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Documenting the journey of a Stillborn Dad in his quest to run 7 ultra marathons in 7 days.
My First Half Marathon | I Did It For Margot
It has been a few weeks now since I last checked in. On February 27th, I ran the Leicestershire Half Marathon to raise awareness for baby loss. I set myself a few goals with this run, and I managed to complete them all, running the half marathon in under 2 and a half hours!
It has been a few weeks since I last uploaded, and we received our final post mortem results. In this video, I run through how the half marathon went, and the outcome of Margot’s final set of post mortem results.
I will be back to a regular upload count from now, and look forward to continue spreading the word about baby loss, and how we are all still mums and dads.
To any mummy’s watching this today - Happy Mother’s Day!
If anybody else is affected by baby loss and wishes to talk, then please comment below, or reach out to me on:
Instagram: Margots_Dadddy
Website: www.doitfor.co.uk
Email: doitformargot@gmail.com
#Stillbirth
#Results
#Running
#LifeAfterLoss
#StillbornDad
#BabyLoss
#BabyLossAwareness
#Grief
#Stress
#HalfMarathon
It has been a few weeks since I last uploaded, and we received our final post mortem results. In this video, I run through how the half marathon went, and the outcome of Margot’s final set of post mortem results.
I will be back to a regular upload count from now, and look forward to continue spreading the word about baby loss, and how we are all still mums and dads.
To any mummy’s watching this today - Happy Mother’s Day!
If anybody else is affected by baby loss and wishes to talk, then please comment below, or reach out to me on:
Instagram: Margots_Dadddy
Website: www.doitfor.co.uk
Email: doitformargot@gmail.com
#Stillbirth
#Results
#Running
#LifeAfterLoss
#StillbornDad
#BabyLoss
#BabyLossAwareness
#Grief
#Stress
#HalfMarathon
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Stress & Post Mortem Results | Baby Loss Awareness
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With only one week to my first half marathon, it's not been a good time to get injured. However I am now back running and today I go through an update on how the last few weeks have been for me. I used to not feel anything, however now I feel stressed every minute of every day. Not being able to run has probably not helped this, but this is probably the next stage of grief. I also talk about ou...
Which Running Shoes are the BEST? HOKA, BROOKS and MIZUNO
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Running Shoes - one of the most important tool to any runners. However, there are so many brands, and so many to choose from. In this video, i review three pairs of running shoes that i have used in my time as a runner, and the positives, and negatives. The shoes i review are: Hoka Rincon 3 Brooks Adrenaline GTS 21 Mizuno Wave Inspire 17 These are the experience i have had with these shoes, how...
The Day We Found Out - What Happened? | Baby Loss Awareness
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The day we found out that our daughter had passed away. The day the grief began. Some days in your life you will never forget. Throughout our whole pregnancy it was uneventful. Until the last few days. In this video, i talk through how we found out that our daughter has passed away, and our baby loss story over the next few days. If anybody else is affected by baby loss and wishes to talk, then...
How much running progress can you make in 3 months?
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I have now been running, and training for 3 months. From couch to 5k to running 10 miles, In this video, I discuss the progress (if any!) I have made, as well as my goals for the next month, and my upcoming running event! I use running to deal with grief and to help my mental health, and it has been a live saver (literally) over the last five months, and I hope I can reach to those who either a...
Treadmill Talks #1 | As Hard As Outdoor Running?
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Running outside, at night, after work is unappealing at the moment, so having a treadmill to run on is the dream! (Well, sort of). This is episode one of a new series I am calling Treadmill Talks, where I want to discuss any part of running, baby loss, or any part of my and my families story so far. If you have anything you would like me to discuss, then please comment below. Calling all audio ...
5 Months After Baby Loss | Stillborn Dad
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It has now been five months since we lost our daughter Margot, and the time seems to have disappeared. I started this channel as a way to help myself, and others through this horrendous process. Margot would have been 5 months old this month, and I discuss how the last five months have been, and whether I feel in any 'better' place than I once was. I still use running to clear my head and talk ...
I LET STRAVA PLAN MY RUNNING ROUTE...
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I thought it was time I tried my first ever trail run during my long run this weekend. I decided to put the distance into Strava, and then just run the route it planned and it was...interesting!! I tried not to fall in mud, get lost, or run on busy roads...all of which I failed. I also discuss my 2022 running goals. These are goals to keep me pushing forward, in using running to deal with my gr...
When Running Gets Tough... - Stillborn Dad
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Winter running. Cold weather runs. Rainy runs. Welcome to winter. This is the closest I have been to quitting a run since I started this. My toughest training session yet, and it was only a 10km effort. Hills, route, and weather all took me close to quitting, however quitting wasn't an option. If anybody else is affected by baby loss and wishes to talk, then please comment below, or reach out t...
Don't Make These Running Mistakes! - Stillborn Dad
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I have now been running for 10 weeks, and have already made a fair few mistakes that I have learnt from. In this video, I discuss those mistakes, and what I have done to rectify them as a beginner runner. I hope this can then help anybody who wants to get into running, or is about to go on their first ever run and not make the mistakes that I have. If anybody has any other mistakes, or lessons ...
Hill Running Troubles - Stillborn Dad
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Hills are my enemy, but I have to tackle them for training for my first marathon. This week I went on one of my longer runs of this marathon training so far, which was 10.5 miles. However, I accidentally chose a slightly hillier route, and for a heavier runner, I paid the price! 8 weeks ago I couldn't even complete couch to 5k though, so I'm still pleased! I go on a long run talking ramble, and...
My First Park Run! - Stillborn Dad
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Happy New Year! Time for my First Park Run! I then had an extra 5k to complete at a slower pace, so took out the camera and discussed 2021, mindset for 2022, and how the last year was. The injuries are now healing up, and feel a lot better to run. Has anybody got anything that they are looking to achieve in 2022? A running goal? A marathon? Maybe something completely unrelated - comment below! ...
Running Injuries - Stillborn Dad
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Running Injury was always my fear, but It was always going to happen - I am currently injured from running. In training for the ultra marathons in August 2022, I have injured my knee (possible runners knee) and foot (possible tendonitis) at the same time, from possible over training. In this video I go on an 11km run whilst thinking my injuries were recovered...until the next day. I discuss wha...
Marathon Training - I Blame MYSELF - Stillborn Dad
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Garage Gym - Keeping Busy - Stillborn Dad
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Over the last few months since we lost our daughter I have kept myself busy, completing any random tasks and jobs that need doing to try and not think about the loss of our daughter. In this video, I paint my garage gym to make it a little bit more inviting, as well as show my first training session in there. I also discuss how I have kept myself busy and how I found that has helped me at times...
1 Month Running Progress - Stillborn Dad
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What size in the Mizunos did you finally get?
I work at a nursing home and the hokas are the only thing that says me
Thank you for sharing ❤
Just stumbled across your your running blogs. I’m a huge fan of cross country running and will be taking part in the Great South Run in October and have raised over £200 for George’s Rockstars. Thanks for the inspiration and well done👏
I wish there were a Mizuno Inspire with a 5-8 instead of 12 mm drop.
I absolutely concur with not buying online. I visited a running shop and about 10 pairs of shoes just did not fit well. Then one finally did. Also size varies between brands and even between models or generations of the same brand/model. No way you can find your way online. Also buy the shoe in the brick and mortar store to support their business - after all, you'd be lost without them! Only if you know the shoe already and re-buy, you can consider taking the risk of doing an online purchase of course.
Brooks is my choice and the only shoes I buy for comfort & support! Brooks Ghost & Brooks Ariel in my opinion is the best. They have a lot of cushioning and arch support. With Brooks, you must go a 1/2 size up from your normal size. Hoka's are okay, but my feet get tired in them and starts to ache. Mizuno is for me is definitely a "no go". I have normal feet (not too narrow & not wide at all), Mizuno is tight fitting, therefore I can't wear them.
I have have loved Brooks Ghost and Mizuno Wave Rider. I’m here to learn about Hoka experience. Doesn’t sound like a plus for my wide feet either. They almost had me with the promise of cushion.
Sounds like a car model 😂😂😂
I ran a half marathon in Mizuno's years ago and every time I try a different shoe I always end up coming back to them. The guy at the store was selling me on Hoka's and I was looking for a comparison between Hoka and Mizuno and this is exactly what I needed. Thanks for this!
2021/10/26 here. Thank you for sharing your story. I've just found your channel and subscribed, I'll be watching the rest. We dads that suffered loss need to open up about this topic.
I'm really sorry buddy. How have the last few months been for you? If you ever want a chat, two dads together, then feel free to drop me a message on Instagram - @margots_daddy
Sorry to hear about your constant stress. Glad to see you’re back running-hopefully that will calm those anxieties. Stay strong, brother, and good luck with the last leg of training!
12/10/21 for me.
Nothing like that moment you find out. I blocked it out of my mind for quite a bit afterward. "I'm so sorry" -- the 3 words that change your life forever. Thank you for posting this.
Thanks for doing this
Thank you. Hope you are well buddy.
i loss my second son last July '21. Im still grieving. I like to shout but i cant. and im still looking to distract this grieving.
I'm so sorry - please let me know if you want to talk about it. Our little ones should be celebrated like any other child.
@@doitfor1815 Thanks bro. Sometimes when things get silent. I break down in tears. I wanted to destroy/punch something just to let away my emotions. Im always praying to God that he will guide me and help me get through this brokenness in my heart until my last breathe. again, Thank you for reaching out and showing your life experience. God bless us All.
Time has gone so quick because our life has stood still for 5 months while everyone else's kept on moving. We've taken nothing in while the world spins around us and we have lived in a blur. Hoping time will start to slow down soon so we can enjoy the little things in life again ❣️❣️❣️
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How’s your wife? We’re at one month and my wife is angry/sad. You gotta timeline on when this will let up?
She's doing okay buddy. We are five month in since Margot passed now. Im not sure if it ever gets easier, but you do learn to live with it more. We are in a much 'better' place now than, for example, two months ago, but still have days where its really tough. How are you doing?
@@doitfor1815 I keep having deep levels of anxiety. I Lost 10 pounds without trying and sometimes can’t sleep well. My wife started to struggle he most when I went back to work. It’s seemed like everything was gradually getting better but with me working she is forced to spend too much time by her self with the kids. Had a doctors appointment with high risk OB who couldn’t tell us why our baby died. We’re going to try for another baby as soon as possible.
@@christopherlampman5579 the sleep one is really tough. I've had exactly the same issue since we lost Margot, and the only thing that has helped me is running to physically exhaust myself. If I don't run, I can honestly lay staring at the walls for hours and hours. I went back work two weeks ago and it hasn't been easy. My wife has just been setting herself little projects or tasks to do to try and keep her mind active. Really proud of her though - she is much stronger than I am.
Hahaha keep going lad 👍👍
Well done mate, keep going and Happy New Year.
Definitely trying to run a marathon in March. I haven't set any goals past that yet though! Thanks for asking about that so now I have to think. I might set some reading book goals.
How is the training going so far buddy? Marathon by March is a great goal!
@@doitfor1815 I got shook up a little this past weekend with some chest pain the doctors couldn't figure out, but then I got the greenlight to run again. Ran 11 miles on Sunday, which was a big mental win to get back out there. This morning it was 15 degrees F (-9C) and that was fun haha. Honestly, it wasn't that bad even though the cold is usually a big mental barrier for me. Do you miss your daughter a lot? I find myself missing my children that were born sleeping. It makes me sad and angry all wrapped together. Often times, I think about holding them and how that would feel.
Solid video with respect to editing and B-roll. Really sorry about your pain and having to work through that. Watching your video right before I am going to go for a run :) We are gonna half marathon at the end of January so we are on a similar schedule there. I think you can get through this. Motion is lotion so keep moving even smaller amounts!
Thanks buddy! Hoping it can heal up sooner rather than later! Hope your run goes well - what you got planned today? Love it! Half marathon will be a massive achievement! It'll be my first ever running event too!
@@doitfor1815 7 miles but not sure how that equates for KM haha
Enjoy mate!
Hey, my man, another solid video! I have so many similarities with you with respect to your journey with Margo and even the running. My foot was bothering me a good bit especially as I increased in mileage. I found that inside the house I had to wear some comfy/supportive shoe and it actually really helped (even though I normally don't wear shoes in the house haha). Christmas might not be "happy", especially since our children aren't here as we envisioned. But I hope it is still a blessed time for you mate.
Hey buddy. Thank you! Glad to be able to get the longer runs under my belt. Honestly the foot injury is so frustrating - it came on after a one mile effort and two days on I cant run on it still :(. I'll take your advice though and where shoes around the house. Hopefully it'll be okay in the next few days. How is your running going? Christmas will be tough, but hopefully things do get easier. Hope everything is okay with you buddy.
@@doitfor1815 I really think your foot will be better soon! It was so frustrating to me as well because every other part of my body felt well enough. My running was pretty tough this week, but I'm really thankful to do it. Running while tired is a new thing for me because the training plans doesn't give days off on between runs (by design). Another thing that helped me was having a friend run with me even if it's only for 2-4 miles. It might be neat for you to invite a friend for part of the run! Chat soon friend and Godspeed :)
Keep it up dude!
Hey man, thanks for making these. I was a runner back in 2005-2016. After our stillbirth it’s the only thing that helps me feel human again.
Hey buddy - how are you doing at the moment? Really sorry you're having to go through this as well, it's just the worst. If you need to chat at all then I'm always an ear to listen! Take care mate.
@@doitfor1815 I appreciate this reply, not sure how I missed it. I’m absolutely devastated but making it through. My wife and I have two other kids that we need to take care of. Our church has some people praying for us, providing meals, and we are meeting with another couple who had a stillborn 20 years ago.
Can you add times and your pace from week 1 to week 4 please
Hey Joe, I'll take my time and pace from my threshold and distance work, as the rep work depends on what the session dictates. Threshold: Week 1: 7:19 min/km for 30 mins Week 4: 6:57min/km for 50 minutes Distance Work (LISS) : Week 1: 7:55min/km for 45 minutes (5.69km) Week 4: 7:31 mim/km for 80 minutes (10.80km) By no means am I quick at all, but glad to see progress. Main thing for myself at the moment is time on feet. Had a 100 min run two days ago (managed 12.8km) , and a 2 hour run planned for this Saturday and 4 weeks ago I'd have had no chance of doing these!
Wishing your family the best
Thank you - same to you!
Hello. Thinking of you and your wife and Margot, especially in the run up to Christmas. You are really eloquent and talk with such ease and confidence. I hope you can find some peace through putting your story into the world, I am sure you are helping many people. Thanks for being one of the good ones. Take care.
Thank you! Christmas is going to be tough this year, but going to try our best to get through it. Thank you for your comment, and take care :)
Definitely a tough time of year--our first Christmas without our daughter as well. Not easy at all but we'll get through this!
Bruv, You did pretty solid on editing out the non-talking parts of the run. Also, I like that you kept us updated on how far you had gone and getting "lost". Some of those details may be fresh in your head because you are actively doing it, but as a viewer, we don't always know. Anyways, good job. I love running on those type trails! That looks awesome. Also, 10/10 agree about asking about our children even if were born sleeping. I love sharing pictures because our children are so precious and beautiful. When we celebrated Thanksgiving, we had pictures of our children sitting next to us at the table. Our friends gave us that recommendation and I loved looking over at the pictures throughout the meal. Peace, Elam
Thank you buddy! Was a bit of a weird run that one - completely lost my way, haha! Might have to try a few more trail type runs moving forward - it was quite fun! Me too - it's so important for us to keep their memories alive and to keep them moving on. We've just put our Christmas tree up, and it's so sad only hanging a bauble that says "first heavenly Christmas" on it. Just so tough - we anticipated last year being the last Christmas as a two - and not having Margot here this year just hurts. Hope you're all good mate. Joe
Thank you for sharing. I am a father and my twin sons were stillborn in July. No one warned us about that either. Physical exercise has been 100% critical for me in working working through grief. Ran a half marathon and training for a full marathon now. God, have mercy and help us all.
It's so hard isn't it buddy - exercise is the only thing that keeps me going at times - gives us space to think and get out in the air. How are you? I hope the training is going well, and you and your partner are as well as can be.
@@doitfor1815 totally gives me space to think. It feels like the only way I can process things at times and if I don't exercise I get really anxious and impatient. My wife and I definitely go through ups and down. A lot of our friends have live children and that can be challenging. I'm very sorry for your loss and I bet Margot is very precious and beautiful.
Thank you for your story. I’m so sorry for your and your wife’s experience. We had a miscarriage in June 2019, then got pregnant with our daughter but lost her at 39 weeks March 2020. I sent this video to my bf because I know he feels alone on this journey as a father to an angel and he’s also interested in running. Much love and strength to you all!
I'm so sorry - baby loss is the cruelest thing any of us could go through. I hope you are your partner are okay . If your boyfriend ever wants to chat, or get anything off his chest, then please get him to DM me - my Instagram is @Margots_Daddy. Sending all our love x
I’m so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I know too well how you feel. My husband I lost our son at 25 weeks on 9/30/21 due to placenta abruption. He fought to stay with us for 10 hours before he gained his wings. Thank you for sharing your story about Margot💗 please continue to speak about her and her story #JoJo💙#143
I'm so sorry. He sounds like he was a right little fighter to spend 10 hours with his Mummy and Daddy before he gained his wings. I hope you and your husband are as okay as you can be - it's the hardest thing, but we have to get through it together. Sending all our love. #DoItForMargot #DoItForJoJo
Thank you for this. I and my partner also experienced the loss of our babies. It's been 10, 7 and 3 years ago💔💔💔. It will always hurt but it gets easier. With time we will go through a lot of different stages and this will put a bigger perspective on our experience. All the best to you and your wife.
I hope you're okay - and I'm glad to hear it gets easier. I can't even begin to imagine what it was like for you and your partner losing three little ones. Thank you - all the best to you as well, and thank you for your comment.
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Brother , im a dad of an angel , we lost our daughter at 16 days, im proud of you for sharing your story , it's a journey no one should have to travel Much love from the gibbos in Australia
The 19th of December will be 1 year since we lost our Nova-Lee and brother it's still bloody hard , we have good days and days we want to crawl into a hole , you're bang on with everything you've said
I'm so sorry buddy. I don't know about you, but I go through phases, and it could be just hours, of feeling okay, and then it's like the day we got told hits all over again. Im just glad that both of us, as dad's, can keep both Margot and Nova-Lee living on buddy. I just want to share my journey to help other dad's in the future know they aren't alone, as you probably know, as a dad it can be a very lonely place. Sending love to you and your family mate. Joe
Thank you for sharing your story. Our world fell apart when we lost our daughter at 41+5wks on August 3rd 2021. Just like you a low risk and uneventful pregnancy. Much love to you, Stephanie and Margot x
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's the cruelest thing any family can go through. Sending the love back to you and your family. Just want to do my bit to try and break this tabboo and celebrate our little ones x
Thanks for sharing.... I experience this 6yrs ago and it still hurts today. May God's grace be with and your family.
I'm so sorry. It is the most horrendous thing. Hope you're okay, and sending love and thoughts to you and your family
Thank you for sharing. We have very similar stories. It’s been two weeks since we lost our son.
Hope you and your partner are okay. Stay strong - it's not easy, and I'm still figuring it out, but I'll continue to share how things are in the hope it can help. Sending love to you and your family.
Me too, my friend. Thank you for this video.
Hope you're okay buddy. The toughest time that any mum and dad will ever go through.