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I want to thank you all for watching. This was a very hard day. 2017. I am so grateful to my therapist Lexi ❤. I've come a long way since then.

Shell I am a natural mother - 1972 in Australia. In Australia mothers were told nothing - especially what our child's name was changed to. That made searching impossible. Fortunately my son was determined and he found me. I'm looking forward to listening to the rest of your videos.

I know of many who was adoped who did not get a good life growing up. In fact i know of those who was neglected and or, exposed to pedofiles even within the family. Look like grandfathers can be not at all normal grandfathers to adoped kids. Its so sad to get to know about that. Not all adopted have a golden story to tell. But you are not alone having troublesome childhood. I had too. Not adoped. We are survivors. And we are strong. Those with so called beautiful lives often have hidden things too. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤❤❤

It is very tough to have a child with mental health issues. It feels so stigmatizing. People always say “why” or “how” they “got that way.”

As an adoptee, we have survived trauma.❤

You are a so beautiful, honest and loving soul ❤❤❤

I just wanted to let you know that they missed out on sooo much!

I’m so sorry. You have been through a lot!

I admire you for putting yourself out there and flying the flag for ALL of us 🫡 I too have CMT (pretty bad) I will not though give in to the comfort of a wheelchair (I understand why some do) life is hard with this disease but getting up n down from floor is harder LOL. And believe me playing golf is no “stroll in the park” but I love it and have actually come to learn I can play a bit too! Living with CMT has made me feel isolated, alone within society and a prisoner within my own body! I have a deep feeling of being a nobody (even though I have a beautiful wife and family & together we’ve all achieved some amazing things) golf though has given “ME” a purpose where before I felt invisible!! I’ll not stop playing & posting until I absolutely have GOT to! CMT for all the bad I will say has made my mind STRONGER! And I believe my strength of mind has become my strongest trait! “A strong mind can conquer ANYTHING” I use this mindset to do any and everything I can and want to as I know one day UNFORTUNATELY I’ll have to give in to this disease. I have a MASSIVE respect to ALL suffer’s out there and hope you are all as well as you can be and that your not letting CMT get the better of you as we all deserve to be happy and to love ourselves 🫡🏌🏻‍♂️

I wish my smart watch would zap me 😂 I haven't been diagnosed, I actually have a phobia of drs but I'm pretty sure I have adhd. I definitely hyperfixate, I procrastinate and get distracted real bad. But man oh man when I'm in the zone cleaning and cooking ..I probably look like I'm using magic 🪄 🌪 😅 I was using my phones alarms to help me but since I get distracted with my phone I just turn it off 😮 Im going to use an alarm clock so makes me get up 😊 Something else that helps is putting items in the way as visual cues. So Ill put my vitamins in the coffee pot. Ill leave the vacuum in the middle of the room Thank you🙏🏻💕🌻

Thank you for sharing your story. I did have one question for you.....if you regressed emotionally into being a child ---do you think your bio mom regressed into being a teenager?

They sound self absorbed and maybe not that intelligent imo. The first thing I would have done is ask if you had a good childhood and if your adoptive parents were good people. Did they ask these two questions?

I’m sorry selfish people don’t reflect on the pain their actions have on those affected by them.

pain is only found in injustice.

Your biological parents simply owe you everything. Giving your child up for adoption is naturally unforgiveable. Never feel bad grandma shell. know that they owe you their very lives like every parent does. There is simply nothing less. You are owed. stop thinking anything different. end of story. they all must grovel at your feet for forgiveness. Your mother needs to pretend that you are an infant and hold you in her arms for the rest of her life. grandma shell, hold yourchin high. any grace you give them, they should bow on the ground before you. this is the real deal grandma shell. this is the real deal. they are nothing. you are everything. never forget that.

They SAID THAT?!!! OMG. I'm sure that they think that you had a much better life than you would have had if they had parented you but STILL. Being so proud of themselves for dumping their newborn CHILD that they feel the need to keep saying it to SAID CHILD? Clueless. They are trying to tell you that you dodged a bullet but boy is it coming off the wrong way. And to SAY THAT? Clueless.

That must have hurt like hell to hear. ❤ I’m sorry they were/are so emotionally immature.

I found my birth family over xmas,my three siblings have ignored me,parents dead

Hello fellow adoptee from Oakland County, we're neighbors! I'm 54, been in reunion with my birthmother for almost 10 years now. It's been a wild ride of emotions, but I didn't meet with her in person until roughly 6 years after reconnecting and communicating via email and phone, it took me that long to feel ready, and while I'm still in contact we have only gotten together the one time. We met up coincidentally during my birth month so we had a birthday celebration with a cake which was... good, bizarre, surreal, amazing, but also weird. Everything, all at once. My birth father's side want nothing to do with me, well, they haven't said as much but my paternal first cousin connected with me on 23andMe so I shared my email with her and told her who I was and that I'm here if she wants to talk. That was last May or June, haven't heard a single word since. I'm surprisingly okay with it. Not sure why I felt the need to share this, except that I understand the emotions you're feeling and I hope to catch the next video.

I'm not an adoptee, I'm a daughter of a narcissistic mother. I was neglected and abused and I relate to your feelings of abandonment and not feeling like I belong or special. What especially hit me was the part where you talked about wanting them to fight for you 💔 The pain of the loss of the made up version of your mother as well. I made up a version of myself as a mother and have been mourning her. I know this is about your bio family but I'm interested in hearing about your adoptive parents too if you wanted share that. Your story telling is so good and I appreciate the vulnerability and work it takes to share your story 🙏🏻 I hope you're having a beautiful day Wishing you wellness and peace 🙏🏻💕🌻

Wow, so interesting! I was adopted at 3 days old, my birth mother was 19 when she had me and my birth father was married.. he passed away at 26 yrs old, I found that out from his son.. my half brother I found on 23 and me a few years ago..and boy, was he shocked to find out he had a half sister. My birth mom refused to meet me when I found her at age 28. I did meet her 2 living sisters and one has passed away now and the other I didn't keep in touch with. I haven't met my half brother and other half siblings and probably never will, I feel it is for the best. I have seen pics of my birth parents and that's enough for me. Thank you for telling your story.❤

I hope your talking to someone to help with your feelings

Also, how can you think you give a person up a human being and then when you just randomly see them one day that they're going to be such a well-adjusted person? You gave them up, you gave them away. How do you think of that affects a human like? Oh my God crazy

I don't blame you and how dare they not understand just how cruel of them. Dogs all your feelings are valid

No no I get it. I get that fight for you. They didn't fight for you. They didn't really want you in their lives. It must really f****** hurt because coming from bio parents who did that to me. I can't imagine from adoptive parents and all the other f****** traumas that must create

Yeah that's just cool. Isn't it? Who saves their life yet ruins their child? That's crazy. What a selfish person

Im a people pleaser too all i want is for someone to like me, i found it doesn't work if they don't kike yiu nothing will change that. And this was my bio family making me feel on the outs so to deal with this from both mother must be so hard

I know it's wrong but i wish i truely wish. Maybe if i was adopted it would make sense why my family doesn't accept me as me. But i feel selfish for this dream. But ive never felt right or comfortable around my family. To the point that now i have children who ard both adults , but if they are not with me i cant visit family because i fear it and my boys make me feel safe and comfortable to be There

And is it wrong that i used to fantasize that my childless aunty was my mum. I feel so bas for that after hearing your story that i wish i was adopted i feel so bad

I would have just said no. Tell them to find me. If you could find me then they can find me. My mother's had 40 something years. Don't act like she cares now but it must be hard. I can't actually imagine cuz I can't even tell my mother straight and she's a b****

Adoption is so cruel if you don't want a child abort it

Im so so sorry it sounds like both your mother's and your dad are all pieces of shit. The world is just such a shitty place

Your so xalled mum sounds like a see you jext Tuesday. How dare someone be the cold. Dont adopt abd think you can just pretend it never happened seriously

I’m ghosted every day for years by my daughter. It’s painful and the rejection I feel has been devastating. Sometimes, most the time, I have no idea why she’s mad. She asks me to do something for her, I’m happy to, then she gives the passive aggressive treatment. I’m not worthy enough to speak on the phone. I can only text and she may or may not respond.

As a mother of an adopted child, this helps me relate to my teen. It gives me better insight to her feelings. Thank you for that!🙂 My daughter knows she can talk about her bio parents anytime. She's went through many stages in her feelings over the years...anger, grief, curiosity, and for now she seems to have more peace. We have always been brutally honest with her. We sugar coat nothing because we don't ever want her thinking she was unloved or not good enough. We didn't want her to romanticize her birth mom. Her birth mom had a lot of problems and she couldn't take care of another human. That is not my daughter's fault and she knows this. BM had a drug addiction and was a prostitute. She will never know who her birth father is. We process these things together. I hold her when she cries. We remind her that she's right where she belongs and that she BELONGS. We tell her that God pulled her from a terrible situation and that this is His love story to her. Your video helps me understand where these insecurities that bubble up from time to time come from. I appreciate it. It will help me in my approach to how I handle things in the future.

Awwww the big ginger boy ❤

I think that not trusting ourselves, needing approval to do things, is a common thing for us as adoptees.

Thank you for sharing your story, its raw and real. Adoptees don't have a box for all we go through, feel, questions we have, how we should feel, just all so confusing. There is no right or wrong. Keep sharing if it helps, there is so much to talk about.

Kinda crazy because my daughter walked in during part 1 and said, "wow, that lady looks like Tracy", a long-time friend of mine!

I don’t understand how any mother can force her daughter to give up her first grandchild!! 😮. Hope you have a great family bonding going forward. ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

I don’t think you should feel guilty; because they are the ones who abandoned you again and again.

I want you to know that whatever deficiencies you feel you have compared to her other children are BECAUSE OF THE LIFE SHE GAVE YOU. The trauma of abandonment and adoption is enough to set people back in their lives. If they judge you they should judge themselves.

Ah, no. You were put up for adoption for a reason, or many reasons. My mother's husband ran off with her newly-found daughter from a first marriage. Be very careful.

Please tell your story

Your birth parents need to watch this. They had to tell themselves "I made the right choice" to deal with the things they couldn't face. It was a wrong thing to say, really dumb.

I found both my birth parents and was gutted all over again, neither wanted contact, destroyed me all over again. After years of searching and the fantasy i had in my head from watching other peoples tearful, happy reunions, i felt more worthless than ever.

I always wished I was given up for adoption. I fantasized about having a better mother than I did. Even as a young child I wondered how I came through her. Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a good story teller!