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Patterns of Possibility
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Ready to experience a new possibility?
Be empowered to create healthy relationships in both your personal and professional life.
Be empowered to create healthy relationships in both your personal and professional life.
Second Guessing Yourself
In this episode, I share why constant second guessing erodes your sense of self and trust in others.
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Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations?
Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you:
Repair current relationships.
Reconnect with past relationships.
Create new quality personal and professional relationships.
Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you!
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👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here: linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility
Coaching & Workshops
Complimentary Meaningful Connections Workbook
Speed Friending (Chicago In-Person)
Boundaries Blueprint Workshop and Workbook
& More...
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Are you an empathetic person who wants more depth in your conversations?
Whether you want to feel more included at work or make a close personal friend, I can help you:
Repair current relationships.
Reconnect with past relationships.
Create new quality personal and professional relationships.
Let's have a friendly conversation to discuss how I can help you!
calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here: linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility
Coaching & Workshops
Complimentary Meaningful Connections Workbook
Speed Friending (Chicago In-Person)
Boundaries Blueprint Workshop and Workbook
& More...
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How do you know when to end a friendship?
good advice
Thank you!
You always provide great advice that's so insightful. You truly get it.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I appreciate all the work you do at the Bounce Back Generation helping the younger generation so they don't have to repeat the emotional cycle!
I also have people who I tried to talk to & become friends with, but at some point they seemed to back off and they are never as friendly as they were before, it's almost like they expect me to read their minds, but when you don't back off at around the same time as they did, the grudge becomes thicker and thicker simply because you were still trying to reach out to them, people are really pathetic.
It sounds like you have quite a bit of frustration and confusion with how people behave. I get it! It was my story for several years. I found myself feeling the same way until I realized that I was the common denominator. If you have a desire to change your dynamic and interactions with people, consider these two things: 1) There may be something that you're doing to cause them to hold a grudge. You may be turning people off with your actions. 2) You're missing something important to know about the people you hang out with. They may be grudge holding people who you always seem to find yourself connected to. In any case, you'll be empowered when you start looking at your behaviors and make a change.
I have a cousin who I sent a message to on Facebook messenger a couple of years ago, I was simply asking her a question about something then she blocked me... and I remember when I realised that I had been blocked, the confusion that came over me was unreal. To this day I have absolutely no idea why she decided to do that. People holding grudges are strange, but they're even more strange when you can't recall any wrong doing that may have caused it.
Wow, that's the worst! You didn't even get an opportunity to resolve the issue.
@@patternsofpossibility In your opinion though, what is the psychology behind someone like that? Is it because they never liked you and have decided to make it obvious to you... it's the fact they they made it obvious hence the block, because it shows you that you can't reply to the conversation. But that's the thing that really gets me, because we're family which means we're all going to meet again at some point and they will know that.
@@James-4812 I appreciate the question, and I'd like to invite you to have a Friendly Conversation with me to discuss it. I can give you an answer, but it would be generalized, and your story seems as if it is nuanced. I do need more explanation and examples so that I can share actionable insight that will help you handle the family grudges. If you're up for it and would like some personalized insight, you can schedule a complimentary call with me here: calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation
Great story and clarity on what meaningful relationships require! ❤
Thank you so much!
Good advice coach lee!
Thank you!
I feel called out but I agree! These are great videos!
Thank you showing love to my posts!
Now we need a series for relationships lol but I'm sure there would be lots of crossover :)
This helped thx!
You're welcome! I'm glad!
In even fewer words. If it holds you down, dump it. Talking from experience , it works.
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Thank you so much for your comment!
Wow, i was trying to figure this out on my own why my friend wasn't accepting my help. What a big topic, thanks for the video.
I'm glad to help! They only need to know that you're there for them when they're ready!
I call them “bigger better badders” 😂
Hahahaha! I love that!
call me crazy but i think i’d rather talk it through with my friend than cut them out of my life.
That's a great idea~! Have you done it? How did it turn out?
oh no, i use your advice actually! my friend was complaining all day about the death of his mother and jeez that was sure annoying!!! i just blocked him and moved on - the healthy way to handle human emotion!!
@@3quarts825 Good job! It's pretty unreasonable for your friend to rely on you in such terrible times.
Negative anybody😶okay ,Bye
Hahaha... now is not the season for negativity!
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everybody says the bible says it is wrong to judge but if you translate the bible to its original text it says thow shalt not condemn so it is not wrong to judge its wrong to condemn
Nothing is wrong. It's all good here on Earth.
@@patternsofpossibility im just saying judging a person is not wrong but condemning a person is
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I love this. Thank you!
Subbed I see this at the PERFECT time🙏🏽🙏🏽 you explain things in a way that I fully understand
Thank you 💙💙
Thank you 🙏
Happy to help!
True, and thank you!
Thank you ❤ I really needed to hear this today.
You're welcome! May you stop 💩on yourself because you deserve better! 💙
The same goes for breakups. Excellent share!
That's so true!
Im not listening to a criminal anout feelings
How is he a criminal? Because there is nothing showing he is a criminal in that video.
What a great demonstration of setting boundaries!
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It's the disrespect for me (lack of seeing me as a whole person with my own set of experiences apart from them). Seeing it and keeping my frame (my personal set of boundaries, sense of self, and respect for self) so I can exit as gracefully/safely as possible is how I aim to handle it. Speaking to the behavior if I can't extricate.
Yes, get yourself safe without going out of character by reacting to them. You saw what you needed and that's enough engagement.
The moment I encounter people like that I just turn around and go the other way. Life is too short to be dealing with that. They will not change, and even if they can, it’s not my time that’s going to be wasted. People that genuinely care will listen, hear you out, try and understand.
This is everything! 🎉Don’t waste your time.
This exactly. Thank you.
Right on!
Thank you for sharing this. Helping me keep perspective. ✨
Glad to know that this resonated with you!
Great advice!
Thanks! If you use it, let me know if it works out for you.
Facts.
This. I find many don't think to try to understand. The expectation that 'you should be like "_"' is huge.
It is huge!
I really hope this goes viral :>
Thank you! 💙This is a message that would do us all well to know!
Love this lecture coach lee! For me, i totally believe in the approach of learning how to make friends first, because it helps me learn jow to express myself
Exactly!
Agreed! As for what stops you from going out to find your tribe? I would say one if the biggest reasons is airplane travel and moving to a different country can be very expensive
I moved every 15 months for 15 years and I can tell you that your tribe isn't in a specific location.
@@patternsofpossibility wouldn't culture have a lot to do with it? For example, going to a country where the culture is completely different? Because I have friends who came to Canada, didn't understand or like the culture or people here, so went back to their native country.
@@notablemind Sure! It does factor in. In my opinion, it is not the BIGGEST factor. Consider that 1.9 billion people across the globe are feeling lonely within their own cultures, their own circles and even in their own families. Something else is happening.
@@patternsofpossibility makes sense. You've seen more people, so you see the bigger picture. My circle of acquaintances is smaller, so I'm looking at a smaller sample size. I agree with your opinion!
@@notablemind Thank you! I firmly believe that there are people around you that want to get to know you.... as you said, they might be just outside of your current social circle.
Spot on. Thank you, Coach Lee. I love time with myself, and that helps me be ok while I find more people who can understand me.
Thanks. I needed this.
You're welcome! You're awesome!
You're misunderstanding people who can't take compliments. But you're right that they have issues, just wrong that a poor self-image always leads to what you suggest.
Here's a little more of my thought process.... If they have poor self image, they'll certainly have trouble taking responsibility for any unintentional pain they've caused another. They most likely will attribute their impact on you as another flaw in their character. They'll pout and say, "I'm so bad" rather than recognizing the pain they've caused on another. Do you know people like that?
Or the person has self esteem issues that they need help getting through.
Sure, sometimes people have esteem issues. And as a friend, it's nice to be able to support other friends. From my experience, I've found that my friendship does so much better if I'm not constantly trying to boost their self esteem because they're lacking confidence.
Maybe action speaks louder, and words are useless.
Perhaps that will work for you. Consider that we agree on the what words mean and not necessarily what actions mean until we use our words to define our actions. I mean to say, I don't want to try to interpret your actions. In my experience, it's easier to say what I feel and get verbal confirmation.
I get pleasure from knowing that by just showing up for work and walking past them is enough to make them irritated
It's very satisfying when people are upset with your peace!
This is spot on. Thank you!
Isn't it though!
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How to handle people who get angry, defensive, and/or attack when you bring them this kind of opportunity? These are the situations where when you're reflecting after, you're like: why did that communication get misunderstood? In my mind practice, they got curious when i asked the question or named the behavior (in curiosity). The difference between communication issues and behavior issues gets harder to see for me.
It's painful and frustrating to not be received that you'd hoped. Practicing emotional regulation when they are triggered will help us go further in conversation.
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