not nice. And -- major warning here -- NEVER, NEVER, NEVER ASSUME THAT YOU ARE IMMUNE to throwing other women under the bus, no matter your politics or who you voted for or what emojis you put after your name. Do not assume you are immune to the thirst for a female hate receptacle because you are a feminist, because that word seems to change meaning every 10 years or so. If you detest a man on the other side of your political fence, but you can practically feel your brain boiling in uncontrolled rage at the thought of a woman on the same side as you who merely isn't standing in exactly the same place, that is a high-level alert, and we really all need to be aware of that. Every other woman you disagree with is not Satan, okay? Sometimes she's just a woman you disagree with. Don't start shoving people off the fire escape, and NEVER ASSUME that because you possess X, Y, or Z characteristic that you don't need to be vigilant against that instinct. ALL OF US DO.

Never stop chasing your creativity 🇨🇦🫶🏼

"We need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable" This is good life advice for anyone anywhere. Going along to get along is never a good plan.

I feel like there will never be justice for me so I am constantly trying to advocate for justice for others. Kind of codependent, I guess. But also an avoidance technique. This analysis is brilliant! I want closure-but it will trigger their defenses. I see it now.

I've been reading comments on a lot of different channels. People who have wildly different views and opinions. The absolute worst ones for hate towards women are.... women. Lefty single women bashing other women, really, really nasty stuff and why? Because the other women are ATTRACTIVE. And they have commented the heinous crimes of GETTING MARRIED AND HAVING CHILDREN AND BEING HAPPY. But hate speech is ok when it's aimed at attractive women who are happy with their lives. SISTERHOOD, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha yeah 😂😂

I call her "little girl with brick". She's always there, always ready to end fights we didn't start, and always on my side. She is not the best person for the job of "Karen at PTA meeting" although I do get a good laugh at how those two would get along while I'm letting my more diplomatic side handle that problem. Excellent video.

I feel the exact same way!

Put down the Pew Pew now

Thank you. I sometimes blame myself for not being able to “fit in” with environments and individuals that keep me on edge and shame myself for not being a master at self regulation when I really had no examples of it growing up. It’s ok to need space and time to learn to feel safe and centered. I appreciate you helping me review my tool kit and develop compassion for all the past and present parts of me

The young bring me hope!

I could listen to you for hours. ❤

wow. thank you.

what a wonderful eloquent and clear way to describe a confusing concept. thank you.

Thank you ❤

This is beautiful

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thank you for this

What I can't focus

i just ended a friendship in an unsavoury way but i had to do it, this helps a lot cause neither me or her will start healing until the truth comes out

I moved out literally 3 days ago and have been bending over backward to heal the parts of me that the people who raised me hurt. I've noticed I don't know what to do with myself now that I'm out of that environment. Like I feel aimless. I think it's because I'm still trying to heal those parts of me [and hence, the people who raised me as I've introjected them]. It struck a cord when you said "collateral damage that estranged children who have been ...". Thanks for your wisdom.

Wow, that's very important. I didnt know how to put it into words, but you described how the healing process happends in private. Hope more people will know how to heal themselves.

Let's Go Bald..🫰💜

This is a fantastic take. Making peace with and reintegrating parts of yourself doesn't always feel good. The fact that it feels bad is often a sign it's working because those were wounds we were running from.

Sad to see that mental illness of feminism and political hatred of people who think differently than others is spreading like this. But what else can you expect from Tik Tok and this unhinged response that women who know deep down they are low value to society use these platforms to spread their hatred and division of Men and Women. Shameful to the ultimate degree.

This is absolutely right on...

I really appreciate you and your views and wish every happiness.

This was lovely <3

This was incredibly helpful to me as well, thank you so much, this was right on time! Definitely get a sub from me after this. Thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 5 years. Our relationship has only gotten better with time, and our love has only grown. We have "conflict" as most do when you spend all your time with someone but it's little stuff and we're always on the same side. There's no name calling, belittling, yelling etc. a far cry from my childhood. Relationship are a lot of work but it shouldn't be as difficult as others make it out to be.

What bothers me the most is that even after years of women finally realising they have the option to choose better, it's still so systematically ingrained in us to put up with our (male) partners that we forget that we don't HAVE to put up with them anymore

Omg. Thank you so much for this! After I finish cleaning up the brains (from my head exploding) off the floor this has helped me to move in a paralyzing situation. 🤯🙏🥰😮‍💨

This goes both ways. Women expect men to do better than the woman so by default the tough times are something that both parties experience. But men don't get the luxury of getting to take breaks or step out of the relationship because they are punished more for it.

Perfect

After almost 50 years on this earth. In ALL of the relationships i have EVER seen on been in. The "TOUGH TIMES" are almost always the men doing something and then guilting the woman into dealing with it. Surprisingly these tough times and consequently all of physical and medical conditions it causes in women disappear when she gets away from the man. That's why single women live longer and healthier lives than partnered women.

The 🥨 is so familiar RIP. - side note your jumper reads as MAIM I was like “right on” them realised it was flipped and actually it’s Miami 😂

One of my favorite movies from the 90's was *"Dazed and Confused."*

"women take full responsibility" 😂😂😂 I can't even retort

Best video I've seen in forever. Thank you for articulating this so perfectly. I ended such a relationship almost a year ago, after working at keeping it going for a solid 11 months. Being a spotlight was NOT appreciated and my consistent cleaning up was taken for granted. Came to the same conclusion as you. Totally unfair and unsustainable.

My ex would read all the communication books and listen to podcasts and talk to people, and we even went through 4 different therapists. He did all that so he could tell me what was wrong with me and "fix" me, never using any of it for himself. We took dance lessons for fun, and he kept yelling at me so the dance teacher danced with us individually to see where our issue was and told him it was him... we were suddenly "to busy" to keep going to dance. Each therapist told him he was the one who was in the wrong, so we suddenly had a new therapist... the last one said we shouldn't be together. So I broke up with him. But I certainly tried 😥 It wasn't until I was out that I learned he was a narcissist. So he believed he could do no wrong.

So much wisdom…. Absolutely brilliant insight. Just subscribed.

And this becomes even more important if kids are involved. Please do not stay together for the kids, you're not doing them a favour. You'll teach them how to ignore their needs and wants to people please bullies. You'll subject them to your partner's erratic and harmful behaviour which will prevent them from freely developing their personality and potential. You're setting them up for a life of crippling mental health issues.

I'm a lifelong feminist and have read all of these books already. Do you have anything further into the more jungian and metaphorical category for us ADHD and neuro-spicy folk? I tend think in symbols and metaphors. Think Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

Thank you for sharing these reads. Can I stop and have a giggle at how the author of Women and Power has the last name Beard? Thats metal AF lol. I hope to help my baby boomer aged OG hippy mom to become even more empowered after being a survivor herself. ✊fight the power

Good luck with your better life.

Doesn't sound like me - but it sure does sound like my mother

I don't want kids or to be married because I came to the realization that I can barely care for myself, let alone another person. And even if my partner and I are childfree, most men these days pretty much want a mom they can bang, so it'll be like caring for an overgrown child.

AWESOME!!! FINALLY someone says what I have been living for quite a few years now… WOMEN LISTEN TO HER! SHE IS A TRUE FEMINIST!!!

62 year old white woman in a red state. I've leaned left as long as I can remember. To this day I'm still yanking racism and misogyny out.

Thank you. You’ve just described my entire existence and have named what has eluded me for far too long.

Centralize women is a great aim because while you're tearing down the old ways new ones can fill it. Empower and encourage OTHER WOMEN like we have done to men.... 🎉🎉🎉🎉