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The Borderline Man
Sweden
Приєднався 20 вер 2023
The Borderline Man is a middle aged man and these are my personal reflections on mental health, manliness, identity and all other things males tend to struggle with in silence. I am diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, and this is my story.
Disclaimer: This is an inspirational channel with personal reflections only. Always consult a professional psychologist, psyciatrist, medical doctor, therapist or other licenced medical practioners if you suspect that you are suffering from depression or depression related conditions like Borderline Personality Disorder.
No copyright infringement intended. Contact me if you feel I used content outside of fair use.
#mentalhealth #man #men #manliness #masculinity #health #training #borderline #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bipolar #depression #emotions #toxicmasculinity #feminism #dating #andrewtate #fragilemasculinity #selfhelp #single #relationships #relationshipadvice #personaldevelopment #selfcare #psychiatry #psychology #vlog
Disclaimer: This is an inspirational channel with personal reflections only. Always consult a professional psychologist, psyciatrist, medical doctor, therapist or other licenced medical practioners if you suspect that you are suffering from depression or depression related conditions like Borderline Personality Disorder.
No copyright infringement intended. Contact me if you feel I used content outside of fair use.
#mentalhealth #man #men #manliness #masculinity #health #training #borderline #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bipolar #depression #emotions #toxicmasculinity #feminism #dating #andrewtate #fragilemasculinity #selfhelp #single #relationships #relationshipadvice #personaldevelopment #selfcare #psychiatry #psychology #vlog
Borderline & Strong Emotions part 1: I don’t like being told what to feel
First part of three about my take as someone with Borderline Personality Disorder on strong emotions. I don’t like being told how I should or shouldn’t feel about things. My borderline makes me struggle with healthy emotions as it is. And since I don’t want to tell everyone this, I would prefer if people respected that it’s not lack of emotions in general that makes me actively care about your ”important” thing, it’s rather that I don’t want to open another door. #borderline #menshealth #psychology #mentalhealth #psychiatry #behaviour #depression #bpd #adhd #add #emotional #emotions #stoicism
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Відео
Three ways to vent about your mental problems
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There are three basic ways to vent about mental health and problems in your life. Personal, professional and creative. I take a brief look at them here in this video. #borderline #psychology #menshealth #mentalhealth #psychiatry #venting #creativity
Borderline vs Bipolar: Some similarities and differences
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What are the differences and similarities between Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder? Here’s my take on it. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #bipolar
Looking for a comet and feeling great
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Just a short little update of the vlog. Out looking for the comet TSUCHINSHAN-ATLAS is very relaxing. I can recommend star gazing and such activities for everyone with a stressed out mind. Especially for us with borderline personality disorder. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #stressrelief #stress #comet
American Psycho is not about Borderline
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If you google movies and BPD, the movie American Psycho is listed everywhere as an example. This is of course not true. The movie based on Bret Easton Ellis book is about a serial killer suffering from psychopathy and narcissism and not borderline at all. I rant about this in this clip because the internet is wrong again. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour ...
I’m not sure I know how healthy love feels like
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All my relationships have had different kinds of struggles. But there’s always a sensation of me being uncertain if I really loved anyone or if I feared being alone. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #bpd #relationship
Borderline is not a product of norms
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Some people claim that various conditions ”didn’t exist in their times”. Claiming that things like ADHD was invented. I comment on this nonsense. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #depression #bpd #adhd #add
Borderline’s favorite person and the harm it caused other people
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Favorite person is a core problem of Borderline Personality Disorder often hurting you and this person greatly. But it can also hurt a third party. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #bpd #adhd #depression #add
On dealing with deep depression
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I talk about how I deal with dark thoughts and much genuine sadness there is to be found on UA-cam. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #depression #bpd #adhd #add
Borderline & bullying: My tragic experience
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I was bullied in school from the age of 10 to 15. How did it affect my life and is it a part of my BPD-story? Is it ok to feel joy about the passing of a bully? I reflect on these things on a very personal level. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #bullyingawareness #school
My Story
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This is an introductionary video on my story with Borderline Personality Disorder (#BPD), also known as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (#EUPD). I am a middle aged man that very late in life realized what was wrong and got diagnosed. This channel is filmed as a vlog with minimum editing and I express my personal experiences and feelings here. For facts and getting your self diagnosed ...
Difference between male and female Borderline
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How does BPD differ between men and women? What part does men’s general inability to express and regulate feelings influence who we express Borderline Personality Disorder? I rant about the toxic form of male self help we see all over internet these days where young men are taught to suppress their feelings or act them out in violence. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiat...
Borderline and artistic hypersensitivity
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Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are artistically inclined. Bit not necessarily especially gifted and most often not very good at taking artistic criticism. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #behaviour #psychiatry #depression #adhd #bpd #add #hypersensitivity #artist #criticism
My take on dialectical behavior therapy
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I discuss my experiences with therapy in general and dialectical behavior therapy in particular. #borderline #mentalhealth #psychology #menshealth #psychiatry #behaviour #depression #bpd #adhd #add #dbt #therapy #kbt #cbt
Can Borderline really be completely cured?
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Can Borderline really be completely cured?
Borderline & the importance of being busy
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Borderline & the importance of being busy
Mental health and dangerous pseudoscience advice
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Mental health and dangerous pseudoscience advice
Borderline and healing a broken heart with dating
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Borderline and healing a broken heart with dating
Borderline can explain memory problems
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Borderline can explain memory problems
The various reasons I created this channel about Borderline
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The various reasons I created this channel about Borderline
Changes are coming to the channel but the core remains
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Changes are coming to the channel but the core remains
Borderline and dealing with narcissists
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Borderline and dealing with narcissists
Toxic relationship: My story as a man with Borderline
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Toxic relationship: My story as a man with Borderline
How distractions help me with Borderline Personality Disorder
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How distractions help me with Borderline Personality Disorder
Me being a social chameleon is because of my borderline
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Me being a social chameleon is because of my borderline
Why don’t you have a text on your dating profile?
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Why don’t you have a text on your dating profile?
I agree. Healing is not happening over night or by hiding in a cave. But you sound very reflected, aware of your issues, wishes and needs. Some people with BPD are not, and they are running circles of dating, splitting and discarding others over and over again.
I just ended up on the other side of a friend in a way I absolutely could not understand and felt very very hurt. And I am quite sure he is having Borderline. To help me understanding what happened I swallowed so many information about this disorder over month now... As far as I see it now, therapy can help (if you find someone...that is) but it may take years. But it can be helpful to be aware of what happens and why. Possibly develop skills to handle stressful reactions different and better. It absolutely can mess up every relationship no matter how friendly the other person is...The only way here seems to be: communication. Talk. If not in a stressful moment, then: later. But keep talking. And if in a partnership possibly have therapy for both sides to help. I think, good friends, a good partner, stable relationships can help. But it can be hard to find them- And, worst of everything- keep them.
Thanks for your input, and yes I agree of course. The hardest part is getting help. Or even starting the journey to recieve it.
I don’t think I’m capable of love or unconditional love. My feelings change in minutes. It’s horrific.😢
Thankyou for the video. Spot on. The Lows are so incredibly painful
💯 relatable to my experiences. Bullying does affect BPD. You lose your sense of self . Your identity come into play. It’s horrific.
Yes, there’s probably a lot more to bullying affecting people than we realize.
Very relatable!
I got dumped by my BPD ex of 8 years a few months ago. The aftermath has been soul crushing but it has forced me to really reflect and notice my own BPD traits that I have been ignoring and misinterpreting as "normal". Something always felt off and now I am starting to see what that is. This crisis has now turned into a midlife crisis (I am in my late 30s) and it feels overwhelming to realize what an absolute mess my life has been due to these traits. I have watched every single video of yours and its sometimes scary how much I relate. They have also helped me a lot and it is nice to know I am not alone. Feeling different isolates me from people even if I am around them and share connections with them. I wish I could speak to more people like you who I can relate about these things. I really appreciate your channel and hope you keep posting!
First I want to thank you for your support in following me. Secondly it of course feels encouraging to know that my story can reach others. And I Agree that there’s not much out there. Most info is made by professionals and not by us our selves. I think both things are important. It sounds from my view that you would benefit from talking to a pro and getting an official diagnosis. Just eliminating the insecurity variable and maybe even finding therapy. Get me right though. Not trying to preach. Therapy can’t fix everything but it is a good start just to have a fixed point to begin from. The relief I felt from just getting an official definition on what was wrong can’t be underestimated. Take care! I will keep on posting!
What caused your BPD?
Difficult to say with any objective certainty. I can point out certain events in the last 10 years time that made it a LOT worse, but I can also see things going back my entire life that could be BPD-related. But regardless of really old events or genetics, it is the events in the last 10 years that are most relevant for me and my path to feeling better since I became diagnosed a year ago.
@@TheBorderlineMan interesting, mine would be invalidation from my father. Maybe a good idea for a video in the future, would love to hear about your life story
Interesting idea. I think I will.
I can imagine that it's been a tough journey trying to work that out. Emotional arrested development by or before the age of 2 causes BPD. It's all about object relations theory. I hope that gives you a little candle of curiosity. I wish you the best on your journey and healing.
I agree!
Stalking is a criminal offence. Those who get stalked are victims of a crime, from selfish people who can not control their urges Stalkers should seek help for their mental health problems. As soon as it is clear that you ar dealing with potential stalker, victims should be clear that any further contact is unwanted (preferably in writing), if further contact attempts repeat, everything must be documented and given to police. The sooner you cut the ties with a staler, the larger chances that he will leave you alone. It is terrible how much harm can "well meaning" stalker do, who delusional believes that you are a couple or must become one.
Ok, you obviously didn’t listen to my clip. 🤷♂️
@@TheBorderlineMan I did listen to the whole video. Your girlfriend had to walk on eggshells, reassure you all the time so you dont get insecure and angry. Domestic abuse happens because one or both partners have deep insecurities. And physical abuse is not the only abuse that exists. Asking partner to check in every couple of hours is emotional abuse or part of coercive control. This distrust did not happen because your partner did something inappropriate but because of what happened in your childhood and your current partner has nothing to do with it. Need therapy, so you dont abuse
@@Janisg616 No, that is not how things work. You cannot just comment on a single video, thinking you know all relevant things. 1 I have gone to therapy. 2 My ex and I are good friends, and have resolved our issues. I am looking back at things in retrospect, basically warning others of these things and how they can happen. 3 My BPD did actually break out with her. Its not a childhood trauma. Please dont attempt to analyse people you dont know. That is both incredibly rude and ignorant. Allt things you would have known if you had listen to more of my posts. This is a series of posts, don't make hasty comments without having all the facts.
I never trust my gut but also have hard time making decisions in general and or trusting feels because I second guess myself. It’s hard to know what feeling is genuine .
I 💯 relate to this video. I need to be involved in hobbies and or projects as much as possible to avoid overthinking
Especially on low points in life. When I feel good, I tend to benefit greatly from maximum relaxation also. To destress.
Splitting is one of the hardest parts of BPD to understand, especially for others. Like a switch goes off. I believe they are emotional flashbacks, returning us to a time we felt truly unsafe and without control. Written about in Pete Walker’s book PTSD From Surviving to Thriving, which I highly recommend.
Im definitly going to dig more in to the topic of splitting later on! Thanks for the tip!
You nailed it buddy. My mom is a narcissist.
I’m the toxic in my relationship. Sadly .
Thankyou sir for this video. I’m a 47 yr old male and struggling with this. My life has been torn apart by it, ruined a 17 yr marriage . Ruined friendships. Lost friends. Lost jobs. Impulsive spending, lost all my money I live check to check. And now I’m losing my current girlfriend.
Man, I am so sorry for the things you go through. I wish there was an easy solution. But our condition is so dependent on our life conditions. I know way to well how these things are. My only, and I do mean this, fairly good tip other than trying to get help, is to talk, with an open heart with your girlfriend. It might not fix anything, but not talking is a sure way to not fixing anything for sure.
As a fellow middle-aged man with BPD, I appreciate your content greatly. BPD's amplified emotions and search for validation seem to increase cravings for connection, which can be especially frustrating when not received from people with self-centered traits of narcissism..
Yes, absolutley. Thanks for your kind words and comment!
love you man keep it up🤍
"Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." Great videos!! I am also a guy that struggles with these issues, men with this disorder seem to be very underrepresented. The very tricky part for me, is that in several cases my paranoias have been correct! So it's tough to truly know if something strange really is taking place or if my brain is just playing games with me again. I appreciate you sir, and wish you the best on your journey!
Thanks for watching! And the correction! 😄 Yes, keep on fighting!
Your Danish correct, your accent sounds.😊
Almost correct. Swedish.
@@TheBorderlineMan wow l've got that as well in my DNA.
hey 😊 thanks for sharing
Pray to Jesus it helps me and learn to communicate without letting the issues get in the way. It’s not easy but it’s working out like I never imagine it would.Prayers and hugs.You got this 😉😊🙏🏼❤️
Hiya! Idk u lol but i also have struggled with BPD since as long as i can remember lol if u havent already discovered him, id check out Dr. Daniel J Fox on youtube & his website. INCREDIBLE RESOURCE! Hes brilliant & specializes in BPD & personality disorders 😊 ❤
i enjoyed this video so much. in absolutely every way. thank you. i understand pirate ship emotions. from one human to another. i see you and i love you. 🤟 keep going. orange cats are the best.
Thanks for the comment! I’ll make sure my cat is in future videos more often. 😄
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I’m always interested in your opinions and experiences. Are they similar or different? Please let me know! 🧡 Please consider liking the video and subscribing to the channel to help me grow my channel. And do share it to people you know might be interested.
I’m always interested in your opinions and experiences. Are they similar or different? Please let me know! 🧡 Please consider liking the video and subscribing to the channel to help me grow my channel. And do share it to people you know might be interested.
I’m always interested in your opinions and experiences. Are they similar or different? Please let me know! 🧡 Please consider liking the video and subscribing to the channel to help me grow my channel. And do share it to people you know might be interested.
I’m always interested in your opinions and experiences. Are they similar or different? Please let me know! 🧡 Please consider liking the video and subscribing to the channel to help me grow my channel. And do share it to people you know might be interested.
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Just came here to say that Nisse the cat is awesome!
Yes, he is!
lol at new video dying. So typical for video production. Also: Nisse is speed!
Beautiful environment dude!
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