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Ex of 9 years used to stonewall me throughout the relationship over silly arguments. The final stonewall she did for about a week, I got sick of it and I matched her behavior. 7 days in I mentioned that it is not friendly and she said that she is "Not responsible for how I feel" . That led to a heated argument and she kicked me out from our apartment. She never let me back in. She packed up all my stuff in garbage bags, said that I am abusive and that I have anger problema. Very cruel of her!

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You are full of shit! Im my case it was due to in-law's bigotry and prejudice. My ex eas mega influenced by her parents who hated my guts from day one. Im Canadian, British Canadian and her parents were eccentric french Canadian. They also encouraged and supported all her affairs!

Even if I send my soon to be ex-husband this video, I can already expect that he won’t watch it or will watch maybe the first minute only. He fell asleep during PRE-marriage counselling, I don’t even know why I said yes.

It’s incredible to see this sort of content in an echo chamber of voices that are advocating for “walk away… she’s toxic… you deserve better…” bullshit. It’s people like you that are going to change the narrative around marriage and I believe the marriage statistics will eventually follow suit. Keep fighting the good fight!

So the effort is only mine! As usual

so this person is telling us to be more clever then the bitch we married from the beginning ,correct or not

And what if you did the work over 12 months. Reconciled, was met with walls and tests, stonewalling, false hope, bread crumbing then she served divorce paperwork. She wouldn’t check back in after some small old behaviours come back up

I am looking for your help in my marriage dear Lord. Amen

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This is why men think women are crazy. In that scenario what does trash have to do with feeling like an equal? Why wouldn’t she just have an adult conversation and say I don’t feel treated like an equal? Women divert emotional responsibility by using the object or task as a scape goat for their uncomfortable feelings or emotions that they don’t want to admit come so easily at the drop of a dime or spilled milk, instead of just saying what they really mean, and then expect men to just figure it out without explaining it while also blaming them

I may be the only comment on this video and that is fine because God wanted me to hear this message. Out of all of the marriage help videos I watch for help and restoration in my current marriage, this one was the deepest and most resonating one for me today. I am a Christian and my name is Joshua. My parents named me after Joshua from the Old Testament so I believe that this was meant to be heard by me. I also will add that my church I am apart of had this same sermon last Sunday on Joshua. Good video, and thank you! God Bless!

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash

Divorce is never the way out, My husband and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I wasn't going to let my marriage of 9years crash

How do I do these steps

Thanks for your good and honest advice. it is very useful.

This is helpful thank you!

Marriage may go through toxic. That is why. I am watching your youtube.

Thanks Cody, 11mths into your programme and I have learnt so much about myself and where I was going wrong, keep the content up

I watched your youtube a lot. It is very helpful. My wife left home. It has been for a while. And she refuse to come back home. She wanted me to pay her parent`s debt for her. It made our problem started. It is not a small amout. What should I do to make my wife to come back for me?

Brad’s awesome - appreciate the insight

I see it!! Come on over, let’s hang out. 👍🏽🤣

So let me get this straight according to you it’s the man’s fault that the woman’s deciding to act like a child and not regulate her emotions. That’s just great advice.

Why don't you let her go? Who doesn't want you, you don't want him Let the one who does not love you and does not want you go to hell

revolting little man

Good advice!

This video made me constipated

Jesus loves u all repent and turn to god believe in the gospel

I don’t understand when tf she takes accountability and responsibility for her negative and toxic ways in the relationship. Why do these videos only to make the woman feel better? When tf do the issues the man has in the relationship get addressed? So the man has to struggle and silence with none of his needs being met or addressed until…she feels better?

What if she should feel bad about herself for her actions

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Sounds like you want men to take the abuse? I have done this change of mindset, and her behavior continues. What about our emotional safety and security?

Man I need to hear stuff like this from time to time to keep my self looking at the positive aspects. Thanks for all you do.

You stated the result, bud, not the solution.

There’s a reason there are only 13 comments to this video being up one year. This is bullshit. Why is it always on us men to change the situation? Her actual realization of what contributions she makes to the situation is non existent. Often times her unhappiness is rooted within HERSELF and there is NOTHING YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE. This is the same advice I’ve been hearing my entire long life and could not figure out WHY IT NEVER WORKS. Of course, she will tell you where you fall short, but rectifying that will only lead to the next thing she doesn’t like. These are NOT THE ROOT PROBLEM. You will continue trying to hit a moving target, and if you do get close, that’s when the goalposts move. Most women are unable to be satisfied with a normal predictable good life, and are unhappy. Find one who isn’t like this, gents, or just be satisfied with letting the unhappy one go and learn the fulfilling aspect of going it alone. There are plenty out there you can have short term flings with to keep your hormones satisfied!

I gave it look just to get a perspective from a different person. The moment when you said logic attacks emotions I lost all respect and interest and you lost all credibility. When a person steals something which is not necessary for their life-saving situation, takes an item/money that’s not theirs, without asking, without permission: THE FACT is they are in the wrong. EMOTIONS of the thief don’t matter here. Steer clear, useless “advice”

i just find another girl

Why is it always the man's fault? This video is like every other one on YT. It assumes the man is doing everything wrong and the woman is the poor innocent victim trying to save the marriage and its us men who are not letting them. Women are just as capable at stuffing things up. What if she is the one doing things wrong and the us men are trying to tell her what the problems in the relationship are and she meets it with hostility, defensiveness or not taking it on board?

Damn you’re saying the exact same thing in other ways for 7 minutes. Not talking about solutions. Moreover, it’s not always the fault of the man. Getting sick of these one sided sell pitches

You are right and I've done everything what ever you said to do but there is no winning situation

Subscribed. You made total sense to me. I have just married a Filipina lady, it has its challenges.😊

I’m committed

Emotional safety and emotional validation goes both ways. If your wife never validates your perspective, you're not going to want to validate hers. It's just how it goes. Men don't just invalidate women for no reason. Men are charged with always having to be sensitive to women's emotions and views, but women are never held accountable to the same standards. Until this changes, marriages will always fail unless the man is willing to be a simp 100% of the time

If the woman wants to be understood on an emotional level, and she wants to avoid fights and pain, then why do women do nothing but create fights by blaming the men for their feelings? All women have to say is "i want you to understand me" and I will seek to understand. But instead I'm met with unfair judgements and I'm condemned as an evil or bad person for not reading her mind and not wanting to put up with baseless hostile accusations every day of my life.

You say the cause of the stonewalling is the man's behavior, but what if the man was unfairly judged by a neurotic, controlling and emasculating wife who cannot accept responsibility for her own actions, and the man got sick of it, and now the wife is stonewalling? Does the mechanics of cause and effect apply to the woman or just solely to the man?

There is no excuse for stonewalling. Stonewalling is abusive, manipulative, and childish. If a woman is stonewalling you, it's because she's holding onto resentment. She thinks she is entitled to resent you, but you can't resent her. Double standards. And even if you apologize and try to communicate with her to resolve things, she will still stonewall you. So you're constantly being crucified, and you're on a neverending hampster wheel of trying to appease her emotions (even if they're not justified at all) to get her to stop withdrawing. It's all a game plated by a woman who is emotionally immature and can't handle conflict.

She is going to start looking elsewhere, she is going to start an affair.

Have you thought of running relationship courses? I mean before the crisis point occurs? I think they would be successful. To be good at anything requires study and practice. The same is true of relationships. I wish I had known the information before my family fell apart.

How do you deal with a wife that is checked out and when you even try to make small talk with her she says to you to not even bother…. She has also been angry at me and tries to pick out everything she thinks I do wrong in her eyes which are the most random things to start a fight. I have stopped giving in and arguing about them but don’t know how to regain trust and rebuild when she is so shut down…

Love this mindset!