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Thank you!

Thank you so much for your kind words! I appreciate all the work you do at the Bounce Back Generation helping the younger generation so they don't have to repeat the emotional cycle!

It sounds like you have quite a bit of frustration and confusion with how people behave. I get it! It was my story for several years. I found myself feeling the same way until I realized that I was the common denominator. If you have a desire to change your dynamic and interactions with people, consider these two things: 1) There may be something that you're doing to cause them to hold a grudge. You may be turning people off with your actions. 2) You're missing something important to know about the people you hang out with. They may be grudge holding people who you always seem to find yourself connected to. In any case, you'll be empowered when you start looking at your behaviors and make a change.

Wow, that's the worst! You didn't even get an opportunity to resolve the issue.

@@patternsofpossibility In your opinion though, what is the psychology behind someone like that? Is it because they never liked you and have decided to make it obvious to you... it's the fact they they made it obvious hence the block, because it shows you that you can't reply to the conversation. But that's the thing that really gets me, because we're family which means we're all going to meet again at some point and they will know that.

@@James-4812 I appreciate the question, and I'd like to invite you to have a Friendly Conversation with me to discuss it. I can give you an answer, but it would be generalized, and your story seems as if it is nuanced. I do need more explanation and examples so that I can share actionable insight that will help you handle the family grudges. If you're up for it and would like some personalized insight, you can schedule a complimentary call with me here: calendly.com/patternsofpossibility/friendly-conversation

Thank you so much!

Thank you!

Thank you showing love to my posts!

You're welcome! I'm glad!

Thank you so much for your comment!

I'm glad to help! They only need to know that you're there for them when they're ready!

Hahahaha! I love that!

That's a great idea~! Have you done it? How did it turn out?

oh no, i use your advice actually! my friend was complaining all day about the death of his mother and jeez that was sure annoying!!! i just blocked him and moved on - the healthy way to handle human emotion!!

@@3quarts825 Good job! It's pretty unreasonable for your friend to rely on you in such terrible times.

Hahaha... now is not the season for negativity!

Nothing is wrong. It's all good here on Earth.

@@patternsofpossibility im just saying judging a person is not wrong but condemning a person is

Thank you 💙💙

Happy to help!

You're welcome! May you stop 💩on yourself because you deserve better! 💙

That's so true!

How is he a criminal? Because there is nothing showing he is a criminal in that video.

What a great demonstration of setting boundaries!

Yes, get yourself safe without going out of character by reacting to them. You saw what you needed and that's enough engagement.

This is everything! 🎉Don’t waste your time.

Right on!

Glad to know that this resonated with you!

Thanks! If you use it, let me know if it works out for you.

It is huge!

Thank you! 💙This is a message that would do us all well to know!

Exactly!

I moved every 15 months for 15 years and I can tell you that your tribe isn't in a specific location.

@@patternsofpossibility wouldn't culture have a lot to do with it? For example, going to a country where the culture is completely different? Because I have friends who came to Canada, didn't understand or like the culture or people here, so went back to their native country.

@@notablemind Sure! It does factor in. In my opinion, it is not the BIGGEST factor. Consider that 1.9 billion people across the globe are feeling lonely within their own cultures, their own circles and even in their own families. Something else is happening.

@@patternsofpossibility makes sense. You've seen more people, so you see the bigger picture. My circle of acquaintances is smaller, so I'm looking at a smaller sample size. I agree with your opinion!

@@notablemind Thank you! I firmly believe that there are people around you that want to get to know you.... as you said, they might be just outside of your current social circle.

You're welcome! You're awesome!

Here's a little more of my thought process.... If they have poor self image, they'll certainly have trouble taking responsibility for any unintentional pain they've caused another. They most likely will attribute their impact on you as another flaw in their character. They'll pout and say, "I'm so bad" rather than recognizing the pain they've caused on another. Do you know people like that?

Sure, sometimes people have esteem issues. And as a friend, it's nice to be able to support other friends. From my experience, I've found that my friendship does so much better if I'm not constantly trying to boost their self esteem because they're lacking confidence.

Perhaps that will work for you. Consider that we agree on the what words mean and not necessarily what actions mean until we use our words to define our actions. I mean to say, I don't want to try to interpret your actions. In my experience, it's easier to say what I feel and get verbal confirmation.

It's very satisfying when people are upset with your peace!

Isn't it though!

It's painful and frustrating to not be received that you'd hoped. Practicing emotional regulation when they are triggered will help us go further in conversation.