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"WITHOUT BEING UNITED AS A MOVING FORCE, WE WON'T MAKE THE CHANGES THAT ARE NECESSARY
In conversation with Nigel O'Mara who cofounded the male sexual violence survivor movement in the UK 40 years ago. We are publishing as part of International Mens Day 2024. We explore where male sexual violence survivor social action is today - the positives and negatives - relations with rape crisis services - service gaps developments - funding politics - ego and shadows - organisational abusive behaviours - choices politicians need to make - collective action - communalism - solidarity - what it all should be about - issues that are never discussed openly. A fascinating activist conversation which is well overdue.
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Kintsugi Conversation 'We have the right to live our lives' Liv, Rob, Niamh Oct 31, 2024
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This conversation focuses on better support for students at Universities around their sexual violence experiences. Niamh and Liv who drove lots of activism at Leeds University following Niamh's co-founding of SASHA sashaleedsuni.wixsite.com/sashaluu/post/welcome-to-sasha-s-new-website ... A student social action change org which is now seen as a template by lots of other Universities to support...
Kintsugi Conversation Episode 8: Emma Jane Taylor 'There is so much you can do to impact the world"
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Emma Jane Taylor is one of the leading sexual violence activists in the world. Her activism work is international and she supports a growing online peer support project as well as her international campaign project: Project 90-10 and Its Not My Shame emmajanetaylor.com/charity-of-the-year www.notmyshame.global// We had a wide-ranging and positive chat about all things 'change the world' for sex...
Kintsugi Conversation Oct 2024 Richard The Visible Project ' Strategic change survivors of CSA
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Richard leads the Visible Project. The aim of the project is to support the city of Leeds (West Yorkshire UK) strategic shift to a trauma-informed system which works better with survivors of childhood sexual abuse - violence
Bens Place - Suicide Prevention Week First Person
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The latest suicide data shows a significant increase during 2023 - 2024 & Leeds has the 2nd highest suicide rate in the UK. Males make up 2/3rds of suicide deaths and male survivors are 10x more likely to take their own lives - our latest radio ad is focused on Leeds
Nigel O'Mara A co - founder (1985) of what become Survivors UK
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Part 1 of 2 conversations exploring the male survivor helpline which began in 1985 and Nigel helped found at its UK London base - which is now known as Survivors UK. It is believed to be the world's first male sexual violence survivor helpline. In part 1 we discuss the helpline's initial history and Nigel's perspectives on male services more generally - a wide-ranging chat and part 2 will explo...
Kintsugi Conversations: The Flying Child - Exploring Intuitive Therapy with a CSA Survivor.
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In our first podcast, We spoke to Sophie about her CSA childhood and her current activism to improve interventions for children and adults. For our second chat with Sophie Pat the therapist who travelled with her joined us to explore how Sophie navigated recovering herself and launching -The Flying Child Project. Finally co-authored a book under the same title - which gifts the reader the oppor...
Duty of Care - How Do We Support Survivor Populations at University?
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A wide-ranging chat with Olumide Ajulo (Counselling Team Manager at Leeds Beckett University UK) exploring working with young sexual violence survivors - including issues around ethnicity, class and how in a culture where earlier disclosure is rapidly increasing - we need smart collaborations and long-term research into outcomes after counselling for example - concluding with why survivors matters
Kintsugi Conversations: Angie - Rape Crisis Services moderniser and radical feminist activist
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Rob has known Angie for over 20 years and her key role in the foundation of the modernisation of the UK's Rape Crisis services in the early 2000s was important in the shaping of his own activism from service standards, professionalism and ethos. Angie continues her work to change outcomes for sexual violence survivors from her base in Cambodia as an international consultant
Kintsugi conversations: Boys and Men Healing - Film as an activism tool (v2)
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20 years ago, one of the most powerful documentaries ever made looking at male survivors' recovery and justice stories was published. It has supported social change conversations across the world ever since. We had an insightful and positive conversation with Kathy and Simon who made the film - as you will hear the future is what we make it. You can catch the trailer: ua-cam.com/video/Wx-JqBdwd...
Kintsugi Conversations: Sexual Violence Survivors Activism: Sophie Olson The Flying Child
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This is the very first episode of a rolling series of conversations hosted by Rob Balfour and Niamh Rose with a diverse range of well known and not so well known activists working across the world to change things for sexual violence survivors. Sophie Olson is one of those actvists and her mission under the banner: The Flying Chiild - is a good place to begin this podcast series jounrey. You ca...
Kintsugi Conversations:The Podcast Series intro
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During November 2023 we ran an online sexual violence activism fringe film festival under the title Kintsugi Conversations. The festival generated a conversation which has led to a new Kintsugi Conversations project a podcast conversation series which aims to bring the inisghts and diverse perspectives of sexual violence activists and allies to a wider audence
'Kintsugi Conversations: Shadow Puppetry Animation Workshop
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In late 2023 a group of diverse sexual violence activists came together over a weekend in Leeds to co-create a metaphoric animation about the experience of disclosure and finding trauma-responsive safety using shadow puppetry
Kintsugi Conversations: Sexual Violence - Boys & Men Healing
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Male survivors of survivors of sexual violence - abuse and allies talking about the current social change situation for male support after being abused. The panel discussion took place following the online screening of the documentary Boys and Men Healing (2010) www.amazon.com/Boys-Men-Healing-Childhood-Sexual/dp/B0825B9F3J ua-cam.com/video/MejaYq6-RPk/v-deo.htmlsi=ckgt8eFTjnBYpqm8
Kintsugi Conversations: Sexual Violence And Creative Arts Activism Part 2
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Survivors of sexual violence - abuse using creative arts to focus their activism for change in society (recorded Nov 2023) Part 1 also has lots of creative messages - an amazingly hopeful conversation ....
Kintsugi Conversations: Sexual Violence And Creative Arts Activism Part 1
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Kintsugi Conversations: Sexual Violence And Creative Arts Activism Part 1
Kintsugi Conversations: Undercover Sexual Harassment The Truth
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Kintsugi Conversations: Undercover Sexual Harassment The Truth
Bens Place CEO's views on recovery and counselling for male survivors of sexual violence
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Bens Place CEO's views on recovery and counselling for male survivors of sexual violence
Survivors West Yorkshire BBC Radio 18th Sept 2023
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Survivors West Yorkshire BBC Radio 18th Sept 2023
BBC LOOK NORTH Survivors West Yorkshire 18th Sept 2023
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BBC LOOK NORTH Survivors West Yorkshire 18th Sept 2023
Bens Place TV advert 2023
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Bens Place TV advert 2023
Sexual Abuse Awareness by a Male Survivor
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Sexual Abuse Awareness by a Male Survivor
'By and For ' services for sexual violence survivors
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'By and For ' services for sexual violence survivors
Challenging Authority as male survivor sexual violence
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Challenging Authority as male survivor sexual violence
Strategies TT
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Strategies TT
A message from Rob .. Recovery is recovering yourself ..
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A message from Rob .. Recovery is recovering yourself ..
Being a survivor
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Being a survivor
Speaking your truth as survivor
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Speaking your truth as survivor
Male Survivors CSA - Posttraumatic Growth (PTG)
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Male Survivors CSA - Posttraumatic Growth (PTG)
Recovery Doesnt Happen Alone Complete hd
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Recovery Doesnt Happen Alone Complete hd

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  • @BlackCatFilmProductions
    @BlackCatFilmProductions Місяць тому

    I hear about this in the The Menendez Brothers Documentary. It said by the time 2000s round around, men were finally open up to tell the world they were sexual abuse as children. Unlike the 80s and 90s who didn't want such stuff to be reveal to the world.

  • @billyLego4855
    @billyLego4855 7 місяців тому

    I think that after watching Joker 2019, everything by blaming, victims and perpetrator is just a state term. The action happen of course but the blame solutions on either or and its environment is very toxic, neglectful, fearful and a sense defense of would that dose not protect us 100 percent by people and system itself that are dangerous and beneficial too other. On how this is result. We all suffer by ourselves and framed by anything. All people want is friendship and love, connection. The west crappling itself with internet exposer other truths and aswell suffering gose with that too. With context being to keep us safe and too expose to harm either way on it a human being. I know in myself we don't live in a fair,, kind, and caring world but based by idealgy and the state. Bad people, good people, its who you know and connect too that is what that is to make one good or bad by conditioning. And we humans are not perfect. There is something much more going on and know it. And im satisfied with it only when everyone is seen and happy. Nothing is left out. But we live in a competarive so....

    • @billyLego4855
      @billyLego4855 7 місяців тому

      Sorry but what can I really say. Everyone is in their own bubble. And it will take years for to realise that this era even if it was 100 right of a method, this era be looked as as like the victoran Times of its behaviour, not as seen as good or bad, but the state of it and good people and bad people, victims and perpetrators, will be seen by younger generations as people in a unfair situation a system and social understanding unfair going by a "fair conceptual script." I don't expect anyone to understand. Why would you? We are not perfect after all.

  • @donfowler5117
    @donfowler5117 8 місяців тому

    you discribed myself to a T. I'll go high and low to seek, find, and gather information in a wide range of topics and share with no one. Been discribed as a black hole absorbing information and the out come is the inability to share what I know. It now becomes information overload to explain what I know. Then perhaps hide again perhaps for a very long time before I'll attempt sharing again.

  • @Marce-w1c
    @Marce-w1c 8 місяців тому

    I’ve seen this twice and have so much respect and admiration for all these courageous men . Let’s give men a safe space to share without judgement .

  • @marwahussein666
    @marwahussein666 10 місяців тому

    222 likes (yeah nobody cares about it)

  • @skegbyguy
    @skegbyguy 11 місяців тому

    I was sexually abused from 4 to 16 by an adult male family member, also by his friends. The only person I told as a child was my choir master, he took advantage of the situation and also abused me. As a child I never told anyone else. It wasn't until I was in my 30s that I found the courage to speak out. The UK NHS isn't really set up to deal with the consequences of abuse. I've tried many types of counselling... but the abuse never leaves me.

    • @Survivorswy
      @Survivorswy 11 місяців тому

      Its never to late to explore new informed services www.1in6.uk/people-who-can-help/get-online-counselling/

  • @JJ-JJ-JJ
    @JJ-JJ-JJ Рік тому

    Went to two of his workshops and can say with conviction: Mike and Thom know what they are doing and talking about. It was such an awesome experience, just like Mike says in this Video. Don't get me wrong, it also was demanding and sometimes exhausting, but in the end very eye opening and transformative. Really helped me a lot in so many aspects. I am so happy to have been able to participate and to spend time with and to get to know so many great people. Thank you Mike, thank you Thom and thank you all you brave survivors. I'm wishing all of you a long and healthy life. Forever grateful. J P.S. If not already done: read his books. You won't regret it.

  • @michaelbarclay4803
    @michaelbarclay4803 Рік тому

    Your a hero us survivors ,and thank you for yoyr service to our country

  • @michaelbarclay4803
    @michaelbarclay4803 Рік тому

    58 still angry wake up 3 everyday tae see if my da ma are still alive / thats what brother done tae me if aye told they would die / they have been dead for decades but still wake up at 3

    • @Survivorswy
      @Survivorswy Рік тому

      Sorry to hear that Michael - good to be kind to yourself and hopefully your well supported

  • @michaelbarclay4803
    @michaelbarclay4803 Рік тому

    Hope yer ok alex yer nae alone mate keep fighting your a hero remember that

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage Strength and Hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage Strength and Hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage Strength and Hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    99th Monkey

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage Strength and Hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Oh, yes... I agree. Meds are not the answer in dealing with suppressed traumatic abse. It is not just a chemical imbalance. More studies need to be done properly and not a quick fix medical solution.

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage strength and hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage strength and hope

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Great job... keep it going

  • @johnpaulwirchnianski
    @johnpaulwirchnianski Рік тому

    Courage Strength and hope..... The documentary you posted was cut off.

    • @Survivorswy
      @Survivorswy Рік тому

      Unfortunately, it's not licenced for public sharing and was posted by mistake

  • @willaustin5751
    @willaustin5751 Рік тому

    I am grateful that you started this channel! However, why is it that the sexual abuse victims of forced male genital mutilation aka circumcision has not even been mentioned ? Our voices need to be heard too !

  • @BellaDrips
    @BellaDrips Рік тому

    This atrocity needs to be steered towards public information; not tucked away. These boys grew into men and empathy for them is the 1st step to a long journey of healing - which will impact THEIR behaviour towards the people/worlds that they interface with. This kind of theft and violation needs encouragement to go BEYOND the separation of their selves. There is a reason this soul theft practice has been prolonged. THESE men are our strongest soldiers in today's spiritual warfare. Embrace them. Love them. They were attacked to weaken their strength - because their individual souls move MANY. That's why they were specifically spiritually attacked. May GOD be present to RECLAIM their born identities! Amen.

  • @philipwilson1266
    @philipwilson1266 Рік тому

    Brilliant thank you

  • @denisespinal7672
    @denisespinal7672 Рік тому

    Thank you so much!

  • @dougsilverman7306
    @dougsilverman7306 Рік тому

    Thank you Mike!

  • @mxtinac01casterl68
    @mxtinac01casterl68 Рік тому

    these video is not available on UA-cam why? they dont want the whole world to know or watch that there are assaulted men out there.

    • @Survivorswy
      @Survivorswy Рік тому

      It might be that the company that held the rights have changed hands and they didn't want to post the male survivor show on UA-cam - shame If you live in the US you might be able to view it at www.oprah.com or use a VPN to access from elsewhere - good luck

  • @carolinedollard7759
    @carolinedollard7759 2 роки тому

    Just Thank you ...

  • @joelbotello1235
    @joelbotello1235 2 роки тому

    Me being victim of child abuse from ages 6 to 9 by father's so called best friend it so horrible and disgust just thinking about it hurts even now at 34 I see like yesterday now me being gay and having spouse I really had hard time intimacy cuz thoughts repeatedly in head the most part that hurts how it went on for so long ' question all gets my mind why when happens little boy or male why does it take so long to find out what's going and does also take long for little girl or women to know the same thing "why do endure for so long I question my self

  • @pinoyinausie
    @pinoyinausie 2 роки тому

    I was sexually abuse by our lady neighbor when I was like 3 or 4(?) years old and by my older male cousin when I was between 7-9 years old. The latter lasted long until we moved out to different province and has no longer contact with my cousin and his family. Nobody knew about this as I kept it to myself until now. But how come I feel excited everytime he abused me and tolerated him although there’s a bit of fear? Am I abnormal? Is it because I grew up without a father?

    • @Inflec
      @Inflec Рік тому

      You may be gay. That would be one reason why you got excited when your cousin took advantage of you. Perhaps the fear came from your young age when he started his advances. Most boys are not prepared for sex at 7 to 9 years of age as you mentioned. I assume that your cousin wasn't doing anything painful to you. As long as he kept pain out of whatever intercourse he was having with you it's easy to understand why you would find it exciting. The other source of fear is the realization that you were doing something that I'm sure you knew was forbidden in many ways, both from your family and the society. If you are experiencing stress or guilt about what happened to you now as an adult, by all means see a therapist. And like others have posted here, talk to a understanding friend about your feelings. It always helps to have the knowledge that someone in your life supports you and gives you positive feedback about your victimization being a young child when the abuse began. I hope I have given you food for thought.

  • @CaptainBones222
    @CaptainBones222 3 роки тому

    I don't see how it's wrong to advice people to not go out alone at night or not get drunk with strangers at a shady place Yeah, it's the perpetrators fault but that doesn't change the fact going out alone at night and getting drunk at a shady house party is risky because it makes you vulnerable to that perpetrator. Both is true, how hard is this to understand? it's not a good idea to tell people to do whatever they want without thinking of the consequencs.

    • @nosisamaseko2825
      @nosisamaseko2825 2 роки тому

      Your perspective is very fair however the issue can come with the fact that people have a nasty tendency to come down alot harder on the victim than they do on the perpetrator if the victim does not meet the credentials of the "perfect" victim as if they deserve what happened to them and that is just not okay it does not matter the circumstances at the end of it all they did not commit any heinous crimes I cannot wrap my head around why society thinks it's okay to come down on them as if they did it just winds up hurting them even more in the long run than the actual assault and lastly I would like to think we would all love to put a stop to sexual violence and I think that the first step to pulling this off is by not enabling the perpetrator and actually place the blame where it is due. Hope you have a good day x ❤

    • @davidestabrook5367
      @davidestabrook5367 Місяць тому

      Sure risk of crime is higher in some areas and some situations (drinking alcohol in public). But when victims are asked, "what were you wearing" or "how much alcohol did you drink", it will be perceived as victim blaming, even if that wasn't your intention. The effect of victim blaming is that it turns bad situations into traumatic situations, because victims feel judged and blamed. This is incredibly toxic, it makes healing more difficult and longer. If you say something that's interpreted as victim blaming, that person is quite likely to end their friendship with you.

  • @nicholasmaude6906
    @nicholasmaude6906 3 роки тому

    Ice-T highlights something that is seriously not discussed about and that's sexual violence against boys and men.

  • @DUHORIGINAL007
    @DUHORIGINAL007 3 роки тому

    LOVE AND LIGHT ON THE MASCULINES ROAD TO HEALING THAT WOUND!!!

  • @pedrolopez8172
    @pedrolopez8172 3 роки тому

    I was sexually abused by my church priest in Mexico, have no father to tell, it destroyed my life, got married 3 times and never found happines. Now im 55 years old and still can't get over. People can abuse kids should be in jail because they ruin the victims life. That priest name was Francisco Javier Najera C. in Durango, Mx. and give this information because many people think that he was an excellent pastor...(

    • @jaimeguadalupe216
      @jaimeguadalupe216 3 роки тому

      I was abuse by a uncle the I trust in love him like a dad he abuse for 8 thru 12

  • @megatron8461
    @megatron8461 3 роки тому

    The episode was called, “personal fouls”

  • @cute_canadian_redhead6747
    @cute_canadian_redhead6747 3 роки тому

    Shame on his parents for throwing him out at age 12. My youngest daughter is now 12... her birth mother did drugs and abused alcohol... she has serious special needs and the prenatal damage is making her behaviour difficult to deal with at times... but as a parent.. you NEVER abandon YOUR child.... never... no matter what. Kids act out for reasons! A parent needs to find out the reason and help them through this. AND NEVER leave your children with anyone and talk to your children often and believe them if they feel uncomfortable around anyone! So much hurt could be avoided if parents just did their job!

  • @ericpaulthompson1386
    @ericpaulthompson1386 3 роки тому

    Hang in there bro 🙏 I've been where you are

  • @rdo1231
    @rdo1231 3 роки тому

    powerful

  • @Nebulachain6
    @Nebulachain6 3 роки тому

    Wow, hay una cantidad enorme de hombres que han sido abusados y admiro tanto que salieran adelante y estén ahí para contar su historia para que otros tomen valor y hablen, en el pasado ser abusado significaba vivir en silencio, en dolor, ahora todos deben hablar, liberarse, no están solos y esto demuestra que no solo las mujeres y niños son víctimas.

  • @kazzamite
    @kazzamite 3 роки тому

    Yes a total underground system that is more prevalent than we ever knew. Stand up speak up for the kids.

  • @datonedude6339
    @datonedude6339 3 роки тому

    for years I wondered if a place like this exist,

  • @nakeysharicks8338
    @nakeysharicks8338 3 роки тому

    Simply horrible. Let children, be children. That is an unforgivable sin even in the Bible. If tying a millstone around the neck of a pedophile and thrown in the sea doesn’t sound like a mild punishment. So people need to stop lying about everything if forgivable in his eyes, cause clearly it isn’t. You crush and steal that child’s innocence. You would need to be soulless to commit these acts.

  • @samray3297
    @samray3297 3 роки тому

    Grandmothers are Archangels!

    • @ultimatesportsmedicine4395
      @ultimatesportsmedicine4395 3 роки тому

      They certainly are!! Tony from this documentary, happens to be a teacher of mine from middle school. He was always loving and compassionate and kind to us. Very heartbreaking to hear about these things from his past

    • @Robertoni7
      @Robertoni7 2 роки тому

      Not all of them.

  • @RoadRunnergarage8570
    @RoadRunnergarage8570 3 роки тому

    I was molested at age 12 by a "friend".. And his mother just yelled at him and nothing else..

  • @DONNACEDOHIOK12
    @DONNACEDOHIOK12 4 роки тому

    Because we fail to report it fail to protect public school children I know it happens outside of school as well. And knowingly prepare children mindsets victims predators and bystanders. Reducing Childhood adversities risk exposure’s And toxic environments in public schools. They seem to be a staple population that doesn’t have to be accountable for the children in their care.

  • @clairecox1097
    @clairecox1097 4 роки тому

    Nailed it wonder woman

  • @evam.2101
    @evam.2101 4 роки тому

    what happened to survivor david?

  • @dougsilverman7306
    @dougsilverman7306 4 роки тому

    Law and Order: SVU has been a major part in my healing

  • @mzTayTay17
    @mzTayTay17 5 років тому

    How can I watch the second episode

  • @DorvellTStewart
    @DorvellTStewart 5 років тому

    I would honestly like to see SVU explore this side of rape/sexual assault more often. I know what the statistics say, but has anyone ever stopped to think that part of the reason they’re as skewed as they are could be because more men aren’t speaking up?

  • @dees900
    @dees900 6 років тому

    which book is best 'Courage to heal' by laura davis or 'victims no longer' by mike?

    • @Survivorswy
      @Survivorswy 6 років тому

      Both are really good and well respected - VNL, however, works especially well for male survivors of sexual violence

    • @dougsilverman7306
      @dougsilverman7306 5 років тому

      Both are good