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Girl ur being way too nice. Colleen's books are shit. She wrote an accurate potrayal of an abusive relationship because she writes all her "romances" like that. Only difference is he actually hits her. The part before that when he's showing all those red flags and being a mega creep is supposed to be romantic. Lol. I do not reccomend any of her other books

I absolutely love this book, it's one of my favorites. Hearing about the controversy hasn't changed my opinion around the book as the source material isn't obviously or triggering (at least in my experience and generally from what I can tell). It's very loosely based around it. He had an idea for a story, heard about a series of tragic events and mistreatment of people and at some point realized that the history could help flesh out the story and make it what it now is. Inspiration can come from many places, even when it's no longer noticeable (I heard Arthur Parnassus voice in my head writing that as if writing a sentence about prejudice and not letting it colour our vision). In Canada, learning about residential schools and the 60s scoop is part of the curriculum now. It's hard to talk about, because it's hard to talk about pain and suffering people have and still go through. Things we have talked about include the 94 Calls to Action, a CBC documentary covering topics about the unmarked graves including Kamloops, and a beautiful but heartbreaking book/film/poems/songs about a young boy name Chanie Wenjack who escapes a residental school and attempts to walk miles and miles back to his family in the frigid late October. It's called the Secret Path by Gord Downie, I highly encourage checking it out. I believe the film part is on youtube, songs on spodify.

My favorite song from my favorite scene of the movie! Thank you for the wonderful version.

Interesting review and discussion of the controversy. The title of the book is actually "The House in the Cerulean Sea" not "The House on the Cerulean Sea", I have just started reading it.

Dexter is a bad guy in his novels. Ryle is an abuser in this novel. It's called a story. Lilly made bad choices, but leaves in the end. Isn't that a positive lesson to readers? In real life, many don't leave at all.

Great and thoughtful review

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Thank you so much for your common sense!❤ You made me feel that I am not the only one with sanity.

A lot of people don't like colleen hoover.

Excellent playing and song writing.

I work at a DV/SA shelter for 11 years. You nailed it.

Not only are you a creative musician, but if I haven't already, I'd like to take the time to give some shine to your video production. Very well done and professional. The music was really sweet. Powerful. Soulful. Brilliant! Excellent tribute, and pets are more than just animals. They are more like family. Partners in life, that often show unconditional love and a certain type of happiness when they see us. It's really special, and so is this composition. Touching.

Thank you! I agree with you in some points. I would also add, the writer admits at the end of the book, that she never experienced domestic abuse from a romantic partner. Her mom did. I really have issues with this! I can't belive they made a movie about this lie!!! I was abused by my first boyfriend. It was horrible, I barely got out alive. After I read the book, I threw it away immediatelly! I strongly belive, that is not art, this is a serious problem! SHE didn't have the RIGHT to write about this horrible issue, which makes it a lie and is simlpy wrong, beacuse she never experienced it. It disgusted me! This is not art. This is a dangerous LIE. Thank for your brave video!

I had an abusive husband. I had to run away before it got worse. Mind you I was pregnant when I ran away. I protected my daughter from him abs almost got punished for it. The judge saw how the dad left bruises on me 4 different times abs still denied supervised visits. She is only 2 and she doesn’t like being with him. In CA and I hate the legal system. I was granted a restraining order but my daughter is forced to go to her dads unsupervised and to this day. She doesn’t like it. Judges destroy lives of kids with no care in the world

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Don't understand how this is problematic. She left the abuser for the better guy and did not let the abuser continue the cycle with her kid. That iis a good message not a problematic one. Agree to disagree.

This movie was awesome! It was one of the best movies I have seen this year and I am a guy. My Dad also loved the movie. I know it will not get oscars attention but both the movie and Blake Lively should get some awards credit. It will end up being better than some of the Oscar movies later on.

I totally agree! Moreover, CoHo constantly goes down the easiest route. Lily is the perfect victim, for example, in that she never physically fights back/uses self defense. I'm in law school and interested in family law/custody/etc. and it's really shocking how easiy abusers can turn the whole thing around when they have evidence that the victim also got physical, even if its just in self defense. Ryle turns out to be a good coparent for the daughter. Ryle doesn't get violent when Lily tells him that she'll leave him for good. In that sense, he's very atypical for an abuser. He also isn't really emotionally abusive in the sense that he doesn't try to isolate Lily from friends and family. He's okay with her being financially independent etc. Very unbelievable in my opinion.. It's especially harmful in my opinion, that CoHo paints mothers who don't want joint custody with their abusive exes as women who put their own well being over their children's relationship with their father. She fails to understand that a lot of abusers aren't perfect parents. Even if they don't attack their children physically they might use them to get revenge on the mothers. Like threatening the mothers whenever they come pick up the kids and so on... It's spot on that CoHo just conveniently ties everything up in a nice bow.

I loved the book. But it destroyed me inside because of what this book made me feel. Some times it felt like I was romanticizing DV but after reading the authors note I understood that was the whole point.

A lot of abuse victims are people who have lost their self-worth along the way or had little sense of self from the beginning. The abuser would thrive by making us feel worthless, incompetent, wrong or broken. Unworthy. (I’ve only yet watched the movie so I don’t know for sure whether Ryle did that or not) So even when victims realise they have been abused, they are met with two things: one, their own lack of self worth, which means they don’t want to destroy someone’s life,, no matter how badly the other person may have changed the trajectory of the victim’s life. And second, the victim blaming culture, which puts the entire responsibility on the victim to recognise the abuse they are going through, while they are going through abuse and probably living in fear and other mental health conditions that result from the same abuse, while also, most probably, managing other responsibilities like job or child care. (Two reasons why I think people don’t report their abusers to their authorities.)

You have marriage or relationship problems? You can divorce a bunch of things before you even think of divorcing your partner: your phone, social media, alcohol, smoking, music, dancing, even your job or your relatives etc. Do those first and see if your relationship and your own personality changes. Often times people can't even name the root cause and deflect blame on other people etc.

I don’t know how I felt about this book, did I love it no it’s sad and hard and real, this book didn’t trigger me like the second did which i found so unrealistic and ugh. Having been emotionally, verbally and pretty much every kind of abused but actual hitting the second book I found so much harder to read when it was suppose to be her love story with Atlas. It was awful. I’ve been in this position and I got full custody of my kids right away, now their safety was more important than mine period. I didn’t not find this book realistic at all from my abused background and the solution was not and if you read the second book it’s worse. Sharing custody with your abuser is bonkers and in the second he’s still a narcissist and involved and just brought up bad memories for me in my life.

Agree, plot completely oversimplifies intense themes. Divorce involving children almost never goes well. Thinking the situation through before marriage is a message our society needs! Kelly

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@Skumaskot I stumbled upon you via ur “unpopular opinion” thumbnail…so keep doing these types of reviews cause I most definitely agree with you and wish you would write a book to “what would you tell your daughter” real life red flags and step by step instructions on how women should protect themselves.Thoroughly SUBSCRIBED! 😊✌️✨

men are different when you do not live with them, my ex husband was nice and great, and we lived together, he was great, but, the minute we got married he changed on the same day, we had many great months, but as soon as we married he changed and then later became violent. he cried like crazy and was sorry, but that gets old. then he started blaming me, LOOK what you made me do. etc. so I had a mind job done on me, then my family took his side, so I got a double whammy, I still stood strong, and dumped them all. later he beat up his girl friend after me and took a gun and shot up the place and got on the front page of the newspapers, so I took that to court and got full custody of our three kids. I had the Navy remove him a few times from the home, so he cheated on me the entire time. if it gets bad, get out, do not stay and forgive, and do not do therapy, it never works. LEAVE. I knew a woman, who was planning on leaving her husband and he shot her, so leaving is a very dangerous time with abusive men. That is the most dangerous time of them all. some kill you over child support, some kill you over the money or property, some kill you over leaving them. Leaving is a very dangerous time. I took no money and we split our belongings. he never wanted to pay child support and live in another state so he did not do it. If a man hits you, protect your children.

The controversy sounds ridiculous to me honestly. You did a great job speaking about it.

Thank you for being brave enough to say "uuummmm.... what?" Truly. I appreciate your honest review.

This is an amazing original composition, and I also like the inspiration here. I'm glad you made the realization that you should get back to composing music on the piano. You are definitely a very talented composer, and I like your originals, but you didn't seem to want to talk about those lol. Anyways, keep it up when time permits. Let your talents shine and being forth some more good times. Nice video too!

Hi can this be used as background music for a violin cover? :)

Where did you get the sheet music for this?

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I started reading this book I'm on chapter 35 honestly, I don't like it but at the same time, my curiosity was so up it wasn't easily put to rest . BIG NO

You rock thank you. I thought in the book the character did so much to protect herself but actually we can do more. Sad truth goes: lots of people are so confused of what's going on that they choose to stay in the circle of abuse. I'm not saying it's justified. It's not.

I liked your take ❤Ty for the video ❤

Can you post a tutorial?

Everything is offensive these days and for some people nothing is ever enough and they always double down and project.

You are not alone. I think the book is for young girls, so...... I read it because I'm an English learner. I chose books that tend to be easy. That's a good side of it.

On a side bar it is only in the resent age that we had a large group of long living mothers, death during childbirth and from other factors was extremely common, so there was more father centered family life because he was likely to be the survivor if not the extended family this changed very recently so the roles and expectations are changing. A lot of the "power" and authority that seems to make no sense came out of that fact and a different reality.

The problem with regulating a persons access to their children based on there treatment of other people is that there is no scientific basis for it. The "ice man" who was a prolific hired serial killers in the US, had a really calm and idyllic family life with his children in the suburbs. A women who drinks and loses jobs, steals from friends and embezzles from their companies does not necessary abuse their children in that way but their is a much higher correlation between childhood neglect and even casual drinking in mothers. So every women who goes though a divorce that has a DYI should lose custody of their children? Some women will put men in very dangerous situations by putting men in conflict that they are in relationships with leading to their husband getting assaulted or killed, for attention or other benefits, does this mean they will do the same for their children? So I agree that children should have loving and support environments with great parents but this is not actually realistic, and regulating access to children unless their is abuse via a parent is also alienation which has devastating results long term. Pick this scenario that went though the courts not too long ago, a married women was fighting with her husband over massive finical overspending on credit cards, she opted to start and affair with a felon that had been released after a manslaughter conviction. The man carried a firearm that the wife was aware of. She repeatedly told the man she would leave her husband but the husband threatened her life, which she admitted later to be false. The husband discovered the affair happening in their apartment and a fight insured where he was shot three times. The couple got a divorce, should the child they had go to the father because of that situation? One of the shots that was discharged went though the wall and killed their 8 month old child. So there was no child custody decision. But in other cases that are similar should the father get custody if the mother is creating dangerous and abusive situations, do you see the dilemma. If the court starts regulating custody based on relationship behavior they are siding with custody based on the moral treatment of the spose and not the best interest of the child.

Off topic but is that House of Leaves in the right side of the screen? Probably not though 😅

If we are going to judge every piece of art based on our own moral code, there would be a lot of "problematic" art. Art should not be a pamphlet on morality. With this book, the audience can get an idea of something they have not experienced (or identify with if they have). The author gives us a perspective of an abused woman, and yes, maybe her decisions were not the best, but she made them based on what she knows. I know everyone has their own opinions, but one thing that bothers me is that they now tend to label books as "problematic" instead of looking beyond the artistic work. It makes me worry about media literacy in the new generations.

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When reading this story it reminded me of the internment camps that the US government forced the Japanese people into during WW2. Where entire families of Japanese Americans were rounded up and treated as prisoners of the state for the simple crime of being Japanese, who we were at war with, and the attack on Pearl Harbor. And schools the US government also forced assimilation with boarding schools between 1819 and 1969 of Native American children into White society. These children were taken from their families, their history and culture taken from them and they faced similar horrible treatment as the Sixties Scoop. The sad truth is that there are multiple situations like this all over the world and history. I do wonder if Klune who is open about being gay and nerodivergence, saw a somewhat kinship with being hated, feared, and mistreated for just being who you are.

I totally agreeing with you

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You seem very judgmental in Lilly’s decision though I see your point but I think you are not seeing the overall point on the author’s view. I hope you are never in a violent relationship

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