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What a legend.....chariots of fire on the field....nice poddy from Auckland New Zealand

Great interview👍

Great interview! I think the message here is Martin was so good at scoring tries due to the fear factor. He turned his fear from getting smashed in a game to finding ways to use his pace to get away from the traffic and ultimately score tries! People used to question Martins defence, yet you dont drive a formula 1 car and complain it cant drive in city traffic! For me he had it all and there will never be another Martin Offiah. Legend of a player and a damn fine person who is a great ambassador for our sport.

A good leader is among other things really concerned about resources and how to use them in the most efficient and moreover compassionate way. All really good leaders know that their most valuable resource by far is the people under them. Not just some of them. Not just their immediate friends. Not just the people most likely to vote for them. All of them. And yet many public boarding schools have potty trained people to despise and negatively stereotype whole groups within society. Whether it is the financially poor and hard up. Whether it is people coming into this country facing persecution. How can you be a good and effective leader when you stereotype and write off a very large number of your most valuable resource - your people? In the UK this problem is compounded by there not being enough emphasis on education and learning and many teachers not being given the respect that they deserve and being chronically overworked so they cannot spend enough time getting to know their pupils in an appropriate way. When you know a pupil well you are more able to work with them to forfill their potential. Many people seem to for instance to value accountants more than they value maths teachers. Accountants are crucial and I would never knock this valuable profession but who at the end of the day is responsible for teaching accountants about numbers and how to add them up?

A very impressive conversation between two very impressive men. We need desperately to get away from this idea that talking about feelings and being honest about them is "woke" and winging. To say how you feel and to ask others how they feel is a sensible life strategy and is not the same as self pity and complaining. Even if people do feel self pity it is much better they coax themselves out of it by reminding themselves what a lot they have going for themselves (which we all do) rather than shame or bully themselves out of it. There are still too many men who do not realise the difference between genuine courage and just being macho. In some ways they are even opposites because being macho and being the coolest dude in town is about a defense - the cool dudes are terrified of any kind of emotional intimacy. Feelings frighten them because they loose that false sense of control. They face the pain of being vulnerable and admitting they don't have all the answers they would like to have. They also can automatically associate intimacy with sex - which is a very crude and significant mistake. Sex and intimacy can of course go together but that is no foregone conclusion. Being honest (but not self pitying) about how you feel and being in touch with those feelings is part of being a courageous man who looks after himself and others too. The word "Woke" is very often used by playground bullies of all ages.

19 minutes in the discussion turns to masking. What happens is we internalise the world around us, mind mapping it unconsciously, emotionally, and then that map becomes part of our sense of self. Any challenge to sense of self is perceived as an existential threat. This makes approaching the unconscious wounds really difficult and generates a fear reaction of fight, freeze or flight... and masking is a coping strategy. Internalisation is a natural behaviour process - we move to a new house, we slowly internalise where everything is until we know it second nature... we don't go around consciously clocking every little detail, it just happens... people born into a first will build a mind body map of that forest over time that is essential to their capacity to thrive within it. People born into loving families internalise the lovingness. And in boarding schools that same process is how we become internally institutionalised and the power dynamic - the struggle to preserve sense of self against perceived threats - becomes the block on recognising the wounds, reaching our for help, holding the abusers accountable, and engaging in recovery.Then when traumatised boys enter into power circles they internalise the entitlement to weird power and protect that power from any perceive threat, which leads to the rationalisation of actions that cause observable harm... the reward of wealth is a form of opiate that fuels the addiction to power. How we deal with this in society is a critically important issue - it is wrapped up in every form of bigotry, every form of behaviour that exploits others... Men need to face the realities of what we have internalised as our sense of self that is not healthy - in my view a mature male adult is a person who nurtures the world around them, prevents bullying, de-escalates conflict early, works to build an environment that is healthy for all our children. I see this a bio-logical mandate... it makes so much sense.

❤ beautiful words and thoughts.

2 models of what any man can and should aspire to be. Thank you both 🙏

Another absolute nugget. Chris , so much to take from this Embodiment, is a new topic for me tonight "practice" and the "how is she right" question ..❤ Thank you 🙏

A heartwarming, inspiring listen from 2 of the most down to earth MEN I've heard. Thank you Craig, best wishes Andrew ❤

I remember so many Wigan fans questioning the decision of making Matty Peet head coach, I was unsure but knew we had to back him, he's one of our own. What a decision by Rads and IFL it's turned out to be, I hope we have him for years to come. #WiganRL

Cheers

Superb this lads, lots of really useful messages

Awesome! Excited for this one.

Can you link to the "Overlook" edition of Musashi? ....there are so many editions...

Craig most coaches only bother about their own future Matty is all about the Coach, team, and the club but is also a mentor for other coaches the players very rarely don't give Matty their all which is why Wigan are so successful

loving husband great father and what a coach you did an outstanding job this year and looking forward to the championship next season see you there big man and i'll be watching from the terraces come on YEDS

Bloody brilliant that. Though I’m a little surprised Fordy only called him once during that hour 😂😂😂

Brave, open and honest. Resonates so much, I am still trying, but I am glad that Longy is in a good place. GOAT, player, coach and human being. .

Really enjoyed this. I’ve worked closely with Sean these last few years and have known him a long time. This is a really raw look at what makes him tick. And very well directed by Craig. A lot of this resonates - the mental toil, work & alcohol as escapism, finding a way to be at peace

Really enjoyed that ❤

I am really speechless, thank you for sharing

My complete admiration to Tintín! Thank you for sharing the interview.!

Pleasure to share the couch with you brother ❤️ thank you for having me

Thanks for everything Craig. Great Pod, here is to great things ahead.

Two outstanding blokes. Great insight into self development, understanding and presence.