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I really need to say Top marks to what Australia has in place to help victims, from the videos and agencies available, In NZ if you make a complaint you might get 3 months pay have to sign a confidentiality contract to keep your mouth shut and have to resign . Sweep it under the carpet , my work company endorses bullying, mobbing . Social bullying , sad sad f#*king people .

Psychopaths tend to have very narrow focuses both mentally and verbally and are not likely to relate to abstract thought.

Your breasts look amazing

Feeling not connected

Very informative

Modern problems. Or nonsense? Dealt with in ...what.. 14 minutes? We live in a time of complete bullshit and Fakes.

Thank you! That was really helpful

Isn’t the love languages not accurate

Great interview. Thankyou.

i was obessed with my ex but i got over it eventually. it hink I was struggling with my life so much i just held on to fond memories and felt like it was so unfair. i know now that life just is not fair and I need to spend my time loving myself first as much as i can

My mum wanted a girl had 5 boy dad ended up with custody of them and the she had her girl then compared that boy's where easier and forgot she did fuck all for them my dad give us everything he could and we all worked together to get along some people just need to work together

limerant on someone with a BPD is worse

I do believe that its possible for people to unwittingly engage in occasional bullying that's more mild. But workplace bullies that really are bullying others tend to have certain personalities. Some people just need to have consequences for abusive behavior in workplaces. Narcissistic Personality Disordered people and Psychopaths and Borderline personality disorder are all linked with significant bullying. And they tend to only do it if they are given freedom to do so. Being given the green light. They only stop when they are called on the carpet and told stop. No exceptions. What's interesting is that it isn't necessarily the person who has Antisocial Personality Disorder who most typically is the bully. They are exploitative. But it's only if the Psychopath has a specific objective in mind where harming another person is believed to be necessary to achieve that goal, that's when a Psychopath, Antisocial Personality Disordered person might bully. In my observations, it's actually the Narcissistic Personality Disordered people who tend to be the most prone to general bullying in workplaces. Also people who have Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes also be bullies. I have read some research on this. And was quite surprised how much research I found on this. I also saw someone with BPD bully, quite aggressively, in a workplace before.

Don't be a crappy parent.

My boss called me in one day for a “chat” and she accused of me of going outside for a break without signing out. This was NOT true. I told her so. And she said that “… someone reported it to her…”. She wrote this allegation in my probation report as if it was a factual event that happened. What would you do in such a situation ?

Anywhere you go they are there. Wtf do you do?

Good points ❤

If your abusive ex steals your kids and mentality controls them , and stops them from spealing and seeing their onlsister and loving caring mother- What do you expect. Also years of abuse in childhood , Our communities aren't good at including single ppl- So no family of origin, kids stolen and mentality controlled- Christ, holidays Bdays - life is about family- Friends forget a about singles when events come around. Not everybody has internet esp. Dv survivors

Only if you are a snowflake.

I understand that a deficit in cognitive empathy can also cause a deficit in emotional (affective) empathy. Do you agree? And could you give me an example?

I'm 60, and I'm still working on the acknowledgment of my temptation to swim in the ocean of Limerence.

Thank you. I need really help this might help

Great program. Thank you so much for sharing this online.

Very useful information! Thanks for the video presentation!

The cold hard truth for the husband is: Your wife’s genuine desire belongs to another man, she won’t have sex with you because if she did she would be betraying the man she desires, her limerence partner. She already knows you the husband, you are familiar, you have rapport, you are comfortable, you are predictable, you are BORING. While her limerent partner in comparison is delightful, mysterious, new , novel, fun, hotter, smells & taste delicious, does different things in bed, while with him her emotions are triggered into feelings of excitement & possibilities. It could take years for your wife to come down from the dopamine high of limerence.

I've suffered from it and I'm very cautious about not repeating it. It has devastated me and now I am a Coach who sensitizes people on Limerence and how to heal from it ❤😊

Thank you for this great discussion. I recently realized I am a limerent. All this time, but I can finally see it now

This happened to me. A former friend had romantic feelings for me that I did not know (he would hit on me but I thought he was doing it to cover up the fact that he is attracted to men). He asked me to be roommates and it got so weird. He lied and told people we were engaged and touched me in a sexually inappropriate way. He had hidden cams in the condo and had hacked my phone and computer. After I told him I no longer wanted to be friends and moved out, he began to viciously stalk me with his boyfriend, paying the apartment staff at my complex to help them bully and harass me. He came into my apartment while I was sleep. Him and his boyfriend would come to my apartment while I was at work and damage my stuff. I told the police and they would not help. It got so bad I had a nervous breakdown. I ended up having to quit my job as I could not deal with that toxic environment and the stalking. I was/am all by myself. It is beyond horrifying. They also did a very disgusting sexually abusive thing to me but I don't care to talk about that...

Social media has definitely made this condition a living nightmare that can never end for many sufferers.

Thank God for Her telling us

Going to a therapist is hardly “curing” limerence. Shallow interview

As an older Care Leaver, I have been exploring Religious Trauma for a number of years. Very little seems to be known about it here in Australia - so thank you Rachel and Brendan. I have added the North Brisbane Psychologists link to the powerpoint presentation I deliver to health providers on the experiences of Care Leavers. Our (Care Leavers) experiences in faith-based institutions needs to include Religious Trauma - without a doubt - it has had a significant impact on many of us.

I always make friends with girls, fall in love with the probably more attractive ones (though to me I just feel more into them for whatever reason I don't think about it), and then become no longer friends and basically we never date. It sucks shit. What do you even do about it? I don't really think I'm doing anything wrong. I've been to therapy and thought about it quite a lot. Sometimes I'll sink my ship so to speak but it was usually already over by that point anyway. Can't stand this pattern. I've only dated girls I wasn't all that into. I can't imagine ever being able to spend my life with someone that I didn't genuinely fall in love with like the ones that were my friend first. It's been like this for half my life and I'm in my early to mid thirties. It's hard not to swallow a black pill here and think hey I'm just not that attractive so I can't really have the kind of girls i want.

Governments, Education and NGOs are choc-a-block with psychos and sociopaths.

Another word for limerence is symbiosis. When we join up with a partner who has qualities we think we do not have, we are walking into a symbiosis. In joining up with such a person, we amplify our inadequacy because the longer we hook up, the more we believe that we can never be a „complete person on our own“ The day we realize, that we are independent individual people is usually accompanied by acrimony and a tremendous sense of loss. Yes, growing up is hard to do.

Without looking for or expecting it I fell into this experience with a woman who also feels the same way towards me but we both feel that it is romanticism that clouds our thinking and we are trying to find our way to getting over this and seeing if perhaps underneath it is anyting authentic. The question is how do you know when love is real authentic and not fantasy when you both have had traumatic childhoods?

Haha a therapist or coach , they are limerance objects because of they're empathy etc and they are the good parents youve never had. For me it isnt a good idea

You nailed it for me.

I'm definitely experiencing this. The only difference is for some reason my "anger" isn't towards him, it's more towards myself. I'm mad at myself for feeling this way. Like I'm not to the point where I feel the need to stalk him or cross the line because I've been stalked before and I just couldn't do that to another person. I would never hurt anyone. But I do feel like I'm obsessive in my fantasy and thoughts. I enjoy thinking about him and I wish it was reciprocated. That's all. Hopefully I'll overcome this one day. 🙏

No contact is the only solution??

Guys, you will get over it. I had it for 4 years. (Pathetic honestly). It went away.

Love is like snuggling up with a comfy blanket on a cold day. Limerence is like the adrenaline rush you get from riding a motorcycle 150 mph. But when the person you love leaves you, it hurts so much worse than when your LO leaves, if you ever even got that person in the first place. The one you love is part of your life, you trust them and depend on them. It's like a part of your life is now empty without them. That's the worst emotional pain I've ever felt. I've only loved one woman, but I'm convinced that I've had Limerence for 8 different women. Half of them when I was still in high school, I'm 38 now. Your LO has an aura around them. Their skin glows. Seeing her smile at me makes my heart race, and my mind goes foggy. The fantasy of it is the best part. The crash is the worst. I'm fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to have a dated a few of my LO's. The reality isn't as good as the fantasy. When you finally snap out of it, and the fog clears then I look back and wonder why I was so obsessed. And when I date a new woman that I just *like* in a normal way, then it just feels boring and pointless. I would imagine it would be like a meth addict quitting meth and switching to espresso. I've hooked up with and had short term flings with several women, but I haven't been in very many relationships. Without the intense fuzzy wuzzies, then dating a normal woman just feels so blah🥱. And that's not fair to those women. So I just stay single. Without those Rollercoaster of emotions, then I can't have just a normal relationship. I'm too apathetic to put the work into a real and healthy relationship relationship. Limerence is an addictive drug. One that I wish I had never felt.

So true

Loved this.

So calming to listen to ❤

Brilliant ❤

Excellent thank you 🙏

Not all people with limerence are stalkers or killers. Some just suffer in silence and become depressed from the rejection and unwanted thoughts.

Chronic post traumatic stress disorder is a group which are quite prone to limerance.

I have been friends with this gentleman for 32 years we were estranged for 25 and the first night we were relatively close Well plus forward 25 years after that eight year mark when things fall apart I am now realizing that this is exactly what he had with me but I also found out through his own telling that this is a regular occurrence an actual pattern for him So in the 25 years that we didn’t speak it was because he started to make it very obvious that he had feelings for me and I had a lot going on my life and I couldn’t entertain nor was I interested in entertaining any type of romance with him Essentially I told him he was like a brother and I pretty much suffered everything the two times I did try to contact him over that 25 year. He hung up on me So recently I went out to see him and found out that he was in a very similar situation with another woman and they hadn’t spoken in about three years but it blew up around the eight year mark also and he waited until he got home knowing That if he needed someone to rescue him because of mechanical issues that he couldn’t say or do anything until he reached a safe place at which point apparently he tore into her He told me how he felt about her and I felt that maybe not being able to express this thinking you know he was just painfully shy it would be a good idea to contact her and give her this information so that she can make a choice for herself because there’s nothing like regret and it is completely avoidable. In talking to her she was very guarded I continue to persist with her because I wanted to see if there was anything there or any possibility and she finally just came clean and said she was really tired of his jealousy. She had been on and off in a relationship with someone that was troubled but obviously worth her time and energy and he was someone she met on match.com. Why she was on match.com when she was having this relationship and not willing to give it up is beyond me but she decided to be friends. She gave him a lot of time and energy and her resources as well and I know he enjoyed that Even though it wasn’t necessary because he could’ve provided for himself somehow he gave her the impression that he had little and could use the help But he lives in that impoverished mindset and is piss poor with his money Needless to say he did a lot for her as well but it came with an agenda and he did the same thing with me when we were younger to the last time I had seen him I was 29 years of age and I was living with him for about a three month. Well I was going through a divorce and relocating. The time before that he stayed with me a couple years back for about a good year and I had gotten married to my children’s father and relocated to another state but he and I kept in touch and he would come see me periodically sometimes without any notice. So essentially the same thing was happening over and over again in his life That was pretty interesting that he continue this pattern the only thing that changed was the names of the women and what they look like So he sat down one day and told me in person that he didn’t care what I thought but he really feels that this person and him were supposed to be together and the only reason why the universe sent me was because she refused the opportunity Apparently he told the universe that the universe owed him and that he wanted what was due well incomes the intuitive 600 miles later 2 1/2 months in I am returning to where I came from because things were just that bad he had become a serial hoarder he hadn’t cleaned his house in over 12 years and that’s as long as he lived there last time the house was clean was when there was another female residing there and she ran for her life and left everything except the bear essentials. So in that 2 1/2 months. I noticed that he’s been emotionally neglecting his dog of almost 14 years and also not treating him medically as he needed to be because he was infested with fleas but it was so bad that there was blood soaked into the wooden floors and urine as well because this dog couldn’t even hold him self up he was not severely anemic so I was able to work while I was there because what I do I can do anywhere. So I went out and I earned enough money to be able to buy the dog flea treatment because he was not severely infested that when he shook there was blood all over the walls as well but there were so much more smoke and grease and just it was disgusting