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Why not use a surrogate

Momma why cant you be happy for me that i ignored all the advice and chose to be “special” so now im gonna die and leave my baby an orphan? God i hated shelby.

Shelby last line hits me hard. I'm not a diabetic, but I'm not able to produce kids since I had my ovaries taken out. 😢😢😢

So proud of Shelby her character could teach you idiotic women today the art of true love for a Child!!!

Now rewatching this an adult I wonder if shelby was having problems in her marriage. When she says “I think it will help things a lot” had me like 🤔.

The “blame game” is completely inappropriate. Tragedies occur and the natural order of reaction is sadness, then blame. Blame is a way to rationalize, but some things need no rationalization. Death is irrational, and we need to own that fact instead of placing blame.

Selfish!!!!

I love Julia Roberts

Surrogacy was around back then too. With a lot of money there would have been so many options.

Am I the only one who sees the dark part of this scene especially when Shelby says "I think it would help things a lot"

There was more than just diabetes. Shelby also had CKD(Chronic Kidney Disease).

Anybody know what M’lynn was making with all those eggs? It’s bothered me for years!

How many eggs is she gonna break?!

So why couldn’t she adopt? Because he didn’t want to? 🙄 I feel like she was pressured into this and it always felt wrong.

Esse filme mostra o quanto é difícil ser mãe! E eu não estou falando da garota grávida

"Three minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special"....that line is epic...

Such a good portrayal of what it’s like to be a parent of a child/adult with disabilities. I can’t imagine being in M’Lynn’s position-having to watch her daughter never be able to live the normal life she always wanted, all due to health complications.

She says " it would help thing"

I absolutely love this movie. When Shelby told her mum.M'Lynn that she was pregnant!, and M'Lynn wasn't very happy at all. So the real mistake is that Shelby shouldn't have got pregnant with her little boy in the first place, and she was told by the doctors that Shelby shouldn't have children because of the risks involved, due to her Diabetes Type 1, then Shelby developes Dialysis while she had her baby son, has put too much strain on her kidneys, and then she has a kidney transplant, and then her kidney starts rejecting. So the real problem is that both Shelby & Jackson shouldn't have had a baby at all in the first place.

Lost 2 babies and then having My Sawyer on 8/ 13/2013 he's 10 now then I was told no kids u can die with my brain aneurysm dissection, but then I had Jake 12/ 25 /2018 he's my Christmas baby he was so early but a pain in my butt lol. But knowing I can die suck assss I KNOW GOD HAS A PLAIN FOR ME

Jackson done this. She told him and told him what could happen and the sickest thing is you know he got with another woman and probably had more kids. Plus shelbys son. It's sad... yes she wanted the baby. But the adoption process is also screwed up.

She was only 22 too. Expectations were probably different back then, but I can’t imagine wanting to adopt at that age either

I always wondered what shelby meant with that "it would help a lot" in regards of having a baby. Is she talking about her and Jackson's marriage?

When she talks about adoption being impossible with her medical record, I find that hard to believe given that her husband is a successful lawyer and well-connected. During this era, so many people were even adopting babies/kids from Eastern Europe (Romania, Ukraine etc) without issue. I knew many couples that did this. Jackson even said they'd "buy em if they had to". Clearly she's downplaying it to M'Lynn to justify her decision. I don't even think it was truly about Shelby's need to have a baby of her own - I really think she was desperate to save her marriage and felt like she somehow owed it Jackson as a wife, after he chose to marry her, despite her health issues.

Having a baby doesn’t help a bad marriage.

I had a moment like this with my ex fiancé. The job he "always wanted" which I had a feeling would be the end of us ended up causing so many problems for us and eventually killing him. I can understand M'Lynn. She handled it quite well. I was on the floor sobbing knowing it would end badly when he told me. And it did.

This movie must be watched with an entire box of tissues.

0:44 I'm Pregnant 0:48 Congratulations Shelby

These two women are so beautiful!

Sad thing is nowadays if Shelby decided she could NOT have the baby - living in a Southern state - she probably would not be able to get an abortion.

You all are being a bit insensitive and unfair in the comment section. You act as if you know every possible outcome to every situation and have all of the answers. I knew this young lady who was only in her twenties and had a baby. Shortly after having a baby apparently she started having these symptoms. If my memory serves me correctly she was diagnosed with leukemia. She fought for her life as long as she could and as hard as she could but she ended up passing away. I don't even think her son was a year old yet. The young lady's sister is raising her son. So you honestly just never know and I don't think people should be judging the woman's husband based on a line from a movie and what they heard about the situation. I just think Shelby wanted to have a child of her own and that isn't unheard of. She probably felt like the diabetes wasn't going to get any better and it was worth the risk. Don't be so heartless and run off at the mouth so much okay. Only God knows. We can have open and honest dialogue about things without choosing to make assumptions, be rude, or obnoxious.

I understand what Shelby means. I don't think she was being selfish or pressured to have a baby by her husband. Her mother mentioned in the beauty shop that she was upset because the doctor told her to not have children due to her health. But in all honesty only God knows all things. Doctors aren't always right. You can respect their advice but God has the final say. Everyones outcoke isn't always the same and you would be afraid for the rest of your life to do anything if you always focused solely on the possible negative outcome of the situation.

The husband was very selfish he was a lawyer he could help adopt a child

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This is such a great example of wisdom vs young naïveté. We let kids choose the most dangerous things for themselves these days. Throwing ages of wisdom out the window. And it hurts them.

Its sad that Surrogacy wasnt available during that time or at least surrogacy wasnt as advanced as it is now days or she and her husband couldve gone that route.

Being a mom of a diabetic daughter, this movie crushed my heart! I understand completely what momma was feeling and it just hurts so bad!

The husband and Shelby were selfish. Knowing the health risk and Shelby ending up on dialysis and getting a transplant from her mom then dying. Her mom had a right to be upset.

Lots of issues going on here . . . I think M'Lynn wouldn't be so worried for Shelby if, and if you remember the Salon scene, Shelby doesn't really take care of herself or ask for help when she needs it. She thinks she's alright because she appears to look fine on the surface. Even her last waking scene, she can feel that she is not good and yet she acts like she is a normal human being with no problems. Shelby likes to appear normal- even worse, she likes to ignore her limitations so that she can appear to be normal. Stuff like this, you can't ignore if you have always been sick all your life. I'm not saying that Shelby shouldn't have a baby, what I am saying is that Shelby's credibility to taking care of herself before and after baby is why her mom will not support on this, not entirely.

I have seizures and I had a healthy baby boy

Women with diabetes have healthy babies

Shelby should have tried surrogacy. She would have lived if someone else carried her baby. The risks were just too great. Maybe that alternative wasn't available.

Cant stand this movie and the bad overdone accents and overdrawn characters.

She knew at work that her sugar was dropping, as a diabetic, i can tell too, just like her. She should have taken care of it right then instead of putting it off. It's her fault for neglectly her own body signs.

Cant believe she didnt think about serrogacy

This is a great scene both of them are great in it😊❤

I think Shelby made a good decision after all 😢. Her mother lost her but she got a healthy grandson. Shelby would have died anyway. But something left of her. She continues to live through her son.

I love ❤ this movie 🎬 Julia Robert's does an excellent job playing Sheby. I have been in Sheby situation. I think she just wanted a normal life but that is hard with that condition 😔 and I think 🤔 💭 Sheby really wanted to have children and become a mother. 👩 👩‍🍼 🌹 💐

NO WAY! I’m so mad at Shelby! You want a baby so bad you destroy your kidneys… ok women put their lives on the line to have babies. Your mom gives you a kidney!!! NOW QUIT YOUR JOB FOR A WHILE!!! HIRE A HOUSE KEEPER!!!!! She pushed her body so hard for so long!!! OF COURSE SHE DIED!!!! “ IM SO ANGRY FOR SALLY, I just want to hit somebody till they feel as bad as she does….. THE DEAD DAUGHTER COMES TO MIND”

Shelby could have also looked into surrogacy and have another woman like a close friend carry the baby for her. Even though its 1989, I'm sure there were ways to go about it then. Surrogacy wouldn't have put as much of a strain on her body.